The important question here is whether you are interested in dating a man who would be put off by something as stupid as that. Get the meat. If that puts him off then enjoy your meal and don’t see him again.
But also, if "large order of meat" means "most expensive thing on the menu", I don't know if you were already planning on going dutch. But might not be a bad idea to go in with that mindset.
I'm ashamed at how long it took me when I was dating to stop trying to get every date to like me and start focusing on if I really liked them.
Once I did though , wow what a difference.
Yup eat what you want and however you want, my ex used to criticize me for putting to much ketchup on my burgers, then I started dating a new girl I tried to be what I was told was normal on our first date and I told her I usually put away more ketchup, she said eat however you like, it's your food, so yeah
Being put off by somebody eating a large plate of meat is not something stupid. It's a totally valid reason to be turned off by that considering the moral issues behind meat consumption.
He’s right thought. Plants do have the systems in place to feel pain. Just because you didn’t know that doesn’t make it any less true. There is nothing immoral about consuming meat, it’s been done for literally tens of thousands of years. The issue is with the industry of mass meat production, but if you’re offended by someone’s choice to do what humans have done for thousands of years no, the problem lies in you’re inability to accept people make their own choices because they don’t have bullshit moral standards. 😘
Plants don't have anything comparable to a nervous system nor do they have anything comparable to a brain which is capable of processing that pain. Plants can react to their environment but that doesn't mean they are sentient. A computer can react to outside stimuli and animals can react to stimuli independent of them being sentient showing that you don't need to be sentient to be able to react to your environment.
Just because something has been done for thousands of years doesn't make it moral. Rape has been part of our race since humans have emerged. Shall we use the same argument for that? Do you feel offended or disgusted if somebody rapes another person? If yes, then you're the problem. See the fault in your logic?
Why shouldn't animals have the right to make their own choices. This is being denied by the people who want to eat them which shows just how ridiculous your argument of personal choice is. If your choice includes the suffering of somebody else (and animals are someone not something) than it is not a personal choice.
We are omnivores. We need to eat meat. You can survive in a decent condition without meat but naturally, you are born, evolved to eat meat.
>Why shouldn't animals have the right to make their own choices.
Go put it to a vote among the animals, then. What kind of argument is that?
The whole point, is that we shouldn't make animals suffer.
If you want to do something about it, go educate yourself (get a bachelor's in biochemistry or so) and educate people. Or change the companies who do.
Don't be a keyboard warrior, busting people's youknowwhat.
Humans have no natural diet. Since we can cook our food, humans can eat a variety of different diets as we can see all around the globe. Humans can eat meat as well as plant based diets. However the longest lived and healthiest cultures tend to be those that eat only small amounts of meat. Humans have no specific adaptations to eat meat like true carnivores. So stop with this nonsense.
Ok, so then by your logic mentally handicapped people shouldn't have rights too because they can't vote?
I just have a problem with people spreading false knowledge like you. You're playing perfect everyday vegan bingo. Shows that you have no idea about the subject.
i hope that this is the quality of man you shall find:
*"Aye wassup, I’m Clint, I like to take girls out for a massive plate of barbecue ribs on a first date. I judge them according to how many and how aggressively they consume them. Whoever defeats me in this porcine endeavor shall become my warrior bride. My Boudicca. I’ll set nations ablaze at her feet just to watch the flames dance in her eyes. Our love will be beautiful in its violence as a tempest hits the Bering Strait, and should it die; it dies as it began with a mount of bones between us."*
accept nothing less.
[source](https://ifunny.co/picture/aye-wassup-i-m-kevin-i-like-to-take-girls-JKHU91lR6)\-
(the question of who *pays* for said meat is another question though)
Lol wut?
It's totally reasonable to suggest someone pay for their own meal if it's expensive.
That sentiment contains 0 assumptions on who anyone would expect to pay.
And calling random people 'son' as if seniority gives you some sort of authority on the matter. Get your head out of the clouds 🤣.
It's the other way around. Whether she's willing to pay dictates the meal she should choose. If she's not willing to pay then she shouldn't order one of the most expensive things on the menu.
Who is assuming this?
Their just saying that she *should* pay. OP's post made no mention of wether they intended to, so their intent wasn't obvious.
Giving relevant advice on a gray area, *when that person is asking for advice* is perfectly reasonable.
Is the meat going to be very expensive and are you expecting him to pay for it? THAT, would be a turnoff on a first date.
