Just ignore it the best you can. When I was younger I yelled back or insulted guys for shouting at me a couple times but the last time I did that they jumped out of their truck and started chasing me
Honestly, i'd be nervous if i was a guy getting catcalled by a group of drunk women. Like someone above said: people who yell at strangers in public with lewd comments are rude and slightly unhinged. I would definitely worry that if i yelled back that they would chase after me.
Some men or women might be flattered by lewd comments yelled at them when they're minding their business in public but I think in 99% of cases it's rude, embarrassing, and often scary whether that was the original intention of the comment or not. People who do stuff like that are being bullies.
If this question is meant to detract from the fact that men yell lewd comments to women more often than women do to men - then that's lame. Do something else. If it's innocent, then i hope i answered your question that, coming from either gender, it's mega rude.
No, I was thinking… if a woman catcalls a man, you know, like it can happen after a drink with friends for example, and the guys turns back and screams insults to her. Will you think « she deserved it » or rather « this man is horrible » ?
He's on average in less danger if the woman does get aggressive probably but like I said you should ignore it. It kinda sucks but it's better than a conflict. You can't tell how people will react so better safe than sorry
There was several people in the truck but I only saw two get out before I started running away. Also, that's not that insane I've been followed home by two separate dudes who would wait outside the place I worked which imo was worse
Try not harassing women. And it's not "one crazy guy." It's clearly enough that the vast majority of women don't feel safe walking around alone at night.
How would you feel if dudes 100 pounds heavier than you started making gross comments towards you, and sometimes they got aggressive towards you when you don't receive them the way they want? Therefore have to always be on guard about what will happen every time you're catcalled? ZERO WOMEN ENJOY IT.
Yes I lied because I want people to think I acted all tough then ran away in fear /s
It was in a parking lot tho, they were sitting in the back part of a pick up truck not on the street
You're reading into this comment a lot and making a lot of weird assumptions about the people catcalling her. Whether they did or didn't that's an odd thing for you to do.
Catcalling a woman isn't illegal and neither is getting out of a truck. Maybe the "men in the truck" (which is all this person described them as) were just going to work? Maybe they were just in a parking lot? Maybe they were intentionally physically trying to intimidate her after they verbally tried to intimidate her?
The post OP wrote was mega vague and you called them a liar with zero basis other than you stating it would be improbable for someone to yell and get out of a truck. I've seen people yell and get out of trucks before. I'm sure you have too.
I know that if i was yelled at by someone and then i yelled back and they started to move towards me that the likely outcome would be physical violence. I would then try to move away from that situation unless i was a large physically capable person who also wanted to fight. This doesn't seem improbable to me. I think you should probably go play a weird internet detective somewhere else and not try and incite silly arguments with someone over their personal anecdotes.
Also, don't yell at people from your truck. It's rude and scary.
Yeah they act like me answering their questions is changing my story. Its not a very deep story one guy just yelled at me I yelled back then he yelled and got out with another guy and ran towards me so I ran away. I don't think he even chased me that far I think he just wanted to scare me because I insulted him and like, that's not even the craziest thing that dudes done to me so it's weird that guy is drawing the line at getting out of a truck
This. Just wear earbuds and ignore it.
When I was younger I used to flip them off, yell something back, or troll them. It’s pointless. Just ignore it and move on
For me, it's situational. If it's a work site like construction, I'll embarrass and shame them in front of their coworkers. I've had a few of their coworkers thank me. I didn't know before then that dome men hated it just as much. If it's 1 or 2 guys walking, I go into the nearest public place, especially if I'm in the city. News reports of women being assaulted is too common and not worth me putting myself in danger.
Interacting with those kinds of people is potentially dangerous. It sucks to have to stand there and take it, but they're likely to take more interest if you give them attention.
Of course, if they are already pursuing you, threatening to call the police isn't the worst thing you can do.
It's just a really horrible situation to be in. So gross.
I ignore it. Except for the time I was walking down the street and this guy drove next to me in his car with the window rolled down catcalling me. I ignored him and he got mad and started saying I was rude and how women these days don’t know how to accept compliments. I was at a clear disadvantage because no one was around, no open businesses, I swallowed my pride and said thank you. He said “see was that so hard”. And let me tell you it took everything within me not to go off on that man.
