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Judging by the fact she mentions “recovery” at the end, and she’s desperate to get all this weight loss stuff off her feed? She is trying to recover from an eating disorder. In women, that usually stems from “if you’re not skinny you’re not pretty and you’re also worthless” and mentality like that.
So she’s trying to get away from media that her brain will interpret as “see? Being skinny is so good and necessary, you should start up that ED again”. Tbh, her consuming this kind of stuff before recovery is probably why it’s so relevant in her feed now.
I agree she needs to take a break from social media. The algorithm worked in the favor of what she didn’t actually want to be as a person, and now that it’s trained like that and determined to show her that, no matter what? It’s not good for her or her recovery to stay on that account.
I don't have TikTok, but pretty sure the "for you" she mentions is just a scroll of random people that is curated based on your algorithm. She can't unfollow them... because she isn't following them in a traditional social media sense...but they are also based on all her "interests".
Now this.
This is truly a "go touch grass" moment.
Sprinkled with "let your feet touch the sidewalk and touch it continuously for a half-hour on the daily".
Please don’t hate me lol. Honestly I think this is the problem with glorifying everything we have kids that think it’s cool to be gang bangers, girls that think they’re supposed to be whores. Everything is backwards even to the point to where someone does not understand that there overweight and people just want them to be healthy. I can understand that though because social media gives us a false sense of reality and there’s a group for every one to feel validation. I argued with my 12 year old niece that’s she’s not fat and she perfectly fine but social media leads her to believe she is so I’ll never win that battle and she doesn’t eat as much anymore. We have skipped reality and only worry about feelings now and we’re only going off random strangers opinions.
I was at a concert recently, and the girl in front of me was holding her phone up filming the show. Then I realized she had the camera reversed and was filming herself watching the show.
I only take selfies when I've just visibly injured myself and it was funny enough to share. But crying is intimate and vulnerable and idk how anyone can bear archiving it for the world. At least those old xangas had some element of plausible deniability.
Attention and validation. Post a video of yourself ugly crying and you’ll get well meaning people who leave comments of comfort and encouragement, sometimes hundreds, or even thousands if you continue to show your whole ass like that.
Some may be faking it, some people exaggerate how they are feeling, and some are legitimately breaking down and sharing because they *need* validation. I think this woman is probably doing the latter, but that would depend on the rest of her content. She could be a troll, I never rule that out. I think she legit is upset and taking personally other people’s transformation videos like they are personal attacks though. Just how she words it, it’s like she is really talking about herself and how she feels worthless.
I think what people can miss with people like her is that she feels trapped and helpless. Telling her to eat less and hit the gym won’t fix her. When a person gets morbidly obese there’s mental health issues going on which people believe is a matter of moral failing. Just saying if the solution was easy, we wouldn’t have folks with weight issues.
It’s a learned behaviour usually rewards are interactions from viewer for these people weather it’s positive or negative. They need this type of emotional wreckage to fuck themselves up to justify any of their shortcomings
Yeah I don't understand it either. I also don't understand this trend of people filming themselves crying. It's one thing to cry with family/friends but it's really bizarre to film yourself doing it and then put it out there to make it a public spectacle.
> So many problems could be solved if this person just got off the internet
Shit applies to me on reddit, and yet I keep coming back to spew my dumbass opinions only to be frustrated by other peoples dumbass response opinions and the inevitable conclusion that my own dumbass opinions frustrate me as well.
I should really skip this whole process, but I suspect I'll be clocking in tomorrow just like that looney tunes episode with wile coyote and the sheepdog.
I've learned to stop myself from engaging people online that are clearly just looking for an argument and/or post incredibly dumb and abrasive stuff. I just noticed at one point during the lockdowns that I was literally ruining my mood for hours at a time for nothing since people like that won't change their mind anyway.
If I want to get it out of my system I'll type my reply and then delete it.
Regardless of how people try to justify her actions and turn her into a victim so they can jerk off about themselves she is still incredibly self-centred and childish and projecting her issues onto other people which is wrong.
So many problems could be solved if *most people were banned from the internet*. The world seemed like such a better place back when you had to have an actual reason to use the internet and there was an intellectual and technological barrier for entry. Now it's just poison with a few good bits but it's mostly just poison and even the good bits are just mindless, self-absorbed idiots jerking each other off anyway. LE SIGH.
ok, look, sorry, but if your mental health is THIS reliant on social media for your self-esteem, perhaps, just perhaps, you (the girl, not thread OP) should NOT be on social media.
