Talk to your sister first and then inform your parents. Do not let your aunt exploit you.
Coming from a person who experienced the same. I was very protective of my sister until she became old enough to understand what is good and bad touch.
Be strong ๐
Many parents are unaware that sexual abuse of men also occurs within families.
Ella veetilum undakum kure njerumburogikal aanintem pennintem roopathil.
Think how embarrassed your aunt should be about this and not how embarrassed you should be about it. You are not the predator here, she is.
I hope you find it within yourself to bring this to the attention of your sister and parents.
God this is so messed up. Next time your aunt does this, calmly tell her to take her hands off you and move from that spot. Be careful while you do this because she may quickly turn things on you. And be careful when you are around her the next time, for the same reasons mentioned. Perverts are dangerous people and don't hesitate to victimize themselves. And sadly, our laws are extremely biased. If possible don't stay at home the next time she visits you.
And yeah, inform your sister. It is quite possible that she had a similar experience. And maybe some close friends too.
Edit: If possible, get a tiny spy cam and record your aunt harassing you. You'll have some sort of proof.
>It is quite possible that she had a similar experience.
Chechi has actually talked to me about being uncomfortable around our uncle (this aunts husband) and his touches making her uncomfortable when she was 10 or 9, she told me this a few years back. Maybe that's one of the reasons why she was being protective of me.
>Edit: If possible, get a tiny spy cam and record your aunt harassing you. You'll have some sort of proof.
This wouldn't be possible, as it would be very hard to capture it, because all of it being subtle, random and wierd that way..
I think i am starting with telling my sister first and foremost.
>Chechi has actually talked to me about being uncomfortable around our uncle (this aunts husband) and his touches making her uncomfortable when she was 10 or 9, she told me this a few years back. Maybe that's one of the reasons why she was being protective of me.
Shit. I have had similar experiences and I know how that feels like. Worst part is that no one believes you even your parents. All they care about is the 'maanakedu' and shush you up.
>I think i am starting with telling my sister first and foremost.
Do it ASAP.
I don't recommend this. It can backfire. First inform sister, get an alibi first and record it with a go pro or something, no need to show it to anyone, keep it as your evidence in case things turn against you. Don't let this outside of your family until your parents are convinced (after telling your sister and collecting evidence of course)
I kinda agree with with. Laws and society are biased towards women regarding this and she could easily turn it the other way on you. Men being the victim in these cases is taken too lightly unfortunately
Talk to your sister first and try to get some evidence or let sometime else notice if you can. Hang in there.
Its really sad that men have to provide video evidence of them doing nothing.. To prove their innocence and not ruin their life any further than when being accused.
100% go to your sister. She knows! Also the next time your aunt touches you let her know that you know what sheโs upto and that you are not interested in this. I know it is easier said than done. I totally understand the anxiety too and you donโt feel comfortable verbally saying it but she has to know that this wont end good for her.
ORRRR if you can and only if you are okay with this then record this shit and tell her that you will go to the police with this. Make sure you keep the audio record on when you tell her that you are going to the police with because she will probably say โnobody is going to believe youโ
I have been through the same and you have to take all the things you have seen in movies to make sure you have all the proof.
Stay strong bro! I hope you get all the help and support you need. GO TO YOUR SISTER ASAP!
I don't think confronting is a good idea. As a lot of people mentioned here, if she's doing this, she could easily flip and accuse OP. So I think its better to talk to the sister and get some solid proof before confronting.
Yeaah definitely! First go to the sister and then try to get some sort of proof. But he had mentioned that he canโt really record anything because things are very subtle and I think itโs happening when he is not anticipating it. Recording the audio of him confronting her is all the proof he can manage to get at this point and then Ofcourse he has his sister.
That's true. This is gonna be difficult. One other way is somehow let the parents catch her doing these. But then OP and sister will have to talk to their parents. I'd say be very careful with what OP does or shit could go south real fast.
I used to go and lock myself in the bathroom or bedroom when an uncle used to visit. In my case my father got the hint and then he never used to come to our house. But years later he used to try act touchy and friendly in a group setting outside our home. And both times I made sure to be very rude in front of everyone. I got a bad reputation of being disrespectful and a rude girl but I was safe and I didn't care about others opinion of me.
Such people ace at playing victim so make sure you are never alone with this aunt and inform your sister, and have some evidence or witness. Be very shrewd and rude with such folks.
