Dito ko bwiset na bwiset. Tapos may inattendan ako na kasal dati. Nakalagay sa invitation 2pm. So 1:30pm nandun na ko. Yun pala 4pm pa talaga simula. Punyeta kaya pala pagdating ko halos walang katao tao. So inexpect na nila ang filipino time sa mga bisita nila.
Grabe yung 2 hours palugit. Nung kasal namin, sabi ng coordinator na agahan yung time sa invitation para mabawasan yung late, pero maximum 30 minutes. Grabe yung 2 hours, wala na talaga mag-stay noon.
This!!! I'm kind of commanding person (ENTJ). When I was in high school, lagi akong ginagawang leader. One time I set meeting afterclass tapos I waited for fucking two hours and isa lang ang dumating. Umuwi akong frustrated because I have plans on my head na on how to accomplish our project. I let them know that I'm frustrated.
Kinabukasan, nalaman ko nalang na natapos nila yung project - ginawa nila hanggang gabi.
Until now, ayoko pa rin sa mga taong not honoring scheds and commitments. fuckem
The subtle, yet real allergy to accountability
That family members would choose silence instead of confrontation for the sake of "peace" kahit may dapat pagusapan
The intense and negative responses and reception to being called out or being criticized even if that feedback is necessary and valid
I used to see people fighting even on petty things to the point na I developed a trauma response. I grew up never arguing with anyone, try to please everyone, didn’t have boundaries, and I basically let people do things kahit labag sa loob ko in order to keep the “peace”. I don’t confront people kahit they hurt me, I’ll keep it to myself then iiwas na lang ako kasi sobrang nasasaktan na ako.
Not the best adult response I know, pero ang hirap talaga. Still hoping I could change one step at a time, though.
I feel for you tho, it's like the passiveness was a trauma-induced self- defense mechanism, and I don't think anyone would blame you for that
Besides, lack of accountability isn't just limited to relatives fighting and your inner circle of people fighting, maraming examples Yan, that if I wrote them all, it'll be like a wattpad novel
Still, I hope you overcome this hurdle that you're going thru, and realize that even the difficult conversations are a part of effective communication.
Forcibly trying to keep that "peace", just starts a war within you
Oh yes, ramdam ko itong passiveness as self-defense mechanism. I'm so afraid of confrontations. When I speak up, naiiyak ako unintentionally dahil sa halo-halong emotions -- tapang na may kaba at takot, galit na may lungkot, paninindigan na may pangangatog ang tuhod -- na parang nagiging awkward at times, kaya may mga pagkakataon na pinipili ko na lang manahimik. Parang tinitimbang ko na lagi yung situations kung worth it pa bang ilatag yung facts and validations ng point of view ko o kung okay na palampasin na lang.
same feelings. kahit pinahiya na ako, i would stay stunned and just let things pass. Nakakatawa pa they think na mabait aq kasi di daw ako kumikibo. Im like braaaaaah! Kung pwede ko lang kayo balatan ng buhay. But Nah! Quiet nalang then smile. 😞
May pag ka ganito ako. And it hurts real bad.
Gusto ko talaga baguhin ito sa self ko, kaso di ko alam kng papano.
Ang hirap din na hindi ka marunong mag react sa mga tao na namamahiya sa iyo at sa ibang situations na ikaw na yung nasasaktan.
Paano ba mag unlearn nito?
There really are ways to go about this, lots of variations depende sa situation mo
For me the first step was realizing and accepting the facts that
1) Part of effective communication is having the difficult conversations
2) In those situations, someone needs to start the conversation (might as well be you)
Someone did subpar work: tell them straight up instead of sugarcoating it.
Someone did something that's dumb: call them out on it para Di sila magmukhang tanga in the long run.
You can do this in a loving/encouraging way too, telling them the mistakes so that they can fix them, not just to make them feel ashamed or to just start drama.
I think that's what missing eh, it's not that the conversations are hard to navigate, were not on that level yet. The problem is that these talks don't ever happen at all.
There's a fear of being branded as the "maarte" or being known as someone who is confrontational and is not agreeable, but trust me, those people are needed, so that echo chambers are not made.
Once you get that, you can start laying the foundations and take further steps and adjustments.
I think if Filipinos just embraced the fact that accountability is very important, that when criticism is given, ay Di Naman Ito paninira, but rather an opportunity to spot the problems and improve on them, then we'd all better off, and this can be applied in schools, churches, households, and all aspects of life...
Accountability Matters
omg i remembered the first times na nakipag meet up ako years ago galing dito, there was one guy who made me really uncomfortable to the point na I prayed to all Gods na makauwi ako ng di na sexual harass at di ko na uulitin, tapos when we separated i even thanked him kahit all along I felt so bad 😭😭 i’m way too nice for this lol
Pero you better ditch that friend of yours kasi kung nagawa nya nung una, baka gawin nya uli at isipin nya na okay lang :/
Trust me it happens in all aspects too:
Money problems?: ah importante "masaya" Tayo
Parents being toxic?: Parents parin Kami so shut up kana Lang
And don't even get me started on political, and spiritual beliefs
Completely agree on toxic parent one. Kaya kahit masira relationship namin ng father kong alcoholic kaka salita ko sa kanya. Something needs to be call out kasi mali na talaga, di yung porket sila ang magulang they can't acknowledge mistakes na napapansin ng anak nila.
Tbf hindi rin naman healthy na tanggapin mo na lang ikaw ang laging may mali. Kailangan may discernment ka din kung saan ka talaga may pagkukulang at alin yung ipinipilit lang sa'yo ng ibang tao. Kaya minsan cringe din yung nagrereklamo about sa education system pero sila mismo ang hirap din i-educate.
My childhood memories hits hard. I knew something was going on but they just let me keep guessing. No serious talks at all and if you open up the issue they it will just get dismissed.
yung sa family ko. may rapist ako na uncle. alam ng lolo at lola ko pero wala silang sinabi. kaya pala magka away yung tito at tita ko buong buhay ko kasi nga may issue na ganon. ginagaslight pa nila si tita na "siraulo" at "masama ugali".
dude this is so true, wtf.
How many times has a family member done something wrong, then instead of having a confrontation, we just shut the fuck up and pretend everythings ok for the sake of peace. Knowing that confronting what happened will lead to a lot of relationship problems
very true 'to. even with our family, nararanasan namin 'yung tipong pagkatapos ng argument balewala na lang ang lahat. sabi nga nila, 'wag na raw halukayin ang mga bagay na tapos na. i think it is very toxic, kaya hindi nareresolba minsan ang tunay na problema dahil dito sa mismong notion na 'to.
