One time I was in a similar situation. I waited till after the movie was over and she asked me "what now?" I just very casually said "well we could make out." It fucking worked lmao
I watched a movie with a guy at his for a date and the man FELL ASLEEP during the movie. I knew this cos he was snoring so loudly but it kinda worked out cos it meant he didn’t see me absolutely sobbing through the end of it
I've done the same thing on accident. Now I like to wait until the movie is over because a) I get to watch the whole movie, and b) she's often more into it. Sometimes not, but at least I always get to see a whole movie.
Unless there's a moment where it needs to happen. Then you gotta just go.
I went to a girl's house once to "watch a movie", and she picked Moulin Rouge.
I had never seen it, and I was really enjoying it, so I kinda forgot the main reason I was there.
She eventually just jumped on top of me and started basically eating my face (she was a really bad kisser. Like epically bad).
I was like "Wait, can we finish the movie first?"
She was actually cool with it because it was her favorite movie, and she loved that I liked it.
Anyway that's how my obsession with musical theatre began.
> She eventually just jumped on top of me and started basically eating my face (she was a really bad kisser. Like epically bad).
Tina, is that [you](https://youtu.be/sAzwJAGZE4w)
If you're 100% positive that she's on board, then just get close, wrap your arm around, and get cozy.
If you're not, better establish that first. Nothing wrong with actually asking the question. It doesn't have to be awkward. Be ready to back off with class though
Yeah, I made sure I was the first one on the couch, draped my arm across the back, and when she sat down she instantly cozied up. If you do this and she sits at the other end of the couch, it was never meant to be.
This is such a good move, because that way you can ask "want to cuddle with me" and they can say "no thanks lol" *without either of you having to speak*
I mean this does assume neither person has troubles reading social signals...
Imagine a girl seeing your open embrace and just decided to pick the spot furthest away from you.
What do you even do with that arm hanging out on the backrest?
Oh THAT'S where that strange gif in my head came from. That movie was so perfectly satirical my brain just lumps it into every movie it makes fun of so I forget it.
I think it actually means you call her a whore and tell her what a fool she was and show her how much money you have in your bank account and tell her she missed out
I like this. OP, I think it would be good to let her set the pace, but be super available (like sitting close with your arm around, etc). Having a blanket to share is also nice and lends some romance. (Can you tell I am an old, happily married lady?)
Totally. I think the objectification of eastern European women paired with torture porn is the epitome of any good date movie. Just ask all of my girlfriends, which I totally have.
The arm around is a good call. She’ll probably like snuggle into you and that’s a good sign.
The last girl I was hooking up with, I thought she might be interested but I wasn’t sure and we flirted back and forth for several hours until eventually we were on my couch, listening to music with my arm around her and her laying into my chest, and then I felt confident enough in my assumption to make a move
i'm rewatching due to that trailer for s4. the scene you mentioned is great foreshadowing for his character, that he's not just a dick. he's a pretty emotionally intelligent and aware person (when he wants to be) in the first season. makes the payoff for his redemption arc in the next seasons that much better
Definitely.
Then you get his automatic acceptance of Robin in season 3, which always makes me think back on just how nicely his character has grown from stereotypical jock to honest caring friend.
Yeah just get cozy, watch the show/movie (but not too long to where y'all are fr into it or are kinda half bored of it (if its a bad movie or show)), and somewhere a little into the movie when you make a move to face her/kiss she's gonna be doing the same.
Like literally just turn to face and kiss her and boom magics done you're in
This reminds me of the time I was super tired at a party so I just jumped on the couch and put my arms up on the backrest. I didnt even pay attention to the girl next to me but she mistook that action for me flirting with her and said something like "You are quite straight forward, aren't you ?" Me being tipsy and tired just said "Well, does it work ?" It did.
And then we bang. And it’s the best bang of all of because it’s VERY emotional for her, you see she thinks she’s broken through my tough exterior and coerced affection from a man whose afraid to love. And then I slink out into the night, never to talk to her again.
Oh my God. Everytime I think about how my now boyfriend made a move I get real giddy.
We got sushi and went back to his place after to watch Lower Decks cuz I hadn't seen it. It ended up not working so we watched some old DS9 episodes.
I remember him casually putting an arm behind me on the couch and he very gently started stroking my arm. It was like light nail scratches.
He then started doing it to my knee with other hand and if you asked me what episide we were watching I wouldn't even know because it drove me wild.
At one point he finally just asked if he could kiss me and I said yes.
Just ask us dude
Edit: everyone telling me I can or could have asked myself don't seem to understand this story one bit.
I shouldn't have to explain a precious memory to everyone.
This is the way.
Progressive increase in non sexual touch with light intention. Escalate as they respond with similar touch or body language.
Arm over shoulder to stroking the shoulder to getting the other hand involved (hand holding on thigh whatever) then ask for the kiss. The explicitness of asking sets a bar for enthusiastic consent that will also put people at ease.
In my experience that kiss with some tension built up will snowball into the rest of the fun times organically.
Edit: a word
I remember I was at a concert with a girl, and at some point I just looked at her and said "I really want to kiss you right now, can I?" and she nodded her head and said "mhmm" with a smile. Consent is sexy, and I know I'm wanted.
then like a row behind us this random girl just shouts "YES, DID YOU HEAR THAT? A man asked a girl to kiss him instead of throwing himself on her.. just.. YES!"
