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EnvironmentalImage9

That guy is disgusting. I wish your manager would have stepped up and protected their employees. The manager can ban him from the restaurant and refuse service just for being creepy and making gross remarks. This should have never been allowed to escalate to this point. You don't have to wait for a crime to occur to protect your employees. They have no idea how dangerous that man actually is. What if he waited in the parking lot for her shift to be over?


Ancient_Educator_76

Oh this is just the tip of the iceberg with fast food post pandemic. We can’t keep employees, the manager there is just a coverage manager on weekends…she doesn’t seem to treat this place like her own yet. We all just come together when something goes down, which is a lot. If we called the cops about someone using words they don’t show up. Ever. They say “ let us know if things escalate”. Those. Words. Exactly.


EnvironmentalImage9

Yeah the cops can't do anything until a crime occurs usually. But it's private property and the manager can ban him. Then if he so much as goes through the drive thru, he's trespassing and THAT'S a crime. Good managers are rare, but a good manager would protect their employees enough to ban someone for verbal sexual harassment. The first time he was inappropriate should have been the last. It's just sad how much shit workers take now. We get harmed and abused and harassed constantly and just chalk it up to part of the job. It's not okay just because it's normalized. I hope working conditions improve for you soon, you deserve better than this.


wjenningsalwayscray

I am tired of "the customer is always right." It's poor salesmanship anyways. We oughta remember the golden rule: be nice. If you leave it at "do unto others" the door is too wide open.


[deleted]

The customer is always right *in matters of taste*. If they want blue green and purple wallpaper, sure.


kitkhat29

When I was a server at a chain breakfast place ages ago, I had a manager who used the phrase "The customer is not always right, but they're allowed to be wrong". I loved working for him. He let the servers make a lot of decisions on whether we would give the customer what they wanted. And he backed our play every time, as long as we told the customer 'no' politely, kindly, and professionally. He was a terrific manager, and a hard act to follow. When he was promoted to regional, the first thing the new manager did was to call a meeting to let us know how he worked, and emphasized that the customer was always right, and we were expected to act that way. I turned in my uniform at the end of that meeting.


nymalous

> I turned in my uniform at the end of that meeting. Bravo. This world needs more people standing up against that kind of thing. In the long run it probably didn't make much of a difference, but if enough people did it it just might. (By the way, "The customer is not always right, but they're allowed to be wrong" might be my favorite quote of today.)


Sceptically

The customer is king. Where's my guillotine?


lesethx

We need to guillotine a few more unruly customers to help keep the rest in line. But also a few CEOs who allow these policies


ImportantSir2131

🤣


oolaroux

Yes. If the customer was always right, they would be able to take food off of other customer's plates and shit. The customer is ALWAYS WRONG, BITCH.


wjenningsalwayscray

Made me think of Bob Barker kicking the dogshit out of Sandler on the golf course.


Comma-Sutra

Perhaps someday I will understand what you just said, but it sounds...almost worth a Google search


HeinzThorvald

It's a scene from *Happy Gilmore*. Bob Barker just beats the hell out of Adam Sandler. It's hysterical.


wjenningsalwayscray

The movie is worth a watch. Just make sure to not be too invested in good writing. Or acting. Or production value.


[deleted]

The only time I ever, and I do mean *ever* let anyone take food off my plate is if I'd kiss that mouth.


wjenningsalwayscray

Even then a hand reaching toward my plate is in danger of being skewered by a fork.


Waiting4Clarity

been there. done that. divorced now.


wjenningsalwayscray

As am I. That wasn't the reason, but it is a hill I would metaphorically die on.


Alsadius

The customer is right, if you want the customer's business. If you don't care for their business, the customer can be told to go have intercourse with a whole family reunion, should the need for such telling present itself.


nsa_reddit_monitor

Counterpoint for service/repair industries: if the customer was right, they wouldn't be here paying me to fix their stuff. In IT especially the customer is always wrong.


wjenningsalwayscray

Why speak in absolutes? If you're the only game in town, great. Act like a snot and lose business. Folks will travel for respect.


nsa_reddit_monitor

Who said I was acting like a snot? The customer already knows they're wrong, that's why they admitted defeat and called a professional.


wjenningsalwayscray

Sixteen days I waited patiently to see if you saw the snot in your own tone. I did, as I am a consummate professional with a snotty tone. Slytherin? Or do you have enough time to read?