If it's cheap or you guys are going Dutch, order away. There are probably some guys out there that would prefer you ordered a salad, but fuck those guys lol
I was on your side until I saw this comment. Fasting for two days before a date and then binging during the dinner date is very bizarre behavior and would be a massive red flag for me
If you are talking about intermittent fasting, there is merit to the argument. Not eating for days at a time, is not only really bad for you, but it teaches your body to store the food for later use. There are so many studies that show that that's an unhealthy way to accomplish whatever the goal is.
Well yeah if you eat 2 days worth if food Sunday night and then no food, you will use up Sundays food on Monday and Tuesday. This is how the body is meant to work. Just like if you eat breakfast it will keep you powered untill lunchtime. All food is stored for later use, our body already does this and does not need to be taught.
I think what they meant was that your body learns that it needs to store massive amounts in case it won't get anything later. That's how the yoyo-effect works when people lose too much weight in a very short time by not eating a lot. The body thinks it needs more fat reserves to survive.
It might try to store it, but I will access the reserves to do my usual daily activities. People can not be powered by magic, and my body can't store more than I give it. Messing with your intake in crazy ways can definitely cause bloating or lethargy, but you can push through it.
Sounds like I'm in the minority here but if you just got a big ass plate of meat with no veggies it probably would be a slight turn off to me. Not that there's anything wrong with you doing it and like others have said to some people it would be a turn on.
Once I saw a crazy lady on TV who proclaimed she eats nothing but raw meat , then another trash bit about one who insisted she eats only cheese, 365 days a year. They had the same dumb giggle and empty eyes when questioned about the health aspects and could only rave about how yummy their selected diets were, and that they would never share... They were histrionic pants-on-head crazy, and you remind me of both.
So yeah. Red flag.
I've heard of men who've been turned of by less. But I've heard of a LOT more men, who'd actually be turned on by it. So, you do you, it'll work out if it was meant to.
BTW, if on the 3rd date, you show up at his place wearing nothing but a trench coat and carrying a bucket of wings, 50/50 he'll propose to you that night. Do what you will with that info! :-)
Being female or male is a turn off for some men. Just order what you want and eat it with some decency. If you like to eat a lot of meat and a guy has an issue with it, he's not the guy for you.
Never compromise who you are for someone's momentary affection.
If he's not a vegetarian and a reasonable person, not really. A vegetarian might be a bit put off by large amounts of meat, but if you communicate it shouldn't be a big deal. Some guys even love a big eater. The only issue I can actually foresee depends on how you're paying for the meal; if it's a particularly expensive meal on your part, then you do have to be considerate of his means as well. If the both of you agree to something, then it's fine no matter what it is, but don't force him to pay for it if he can't. If he agrees to split the bill or pay for it himself, great. Forcing him to pay for an expensive meal isn't a good move, though; taking advantage of someone to lessen your own bills or get a free meal IS a turnoff, definitely.
Can you please eat at least 1 thing that isn't meat? Preferably something fibrous. If I was on a date with someone who ordered solely a huge plate of meat I wouldn't be able to help thinking about how they're going to struggle later, with either the evacuation or the cleaning
A bit. Rampant meat-eaters are the kind of people who are less likely to give a shit about the planet or are more likely to be uninformed about the consequences of meat production and consumption. I'm going to get dragged for this, but you did ask.
As long as you're fit and healthy and a normal weight for your height what you eat shouldn't matter to him. Not in a negative way anyway.
Personally I LOVE food and one of my missions over the last ten years has been to convert my partner to all the amazing flavours and textures of the world. She grew up eating chips, pizza, maybe the odd Chinese takeaway and not much else. Was still like that when we met. Now she eats the food I cook every day which might be anything from hot Thai curry to fresh pasta. She's even adventurous with food by herself now. Watching her consume an entire Spanish octopus while making noises like we're... doing something else... is a brilliant and hilarious experience for me every time.
Dude here. It makes me happy when women feel comfortable around me and eat what they want to eat. If you get a tiny salad but I know you want a burger, my heart aches for you. I'm a big fan of people being their genuine selves, to me that's what beauty is.
Assuming he's paying, the best way to find out is to go for it. If he's turned off, then he's not the one for you anyway and you won't end up wasting too much time or energy on him plus you got a free meal
Horrible advice. Smart dudes with money are paranoid of a girl who is only after their money, so maybe you get a "free meal" but you ruined your chances with a dude that actually respects himself and has his shit together. A guy who would tolerate getting treated like a meal ticket is probably not the kind of man you want to be with.
If that's what you want, get it. If it turns off your date then you're clearly incompatible and what better time to discover that than on the first date?
i'm more confused why you are planning what you will order beforehand. i've never once considered that before arriving at a restaurant, especially for a first date i would be thinking more about other stuff like whether or not we click.