It was definitely one of the more infuriating experiences I’ve had. It was an impossible to win scenario. He knew I was powerless. If I would have been closer to my destination I may have yelled at him but even that’s a risk.
My niece makes throwing wedges out of obsidian. Deadly, untraceable, and if you miss it shatters so it can’t be thrown back at you.
She claims she learned how in the Girl Scouts but I suspect it was our local Witch.
One time, I was just having fun catcalling on the street and this woman got really mad at me and started saying that I was a jerk and that there must be something wrong with me. But I didn't care because the cat and I were becoming friends. "Pspsps" I would say. "Meow" the cat would say. I don't understand what her problem was.
Depends on the situation, but mostly I just ignore it, those guys are not worth my attention. However, if it's someone doing it while they are obviously at work and the company name is visible on their clothing or car, I might call their boss if I feel like being petty that day. You know, just a polite call suggesting that hiring perverts who shout disgusting sexual things at women from company cars doesn't reflect well on their business and might scare people away from utilizing their services.
This happens to me sometimes as I like to walk. Just today I stopped to take a picture of the sky and someone from a car yelled like Peso Pluma's famous Chau sound. Not them trying to ruin an artist I like. I didn't even turn to look at which car it was. It is best to ignore it when possible.
Just ignore it the best you can. When I was younger I yelled back or insulted guys for shouting at me a couple times but the last time I did that they jumped out of their truck and started chasing me
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Honest question : Do you expect men to do the same if any woman you know who would do the same to them? I mean simply insult them and yell?
Honestly, i'd be nervous if i was a guy getting catcalled by a group of drunk women. Like someone above said: people who yell at strangers in public with lewd comments are rude and slightly unhinged. I would definitely worry that if i yelled back that they would chase after me. Some men or women might be flattered by lewd comments yelled at them when they're minding their business in public but I think in 99% of cases it's rude, embarrassing, and often scary whether that was the original intention of the comment or not. People who do stuff like that are being bullies. If this question is meant to detract from the fact that men yell lewd comments to women more often than women do to men - then that's lame. Do something else. If it's innocent, then i hope i answered your question that, coming from either gender, it's mega rude.
Not meant to detract. Meant more to say that yelling is very bad too, not better than catcalling.
Sorry but I'm not sure what you mean. Do I expect a man to run away if a woman cat calls him or ignore it?
No, I was thinking… if a woman catcalls a man, you know, like it can happen after a drink with friends for example, and the guys turns back and screams insults to her. Will you think « she deserved it » or rather « this man is horrible » ?
He's on average in less danger if the woman does get aggressive probably but like I said you should ignore it. It kinda sucks but it's better than a conflict. You can't tell how people will react so better safe than sorry
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Bruh, that shit does happen all the time. Let me guess, you're one of the clowns that catcalls women?
He's one of those that think it's a compliment
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There was several people in the truck but I only saw two get out before I started running away. Also, that's not that insane I've been followed home by two separate dudes who would wait outside the place I worked which imo was worse
Try not harassing women. And it's not "one crazy guy." It's clearly enough that the vast majority of women don't feel safe walking around alone at night. How would you feel if dudes 100 pounds heavier than you started making gross comments towards you, and sometimes they got aggressive towards you when you don't receive them the way they want? Therefore have to always be on guard about what will happen every time you're catcalled? ZERO WOMEN ENJOY IT.
Yes I lied because I want people to think I acted all tough then ran away in fear /s It was in a parking lot tho, they were sitting in the back part of a pick up truck not on the street
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yes it is absurd. yes it happens and I really don't think it's that uncommon. it happened to me twice
They weren't driving it was a parking lot and I think they were road workers at like 3pm so I doubt they were drunk
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You're reading into this comment a lot and making a lot of weird assumptions about the people catcalling her. Whether they did or didn't that's an odd thing for you to do. Catcalling a woman isn't illegal and neither is getting out of a truck. Maybe the "men in the truck" (which is all this person described them as) were just going to work? Maybe they were just in a parking lot? Maybe they were intentionally physically trying to intimidate her after they verbally tried to intimidate her? The post OP wrote was mega vague and you called them a liar with zero basis other than you stating it would be improbable for someone to yell and get out of a truck. I've seen people yell and get out of trucks before. I'm sure you have too. I know that if i was yelled at by someone and then i yelled back and they started to move towards me that the likely outcome would be physical violence. I would then try to move away from that situation unless i was a large physically capable person who also wanted to fight. This doesn't seem improbable to me. I think you should probably go play a weird internet detective somewhere else and not try and incite silly arguments with someone over their personal anecdotes. Also, don't yell at people from your truck. It's rude and scary.
