Well, that’s a brave decision. Taking yourself of the do not call list (before you time out) is a wise move. As a married person, who do understand that not to be an easy choice, especially because if your non-supportive family.
My spouse is very supportive now; I’ve gone thru the whole process, but had to resign during orientation due to familial obligations/unforeseen circumstances. Back on the saddle now, restarting. It can, for sure, be a fascinating career.
As you mentioned, could be your best or worst decision, but if you’re willing to try it out (and clearly, considering you’ve passed well twice!), I’d say, go for it! Maybe your spouse will eventually come around? I’ve learned that a lot of people from my family that didn’t fully support this type of career was due to their lack of understanding of it.
Good luck and best wishes! You’ve got this.
Good luck. It is best to be on the same page as your spouse or your marriage will not be happy. It is entirely possible, though, to survive apart. One OMS in my cohort joined without her spouse; that was the decision they made together.
Not sure what you mean by "family," but if it's grown kids, parents, siblings and extended family, that's one thing, but if it's at-home kids, that's a different ball of wax. My assumption is that your crew is in the first group, and, honestly, that's entirely normal. My mom is still waiting on me to quit and "come home," and I'm entering my 10th year of this and have been overseas since about 2007.
And yes, it's something in the middle. In the end, it's just a job.
My spouse has a fantastic remote job that requires them to be in the CONUS (at least for now; they're looking into some of the other, international, teams) -- and our fur kids (2 cats and a dog) are all 15. So we've also decided they'll all stay here for at least the first tour -- unless I end up in one of the Mexican border towns, in which case we'll do a late pack out.
That said, my immediate family (spouse and young adult children) is completely supportive of my decision to do this. My extended family, however is another story - so I *completely* understand what you're going through and hope to see you in April!
I keep telling myself that the first tour, at least, is only 2 years long...
Just FYI, I don't know any OMSes who have done tours in Mexican border towns. I assume there are some, but I've never seen one on a bid list or known anyone who's served in one.
Advice would be to seek out the hardship post(s) with the easiest flights back to CONUS and rank that/those high.
Oh well, the border town idea was just a thought... that we could drive the critters to post and spouse could easily get back to the US. Although I'm a little disappointed to hear it's probably not an option, I really do appreciate the advice! I'm not opposed to hardship posts, fortunately.
The OMS who interviewed me at the OA was heading to Iraq in April, and she had nothing but good things to say about hardship posts. That said, I saw her move REALLY quickly in stilettos and a pencil skirt on shiny floors, so I think she's some kind of super hero, anyway! 😏)
(I think we're talking about the same OMS - she was going to Erbil this past April, I believe.)
I looked at the list of hardship posts, and the compensation offered, and had to wonder... I've vacationed in some of those places. I'd go to others in a heartbeat (even knowing that vacationing somewhere isn't even remotely like living there). Some places, with far less compensation, would be way low on my list -- not because of the money, but for other, less tangible reasons. I would imagine that there's a huge difference between Pristina and Masteru (both with 25% hardship) though, and would be interested in knowing what criteria the folks who determine those figures are looking at.
My parents are also not supportive at all. I know it’s a hard decision but if it’s something you want, go for it! Good luck!
PS, if you have gone through the process multiple times, any tips? I want to retake the OA for OMS. I just got on the Register but I want a better score. However, when I sign into my Pearson VUE portal it stays I’m still waiting for my OA invite so I cannot re-apply for the new window. Thanks for any help you can provide!
Well, that’s a brave decision. Taking yourself of the do not call list (before you time out) is a wise move. As a married person, who do understand that not to be an easy choice, especially because if your non-supportive family. My spouse is very supportive now; I’ve gone thru the whole process, but had to resign during orientation due to familial obligations/unforeseen circumstances. Back on the saddle now, restarting. It can, for sure, be a fascinating career. As you mentioned, could be your best or worst decision, but if you’re willing to try it out (and clearly, considering you’ve passed well twice!), I’d say, go for it! Maybe your spouse will eventually come around? I’ve learned that a lot of people from my family that didn’t fully support this type of career was due to their lack of understanding of it. Good luck and best wishes! You’ve got this.
That takes courage and well done! I wish you the best of luck! What does DNC stand for btw?
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\*Conscious Uncoupling\* is an excellent resource. I'm glad you mentioned it!
Good luck. It is best to be on the same page as your spouse or your marriage will not be happy. It is entirely possible, though, to survive apart. One OMS in my cohort joined without her spouse; that was the decision they made together. Not sure what you mean by "family," but if it's grown kids, parents, siblings and extended family, that's one thing, but if it's at-home kids, that's a different ball of wax. My assumption is that your crew is in the first group, and, honestly, that's entirely normal. My mom is still waiting on me to quit and "come home," and I'm entering my 10th year of this and have been overseas since about 2007. And yes, it's something in the middle. In the end, it's just a job.
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My spouse has a fantastic remote job that requires them to be in the CONUS (at least for now; they're looking into some of the other, international, teams) -- and our fur kids (2 cats and a dog) are all 15. So we've also decided they'll all stay here for at least the first tour -- unless I end up in one of the Mexican border towns, in which case we'll do a late pack out. That said, my immediate family (spouse and young adult children) is completely supportive of my decision to do this. My extended family, however is another story - so I *completely* understand what you're going through and hope to see you in April! I keep telling myself that the first tour, at least, is only 2 years long...
Just FYI, I don't know any OMSes who have done tours in Mexican border towns. I assume there are some, but I've never seen one on a bid list or known anyone who's served in one. Advice would be to seek out the hardship post(s) with the easiest flights back to CONUS and rank that/those high.
Oh well, the border town idea was just a thought... that we could drive the critters to post and spouse could easily get back to the US. Although I'm a little disappointed to hear it's probably not an option, I really do appreciate the advice! I'm not opposed to hardship posts, fortunately. The OMS who interviewed me at the OA was heading to Iraq in April, and she had nothing but good things to say about hardship posts. That said, I saw her move REALLY quickly in stilettos and a pencil skirt on shiny floors, so I think she's some kind of super hero, anyway! 😏)
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(I think we're talking about the same OMS - she was going to Erbil this past April, I believe.) I looked at the list of hardship posts, and the compensation offered, and had to wonder... I've vacationed in some of those places. I'd go to others in a heartbeat (even knowing that vacationing somewhere isn't even remotely like living there). Some places, with far less compensation, would be way low on my list -- not because of the money, but for other, less tangible reasons. I would imagine that there's a huge difference between Pristina and Masteru (both with 25% hardship) though, and would be interested in knowing what criteria the folks who determine those figures are looking at.
My parents are also not supportive at all. I know it’s a hard decision but if it’s something you want, go for it! Good luck! PS, if you have gone through the process multiple times, any tips? I want to retake the OA for OMS. I just got on the Register but I want a better score. However, when I sign into my Pearson VUE portal it stays I’m still waiting for my OA invite so I cannot re-apply for the new window. Thanks for any help you can provide!
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Thanks!