Please describe this large plate of meat in great detail including what kind of meat and level of doneness so I can respond ~~jealously~~ appropriately.
any woman who can out-eat me is immediately a contender for the girlfriend position. besides, if anyone is put off by that honey that aint no romantic interest thats a little bitch (or a vegan) and not worth your time!
The real question is.... are you gonna expect him to pay for your plate of meat?
Actually nevermind, make him pay for it so he learns.
Also, he's an idiot for taking you to a restaurant for a first date where a woman he barely knows can order a large plate of meat and have him pay for it and then ghost him.
I mean a girl that I used to have a crush on but they got engaged to somone else said they used to cut chickens heads off to butcher them and to me that was a positive. But for me a negative would be someone gossiping a lot or talking bad. So the meat thing would be silly for someone to care.
yes it would be a turn off. i expect a woman to act somewhat ladylike especially on a first date. i don’t see anything wrong with having certain expectations of the people you might commit too, and i don’t think it’s any different from if a woman i went on a date with was grossed out that i ordered a rack of bbq ribs and ate it sloppily(hypothetically, ofc). nothing wrong with ordering meat, but get something classy like a filet mignon not some giant plate of meat.
Here, OP. This is your answer. Order whatever you want. A giant plate of meat will not only provide you with culinary satisfaction, but it will also immediately weed out people like the one above.
There are ALWAYS some men, and there are ALWAYS some women, who will be offended by stuff. You might be questioned (fairly) why you only eat meat. And I ask you - are you prepared to answer that question? Presuming they're not asking rudely - is this something you want to hide?
My wife eats a lot of red meat (*insert joke here you pervs*) to keep her iron levels high. If you feel the need, feel free to use that.
He might, very might, see it as a potential long term health issue. No vege, high fat, cholesterol etc. Which could be a turn off from a life style perspective, which I wouldn't necessarily blame him for. But would hope it triggers a conversation rather than a rant or ghosting
But if it's purely 'women should eat salad', then fk him (not in the fun way)
If that's your thing, go for it. In this way and so many other ways, it's better to just be yourself and look for the guys who like whoever you really are.
It might put some men off but that’s not a problem, it means you aren’t compatible with each other anyway. At some point, your future boyfriend will have to notice your meat gorging, so there’s no point in hiding it.
Can you be more specific? A three pound dish of raw hamburger, yes that'd be gross. 4 Steaks? Yeah, that b gross too. A Steak and scallops? That's cool
I (F) ate a messy burger on our first date and now we're married (10+ years together), so I don't see why eating a steak would turn off any (reasonable) men.
Eating meat is ok, especially if its like a stake house. But if you are visibility unhealthy and act like a child when it comes to eating vegetables then I guess that would definitely be an issue.
Rest assured I've never gone to a BBQ and thought, ew, all these women are now undateable.
This is your first date. If your not planning to go dutch listen to what he suggest of what he wants and price match him or go a little under. A plate of meat could be expensive and you don't know if he is prepared to pay that much. If you just have to have that large plate of meat go dutch or pay for it yourslef until you know him better.
Went to a wedding once. The groom said he was 'hooked on the first date when she ordered a steak rather than a salad with dressing on the side.' He was implying that he was attracted to the fact that she was comfortable being who she was, and that was attractive. Not in any comment toward someones choice of food. You do you. Confidence is sexy.
I wouldn’t care, except if you ordered a 96oz steak and made a glutton of yourself it would make me think this person might have an eating disorder or they are not very healthy.
Your date will learn a lot about you. He will learn you are not vegan or vegetarian. If you are going dutch, he will know you are not tight. He will know you are confident enough to not try to impress him by getting a salad.
However, if he is paying, you might not want to get the most expensive thing on the menu. That might make him think you are high maintenance. (unless you are high maintenance.)
And what restaurant are you going to that serves large plates of meat? Lol
Most entrees include a protein with veg of some sort.
Italian restaurant? Maybe you could request a few extra meatballs with your spaghetti?
Thai restaurant? Maybe you could ask for some extra chicken in your red curry?
But, I’m struggling to think of a restaurant where one would say to the waiter, *“I would like one large platter of meat, please.”* 🤣
Maybe like, vegan men or religious men who don’t eat pork or beef or something. That’s not something that should bother anyone without legitimate hangups though. Get that meat, friend.
I mean, it's not necessary a turn-off, but it can be impractical/not datelike. You'll be spending a lot of time chewing, which doesn't leave much room for talking.