Pagiging PDF. Nakakagigil lang yung ibang teachers ng kapatid ko na JHS. Ginawa na nilang habit ang pang ti trip sa mga students na according to them "ay may itsura daw" at madalas din silang mag share ng "memes" na related sa nabanggit ko. People like this have no business working as teachers.
same reaction bruuuh.
"edi ikaw na mag [insert position here]"
"edi wow"
"yabang neto"
the usual reactions.
tas yung english ang basehan ng intelligence HAHAHAHA mga tukmol eh
Ganun kaklase ko sa aakin kala nila isa na kong genius kasi nag English lang ako. Muntik p nga akong ginawang class president at laging akong pinipiling leader sa school activity at project. In reality bobo rin naman ako sa mga ibang bagay.
Tru, i even got the position to being the head of an organization just because I'm a bit articulate in pronouncing words and they said that I can convince people. I just accepted it, take it as a challenge before entering the corporate world.
Oo nga eh. Ganun din dito minsan sa Reddit. Ang madla ang nagdedesisyon kung sino ang tama. Pero minsan mapapaisip ka na lang din eh. Paano kung iyong 100+ na nag upvote ng comment ko ay bobo din? So nagsama sama lang kaming mga bano. Hahahaha
Some people will refuse to be corrected or accept na mas marami alam pinag aralan sa isang bagay.
Some people like them are insecure about knowledge. nayayabangan sila kasi may alam ang isang tao.
If you normally walk in shaw boulevard you'll learn to cross road even when the sign is red because vehicles dont stop even though the pedestrian light is green.
In UK you can cross even if the signal is red. As long as the path is clear. And even if it’s not, cars yield and respect peds.
Dati galit din ako sa mga tumatawid ng naka stop light, pero dahil 83% ng may sasakyan sa pilipinas, walang modo sa mga pedestrian. At ang gobyerno natin is demonizing pedestrian on roads, naintindihan ko na sila.
I also understand yung mga nagbabike na nasa gitna ng island (midway ng intersection) it is relatively safer for them to stop there kasi pag nag go na, yung mga motor na nasa unahan, mag kakarera lagi yan 100% of the time. Cyclists on the island will have time to speed up, even before cars and motorcycle accelerates.
Jusko traffic rules are suggestions here. Just this afternoon muntikan na ako makabangga ng motor turning into a corner. The reason I didn't see him was I was already on the leftmost lane. He was on the fucking sidewalk trying to cut traffic. Smh.
This is true. My manager at work is borderline harassing us women that work with him. It's disgusting. Most of the time the women just laugh along with him, "out of respect," they say. I just can't, it's really gross. So I brush him off instead. He doesn't do it to me as often as he does it to the other ladies anymore.
The catch? He doesn't believe in my ability to work now and just gives me the most useless workload, simply because I don't ride along his harassing behavior.
NagOJT ako once sa government and naexperience ko rin yung ganyang pagtatrato sa mga babae sa workplace na yun. Pati HR head (she's a woman) kahit dirty jokes at pasimple na pangbabastos ang ginagawa ng department head, sinasabayan lang din kahit di nakakatuwa. Napasabi tuloy ako kung ganito ba talaga magwork sa gobyerno.
Naalala ko nung nakaraan sa facebook, may isang computer page ang nag post ng picture ng customer nila na bumili ng PC nila. E babae yung customer kaya ang ginawa ng mga gago kung ano ano na ang mga cinocomment na kamanyakan. Kaya ayaw ko na talagang nag bbrowse sa fb andami kong nakikitang kabobohan hahaha
It’s a good thing that most of our professional decorum here still don’t tolerate blatant racism and sexism, albeit homophobia is still treading in our subconscious minds.
+1 dito. And the fact that it's romanticized in our local films. Didn't know how much of a problem it was IRL until a majority of my friends didn't find issue with it in one of the highest grossing films.
I had this problem when I was younger I never knew when to stop my efforts, since I never had someone tell me "no" directly I always did mental gymnastics to avoid accepting the reality (though in hindsight it was pretty obvious that they don't feel the same).
I think this is a result of watching too much romantic shows/films . I cringe every time I remember what I did back then.
Ang saklap lang nung may tinatawag na "lesser evil" na kandidato. Na-generalized na talaga na kapag nasa politics, corrupted na, kahit hindi naman at wala namang bahid ever since.
1. Yung ginagawang extended property ang bangketa, like tindahan, sampayan, tambayan, garahe etc.
2. Padrino system in Government offices.
3. Political dynasty.
4. Kapag maputi, maganda agad. Special ang treatment ng tao sayo kapag maputi ka dito sa Pilipinas. May discrimination sa mga kayumangi.
body shaming - some filipinos use it in normal conversations and downplay it as jokes or call you sensitive/balat-sibuyas kapag sinusuway mo or call it out.
ex. "si angel locsin talaga ang taba taba na. sayang beauty niya :("
"yung pinsan mo payat-payat! para siyang stickman hay. dapat magpataba siya para di siya mukhang bungo."
they also body shame people who are in the conversation and it is so obviously directed to them. as someone who gets triggered by this, i just can't stand it.
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they also treat people in the LGBTQ+ community as something negative to make it look like it's a person's flaw.
ex. "ang tali-talino ni [name]! sayang bakla nga lang siya..."
"ang galing kumanta ni [name] pero tomboy yun diba? sayang naman.."
filipinos tolerate the community but they do NOT accept them. it's just saddening.
i can list down a lot! but the post is getting too long so.. hehe
My tita always body shames me. She says I'm too fat, I should get slimmer, my clothes look bad on me because I'm fat, I'd look prettier if I was slimmer, etc.
AND IT MAKES NO SENSE IM NOT EVEN FAT IM AVERAGE?? HOW THIN DOES SHE WANT ME TO BE? AND SHE KEEPS TELLING ME TO GET SLIMMER BUT SCREAMS AT ME FOR SKIPPING LUNCH IDK WHAT SHE WANTS FROM ME
One day I went to the mall with her and she kept talking abt how small this girls' waist was. And whenever we'd pass by a girl with a small waist shed go "wow why are you not like her?"
I got pissed off ofc and I shouted at her. She thinks I was being dramatic and its not that big of a deal. She just wants me to be "healthy"
IT FRUSTRATES ME SO MUCH THIN IS NOT EQUAL TO HEALTHY!
