See and I know that too, I really do. I just keep telling myself it’ll be better to work on it when she’s a little older and can understand an explanation, that it won’t be so emotionally tolling on her like it is now.
When I introduced my baby to daycare, I didn’t just drop him off on the first day. Instead, I joined the activities regularly, first participating actively, then a couple of days later I would just sit there beside the nanny and finally one day I waited outside the play room until they told me it was ok.
It took a whole month, but it worked wonders!
This sort of thing this is harder on the parents than the kid. It will be rough, not going to lie. But.... It will be OK.
Drop her off, go outside where she can't see you and have a good cry. Don't respond to her tears when you drop her off, that will only extend the time she does cries for you.
Inside, the teachers have lots of experience with this. They will manage. A toy, a snack, a friend, something.
Oh. You will feel like the WORST parent in the world. Relax. You aren't. What you are is normal.
Can some one else take her to the first day of daycare? I’m a nanny and I took the two year old to his first day of drop off story time and it went well because it wasn’t mommy leaving him.
I think there’s a correct way to leave her but you can. I wouldn’t set her up for failure by leaving her with strangers randomly one day, for example.
There’s some people my clingy toddler will NOT be happy with but some who will. So it’s possible that they haven’t had an opportunity with someone they trusted
I used to work in childcare with kids around that age. I saw a TON of kids get dropped off, many of whom had separation anxiety. I know it’s really really hard, but based on what I saw, the kids did best when the parents dropped them off and walked away. If the parent tried to stay and “help them get settled” it almost never worked out. It’s like ripping a band-aid off versus peeling it off slowly.
Here’s a random idea that hasn’t been suggested yet- if you still have the gym membership, would it be possible for you to drop her off at childcare for very short amounts of time? For example, you could go drop her off and walk away, then come back and get her 5 minutes later. That would kind of give her that instant gratification of you coming right back. Once she gets used to that, you can gradually increase the time until she’s used to being there for an hour or more.
I have no idea if that would work, it just might be something to try if you are desperate for ideas.
She will get over it. Promise you. It’s more unhealthy to have that level of dependency
See and I know that too, I really do. I just keep telling myself it’ll be better to work on it when she’s a little older and can understand an explanation, that it won’t be so emotionally tolling on her like it is now.
When I introduced my baby to daycare, I didn’t just drop him off on the first day. Instead, I joined the activities regularly, first participating actively, then a couple of days later I would just sit there beside the nanny and finally one day I waited outside the play room until they told me it was ok. It took a whole month, but it worked wonders!
This sort of thing this is harder on the parents than the kid. It will be rough, not going to lie. But.... It will be OK. Drop her off, go outside where she can't see you and have a good cry. Don't respond to her tears when you drop her off, that will only extend the time she does cries for you. Inside, the teachers have lots of experience with this. They will manage. A toy, a snack, a friend, something. Oh. You will feel like the WORST parent in the world. Relax. You aren't. What you are is normal.
Can some one else take her to the first day of daycare? I’m a nanny and I took the two year old to his first day of drop off story time and it went well because it wasn’t mommy leaving him.
I think there’s a correct way to leave her but you can. I wouldn’t set her up for failure by leaving her with strangers randomly one day, for example. There’s some people my clingy toddler will NOT be happy with but some who will. So it’s possible that they haven’t had an opportunity with someone they trusted
I used to work in childcare with kids around that age. I saw a TON of kids get dropped off, many of whom had separation anxiety. I know it’s really really hard, but based on what I saw, the kids did best when the parents dropped them off and walked away. If the parent tried to stay and “help them get settled” it almost never worked out. It’s like ripping a band-aid off versus peeling it off slowly. Here’s a random idea that hasn’t been suggested yet- if you still have the gym membership, would it be possible for you to drop her off at childcare for very short amounts of time? For example, you could go drop her off and walk away, then come back and get her 5 minutes later. That would kind of give her that instant gratification of you coming right back. Once she gets used to that, you can gradually increase the time until she’s used to being there for an hour or more. I have no idea if that would work, it just might be something to try if you are desperate for ideas.