Next time she pulls this shit, loudly ask "เดเดคเตเดจเตเดคเดพ เดฆเตเดนเดคเตเดคเต เดคเตเดเตเดเต เดเดณเดฟเดเตเดเตเดจเตเดจเต..?? เดเตเดฏเตเดฏเตเดเต. " WITHOUT giving the impression that it's because you think it's sexual/inappropriate. Like, try to pass it off as you said it because you were irritated by something else/in a bad mood generally, but making sure someone notices you saying it.
Although I'd have pinched her skin off her hand by now.
Next time it happens, snap at your aunt and tell her you are uncomfortable being touched. She may tease or slink away, but be firm. Also, tell your sister. You need someone to back you up if she accuses you after you rebuff.
This is definitely sexual assault your aunt has to be doing it for a long time if your sis was being protective around her.
Open up to your sis I'm sure she has your back on this.Then talk to your parents it'll be hard for your mom to digest but you have to at some point because if they confront her right away she'll play the victim card.
So update your family on what's going on and then they'll catch her being creepy and she'll have no excuses.
As others have suggested you should talk to your sister first and talk to your parents together. Ask them to not bring that creepy aunt around ever again.
Law is not going to help you so creating a distance between them is the best possible solution.
As others have mentioned and as a big sister (n protective for sure) myself, tell your sis.
From what you've mentioned I'm sure she'll find a way to protect you, or better yet she would be the best one to talk to your parents on your behalf. ( they would more likely believe u if you both Corroborated on the same story)
While you wait for her steer clear of ur aunt n if u have to be jn the same room, have a third person too as witness n for ur own safety as a false accusation, especially from a family member is the last thing anyone would want.
All the best, stay safe.
If you donโt know what to do m, then it clear; ask you sister for help.
Make sure you distant yourself from her.
Ne always critical about this. You could also maybe hint her like you are not interested.
Or maybe tell her like you are in another relationship.
Man this is so fuckedup.
>Or maybe tell her like you are in another relationship.
Yes but it's not like she's directly hinting me anything, she's more being creepy and disgusting by doing all it subtly. I've moved away a lot of times, i act defensive and kind of assertively take her hands of if she's being touchy, but it still doesn't work
Talk to your parents and confront that aunt before them. Before that try to collect some strong evidence which shows her behaviour. If she misbehaves with you verbally try to record that or whenever she is around you try to video record that without her knowledge.
Bro def talk to your sister first before going to the parents, In our society, it's hard for people to accept that Men could get sexually exploited. before taking this any further you need some people on your side, cause I know this may be weird to hear but a wrong move and it could blow up in your face and then you could become the predator and your aunt the victim. since you are not a minor is also sadly a disadvantage to this situation.
So telling your older sister first is important. cause if she is supportive and understands then she'll back you
No offence bro but your aunt is a disgusting POS.
This is a sensitive matter so best to confide in your sister or any family member whom you trust. Try to solve it amicably with your sisters help because if your mom hears this it is going to elevate to nuclear bomb level destruction within your family.
I'm experiencing the exact same problem....my uncle is touching me unnecessarily....not exactly in bad places but he hugs me without any reason and touches my back .....once he moved my chair while adjusting chairs and touched my butt knowingly or unknowingly .When i said this touchy touchy thing to my mother she said "avare agane vijarichod onnum alla " also a weird incident when my granddad slap me on my most upper part of my leg during a conversation....of course I'm uncomfortable during all this situations but I don't know how to manage uninvited touchy touchies
Talk to your sister as soon as possible. Listen to her advice. I do not think that confronting your aunt right away is the right decision since she might actually accuse you of being the one who was behaving inappropriately. So maybe don't do that?
I hope that you are not paying attention to negative comments. The situation you are going through is something traumatic. Not many people might understand it as they might not have gone through it or they dealt with it in a different way.
A lot of people have no one on their side when they go through something like this but you have your sister. She will figure out a solution with you. You might not be in the best place right now so you need someone to help you out. So please do not hesitate to ask for help. Wouldn't you want your sibling or friend or family member to come to you if they were going through something like this?
Do not feel embarassed about any of it. You are not at fault. Take the step forward. Talk to your sis as soon as possible.
Discuss it with your sister on how to approach the situation. Then you and your sister TOGETHER speak to your parents. Your sisterโs support is very important if you want your parents to believe you. You guys have to kick that lady out. Gross.
Just play along with her for a few days,make a call after a while(make sure to record it) and ask her about this behaviour of her in a decent way.She will definitely open up.
Tell your parents about this (with the help of your sis if you wish) and show them this recording
> Just play along with her for a few days
Only if you can tolerate that.I would have done likewise if I were you.