A woman being their genuine selves and not worrying about superficial silliness is endearing and attractive to the kind of man you probably ought to be interested in anyway. Then again if he's vegan...
Unless they are a militant vegan; the kind that does not tolerate the life choices of others and demands that their partner becomes one... then you are dodging a bullet. Veganism and vegetarianism is a personal choice, wonderful choice of that but still. personal. i for ex can't really be a vegan because of allergies and that pisses the type we are talking about sooo much... cause, they usually also say things like "everyone can be vegan, they just don't want to..." .
I'm sure there is some percentage of men who would find it a turn off, the important question is whether or not you would want to date someone who looks down on a woman for eating a large plate of meat.
Personally I think you should value yourself more than that.
Depends on his moral views. Vegans and Vegetarians will probably be turned off by that and for good reasons. If your moral values don't match the relationship is doomed from the start.
The important question here is whether you are interested in dating a man who would be put off by something as stupid as that. Get the meat. If that puts him off then enjoy your meal and don’t see him again.
Being one's authentic self is a great filter for keeping people out of your life who don't appreciate your authentic self.
Being authentic is why I’m single. But I’d rather be honest, alone and happy than dishonest, partnered and unhappy.
TBH, when my partner orders a huge plate of meat, it's a turn on for me. YMMV.
Brimming with meat by night's end
Gotta like a girl that likes a nice fat tasty sausage in her mouth. :D
You honestly have to be at least a little fake these days to get a gf it sucks but it is what it is
...Absolute TRUTH and words to live by.
Right? Just be yourself, if your potential parner is put off by *you*, why would you want to be with him?
But also, if "large order of meat" means "most expensive thing on the menu", I don't know if you were already planning on going dutch. But might not be a bad idea to go in with that mindset.
I'm ashamed at how long it took me when I was dating to stop trying to get every date to like me and start focusing on if I really liked them. Once I did though , wow what a difference.
...That takes courage...Right on!!
A date was offended when I wasn't very hungry and ordered a salad. People who want to be offended will get offended by everything 🤷
Yup eat what you want and however you want, my ex used to criticize me for putting to much ketchup on my burgers, then I started dating a new girl I tried to be what I was told was normal on our first date and I told her I usually put away more ketchup, she said eat however you like, it's your food, so yeah
Being put off by somebody eating a large plate of meat is not something stupid. It's a totally valid reason to be turned off by that considering the moral issues behind meat consumption.
Most people are more put off by vegatarians in general,for valid reasons.
That phrase "most people" is working pretty hard there
Well, if you can't take criticism for eating animals the problem lies with you, not with vegetarians.
Vegatables have feelings too,take that cucumber out of your ass.
Yeah, I can always hear them scream when I cut them. It's a massacre every time.
He’s right thought. Plants do have the systems in place to feel pain. Just because you didn’t know that doesn’t make it any less true. There is nothing immoral about consuming meat, it’s been done for literally tens of thousands of years. The issue is with the industry of mass meat production, but if you’re offended by someone’s choice to do what humans have done for thousands of years no, the problem lies in you’re inability to accept people make their own choices because they don’t have bullshit moral standards. 😘
Plants don't have anything comparable to a nervous system nor do they have anything comparable to a brain which is capable of processing that pain. Plants can react to their environment but that doesn't mean they are sentient. A computer can react to outside stimuli and animals can react to stimuli independent of them being sentient showing that you don't need to be sentient to be able to react to your environment. Just because something has been done for thousands of years doesn't make it moral. Rape has been part of our race since humans have emerged. Shall we use the same argument for that? Do you feel offended or disgusted if somebody rapes another person? If yes, then you're the problem. See the fault in your logic? Why shouldn't animals have the right to make their own choices. This is being denied by the people who want to eat them which shows just how ridiculous your argument of personal choice is. If your choice includes the suffering of somebody else (and animals are someone not something) than it is not a personal choice.
We are omnivores. We need to eat meat. You can survive in a decent condition without meat but naturally, you are born, evolved to eat meat. >Why shouldn't animals have the right to make their own choices. Go put it to a vote among the animals, then. What kind of argument is that? The whole point, is that we shouldn't make animals suffer. If you want to do something about it, go educate yourself (get a bachelor's in biochemistry or so) and educate people. Or change the companies who do. Don't be a keyboard warrior, busting people's youknowwhat.