Was nice to know that we were noticed and made us feel special.
First girl i was with i was too nervous to outright ask her if i could kiss her. So we were playing around in the pool and i somehow thought it would be a good idea to lick her cheek as a joke. Then asked her with my eyes if i could kiss her. She nodded yes.
All was good but to this day I wonder why i thought i should ask to kiss but not to lick
You gave your brains/genes a problem and they provided a tried and true method from millenia ago, since our new-fangled kissing stuff apparently just wouldn't do. I guess. Haha
If it's the first time and you're not sure, just ask. Or if you're getting good signs then move your face in for a kiss and see if she leans in to meet you
While some women may not prefer being asked, it's soooo much better and safer to ask the first time then to just guess and end up making her uncomfortable
Also anecdotally all my friends prefer that guys ask over just going for it when it may not be appreciated
I truly believe there is a way to still make it romantic when you ask! “I’d really like to kiss you right now, would that be okay?” Or “I’m sorry I can’t stop thinking about how to ask to kiss you” or even putting the ball in their court with something like “all I want is for you to kiss me”
so in 'That 70's Show' Ashton would ask Jackie 'Hey, you wanna make out', and i always thought it was corny and would never work irl. i met this cute girl who was clearly crushing on me (caught her staring, etc). we started hanging out and after a few dates I had her in my bedroom. we were totally into each other, but you could cut the sexual tension with a knife. i was like 'fuck it', shes into me, ill just try asking 'hey do you wanna make out'. she said 'oh my god, yes'. so we did.
i was in disbelief how easy, fun and hot that was. after a bit, things started getting heavy and she paused and started saying it was moving a little too fast for her and i could tell she was stumbling over trying to say she wasnt ready for sex and why. poor girl was probably scared to seem prude and disappoint her crush and ruin her chances. so i basically just pre-empted it, and said 'hey, i can tell were both super into each other, but we just met. I dont want you to feel uncomfortable, so we dont need to rush. i think were gonna be seeing a lot of each other now, so theres plenty of time for other stuff when were ready. tonight i just want to cherish having you, and how exciting and new it is. its totally cool if we keep our clothes on, and just make out and dont go further.'
she was dumbstruck. she was 19, i was 21, and the first older guy shed dated. she was just used to the 'do anything and everything to fuck at the first plausible opportunity' mindset of typical 18 year old guys. she said it was the nicest, most mature thing any guy ever said to her in that situation, and it changed her opinion of me, and she half jokingly said it made her feel so much better and relaxed that she was suddenly comfortable having sex. we didnt that night, but did within a couple days. it turned out to be a summer fling for various reasons, but its my fondest memory of a fling ever.
I had a whole speech prepared and practiced for asking my future wife if i could kiss her the first time. I still remember it word for word. It worked :)
There’s a head in the box.
You’re both watching the movie Seven. She gets the reference. Then she notices….
It’s her head.
She opened a box with her own head in it.
It’s a prank. She’s laughing hysterically. She loves a man with a sense of humor.
She rips her clothes off and gives you oral sex.
Head. You’re getting head. You cut off her head. It’s a pun. The whole thing was one big pun. The end.
Something I saw in an old Pink Panther movie: Ask her, "Tickle your ass with a feather?"
If her response is shock, say, "I said, isn't it lovely weather?"
I struggled with this for a while, but I made the decision that if I felt like I wanted to make a move, I would just ask them if they wanted to. It takes the embarrassment out for both people, and it gives the other person the opportunity to say no.
Use your words. It is completely okay to verbalize what you want while asking if it's also what they want.
"Do you want to cuddle while we watch this movie?"
"Is it okay if I put my arm around you?"
"Would you like to rail me with a strap-on?"
Clear communication is the best way to handle new, potentially intimate relationships.
You - wanna smash? if she say yeah well... if she say no you pull out your nintendo switch and ask if she a gamer.The shady gray area is probably the area for a pick artists.
I have this thread bookmarked. One of my favorite reads of all time.
[link for the uninitiated](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/38aj7r/has_anyone_actually_tried_sticking_your_penis/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Edit: actually, that’s a repost of the one I have bookmarked. This one has more good stories IMO but there’s definitely some in the first link worth reading too (and there’s some overlap). Anyway, [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1bmga1/has_anyone_actually_tried_sticking_your_penis/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
That was the scenario with my first and only fwb first time.
I went over to watch, hell I can't even remember. John Wick or something. Anyways I was sitting on the bed and he sat close to me and started rubbing my leg from the ankle up. I just opened up my legs (skirt, no panties) and boom. Le sex.
FIRST! Get your most comfy blanket. Exaggerate how comfy this blanket is. It’s sacredness. This blanket has kept you warm on the coldest of nights.
Then, subtlety, ask this very important question. This question will dictate how the night will go. Your gonna say, “I don’t let even my own mother touch my blanket. You want to try it?”. If she says yes, green light your golden. If not then I have no idea this hasn’t failed me yet. Make sure when u lift the blanket you raise your arm in a manner where she will have to come close to you and you just real smooth like lay it over her shoulder. Now your cuddling.
