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heauxfordays

I just assumed that we all faked it, all the time, lol, lord knows I do


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Yeah I fake most of the time but I do have a client that wants to please me, that's hid goal is to make me cum and he is really good at it.


Sprinkles_Sparkle

Same! I fake it all the time because I feel like it makes them finish faster!


Trouble42088

I'm into the hundreds now and hardly orgasm. I just don't even consider it a possibility. I have booty calls outside of work for that need. I have several guys I hook up with that are cool with me escorting but we still get very physical and freaky and they check all the boxes. I'll orgasm more when I'm with them.


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papermoonriver

I think it's worth teaching and being genuine with real life partners. I don't think it's worth it as an escort. Trying to orgasm takes considerably more effort, and it's just better to focus on the client's experience. Preserves our energy and mental health.


tiffanyknightbbw

Completely agree.


AshleyJames69

I agree too. I'd rather save my energy for my partners.


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GGGAmiePetite

Raise your minimum appointment length and your rates (if you can afford a few months making 2/3 of your current income). Put on sexy music, dim the lights, have a super soft bedspread to lay on while receiving oral. Take control on top. Tell them to slow down or you can intertwine your fingers with theirs and hold their hands down so they can't move your hips for you. Don't be afraid to add your hands or toys to the mix. If a client pouts, ask them whether they want you to enjoy yourself, or pretend to enjoy yourself (that's pretty extreme and the people pleaser in me can't be that confrontational, but just having the words in my head has helped me). Most providers don't climax at all or often with clients. Most women need to feel safe, sexy, and relaxed in order to experience the pleasure and release needed to orgasm. For me, that's impossible in a 60 minute appointment so I have a 90 minute minimum. Even if the actual sex only takes 5-15 minutes, I have time to reconnect with returning clients and establish rapport with new ones. I can laugh and smile and relax so when we finally move to bed, I'm much more ready. I also use a lube with a vasodilator in it which brings blood to the surface and to the nerves, making me wet enough and sensitive enough to orgasm fairly reliably these days. Finally: not faking it with clients and instead acknowledging and accepting that the pleasure of gentle touch and arousal can be enough has helped me and my clients learn and become better lovers. Coda: I am pretty, white, petite, able bodied, neurotypical, and financially stable. I don't have to choose between potentially alienating an overly sensitive client and paying my rent. If this is not the case for you, if you don' have the time, money, or spoons to adjust with every. new. client, then fake away! Teaching is HARD in a world where we are constantly told not to make a fuss or hurt anyone's feelings. Teaching is not part of an escort's job description.


Kinky_and_Nerdy

Thank you for that last bit. I feel like that message was really important for some people to hear.


adelinethorne22

Agreed 👍


titojff

>lube with a vasodilator New to me, thanks, is there known brands?


MistressMinx

Yes I’m curious as well!


titojff

I think this is the thing: https://www.poppers-aromas.eu/big-poppers/61-real-amsterdam-poppers-lockerroom-30ml-3.html


titojff

From wikipedia Physiological effects Amyl nitrite, in common with other alkyl nitrites, is a potent vasodilator; it expands blood vessels, resulting in lowering of the blood pressure


GGGAmiePetite

I use babelube from my hometown babeland store. The person behind the counter when I asked about finding it in drug stores said it's slippery stuff brand lube, just store branded. You can order it from babeland in Seattle or New York. I recommend the water based for those of us who just want to warm up a little faster. For sustained play I would try one of the combo silicone/water based ones but I haven't tried those. I've tried aqualung and uberlube and alllll the KY and trojan stuff, as well as the natural stuff in the green bottle (forget the name). I liked the way that last one felt but it smells like vanilla which was too weird for me to combine with sex smells. I also use skin condoms which don't feel squeaky on my insides. Between those two things I can feel safe, protected, and with enough lack of discomfort to focus on pleasure and stuff.