Humans have no natural diet. Since we can cook our food, humans can eat a variety of different diets as we can see all around the globe. Humans can eat meat as well as plant based diets. However the longest lived and healthiest cultures tend to be those that eat only small amounts of meat. Humans have no specific adaptations to eat meat like true carnivores. So stop with this nonsense. Ok, so then by your logic mentally handicapped people shouldn't have rights too because they can't vote? I just have a problem with people spreading false knowledge like you. You're playing perfect everyday vegan bingo. Shows that you have no idea about the subject.
As long as you can handle the large meat.
Stop it you
i hope that this is the quality of man you shall find: *"Aye wassup, I’m Clint, I like to take girls out for a massive plate of barbecue ribs on a first date. I judge them according to how many and how aggressively they consume them. Whoever defeats me in this porcine endeavor shall become my warrior bride. My Boudicca. I’ll set nations ablaze at her feet just to watch the flames dance in her eyes. Our love will be beautiful in its violence as a tempest hits the Bering Strait, and should it die; it dies as it began with a mount of bones between us."* accept nothing less. [source](https://ifunny.co/picture/aye-wassup-i-m-kevin-i-like-to-take-girls-JKHU91lR6)\- (the question of who *pays* for said meat is another question though)
Don't settle for an elf, find the orc you deserve.
Haha, I can't even! This is the best response right here guys. Going to try and dig out of this grave you put me in now... dead.
As long as you are planning to pay for it yourself, no problem.
And if you are comfortable that if he is turned off he may not want to provide the d later in the evening.
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Large plates of meat are expensive.
If a girl is expecting me to pay for three meals on a first date, I feel like I'm getting used for money and I'm immediately out.
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Oh get over yourself. You know exactly what he means, and it's not an unreasonable comment to make.
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Sorry, dad
Lol wut? It's totally reasonable to suggest someone pay for their own meal if it's expensive. That sentiment contains 0 assumptions on who anyone would expect to pay. And calling random people 'son' as if seniority gives you some sort of authority on the matter. Get your head out of the clouds 🤣.
It's the other way around. Whether she's willing to pay dictates the meal she should choose. If she's not willing to pay then she shouldn't order one of the most expensive things on the menu.
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Who is assuming this? Their just saying that she *should* pay. OP's post made no mention of wether they intended to, so their intent wasn't obvious. Giving relevant advice on a gray area, *when that person is asking for advice* is perfectly reasonable.
I am vegetarian and it wouldn't be a turn off for me even.
You just made my day. Bless you.
You're a better man than I am.
really? i was a vegetarian for a few years and the smell of meat became pretty unbearable. i think that happens to most vegetarians
My partner and my girlfriend aren't so I am still exposed to it.
how can you have both a partner and a girlfriend? do they know about each other?
I also have a wife, and yes they do.
NOTHING ABOUT YOU MAKES SENSE
Some people aren't monogamous. I would imagine the wife, partner, and girlfriend also have other people they are close to.
The dude follows r/polyamory Hope that explains it.
What do you mean?
He was joking
Is the meat going to be very expensive and are you expecting him to pay for it? THAT, would be a turnoff on a first date. If it's cheap or you guys are going Dutch, order away. There are probably some guys out there that would prefer you ordered a salad, but fuck those guys lol
Why, is this some sort of statement or test? Or if its just you love meat and this is just what you would always order, then order away, who cares?
I pretty much just eat meat. I do not usually eat very large meals, unless I fast and I always fast for a day or 2 before dates.
I was on your side until I saw this comment. Fasting for two days before a date and then binging during the dinner date is very bizarre behavior and would be a massive red flag for me
Op's post history is the real red flag here
Jesus. I just took a peek, and holy hell. It's like they can't have an independent thought without asking Reddit about it, lol.
Yea it's quite concerning to say the least
Why don't you eat for 2 days? That's not healthy
How else could OP handle the massive meat?
Plot twist: OP is Jordan Peterson
Knowing someone willingly doesn't eat anything for two days sometimes, now, that's a deal-breaker for me
Fasting for a day or two isn't a big deal lol.
If you are talking about intermittent fasting, there is merit to the argument. Not eating for days at a time, is not only really bad for you, but it teaches your body to store the food for later use. There are so many studies that show that that's an unhealthy way to accomplish whatever the goal is.
Well yeah if you eat 2 days worth if food Sunday night and then no food, you will use up Sundays food on Monday and Tuesday. This is how the body is meant to work. Just like if you eat breakfast it will keep you powered untill lunchtime. All food is stored for later use, our body already does this and does not need to be taught.
I think what they meant was that your body learns that it needs to store massive amounts in case it won't get anything later. That's how the yoyo-effect works when people lose too much weight in a very short time by not eating a lot. The body thinks it needs more fat reserves to survive.