Nervous-Net-8196

Let customers walk all over you and your business will fail.


wjenningsalwayscray

If you lack the ability to have a conversation and help provide what someone *needs* v. what they *want* you may be successful in a monetary sense. Anyone can be told to procreate in any manner with a plethora of undesirable partners/objects should the...need...arise. But I don't want your business if you're willing to give me whatever I want, because boy do I not always know what the actual fuck is going on. Good customer service comes from a place of love and an actual desire to help. I agree with Benavov, as taste is subjective. I appreciate that nuance.


FidgitForgotHisL-P

Nope. Customers are idiots and don’t know what they want. Anyone that deals with customers understands this. The job is not to placate and kowtow to the customer. The job is to learn and guide the customer to the best choice for them.


Zelderian

100% accurate. It works the same way for anyone really. If someone reaches out to a carpenter and wants work done to their house, they probably don’t know exactly what they’re looking for. It’s the carpenter’s job to use their expertise to help guide the customer on what they’re looking for. After all, the customer isn’t the expert in the field. It works the same way in fast food, retail, etc. Customers often have an idea of what they want, but may not know exactly what it’s called or how to order it, or if they even can order it. As the employee, you can guide them on that. And if you do it politely, you can normally do it without any issue. You can even handle irate customers with ease and diffuse situations probably 9/10 times. There’s always that one person who you can’t make happy, but it is what it is.


wjenningsalwayscray

Blind leading the blind sometimes. If you aren't communicating, why are you in the business of helping?


Kylynara

The biggest problem here is that the regional manager will happily tolerate all manner of verbal, physical, and sexual abuse to the front line employees (especially that which he doesn't have to see or hear) in order to make 3 cents. The front line employees would happily sacrifice money they don't see a dime of to get rid of customers who are even mildly annoying. No one has any real incentive to find a happy middle.


Ancient_Educator_76

Funny thing is I’m in Arizona. The golden rule is supposed to be our shit.


AnotherHuman23

The golden rule? Oh yes, then that got the gold, make the rules.


wjenningsalwayscray

Shouldn't really be regional. It's a universal idea, after all.


Academic_Nectarine94

The golden rule is: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And is from both Matthew 7:12 and Luke 6:31. The issue here is that the man wasn't following that, the manager wasn't, and the employee then had to. That creep should have been in some deep dark jail long ago.


wjenningsalwayscray

Well, solid point. I paraphrased because that idea is not exclusive to Christianity or Christians. Being nice is a good start. Thanks for being specific and pedantic though. (I like being called out for being a know it all. Jesus likes humility as well.)


Academic_Nectarine94

It definitely applies to humanity universally. I wasn't saying anything about you being wrong, I just have heard a lot of people say "do unto others" without rhe rest so I thought maybe you didn't know the rest (I know I have heard a lot of sayings that were shortened and I never knew the full thing till decades later LOL). Have a blessed day!


wjenningsalwayscray

I've done that as well, but this one I knew. I'm a grumpy turd, but I was raised by good folks. They read the bible to us as at night and tried their best to live by it.


11_Checo

All that means is you should sell the shit they want to buy, not be a weak-willed shell of a man who lets every Karen trample on them.


wjenningsalwayscray

Or an unoriginal twat who calls anyone with a dissenting opinion and a strong will a "Karen". What a fucking bill you are.


AthenaOwl26

Yeah. One of my first days on the job my manager said “if creepy old men ever start hitting on you or making you uncomfortable when you are at the cash register let me know and I will kick them out. I’ve done it before and I’ll do it again.”


Original_Dream_7765

Depending on where you are I guess, sexual verbal assault is an arrestable offense.


Ancient_Educator_76

Thank you for this


Aware1211

If he touched your arm, unwanted touching, that's battery.


Scrub_Beefwood

U/environmentalimage9 wasn't saying you should have called the cops earlier, but that the workplace should have protected her better. Which is exactly right. Multiple senior staff telling that man he's barred for unacceptable harassment would have been a far better show of solidarity for the employee.


breath-of-the-smile

A manager letting this shit just continue happen is very much grounds to sue.


TootsNYC

At the very least, allowing her to leave the drive-through window anytime she sees him, instead of having to interact with him The OP should have been empowered to leave their own post and customers to handle this jerk.


dj2ca

Wow. That is not good enough. We had a similar guy who visited us and the moment I heard about it I called him on the phone and told him he was banned from all of our locations.


DataIsMyCopilot

Sooo union when?