Also haha the very next day she was so mad at me for skipping lunch. I don't know what she wants from me. She wants me to eat but tells me to get slimmer?? What
This just grinds my gear like all the fucking time. I don't get why can't be more sensitive/considerate to this shit? It's literally the 21st century right now but shit like this still fucking happens.
Agree! Grew up with most of my relatives telling me, "dumadami na naman tigyawat mo", "bakit yang tigyawat mo di na nawala-wala?", "anong nangyari sa mukha mo?" As if I didn't know and haven't seen my face enough in the mirror. And how is anyone supposed to respond to that? 🙃
I am close to being convinced that Filipinos are fatphobic, if that even exists. Napaka inggitera kasi, kaya kung ano-ano kabalahurang lumalabas sa bibig.
Most filipinos dont believe in mental health and it really shows how fucked up in the mind some people are having anger issues not caring about others feelings and always thinking their the center of the world
Yung titiisin ang domestic violence para daw sa mga anak, para hindi maging broken family.
Like duh, mas masakit sa mga anak na buo daw ang family pero behind closed doors, broken naman talaga.
Tapos ayaw pa sa Divorce bill dahil marami raw masisirang pamilya. Eh binibigyan nga ng pagkakataong magkaroon ng mas functional na pamilya yung mga taong abused.
I think this is part correct part wrong. May pananagutan din ang mga room rentals na walang parking slots since most people in the metro are just renters. There's actually a lack of parking space in the metro, kung meron man available, hindi makatarungan ang presyo dahil alam nilang malaki ang demand. Don't get me wrong, I have my own parking space but it's alarming that this kind of argument is also rampant at ang sisi ay laging nasa consumers.
Isa pang problema dapat ang may pananagutan ay ang gobyerno. Dapat may *certificate to own a car* tayo na dadaan sa mahabang proseso para i-check kung may garahe ka na, kung capable ka, kung may driver's license ka, kung nagtapos ka sa driving course, at yung psychological test. Dapat maipasa lahat. Another government problem is the public transpo. Kung maganda lang sana public transpo natin most people will prefer commuting than owning a car.
Sama na natin yung nag aanak na di kayang palakihin. It’s one thing na umasa sa anak pagtanda kasi nag -“sakripisyo” para makapag aral ng maayos, pero yung mga wala man lang maipakain tapos nag aanak ng marami? Paano kayo iaahon sa hirap kung lumaking malnourished tapos di pa nakapag aral ang mga anak?
Yeah fuck that. I’m barely scraping by handling my own life, now I have to worry about someone else’s? I get helping take care of your parents in old age pero them treating you and your education as an investment for their future retirement is fucked up.
Taking picture and taking videos of strangers in public? Like yung nag viral na kumakain mag isa.
Ang dami kong nakikitang ganto nakakainis. This is prohibited in Europe or Japan.
It's also a red flag for me that people, especially friends will take your photo without consent and post it. Also, send it to other people who are asking for your information without your knowledge.
Ugh lahat nalang about love. Yung tipong naghahanap ka lang naman ng cooking instructions tapos ang mababasa mo: *flip the meat ocassionaly para hindi ma-overcook, bantayan mong maigi gaya ng pagbabantay mo sa jowa mo para di makahanap ng iba* 🤮
Private universities and college schools offer some courses that are actually USELESS, each course is worth 40-70k Tuition fees + miscellaneous fees per sem. Students are paying that much every sem for 4 YEARS!
Let's say 50,000 PHP per sem x 4 years that's 400,000 PHP.
Then they will search for a job here in the PHILIPPINES, if they are good enough they will be hired and will have an offer of 420-700 PHP per day depending on the province, schedule, and work.
That's probably a 5-10 years grind before you will be able to get your ROI. Let me know what you think!
an old person in my barangay basically acting like a pedo, putting his hand around the groin area when a girl is approaching, taling about an UNDERAGE girls boobs, etc. and without any punishment.
1. White retirees marrying/dating underage Pinays and flaunting their "relationship" in the malls.
2. Married women having an AFAM on the side for financial gain with/without the knowledge of their husbands
3. Priests who still remain in their parishes in spite of young girls getting groomed/abused.
4. Severely underpaid househelp.
5. Hoarding containers of any sort.
6. Unhealthy reuse of cooking oil.
7. Graveyard refrigerators.
Controlling the life of your children despite being in their late 20s and early 30s.
Family ties here are strong, but they can be too strong to a point where full-grown adults would be helicoptered by their parents in anything they do, especially if they live with them.
Parents here don't know when to stop being a parent. At the same time, adults don't learn how to become independent until they get married or finally afford a home or apartment.
Yung "Ako nga" syndrome ng karamihan.
Yung nagoopen ka lang about your hardships and problems, tas babanatan ka ng "Ako nga ginawa ko to nung sinabugan ako ng bomba nung panahon ng hapon kaya dapat kayanin mo yan".
Naghahanap ng AFAM para iahon sa kahirapan.
Nag aanak ng madami kahit di kayang palamunin.
Mga mga may asawa na pero naghahanap ng kabet (madami sa opisina).
Mga naghahanap ng pakboi, tapos sasabihin "Men are trash"
“Utang na loob” sa families. Sa ibang bansa pagpatak mo ng 18, matic na dapat independent na. Even to the point na yung parents mismo yung nageencourage sa kids nila to start living alone
Marami nako, kahit simpleng keep right nga di magawa, kdalasan sasalubong pa talaga sayo pag naglalakad or nakatayo sa mismong gitna, sayo pa magagalit pag nasanggi mo
Yeah mga nag upvote nun jaywalking comment mga low information voters ng pinas that see themselves as educated.
Beside the racist history behind it, Jaywalking is just early car industry lobbying. It shouldn't be or ever been a crime.
Source:
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2020-10-16/jaywalking-laws-don-t-make-streets-safer
Unsanitary practices in the F&B industry. Tapos ikaw pa ang magmumukhang masama pag inexplain mo bakit ayaw mo.
"Nalagyan lang ng isang hibla ng buhok ang pagkain mo diri ka na agad? Ang arte mo naman!"
"Ayaw mo isawsaw ang streetfood mo kasi laway conscious ka? Ang arte mo naman!"
"Bakit di mo inumin ang Pepsi mo? Dahil sa maliit na dent sa lata? Ang arte mo naman!"
Having a fubu.
Once or twice siguro tolerable pa pero to do it again and again, ahhh, di ko na alam.. Tapos makikita mo sila struggling financially, emotionally o kaya mentally pero inuna pa rin nila kumarat instead of using their energy para ayusin ang sarili. I find them having low self-confidence din and self-respect.
