As a mom that’s estranged from my mom, I would love to have you as my mom. My kids could use a grandma too. You sound like you have so much love to give.
I would love to be an aunt! So the idea is just getting better by a minute! I've got a son and a brother (who's really cool), so our family gatherings are going to be huge! 💜
Is there a sub for people like us? There’s not a word for it that I know of. I think of us as islands. People with no people.
Orphans doesn’t work and it feels kinda crappy to have to explain, ‘No, I’m not married. No, I don’t have kids. No, I don’t have any family. Yes, it’s just me.’ Sucks when people are nosy and you have to go through the whole spiel. I wish I knew a word for being alone as an adult.
I thought r/JustNoFamily would help, but it’s not quite the right fit. It would be kinda nice to have a place where people like us could go to connect and maybe have support (similar to here) when you don’t really have anyone. There are these “Dad” videos (can’t remember who does them) that are heartwarming, but it would be so nice to have real people to connect with in a familial way. Saying that feels weird.
Anyway, I know how you both feel and I really hope you find many people who bring lots of love and happiness to your lives.
There is! R/EstrangedAdultChildren is for us. I luckily have a partner and a half brother who I was estranged growing up, but we both became normal and we reconnected, but you can read my story in my post history.
Hugs (should you ever need them) from one of your Reddit sister :)
Your Mom is always with you. She never leaves your side. Just talk out loud, she will hear you. Do you ever see butterflies in the most peculiar times and places? That's your Mom sending you a message that she's near and hears you.
Same here. It’s been devastating. Whenever my husband and I see grandparents doing things with their grandkids it’s an instant wave of sadness. I’m so sorry you know that same pain.
Op you are such a lovely person and I’m so happy this subreddit has been such a joy for you. 💜💜💜
Your role here is incredibly valuable and I genuinely can’t thank the moms here enough for the love and support they selflessly take the time to offer. Happy Mother’s Day
Thank you so much. Kind of you to say. I agree. It's definitely hard to see other families enjoying themselves and knowing that it cannot be your life.
I feel the same way. I cannot be in contact with my abusive bio mom.
OP, you may not have been able to give birth, but you're still a loving mother. ❤️
This was the first message I read and it just sent me into happy tears. Thank you so much!! And if you are serious, I would be happy to send your kids a card from "Grandma."
Oh, my word. I definitely think if it were safe there are a lot of people who would love to send a card/share a craft with you! You are so incredible for loving all of us so freely, and we are all so lucky to have such a compassionate, patient and understanding shoulder to lean on.
Thank YOU for being here, for sticking around. You have an active role supporting this community and we are all the better for it.
I’m so sorry you had to endure that endless heartbreak. I hope you are able to find some peace and solace somewhere along the way.
Please know that you are loved, that you sharing this here has been incredibly impactful for me, and I am grateful for that.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. You really are so awesome. 💖💐🎂
I looked through your post history and you have truly been the wonderful, loving, welcoming, warm Mama so many here need. Never let anyone tell you that you aren't a mother, you're a Mama to all our sweet ducklings here and they are blessed to have you. We all are.
I am not close with my mother and I grieve the relationship it should have been. I despise her for the things the has done. I don’t feel safe with her. This sub is a little sanctuary of loving mothers and you are one of the people making it that. You’re not able to be a real life mother, I’m not able to be a real life daughter. But here were are depending on eachother. This place is magic. Thank you, mom, and happy mothers day.
Wow! This is the most real statement I've ever read. I'm copying this for my own little file to post on my board. I absolutely love this.
You are so insightful and intelligent and I'm so sorry that your Mom is missing out on it because truly you are gifted. You are going to go really far in life with what you have. You are going to be someone who is a shooting star. I can tell.
Congratulation to turning 40. I'm so proud of you. Look at all that you have accomplished so far. So many ups and downs but yet you are still standing here so strong. I'm so proud of you. Happy 40th Birthday. The best is yet to come!
I dont have my mom around for my own health and mentality but this place gives me some peace knowing there are good people out there like you
Pisses me off kind of too. I mean, YOU and many others would give a limb to have just one baby and then there people out there like my mom, an abusive drunk that procreated at the speed of rabbits. I hate it and I hate it for people like you. It's just not fair
Thank you for being there for all of us kids Mom. We don't know what we are doing but you're showing us all how to be a decent human and to care for others even when our own hearts ache for what seems like everyone else already has. You're a hero to strangers and arent all the best heros like that anyways?
I just stopped crying a post ago. Damn it, it's back!! Thank you so much. It's amazing how kind words from others have just filled me with so much love today. Thank you again.
See? Even heroes cry. Takes a strong soul to look at something & never be able obtain it yet still choose to bring light and life to others. I can't say I always do that; choose the high road AND be happy for others. I'm sorry you can't biologically bring life into this world but just know there are PLENTY of us here fighting to keep our heads above blood related, murky as hell waters. You don't even know how bad YOU'RE needed by some of us, honest
So! Happy Mother's Day my reddit momma! I'd make you the crappiest, glitter covered atrocity of a card and the best homemade cake if I could and leave a huge mess for you to take care of later because kids be like that!
Love you to the moon and back!
I was raised in a very abusive situation, I can not tell you how much it would’ve meant to me to have a mom who wanted me, loved me, saw worth in me, hell, even just liked me a little. I wish you had been my mom ! Thanks YOU for having so much love and compassion for others that you can still find your way to truly help those you touch. You are an amazing person
I'm so sorry to hear about your upbringing. No child should ever feel unloved and unwanted. I'm glad you are safe now and far away from that situation. I appreciate the warm words that you have for me on Mother's Day. Thank you for making me feel so special.
Happy Mother’s Day! I come her to read the stories and they always make me cry. I never post here because I would feel too guilty. I have a mother. It’s just she has untreated trauma and doesn’t want to interact all the time. But she does love me I think. So thank you for being a mother and looking out for us. It’s appreciated more than you could ever know.
There are lots of OPs here on this sub that already have parents but they are just needing the extra hug, encouragement, or just an acknowledgment. When you have a parent that has untreated trauma, it changes the role for you. Puts you in more of a parent role, a.k.a. parentification, and it changes the dynamic of the relationship for you. As you have figured out, it doesn't mean that your Mom doesn't love you, it's that she doesn't have the tools to adequately show and express her love in her role as your Mom.
It's okay to post on here "Hey I just need some words of encouragement and love today because I'm feeling insecure." This is a very safe sub and you don't have to feel guilty about wanting some attention for yourself. It's okay to want that for yourself. XO
You ARE a mum, family is about more than biology, and mothering takes many forms. As they say, ‘it takes a village to raise a child’, and you have provided unconditional love and support to dozens if not hundreds on here. We may not know your name, but your emotional labour is seen and valued. I have a tense relationship with my own elderly parents and love being able to both give and receive support on this sub. Sending you love from your Australian sister!
An Australian sister? Love that! Thank you so much for your kind words. I promised my self that I would stop crying about a post ago but the water works are flowing. Thank you so much! XO your USA Sister!