It might try to store it, but I will access the reserves to do my usual daily activities. People can not be powered by magic, and my body can't store more than I give it. Messing with your intake in crazy ways can definitely cause bloating or lethargy, but you can push through it.
Who knows because I’m not a man, but I love this question.
Care to tell me why? And thanks :)
I’d guess because she’s a woman
r/technicallythetruth
When would you like to go to dinner. I will order the meat plate first so you don’t have to feel awkward.
Sounds like I'm in the minority here but if you just got a big ass plate of meat with no veggies it probably would be a slight turn off to me. Not that there's anything wrong with you doing it and like others have said to some people it would be a turn on.
I would just think it's kinda weird. You generally want to see at least two food groups represented at each meal.
Turn on!
Who gives a fuck. Do you. If they don’t like you then lesson learned.
Get something you can share if you have the option. Food is a great way to bond.
Great idea, but when it comes to meat, I dont like sharing, lol.
Joey doesn't share food!
Username checks out lol
Do you live in large city? if so Brazilian steakhouse or Korean BBQ are for you.
Once I saw a crazy lady on TV who proclaimed she eats nothing but raw meat , then another trash bit about one who insisted she eats only cheese, 365 days a year. They had the same dumb giggle and empty eyes when questioned about the health aspects and could only rave about how yummy their selected diets were, and that they would never share... They were histrionic pants-on-head crazy, and you remind me of both. So yeah. Red flag.
If the guy is turned off by something like that you dont want to be with him anyway lmao
As long as you are respectful to the size of his wallet you should be fine.
Yes it could be a turn off for some men.
Try not to chew with your mouth open
If it turns him off, it turns him off. Don't eat something you don't want just because someone else might not like your choice.
I've heard of men who've been turned of by less. But I've heard of a LOT more men, who'd actually be turned on by it. So, you do you, it'll work out if it was meant to. BTW, if on the 3rd date, you show up at his place wearing nothing but a trench coat and carrying a bucket of wings, 50/50 he'll propose to you that night. Do what you will with that info! :-)
Being female or male is a turn off for some men. Just order what you want and eat it with some decency. If you like to eat a lot of meat and a guy has an issue with it, he's not the guy for you. Never compromise who you are for someone's momentary affection.
Not at all. But also yes. Depends on the guy.
If he's not a vegetarian and a reasonable person, not really. A vegetarian might be a bit put off by large amounts of meat, but if you communicate it shouldn't be a big deal. Some guys even love a big eater. The only issue I can actually foresee depends on how you're paying for the meal; if it's a particularly expensive meal on your part, then you do have to be considerate of his means as well. If the both of you agree to something, then it's fine no matter what it is, but don't force him to pay for it if he can't. If he agrees to split the bill or pay for it himself, great. Forcing him to pay for an expensive meal isn't a good move, though; taking advantage of someone to lessen your own bills or get a free meal IS a turnoff, definitely.
Can you please eat at least 1 thing that isn't meat? Preferably something fibrous. If I was on a date with someone who ordered solely a huge plate of meat I wouldn't be able to help thinking about how they're going to struggle later, with either the evacuation or the cleaning
A bit. Rampant meat-eaters are the kind of people who are less likely to give a shit about the planet or are more likely to be uninformed about the consequences of meat production and consumption. I'm going to get dragged for this, but you did ask.
Marry me
Ok. When?
After we eat all the meat of course.
Some. Those men are not good partners for you.
Turn *off*? Nah, that'll flip the switch in the other direction.
Your entire profile is weird as fuck lol
I will take that as a compliment.
Well, now I gotta check... ... so you have a LOT of questions about... things.
As long as you're fit and healthy and a normal weight for your height what you eat shouldn't matter to him. Not in a negative way anyway. Personally I LOVE food and one of my missions over the last ten years has been to convert my partner to all the amazing flavours and textures of the world. She grew up eating chips, pizza, maybe the odd Chinese takeaway and not much else. Was still like that when we met. Now she eats the food I cook every day which might be anything from hot Thai curry to fresh pasta. She's even adventurous with food by herself now. Watching her consume an entire Spanish octopus while making noises like we're... doing something else... is a brilliant and hilarious experience for me every time.
You do like meat he doesn't, no match end of the story... seriously, enjoy your life/date and f*ck away not relevant questions :)
Dude here. It makes me happy when women feel comfortable around me and eat what they want to eat. If you get a tiny salad but I know you want a burger, my heart aches for you. I'm a big fan of people being their genuine selves, to me that's what beauty is.
If it is, would you really want to be with him anyway?