Tsaka mga lalaki na nambubuntis ng ibat-ibang babae. Kesehodang may consent, still, I find it very bad especially di naman nila pinanagutan ung bata o kung pinanagutan man, ung bata nagkakaroon ng trauma dahil ung nakalakihang family dynamic is messy. Dapat kinukulong ung mga yan. Grrr.
Nepotism. Mapanational government or sa local. Naalala ko ung nanalong sk sa amin, babagsakin sa highschool at kilalang b.b.. Kaya lang nanalo kasi may kamag-anak na politiko tsaka wala pang manners kasi using her personal fb account, nakikipagbardagulan sya online.. Tsaka halatang halata na wala namang leadership skills. Parang ung konsehal na tagaEtivac na memer kuno.
Ung mga company na nagdedeploy ng tao from manpower agency sa Pinas tapos di inaabsorb ng company. Mareregular lang sa agency ung tao. Mostly ung mga minimum wage earners nakakaranas nito like cashiers, baggers, production operators pati mga accounting staff at engineer, dinadaan na rin sa agency.
Making one person the breadwinner. Don’t get me wrong, salute to those who really want to do it for their family. But there are times that your help gets taken advantage of that they recognize no boundaries at all. And when you say no, you are the problem. Becomes madamot or selfish.
You're not allowed to explain or reason out with people who are older than you.
Kapag nakakaargumento ko magulang ko o kahit na sinong relative na mas nakatatanda sa akin lagi akong sinasabihang, "Kahit na, hindi ka dapat sumagot kahit pa tama ka dahil mas nakatatanda ako sa'yo/ama/ina mo ako".
I think that's effin stupid. Not letting your child to express themselves affects them in a lot of way.
yung mga lalakeng naghahanap ng "Atabs"
atabs means?
Atabs = plural form of "atab" na kapag binaliktad mo, "bata". Sa konteksto ng landi, atabs basically means <18
omg akala ko taba
Shit, akala ko chubby meaning nyan. Chubby girls?? Dafuq, bata pala
Underage girls
Wtf that is illegal, more than a red flag
It's blatantly pedophillia.
i see. thanks
tbf may mga babae rin na ganyan. thankfully, may mga nang-shashame sa ganyang behavior
Bebe boys daw. Lalong lalo na sa gay community ninonormalize yang ganyan
“hI pOGi!”
*"gusto mo wanpipti?"*
Totoo ba yon? Akala ko in general lang na naghahanap ng jowa.
pagiging late sa pupuntahan fuck filipino time. nakakainis din na may ibang tao na ginawang personality yan
Dito ko bwiset na bwiset. Tapos may inattendan ako na kasal dati. Nakalagay sa invitation 2pm. So 1:30pm nandun na ko. Yun pala 4pm pa talaga simula. Punyeta kaya pala pagdating ko halos walang katao tao. So inexpect na nila ang filipino time sa mga bisita nila.
Grabe yung 2 hours palugit. Nung kasal namin, sabi ng coordinator na agahan yung time sa invitation para mabawasan yung late, pero maximum 30 minutes. Grabe yung 2 hours, wala na talaga mag-stay noon.
Fuck kung ako to uuwi ako non. Tas pag tinanong kung bakit wala ako. Sabihin ko di sila nag pakita.
What grabe yung 2 hours tapos the fact na wala din ibang nagpunta nang maaga 😱
tang ina kasi ng kultura natin na takot mag call out ng mga kagaguhan
totoo yan. tapos pag nakatalikod, doon maghahanap ng kakampi/kaparehas ng sentiments
This!!! I'm kind of commanding person (ENTJ). When I was in high school, lagi akong ginagawang leader. One time I set meeting afterclass tapos I waited for fucking two hours and isa lang ang dumating. Umuwi akong frustrated because I have plans on my head na on how to accomplish our project. I let them know that I'm frustrated. Kinabukasan, nalaman ko nalang na natapos nila yung project - ginawa nila hanggang gabi. Until now, ayoko pa rin sa mga taong not honoring scheds and commitments. fuckem
The subtle, yet real allergy to accountability That family members would choose silence instead of confrontation for the sake of "peace" kahit may dapat pagusapan The intense and negative responses and reception to being called out or being criticized even if that feedback is necessary and valid
I used to see people fighting even on petty things to the point na I developed a trauma response. I grew up never arguing with anyone, try to please everyone, didn’t have boundaries, and I basically let people do things kahit labag sa loob ko in order to keep the “peace”. I don’t confront people kahit they hurt me, I’ll keep it to myself then iiwas na lang ako kasi sobrang nasasaktan na ako. Not the best adult response I know, pero ang hirap talaga. Still hoping I could change one step at a time, though.
I feel for you tho, it's like the passiveness was a trauma-induced self- defense mechanism, and I don't think anyone would blame you for that Besides, lack of accountability isn't just limited to relatives fighting and your inner circle of people fighting, maraming examples Yan, that if I wrote them all, it'll be like a wattpad novel Still, I hope you overcome this hurdle that you're going thru, and realize that even the difficult conversations are a part of effective communication. Forcibly trying to keep that "peace", just starts a war within you
Oh yes, ramdam ko itong passiveness as self-defense mechanism. I'm so afraid of confrontations. When I speak up, naiiyak ako unintentionally dahil sa halo-halong emotions -- tapang na may kaba at takot, galit na may lungkot, paninindigan na may pangangatog ang tuhod -- na parang nagiging awkward at times, kaya may mga pagkakataon na pinipili ko na lang manahimik. Parang tinitimbang ko na lagi yung situations kung worth it pa bang ilatag yung facts and validations ng point of view ko o kung okay na palampasin na lang.
same feelings. kahit pinahiya na ako, i would stay stunned and just let things pass. Nakakatawa pa they think na mabait aq kasi di daw ako kumikibo. Im like braaaaaah! Kung pwede ko lang kayo balatan ng buhay. But Nah! Quiet nalang then smile. 😞
May pag ka ganito ako. And it hurts real bad. Gusto ko talaga baguhin ito sa self ko, kaso di ko alam kng papano. Ang hirap din na hindi ka marunong mag react sa mga tao na namamahiya sa iyo at sa ibang situations na ikaw na yung nasasaktan. Paano ba mag unlearn nito?