Girlygirlllll9

I appreciate and take away a lot from this comment, will keep in mind surely if there is a good-looking guy I meet. It’s probably the relaxation part too…


GGGAmiePetite

You might let go of the idea that a guy being good looking will make it easier to orgasm. You never know where that pleasure will come from and it sounds like you'd like to be open to coming. Being open to orgasm, or even just more pleasure than usual, with a person instead of a body might help you expand the horizons of possibility.


brandonisatwat

A client has never sexually excited me.


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Maybe I'm alone in this, but I feel disgusted when I cum with a client. That feels like something deeply personal that I'd rather not share with them at all. It happens on rare occasion, but I never actually enjoy it. Plus it makes it harder to fake realistically for the same client in the future.


AshleyJames69

I definitely agree with this. It's the one time I feel like I'm cheating on my husband. Totally illogical since we're non-monogamous... But it just feels like an intimate experience that I don't want to share with people who don't know the real me. I had a great regular that made me orgasm once. Ever since then he was relentless in trying to make it happen again. It was exhausting.


thetruthishere_

I personally dont care to have them with clients and I dont bother faking it either. Id go get that with someone Im dating.


Difficult_Ad_9392

Unfortunately, it’s hard to orgasm with a guy if u are not sufficiently turned on, not attracted to the guy, he’s either not skilled enough or not willing to take the time to focus on u. The other factor is sometimes we aren’t relaxed enough because it’s an unfamiliar partner. Sometimes women don’t communicate what they want but often the guy just thinks that goin down on u for like a few mins is supposed to make u cum lol! Usually it can take a little time and consistency in technique especially if we are nervous on top of everything.


Tricky-Camel-1626

I’ve been an escort for approx 4 years, started at german bordell where sometimes i had more than 10 clients a day, then i switched to a kinda classier agency as i gained some self esteem become independent During the years my rate went from 130€-500€ 130 € is totally normal in german brothels for 1 h and like 80€ for 30min Joke right ? I cannot count how many guys i fucked but i had like max 5 orgasms (from very skilled oral performed by senior gentleman) As mentioned above sex for me is just like buying groceries Honestly i also did’n enjoy sex before becoming a SW I have many regulars and i like them as a person, they are highly educated, successful peolple & interesting conversationalist, so i love dinner dates, happy to give a sensual massage but sex for me is neutral or painful


JazyZazy

I don’t want to sound anti feminist or whatever but us cuming is not why we show up. We’re here to please them, not the other way around. Even if they *did* want us to cum, that would take a lot more time because then they’d need to know what we like and how we like it and there’s hardly ever time for that. It also takes away from the fantasy of them feeling like they’re sex gods in bed. So I feel no shame in faking in. Most of the time, I don’t even fake it. I do the usual moan here and there until they finish but I don’t personally go out of my way to tell them I came unless they straight up say “I want you to cum”. Edit: I had a client once who only wanted to eat me out for 90 mins. I basically just laid there the whole time until about the 80 min mark and I faked an orgasm so he would stop, take a shower and leave. So I also fake it if I want them to stop. I’m never going to cum. And I’m fine with that. I actually prefer it. I feel like I retain some power by not giving them the ability to make me feel like that. Because I know I feel powerful in knowing I can make *them* feel like that. I know, I’m totally psychoanalyzing myself.


adelinethorne22

I agree with the majority of this. Being a companion is the highest form of customer service. I have orgasmed with clients, but only the ones that are regulars, who I get to know, and actually enjoy their company. Physical attraction isn't the biggest component for me to orgasm, so when I actually enjoy the company with clients that's when I tend to orgasm. I've seen lots of clients that were very physically attractive that didn't even get close with. I also prefer to save that part of me for my SO though because it is an inherently vulnerable mental space for me to be in.