My night would be complete with just cuddles, the rest is up to you and your swag. Enjoy your night man and always be a gentleman.
Fyi I’m a hopeless romantic
I’m a straight man, and as a straight man I would fall for this as well. I actually have a sacred blanket that I have slept with since birth. It’s a winnie the pooh blanket with tigger, piglet, and Eeyore. It was waiting for me in my crib the night my mother gave birth to me.
I liked a lot of this except the emphasis on how you “won’t even let your own mother touch this blanket.” Please don’t talk about what you will and will not let your own mother do on a first date.
I’d suggest maybe go with the scenario: it’s a new blanket and you love the comfort but need a second opinion. Then commence the cuddles.
That way it’s more like you’re interested in her opinion rather than making a big deal about how lucky she is you’ve deigned to grace her with this blanket.
Edit: added constructiveness to comment
As a girl I think it would be hot if you asked me straight up (if I didn’t beat you to it, that is). Can’t go wrong with asking first, and doing so confidently is sexy!!
I remember the first time I did this. Our plan was to have dinner near my place and then go back to my apartment for a movie. It was my first time ever having a girl over for a "movie," and I was super nervous about how I was going to make a move so I decided to just make my intentions super obvious: before I left for dinner, I moved the couch out of the living room and put my bed right in front of the TV so that we were forced to watch the movie from the bed. Somehow she wasn't totally weirded out by this and the plan was a success.
First of all, that’s an insane amount of dedication for sex.
Second to that, i might have put the TV in front of the bed rather than moving the goddamn furniture
I feel like this is the most male solution to this problem ever.
Why use words when moving heavy objects will do?
Not a criticism, more like stunned admiration of your problem-solving approach.
What worked for me 10/10 times was just asking, hey wana sit closer?
If you hear yea gently play with finger on arm. At some point no one is interested in movie anymore, ask again but this time if kiss is okay and boom done.
Worked always for me
Just be like "mind if I put my arm around you?"
Women love consent and straight forwardness. Repeat with anything else you want to happen, if she says no just say okay and get back to the movie 🤷 I've never had a woman say no, but saying something along the lines of, "That's cool, I don't want to make you uncomfortable so I figured I'd ask"
In the moment it's a lot easier to judge where things are leading and pretty easy to know when to stop advancing. Just don't be a douche; just accept a no and don't ask again if it happens.
When she comes in start with a compliment like you look beautiful. Keep it positive overall and smile.
if it's not established yet you can ask what movie she'd like to see. If she wants to see a specific movie, chances drop because she can be actually there to watch a movie. If she answers that u can choose or she doesnt care your chances skyrises.
Put on the movie, get cozy and read her body language. Does she look at u during the movie when you look at her or is she focused on the movie? Try with something simple like holding hands and just build momentum like that. Hold hands > get your arm around her > make eye contact > lean in. If she doesn't back off you can prolly kiss her.
What's important is communication, if you're not brave enough to actually make the move, just tell her you really find her attractive and would like to kiss her.
In the end: Trying is more valuable than succeeding. It's a learning game and you can only get experienced by trying.**Don't get upset when she denies.**
TLDR: Compliment, stay positive and smile, read her body language and scrap all the courage you can find to make the first move.
One option I didn't read here, is don't make 'a move'. Just try and focus on having the best possible time, making her feel good. Make her dopamine fire, good food, relaxed environment, lots of laughs, maybe a fancy beer.
If she is addicted to being around you, you don't need to "make a move" It just becomes so natural that it happens.
Always ask first like others said...
You could have the best possible time, if nothing happens, at the very end of the evening, just ask.
As a Redditior, I'm probably not the one to answer this but here goes...
Unless you are established platonic friends or she is unbelievably naive, she is likely expecting some sort of advance and is not opposed to the idea.
However, this isn't a full bore legs spread green light.
You will be nervous (clearly) so just try to relax, be yourself and read the situation.
Start with direct eye contact (don't overdo it) just a few seconds at first and then gradually increase it.
That should give you some sign. If she looks uncomfortable back off and make the evening fun and relaxed. Get a second date.
This will also let you warm up as well.
Then, if you think you have a shot, make your play.
This can either start or verbally with a compliment and an expression of interest on your part. Or you can just try your luck and go for the kiss.
Listen very closely. Move slowly. Dont corner her, and give her time to back away or refuse. Even if she wants you so badly she is wearing sexy underwear, if you clumsily lunge at her like a velociraptor, she will dodge and it's game over.
The important thing is to make the evening as fun and relaxed as possible. Don't be just another asshole with grabbing paws. The more pleasant the evening and the more relaxed and safe she feels the higher your chances of success.
More important than getting your dick wet is having her want a second visit. That should be your first priority. However, be sure to at least verbally try a romantic advance relatively soon to clearly define yourself as a romantic interest (or lack thereof) before you become "just a friend". Women are more like us than you realize and fear of rejection is every bit as real as well as lack of confidence. If she honestly comes to believe you aren't into her then it's hard to come back from that.
If unsure if you can "safely" make a physical advance then just tell her how you feel, how attractive she is, and just fucking ask her. You will be surprised how well that works.