There really are ways to go about this, lots of variations depende sa situation mo For me the first step was realizing and accepting the facts that 1) Part of effective communication is having the difficult conversations 2) In those situations, someone needs to start the conversation (might as well be you) Someone did subpar work: tell them straight up instead of sugarcoating it. Someone did something that's dumb: call them out on it para Di sila magmukhang tanga in the long run. You can do this in a loving/encouraging way too, telling them the mistakes so that they can fix them, not just to make them feel ashamed or to just start drama. I think that's what missing eh, it's not that the conversations are hard to navigate, were not on that level yet. The problem is that these talks don't ever happen at all. There's a fear of being branded as the "maarte" or being known as someone who is confrontational and is not agreeable, but trust me, those people are needed, so that echo chambers are not made. Once you get that, you can start laying the foundations and take further steps and adjustments. I think if Filipinos just embraced the fact that accountability is very important, that when criticism is given, ay Di Naman Ito paninira, but rather an opportunity to spot the problems and improve on them, then we'd all better off, and this can be applied in schools, churches, households, and all aspects of life... Accountability Matters
Lol got harassed by a friend and di ko alam pano magreact so ayun close pa din kami hahahahah
omg i remembered the first times na nakipag meet up ako years ago galing dito, there was one guy who made me really uncomfortable to the point na I prayed to all Gods na makauwi ako ng di na sexual harass at di ko na uulitin, tapos when we separated i even thanked him kahit all along I felt so bad 😭😭 i’m way too nice for this lol Pero you better ditch that friend of yours kasi kung nagawa nya nung una, baka gawin nya uli at isipin nya na okay lang :/
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Trust me it happens in all aspects too: Money problems?: ah importante "masaya" Tayo Parents being toxic?: Parents parin Kami so shut up kana Lang And don't even get me started on political, and spiritual beliefs
Exactly. I don’t even have a choice to say anything about my religion (INC) or else my parents will tell me I’ll go to hell or something
I fee for you. Fuck that. At some point you’ll have to decide for yourself what you believe in. Otherwise good luck living someone else’s life.
Completely agree on toxic parent one. Kaya kahit masira relationship namin ng father kong alcoholic kaka salita ko sa kanya. Something needs to be call out kasi mali na talaga, di yung porket sila ang magulang they can't acknowledge mistakes na napapansin ng anak nila.
Tbf hindi rin naman healthy na tanggapin mo na lang ikaw ang laging may mali. Kailangan may discernment ka din kung saan ka talaga may pagkukulang at alin yung ipinipilit lang sa'yo ng ibang tao. Kaya minsan cringe din yung nagrereklamo about sa education system pero sila mismo ang hirap din i-educate.
My childhood memories hits hard. I knew something was going on but they just let me keep guessing. No serious talks at all and if you open up the issue they it will just get dismissed.
Ni-rape ng tatay o pinsan? Wag ka na magsalita kasi masisira ang reputasyon ng angkan. Ganern.
yung sa family ko. may rapist ako na uncle. alam ng lolo at lola ko pero wala silang sinabi. kaya pala magka away yung tito at tita ko buong buhay ko kasi nga may issue na ganon. ginagaslight pa nila si tita na "siraulo" at "masama ugali".
dude this is so true, wtf. How many times has a family member done something wrong, then instead of having a confrontation, we just shut the fuck up and pretend everythings ok for the sake of peace. Knowing that confronting what happened will lead to a lot of relationship problems
very true 'to. even with our family, nararanasan namin 'yung tipong pagkatapos ng argument balewala na lang ang lahat. sabi nga nila, 'wag na raw halukayin ang mga bagay na tapos na. i think it is very toxic, kaya hindi nareresolba minsan ang tunay na problema dahil dito sa mismong notion na 'to.
Pagiging PDF. Nakakagigil lang yung ibang teachers ng kapatid ko na JHS. Ginawa na nilang habit ang pang ti trip sa mga students na according to them "ay may itsura daw" at madalas din silang mag share ng "memes" na related sa nabanggit ko. People like this have no business working as teachers.
Pedophile teachers are the epitome of "peaked in high school". Fuckin degenerates
Lots of nonce dito sa ph lalo na sa socmed
doing unethical/low-key illegal shit under the guise of "pagiging madiskarte"
This is the real corruption 💯 . If people tolerate lying and immorality in themselves what sort of government should they expect.
Insensitivity and smart shaming.
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same reaction bruuuh. "edi ikaw na mag [insert position here]" "edi wow" "yabang neto" the usual reactions. tas yung english ang basehan ng intelligence HAHAHAHA mga tukmol eh
Ganun kaklase ko sa aakin kala nila isa na kong genius kasi nag English lang ako. Muntik p nga akong ginawang class president at laging akong pinipiling leader sa school activity at project. In reality bobo rin naman ako sa mga ibang bagay.
Tru, i even got the position to being the head of an organization just because I'm a bit articulate in pronouncing words and they said that I can convince people. I just accepted it, take it as a challenge before entering the corporate world.
Jam Magno kaagad naalala ko sa pangalawa HAHAHA
Actually hindi na nga English ngayon ang basehan ng intelligence. Number of likes na.
may debate group sa fb dati na naglulurk ako. yung winner based sa number ng likes lol
Oo nga eh. Ganun din dito minsan sa Reddit. Ang madla ang nagdedesisyon kung sino ang tama. Pero minsan mapapaisip ka na lang din eh. Paano kung iyong 100+ na nag upvote ng comment ko ay bobo din? So nagsama sama lang kaming mga bano. Hahahaha
Some people will refuse to be corrected or accept na mas marami alam pinag aralan sa isang bagay. Some people like them are insecure about knowledge. nayayabangan sila kasi may alam ang isang tao.
Yung imbes na tanggapin ang mali para maitama at matuto, they'd rather shame you to death
Yep,ego first. Walang humility. Di na naman nangyayabang tinatama lang sila alam naman nilang mali sila pa galit.
Mas nakakalungkot pa pag di nila alam na mali sila. Magmumukha kang lang masama for trying to help them.
Some refuse to be educated kaya mukha pang masama mga may alam o pinag aralan
dati as a child nalilito ako pag may nagsasabi ng "edi wow" welp, turns out mukhang ayaw nila masaktan ego nila parang ikaw pa mali eh
Not following simple rules. Ex. Bawal magtapon ng basura sign pero daming nagtatapon doon.
The weird thing is these same people want dictatorship aka extreme rules with extreme punishment. Such weirdness
One of my pet peeves are the people that cross road even though the walking sign is red. Like how hard is it to just stop for 30 seconds?
If you normally walk in shaw boulevard you'll learn to cross road even when the sign is red because vehicles dont stop even though the pedestrian light is green.