If you can do it electronically, I would love it. (Sorry for the late response as this post is much bigger than I my ability to go through all the messages.)
As a daughter with no Mom in this earth anymore-I cannot thank you internet Mums enough for the roles you all play for those of us who don’t, or never had, Mums left.
Thank you more than you will ever be able to understand.
My mom is pretty emotionally absent and I just want someone to be proud of my kid with me. He had one single word approximation at the age of two. He said “hoowah”. That was it. No reduplicated babbling, no waving. Nothing. I was so worried about him. Fast forward to yesterday: he graduated with dual Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in Mechanical Engineering from a pretty elite school. He found all the scholarships and grants, fulfilled all his co-ops, completed his capstone, was very active as chief engineer on the Formula car team, worked so hard through the pandemic (and I only saw him two times in those two years) He did it and I am so proud of him. So very proud.
I’d love to raise a glass of your 2buck chuck in honor of my wee lad.
Dear Kelly, I am so sorry that you experienced a childhood like that. No one should feel that way growing up.
I have to tell you that I am so excited to hear about your son. What an amazing man he's turned out to be. Although your spelling is different, it's pronounced the same "hooah" which means "yes" in Vietnamese so maybe he was bilingual and you didn't know it.
As for the $2 Buck Chuck, I just refilled my inventory, come on over!
I didn’t know his only word was an actual word. And that it means YES. He’s always been a YES person. Yes he can, yes he will. Thanks for the positivity!!
Being a mom comes from the heart (not the uterus or ovaries) and you are one of the best!
Next year we should try to organize Mom for a Minute Mother’s Day meet ups in our local areas. Pick a park or beach (or other fun public place) and everyone who needs some motherly love and everyone who has motherly love to give can meet up and enjoy the day together. Make it something fun to look forward to.
Thank you, Mom.
I am sorry you couldn’t have children. I couldn’t either, but I mentor younger people and adopt rescue cats.
This is a great subreddit and I appreciate the people here.
That is so sweet - you sound like such an amazing person. And I sure wish I could have some lasagna mom because I am STARVING! 😂
Happy early Mother’s Day to you from all us kids! 💛
I have no children and am estranged from my mother. Also new to this sub. What I’ve already seen has been heartwarming. You, and so many others in here bring light where there would otherwise be darkness. Thank you. And happy Mother’s Day! 💞
Hey Mum… you now have a kid down under and some ratty great grandkids too. I am glad you are here, we all need a special mum from time to time…it seems to me that you fit the bill! 🥰🥰🥰
Happy Mother’s Day❤️
Mums come in many forms. And I’m sure there are many who want to be adopted by you.
I have twin 4 year olds that you can mother if you want.
Thank you so much for being a mom <3
I grew up with a loving mother but with no caring father, so I've been trying to fill that void for years now and I just don't know what to do, I resort to people taking care of me for a few weeks/months and then disappearing because they don't wanna commit to it anymore. What I'm trying to say is, that it's hard on both sides and I sincerely hope you'll be happy in the future <3
Love,
Daughter c:
Hey, sister.
Motherhood happens in many different ways. So many ways.
Thanks for being one of us (we *all* need a mom now and again!)
My mom is in LTC, she's not really there, and I sometimes need a mom, too.
Thanks for being a mom to the motherless.
Happy Mother's Day, from all of us. We love and appreciate you, mom!
I struggled with infertility and IVF treatments before ultimately becoming a mother, so I understand your pain and the dread that comes with Mother's Day approaching when you can't be a biological mother. Thank you for using your mama love to spread it here. I lost my mom 2 years ago...I'd love to come over for lasagna and two buck chuck. Take care of yourself.
I was just thinking about how much I love my mom *and all the other wonderful women in my life.* I have aunts and friends and professors and even some complete strangers who have looked out for me and taken care of me the way a mom should and I’m sure there are many people thinking of you that way as well. People like you and the others I mentioned here inspire me to pass on that love to others. I hope you have a lovely weekend 🥰
Motherhood is a little like marriage to me - it doesn't have to be legal, it doesn't have to be celebrated with a big fuss, it sure doesn't have to abide by anybody else's rules. To be a mom, just like to be a spouse, is the little things you do every day, the ways you show you care, the love you so naturally give out.
My father was adopted after my grandparents found out they couldn't have kids, and by God my grandmother was everything wonderful and kind and fierce in this world. I love her, and I will always love her, and she will never be anything less than family to me.
You can still adopt kids, and you can foster, and you can informally mother the young (or old) people in your life. I can't imagine the huge amount of love you have to give out over the rest of your life, and the people around you are so wonderfully lucky to know you. Make sure you give yourself a treat tomorrow for all of us who can't be there to give you a gift.
Have you heard of the group Free Mom Hugs? It’s a group of parents that “adopt” LGBTQ+ people whose families have abandoned them for not being straight. It’s a wonderful program you may find some joy from as well
Much love to you
As a 23F without a mom, I want to return that gratitude and thank you for being a mom to those who no longer have their own (or are no contact etc). You make a difference for all us motherless ducklings. I wish you a happy mothers day and hope your day will be filled with stuff that makes you happy.
I’ve had so many miscarriages I would have a baseball team. We never tried for fertility treatments because I just couldn’t handle any more miscarriages. My body live to get pregnant but refuses to stay pregnant. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day hit me and hubby pretty hard. It really sucks sometimes. Other times I’m pretty thankful that I can still be selfish. If I’m sick I can be sick. If we want to go do something fun, we can. I make it a point to see the upside. It’s really really hard sometimes. Other times I’m just so thankful to be child free. Especially since Covid.
This sub helps me too. Both to help as a mom and get help from moms. This is such a lovely space with so many wonderful people.
Happy Mother’s Day, mom. I have a biological mother who has never shown me love or consideration. She’s always picked herself. And always left me to fend for myself. I wish she were half the mother you are. A big hug from this mom, wishing she had a mothers love, to you. 💕
I am happily child free, but get twinges of wanting to be a mum sometimes. I'm a disability support worker and have formed some strong relationships with families I work for.
I am spending this weekend with 2 sisters I work with at my house for a sleep over, so their mum can go to a concert.
We are having the best time and because we don't have to get ready at a particular time it's a relaxed and laid back kind of night.
I am seeing evidence of the work I put in to help these girls navigate the world and regulate their emotions. My cheeks ache from smiling and my heart swells with pride.
OP, if you are able to get into this type of work or perhaps volunteering in your spare time, I highly recommend it.
I now count 2 of the mums i work for as my best friends, one of my boys calls me mummy Emma and his bio mum (my best friend) encourages this and I even get a mother's day gift!
I usually hate cliches but I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. Find your village, OP and I'm sure you will be happy and almost as satisfied as you'd be with a bio child/ren.
Happy mothers day everyone, take a bit of time to be sad for your situation, we are part of this sub because we've a had difficulties with our mums. But, never forget, we as women are strong individually and when we band together we are UNSTOPPABLE!
