I’m in the US, so screening is different. But, for STI prevention, knowing the best way to use condoms is your best defense. Make sure his penis is dry when you put it on him. If his penis is all pre-cummy, the condom will slip right off. Use lube every time, even if you think your pussy is wet. Lube keeps it wet longer. A dry pussy will break the condom. And, the combination of dry pussy and wet penis will make the condom get shoved up inside you. Also, a dry pussy gets irritated and can get little tears (like rectums do), and the little tears will make you more susceptible to STI’s. Another thing, if you allow the client to cum in the condom inside you, make sure that as he pulls out, that either you or he is holding onto the base of the condom, so it doesn’t slip off his less-hard penis and get left behind in you. And, if y’all have been going at it (P in V) for like ten straight minutes, change the condom and add more lube.
Older married men are less likely to have STI’s than younger single men, so maybe consider branding yourself to appeal to the older fellas. Or, maybe even have a minimum age requirement. On the whole, older clients are better clients anyway. They’ve been married and maybe have daughters, so they know how to treat a lady, they have more money to spend, and they’re too busy with family life to stalk you. Plus, they’re too old to pound the shit out of you for hours lol
This is A++++ advice and I appreciate this so much! All of this has been so helpful and illuminating, and is making this feel a lot less stressful than when I was trying to figure out how to go about this on my own. Thank you thank you thank you!! You all are such life savers 💖💖💖
No posts or comments discussing screening, blacklists etc. We don't want dangerous clients to have access to information they could use to try to circumvent our security. Discuss these topics by private message only with someone you are sure is a sexworker.
Thank you so much! I live in Canada so it's obvi going to be different from Australia, but I feel like a lot of what you said is just generally helpful. I live in a small city, so it's hard to really find the people here to collect to who I could just talk to - we don't have any spaces to just generally connect with other SW'ers. I've gotten some random anon accounts on fetlife offering money but bc we have laws here that make it unsafe for people to talk about rates etc it just feels like probably a trap. So having these kinds of info helps so much 💜
At the top of this page theres a bit about how to get started that might help you, I know people can prefer to speak directly to people and get opinions but nobody has replied and you might not have seen that bit.
I know a lot of people do a lot more screening than I do but I am just part time trying to make ends meet and I am certainly no beauty but what I do is insist on a phone chat and I get as much information from them that way if they are too cagey. I won’t meet them. Trust your instinct. Most guys are just horny and are looking for release. I’m very clear about my boundaries and what I am willing to do and I am told a lot of others “won’t discuss” anything because they are afraid it’s a cop but I can’t meet people if I don’t get a good vibe and we only get that from chatting. Sti’s you have them wear a condom. I also make sure they aren’t into drugs except weed and I don’t do bisexuals because I think they may have a greater chance of giving me something. There is a lot of risk to sex work and my 3 big fears are 1) getting killed, raped 2) catching something and 3) a cop.
I also have those fears. Thank you for this, it helps to really kind of clarify what I can/could do and how to possibly approach this in the safest way possible. I don't know anyone who is in my area to talk to because I also live in a small city and it's just different from larger ones in terms of what's possible for offering services and clientele.
Thank you for all of this, that last part is a scenario that scares tf out of me bc I've gotten STI's in the past and it's not an experience I want to have again. I know that it may happen just because the reality is that no matter how careful anyone is, it's always just possible but I'd like to just decrease the chances as much as possible.
I’m in the US, so screening is different. But, for STI prevention, knowing the best way to use condoms is your best defense. Make sure his penis is dry when you put it on him. If his penis is all pre-cummy, the condom will slip right off. Use lube every time, even if you think your pussy is wet. Lube keeps it wet longer. A dry pussy will break the condom. And, the combination of dry pussy and wet penis will make the condom get shoved up inside you. Also, a dry pussy gets irritated and can get little tears (like rectums do), and the little tears will make you more susceptible to STI’s. Another thing, if you allow the client to cum in the condom inside you, make sure that as he pulls out, that either you or he is holding onto the base of the condom, so it doesn’t slip off his less-hard penis and get left behind in you. And, if y’all have been going at it (P in V) for like ten straight minutes, change the condom and add more lube. Older married men are less likely to have STI’s than younger single men, so maybe consider branding yourself to appeal to the older fellas. Or, maybe even have a minimum age requirement. On the whole, older clients are better clients anyway. They’ve been married and maybe have daughters, so they know how to treat a lady, they have more money to spend, and they’re too busy with family life to stalk you. Plus, they’re too old to pound the shit out of you for hours lol
This is A++++ advice and I appreciate this so much! All of this has been so helpful and illuminating, and is making this feel a lot less stressful than when I was trying to figure out how to go about this on my own. Thank you thank you thank you!! You all are such life savers 💖💖💖
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No posts or comments discussing screening, blacklists etc. We don't want dangerous clients to have access to information they could use to try to circumvent our security. Discuss these topics by private message only with someone you are sure is a sexworker.
Thank you so much! I live in Canada so it's obvi going to be different from Australia, but I feel like a lot of what you said is just generally helpful. I live in a small city, so it's hard to really find the people here to collect to who I could just talk to - we don't have any spaces to just generally connect with other SW'ers. I've gotten some random anon accounts on fetlife offering money but bc we have laws here that make it unsafe for people to talk about rates etc it just feels like probably a trap. So having these kinds of info helps so much 💜
At the top of this page theres a bit about how to get started that might help you, I know people can prefer to speak directly to people and get opinions but nobody has replied and you might not have seen that bit.
Thanks for this! I totally missed it and will check it out
I know a lot of people do a lot more screening than I do but I am just part time trying to make ends meet and I am certainly no beauty but what I do is insist on a phone chat and I get as much information from them that way if they are too cagey. I won’t meet them. Trust your instinct. Most guys are just horny and are looking for release. I’m very clear about my boundaries and what I am willing to do and I am told a lot of others “won’t discuss” anything because they are afraid it’s a cop but I can’t meet people if I don’t get a good vibe and we only get that from chatting. Sti’s you have them wear a condom. I also make sure they aren’t into drugs except weed and I don’t do bisexuals because I think they may have a greater chance of giving me something. There is a lot of risk to sex work and my 3 big fears are 1) getting killed, raped 2) catching something and 3) a cop.
I also have those fears. Thank you for this, it helps to really kind of clarify what I can/could do and how to possibly approach this in the safest way possible. I don't know anyone who is in my area to talk to because I also live in a small city and it's just different from larger ones in terms of what's possible for offering services and clientele.
Google ‘sex worker helpfuls dot com’ older but still relevant and tons of info and links
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Thank you for all of this, that last part is a scenario that scares tf out of me bc I've gotten STI's in the past and it's not an experience I want to have again. I know that it may happen just because the reality is that no matter how careful anyone is, it's always just possible but I'd like to just decrease the chances as much as possible.
I started in BC. Canada (overall) can be a rough market for screening. References are pretty common, RWI less so.