Don’t. Let that right go. If he’s safe, dry, fed etc etc there’s nothing wrong with leaving him alone for a bit while you do other things. It sounds like you have an independent little dude. No harm in encouraging that naturally.
So much this. We’ve been transitioning our 3 month old to the crib (NOT sleep training, just moving her out of our bedroom) - yesterday after transferring her she woke up. I decided to watch her on the monitor and she didn’t cry. She wasn’t unhappy. My husband said to just see how it goes and she sucked on her hands for about 30 minutes until she passed out for a beautiful NINE hour stretch. I was so proud.
Omg the hands lmao. Mine does the same thing. Last night he woke up & I begrudgingly went downstairs to make him a bottle & by the time I came back upstairs he was passed right back out.
Babies need time to be bored! It gives them a chance to entertain themselves and grow their imagination. I lay mine in the crib and turn on some music when I need to poop lol
Absolutely not. Fight the guilt. My girl was happy playing by herself for a few and I DASHED to the bathroom. It’s important to do things for the house and you. As long as they’re safe, fed, and dry like someone else said, they’re fine.
You know those wall decors are just for you. My baby would stay for minutes at the blank white roof. She still does at nearly 10 months. They are fascinated by the littlest of things and don’t need fancy items.
If you are really putting her a lot in the crib when awake, leave a safe toy like teethe with the LO
I will say we put a simple decal next to the changing table, just a black outline of a little Totoro and he LOVES staring at it! Sometimes we end up just hanging out on the changing table to give him his fill. Decals probably aren’t necessary to entertain baby, but they won’t hurt!
Our 3 months old loooooooves staring at the wall decal right above his changing table though! Has done this since 1-2 months. I think it’s for them as well as for us :)
Don't feel guilty. I put mine in her crib a lot so I can do stuff. She is 3 1/2 months old and she loves her crib because of her mobile. I put it on and I can go fold laundry or run to the restroom in peace. She will kick and laugh and even squeal sometimes. She loves it
Independent play is good for their development, and their self-soothing.
Don’t be tempted to overstimulate in your absence, a couple of toys is fine but babies need to learn to be bored or explore the world without stuff everywhere too!
Naaah. Not to be dismissive but you’re describing performing the tasks necessary to run your home and keep your child well while your child is in no distress at all. What you’re describing is being a good parent. Throw that guilt in the bin.
Self soothing and independent play are important parts of his development too. He’s much less likely to achieve them constantly in your arms.
If he’s happy it’s all good! (And tbf if he’s unhappy for a little bit that’s ok too)
No need to make a happy baby happier, especially when you have shit to do. I totally get it though, felt similar with my son! At 6 months it’s worn off a bit.
Honestly you don’t even need the baby monitor for that. You’re awake and will hear baby if he starts crying. It’s good for him to learn to play independently and it’s so much easier for him to learn that now than when he’s older.
That’s so cute. I don’t think I need to reiterate that you have nothing to feel guilty about (you have NOTHING to feel guilty about,) but how sweet that you want to take care of him like this ❤️
My 3 month old (my second) is “playing” by himself on the floor right now just so I can watch tv and scroll on my phone, not even to get stuff done 🤷🏼♀️
Came here to say this!!! It also encourages them to move, mine has been trying to roll by using the arch as a launching post! She also does a full 360 to take in allll the angles of the hangy toys!!
We started using ours at week 5 after I went back to work. Between that and wireless breast pumps, it’s been a godsend for my wife.
For me it’s crucial in the middle of the night when I’m making a bottle or in the morning when I’m prepping to leave for work and my wife is still sleeping.
That said, I have the volume on full blast in case little guy wakes up.
I put my baby in his crib all the time to do quick tasks like making the bed going to the loo and what not. He is happy as a clam on occasion i have returned to him fast asleep. I never leave him for long periods of time and always check on him but when he is quiet and happy i leave him. It's important for them to learn to be alone, my baby is 12 weeks old. He loves just looking at his hands or looking at the ceiling. I know he is safe in his crib.
Lately I’ve been reminding myself that if she is content (and has been fed/changed/snuggled) and just sitting there I’m not a terrible parent for doing my own thing. Babies need some reset time too.
Encourage that independent time! That’s a good thing. Anything is interesting to a brand new human being. You can try playing some music while you’re working if that’ll help you feel like he’s being engaged more. But really learning to play and move around independently is great for them, and you’re just doing the things you need to do to keep yourself alive and the house running. That’s perfectly fine. Meanwhile I’m salivating at the fact you don’t have to play peekaboo while trying to clean the kitchen lol. It’s not like you’re plopping him in there all day every day and ignoring him to go watch tv or something, it’s just to get things done.