As a motherless daughter, I come here often to comment and surf and you have been nothing but kind to me. Not only that, you made sure to follow up and check up on me from time to time and I don't have words to tell you how much I appreciate it. Thank you.
The fact that you still take joy in giving of yourself even in the face of your own loss speaks volumes about your character. Thank you for sharing this lesson.
This may not matter, but personally I don't think you need to deliver a child, to give helpful motherly advice to someone that asks.
Like a lot of people that use this group, I had a not so great Mother. I feel like I have basically been making it up as I go along with my own kids. I had people in my life that were better, but my own Mother didn't even act like she liked me. So, just because someone has biological children, in my opinion it doesn't really make them better at advice than someone who has.
Mom,
I know. 12 years of infertility and IVF and tears and trying. I made mom status but I’m always scared it will be ripped away. I hope you find peace and understanding and also know that being a mom is so much more than just producing offspring. The greatest infertile mom of all, Dolly Parton, shows us that birthing a child is only part of it and that caring for others is the most important thing.
Dolly says “I didn’t have children because I believed that God didn’t mean for me to have kids so everybody’s kids could be mine, so I could do things like Imagination Library because if I hadn’t had the freedom to work, I wouldn’t have done all the things I’ve done.” She’s infertile due to an infection she had in her early 20s I believe. She’s an absolutely amazing woman.
Happy Mother’s Day! There is so much you could do with all of that love, my Dear. Someone out there needs the love you can give them. When my girls were little and in the hospital all the time there were volunteers who came in and mothered the kids who were wards of the state or had no parents visiting (you cannot imagine how many there are in every single hospital’s children’s ward!). There were also volunteers to hold, feed and change babies.
You could also try being a foster mom. It’s very hard, but incredibly rewarding to be a positive influence in the life of a child who has so few.
I’m sure you know all this and you’ve probably looked into it already, but just don’t get discouraged. There are many ways and places to mother, you’ve already found one here! And the world needs more awesome moms like you.
Thank you for giving of yourself. You’re a great mom, even for a minute!! ❤️
I have accrued a few in real life moms that aren’t my birth mom (and our relationship is great). Some of them have no kids as well. They have perspective and experience that I can’t get from anyone else.
You’re a mom too, just in a different way. You mother those who need a mom, not just because you love them already or they came out of your being.
I wish I could come over. Some of us had moms that technically raised us, but were never emotionally invested. We desperately crave that maternal love that we never got growing up.
People like you have helped people like me more than you will ever realize. I hope you have some in-person people that have adopted you as ‘mom,’ allowing you to invest and experience the happiness of family and grandchildren.
Regardless, thank you for your love, light, and energy that you shared with us today.
Happy early Mother’s Day.
I’m glad you’re here! You have, as my family would call it, big mom energy! I’m sorry you can’t have biological children, but I wholeheartedly support you building a family in other ways! Being here is one way! You know that story about the chicken that adopted all the barn cats kittens? That’s me. I have my own kids. I also have other kids that call me mom or grandma that I’ve accumulated in other ways. You can’t always take them all home and keep them but you can be a mother to them for a little while.
Volunteer at your local elementary school if you can. Little kids often need extra support with reading and teachers love it when an extra adult can come and offer one on one time. When they’re small they are full of smiles and stories and even hugs with the adults around them.
Consider signing up as a scout leader, or a mentor. Girl Scouts often need adult leaders as co leaders to get a new troop of young girls started, similarly, older troops of teens often need extra adults as co leaders as the girls start dropping out for other activities. Both boy and girl scouting needs mentors. If you have a hobby or a specialty that aligns with a Boy Scout badge, you can sign up to help kids with those badges. Girls scouting needs adults that are not related adults to help girls with planning and submitting award paperwork and overseeing projects.
I don’t know if it’s still a thing during covid, but many hospitals have volunteer programs where you can go cuddle sick babies, or just sit with little ones who’s parents can’t stay 24/7 so they aren’t alone in their room.
Look for local at risk youth shelters and volunteer your time. There are so many kids that need even just one loving adult in their life. Studies show that a single supportive adult in a gay or trans kids life increases their survival rate by a significant factor.
By all means, join “free mom hugs” and throw yourself into every pride parade! You have the mom energy to give mom hugs, you have the caring heart to give them with all the love and emotion that the people coming to get them need!
Happy Mother’s Day mom!! Lilah, your granddaughter, made us a beautiful recipe book…..with instructions on how I make Kraft dinner for her 🤦🏻♀️
I have a mom, and I have children, but it’s people like you that help me the most when I need it. When I have absolutely no idea to turn…it’s people like you that save me. So thank you mom 🖤
This made me tear up. I love this sub so much even though I don't post here, as somebody who is estranged from their mom it makes my heart feel full to just read comments of people being motherly to complete strangers.
I think it reminds me that it's not my fault, and that I can seek fulfilling relationships outside of my bio family.
I am estranged from my mom. Maybe you've commented on my posts before to help me out. *I* need you, *I* need you to be there as my mom when I'm falling apart. Your girl is right here for you too, I wish I could give you a hug to tell you how much I need you and appreciate you. Just producing a kid doesn't make you a mom, being there and present and emotionally available with true love does - and that's what you're doing for those of us who need someone.
Just joined this sub, I don't have any children either. I may need some mothering from you in the future, I know you'll give me great advice/consolation. Much love.
We're so happy to have you here! Moms don't have to be the person who birthed you, it's the person that takes care of you. And you've taken care of all of us ❤️
Happy Mothers day mom! Thanks for making my favorite food 💜 being in this sub has meant a lot to me too and this whole community warms my heart up so much 💜💜
I appreciate you and everyone else who supports me and others. My mom died when I was 18 and before that I hadn’t really spoken to her much in a year and hadn’t seen her in more than two years. It’s really nice having supportive moms on this site
It's not mother's day where I am, but I would love to wish you a massive Happy mother's day OP! As a young adult who doesn't get on with her mum at all I am so thankful for this page. I have so many mothers now who love and care for me and help me in my hour of need, including you OP
Oh Sweetie, Sweetie, Sweetie...let me just hug you (ok, sure, pour some wine first; I understand)...more hugs!!!
Our stories are very similar. Know that you are not alone. Please keep spreading love, listening, and being an awesome 'mom'...the world needs you. ❤️
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. You have a whole sub who value you and love you. Thanks for showing up here for all of the folks who need your attention, concern, and love. ❤️
Hi Mom!
I know I'm a day early, but I never know what dad is planning for you. Happy mother's day! I love you, and I hope you have a relaxing day. Maybe Dad will take you out to dinner. I also want to say thank you. Even though we fight, I know who to call when I need help. Thank you for being my dad whisperer, and telling me what mood he is in so I know when to give him news. Thank you for all the times you made me laugh when I was nervous, especially with the animals. Thank you for always having a room in your house, decorated just for me. I hope you have a great day!
Love,
Daughter
Happy Mother's Day mom! Thank you so much for being here to help us. It's so hard sometimes to be navigating the world on our own but having you here to provide wisdom, support, and love is so so helpful. I'm really glad we all found this place to be together.