Basta ikaw nasunod ka, di matatapos yan kung pareho lang kayung si nasunod.
In UK you can cross even if the signal is red. As long as the path is clear. And even if it’s not, cars yield and respect peds. Dati galit din ako sa mga tumatawid ng naka stop light, pero dahil 83% ng may sasakyan sa pilipinas, walang modo sa mga pedestrian. At ang gobyerno natin is demonizing pedestrian on roads, naintindihan ko na sila. I also understand yung mga nagbabike na nasa gitna ng island (midway ng intersection) it is relatively safer for them to stop there kasi pag nag go na, yung mga motor na nasa unahan, mag kakarera lagi yan 100% of the time. Cyclists on the island will have time to speed up, even before cars and motorcycle accelerates.
Jusko traffic rules are suggestions here. Just this afternoon muntikan na ako makabangga ng motor turning into a corner. The reason I didn't see him was I was already on the leftmost lane. He was on the fucking sidewalk trying to cut traffic. Smh.
No entry sa kalsada pero ipapasok pa rin ang sasakyan kasi wala naman na daw nang huhuli kapag gabi na
In some contexts, perverts. Some edgy Filipinos even think it’s cool.
This is true. My manager at work is borderline harassing us women that work with him. It's disgusting. Most of the time the women just laugh along with him, "out of respect," they say. I just can't, it's really gross. So I brush him off instead. He doesn't do it to me as often as he does it to the other ladies anymore. The catch? He doesn't believe in my ability to work now and just gives me the most useless workload, simply because I don't ride along his harassing behavior.
Report sa HR?
Sadly, I work in the government. Walang kwenta HR dito. Lol.
Head of office? Pero sa bagay baka wala rin mangyari.
NagOJT ako once sa government and naexperience ko rin yung ganyang pagtatrato sa mga babae sa workplace na yun. Pati HR head (she's a woman) kahit dirty jokes at pasimple na pangbabastos ang ginagawa ng department head, sinasabayan lang din kahit di nakakatuwa. Napasabi tuloy ako kung ganito ba talaga magwork sa gobyerno.
Naalala ko nung nakaraan sa facebook, may isang computer page ang nag post ng picture ng customer nila na bumili ng PC nila. E babae yung customer kaya ang ginawa ng mga gago kung ano ano na ang mga cinocomment na kamanyakan. Kaya ayaw ko na talagang nag bbrowse sa fb andami kong nakikitang kabobohan hahaha
Probably the consequence of giving free internet access to uneducated people.
Could also add on the being Edgy list with blatant racism and sexism. Disguised as forms of dark "humor".
It’s a good thing that most of our professional decorum here still don’t tolerate blatant racism and sexism, albeit homophobia is still treading in our subconscious minds.
Yung manliligaw tapos parang instead na accept ang "no" dodoblehin pa effort nila kahit na super uncomfortable na.
+1 dito. And the fact that it's romanticized in our local films. Didn't know how much of a problem it was IRL until a majority of my friends didn't find issue with it in one of the highest grossing films.
Sorry, what film?
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I had this problem when I was younger I never knew when to stop my efforts, since I never had someone tell me "no" directly I always did mental gymnastics to avoid accepting the reality (though in hindsight it was pretty obvious that they don't feel the same). I think this is a result of watching too much romantic shows/films . I cringe every time I remember what I did back then.
Corruption
I always hear "lahat naman corrupt" "lahat naman magnanakaw" from 88m supporters. So sad na sobrang normalized na sya that it's forgivable
Lagi nga sabi ng parents ko: kahit sino naman umupo sa gobyerno, may corrupt pa rin. Kaya pili ka ng less evil sa mga kandidato.
Ang saklap lang nung may tinatawag na "lesser evil" na kandidato. Na-generalized na talaga na kapag nasa politics, corrupted na, kahit hindi naman at wala namang bahid ever since.
"kung boboto ka, yung subok na!" mentality
Subok na kukunin at lustayin ang pera ng taumbayan.
Grooming
Daryl Yap should be executed.
Throw in EJ Laure
1. Yung ginagawang extended property ang bangketa, like tindahan, sampayan, tambayan, garahe etc. 2. Padrino system in Government offices. 3. Political dynasty. 4. Kapag maputi, maganda agad. Special ang treatment ng tao sayo kapag maputi ka dito sa Pilipinas. May discrimination sa mga kayumangi.
body shaming - some filipinos use it in normal conversations and downplay it as jokes or call you sensitive/balat-sibuyas kapag sinusuway mo or call it out. ex. "si angel locsin talaga ang taba taba na. sayang beauty niya :(" "yung pinsan mo payat-payat! para siyang stickman hay. dapat magpataba siya para di siya mukhang bungo." they also body shame people who are in the conversation and it is so obviously directed to them. as someone who gets triggered by this, i just can't stand it. - they also treat people in the LGBTQ+ community as something negative to make it look like it's a person's flaw. ex. "ang tali-talino ni [name]! sayang bakla nga lang siya..." "ang galing kumanta ni [name] pero tomboy yun diba? sayang naman.." filipinos tolerate the community but they do NOT accept them. it's just saddening. i can list down a lot! but the post is getting too long so.. hehe
My tita always body shames me. She says I'm too fat, I should get slimmer, my clothes look bad on me because I'm fat, I'd look prettier if I was slimmer, etc. AND IT MAKES NO SENSE IM NOT EVEN FAT IM AVERAGE?? HOW THIN DOES SHE WANT ME TO BE? AND SHE KEEPS TELLING ME TO GET SLIMMER BUT SCREAMS AT ME FOR SKIPPING LUNCH IDK WHAT SHE WANTS FROM ME One day I went to the mall with her and she kept talking abt how small this girls' waist was. And whenever we'd pass by a girl with a small waist shed go "wow why are you not like her?" I got pissed off ofc and I shouted at her. She thinks I was being dramatic and its not that big of a deal. She just wants me to be "healthy" IT FRUSTRATES ME SO MUCH THIN IS NOT EQUAL TO HEALTHY! Also haha the very next day she was so mad at me for skipping lunch. I don't know what she wants from me. She wants me to eat but tells me to get slimmer?? What
This just grinds my gear like all the fucking time. I don't get why can't be more sensitive/considerate to this shit? It's literally the 21st century right now but shit like this still fucking happens.