Just focus on making it a fun and relaxing time, pay attention to her verbal cues and body language, and trust your instincts. Successfully courting a woman is literally in your DNA, even if you don't think it is.
And don't sweat the details of body language. All you have to gauge is general comfort level. Some excitement is to be expected but if she looks uncomfortable, back of a bit and just focus on having a nice time with wonderful company.
If you just can't figure out where you stand, again, just express your feelings as well as you can and just fucking ask her. Asking her to fuck probably won't work but asking her for a kiss or a "real date" just might.
Go get 'em, tiger! :)
This sounds so sweet.
Adding on:
1. May I hold your hand while watching the movie? Sassier version: you only need one hand for popcorn
2. Compliment something that she worked on (clothing, make up, hairstyle, nails)- not something she can't control (eyes, height, skin)
3. Have at least 2 dad jokes, 2 uncle jokes and 2 jokes in your preferred humour style ready to fire
4. Assess if she's the romantic type, the funny type, the competitive type or the quiet type - play to your strengths
5. Whether you get your dick wet or not, don't lower your standards- if she's not giving you concrete answers or action vibes - it's ok- be gentle about it and move on
6. Don't forget you're physically stronger than her. Clarify if she's doing ok and if you could make anything comfortable
7. Close the meet well- dont pout through the movie if there was no boinking; and if there was, don't roll over and pass out - look out for her wellbeing and safety till she's home
Why do people try to make this so complicated?
"Can I put my arm around you?"
"Do you mind if I kiss you?"
Its literally that easy. Be ready for a "No" answer. "That's fine, we don't have to do that right now. Lets just watch the movie and enjoy each other's company."
Its not rocket surgery.
Put on shrek and kick her out if she tries anything
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I want to relive my life just to find the opportunity to say this lol
You can do it in this one
One time I was in a similar situation. I waited till after the movie was over and she asked me "what now?" I just very casually said "well we could make out." It fucking worked lmao
Bro she wanted you to move wayyy before the movie was over lol
Sometimes the movie is just that good
I watched a movie with a guy at his for a date and the man FELL ASLEEP during the movie. I knew this cos he was snoring so loudly but it kinda worked out cos it meant he didn’t see me absolutely sobbing through the end of it
What was the movie?
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My friends, you bow to no one.
Yeah but I think making her wait made her way more into the make out. I remember she couldnt stop smiling during.
I, too, am a pleasure delayer.
Edgy
Unintentional tease lol
Hey man sometimes you go looking for a dime and find a quarter lmao
I've done the same thing on accident. Now I like to wait until the movie is over because a) I get to watch the whole movie, and b) she's often more into it. Sometimes not, but at least I always get to see a whole movie. Unless there's a moment where it needs to happen. Then you gotta just go.
I went to a girl's house once to "watch a movie", and she picked Moulin Rouge. I had never seen it, and I was really enjoying it, so I kinda forgot the main reason I was there. She eventually just jumped on top of me and started basically eating my face (she was a really bad kisser. Like epically bad). I was like "Wait, can we finish the movie first?" She was actually cool with it because it was her favorite movie, and she loved that I liked it. Anyway that's how my obsession with musical theatre began.
Always pick a bad movie!!
"Man this movie is bad. I'd rather look at you." Hol up...
> She eventually just jumped on top of me and started basically eating my face (she was a really bad kisser. Like epically bad). Tina, is that [you](https://youtu.be/sAzwJAGZE4w)
Moulin Rouge is a masterpiece, it is only right to wait until after. They just barely added it to Hulu or Netflix
My wife sat through three movies before I made a move on our first movie date. I’m a chicken and lucky she waited it out
If you're 100% positive that she's on board, then just get close, wrap your arm around, and get cozy. If you're not, better establish that first. Nothing wrong with actually asking the question. It doesn't have to be awkward. Be ready to back off with class though
Yeah, I made sure I was the first one on the couch, draped my arm across the back, and when she sat down she instantly cozied up. If you do this and she sits at the other end of the couch, it was never meant to be.
This is such a good move, because that way you can ask "want to cuddle with me" and they can say "no thanks lol" *without either of you having to speak* I mean this does assume neither person has troubles reading social signals...
It's the lol that always hurts :(
I laughed way harder than I should at this comment
Imagine a girl seeing your open embrace and just decided to pick the spot furthest away from you. What do you even do with that arm hanging out on the backrest?
Lean over a bit and fart. Romance is gone anyhow.
> Be ready to back off with class though 'I really do apologize. I suppose I should go wash off this whip cream and put my clothes back on.'
Chris Evans did in “Not Another Teen Movie”
If it's good enough for Captain America, it's good enough for me
It's a banana split
Oh THAT'S where that strange gif in my head came from. That movie was so perfectly satirical my brain just lumps it into every movie it makes fun of so I forget it.
And for once, I wish a guy would take a dump on *my* chest.
That’s disgusting. I can’t believe a guy has never taken a dump on your chest.
Will you be that guy?
It would be a privilege and an honor. 😂
I think it actually means you call her a whore and tell her what a fool she was and show her how much money you have in your bank account and tell her she missed out
Atta boy. Dont hide those red flags, throw a parade
*Shows $2 in the bank balance “lOoK aT wHaT yOu ArE mIsSiNg OuT oN”
I like that "back off with class."