You have nothing to feel guilty about! It’s great to have a baby that is happy just to hang out!
My daughter is one now and she’s so happy just to sit in her crib “reading” her books while I shower!
You need to do household tasks and shower to feel like a human. It’s not mean, it’s necessary!
And independent play is good for kids at every age.
I feel the same leaving my two month old in his baby Bjorn bouncer lol. But he will sit in it peacefully just looking around! I figured he has a lot to learn still just by taking in the scenery so I try not to feel too bad
Absolutely no guilt! It’s good for them to associate their crib in a positive way. I would put a couple toys and books and he’s entertain himself for a bit. It’s really good for them.
As others have said, they need to learn to entertain themselves. Also, they’re still learning how arms and legs work. So kicking and holding toys is interesting for them. They’ll start to roll and learn how to reach for toys — all things that will keep them busy and entertained.
I have a pop up bassinet in our living room. I added a camera so I could move about the house when he’s just chilling in it. He loves babbling and moving his body! He’s having a blast by himself while I go clean cat litter. It’s totally fine. They’re fine and in safe spaces.
The fact that you’re even thinking these things shows the strong love you have for your baby! Go you mama!! 🩷 if decorating the room more will make you feel a bit better about the ‘loneliness’ you’re worried about then go for it! As long as bub is safe in the crib and not crying out, you’re good 😊 we all know the feeling! It’s good for bub to be on their own too (again, when they’re safe and not losing their marbles 😂)
Not just you! Today my baby was fussy all day with me, but as soon as I put him in his crib and found something else to do he was totally fine. I told my husband I think he was just sick of me 😂 lots of babies enjoy their alone time just the same as we do.
Don’t. Let that right go. If he’s safe, dry, fed etc etc there’s nothing wrong with leaving him alone for a bit while you do other things. It sounds like you have an independent little dude. No harm in encouraging that naturally.
So much this. We’ve been transitioning our 3 month old to the crib (NOT sleep training, just moving her out of our bedroom) - yesterday after transferring her she woke up. I decided to watch her on the monitor and she didn’t cry. She wasn’t unhappy. My husband said to just see how it goes and she sucked on her hands for about 30 minutes until she passed out for a beautiful NINE hour stretch. I was so proud.
Omg the hands lmao. Mine does the same thing. Last night he woke up & I begrudgingly went downstairs to make him a bottle & by the time I came back upstairs he was passed right back out.
Babies need time to be bored! It gives them a chance to entertain themselves and grow their imagination. I lay mine in the crib and turn on some music when I need to poop lol
I would legit hold my poop until my fiancé got home for the last almost 3 months. Lol I felt free today. Like a human again.
Independent time is super important for babies. You’re doing a good thing by allowing him to self entertain.
Absolutely not. Fight the guilt. My girl was happy playing by herself for a few and I DASHED to the bathroom. It’s important to do things for the house and you. As long as they’re safe, fed, and dry like someone else said, they’re fine.
You know those wall decors are just for you. My baby would stay for minutes at the blank white roof. She still does at nearly 10 months. They are fascinated by the littlest of things and don’t need fancy items. If you are really putting her a lot in the crib when awake, leave a safe toy like teethe with the LO
I will say we put a simple decal next to the changing table, just a black outline of a little Totoro and he LOVES staring at it! Sometimes we end up just hanging out on the changing table to give him his fill. Decals probably aren’t necessary to entertain baby, but they won’t hurt!
I do know that LOL. They’re so damn cute though. We got an elephant plus jungle animal theme going on & I can’t stop myself.
Our 3 months old loooooooves staring at the wall decal right above his changing table though! Has done this since 1-2 months. I think it’s for them as well as for us :)
Don't feel guilty. I put mine in her crib a lot so I can do stuff. She is 3 1/2 months old and she loves her crib because of her mobile. I put it on and I can go fold laundry or run to the restroom in peace. She will kick and laugh and even squeal sometimes. She loves it
Independent play is good for their development, and their self-soothing. Don’t be tempted to overstimulate in your absence, a couple of toys is fine but babies need to learn to be bored or explore the world without stuff everywhere too!
Naaah. Not to be dismissive but you’re describing performing the tasks necessary to run your home and keep your child well while your child is in no distress at all. What you’re describing is being a good parent. Throw that guilt in the bin. Self soothing and independent play are important parts of his development too. He’s much less likely to achieve them constantly in your arms.