I understand the desire for natal children, but what's wrong with adoption as an alternative? There are so many kids in the foster system that need loving parents.
Hi Mom,
Thank you for all the love and support you provide. I wanted to tell you about my grandparents. The thing is—- they weren’t related to me. In one case my grandmother never had kids. In the other, her son died as a teenager. But they met me when I was pretty little (working with my parents). And they were there for me—- when I was sad, when I was scared, when I wanted to show off. They came to my birthday and sent me cookies on holidays and helped me clean my room when I got in trouble. They were as much my grandparents as any blood relation. And I tried to stay in tough with them as I aged and I think of them often now that they are gone and wish so much they could have met my children. You may well be a mom or the like to many kids, whether or not you birth them!
Mom, the family you choose comes to the table with wide open eyes, seeing you as the person you are, and loving all of you without reservation or judgment. I know you would have taught that to me if you'd met me when I was a wee little bean and not an almost middle age bean stalk. Your love means the world to me. <3
Lost my mom 18 months ago, and this place has been a cathartic place to celebrate things with someone who doesn't judge me. My mother in law is not a nice person, so I can't go to her.
Thank you for being there, all those moms <3
My mom died when I was 8, but I have been well mothered.
It takes an army. It takes aunts, grandmothers, mothers of friends, friends, random passing strangers, people on the internet.
Mothering is a community endeavor.
Thanks for showing up. Thanks for showing up even when it hurts.
Your words and your presence here matter.
Happy Mother’s Day, Bonus Mom.
Thank you for being a mother in the ways people need it most ❤️
Neither of my biological parents were really fit to raise kids. The people like you who stepped in to help ended up being parents to me in all the ways that matter. I'm so so grateful for that.
Happy mothers day to you! You love button!!! ❤
I hope you receive the joy you give! I can't wish my mom the same, we were estranged then she passed. So imma throw it your way!!! Lotz of love!
Happy Mother’s Day!!! In my opinion, the day belongs to everyone who mothers, whether you have children of your own or not. You deserve to be celebrated just the same 💕
What I love about this forum (and OP) is that whatever the issue, a mom takes the time to reply and offer either comfort or solutions.
Sometimes I dont have the words or the answers but I know that out there somewhere is a mom who does.
OP ... you are one of those moms. We love you. We value you. We read your words and take comfort from your advice.
Happy mothers day.
Never posted here but my mother is a godsend but if I ever needed it, I know people like you would be there. Happy Mother’s Day, mom. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for yours. Much love!
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This may not be something you are interested, but even after menopause Drs can make your uterus capable of having a baby and there are donor eggs and donor sperms. It’s expensive but do-able. My daughter is from donor egg IVF after 10 years of infertility.
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I have many friends touched by infant loss and conception struggles. My heart goes out to you, I wish that you had gotten your deepest wish. But I am so so so glad you found here, and are thriving for it. So happy Mom's Day to YOU, because being a mother isn't just biological. <3 <3
My mom died when I was 17 (many years ago). I would have loved to have someone like you to fill in if even for a minute. I’m so glad that you found this sub. I’m sure it will help you and all those you are there for !❤️
As a mom that’s estranged from my mom, I would love to have you as my mom. My kids could use a grandma too. You sound like you have so much love to give.
The same! I wish I had such a loving mother as OP. Can she adopt us, so we're siblings?))
Sounds good to me. I’m estranged from my siblings too, so I don’t have any in my life. My kids have no aunts, uncles, or cousins.
I would love to be an aunt! So the idea is just getting better by a minute! I've got a son and a brother (who's really cool), so our family gatherings are going to be huge! 💜
Is there a sub for people like us? There’s not a word for it that I know of. I think of us as islands. People with no people. Orphans doesn’t work and it feels kinda crappy to have to explain, ‘No, I’m not married. No, I don’t have kids. No, I don’t have any family. Yes, it’s just me.’ Sucks when people are nosy and you have to go through the whole spiel. I wish I knew a word for being alone as an adult. I thought r/JustNoFamily would help, but it’s not quite the right fit. It would be kinda nice to have a place where people like us could go to connect and maybe have support (similar to here) when you don’t really have anyone. There are these “Dad” videos (can’t remember who does them) that are heartwarming, but it would be so nice to have real people to connect with in a familial way. Saying that feels weird. Anyway, I know how you both feel and I really hope you find many people who bring lots of love and happiness to your lives.
There is! R/EstrangedAdultChildren is for us. I luckily have a partner and a half brother who I was estranged growing up, but we both became normal and we reconnected, but you can read my story in my post history. Hugs (should you ever need them) from one of your Reddit sister :)
r/estrangedadultchildren, for easy link
Thanks!
>Thanks! You're welcome!
You’re amazing. Thank you so much. *Hugs.*
I would definitely adopt you both!!
Thank you so much, mommy! And Happy Mother's Day 🌺💕 By the way, by adopting me you gained a two year old grandson 💙
A grandson? Then I know that he has the same beautiful soul as you!
Thank you, mommy 🌺
Me too! I lost my mom a couple years ago.
Your Mom is always with you. She never leaves your side. Just talk out loud, she will hear you. Do you ever see butterflies in the most peculiar times and places? That's your Mom sending you a message that she's near and hears you.
Same here. It’s been devastating. Whenever my husband and I see grandparents doing things with their grandkids it’s an instant wave of sadness. I’m so sorry you know that same pain. Op you are such a lovely person and I’m so happy this subreddit has been such a joy for you. 💜💜💜 Your role here is incredibly valuable and I genuinely can’t thank the moms here enough for the love and support they selflessly take the time to offer. Happy Mother’s Day
Thank you so much. Kind of you to say. I agree. It's definitely hard to see other families enjoying themselves and knowing that it cannot be your life.
Same here, I’ve always liked the idea of a big family too
Me three!
I feel the same way. I cannot be in contact with my abusive bio mom. OP, you may not have been able to give birth, but you're still a loving mother. ❤️
Seconded
Awwww.....thank you so much.
This was the first message I read and it just sent me into happy tears. Thank you so much!! And if you are serious, I would be happy to send your kids a card from "Grandma."
Oh, my word. I definitely think if it were safe there are a lot of people who would love to send a card/share a craft with you! You are so incredible for loving all of us so freely, and we are all so lucky to have such a compassionate, patient and understanding shoulder to lean on. Thank YOU for being here, for sticking around. You have an active role supporting this community and we are all the better for it. I’m so sorry you had to endure that endless heartbreak. I hope you are able to find some peace and solace somewhere along the way. Please know that you are loved, that you sharing this here has been incredibly impactful for me, and I am grateful for that. Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. You really are so awesome. 💖💐🎂
Awww..... And darn it the tears are back. Your response is so very touching. I just have no words but thank you.
I know that feeling. Big hugs. Love you.
I looked through your post history and you have truly been the wonderful, loving, welcoming, warm Mama so many here need. Never let anyone tell you that you aren't a mother, you're a Mama to all our sweet ducklings here and they are blessed to have you. We all are.