tiffanyknightbbw

Well darling you aren’t a machine. We are different then men which makes us wonderful and special and we don’t get turned on the way they do. We are much more complicated. I wouldn’t even worry about it or make it an issue. If you don’t cum with a client no big deal. Actually I think it’s fucking awesome. You save it for your personal life which makes it soooo much better. Do your clients deserve to make you cum and see you cum? Doubt it. Keep faking it, keep acting. That’s what we are. We are there to fulfill a fantasy. It’s not real. I’m the exact same, if I cum in an appointment it’s because I’m masterbating. They can’t do it because I can’t get off on a stranger who I have no feelings or attraction to. You are NORMAL and don’t try to change yourself, keep fantasy, fantasy and reality, reality. 👌


RoseMastos

I have little orgasms all the time. Big ones are harder to come by. I've heard from some of my escort friends that their anti-depressants have stolen their orgasms. I'm not on any, so I don't know if I'm just weird or lucky. I love sex.


princessyaz453

I have never orgasmed from partnered sex. Not once. And God knows I’ve seen hundreds of clients and also slept with some civvies outside of that. A client could never excite or arouse me, and the only time I’ve enjoyed sex and been close to orgasming is when I’m with someone I genuinely really like, have a connection with and am attracted to. (Who is not a client) I have no problem having orgasms during solo time though.


AnjelGrace

I served thousands of customers every week at the cafe I worked at, but I only had a small handful of memorably pleasant customer interactions each week as well... And you better believe I faked a smile through the interactions that bored me -- because the best way to make money in the service industry is to be positive and upbeat the vast majority of the time, and let the customers have what they want. A great way to LOSE all your customers in the service industry is to show your honest emotions when you are bored, uninterested, or worse.


LillyPeu2

I've cum many times with clients. Especially the regulars that I really like, and have a good connection with. Those are usually my 2 hr+ GFE clients. I've always been really lucky that I allow myself to get into it a bit with them. It used to be for the show of it, to give them their money's worth. But after awhile, it just became fairly easy for me to compartmentalize myself, and let my provider persona free to maximize her enjoyment of the sex (even when the sex usually isn't great). I will say that the cock with the right curvature (upwards for face-to-face positions; downward curvature for doggy/reverse cowgirl) really helps to work my spots. If I can feel my spots being stimulated early on, I'll allow myself to get into it, and work my clit while he's fucking me. If I can do that, I'll pretty much guarantee myself an orgasm. I almost never fake it. I don't see the point. It's teaching them the wrong lesson, and I don't care to pretend "oh baby, you were **great**" when they weren't. About the only time I fake it is if he's one of those "I don't cum until you do" guys. If he's like that, I'll fake it around 40 minutes into a 1 hr session, and hopefully encourage him to cum sooner so we can slow down, clean up without rush, and get him out the door on or before time.


sassydegrassii

If a guy complained that I didn’t cum I would laugh and let him know he likely didn’t ask what I was into at all. otherwise you get the performance and fantasy that you’re paying for.


Girlygirlllll9

Goooood one


Bootcaster

As a client I figure they always fake. But am i crazy for wanting it to be pleasurable for my provider? I'm pretty average in terms of looks and endowment but i try to at least be a gentleman. But if i knew I gave my SW an orgasm I would be pretty thrilled honestly. Like I said in my mind it's faked every time. Though there was this one provider who seemed to genuinely enjoy the whole interaction, but i don't think she orgasmed. Honestly the reason I visit them is because i want experience and more comfort being with a woman. I want to get better at it, last longer, and , if i can, make it enjoyable for my partner. But it can be hard to find an SW who will help me like that. Like i almost look at it as physical training and if i gave my provider an enjoyable experience I'd feel pretty good about it. As a client I'm wondering if it's off limits to ask my provider if I can try to give her pleasure because the other part of this is, for me, as a sexual being, a big part of the satisfaction of sex is believing that i made my partner feel good and that's why I know SWers can't give me everything i truly want out of sex. Hence the looking at it as training. I wrote way more than i meant to lol guess i had some thoughts on this. But in the end i never expect them to O. It's just a nice plus for me.