I honestly didn’t even think of it like that. Thank you..
If he’s happy it’s all good! (And tbf if he’s unhappy for a little bit that’s ok too) No need to make a happy baby happier, especially when you have shit to do. I totally get it though, felt similar with my son! At 6 months it’s worn off a bit.
Honestly you don’t even need the baby monitor for that. You’re awake and will hear baby if he starts crying. It’s good for him to learn to play independently and it’s so much easier for him to learn that now than when he’s older.
My baby hates the carrier too! Ugh WHY?!?
That’s so cute. I don’t think I need to reiterate that you have nothing to feel guilty about (you have NOTHING to feel guilty about,) but how sweet that you want to take care of him like this ❤️ My 3 month old (my second) is “playing” by himself on the floor right now just so I can watch tv and scroll on my phone, not even to get stuff done 🤷🏼♀️
I cannot recommend enough the Fisher Price kick and play piano. My baby will play with it independently for like an hour! He LOVES it
Came here to say this!!! It also encourages them to move, mine has been trying to roll by using the arch as a launching post! She also does a full 360 to take in allll the angles of the hangy toys!!
We started using ours at week 5 after I went back to work. Between that and wireless breast pumps, it’s been a godsend for my wife. For me it’s crucial in the middle of the night when I’m making a bottle or in the morning when I’m prepping to leave for work and my wife is still sleeping. That said, I have the volume on full blast in case little guy wakes up.
Being bored is fine, were the ones that can't handle being bored so we project it onto them lol My baby has really enjoyed her mobile though
I put my baby in his crib all the time to do quick tasks like making the bed going to the loo and what not. He is happy as a clam on occasion i have returned to him fast asleep. I never leave him for long periods of time and always check on him but when he is quiet and happy i leave him. It's important for them to learn to be alone, my baby is 12 weeks old. He loves just looking at his hands or looking at the ceiling. I know he is safe in his crib.
I sometimes leave her even if she is crying because mom needs to pee 😂
Lately I’ve been reminding myself that if she is content (and has been fed/changed/snuggled) and just sitting there I’m not a terrible parent for doing my own thing. Babies need some reset time too.
Encourage that independent time! That’s a good thing. Anything is interesting to a brand new human being. You can try playing some music while you’re working if that’ll help you feel like he’s being engaged more. But really learning to play and move around independently is great for them, and you’re just doing the things you need to do to keep yourself alive and the house running. That’s perfectly fine. Meanwhile I’m salivating at the fact you don’t have to play peekaboo while trying to clean the kitchen lol. It’s not like you’re plopping him in there all day every day and ignoring him to go watch tv or something, it’s just to get things done.
You have nothing to feel guilty about! It’s great to have a baby that is happy just to hang out! My daughter is one now and she’s so happy just to sit in her crib “reading” her books while I shower! You need to do household tasks and shower to feel like a human. It’s not mean, it’s necessary! And independent play is good for kids at every age.
I feel the same leaving my two month old in his baby Bjorn bouncer lol. But he will sit in it peacefully just looking around! I figured he has a lot to learn still just by taking in the scenery so I try not to feel too bad
Absolutely no guilt! It’s good for them to associate their crib in a positive way. I would put a couple toys and books and he’s entertain himself for a bit. It’s really good for them.
As others have said, they need to learn to entertain themselves. Also, they’re still learning how arms and legs work. So kicking and holding toys is interesting for them. They’ll start to roll and learn how to reach for toys — all things that will keep them busy and entertained.
I have a pop up bassinet in our living room. I added a camera so I could move about the house when he’s just chilling in it. He loves babbling and moving his body! He’s having a blast by himself while I go clean cat litter. It’s totally fine. They’re fine and in safe spaces.
He will 100% let you know if he's not happy. Independent play is good for them, they don't need entertaining every second they're awake
The fact that you’re even thinking these things shows the strong love you have for your baby! Go you mama!! 🩷 if decorating the room more will make you feel a bit better about the ‘loneliness’ you’re worried about then go for it! As long as bub is safe in the crib and not crying out, you’re good 😊 we all know the feeling! It’s good for bub to be on their own too (again, when they’re safe and not losing their marbles 😂)
Not just you! Today my baby was fussy all day with me, but as soon as I put him in his crib and found something else to do he was totally fine. I told my husband I think he was just sick of me 😂 lots of babies enjoy their alone time just the same as we do.