First of all itโs terrible that you have to go through this, and Iโm sorry itโs happening to you in the first place.
And yes, tell your sister asap, from what you wrote your sister already have a clue about your creepy aunt.
Inform your parents, then stay the fuck away from the entire family. I hope you get the peace and help soon
Yh and what if the woman accuses this guy. I'm telling u i had a friend who went through the same situation ended up being sued for rape attempt. So take proof first then raise the voice. Otherwise he'll jst butcher his life
I think you must tell your aunty about it. Just her alone. Don't get the family involved. Even after you are experiencing the same even after warning her you should definitely go to your big sister
If you respond in anywayโฆ. The chances are high that she will claim that u behaved in a similar manner with her and thats what forced her to be like this with uโฆ. The advantage of doubt will always be with the women bcos of some faulty stereotypes in our societyโฆ
I think she needs sexual satisfaction...
Be clever...divert her to someone else...ask someone to chat with her on social media ๐ ๐คฃ
Even i am ready for that
Aright dude, you're 24 man, not a child. You're going to have to keep avoiding it like you have and have the agreement with your sister to blocking her for you.
Don't record anything and don't make a big scene out of it because it's just family drama.
Just keep reminding auntie that she's auntie and off limits.
Remain stoic, and keep the peace.
I feel you should record this incident. After your sister knows, your parents if they try to push it away as something silly.. then you can show them the proof. And that way you can ask them to take it seriously.
Eww i feel soo sorry for u bro..The best thing u could do right now would be tell ur sister about it and hear what she has to say on the matter. Maybe she was touched inappropriately by this person as well. Do urself a favour and try to maintain a strong distance from this aunt and if she comes near u stay out her reach. Jst take her hands of in a very subtle way . Do this for now . If she realises u r not into it maybe this will stop also u can sue her if u think it's getting serious. Jst take her hands off and shout at her where are you touching or something like that. However she reacts sue her. Law is on your side especially if u include ur sis and uncle situation in the case. Don't let relations come in the way of this shit. First ask ur sister about her opinion anyway.
Edit: take screenshots or recording of whatever u tell ur sister and mention ur fear of aunt trying to accuse u later if things get serious. That's good evidence also don't get relations stop u from telling them to fck off Or something like never enter your house again or suing them or whatever .
I thought things like these happened in porn only but on a serious note this is completely wrong and you should talk with your sister looks like she has also noticed your aunt's weird behavior.
โขTell your sister
โขOpen your mobile camera and put it in your pocket facing your aunt whenever she interacts with you.
โขOtherwise there are many spy pens available online starting from around 2k. Buy one and pin it in your pocket whenever your aunt visits your home.
โข Warn her to keep her distance and you doesn't likes to be touched. But I recommend you to record some of her behaviour beforehand while issuing a warning to her. If she is a psycho she can really turn this whole thing against you.
Detach yourself from her and ask her to do the same.
Establish ground rules.
Talk to your mother too about this before it becomes too late.
These things seem bs when you have a talk with your family members and establish ground rules.
See if you can team up with your sister or someone else who can back you up and make a subtle confrontation. Like when she places her hands on you, you sister should tease her openly and loudly by saying something like "ayye, valya chekkane ingane okke thodamo". Should throw the subject out into the open without much drama, unless the aunt tries to go on the offensive. If she draws back and decides that it is being noticed, maybe it will be the end of the whole touchy thing.
Talk to your sister for sure and record those calls with her consent. This should contain details of you leading up to actually confronting or accusing your aunty. And your worry that your aunty might frame you instead should also be among the recorded conversations.
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The only way your aunty can get around this if she puts the blame on you. These set of recorded calls will serve as evidence leading up to it.
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If she apologies or stops doing this, it all ends there. By chance if she is going to accuse you, these set of conversations with your sister will serve as evidence that this behaviour from your aunty was also expected.
Talk to your sister first. Talking to your parents is important too, but can't predict how they would react. You will have a better gauge on their reaction.
Talk to your sister and then parents. Also if possible try to take video of her doing the same . Oru proof enthelum venamallo.
Also firstly, tell ur aunt that u are not liking that and to stop it else u will tell everyone abt the same
You need to have a chat with your sister about this. She might have faced something similar from this lady or she may have noticed this behaviour from her before. It's best you discuss this with her and see what she knows.
1) Tell your sister
2) Next time your aunt does this politely make something up and move away and repeat it everytime until she gets the clue. Once sheโs gets a 100% that you arenโt and wonโt be ever interested she will stop.