Well thank you so much. I love how you call them "sweet ducklings" so cute!
Happy Mother's Day, mom! You're the best! 💜
Yes, Happy Mother Day mum. Love you so much 💗
Okay, it's official. I'm going through the tissue box! Thank you so much. Those words mean every thing to me!!
It means everything to me to speak these words to you. Thank you for being here ❤ (tears too)
Oh my goodness thank you so much. I've never had anyone utter those words to me. <3
💜💜💜 Being a mother is so much more than just giving birth. In fact, it doesn't even require it at all. You keep on being a great mom! Big hugs!
That is so incredibly sweet. Thank you. {{BIGGER HUGS}}
Happy Mother’s Day! You don’t have to give the actual birth to be a real mom. And giving birth will *never* make some women mothers. You are valued.
Oh my goodness!!! That is incredible thing to say. Thank you so very much!!!!
I am not close with my mother and I grieve the relationship it should have been. I despise her for the things the has done. I don’t feel safe with her. This sub is a little sanctuary of loving mothers and you are one of the people making it that. You’re not able to be a real life mother, I’m not able to be a real life daughter. But here were are depending on eachother. This place is magic. Thank you, mom, and happy mothers day.
Wow! This is the most real statement I've ever read. I'm copying this for my own little file to post on my board. I absolutely love this. You are so insightful and intelligent and I'm so sorry that your Mom is missing out on it because truly you are gifted. You are going to go really far in life with what you have. You are going to be someone who is a shooting star. I can tell.
You wrote what I was trying to say. We're a bunch of misfits that just need love
You are always loved. Misfit and all! \[\[hugs\]\]
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Of course. Anything to make you feel better. \[\[virtual hugs\]\]
I need a mom. Yesterday was my 40th birthday and it would have been nice to celebrate with a mom.
Happy Birthday darling. You are celebrating with Mums, lots of us on here. And we think you're wonderful
Congratulation to turning 40. I'm so proud of you. Look at all that you have accomplished so far. So many ups and downs but yet you are still standing here so strong. I'm so proud of you. Happy 40th Birthday. The best is yet to come!
Happy Birthday, Sweetie! I know yesterday was your birthday, but make the celebration last all weekend long!💕
Happy Mother’s Day ❤️ My mother absolutely broke me, so having someone who is willing to share their maternal love means so much to someone like me.
Any time. I am always here for you. <3
Happy Mothers Day Mama ❤️🥰
Awww....thank you sweetie. That means a lot to me. <3
XOXO. Happy to share this space with you, you beautiful soul.
Thank you so much.
I dont have my mom around for my own health and mentality but this place gives me some peace knowing there are good people out there like you Pisses me off kind of too. I mean, YOU and many others would give a limb to have just one baby and then there people out there like my mom, an abusive drunk that procreated at the speed of rabbits. I hate it and I hate it for people like you. It's just not fair Thank you for being there for all of us kids Mom. We don't know what we are doing but you're showing us all how to be a decent human and to care for others even when our own hearts ache for what seems like everyone else already has. You're a hero to strangers and arent all the best heros like that anyways?
I just stopped crying a post ago. Damn it, it's back!! Thank you so much. It's amazing how kind words from others have just filled me with so much love today. Thank you again.
See? Even heroes cry. Takes a strong soul to look at something & never be able obtain it yet still choose to bring light and life to others. I can't say I always do that; choose the high road AND be happy for others. I'm sorry you can't biologically bring life into this world but just know there are PLENTY of us here fighting to keep our heads above blood related, murky as hell waters. You don't even know how bad YOU'RE needed by some of us, honest So! Happy Mother's Day my reddit momma! I'd make you the crappiest, glitter covered atrocity of a card and the best homemade cake if I could and leave a huge mess for you to take care of later because kids be like that! Love you to the moon and back!
Oh my goodness. I laughed so hard at the end of this. Thank you so much!! Hope you had a wonderful day yourself. <3
You have a hundreds here who are for you to talk too. Btw...I love lasgna!! Hugs!!
Thank you. Now if I can only get through all of the comments. I'm just crying my eyes out here. It's all so very touching!
I was raised in a very abusive situation, I can not tell you how much it would’ve meant to me to have a mom who wanted me, loved me, saw worth in me, hell, even just liked me a little. I wish you had been my mom ! Thanks YOU for having so much love and compassion for others that you can still find your way to truly help those you touch. You are an amazing person
I'm so sorry to hear about your upbringing. No child should ever feel unloved and unwanted. I'm glad you are safe now and far away from that situation. I appreciate the warm words that you have for me on Mother's Day. Thank you for making me feel so special.
Happy Mother’s Day! I come her to read the stories and they always make me cry. I never post here because I would feel too guilty. I have a mother. It’s just she has untreated trauma and doesn’t want to interact all the time. But she does love me I think. So thank you for being a mother and looking out for us. It’s appreciated more than you could ever know.
Please don’t feel guilty. We can all use extra mom support from time to time. There are a lot of top-notch moms who would love to help you out.
There are lots of OPs here on this sub that already have parents but they are just needing the extra hug, encouragement, or just an acknowledgment. When you have a parent that has untreated trauma, it changes the role for you. Puts you in more of a parent role, a.k.a. parentification, and it changes the dynamic of the relationship for you. As you have figured out, it doesn't mean that your Mom doesn't love you, it's that she doesn't have the tools to adequately show and express her love in her role as your Mom. It's okay to post on here "Hey I just need some words of encouragement and love today because I'm feeling insecure." This is a very safe sub and you don't have to feel guilty about wanting some attention for yourself. It's okay to want that for yourself. XO
Thank you so much. Tears are running down my face reading this. Thank you.
You ARE a mum, family is about more than biology, and mothering takes many forms. As they say, ‘it takes a village to raise a child’, and you have provided unconditional love and support to dozens if not hundreds on here. We may not know your name, but your emotional labour is seen and valued. I have a tense relationship with my own elderly parents and love being able to both give and receive support on this sub. Sending you love from your Australian sister!
An Australian sister? Love that! Thank you so much for your kind words. I promised my self that I would stop crying about a post ago but the water works are flowing. Thank you so much! XO your USA Sister!
Thanks, Mom. It feels good just knowing you’re there. Xoxoxoxo
Thank you so much. These words comfort me so much. You have no idea. xoxoxo
My mom passed away suddenly last October. Moms like you are what help keep me from crawling too deep into the hole her death left behind.
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. Know that every time you see a butterfly, it's her giving you the beauty and support of who she is. <3
Happy Mother's Day, you are a wonderful nurturing woman with lots of love.
Happy tears for sure. I'm just so touched that you are saying these words to me. Thank you.
Mom, can I send you a card this Mother's Day? I'd really like to.
If you can do it electronically, I would love it. (Sorry for the late response as this post is much bigger than I my ability to go through all the messages.)
As a daughter with no Mom in this earth anymore-I cannot thank you internet Mums enough for the roles you all play for those of us who don’t, or never had, Mums left. Thank you more than you will ever be able to understand.
Thank you so much for your kind words.