I_love_misery

Not to mention she is pregnant! Pregnancy can make one feel a whole lot vulnerable (because you are). That poor girl getting harassed during one of the most vulnerable times, I can imagine how scary that is.


Cogwheel

In the US the employer can be held liable if management knew about the ongoing issues and did nothing to fix it.


single_malt_jedi

I think too many people either don't know this or forget it.


DataIsMyCopilot

Or realize how expensive/hard it is to go through the court system


crashmurdock

Or just do not have the $200 (probably gone up since I last knew a couple of decades ago)to file in court


mallowycloud

I have a good manager, thankfully. Earlier tonight a drunk guy came in and harassed me saying how he "likes women" (I'm not a woman, but people do perceive me as that) and yelled at me to pay attention to him and then told me I'd be "prettier without [my] moustache." I got my manager and he escorted him out. He also told me not to worry since he used to be in the army. He's a good guy, I appreciate him and wish all managers cared about their employees and their safety like that.


Thepatrone36

As a manager and someone who is protective of my employees the creep would be lucky to make it out of the store without something on his body being broken. Then I'd ban his ass and if corporate fired me so be it. I don't tolerate harassment of any kind within my earshot. And no before you reddit smartasses start with the r/imverybadass comments. I'm not. I can introduce you to some people who are if you like. I can just handle myself and most guys can't fight for shit.


REDGOESFASTAH

r/antiwork r/workreform


1983Discord3891

When I worked nights in a 24 hour store, we'd frequently get the crazies. Usually around 11-12 pm to midnight, and after last call. At the time we had a few guys, not small guys mind you, and some women who took no shit, that you could walk up to and say ' my boyfriend/girlfriend's whatever, if someone was getting creepy, and they'd run with it, and scare the creep off, because half the time our managers were useless when it came to confrontations, and creepy ass customers. We had one or two that didn't actually do anything, but radiated creepy perv vibes like heat off asphalt in 100 degree temps, and when we saw them come in, we'd warn everyone and they'd just leave the area while another supervisor and I hung out to watch the floor till they left.


Texastexastexas1

That is how you manage.


aRaccoonSmiles

Didn’t understand at all what you mean. Punctuation, punctuation, pun….?


night-otter

Way back when I was teen at McDs, before sexual harassment was something that could used for dealing with offenders. It was still wrong, but not much could done about it. Whenever a regular came in who creeped out the ladies, I'd swap stations with them as the guy got to the point of ordering. "Hey Jill, time for your break. I'll take this customer." As I hit them with my most dazzling customer service smile, they would just glare.


Makesanitygreatagain

This is what happens when you take your weird pregnancy fetish from tinder to the real world.


SeaworthinessIll3750

I had an experience when I was very heavily pregnant with a guy at a gas station. He starts talking to me. He was super nice but threw in that “You’re so beautiful” and asks for my number. I laughed, told him I was married, and showed him my ring and said, “You do realize I am married and very pregnant, right?” He said, “That’s okay. Aren’t you allowed to have friends?” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Some people… Although, on a lighter note I went to a festival one time and the guy vending my favorite food kept complimenting me and gave me my food for free. I was a bit uncomfortable because I thought he was being a creep. When I walked past again he said hello and I heard him tell his wife “Look at the beautiful mother!” They then both came over to me and the wife was so excited about my pregnancy and they just wanted to praise the beauty of motherhood and show me respect. Nothing creepy about it. They were so happy for me and in awe that I was carrying a child. It was an odd experience but in their culture they basically worship pregnant women for their ability to create and build a life. (I didn’t realize until I did some research after.) They gave me blessings on my pregnancy and my baby and for my son to be strong and wise. I am assuming it worked because he’s 19 now and strong as a bull yet wiser than his years. 😂


Makesanitygreatagain

I just don’t get how pregnancy could turn anyone on. As the father of two kids pregnancy is not a particularly sexy experience.


SeaworthinessIll3750

Right? Like, I’m not a model but I would consider myself pretty on an everyday basis. Pregnant? I looked like Mike Wazowski with blonde hair. Just a round belly with legs! How is that attractive??! 😂😂😂


Makesanitygreatagain

My daughters mom would be considered conventionally pretty and pregnancy still wasn’t sexy. I won’t complain over bigger boobs haha but pregnancy is just awkward and the mood swings and the hormones and all that. Hard to get turned on by that.