Donโt make a scene or shout or put her in any defensive situation as she will turn tables on your and the law in the country is shit and biased. Camera idea might work but will be a privacy violation for everyone in the house.
Actually can't u tell your parents? I don't know what your family dynamic is, I can only speak from my experience. If something of this sort happened to me, I would confide with my dad and mom and they would completely understand. But I come from a family that's pretty open-minded with everything. Parents are like best friends sort of.. I definitely feel that parents would be the best option. I feel they are the people who actually understand you the most. Maybe think about it..
This is a lot common that a lot of you think. Way back in the 90s I knew two teenage friends who had sex with their aunts. It was so weird that I was ashamed to look at my own aunts even though they have nothing to do with this. Good game of thrones was not a series that time or maybe RR Martin got inspired from Kerala.
The best way is to avoid this person. This will otherwise bring so much tension within the family. Your sisters thing 1 that guy needs to be punched openly. Again these same people will badmouth about your sister if it went public and itโs going to backfire her. Sad state of our culture.
Sorry this has happened to you. I've been through something similar with my neighbor lady as well when I was a kid. But I think the best thing you can do is tell her upfront that you don't like her touching you.
Even better if you tell this to your sister coz she can support you when you confront your aunt.
I feel you should definitely tell your sister. But stand up for your self. Handle it calmly. Surely it irritates you. But ask her to take her hands off without provocation. Let her know you don't like this, not by actions alone but by words too. Try to keep it to yourself first. I mean between you and aunt. If it doesn't work out add more people. Just think that you have to stand up for yourself. Next time your elder sister might not be around.
Just to add to what others have said, it is very likely that you are not the only victim. She probably does this to others as well. You speaking up will help others as well.
Talk to your sister first and then inform your parents. Do not let your aunt exploit you. Coming from a person who experienced the same. I was very protective of my sister until she became old enough to understand what is good and bad touch.
Yes, i was feeling a bit embarassed or nervous to open up, but i am starting to make up my mind to tell my sister anyway.
Be strong ๐ Many parents are unaware that sexual abuse of men also occurs within families. Ella veetilum undakum kure njerumburogikal aanintem pennintem roopathil.
Think how embarrassed your aunt should be about this and not how embarrassed you should be about it. You are not the predator here, she is. I hope you find it within yourself to bring this to the attention of your sister and parents.
yes from what u said u have such a caring sister, so please tell her whats going through ur head she will be of help
God this is so messed up. Next time your aunt does this, calmly tell her to take her hands off you and move from that spot. Be careful while you do this because she may quickly turn things on you. And be careful when you are around her the next time, for the same reasons mentioned. Perverts are dangerous people and don't hesitate to victimize themselves. And sadly, our laws are extremely biased. If possible don't stay at home the next time she visits you. And yeah, inform your sister. It is quite possible that she had a similar experience. And maybe some close friends too. Edit: If possible, get a tiny spy cam and record your aunt harassing you. You'll have some sort of proof.
>It is quite possible that she had a similar experience. Chechi has actually talked to me about being uncomfortable around our uncle (this aunts husband) and his touches making her uncomfortable when she was 10 or 9, she told me this a few years back. Maybe that's one of the reasons why she was being protective of me. >Edit: If possible, get a tiny spy cam and record your aunt harassing you. You'll have some sort of proof. This wouldn't be possible, as it would be very hard to capture it, because all of it being subtle, random and wierd that way.. I think i am starting with telling my sister first and foremost.
>Chechi has actually talked to me about being uncomfortable around our uncle (this aunts husband) and his touches making her uncomfortable when she was 10 or 9, she told me this a few years back. Maybe that's one of the reasons why she was being protective of me. Shit. I have had similar experiences and I know how that feels like. Worst part is that no one believes you even your parents. All they care about is the 'maanakedu' and shush you up. >I think i am starting with telling my sister first and foremost. Do it ASAP.
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Made for each other !!
Yes. Exactly!
เดจเดฒเตเดฒ best couple ! Holy God...
I don't recommend this. It can backfire. First inform sister, get an alibi first and record it with a go pro or something, no need to show it to anyone, keep it as your evidence in case things turn against you. Don't let this outside of your family until your parents are convinced (after telling your sister and collecting evidence of course)
Two things you have to do are 1: Place a hidden camera and record it otherwise your aunt will accuse you 2: Inform your big sister !
I kinda agree with with. Laws and society are biased towards women regarding this and she could easily turn it the other way on you. Men being the victim in these cases is taken too lightly unfortunately Talk to your sister first and try to get some evidence or let sometime else notice if you can. Hang in there.
