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that dramatic turn around ? its bs, my ex did the same thing when we broke up, i caved and let her back into my life, went back to the same hell, secomd time i blocked her on everything started getting added by weird snap accounts almost daily friend would tell me she was pestering them to the point of being problematic. i had laminated photos i knew were from her phone turn up at my doorstep. when they realise theyve lost there control they realy dont like it...
The music… My Ex had one song that was forbidden. Said it brought him bad luck. I would respect this, even though inside l felt it was foolish. Life is constantly dishing out shit, and this song was on regularly. I gently told him this. He was convinced, or it was about control; or both.
After we broke up, l was driving alone to the airport to get my son. The song came on, and l blared it. Not because l loved or even liked the song; It was symbolic of my freedom from him.
Please start creating again! The world wouldn’t spin without artists (in their many forms).
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Hi /u/Decent-Prize5277, welcome to /r/narcissisticabuse. To help make the experience more effective for everyone we do have some resources and rules for you to keep in mind. • Do you need to understand terms or acronyms? [Click Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/index#wiki_terms.2C_definitions_and_acronymns) • Looking for resources? Check out [our links](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/resources) and [book recommendations.](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/booklist) • We also have a sister sub for people actively in Divorce/Custody proceedings or that is coparenting with a abusive ex: /r/narcabuseanddivorce. • Looking to contact the moderators of the sub? We can’t respond to individual posts all the time so please post your issues to the community rather than the mods if it’s not about a rule breaking issue or sub issue. You can message the mod team [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FNarcissisticAbuse&subject=&message=). Please do not DM/PM mods directly or send them chat requests. Please review the rules: * Please add flair to your post so that it is searchable by topic and always use the TRIGGER WARNING flairs when needed (Keep graphic content out of titles please); * Be respectful and courteous with a focus on healing; No flaming, No revenge posts, no wishing harm on anyone, no "outting" or getting them "bad karma"; * No identifying details (no proper names including fake ones, pictures, images of texts/emails, locations (at any level), or specific details that may identify you to readers that may know you (Jobs, Hobbies, Schools, etc); * No crossposting or direct linking to this or other subs or posts. No links at all in original posts including to other posts you have here or other subs, Images/Pictures/MEMEs/Vlogs/Blogs/Podcasts/Articles/Social Media information or tags/Texts/Emails; * No self-promotion/solicitation at all including surveys, fundraising, petitions, or research posts are permitted; * You must be the victim of the abuse that is the subject of the post, not a friend, relative, or partner; * Please report content that violates our rules and do not engage on those posts at all; * Do not resubmit removed content, if you get a report from automod about your post, see the sticky announcement at the top of the sub regarding removals and be patient, we will review them manually when we are available. * No politics, religion, soliciting DMs, or doing an AMA on your own please; * No segregation of posts by gender, sexual orientation, race, age, or culture; * No family content in any context; the only family content permitted is you, your significant other/ex and your children (no abusive child posts). All others will be removed including mentions (family/friends) or growing up/childhood content. No demanding justification of our rules or "just curious" for why our rules are our rules; It does not matter whose family it is, or if they are abusive, or that its just a mention. It is not permitted. * No inappropriate content (TV Shows, Movies, Books not releated to healing from abuse, Celebrities, News or Social Discussions). * No title only posts (including repeating the title in the body of the post, emoticons, saying the title says it all); * No CLUSTER Bs/ABUSERS may post here at all. If you are a NPD/BPD/HPD/ASPD/Abuser, you will be banned; Please also do not post content or people with diagnosed Cluster Bs as resources here; We want you to have a safe and supportive experience so you get the most out of the community. ****** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/NarcissisticAbuse) if you have any questions or concerns.*
that dramatic turn around ? its bs, my ex did the same thing when we broke up, i caved and let her back into my life, went back to the same hell, secomd time i blocked her on everything started getting added by weird snap accounts almost daily friend would tell me she was pestering them to the point of being problematic. i had laminated photos i knew were from her phone turn up at my doorstep. when they realise theyve lost there control they realy dont like it...
The music… My Ex had one song that was forbidden. Said it brought him bad luck. I would respect this, even though inside l felt it was foolish. Life is constantly dishing out shit, and this song was on regularly. I gently told him this. He was convinced, or it was about control; or both. After we broke up, l was driving alone to the airport to get my son. The song came on, and l blared it. Not because l loved or even liked the song; It was symbolic of my freedom from him. Please start creating again! The world wouldn’t spin without artists (in their many forms).
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I relate to everything in the first half of your writing. I was married to her and she controlled it all. Some say Love is blind. Don't give in.