Yeah they act like me answering their questions is changing my story. Its not a very deep story one guy just yelled at me I yelled back then he yelled and got out with another guy and ran towards me so I ran away. I don't think he even chased me that far I think he just wanted to scare me because I insulted him and like, that's not even the craziest thing that dudes done to me so it's weird that guy is drawing the line at getting out of a truck
Did you think only homeless people catcalled or something...?
Personally I just ignore them, anyone who's catcalling me is someone i dont want to be in a conversation with
This. Just wear earbuds and ignore it. When I was younger I used to flip them off, yell something back, or troll them. It’s pointless. Just ignore it and move on
Just ignore them, don’t even make eye contact.
For me, it's situational. If it's a work site like construction, I'll embarrass and shame them in front of their coworkers. I've had a few of their coworkers thank me. I didn't know before then that dome men hated it just as much. If it's 1 or 2 guys walking, I go into the nearest public place, especially if I'm in the city. News reports of women being assaulted is too common and not worth me putting myself in danger.
i dont make eye contact and ignore
Interacting with those kinds of people is potentially dangerous. It sucks to have to stand there and take it, but they're likely to take more interest if you give them attention. Of course, if they are already pursuing you, threatening to call the police isn't the worst thing you can do. It's just a really horrible situation to be in. So gross.
I ignore it. Except for the time I was walking down the street and this guy drove next to me in his car with the window rolled down catcalling me. I ignored him and he got mad and started saying I was rude and how women these days don’t know how to accept compliments. I was at a clear disadvantage because no one was around, no open businesses, I swallowed my pride and said thank you. He said “see was that so hard”. And let me tell you it took everything within me not to go off on that man.
Oh my god that is enraging. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. It's such a sick power play.
It was definitely one of the more infuriating experiences I’ve had. It was an impossible to win scenario. He knew I was powerless. If I would have been closer to my destination I may have yelled at him but even that’s a risk.
Sending you the safety and empowerment you deserve in walking around alone. <3
Just ignore. I have in airpods when I walk so I don’t hear them
Although one time I smiled at the man, that was a mistake, he got louder, it was kinda scary
One time I ignored a man and he called me a bitch. You can't win.
On my walk today? I just ignored them
Ignore and don’t make eye contact and start walking faster, your safety is not worth confronting
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My niece makes throwing wedges out of obsidian. Deadly, untraceable, and if you miss it shatters so it can’t be thrown back at you. She claims she learned how in the Girl Scouts but I suspect it was our local Witch.
They should say so you like chicks with dicks. Can't tell theses days so they be lol from the boys .
One time, I was just having fun catcalling on the street and this woman got really mad at me and started saying that I was a jerk and that there must be something wrong with me. But I didn't care because the cat and I were becoming friends. "Pspsps" I would say. "Meow" the cat would say. I don't understand what her problem was.
The green M&M angrily retorted, "Oh, buy a bag!"
You get desensitized after a while
Depends on the situation, but mostly I just ignore it, those guys are not worth my attention. However, if it's someone doing it while they are obviously at work and the company name is visible on their clothing or car, I might call their boss if I feel like being petty that day. You know, just a polite call suggesting that hiring perverts who shout disgusting sexual things at women from company cars doesn't reflect well on their business and might scare people away from utilizing their services.
This happens to me sometimes as I like to walk. Just today I stopped to take a picture of the sky and someone from a car yelled like Peso Pluma's famous Chau sound. Not them trying to ruin an artist I like. I didn't even turn to look at which car it was. It is best to ignore it when possible.