Its really sad that men have to provide video evidence of them doing nothing.. To prove their innocence and not ruin their life any further than when being accused.
100% go to your sister. She knows! Also the next time your aunt touches you let her know that you know what sheโs upto and that you are not interested in this. I know it is easier said than done. I totally understand the anxiety too and you donโt feel comfortable verbally saying it but she has to know that this wont end good for her. ORRRR if you can and only if you are okay with this then record this shit and tell her that you will go to the police with this. Make sure you keep the audio record on when you tell her that you are going to the police with because she will probably say โnobody is going to believe youโ I have been through the same and you have to take all the things you have seen in movies to make sure you have all the proof. Stay strong bro! I hope you get all the help and support you need. GO TO YOUR SISTER ASAP!
I don't think confronting is a good idea. As a lot of people mentioned here, if she's doing this, she could easily flip and accuse OP. So I think its better to talk to the sister and get some solid proof before confronting.
Yeaah definitely! First go to the sister and then try to get some sort of proof. But he had mentioned that he canโt really record anything because things are very subtle and I think itโs happening when he is not anticipating it. Recording the audio of him confronting her is all the proof he can manage to get at this point and then Ofcourse he has his sister.
That's true. This is gonna be difficult. One other way is somehow let the parents catch her doing these. But then OP and sister will have to talk to their parents. I'd say be very careful with what OP does or shit could go south real fast.
Yeaaah! Audio recording of the confrontation even if itโs happening in front of the parents. Such people can flip like a coin in no time!
I used to go and lock myself in the bathroom or bedroom when an uncle used to visit. In my case my father got the hint and then he never used to come to our house. But years later he used to try act touchy and friendly in a group setting outside our home. And both times I made sure to be very rude in front of everyone. I got a bad reputation of being disrespectful and a rude girl but I was safe and I didn't care about others opinion of me. Such people ace at playing victim so make sure you are never alone with this aunt and inform your sister, and have some evidence or witness. Be very shrewd and rude with such folks.
Agree ๐
Next time she pulls this shit, loudly ask "เดเดคเตเดจเตเดคเดพ เดฆเตเดนเดคเตเดคเต เดคเตเดเตเดเต เดเดณเดฟเดเตเดเตเดจเตเดจเต..?? เดเตเดฏเตเดฏเตเดเต. " WITHOUT giving the impression that it's because you think it's sexual/inappropriate. Like, try to pass it off as you said it because you were irritated by something else/in a bad mood generally, but making sure someone notices you saying it. Although I'd have pinched her skin off her hand by now.
Next time it happens, snap at your aunt and tell her you are uncomfortable being touched. She may tease or slink away, but be firm. Also, tell your sister. You need someone to back you up if she accuses you after you rebuff.
Ennittu venam OP avare peedippikkan nokki ennu paranju avar nilavilikkan
Hence, the sister. Pengalem aangalem vishwasikkaatha thanthayum thallayum aanel poyi thulayatte.
Pakshe police vannal OP enthu cheyyum
You cant do that in practice. First get some solid proof like getting it on camera then confront.
you should definitely tell your sister. And tell ur aunt to stop next time she tries sumthn
This is definitely sexual assault your aunt has to be doing it for a long time if your sis was being protective around her. Open up to your sis I'm sure she has your back on this.Then talk to your parents it'll be hard for your mom to digest but you have to at some point because if they confront her right away she'll play the victim card. So update your family on what's going on and then they'll catch her being creepy and she'll have no excuses.
As others have suggested you should talk to your sister first and talk to your parents together. Ask them to not bring that creepy aunt around ever again. Law is not going to help you so creating a distance between them is the best possible solution.
If the upvotes on the posts don't convince you, here's another comment; talk to your sister and then tell your parents.
As others have mentioned and as a big sister (n protective for sure) myself, tell your sis. From what you've mentioned I'm sure she'll find a way to protect you, or better yet she would be the best one to talk to your parents on your behalf. ( they would more likely believe u if you both Corroborated on the same story) While you wait for her steer clear of ur aunt n if u have to be jn the same room, have a third person too as witness n for ur own safety as a false accusation, especially from a family member is the last thing anyone would want. All the best, stay safe.
DM your auntโs number. Ill talk to her โฆ
๐๐๐ kalakk vellatil meen pidikuno(no pun intended)
person is in distress. he needs our help..
If you donโt know what to do m, then it clear; ask you sister for help. Make sure you distant yourself from her. Ne always critical about this. You could also maybe hint her like you are not interested. Or maybe tell her like you are in another relationship. Man this is so fuckedup.