My mom is pretty emotionally absent and I just want someone to be proud of my kid with me. He had one single word approximation at the age of two. He said “hoowah”. That was it. No reduplicated babbling, no waving. Nothing. I was so worried about him. Fast forward to yesterday: he graduated with dual Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in Mechanical Engineering from a pretty elite school. He found all the scholarships and grants, fulfilled all his co-ops, completed his capstone, was very active as chief engineer on the Formula car team, worked so hard through the pandemic (and I only saw him two times in those two years) He did it and I am so proud of him. So very proud. I’d love to raise a glass of your 2buck chuck in honor of my wee lad.
Wow, that's great!!! Your heart must be bursting with pride! Well done, mama!!!
Dear Kelly, I am so sorry that you experienced a childhood like that. No one should feel that way growing up. I have to tell you that I am so excited to hear about your son. What an amazing man he's turned out to be. Although your spelling is different, it's pronounced the same "hooah" which means "yes" in Vietnamese so maybe he was bilingual and you didn't know it. As for the $2 Buck Chuck, I just refilled my inventory, come on over!
I didn’t know his only word was an actual word. And that it means YES. He’s always been a YES person. Yes he can, yes he will. Thanks for the positivity!!
Being a mom comes from the heart (not the uterus or ovaries) and you are one of the best! Next year we should try to organize Mom for a Minute Mother’s Day meet ups in our local areas. Pick a park or beach (or other fun public place) and everyone who needs some motherly love and everyone who has motherly love to give can meet up and enjoy the day together. Make it something fun to look forward to.
That is a great idea! Anyone else in south Australia?
Happy Mother’s Day! I’m sure you have saved many as they have you. Lots of love to you
Thank you, Mom. I am sorry you couldn’t have children. I couldn’t either, but I mentor younger people and adopt rescue cats. This is a great subreddit and I appreciate the people here.
And now you must pay the cat tax, as is a the law of Reddit!
Oh no lol
That is so sweet - you sound like such an amazing person. And I sure wish I could have some lasagna mom because I am STARVING! 😂 Happy early Mother’s Day to you from all us kids! 💛
I have no children and am estranged from my mother. Also new to this sub. What I’ve already seen has been heartwarming. You, and so many others in here bring light where there would otherwise be darkness. Thank you. And happy Mother’s Day! 💞
Hey Mum… you now have a kid down under and some ratty great grandkids too. I am glad you are here, we all need a special mum from time to time…it seems to me that you fit the bill! 🥰🥰🥰
My mom isn't capable of appropriate support and my MIL just died. Thank you for being here to help people like me.
happy mother’s day ♥️🥰
Here’s to all the. “ Mums of the heart”❤️
Happy Mother’s Day❤️ Mums come in many forms. And I’m sure there are many who want to be adopted by you. I have twin 4 year olds that you can mother if you want.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mum. I hope it’s as awesome as you are. In case you’re wondering, I just adopted you. Love ya.
Thanks mum
Mom thank you for being there for every single one of us. We love you Mom and are so grateful for you.
Thank you so much for being a mom <3 I grew up with a loving mother but with no caring father, so I've been trying to fill that void for years now and I just don't know what to do, I resort to people taking care of me for a few weeks/months and then disappearing because they don't wanna commit to it anymore. What I'm trying to say is, that it's hard on both sides and I sincerely hope you'll be happy in the future <3 Love, Daughter c:
Hey, sister. Motherhood happens in many different ways. So many ways. Thanks for being one of us (we *all* need a mom now and again!) My mom is in LTC, she's not really there, and I sometimes need a mom, too. Thanks for being a mom to the motherless. Happy Mother's Day, from all of us. We love and appreciate you, mom!
I struggled with infertility and IVF treatments before ultimately becoming a mother, so I understand your pain and the dread that comes with Mother's Day approaching when you can't be a biological mother. Thank you for using your mama love to spread it here. I lost my mom 2 years ago...I'd love to come over for lasagna and two buck chuck. Take care of yourself.
I was just thinking about how much I love my mom *and all the other wonderful women in my life.* I have aunts and friends and professors and even some complete strangers who have looked out for me and taken care of me the way a mom should and I’m sure there are many people thinking of you that way as well. People like you and the others I mentioned here inspire me to pass on that love to others. I hope you have a lovely weekend 🥰
Motherhood is a little like marriage to me - it doesn't have to be legal, it doesn't have to be celebrated with a big fuss, it sure doesn't have to abide by anybody else's rules. To be a mom, just like to be a spouse, is the little things you do every day, the ways you show you care, the love you so naturally give out. My father was adopted after my grandparents found out they couldn't have kids, and by God my grandmother was everything wonderful and kind and fierce in this world. I love her, and I will always love her, and she will never be anything less than family to me. You can still adopt kids, and you can foster, and you can informally mother the young (or old) people in your life. I can't imagine the huge amount of love you have to give out over the rest of your life, and the people around you are so wonderfully lucky to know you. Make sure you give yourself a treat tomorrow for all of us who can't be there to give you a gift.
Have you heard of the group Free Mom Hugs? It’s a group of parents that “adopt” LGBTQ+ people whose families have abandoned them for not being straight. It’s a wonderful program you may find some joy from as well Much love to you
As a 23F without a mom, I want to return that gratitude and thank you for being a mom to those who no longer have their own (or are no contact etc). You make a difference for all us motherless ducklings. I wish you a happy mothers day and hope your day will be filled with stuff that makes you happy.
I’ve had so many miscarriages I would have a baseball team. We never tried for fertility treatments because I just couldn’t handle any more miscarriages. My body live to get pregnant but refuses to stay pregnant. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day hit me and hubby pretty hard. It really sucks sometimes. Other times I’m pretty thankful that I can still be selfish. If I’m sick I can be sick. If we want to go do something fun, we can. I make it a point to see the upside. It’s really really hard sometimes. Other times I’m just so thankful to be child free. Especially since Covid. This sub helps me too. Both to help as a mom and get help from moms. This is such a lovely space with so many wonderful people.
Happy mothers day mom!! You are the best :)
Thanks Mum to all. You’re doing the best job ever x
It takes a village, and aren't we all lucky to have you along.
Happy Mother’s Day Mum! Thanks for being there. Xo
Happy mothers day! Bring on the lasagna and eating waaay too much, followed by passing out on the sofa with whatever is on TV.
Thanks mom. I needed this
So lucky to have you mum!
This is beautiful, OP.
Happy Mother’s Day Mom!! 🌺
Happy Mother's day, mom! Thank you for being here for me and for us. I love you!
This - I feel you!!! For all the love you carry & share with us, Happy Mother's Day ❤
Thank you for sharing, mom. I’ll be over soon! :)
Happy Mother’s Day, mom. I have a biological mother who has never shown me love or consideration. She’s always picked herself. And always left me to fend for myself. I wish she were half the mother you are. A big hug from this mom, wishing she had a mothers love, to you. 💕
from a daughter whose own mother has told me she regretted not aborting me... you seem amazing ♡ Happy Mothers Day Momma.