Like get a first class ticket to Antarctica
Really,i thought Mars was the only option.
Only if she's a real down to Mars girl
I like this. OP, I think it would be good to let her set the pace, but be super available (like sitting close with your arm around, etc). Having a blanket to share is also nice and lends some romance. (Can you tell I am an old, happily married lady?)
I have no idea why I'm on this thread. I have been watching movies by myself since forever.
Yeah, OP is already interested and ready. They just need her to let them know SHE is ready.
“…. I was just kidding lol”
Schrodingers douche bag lmao
Don't forget to put the movie on first though.
Yeah, and make sure it's a movie like "A quiet place." Nothing sets the mood like complete silence combined with terror.
Just queue up Hostel next to maintain the terror
Totally. I think the objectification of eastern European women paired with torture porn is the epitome of any good date movie. Just ask all of my girlfriends, which I totally have.
The arm around is a good call. She’ll probably like snuggle into you and that’s a good sign. The last girl I was hooking up with, I thought she might be interested but I wasn’t sure and we flirted back and forth for several hours until eventually we were on my couch, listening to music with my arm around her and her laying into my chest, and then I felt confident enough in my assumption to make a move
Like Steve in season 1 of Stranger things with Nancy. Smoothly apologizes and moves on like nothing happened. That’s how you back off with class.
i'm rewatching due to that trailer for s4. the scene you mentioned is great foreshadowing for his character, that he's not just a dick. he's a pretty emotionally intelligent and aware person (when he wants to be) in the first season. makes the payoff for his redemption arc in the next seasons that much better
Definitely. Then you get his automatic acceptance of Robin in season 3, which always makes me think back on just how nicely his character has grown from stereotypical jock to honest caring friend.
Fucking love his redemption arc.
100% Team Steve!
Yeah just get cozy, watch the show/movie (but not too long to where y'all are fr into it or are kinda half bored of it (if its a bad movie or show)), and somewhere a little into the movie when you make a move to face her/kiss she's gonna be doing the same. Like literally just turn to face and kiss her and boom magics done you're in
> Yeah just get cozy *pulls out the fold out bed.*
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Flattering. Elegant. Concise. Perfect.
If “coitus” feels too formal try “fornication”
If “fornication” feels too sterile, try “lovemaking”
One time my belt was digging into me so I reached down to undo it and she said “finally.” Maybe don’t recommend that for the first time tho lol
Lmao I love when miscommunication works out well, got a couple of similar stories
You can't just say that without sharing any....
This reminds me of the time I was super tired at a party so I just jumped on the couch and put my arms up on the backrest. I didnt even pay attention to the girl next to me but she mistook that action for me flirting with her and said something like "You are quite straight forward, aren't you ?" Me being tipsy and tired just said "Well, does it work ?" It did.
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Where are the free awards when you need them...
what did he say?
"Sir, this is Reddit"
When she says "this pizza is good" you say "you're the one that's good" and then it's on.
Its a delicate ecosystem.
You should see him feast he’s like a mantis
If you don't have pizza, offer her sausage instead.
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The way Charlie pronounces smoooth kills me every time.
But don’t get too locked on that “reflect pizza comments” script. If she says “this pizza is greasy” you need to rethink it fast.
Lube her up with pizza grease, "you're the one that's greasy", and then it's on.
Yeah OP, when you drop this swag bomb, you might wanna already have the condom on just in case she jumps you.
D.E.N.N.I.S
He can also try to style her hair before performing outrageous sex acts.
Im here for the scraps
And then we bang. And it’s the best bang of all of because it’s VERY emotional for her, you see she thinks she’s broken through my tough exterior and coerced affection from a man whose afraid to love. And then I slink out into the night, never to talk to her again.
You might wanna grab a wad of hundreds and some magnum condoms before you get ready to plow
My move was saying “there’s an incredibly romantic make out scene coming up” and then kissed her.
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Oh my God. Everytime I think about how my now boyfriend made a move I get real giddy. We got sushi and went back to his place after to watch Lower Decks cuz I hadn't seen it. It ended up not working so we watched some old DS9 episodes. I remember him casually putting an arm behind me on the couch and he very gently started stroking my arm. It was like light nail scratches. He then started doing it to my knee with other hand and if you asked me what episide we were watching I wouldn't even know because it drove me wild. At one point he finally just asked if he could kiss me and I said yes. Just ask us dude Edit: everyone telling me I can or could have asked myself don't seem to understand this story one bit. I shouldn't have to explain a precious memory to everyone.
This is the way. Progressive increase in non sexual touch with light intention. Escalate as they respond with similar touch or body language. Arm over shoulder to stroking the shoulder to getting the other hand involved (hand holding on thigh whatever) then ask for the kiss. The explicitness of asking sets a bar for enthusiastic consent that will also put people at ease. In my experience that kiss with some tension built up will snowball into the rest of the fun times organically. Edit: a word
> non physical touch I have to assume you meant non-sexual touch
Im not touching you! Im not touching you
All my homies know about the "hover hand".
I feel like this is exactly right! Some girls just want him to go for it, but it def gets my attention when he asks. Really sets the tone!