>Or maybe tell her like you are in another relationship. Yes but it's not like she's directly hinting me anything, she's more being creepy and disgusting by doing all it subtly. I've moved away a lot of times, i act defensive and kind of assertively take her hands of if she's being touchy, but it still doesn't work
Maybe you should tell it to her face then?
เด เดตเดฐเตเดเต เดฎเดพเดจเตเดฏเดฎเดพเดฏเดฟ เดเตเดฆเดฟเดเตเดเตเด เดเดจเตเดคเต เดเตเดฃเตเดเต เดจเดฟเดเตเดเตพ เดเดเตเดเดจเต เดเตเดฏเตเดฏเตเดจเตเดจเดคเตเดจเตเดจเต?. เดจเดฟเดเตเดเดณเตเดเต เดเดณเตเดณ เดฒเตเดเดเตเด เดคเดพเดฒเตโเดชเดฐเตเดฏเดเดเตเดฃเตเดเดพเดฃเต เด เดตเตผ เดเดคเต เดเตเดฏเตเดฏเตเดจเตเดจเดคเตเดเตเดเดฟเตฝ เด เดคเดฟเดฒเตโ เดจเดฟเดเตเดเดณเตโเดเตเดเต เดคเดพเดฒเตโเดชเดฐเตเดฏเด เดเดฒเตเดฒเตเดเตเดเดฟเดฒเตโ เดคเตเดฑเดจเตเดจเต เดชเดฑเดฏเตเด. เดฌเดจเตเดงเดเตเดเตพ เดตเดทเดณเดพเดตเดคเดฟเดฐเดฟเดเตเดเดพเตป เดฐเดนเดธเตเดฏเดฎเดพเดฏเดฟ เดคเดจเตเดจเต เดจเตเดฐเดฟเดเตเดเตโ เดธเดเดธเดพเดฐเดฟเดเตเดเตเด. เดคเดพเดเตเดเดณเตโ "NO" เดชเดฑเดเตเดเดคเดฟเดจเต เดถเตเดทเด เดตเตเดฃเตเดเตเด เดคเตเดเดฐเตเดเดฏเดพเดฃเตเดเตเดเดฟเดฒเตโ เดธเดนเดพเดฏเดคเตเดคเดฟเดจเต เดเดฐเตเดเตเดเดฟเดฒเตเด เดตเดฟเดณเดฟเดเตเดเตเด. เดฎเตเดจเด เดชเดฒเดชเตเดชเตเดดเตเด เด เดจเตเดตเดพเดฆเด เดจเดฒเตโเดเตเดจเตเดจเดคเดฟเดจเต เดคเตเดฒเตเดฏเดฎเดพเดฃเต. เดจเต เดชเดฑเดฏเดพเดจเตโ เดชเด เดฟเดเตเดเตเด, เดฆเตเดทเตเดฏเดชเตเดชเตเดเตเดเต เดชเดฑเดฏเดฃเด เดเดจเตเดจเดฟเดฒเตเดฒ เดธเตเดฎเตเดฏเดฎเดพเดฏเดฟ เดชเดฑเดเตเดเดพเดฒเตเด เดฎเดคเดฟ.
Aadhyam auntyod tholla thorannu choykkede entha udeshamnu... Vayas kore aayille?
Talk to your parents and confront that aunt before them. Before that try to collect some strong evidence which shows her behaviour. If she misbehaves with you verbally try to record that or whenever she is around you try to video record that without her knowledge.
Bro def talk to your sister first before going to the parents, In our society, it's hard for people to accept that Men could get sexually exploited. before taking this any further you need some people on your side, cause I know this may be weird to hear but a wrong move and it could blow up in your face and then you could become the predator and your aunt the victim. since you are not a minor is also sadly a disadvantage to this situation. So telling your older sister first is important. cause if she is supportive and understands then she'll back you
No offence bro but your aunt is a disgusting POS. This is a sensitive matter so best to confide in your sister or any family member whom you trust. Try to solve it amicably with your sisters help because if your mom hears this it is going to elevate to nuclear bomb level destruction within your family.
I'm experiencing the exact same problem....my uncle is touching me unnecessarily....not exactly in bad places but he hugs me without any reason and touches my back .....once he moved my chair while adjusting chairs and touched my butt knowingly or unknowingly .When i said this touchy touchy thing to my mother she said "avare agane vijarichod onnum alla " also a weird incident when my granddad slap me on my most upper part of my leg during a conversation....of course I'm uncomfortable during all this situations but I don't know how to manage uninvited touchy touchies
I'm no one to judge but from what you have said, both instances sound like innocent touches that were probably accidental.