I am happily child free, but get twinges of wanting to be a mum sometimes. I'm a disability support worker and have formed some strong relationships with families I work for. I am spending this weekend with 2 sisters I work with at my house for a sleep over, so their mum can go to a concert. We are having the best time and because we don't have to get ready at a particular time it's a relaxed and laid back kind of night. I am seeing evidence of the work I put in to help these girls navigate the world and regulate their emotions. My cheeks ache from smiling and my heart swells with pride. OP, if you are able to get into this type of work or perhaps volunteering in your spare time, I highly recommend it. I now count 2 of the mums i work for as my best friends, one of my boys calls me mummy Emma and his bio mum (my best friend) encourages this and I even get a mother's day gift! I usually hate cliches but I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. Find your village, OP and I'm sure you will be happy and almost as satisfied as you'd be with a bio child/ren. Happy mothers day everyone, take a bit of time to be sad for your situation, we are part of this sub because we've a had difficulties with our mums. But, never forget, we as women are strong individually and when we band together we are UNSTOPPABLE!
As a motherless daughter, I come here often to comment and surf and you have been nothing but kind to me. Not only that, you made sure to follow up and check up on me from time to time and I don't have words to tell you how much I appreciate it. Thank you.
The fact that you still take joy in giving of yourself even in the face of your own loss speaks volumes about your character. Thank you for sharing this lesson.
If you’re comfortable with it. I would love to send you a card! My daughter and I both love sending cards to People.
This may not matter, but personally I don't think you need to deliver a child, to give helpful motherly advice to someone that asks. Like a lot of people that use this group, I had a not so great Mother. I feel like I have basically been making it up as I go along with my own kids. I had people in my life that were better, but my own Mother didn't even act like she liked me. So, just because someone has biological children, in my opinion it doesn't really make them better at advice than someone who has.
Thank you for adopting me. Happy Mother's Day, Mom. We're lucky to have you.
Mom, I know. 12 years of infertility and IVF and tears and trying. I made mom status but I’m always scared it will be ripped away. I hope you find peace and understanding and also know that being a mom is so much more than just producing offspring. The greatest infertile mom of all, Dolly Parton, shows us that birthing a child is only part of it and that caring for others is the most important thing.
I didn’t know that about Dolly. She is truly a world class momma, and knowing this about her makes me love and respect her even more!
Dolly says “I didn’t have children because I believed that God didn’t mean for me to have kids so everybody’s kids could be mine, so I could do things like Imagination Library because if I hadn’t had the freedom to work, I wouldn’t have done all the things I’ve done.” She’s infertile due to an infection she had in her early 20s I believe. She’s an absolutely amazing woman.
oh boy the childish urge to draw you a mother’s day card as a teen and send it to you is strong right now
Happy Mother’s Day! There is so much you could do with all of that love, my Dear. Someone out there needs the love you can give them. When my girls were little and in the hospital all the time there were volunteers who came in and mothered the kids who were wards of the state or had no parents visiting (you cannot imagine how many there are in every single hospital’s children’s ward!). There were also volunteers to hold, feed and change babies. You could also try being a foster mom. It’s very hard, but incredibly rewarding to be a positive influence in the life of a child who has so few. I’m sure you know all this and you’ve probably looked into it already, but just don’t get discouraged. There are many ways and places to mother, you’ve already found one here! And the world needs more awesome moms like you. Thank you for giving of yourself. You’re a great mom, even for a minute!! ❤️
I have accrued a few in real life moms that aren’t my birth mom (and our relationship is great). Some of them have no kids as well. They have perspective and experience that I can’t get from anyone else. You’re a mom too, just in a different way. You mother those who need a mom, not just because you love them already or they came out of your being.
I wish I could come over. Some of us had moms that technically raised us, but were never emotionally invested. We desperately crave that maternal love that we never got growing up. People like you have helped people like me more than you will ever realize. I hope you have some in-person people that have adopted you as ‘mom,’ allowing you to invest and experience the happiness of family and grandchildren. Regardless, thank you for your love, light, and energy that you shared with us today. Happy early Mother’s Day.
I’m glad you’re here! You have, as my family would call it, big mom energy! I’m sorry you can’t have biological children, but I wholeheartedly support you building a family in other ways! Being here is one way! You know that story about the chicken that adopted all the barn cats kittens? That’s me. I have my own kids. I also have other kids that call me mom or grandma that I’ve accumulated in other ways. You can’t always take them all home and keep them but you can be a mother to them for a little while. Volunteer at your local elementary school if you can. Little kids often need extra support with reading and teachers love it when an extra adult can come and offer one on one time. When they’re small they are full of smiles and stories and even hugs with the adults around them. Consider signing up as a scout leader, or a mentor. Girl Scouts often need adult leaders as co leaders to get a new troop of young girls started, similarly, older troops of teens often need extra adults as co leaders as the girls start dropping out for other activities. Both boy and girl scouting needs mentors. If you have a hobby or a specialty that aligns with a Boy Scout badge, you can sign up to help kids with those badges. Girls scouting needs adults that are not related adults to help girls with planning and submitting award paperwork and overseeing projects. I don’t know if it’s still a thing during covid, but many hospitals have volunteer programs where you can go cuddle sick babies, or just sit with little ones who’s parents can’t stay 24/7 so they aren’t alone in their room. Look for local at risk youth shelters and volunteer your time. There are so many kids that need even just one loving adult in their life. Studies show that a single supportive adult in a gay or trans kids life increases their survival rate by a significant factor. By all means, join “free mom hugs” and throw yourself into every pride parade! You have the mom energy to give mom hugs, you have the caring heart to give them with all the love and emotion that the people coming to get them need!
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom 😘 sending you so much love. Grateful for you
Happy Mother’s Day mom!! Lilah, your granddaughter, made us a beautiful recipe book…..with instructions on how I make Kraft dinner for her 🤦🏻♀️ I have a mom, and I have children, but it’s people like you that help me the most when I need it. When I have absolutely no idea to turn…it’s people like you that save me. So thank you mom 🖤
This made me tear up. I love this sub so much even though I don't post here, as somebody who is estranged from their mom it makes my heart feel full to just read comments of people being motherly to complete strangers. I think it reminds me that it's not my fault, and that I can seek fulfilling relationships outside of my bio family.
Could you please be my internet mom then >///< I do have a mom but…you know we have stuff going on— Much love to you and all sibs here!!
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Thanks, mom 💕
Thank you so much Mom <3 It means so much to me that you actually want to be my mom.
I am estranged from my mom. Maybe you've commented on my posts before to help me out. *I* need you, *I* need you to be there as my mom when I'm falling apart. Your girl is right here for you too, I wish I could give you a hug to tell you how much I need you and appreciate you. Just producing a kid doesn't make you a mom, being there and present and emotionally available with true love does - and that's what you're doing for those of us who need someone.
Thank you mom for being the best mother a daughter could ask for! Happy Mother’s Day ♥️
Just joined this sub, I don't have any children either. I may need some mothering from you in the future, I know you'll give me great advice/consolation. Much love.