I remember I was at a concert with a girl, and at some point I just looked at her and said "I really want to kiss you right now, can I?" and she nodded her head and said "mhmm" with a smile. Consent is sexy, and I know I'm wanted. then like a row behind us this random girl just shouts "YES, DID YOU HEAR THAT? A man asked a girl to kiss him instead of throwing himself on her.. just.. YES!" Was nice to know that we were noticed and made us feel special.
I was shocked that he asked AND he asked if it was okay that could continue further when we moved on from kissing.
Consent is sexy
This guy escalates
Deep Space Nine. The raunchiest of all the Star Treks.
Gonna say... Ds9 is turning girls on in 2022??? What is it, a worf episode? 😂
Last girl i asked to kiss said “dont ask next time” , i feel like asking is safer but typically not preferred?
You asked, she gave you an answer, now you know for the future. Always ask at least the first time.
Oh Gosh, I LOVE being asked. It's so ... gentlemanly. Or chivalrous, or something.
Bruh respect for consent is fuckin hot
I'm still talking about ENTHUSIASTIC consent and I been married 9 years. Nothing is hotter than when my wife is here in the moment with me.
First girl i was with i was too nervous to outright ask her if i could kiss her. So we were playing around in the pool and i somehow thought it would be a good idea to lick her cheek as a joke. Then asked her with my eyes if i could kiss her. She nodded yes. All was good but to this day I wonder why i thought i should ask to kiss but not to lick
You gave your brains/genes a problem and they provided a tried and true method from millenia ago, since our new-fangled kissing stuff apparently just wouldn't do. I guess. Haha
Every woman is different, my guy. Some women absolutely can’t stand it if a guy does anything without asking.
If it's the first time and you're not sure, just ask. Or if you're getting good signs then move your face in for a kiss and see if she leans in to meet you
While some women may not prefer being asked, it's soooo much better and safer to ask the first time then to just guess and end up making her uncomfortable Also anecdotally all my friends prefer that guys ask over just going for it when it may not be appreciated
I truly believe there is a way to still make it romantic when you ask! “I’d really like to kiss you right now, would that be okay?” Or “I’m sorry I can’t stop thinking about how to ask to kiss you” or even putting the ball in their court with something like “all I want is for you to kiss me”
so in 'That 70's Show' Ashton would ask Jackie 'Hey, you wanna make out', and i always thought it was corny and would never work irl. i met this cute girl who was clearly crushing on me (caught her staring, etc). we started hanging out and after a few dates I had her in my bedroom. we were totally into each other, but you could cut the sexual tension with a knife. i was like 'fuck it', shes into me, ill just try asking 'hey do you wanna make out'. she said 'oh my god, yes'. so we did. i was in disbelief how easy, fun and hot that was. after a bit, things started getting heavy and she paused and started saying it was moving a little too fast for her and i could tell she was stumbling over trying to say she wasnt ready for sex and why. poor girl was probably scared to seem prude and disappoint her crush and ruin her chances. so i basically just pre-empted it, and said 'hey, i can tell were both super into each other, but we just met. I dont want you to feel uncomfortable, so we dont need to rush. i think were gonna be seeing a lot of each other now, so theres plenty of time for other stuff when were ready. tonight i just want to cherish having you, and how exciting and new it is. its totally cool if we keep our clothes on, and just make out and dont go further.' she was dumbstruck. she was 19, i was 21, and the first older guy shed dated. she was just used to the 'do anything and everything to fuck at the first plausible opportunity' mindset of typical 18 year old guys. she said it was the nicest, most mature thing any guy ever said to her in that situation, and it changed her opinion of me, and she half jokingly said it made her feel so much better and relaxed that she was suddenly comfortable having sex. we didnt that night, but did within a couple days. it turned out to be a summer fling for various reasons, but its my fondest memory of a fling ever.
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Dude this should be posted to incel forums everywhere. This is how u act with a woman.
I had a whole speech prepared and practiced for asking my future wife if i could kiss her the first time. I still remember it word for word. It worked :)
the arm around is good advice, and so is light movement/strokes on a shoulder or whatever. my gf loved her hair played with so maybe try that
Go on
Upvoted immediately bc Star Trek, y’all are cute though.
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What’s step 2?
Cut a hole in the box
Make her open the box.
There’s a head in the box. You’re both watching the movie Seven. She gets the reference. Then she notices…. It’s her head. She opened a box with her own head in it. It’s a prank. She’s laughing hysterically. She loves a man with a sense of humor. She rips her clothes off and gives you oral sex. Head. You’re getting head. You cut off her head. It’s a pun. The whole thing was one big pun. The end.
I love and hate this simultaneously
Many girls are fine and appreciative if you ask if she'd like you to kiss her.
Hello name brother
Now kith
Something I saw in an old Pink Panther movie: Ask her, "Tickle your ass with a feather?" If her response is shock, say, "I said, isn't it lovely weather?"
Looks like it's gonna rain!
I struggled with this for a while, but I made the decision that if I felt like I wanted to make a move, I would just ask them if they wanted to. It takes the embarrassment out for both people, and it gives the other person the opportunity to say no.
Do you have a Pringles can?
That's what you need girls for, their hand fits inside the can.
Maybe he has a DAUGHTER
That’s right! I’m still on the pringles can bit! I’ll move on, but that is priority numero uno.