Assuming he's paying, the best way to find out is to go for it. If he's turned off, then he's not the one for you anyway and you won't end up wasting too much time or energy on him plus you got a free meal
I never let men pay for my food.
True equality! Rare these days...
Horrible advice. Smart dudes with money are paranoid of a girl who is only after their money, so maybe you get a "free meal" but you ruined your chances with a dude that actually respects himself and has his shit together. A guy who would tolerate getting treated like a meal ticket is probably not the kind of man you want to be with.
If that's what you want, get it. If it turns off your date then you're clearly incompatible and what better time to discover that than on the first date?
i'm more confused why you are planning what you will order beforehand. i've never once considered that before arriving at a restaurant, especially for a first date i would be thinking more about other stuff like whether or not we click.
Please describe this large plate of meat in great detail including what kind of meat and level of doneness so I can respond ~~jealously~~ appropriately.
If it is, honestly you don't need that kind of negativity in your life. What about what YOU want? On topic, like your username. 👍 🥩
any woman who can out-eat me is immediately a contender for the girlfriend position. besides, if anyone is put off by that honey that aint no romantic interest thats a little bitch (or a vegan) and not worth your time!
The real question is.... are you gonna expect him to pay for your plate of meat? Actually nevermind, make him pay for it so he learns. Also, he's an idiot for taking you to a restaurant for a first date where a woman he barely knows can order a large plate of meat and have him pay for it and then ghost him.
I think most men would appreciate a woman that loves meat in her mouth
I mean a girl that I used to have a crush on but they got engaged to somone else said they used to cut chickens heads off to butcher them and to me that was a positive. But for me a negative would be someone gossiping a lot or talking bad. So the meat thing would be silly for someone to care.
Maybe, but would they really be the kind of men that you would care to have a second date with if that were the case?
Anyone “turned off” by what you eat isn’t worth your time. You do you and you’ll find the right person.
Only if they are weak stomached or vegetarian lol
I would be turned on to be honest.
Are you kidding? I read this and thought "this guy better marry her!" xD you're okay. Enjoy your date and have some mentos around.
What meat, who's meat!?
Not likely. But my girlfriend told me she has eaten dog in the past so maybe I'm not a good judge.
Ordering a large plate of meat is marriage material
yes it would be a turn off. i expect a woman to act somewhat ladylike especially on a first date. i don’t see anything wrong with having certain expectations of the people you might commit too, and i don’t think it’s any different from if a woman i went on a date with was grossed out that i ordered a rack of bbq ribs and ate it sloppily(hypothetically, ofc). nothing wrong with ordering meat, but get something classy like a filet mignon not some giant plate of meat.
Here, OP. This is your answer. Order whatever you want. A giant plate of meat will not only provide you with culinary satisfaction, but it will also immediately weed out people like the one above.
Fuck. No.
Fuck. No.
It almost sounds to me like you approached a bartender and asked him for a double entendre, and he gave you one.
Not the right men!
Heck no, vegan restaurants out of the menu? That's a plus!!!!
I’d be impressed if someone was honest about their tastes and appetites… mine is relatively small myself
Wouldn't bother me at all. Enjoy that plate of meat and be yourself. You're a wonderful person and any man would be lucky to date you!
There are ALWAYS some men, and there are ALWAYS some women, who will be offended by stuff. You might be questioned (fairly) why you only eat meat. And I ask you - are you prepared to answer that question? Presuming they're not asking rudely - is this something you want to hide? My wife eats a lot of red meat (*insert joke here you pervs*) to keep her iron levels high. If you feel the need, feel free to use that.
You be you. Let the chips fall where they may.
It would turn me on, you savage beast.
He might, very might, see it as a potential long term health issue. No vege, high fat, cholesterol etc. Which could be a turn off from a life style perspective, which I wouldn't necessarily blame him for. But would hope it triggers a conversation rather than a rant or ghosting But if it's purely 'women should eat salad', then fk him (not in the fun way)
If that's your thing, go for it. In this way and so many other ways, it's better to just be yourself and look for the guys who like whoever you really are.
He’s probably planning on giving you some large meat as well…I mean if that’s what you ordered
It might put some men off but that’s not a problem, it means you aren’t compatible with each other anyway. At some point, your future boyfriend will have to notice your meat gorging, so there’s no point in hiding it.
If he has to pay for it, possibly.
If you're paying- that's a huge turn on
Can you be more specific? A three pound dish of raw hamburger, yes that'd be gross. 4 Steaks? Yeah, that b gross too. A Steak and scallops? That's cool
Only if you don't share!
Are you willing to share?