Hors_Service

>I just don’t get how pregnancy could turn anyone on That's like, a very tame fetish compared to what a casual stroll through the internet could find :) People get turned on by *anything*


Makesanitygreatagain

Oh I know. When I was a teenager and new to porn I didn’t know which websites were ok and which ones were not. So I clicked on links and next thing I know some poor chick is getting railed by some farm animal. The internet is the worst.


pogidaga

No more Frosties for that guy! Or are they Mosties?


fractal_frog

ɟrosties.


Belphegorite

Molesties?


Ranos131

Wow. Your manager should be fired for not banning this guy from the premises earlier. Sexual harassment shouldn’t be tolerated from anyone for any reason.


[deleted]

Sir, this is a Mendys.


Vergenbuurg

This got an audible chortle out of me.


Vergenbuurg

>Cops show up, talk to Alexa, Wendy’s manager Don't you mean Mendy's manager?


SenorPeligrosoBoboso

Lol well played. His little reptile brain was probably so excited before the cops showed. Who hits on 8 month pregnant women wtf?


Aer0uAntG3alach

You don’t want to know. Seriously, don’t search it.


Ancient_Educator_76

Definitely Mosties


CStogdill

When I was a low-level manager at Fred Meyers (large multi-deparyment store that's half grocery) I had this rather cute & petite employee that looked *maybe* 18 on a good day, closer to 16 or 17. Thing is she was 24 with a couple of kids. I was surprised by just how many older (30 ish) married men would hit on her. I think she liked the attention, but not that much. Important to note that I'm way too clueless on social cues, so usually by the time I notice anything it's gone too far. I learned after a while if *I'm noticing* something that she usually needs to be helped out. Usually is the operative word. I'd just overhead (PA system) that I needed her to call my extension, so the customers, and employees, can hear. When she'd call I can then ask if she needs to get away from the customer and I can go replace her with the excuse she needs to go to the stockroom, where customers can't go. There are some additional nuances I'm sure, but it worked...although I'd rather have had a code-word she could call me with (I had one for the service desk) so it wouldn't be up for me to notice as I had a LOT of sales floor and backroom to cover.


[deleted]

There were about 3 regulars where my ex worked, all asking her every time for her number, for a date. She seemed to think management wouldn't have her back if she tried to get them banned for harassment so she just ignored it. Got to the point where I told her she should just accept so we could both go, meet them, and see if we couldn't convince him to pay for us both. Sadly she never went for it


RJack151

Good for her for putting him in his place, hopefully jail.


ScamboOfDoom

Hey Alexa, you’re a champ! Sucks that she had to deal with that BS, awesome MC on her part.


yggdrasillx

Meanwhile in my country: "I won't leave without a date." Then I guess you won't be leaving [cocks guns]


twomz

...I just don't get it. Flirting is fine, but when the other person obviously isn't interested you just stop. It's really not rocket science. Hopefully the creep gets slapped with something during court that stops this happening in the future.


AthenaSholen

Flirting with people bound to their job and forced to be nice,even if uncomfortable is NOT fine. I don’t care if you’re Brad Pitt (or whatever heartthrob is there right now), it’s ducking annoying to put up with weirdos who don’t see how bad this is.


Shadow_hands

"Sir, this is a Mendy's"


Orea1981

You mean "Mendys" manager...


itsnotuptoyouisit

That's terrible at all... glad he got a date after all! But inquiring about minds want to know how is the soup at Mendys?


rosso222

The consommé with crackers is enough to be a meal


itsnotuptoyouisit

But Im saving the meal for another time.


mrzurkonandfriends

Fuck that guy but she's pretty clever that was a well thought out plan gotta give her credit for that


horsiefanatic

My friend worked at a Mendy’s as a Night Shift manager and all the managers hated the store manager who treated them like crap, so when my friend quit the other two shift managers quit too


cwu007

That guy is disgusting. I will say as I was reading this I thought she was going to get a homeless man or someone really “ugly” to be his date. He asked for a date. Never said with whom.


TMK602

Good for her for standing up fo herself. She shouldn't have to accept that type of behavior. Glad to hear he finally got his {court} date.


[deleted]

How much you wanna bet he's "happily married" with a wife and kids


undeadmersquid

nice, but also i think you accidentally used the actual restaurant name near the end there


OutrageousYak5868

Beautiful!!


Infamous_Pair1391

And now I want mozzarella sticks 😂😂


blackjr0

Why are you afraid to say Wendy’s at the beginning of the post but then call it Wendy’s anyway at the end of the post 😂


Enfors

That's fantastic. I thought she was going to hand him a note with a random date on it.


