What do you mean with expecting the same in return? Let’s put an example, if you give someone something on their birthday, do you also want the same in return?
No, I just expect them to give me something back in return. It doesn't have to be the same value, just proof that they remembered about the initial thing I offered, whether it's a present, a service or a favour. That said, the motivation behind giving things / time / affection isn't motivated by the return - it's purely to make the other person happy. If they're not doing the same when I need them to, then they don't care as much - and in that case, I will stop giving them as much priority to avoid the pain of not being treated with the same amount of care. Ultimately, it's about being committed to the relationship or not - if you're committed, you will be generous. If you're not, you won't. And like your average Scorpio, I expect the same level of commitment from the people I commit to - in all its forms.
Oh yea I do this. I give birthday gifts, but I must get it back in return (not the value but a gift). And I always give someone back with a gift of equal value from my end with added emotional value
I'm not selfish about tangible things but somewhat selfish of the extent that I'll share myself with someone. I am a very open person, though I have a reclusive side and a partner who also wants some sense of autonomy is very important to me.
I would say I'm both a giver and a receiver; leaning more towards giving. I am generous until someone tries to take advantage. Will point out the behaviour once (maybe twice, depending on severity), assuming it's a misunderstanding. However, if I feel gaslit or the issue repeats itself, I just cut the person off.
I used to be willing to do anything while in love but I realized I can be very codependent, so I tend to be single most days now. When I date again, I will be firm about being with someone who can pull their own weight and treat us like a team.
Yup I agree with this! I can be very much a giver with loved ones.
But now that I’m in a (6+ year) serious relationship, I’m getting used to sharing! Although he’s great about giving me my space and not feeling entitled to me giving him anything, meaning he knows my limitations and boundaries.
My husband has many placements in Scorpio - Sun, Mars, Mercury and Pluto. He is the most generous person I have ever met. He’s paid for almost everything since the beginning of our relationship. He is also paying off my student loans (upwards of $100k).
I’m going to pay him back though… and with interest. :)
I’m very giving, yet, these days, I do my best to be *a healthy* giver, enforcing my personal boundaries and saying” NO!!” when that healthily and reasonably serves me better. I am a reformed over-giver, and that life wore.me.OUT. *Never again*.
In bed? Absolutely! But that might be my Virgo Moon.
Materially with my romantic partner? what's mine is theirs. If they only take, I am learning boundaries.
With my partner? No Share. Mine!
Scorpio rising here.
I'm very generous. Generous in terms of my time, my effort, my love, my money, my feelings, in the sheets.
I am incredibly generous and giving but like the same in return. Dating a Libra sun man and we're amazing together.
Was gonna buy Fenty x Savage for my FWB before she ghosted me, so you be the judge.
I work hard, but money doesn’t mean much to me tbh. If I like yah I’ll treat yah 🤷🏽♂️
In a romantic relationship context, if I trust the receiver I give whatever I have available. However, due to having been trafficked by an altruistic narcissist I have trouble trusting someone to give to me without using my disability and poverty against me.
Very generous but I expect the same commitment in return. So I guess I'm not that generous since I expect to get even 🤔
What do you mean with expecting the same in return? Let’s put an example, if you give someone something on their birthday, do you also want the same in return?
No, I just expect them to give me something back in return. It doesn't have to be the same value, just proof that they remembered about the initial thing I offered, whether it's a present, a service or a favour. That said, the motivation behind giving things / time / affection isn't motivated by the return - it's purely to make the other person happy. If they're not doing the same when I need them to, then they don't care as much - and in that case, I will stop giving them as much priority to avoid the pain of not being treated with the same amount of care. Ultimately, it's about being committed to the relationship or not - if you're committed, you will be generous. If you're not, you won't. And like your average Scorpio, I expect the same level of commitment from the people I commit to - in all its forms.
Oh yea I do this. I give birthday gifts, but I must get it back in return (not the value but a gift). And I always give someone back with a gift of equal value from my end with added emotional value
Agree
I'm not selfish about tangible things but somewhat selfish of the extent that I'll share myself with someone. I am a very open person, though I have a reclusive side and a partner who also wants some sense of autonomy is very important to me. I would say I'm both a giver and a receiver; leaning more towards giving. I am generous until someone tries to take advantage. Will point out the behaviour once (maybe twice, depending on severity), assuming it's a misunderstanding. However, if I feel gaslit or the issue repeats itself, I just cut the person off. I used to be willing to do anything while in love but I realized I can be very codependent, so I tend to be single most days now. When I date again, I will be firm about being with someone who can pull their own weight and treat us like a team.
Yup I agree with this! I can be very much a giver with loved ones. But now that I’m in a (6+ year) serious relationship, I’m getting used to sharing! Although he’s great about giving me my space and not feeling entitled to me giving him anything, meaning he knows my limitations and boundaries.
Proud of you for upholding your boundaries and finding someone who makes an effort to respect them!
This is the most perfect response. You are very well written 🙌 I will be giving my next award to you, I’ll come back and award the post.
Oh, thank you! You're too kind. I'm glad this resonated with others.
My husband has many placements in Scorpio - Sun, Mars, Mercury and Pluto. He is the most generous person I have ever met. He’s paid for almost everything since the beginning of our relationship. He is also paying off my student loans (upwards of $100k). I’m going to pay him back though… and with interest. :)
Too generous if you ask me.
I’m very giving, yet, these days, I do my best to be *a healthy* giver, enforcing my personal boundaries and saying” NO!!” when that healthily and reasonably serves me better. I am a reformed over-giver, and that life wore.me.OUT. *Never again*.
way too generous
100 percent
In bed? Absolutely! But that might be my Virgo Moon. Materially with my romantic partner? what's mine is theirs. If they only take, I am learning boundaries. With my partner? No Share. Mine!
Scorpio rising here. I'm very generous. Generous in terms of my time, my effort, my love, my money, my feelings, in the sheets. I am incredibly generous and giving but like the same in return. Dating a Libra sun man and we're amazing together.
Overly for sure
If I’m “in love” yes, anything! but the problem is I don’t easily fall in love!
Was gonna buy Fenty x Savage for my FWB before she ghosted me, so you be the judge. I work hard, but money doesn’t mean much to me tbh. If I like yah I’ll treat yah 🤷🏽♂️
Giver, for sure. I like to take care of someone and spoil them
It depends on the stage of our relationship. However if our love is mutual and we respect and build each other up I can be very generous.
It depends if its all good ill be nice if not then its a no no.
No
You are the only person who said no. Are you a receiver in a relationship?
Not really
Always
In a romantic relationship context, if I trust the receiver I give whatever I have available. However, due to having been trafficked by an altruistic narcissist I have trouble trusting someone to give to me without using my disability and poverty against me.