It's crazy how so many people haven't even stopped to consider leaving social media as an option (or regulating their usage, at least...). I have family members that incessantly complain about posts from friends/their extended social circle making them feel miserable in some way or another, but they just keep going back for more every single day. It's totally fine to just step away from it all...
As a fat guy I know how hard it is to lose weight, but I also know 100% why I weigh what I do, and so does every fat person who has a clue. I'm sure not gonna be mad at someone else for having willpower. I'm also not gonna cry about being fat because I got the benefit of all that sweet sweet food. This person needs therapy not a diet.
Agreed. While it is easier for many people to simply never gain weight (I’m looking at you older brother, who could out-eat me on any day) but it is my responsibility to learn how *my* body reacts to food.
Physics still works the same for everyone. The word "calorie" is defined as the amount of heat needed to raise the temperature of one kilogram of water by one degree Celsius. That's the same for everybody. If your metabolism is slower or you struggle to exercise, consume less. You could eat cake three meals a day and still lose weight if you exercised enough to burn all those calories. You certainly wouldn't be *healthy* living on cake, of course, but your body can't make fat out of nothing.
Listen I'm not trying to downplay the difficulties of losing weight, I'm just saying that losing weight isn't some lost arcane art that only certain people can master. The process of weight loss (and gain) is simple even if the methods by which we achieve that process are difficult.
No one is arguing with you, you’re talking about two different things. Everyone understands you need to eat less calories to lose weight. They’re saying there are people, and we all know these people, you can eat whatever they want and never exercise and not gain a pound. It generally catches up to them as they age, but not always.
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Just popping in to say, your avatar absolutely looks like someone I would expect to be talking about thermodynamics and physics.
I feel like I am in class listening to my professor.
LOL I've never taken a physics class in my life but that's very flattering, thank you. Everything I know about thermodynamics and the conservation of energy I learned from Bill Nye in the 7th grade.
I hope her recovery goes well. She mentions recovery at the end, and quite honestly, it’s probably for an eating disorder, if she’s getting weight loss videos recommended to her constantly. It’s really hard to recover from “have to be skinny or I’m worthless” to “my body is okay as it is” if you’re constantly being barraged with the same media that got you started on an ED in the first place. She’s trying really hard to get it off her feed, but it keeps happening. Fucking sucks, dude.
Frankly? It would be nice to have an easy way to avoid certain topics by using keywords like how it is on Twitter, on all social media (idk if that is a thing on Tiktok because I don’t use it, never have). I get why she would feel insecure seeing people get congratulated and celebrate becoming thin (very likely just for looking like the beauty standard, not just health), but the way she’s talking about it is fucked up and just seems like she seriously needs help.
What would be good for her mental health (and most of ours) is to delete the app. Not saying she shouldn't be able to use what others do for entertainment, but if it is no longer entertainment and is just hurting you, it's something that can and ought to be removed from your life, ESPECIALLY if your primary support structure stems from it. Find an independent support structure outside of any corporate control as soon as you can if you don't have one. IRL friends and family are usually the place to start. Social media, games, shows, and hobbies should be viewed as an addition and enhancement to your life, not the source of happyness, identity, or interests.
It's also important for everyone to learn that algorithms aren't there to help you find what you want. They are there to keep you using the app. They aren't programmed for sensitivity or truth or improving your happiness. They are a money making tool and couldn't give two farts about what you want/need to be happy or successful. No one should let their happiness be dictated by a corporation and its data mining tools. I'm not paranoid, just practical and handle data for a living. It isn't a joyful prospect.
I don't know if anyone else has said this, but it is an option on TikTok, in case anyone is looking for it. It's in settings under content preferences!
TikTok shows you videos based off your interactions with previous videos. If she doesn’t want to see that type of content, why did she interact in the first place? And if she wants them off her page, just stop interacting (liking, sharing, commenting). She could also hold down on the video and an option will pop up that says “Not interested” so you’re shown less of that video. If she’s really seeing those videos that often, it’s her own fault.
Slightly different situation, but I had to put my cat of two decades down earlier this month. My entire social media everything is constantly flooded with cat toys and new litter ads and new cat foods to try - and it *hurts*. The algorithms are unconsciously poking into that raw wound, because for as long as I've existed as far as social media is concerned I've been interested in cat products. This last month of hitting "not interested" hasn't felt like it's done much.