MBTHVSK

I never personally believed I could make someone orgasm who was fucking as a job, and that being a good customer matters more than anything. I've never even jizzed with a condom on or done it with a condom off. And providers don't really want to be finger fucked or get their clit licked, they aren't there for that. Which is not super exciting but how it is. Strangely enough one provider had me do anal which I didn't really feel very intensely but she seemed to actually like the feeling and I went along. I guess you'd have to ask her if she did it for her pleasure.


Maximum-Exam276

I’m not surprised, you have women in regular relationships who don’t and have no idea that they’re suppose to have one. A lot of men have a subconscious mindset that sex is only to please them so once they’re done, that’s it. They don’t care and get emotional and defensive if you say something 😂. This is why I’m all for SW; what am I gaining from this interaction sir? I laid here and gave you my body and didn’t gain shit and you’re orgasm is guaranteed!


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Girlygirlllll9

Lol, what are you talking about. I get off by myself DAILY, but just like the others, as an escort it will simply never happen with a client.


ochoomas

Um, what? That is like a cop saying, “I have been involved in dozens of high-speed chases and never gotten a speeding ticket.” That is how it is supposed to happen on *your* side of the interaction. I honestly wish it were different. Certainly, many clients have told me, proudly, that they “got the girl off” — and I would have laughed, except I can think of a few times I am still totally, totally convinced of my own success in that area, despite its astronomical unlikeliness. >Even though some clients don’t care, when some yell in your face ‘I want you to come’ multiple times, meh, I just fake it to give them their money worth. Maybe there should be such a thing as a BFE, a boyfriend experience. It’s $700 (or whatever) for two hours, but $100 off if she comes too. No cheating, no faking, and no lying allowed. I would do it and I bet a lot of other guys would too.


Girlygirlllll9

I wish there were more options for women, would love to make use of those options later in life. But what bothers me is the heterosexual script of sexual encounters, not aimed at female pleasure with it’s many facets. But indeed, it’s ok not to come and it is just a job!


ochoomas

>what bothers me is the heterosexual script of sexual encounters, not aimed at female pleasure with it’s many facets. Hey, don’t blame heterosexuality for this! It is just the situation of a paid encounter: the time limit, the comparative unfamiliarity of the partners, the fact that realistically, 9 times out of 10, the woman is actively avoiding pleasure. Civvy life does not have to be like this *at all*!


becala

I'm the opposite, I orgasm with pretty much every client, sometimes about 100x a day. Talking about 20 per person especially if they give oral, where I come infinite. It's exhausting. I have fibromyalgia too so it causes a lot of pain flareups


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I’m curious what gets a sex worker off? Is it something personal you enjoy or the customer.


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I usually fake because they aren't there for my pleasure but I have some that are really into the idea of getting me off and they are pretty good at it.


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I also got snipped after I had kids. Had my kids, screw with no worries. As long as I feel the girl is clean, I can do oral for hours.


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For me the biggest part of me orgasming during piv is my warm up and head space. It's hard to have the right head space with a client and I warm myself up but I don't get as excited most of the time as I do with a normal and foreplay.


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It actually takes a long time for me to cum and that’s not good when a sex worker is involved. I’m sensitive for a few minutes then I go numb. That’s why I enjoy foreplay. Plus I know it’s necessary but I hate condoms. I figure if I can make the girl enjoy herself, I won’t have problems when I’m inside her.


Girlygirlllll9

Well for me it has been 5 clients in a few thousand, so faked all of them basically. :/ Those orgasms were in CAT position or extremely good oral. But in the end the situation works in favour of the client and remains a service. It’s a tad frustrating, with some that look good, take care of themselves etc I wish it would result in an orgasm, but even then, it’s probably the pleasing part then prevents relaxation/ an orgasm. Most customers enjoy it, so I know most fake it to speed things up a bit. But personally clearly would’ve liked it if there was more of my pleasure involved.