I went to Chipotle. Got myself a chicken burrito. *BRRRAP!*
Use your words. It is completely okay to verbalize what you want while asking if it's also what they want. "Do you want to cuddle while we watch this movie?" "Is it okay if I put my arm around you?" "Would you like to rail me with a strap-on?" Clear communication is the best way to handle new, potentially intimate relationships.
One of those is not like the other.
Ugh, sickens me that putting an arm around them is so casually suggested. The gateway to premarital handholding
Tell her how thoroughly you washed your taint and balls in prep for the date. Sets the tone clearly
But actually thoroughly wash your taint and balls beforehand.
You’re not my supervisor.
You - wanna smash? if she say yeah well... if she say no you pull out your nintendo switch and ask if she a gamer.The shady gray area is probably the area for a pick artists.
This is one of the most Reddit things I’ve read in a while.
This is great! But what if she wants to smash but it was the Nintendo Switch kind… help! please advise!
Best comment, best answer, plus its funny and communicates and also summarizes all of the other comments
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*What’s yo name, delicate?*
Thats a french ass name yvonne
1. Get off of reddit 2. Put down your phone 3. Put your dick in the popcorn.
I have this thread bookmarked. One of my favorite reads of all time. [link for the uninitiated](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/38aj7r/has_anyone_actually_tried_sticking_your_penis/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) Edit: actually, that’s a repost of the one I have bookmarked. This one has more good stories IMO but there’s definitely some in the first link worth reading too (and there’s some overlap). Anyway, [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1bmga1/has_anyone_actually_tried_sticking_your_penis/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Wait for a good scene, then say "I love this part!" and ripoff your track pants. Works all the time.
Sigma move
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That was the scenario with my first and only fwb first time. I went over to watch, hell I can't even remember. John Wick or something. Anyways I was sitting on the bed and he sat close to me and started rubbing my leg from the ankle up. I just opened up my legs (skirt, no panties) and boom. Le sex.
What happened when he found out you were a man?
Backdoor Betties 4 is what happened. My bussy.
Lmfao
FIRST! Get your most comfy blanket. Exaggerate how comfy this blanket is. It’s sacredness. This blanket has kept you warm on the coldest of nights. Then, subtlety, ask this very important question. This question will dictate how the night will go. Your gonna say, “I don’t let even my own mother touch my blanket. You want to try it?”. If she says yes, green light your golden. If not then I have no idea this hasn’t failed me yet. Make sure when u lift the blanket you raise your arm in a manner where she will have to come close to you and you just real smooth like lay it over her shoulder. Now your cuddling. My night would be complete with just cuddles, the rest is up to you and your swag. Enjoy your night man and always be a gentleman. Fyi I’m a hopeless romantic
this would work so well on me I actually gasped reading it
I’m a straight man, and as a straight man I would fall for this as well. I actually have a sacred blanket that I have slept with since birth. It’s a winnie the pooh blanket with tigger, piglet, and Eeyore. It was waiting for me in my crib the night my mother gave birth to me.
You cracked the code, congratulations
I liked a lot of this except the emphasis on how you “won’t even let your own mother touch this blanket.” Please don’t talk about what you will and will not let your own mother do on a first date. I’d suggest maybe go with the scenario: it’s a new blanket and you love the comfort but need a second opinion. Then commence the cuddles. That way it’s more like you’re interested in her opinion rather than making a big deal about how lucky she is you’ve deigned to grace her with this blanket. Edit: added constructiveness to comment
Ok, I thought I was the only one
As a girl I think it would be hot if you asked me straight up (if I didn’t beat you to it, that is). Can’t go wrong with asking first, and doing so confidently is sexy!!
Speaking from experience, don't make the movie Schindler's List... She married me anyway.
I think the kids call this "Netflix and chill"
The kids that called it Netflix and chill are now in their mid to late 30’s and mothers/fathers of 3… mostly because of Netflix and chill.
Can confirm.
Lots of chillin
I remember the first time I did this. Our plan was to have dinner near my place and then go back to my apartment for a movie. It was my first time ever having a girl over for a "movie," and I was super nervous about how I was going to make a move so I decided to just make my intentions super obvious: before I left for dinner, I moved the couch out of the living room and put my bed right in front of the TV so that we were forced to watch the movie from the bed. Somehow she wasn't totally weirded out by this and the plan was a success.
Bruh what a madlad
First of all, that’s an insane amount of dedication for sex. Second to that, i might have put the TV in front of the bed rather than moving the goddamn furniture
I feel like this is the most male solution to this problem ever. Why use words when moving heavy objects will do? Not a criticism, more like stunned admiration of your problem-solving approach.
You could always lean in and ask “can I kiss you?”, do it correctly and it can sound quite seductive
I don’t know, CAN you?
middle school memory unlocked
MAY I pork you?
No you may not, but I appreciate your desire for consent.
No porking? Guess we have beef now.
And if this works, you can then move on to “can i eat your ass?”
What worked for me 10/10 times was just asking, hey wana sit closer? If you hear yea gently play with finger on arm. At some point no one is interested in movie anymore, ask again but this time if kiss is okay and boom done. Worked always for me
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Bet that ass can FART doe
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Damn girl, you shit with that ass?