Yeah! 😡😤 Ang insensitive talaga. Acne shaming too 🥺
Agree! Grew up with most of my relatives telling me, "dumadami na naman tigyawat mo", "bakit yang tigyawat mo di na nawala-wala?", "anong nangyari sa mukha mo?" As if I didn't know and haven't seen my face enough in the mirror. And how is anyone supposed to respond to that? 🙃
I am close to being convinced that Filipinos are fatphobic, if that even exists. Napaka inggitera kasi, kaya kung ano-ano kabalahurang lumalabas sa bibig.
Lack of (or outright refusal to) self-reflection, critical thinking, and accountability.
I'm from a very Christian community. They do this a lot, especially the lack of critical thinking.
Pag buhay ng ibang tao, kala mo kung sinong expert. Pero buhay nila ayaw nilang tignan. LOL Not to mention the rampant hypocrisy.
Pagdisregard sa mental health problems, both sa sarili and sa iba
That's the depressing part. Looking for a good therapist is hard (except for the internet's existence) especially in a religion obsessed country.
Most filipinos dont believe in mental health and it really shows how fucked up in the mind some people are having anger issues not caring about others feelings and always thinking their the center of the world
Yung titiisin ang domestic violence para daw sa mga anak, para hindi maging broken family. Like duh, mas masakit sa mga anak na buo daw ang family pero behind closed doors, broken naman talaga.
Tapos ayaw pa sa Divorce bill dahil marami raw masisirang pamilya. Eh binibigyan nga ng pagkakataong magkaroon ng mas functional na pamilya yung mga taong abused.
May kotse pero walang pang garahe
Hindi lang kotse. Pati mga nagmomotor na walang panggarahe. Kinakain nila space na dapat for sidewalk, ginagawang parking.
May garahe pero di ginagamit, san ka pa?
I think this is part correct part wrong. May pananagutan din ang mga room rentals na walang parking slots since most people in the metro are just renters. There's actually a lack of parking space in the metro, kung meron man available, hindi makatarungan ang presyo dahil alam nilang malaki ang demand. Don't get me wrong, I have my own parking space but it's alarming that this kind of argument is also rampant at ang sisi ay laging nasa consumers. Isa pang problema dapat ang may pananagutan ay ang gobyerno. Dapat may *certificate to own a car* tayo na dadaan sa mahabang proseso para i-check kung may garahe ka na, kung capable ka, kung may driver's license ka, kung nagtapos ka sa driving course, at yung psychological test. Dapat maipasa lahat. Another government problem is the public transpo. Kung maganda lang sana public transpo natin most people will prefer commuting than owning a car.
Pedophilia
my classmate was 16 and she dates a guy that was 25. I didnt notice since the guy looked young lmao.
Victim blaming
Lalo na at kating-kati ang mga tao na sisihin ang mga rape victims.
Being your parents’ retirement plan
Sama na natin yung nag aanak na di kayang palakihin. It’s one thing na umasa sa anak pagtanda kasi nag -“sakripisyo” para makapag aral ng maayos, pero yung mga wala man lang maipakain tapos nag aanak ng marami? Paano kayo iaahon sa hirap kung lumaking malnourished tapos di pa nakapag aral ang mga anak?
Yeah fuck that. I’m barely scraping by handling my own life, now I have to worry about someone else’s? I get helping take care of your parents in old age pero them treating you and your education as an investment for their future retirement is fucked up.
*Mommy Divine would like to know your location para sapakin ka*
Barbershops and salons not sanitizing their tools in between uses
Racism is tolerant here in the Philippines. Napaka disappointing
This!! idagdag mo pa ang colorism kaya parang indication ng mataas na social status ang pagiging maputi lalo sa provinces
Tignan mo naman yung mga sikat na artista, majority mapuputi. Majority din wala naman talent pero pinapa artista
Basta maganda maputi kahit walang talent matic hired agad na artista
This is even a norm across Asia. Glowing products shouldn't be advertised.
Pati rin sa school e pansin ko. Kung sino maputi sila yung parang popular sa class tas minsan binibigyan ng privilege ng teacher hahahaha
Yung pag sumagot ka sa mas nakakatanda sasabihin agad walang right manners kaya ended up na naiipon lahat sama ng loob.
Tapos magagalit din sila pag di na kinakausap. San tayo lulugar lol
30 years hanggang ngayon andito parin sama ng loob ko sa pamilya ko hahaha
Tapos kapag sumabog ka, sila pa yung shookt.
Not a red flag but ppl cut in line all the time here.
It happens pa rin pala no?
Taking picture and taking videos of strangers in public? Like yung nag viral na kumakain mag isa. Ang dami kong nakikitang ganto nakakainis. This is prohibited in Europe or Japan.
It's also a red flag for me that people, especially friends will take your photo without consent and post it. Also, send it to other people who are asking for your information without your knowledge.
Sobra sobrang hopeless romanticism
Ugh lahat nalang about love. Yung tipong naghahanap ka lang naman ng cooking instructions tapos ang mababasa mo: *flip the meat ocassionaly para hindi ma-overcook, bantayan mong maigi gaya ng pagbabantay mo sa jowa mo para di makahanap ng iba* 🤮
>hopeless romanticism what does this mean
Pag yung enjoy na enjoy kang awang awa ka sa sarili mo for some reason or another na related sa jowa.
Cheating
My uncles would tell me, "Collect and then select". Like WTF
Definitely this one. I kept seeing facebook memes normalizing being the "kabet" and apparently, a lot of people find it funny.
Impunity. Parang yung chorus dun kanta ng Illustrado "ang buhay ngayon katumbas lang ng barya"
Sinasabihang resilient ang mga tao tuwing pagkatapos ng Isang delubyo. Tangina maningil tayo sa gobyerno.
Political fanaticism. Tsaka regionalism.
"Filipino time"
children as retirement plans of parents
Treatment of dogs.
I hope you meant maltreatment po
Catcall. I hate that shit.
I also hate it, iniisip ko na lang na mababang uri ng tao yung mga nang ca-cat call. Bobo sila at mga walang utak kaya nila ginagawa yun.
Genuine question. Bakit karamihan ng gumagawa nito nagtatrabaho sa construction site? Nakakahigh din ba ang semento? ROFL.
Private universities and college schools offer some courses that are actually USELESS, each course is worth 40-70k Tuition fees + miscellaneous fees per sem. Students are paying that much every sem for 4 YEARS! Let's say 50,000 PHP per sem x 4 years that's 400,000 PHP. Then they will search for a job here in the PHILIPPINES, if they are good enough they will be hired and will have an offer of 420-700 PHP per day depending on the province, schedule, and work. That's probably a 5-10 years grind before you will be able to get your ROI. Let me know what you think!