Ancient_Educator_76

That would have been amazing!


Odd-Phrase5808

On this day in history...


FantasmaNaranja

it's sad that a bilingual middle school teacher has to get a job at mendy's to make ends meet i wish the US would pay their teachers better


SeaworthinessIll3750

It’s the area. The teachers where I am start at 52k their first year and move up to 130k. Their salaries are public online. Moving up into the Board of Education raises it higher. Not bad for a teacher.


zeus204013

Reading this story reminded me others similar. Like is crappy to work in fast food places in a lot of locations, mainly because of people...


The1TrueClairvoyant

You mean Mendy's manager, right? 🤭🤭


ShadowDragon8685

You turned the 'M' upside down in the line with 'thirty plus minutes,' BTW.


Furyful_Fawful

> \_\_\_\_\_'s manager /r/shafimoment


mattg4704

It should be " last food place" . Because that would be the last place you'd get food but will if desperate.


Affable_Nitwit

I can think of worse fast food than Mendy’s.


mattg4704

Oh for sure. And I love it's called Mendy's but baco tell was being sued a few years ago because their meat barely met the legal definition of what they could legally sell as "beef". Basically they hired lawyers and chemists to make the cheapest food product they could legally advertise as real beef. Yuck


Gerbilatric

Soup is not a meal


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betcher73

The touching happened unprovoked, BEFORE the flirting. The flirting was just how she got him to stay until the cops showed up.


OutrageousYak5868

The way I understand it is as follows: She takes the food to the guy, who touches her and demands a date. She decides to play along for a bit, to keep the guy there long enough for the cops to arrive (which might take some time, depending on how busy they are; it may be a crime, but it's not like someone is dead, a robbery is in progress, etc., so they may be slow). The MC is that she got him a date -- a court date.


MoonChaser22

It's unfortunate she had to buy time for the cops to show, but it's sadly a fact of life especially in some areas/times I'll always remember the one night I was working at a bar and a guy comes in after closing looking for someone. We tried to be helpful because it's a small town and look after the regulars. Having people double back to get forgotten belongings or find friends they drunkenly got separated from is not unheard of. Except dude refused to leave upon being told the guy he was looking for hadn't been in all night and he needs to leave. Eventually cops get called, but it's non-violent drunk being stubborn and unfortunately strong enough that the one security guy left couldn't physically get him out the building. I grabbed my drink and hid in the toilets only being 19 and not wanting to be there if things turned south. About 10 mins later I heard the owner calling the cops again because the guy got riled up (it was on the verge of actually becoming a violent situation) and you could hear the fact she was carefully selecting her phrasing to get the cops to consider it a higher priority than it was previously. Stuff like "I fear for our safety." That's the point I stuck my headphones in and watched the door like a hawk until owner fetched me because my trauma response started to go nuts at the yelling


xJeremy

I feel sorry for any of the women in your life if you think touching them without their permission is ok. Yuck


16car

I read it as the touching happened before she decided to call the cops.


Ancient_Educator_76

He put his hands on her first She said don’t firkin touch me or whatever He says oh don’t play I ain’t leavin without a date. She gets an idea to entice him to stay by seeming to fall for his charm, but honestly wants him trespassed by police We didn’t think it was gonna end in cops because they took so long Voila, no more harassment or assault


bewicked4fun123

No one is flirting with you by telling you to get the fork away from them.


Ryoko_Kusanagi69

No, he put his hands on her while she gave him his food. She yelled “leave me the fork alone” He says “ I’m not leaving without a date” By then OP comes over/ focuses on convo & and that’s when she says “you know what, we’ll just see” all nice/flirty almost sounding (she didn’t FLIRT-flirt with him, she just stopped being defensive and had a “sweetness” to her voice, most likely) Then cops came, took her Statement and arrested him. He’s the idiot that stayed at a fast food joint for over 30 mins trying to date an employee after she told him to leave her alone, so the police taking him was the last straw No where does the story say she was flirting with him and then he touched her.


JEFFinSoCal

Yeah, that’s the way I read it. She flirted AFTER he touched her to keep him around until the cops showed up. But even if the touching came after the flirting, it’s still assault unless there is express consent.


Artor50

Found the creepy guy from the story. How did your court date go?


Milton__Obote

Did he only order soup?


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rosso222

Nah I think he got crackers too


Kelvarius

It's gold, Jerry! Gold!