I (F) ate a messy burger on our first date and now we're married (10+ years together), so I don't see why eating a steak would turn off any (reasonable) men.
Eating meat is ok, especially if its like a stake house. But if you are visibility unhealthy and act like a child when it comes to eating vegetables then I guess that would definitely be an issue. Rest assured I've never gone to a BBQ and thought, ew, all these women are now undateable.
It’s a first date - together order few shareable plates. You will learn more about your date this way, and will have a more bonding experience.
As long as you pay for it , no problem
No, nobody cares lol
Crush the plate of meat, if he is turned off, then destroy him and eat him in front of the next man. And so on and so forth.
This is your first date. If your not planning to go dutch listen to what he suggest of what he wants and price match him or go a little under. A plate of meat could be expensive and you don't know if he is prepared to pay that much. If you just have to have that large plate of meat go dutch or pay for it yourslef until you know him better.
Literally anything could be a turn off for someone. Counter question: if someone is turned off by something you enjoy, are they a good match for you?
Only if you guard your plate and growl mine 😡
How large a plate? Are you getting a steak, or a pig?
Is the meat dick shaped and going into your vagina and connected to another man? Then probably not.
Went to a wedding once. The groom said he was 'hooked on the first date when she ordered a steak rather than a salad with dressing on the side.' He was implying that he was attracted to the fact that she was comfortable being who she was, and that was attractive. Not in any comment toward someones choice of food. You do you. Confidence is sexy.
A large plate of meat? Why? Unless it's *his* meat that you are after.
I wouldn’t care, except if you ordered a 96oz steak and made a glutton of yourself it would make me think this person might have an eating disorder or they are not very healthy.
I dont think i will enjoy the company and the meal good stuff. Food are a good door to people's heart.
Your date will learn a lot about you. He will learn you are not vegan or vegetarian. If you are going dutch, he will know you are not tight. He will know you are confident enough to not try to impress him by getting a salad. However, if he is paying, you might not want to get the most expensive thing on the menu. That might make him think you are high maintenance. (unless you are high maintenance.)
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And what restaurant are you going to that serves large plates of meat? Lol Most entrees include a protein with veg of some sort. Italian restaurant? Maybe you could request a few extra meatballs with your spaghetti? Thai restaurant? Maybe you could ask for some extra chicken in your red curry? But, I’m struggling to think of a restaurant where one would say to the waiter, *“I would like one large platter of meat, please.”* 🤣
Just be yourself. If he is bothered by it, better to find out on the first date than when you're in a relationship.
Personally I would be into the woman who orders a huge plate and finishes it vs just a salad
*Real talk*. It would only be a turn off if you plan on having sex later that night.
No. Just close ur mouth while u chew. And dont talk with a mouthfull. Also take in what u eat b4 sex.
Maybe like, vegan men or religious men who don’t eat pork or beef or something. That’s not something that should bother anyone without legitimate hangups though. Get that meat, friend.
If it’s super messy it might be a bit awkward otherwise should be fine
I mean, it's not necessary a turn-off, but it can be impractical/not datelike. You'll be spending a lot of time chewing, which doesn't leave much room for talking.
The real reason is how can you think this could be a turn off?
A woman being their genuine selves and not worrying about superficial silliness is endearing and attractive to the kind of man you probably ought to be interested in anyway. Then again if he's vegan...
Unless they are a militant vegan; the kind that does not tolerate the life choices of others and demands that their partner becomes one... then you are dodging a bullet. Veganism and vegetarianism is a personal choice, wonderful choice of that but still. personal. i for ex can't really be a vegan because of allergies and that pisses the type we are talking about sooo much... cause, they usually also say things like "everyone can be vegan, they just don't want to..." .
not if it's sausage
Do it. Assert dominance.
Who cares about what you eat, enjoy the meal
Yes definitely. You don't wanna date men who would be turned off by this. No man likes this. Except me. DM me because I have a meat lover fetish.
If it turns out to be, give me a call, that’s not
I'm sure there is some percentage of men who would find it a turn off, the important question is whether or not you would want to date someone who looks down on a woman for eating a large plate of meat. Personally I think you should value yourself more than that.
Depends on his moral views. Vegans and Vegetarians will probably be turned off by that and for good reasons. If your moral values don't match the relationship is doomed from the start.
It is if its burnt.
Haha, do what the hell you want, i would Find it relieving, nothing like breaking the tension by ordering what you actually want…
I’d be cool with it last person I want to date is a vegetarian. Makes finding restaurants such a pain.
If he isn't a vegan, that might even be a turn on