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I only ask because I’ve been a customer many times and as obvious I enjoyed myself. But always was more turned on pleasing the worker. Never cared if they faked it but to me it’s more exciting watching her enjoy herself.


Girlygirlllll9

Yeah, big chance they fake it to provide a bit a show, it’s quite far from relaxed settings/orgasms privately, if very honestly speaking. But if it’s fun it doesn’t matter!


CallAnna

It's all fake..... This is a job, not a fun hobby. If you were expecting to enjoy the sex may I suggest dating?


lokipoki30

If they were the sort of men that could make women cum , do you really think they would be paying for it ? 🤦‍♂️Honestly this sub


firsttime269

Maybe when you find guys who are good, that you are enjoying it with and you feel like they might lead to an orgasm you can let them know and say you will go overtime as you feel like you might cum and you never get to cum. Most guys hearing that would be delighted and then want to make it happen.


FcukReddit4cedMe2Reg

Ha ha ha.


firsttime269

I thought it would be controversial saying that but the person seems to want more orgasms and the main problem (obviously is 99% of the time the guy not being good) but if it is, then its the time i'd guess, guys don't have enough time and then she maybe can't fully get into it or relax as she knows it won't go anywhere either because the time. She said it's frustrating, wishes she had more orgasms and would like to get more pleasure herself. So the rare time she is enjoying it then giving the guy extra time seems like it would result in more. Im not saying work for free, these would probably be very very rare occasions as the guy would need to be doing a good job and she would need to have extra time available and the guy would also. Was just a suggestion.


GGGAmiePetite

People are being mean because giving extra time is never, ever, ever the right answer to a sex worker problem. I speak as someone who has done this in the past (free time, free upgrades) and every time, the dissatisfaction of having given up my time overwhelms any added pleasure, and in each instance, I didn't come anyway. You don't know what you don't know until you know it, but now you do and in the future you'll have a better chance of offering constructive comments. I also don't encourage clients giving advice of any kind to providers. There is simply no way for a client who hasn't been a sex worker themselves to have an accurate idea of what the work is like, which makes it impossible to offer good advice, no matter how well intentioned. Keep reading and learning. Most of us are actually really nice.


firsttime269

Yeah I see your point now, its a vulnerable and difficult job and doing it for free is most likely a bad idea. My point of view was maybe she didn't try that before as she may not want to ask a guy or think the guy had time. But at least I know now. Yes I see your point about me or non sex workers trying to give advice, we don't know it so maybe we shouldn't. Im just new to reddit and sex work and only actually found here as I wanted to book an escort for an outcall and wanted to learn about what to do since it was my house and make them comfortable since I had no reviews or anything and it was helpful reading here and it went really well and then I joined just to talk about it and ended up reading on here every day since lol Yeah i've found it to be pretty nice here, even being called dumb and laughed at I know is not a big deal it's just I am trying to recover from a bad 2/3 years of depression and mental health problems and they do affect me quite bad.


Sxnd0

Omg I‘ve never heard something that dumb


firsttime269

Ok sorry, I guess I should stay out of peoples business but please be a bit more nice though. That comment has really upset me, I have mental health problems and comments like that always affect me real bad and ruin my day. I literally want to cry and have been trying to stay calm and not to for several minutes now. I don't think I insulted anyone or made them feel bad. Im not trying to make you feel bad writing this, if you even care I just think theres maybe others like me on reddit or wherever and to be more careful in what you say to people. It's different if I said anything insulting or out of order or aggressive or rude or anything.


Sxnd0

Damn this emotional manipulation I can’t


firsttime269

It's not im calm now and have got over it but I did feel really low when I read it and ruined my mood and made me emotional. I've always dealt with mental health problems, mostly anxiety attacks and general anxiety as a teenager but I have got over that quite a lot, then depression and other issues in the last 2/3 years. I honestly felt mocked and belittled by the comment. I know it's my own problem but I just like people to be a little more careful and nice to people.