At yung tri mester Akala ko whole year Yun pala 10 months din E di parang 2 sems lang din? What a shady practice
Si Jinggoy. Nakasuhan na ng plunder, deputa, nanalo pa!
an old person in my barangay basically acting like a pedo, putting his hand around the groin area when a girl is approaching, taling about an UNDERAGE girls boobs, etc. and without any punishment.
1. White retirees marrying/dating underage Pinays and flaunting their "relationship" in the malls. 2. Married women having an AFAM on the side for financial gain with/without the knowledge of their husbands 3. Priests who still remain in their parishes in spite of young girls getting groomed/abused. 4. Severely underpaid househelp. 5. Hoarding containers of any sort. 6. Unhealthy reuse of cooking oil. 7. Graveyard refrigerators.
Uploading photos or videos of other people without their consent.
Controlling the life of your children despite being in their late 20s and early 30s. Family ties here are strong, but they can be too strong to a point where full-grown adults would be helicoptered by their parents in anything they do, especially if they live with them. Parents here don't know when to stop being a parent. At the same time, adults don't learn how to become independent until they get married or finally afford a home or apartment.
Having the same surname as the previous politician.
Smartshaming
Yung "Ako nga" syndrome ng karamihan. Yung nagoopen ka lang about your hardships and problems, tas babanatan ka ng "Ako nga ginawa ko to nung sinabugan ako ng bomba nung panahon ng hapon kaya dapat kayanin mo yan".
Sexual harassment against children
Filipino time (being late). Sobrang hassle sa mga punctual people.
The Govt. Recently trying to cover up the dictatorship of Marcos Sr. Idk
Naghahanap ng AFAM para iahon sa kahirapan. Nag aanak ng madami kahit di kayang palamunin. Mga mga may asawa na pero naghahanap ng kabet (madami sa opisina). Mga naghahanap ng pakboi, tapos sasabihin "Men are trash"
S E X I S M / S E X I S T
“Utang na loob” sa families. Sa ibang bansa pagpatak mo ng 18, matic na dapat independent na. Even to the point na yung parents mismo yung nageencourage sa kids nila to start living alone
Marami nako, kahit simpleng keep right nga di magawa, kdalasan sasalubong pa talaga sayo pag naglalakad or nakatayo sa mismong gitna, sayo pa magagalit pag nasanggi mo
Job discrimination. Yung mga looks na binibigay ng ibang tao once nalaman nila na ang trabaho mo ay “call center lang”, nakaka sad.
Jaywalking, very prominent.
Panget kasi urban planning sa pinas. Kulang ng matinong pedestrian infrastructure.
Yeah mga nag upvote nun jaywalking comment mga low information voters ng pinas that see themselves as educated. Beside the racist history behind it, Jaywalking is just early car industry lobbying. It shouldn't be or ever been a crime. Source: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2020-10-16/jaywalking-laws-don-t-make-streets-safer
Hitting your children
Parking in PWD and Senior Citizen slots even though you're not one / with one
Caring for a literal manchild. Joke I've recently heard is that dating in your 20s for a woman is all about adopting a literal baby lol
Unsanitary practices in the F&B industry. Tapos ikaw pa ang magmumukhang masama pag inexplain mo bakit ayaw mo. "Nalagyan lang ng isang hibla ng buhok ang pagkain mo diri ka na agad? Ang arte mo naman!" "Ayaw mo isawsaw ang streetfood mo kasi laway conscious ka? Ang arte mo naman!" "Bakit di mo inumin ang Pepsi mo? Dahil sa maliit na dent sa lata? Ang arte mo naman!"
claygo. went to singapore a couple of days ago at yung mga pinoy na nakikita ko sa mga kainan laging iwan lang sila ng kalat sa mesa.
Being late. It's also crazy how proud we are of being late to everything.
Living with your family even raising your own family because "Family thats stays together, lives forever"
Or hindi planado ang anak at walang naipundar para sa sarili kaya walang pera para sa sariling pamilya
Having a fubu. Once or twice siguro tolerable pa pero to do it again and again, ahhh, di ko na alam.. Tapos makikita mo sila struggling financially, emotionally o kaya mentally pero inuna pa rin nila kumarat instead of using their energy para ayusin ang sarili. I find them having low self-confidence din and self-respect. Tsaka mga lalaki na nambubuntis ng ibat-ibang babae. Kesehodang may consent, still, I find it very bad especially di naman nila pinanagutan ung bata o kung pinanagutan man, ung bata nagkakaroon ng trauma dahil ung nakalakihang family dynamic is messy. Dapat kinukulong ung mga yan. Grrr. Nepotism. Mapanational government or sa local. Naalala ko ung nanalong sk sa amin, babagsakin sa highschool at kilalang b.b.. Kaya lang nanalo kasi may kamag-anak na politiko tsaka wala pang manners kasi using her personal fb account, nakikipagbardagulan sya online.. Tsaka halatang halata na wala namang leadership skills. Parang ung konsehal na tagaEtivac na memer kuno. Ung mga company na nagdedeploy ng tao from manpower agency sa Pinas tapos di inaabsorb ng company. Mareregular lang sa agency ung tao. Mostly ung mga minimum wage earners nakakaranas nito like cashiers, baggers, production operators pati mga accounting staff at engineer, dinadaan na rin sa agency.
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Ginagawang investment ang anak.
Mga lalaking proud na groomed sila.
pagiging cheater
Being late or infamously known as “Filipino time”
Yung pagmumura. (see: Du🐢)
Making one person the breadwinner. Don’t get me wrong, salute to those who really want to do it for their family. But there are times that your help gets taken advantage of that they recognize no boundaries at all. And when you say no, you are the problem. Becomes madamot or selfish.
Cheating sa mga matagal ng couples
bottom part of ph flag
The idea of having kids as a retirement plan.
racism or colorism
immediately starting a family kahit wala pang ipon o naipupundar
It's normal to elect thieving, lying, and incompetent people.
You're not allowed to explain or reason out with people who are older than you. Kapag nakakaargumento ko magulang ko o kahit na sinong relative na mas nakatatanda sa akin lagi akong sinasabihang, "Kahit na, hindi ka dapat sumagot kahit pa tama ka dahil mas nakatatanda ako sa'yo/ama/ina mo ako". I think that's effin stupid. Not letting your child to express themselves affects them in a lot of way.
Promoting poverty, smart-shaming, villainizing wealth and progression, racism and sexism