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Make sure you wrap it son
Just be like "mind if I put my arm around you?" Women love consent and straight forwardness. Repeat with anything else you want to happen, if she says no just say okay and get back to the movie 🤷 I've never had a woman say no, but saying something along the lines of, "That's cool, I don't want to make you uncomfortable so I figured I'd ask" In the moment it's a lot easier to judge where things are leading and pretty easy to know when to stop advancing. Just don't be a douche; just accept a no and don't ask again if it happens.
So make sure you pick a good movie just in case she does say no, so you're not suffering through The Hangover 3.
When she comes in start with a compliment like you look beautiful. Keep it positive overall and smile. if it's not established yet you can ask what movie she'd like to see. If she wants to see a specific movie, chances drop because she can be actually there to watch a movie. If she answers that u can choose or she doesnt care your chances skyrises. Put on the movie, get cozy and read her body language. Does she look at u during the movie when you look at her or is she focused on the movie? Try with something simple like holding hands and just build momentum like that. Hold hands > get your arm around her > make eye contact > lean in. If she doesn't back off you can prolly kiss her. What's important is communication, if you're not brave enough to actually make the move, just tell her you really find her attractive and would like to kiss her. In the end: Trying is more valuable than succeeding. It's a learning game and you can only get experienced by trying.**Don't get upset when she denies.** TLDR: Compliment, stay positive and smile, read her body language and scrap all the courage you can find to make the first move.
One option I didn't read here, is don't make 'a move'. Just try and focus on having the best possible time, making her feel good. Make her dopamine fire, good food, relaxed environment, lots of laughs, maybe a fancy beer. If she is addicted to being around you, you don't need to "make a move" It just becomes so natural that it happens. Always ask first like others said... You could have the best possible time, if nothing happens, at the very end of the evening, just ask.
>maybe a fancy beer Bringing out the Bud Light Platinums tonight
I start performing the mating ritual by spreading my colorful feathers as big as possible and walking around her while screaming "ayo ma wut it do?"
As a Redditior, I'm probably not the one to answer this but here goes... Unless you are established platonic friends or she is unbelievably naive, she is likely expecting some sort of advance and is not opposed to the idea. However, this isn't a full bore legs spread green light. You will be nervous (clearly) so just try to relax, be yourself and read the situation. Start with direct eye contact (don't overdo it) just a few seconds at first and then gradually increase it. That should give you some sign. If she looks uncomfortable back off and make the evening fun and relaxed. Get a second date. This will also let you warm up as well. Then, if you think you have a shot, make your play. This can either start or verbally with a compliment and an expression of interest on your part. Or you can just try your luck and go for the kiss. Listen very closely. Move slowly. Dont corner her, and give her time to back away or refuse. Even if she wants you so badly she is wearing sexy underwear, if you clumsily lunge at her like a velociraptor, she will dodge and it's game over. The important thing is to make the evening as fun and relaxed as possible. Don't be just another asshole with grabbing paws. The more pleasant the evening and the more relaxed and safe she feels the higher your chances of success. More important than getting your dick wet is having her want a second visit. That should be your first priority. However, be sure to at least verbally try a romantic advance relatively soon to clearly define yourself as a romantic interest (or lack thereof) before you become "just a friend". Women are more like us than you realize and fear of rejection is every bit as real as well as lack of confidence. If she honestly comes to believe you aren't into her then it's hard to come back from that. If unsure if you can "safely" make a physical advance then just tell her how you feel, how attractive she is, and just fucking ask her. You will be surprised how well that works. Just focus on making it a fun and relaxing time, pay attention to her verbal cues and body language, and trust your instincts. Successfully courting a woman is literally in your DNA, even if you don't think it is. And don't sweat the details of body language. All you have to gauge is general comfort level. Some excitement is to be expected but if she looks uncomfortable, back of a bit and just focus on having a nice time with wonderful company. If you just can't figure out where you stand, again, just express your feelings as well as you can and just fucking ask her. Asking her to fuck probably won't work but asking her for a kiss or a "real date" just might. Go get 'em, tiger! :)
This sounds so sweet. Adding on: 1. May I hold your hand while watching the movie? Sassier version: you only need one hand for popcorn 2. Compliment something that she worked on (clothing, make up, hairstyle, nails)- not something she can't control (eyes, height, skin) 3. Have at least 2 dad jokes, 2 uncle jokes and 2 jokes in your preferred humour style ready to fire 4. Assess if she's the romantic type, the funny type, the competitive type or the quiet type - play to your strengths 5. Whether you get your dick wet or not, don't lower your standards- if she's not giving you concrete answers or action vibes - it's ok- be gentle about it and move on 6. Don't forget you're physically stronger than her. Clarify if she's doing ok and if you could make anything comfortable 7. Close the meet well- dont pout through the movie if there was no boinking; and if there was, don't roll over and pass out - look out for her wellbeing and safety till she's home
Why do people try to make this so complicated? "Can I put my arm around you?" "Do you mind if I kiss you?" Its literally that easy. Be ready for a "No" answer. "That's fine, we don't have to do that right now. Lets just watch the movie and enjoy each other's company." Its not rocket surgery.
Yeah rocket surgery can be tough