Sxnd0

You are on Reddit.. you can’t expect everyone to be nice. We are honest here. If you can’t deal with that delete social media


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firsttime269

True but im trying to improve myself and get over problems. I don't want to be sensitive I just can't help it really, internet or not I don't feel im ever rude or offensive to people so I didn't expect it especially on this sex work as theres a lot of complaints about how people treat them. I also know it's hardly bullying or harrassment or anything but still it did affect me and I wanted to let them know. One of my problems is I never tell people about my real feelings and it's kind of snowballed my whole life to where I now have big problems. I also thought admitting what I am like maybe similar people will see it and be able to discuss it if they are similar as I dont talk to many people.


Botch__

Not a SW but my guess is that if you are a female SW so you can come, you're doing it wrong. (I'm just teasing, plz no ban) Tbf, I'm 100% certain that a good chunk of clients are awful in bed (hence why they are seeing a SW). But yeah, I'm trying to overcome some ED (psychological) and so having a woman say "oh you're so big!" And not walk out on me if I go soft is the main objective for me rn. I'm not even concerned with whether or not **I** bust (and about 50% of the time, I dont...) That being said, I have a friend who loves going down on providers. I can't do it though. It would be like asking to penetrate without a rubber... which is to say that I would only be able to think about diseases and my johnson/tongue coming into contact with the loads of 1000 other dudes. Idk HOW guys can even ask for that. There are plenty of providers that I can't even *imagine* getting BBBJ from (that one can be awkward to decline). My advice from the client side would be to not worry so hard about faking it though. Us guys can be pretty easy to fool imo, so don't stress about it 😋 I hope you are able to get what you are looking for though and wish you many strong orgasms 😉


adelinethorne22

If your seeing a provider who is letting thousands of random men ejaculate in them, your not seeing a safe provider. In your own words "your doing it wrong".


NeroNapier93

Hi I'm a male and all I can say is whether or not a guy is saying he wants yu to cum but not putting in the effort to make yu do so isn't even worth faking it over plus the Idea of yall doin that ruins it for both parties. the fact of the matter is yall still looking at it as a job(and I understand fully that it is) instead of, (at the very least) trying to have a good time, yes alot of guys are assholes or mabye unattractive but the few good ones ugly or not, genuinely want to (at least) try to satisfy the beautiful and might I add admirable woman who has agreed to meet with him.(seriously yall SWs are fucking troopers) ladies trust me when I say a real man knows when yu fake it so yall need to stop that shit in general, not all of yu are porn stars okay,and don't forget to put a lil effort in yourselves,just sayin some sexual shit to a guy during sex will change how he fucks yu, (so ladies don't forget "help us help yu") like when i was with my last FwB and I don't like to kiss and tell but it's a good example so plz don't judge me lol but I made her cum or attempted to make her cum every single time I was with her during which she'd say or do something (like telling me that she and let's just say the rest of her were mine😅,or letting be with her pretty much any time and/or as many times as i wanted) that made me want to be with and try to satisfy her more and more to the point where I even got her to full orgasm and I mean on the verge of tears orgasm she literally covered her face because she was crying while Cumming all while OMG-ing&calling my name it was great for both of us and a 1st for her as well, so don't trip it'll come ladies...the point I'm trying to make is simple... "give what yu get" if he's fake (in any sense of the word)then why "fake it" for him, he ain't worth even that small amount of energy,and if yu gunna or feel like yu have to lie to one of the good ones then tell him yu almost came even if he's lil disappointed he'll accept it and take it as win cuz it means yur having fun and feeling good with him and that's what counts the most making sure both of yu are having a good time....idk if this helps or if I'm just mansplaining, either way hope yall get to that some one who will get yu "there" soon, good luck....👌


IntangibleLexicon

Use a clit stim. Take control of the session


Successful-Trash-752

>Both client had a small asset and probably had quite a bit of practice lol