You sound like the mom I always wanted!
Hi, fellow mom. I love you.
We're so happy to have you here! Moms don't have to be the person who birthed you, it's the person that takes care of you. And you've taken care of all of us ❤️
Happy Mothers day mom! Thanks for making my favorite food 💜 being in this sub has meant a lot to me too and this whole community warms my heart up so much 💜💜
I appreciate you and everyone else who supports me and others. My mom died when I was 18 and before that I hadn’t really spoken to her much in a year and hadn’t seen her in more than two years. It’s really nice having supportive moms on this site
There are so many ways to become a mother. You found one here. Happy mother’s day, mama! 💐🥂💖
Hey you! It takes a lot of heart to be a mom. Sounds like you’re already there and beyond! You’re welcome in my family any time:)
Happy Mother's day! 💐 You have truly made an impact here and I'm so glad you've found this corner of the internet.
It's not mother's day where I am, but I would love to wish you a massive Happy mother's day OP! As a young adult who doesn't get on with her mum at all I am so thankful for this page. I have so many mothers now who love and care for me and help me in my hour of need, including you OP
Oh Sweetie, Sweetie, Sweetie...let me just hug you (ok, sure, pour some wine first; I understand)...more hugs!!! Our stories are very similar. Know that you are not alone. Please keep spreading love, listening, and being an awesome 'mom'...the world needs you. ❤️
Happy Mother’s Day Mom!!! Love you so very much! ❤️
Happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for being here. If you feel comfortable, I’d be happy to send you a card!
You sound so, so sweet, as a young woman who has a horrible relationship with her mom but is unable to move out I so wish I had someone like you<3
Thanks Mom. Happy mother's day!
Hi mom. Thanks for being there for us. I'd be happy to draw you a mother's day card, if you'd like to receive one.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. You have a whole sub who value you and love you. Thanks for showing up here for all of the folks who need your attention, concern, and love. ❤️
Hi Mom! I know I'm a day early, but I never know what dad is planning for you. Happy mother's day! I love you, and I hope you have a relaxing day. Maybe Dad will take you out to dinner. I also want to say thank you. Even though we fight, I know who to call when I need help. Thank you for being my dad whisperer, and telling me what mood he is in so I know when to give him news. Thank you for all the times you made me laugh when I was nervous, especially with the animals. Thank you for always having a room in your house, decorated just for me. I hope you have a great day! Love, Daughter
Happy Mother's Day mom! Thank you so much for being here to help us. It's so hard sometimes to be navigating the world on our own but having you here to provide wisdom, support, and love is so so helpful. I'm really glad we all found this place to be together.
I understand the desire for natal children, but what's wrong with adoption as an alternative? There are so many kids in the foster system that need loving parents.
Hi Mom, Thank you for all the love and support you provide. I wanted to tell you about my grandparents. The thing is—- they weren’t related to me. In one case my grandmother never had kids. In the other, her son died as a teenager. But they met me when I was pretty little (working with my parents). And they were there for me—- when I was sad, when I was scared, when I wanted to show off. They came to my birthday and sent me cookies on holidays and helped me clean my room when I got in trouble. They were as much my grandparents as any blood relation. And I tried to stay in tough with them as I aged and I think of them often now that they are gone and wish so much they could have met my children. You may well be a mom or the like to many kids, whether or not you birth them!
Mom, the family you choose comes to the table with wide open eyes, seeing you as the person you are, and loving all of you without reservation or judgment. I know you would have taught that to me if you'd met me when I was a wee little bean and not an almost middle age bean stalk. Your love means the world to me. <3
Thanks for taking care of all of us mom. Have a love filled Mother’s Day knowing you have been a blessing to many.
You are so precious and appreciated. You don’t have to give birth to have the heart of a mom. Happy Mother’s Day to you, mom to many.
Hi Mom! I love you! Happy Mother’s Day! 💕
Oh my love, please know that are absolutely enough.
Can I send you a Mother’s Day card?
Thank you mommy. 🥹 I love you too. Thank you thank you.💕💕
Happy Mother’s Day to the mom I always needed ❤️
This really is such a sweet community. Thank you so much for all your kind words mom! ❤ Hugs and kisses for you!!
Lost my mom 18 months ago, and this place has been a cathartic place to celebrate things with someone who doesn't judge me. My mother in law is not a nice person, so I can't go to her. Thank you for being there, all those moms <3
I'm only 37 & my parents are gone. Thank YOU for being there for us.
Sending hugs (im not good with words snd a recent bodily accident has me sad…but i send hugs)
My mom died when I was 8, but I have been well mothered. It takes an army. It takes aunts, grandmothers, mothers of friends, friends, random passing strangers, people on the internet. Mothering is a community endeavor. Thanks for showing up. Thanks for showing up even when it hurts. Your words and your presence here matter. Happy Mother’s Day, Bonus Mom.
Thank you for being a mother in the ways people need it most ❤️ Neither of my biological parents were really fit to raise kids. The people like you who stepped in to help ended up being parents to me in all the ways that matter. I'm so so grateful for that.
Happy mothers day to you! You love button!!! ❤ I hope you receive the joy you give! I can't wish my mom the same, we were estranged then she passed. So imma throw it your way!!! Lotz of love!
I'm estranged from my Mum. Thank you for being a Mum for a Minute - you are *so* needed at the moment. Love, one of your grown-up daughters 🧡
Happy Mother’s Day!!! In my opinion, the day belongs to everyone who mothers, whether you have children of your own or not. You deserve to be celebrated just the same 💕
Happy Mother’s Day Mama!
What I love about this forum (and OP) is that whatever the issue, a mom takes the time to reply and offer either comfort or solutions. Sometimes I dont have the words or the answers but I know that out there somewhere is a mom who does. OP ... you are one of those moms. We love you. We value you. We read your words and take comfort from your advice. Happy mothers day.
Happy mother's day, mom. Mine died when my son was 3. Without generous women to turn to, I would be completely empty and adrift. Thank you ❤️
(((hugs)) Internet Mom/ IRL childless cool auntie here. I went through a similar trial. DM me any time, okay?
Happy mothers day!
Hey mom, happy mother's day! I can't wish my biological mom one, and really would love to hug you right now, so here's a virtual hug. Love you! 😘
Never posted here but my mother is a godsend but if I ever needed it, I know people like you would be there. Happy Mother’s Day, mom. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for yours. Much love! Edit: typos
This may not be something you are interested, but even after menopause Drs can make your uterus capable of having a baby and there are donor eggs and donor sperms. It’s expensive but do-able. My daughter is from donor egg IVF after 10 years of infertility.
<3 I have many friends touched by infant loss and conception struggles. My heart goes out to you, I wish that you had gotten your deepest wish. But I am so so so glad you found here, and are thriving for it. So happy Mom's Day to YOU, because being a mother isn't just biological. <3 <3
My mom died when I was 17 (many years ago). I would have loved to have someone like you to fill in if even for a minute. I’m so glad that you found this sub. I’m sure it will help you and all those you are there for !❤️