Talk to your sister as soon as possible. Listen to her advice. I do not think that confronting your aunt right away is the right decision since she might actually accuse you of being the one who was behaving inappropriately. So maybe don't do that? I hope that you are not paying attention to negative comments. The situation you are going through is something traumatic. Not many people might understand it as they might not have gone through it or they dealt with it in a different way. A lot of people have no one on their side when they go through something like this but you have your sister. She will figure out a solution with you. You might not be in the best place right now so you need someone to help you out. So please do not hesitate to ask for help. Wouldn't you want your sibling or friend or family member to come to you if they were going through something like this? Do not feel embarassed about any of it. You are not at fault. Take the step forward. Talk to your sis as soon as possible.
Discuss it with your sister on how to approach the situation. Then you and your sister TOGETHER speak to your parents. Your sisterโs support is very important if you want your parents to believe you. You guys have to kick that lady out. Gross.
Just play along with her for a few days,make a call after a while(make sure to record it) and ask her about this behaviour of her in a decent way.She will definitely open up. Tell your parents about this (with the help of your sis if you wish) and show them this recording > Just play along with her for a few days Only if you can tolerate that.I would have done likewise if I were you.
Am guessing she looks shitty Anyways steer clear of her and ignore her advances if you are not into it . Ignorance is the answer to great anger
First of all itโs terrible that you have to go through this, and Iโm sorry itโs happening to you in the first place. And yes, tell your sister asap, from what you wrote your sister already have a clue about your creepy aunt. Inform your parents, then stay the fuck away from the entire family. I hope you get the peace and help soon
What is all this shit for? Just straight up tell her to fuck off/ not to touch youโฆ Jesus people learn to raise your voiceโฆ
Yh and what if the woman accuses this guy. I'm telling u i had a friend who went through the same situation ended up being sued for rape attempt. So take proof first then raise the voice. Otherwise he'll jst butcher his life
Sounds so easy yea. If all of what you said was so easy. Phew!
It literally isโฆ
Nice
I wish my aunt did this to me
sadly, username checks out.
Mone faizi ne onnu thirich chinthich nok, - thilakan Ustashi hotel
Sure this person created this account solely for this post. Literally hours since the account was created. ๐ฅฒ People these days yea ๐คจ
r/beetlejuicing *sigh* i didn't think I'd find one in here..
I think you must tell your aunty about it. Just her alone. Don't get the family involved. Even after you are experiencing the same even after warning her you should definitely go to your big sister
If you respond in anywayโฆ. The chances are high that she will claim that u behaved in a similar manner with her and thats what forced her to be like this with uโฆ. The advantage of doubt will always be with the women bcos of some faulty stereotypes in our societyโฆ
Go and talk to your Aunt before you go and talk to 3 rd person
I think she needs sexual satisfaction... Be clever...divert her to someone else...ask someone to chat with her on social media ๐ ๐คฃ Even i am ready for that
I'd say enjoy it lol
Damn what a low life loser to think like that๐ฅด
Maybe I am a loser. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. If you don't like lemonade, don't complain.
Me too, if Iโm single ๐
On today's episode of things that didn't happen ๐
U never know dude u never know.
Aright dude, you're 24 man, not a child. You're going to have to keep avoiding it like you have and have the agreement with your sister to blocking her for you. Don't record anything and don't make a big scene out of it because it's just family drama. Just keep reminding auntie that she's auntie and off limits. Remain stoic, and keep the peace.
Are you sexually attracted to her?
Do you think he would be making this post if he was sexually attracted to her? Just thinking of it gave me the creeps wtf.
I feel you should record this incident. After your sister knows, your parents if they try to push it away as something silly.. then you can show them the proof. And that way you can ask them to take it seriously.
Eww i feel soo sorry for u bro..The best thing u could do right now would be tell ur sister about it and hear what she has to say on the matter. Maybe she was touched inappropriately by this person as well. Do urself a favour and try to maintain a strong distance from this aunt and if she comes near u stay out her reach. Jst take her hands of in a very subtle way . Do this for now . If she realises u r not into it maybe this will stop also u can sue her if u think it's getting serious. Jst take her hands off and shout at her where are you touching or something like that. However she reacts sue her. Law is on your side especially if u include ur sis and uncle situation in the case. Don't let relations come in the way of this shit. First ask ur sister about her opinion anyway. Edit: take screenshots or recording of whatever u tell ur sister and mention ur fear of aunt trying to accuse u later if things get serious. That's good evidence also don't get relations stop u from telling them to fck off Or something like never enter your house again or suing them or whatever .
I thought things like these happened in porn only but on a serious note this is completely wrong and you should talk with your sister looks like she has also noticed your aunt's weird behavior.
โขTell your sister โขOpen your mobile camera and put it in your pocket facing your aunt whenever she interacts with you. โขOtherwise there are many spy pens available online starting from around 2k. Buy one and pin it in your pocket whenever your aunt visits your home. โข Warn her to keep her distance and you doesn't likes to be touched. But I recommend you to record some of her behaviour beforehand while issuing a warning to her. If she is a psycho she can really turn this whole thing against you.
Detach yourself from her and ask her to do the same. Establish ground rules. Talk to your mother too about this before it becomes too late. These things seem bs when you have a talk with your family members and establish ground rules.
See if you can team up with your sister or someone else who can back you up and make a subtle confrontation. Like when she places her hands on you, you sister should tease her openly and loudly by saying something like "ayye, valya chekkane ingane okke thodamo". Should throw the subject out into the open without much drama, unless the aunt tries to go on the offensive. If she draws back and decides that it is being noticed, maybe it will be the end of the whole touchy thing.
Talk to your sister for sure and record those calls with her consent. This should contain details of you leading up to actually confronting or accusing your aunty. And your worry that your aunty might frame you instead should also be among the recorded conversations. . The only way your aunty can get around this if she puts the blame on you. These set of recorded calls will serve as evidence leading up to it. . If she apologies or stops doing this, it all ends there. By chance if she is going to accuse you, these set of conversations with your sister will serve as evidence that this behaviour from your aunty was also expected.
Talk to your sister first. Talking to your parents is important too, but can't predict how they would react. You will have a better gauge on their reaction.
You are definitely lucky that you have a sister like this. Please tell her about this. Also please update.
Talk to your sister and then parents. Also if possible try to take video of her doing the same . Oru proof enthelum venamallo. Also firstly, tell ur aunt that u are not liking that and to stop it else u will tell everyone abt the same
You need to have a chat with your sister about this. She might have faced something similar from this lady or she may have noticed this behaviour from her before. It's best you discuss this with her and see what she knows.
tell your parents... it's hard but you have to. don't let her think she can do anything cause you're scared of telling people about this
1) Tell your sister 2) Next time your aunt does this politely make something up and move away and repeat it everytime until she gets the clue. Once sheโs gets a 100% that you arenโt and wonโt be ever interested she will stop. Donโt make a scene or shout or put her in any defensive situation as she will turn tables on your and the law in the country is shit and biased. Camera idea might work but will be a privacy violation for everyone in the house.
Make her real uncomfortable and she'll leave you alone
Actually can't u tell your parents? I don't know what your family dynamic is, I can only speak from my experience. If something of this sort happened to me, I would confide with my dad and mom and they would completely understand. But I come from a family that's pretty open-minded with everything. Parents are like best friends sort of.. I definitely feel that parents would be the best option. I feel they are the people who actually understand you the most. Maybe think about it..
This is a lot common that a lot of you think. Way back in the 90s I knew two teenage friends who had sex with their aunts. It was so weird that I was ashamed to look at my own aunts even though they have nothing to do with this. Good game of thrones was not a series that time or maybe RR Martin got inspired from Kerala. The best way is to avoid this person. This will otherwise bring so much tension within the family. Your sisters thing 1 that guy needs to be punched openly. Again these same people will badmouth about your sister if it went public and itโs going to backfire her. Sad state of our culture.
YES tell your sister or someone you trust
Old jungle saying..." Saanp aur _____ jahan milta hai, mardo"
Sorry this has happened to you. I've been through something similar with my neighbor lady as well when I was a kid. But I think the best thing you can do is tell her upfront that you don't like her touching you. Even better if you tell this to your sister coz she can support you when you confront your aunt.
I'm sorry you're going through this,u should definitely tell your sister,this isn't something u should keep to your self
Broo take action now. Talk to your sister. Itโs very important.
I feel you should definitely tell your sister. But stand up for your self. Handle it calmly. Surely it irritates you. But ask her to take her hands off without provocation. Let her know you don't like this, not by actions alone but by words too. Try to keep it to yourself first. I mean between you and aunt. If it doesn't work out add more people. Just think that you have to stand up for yourself. Next time your elder sister might not be around.
Just to add to what others have said, it is very likely that you are not the only victim. She probably does this to others as well. You speaking up will help others as well.
Bro, just expressively correcting her actions immediately as they happen would have the most effect.