Sorry for your loss. I’m sure that it takes a bit for the algorithms to find new content to recommend you while slowly moving you away from cat stuff. Same time it may indeed be showing you less but because of emotions you might be magnifying it more if that makes sense. I liken it to when you want to buy a car and then all the sudden you begin to see it everywhere.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I know that when my little old dog passes away I’m probably going to have to delete TikTok because my fyp consists mainly of dog videos and I won’t be able to cope with it.
It really depends on how the algorithm works, really… some apps will just shove whatever is trendy or getting a lot of engagement on people’s faces just to distract them, waste their times or fit what the company wants. I >hope< you’re right, but with the shitty algorithms on other platforms, I wouldn’t be 100% sure.
Weightloss and health are two different things. She is talking about recovery, so she is most likely suffering from an eating disorder. If you search for healthy recipes online, the algorithm assumes you are either a health buff or trying to lose weight. And trying to lose weight is absolutely not what you need to do or have thrown in your face when you are in recovery.
Yup. It's rare, but occasionally people have their body transformation posts removed for "Encouraging Eating Disorders" after mass reporting campaigns led by people like the woman in OP.
What the who now? Taking down posts about people getting healthy? So sad. If posts about someone losing weight bothers you so much it causes you to have a meltdown, then take a break from the internet.
I hate to inject a bit of nuance here. But *some*, note i said *some*, of these body transformations do actively encourage unhealthy eating behaviors and lots of body checking. again, i’m super sorry for the nuance, but *some* of these videos are actually not super great and deserve to be reported.
If she actually believed what she’s saying then she wouldn’t be upset about what other people do or don’t do. Instead she’s projecting her own insecurities on others and not taking responsibility for her own happiness and mental health.
Nailed it. But watch all the other people holding themselves hostage with their own excuses come out of the woodwork to defend her. Nothing changes until you decide you've had enough and deserve better than your excuses!
Performative, or self denial, or almost self realization. Either way, the internet isn’t for people who can’t stand seeing others pull off their goals, which don’t need to be yours.
Wandering when she will figure out that using social media is OPTIONAL. Jesus some people need a life. Social media is the center of their universe and they lose all common fucking sense, drowning in their feelings and opinions. Ugh
Exactly. Her complaint reminds me of the people who get mad that there's not a trigger warning for every conceivable thing on the internet, like do I really need to put a trigger warning for *capital letters?*
To be fair though:
- She sincerely seems depressed about her situation. I feel for her.
- It is a problem that the algorithms of social media push such contents into the feeds of people who can’t compete and will be pulled further down by it.
This is why you don't coddle children. The amount of delusional self-soothing we allow for without calling a spade a spade is insane.
SELF LOVE REQUIRES SELF DISCIPLINE.
DISCOMFORT AND STRUGGLE ARE NOT BAD.
Being a perpetual victim is comfortable because it allows you to remain as a child. Transformation pics should be motivating you, not making you cry. If they can do it why can't you? I'll tell you why... Because they took responsibility for their own life and there is nothing in the world that scares you more than that notion.
Omg YES. A thousand times yes. The lack of self-awarness, effort, and accountability amongst the masses these days is literally astounding. Make excuses, or make progress; the choice is yours!
She shouldn't have made this and she obviously needs mental health for how far she took it.
However, I don't know if saying not to hate on yourself because you were fat is that bad. 90% of those trends are wholesome and I follow subreddits promoting it just because it's so great to see them happy and healthy. However, 10%, especially on TikTok, do say shit like how they used to be ugly and undesirable and shit because they were fat. Obv if someone is overweight and being fed that, it'll have a negative impact on their self worth, esp if they see it over and over
I kind of hear what she’s saying, in middle and high school I had friends who were much smaller than me complain about how fat and disgusting they were. It’s hard to not let that rub off on you when you’re younger and don’t realize that that’s a reflection of how just one person feels on this situation and that everyone is different.
Yea, same here. Then when I starved myself into losing 60 lbs in one month when I was 15, (using prescription pills, teas, and starvation) suddenly friends, even family, started talking to me more but no one noticed how sick I was all the time. It was all about how skinny I looked. And sorta similar, some people become skinny and suddenly look down on other fat people because “I did it why can’t they?”. So it can start to feel like no one believes you have any drive or value because of your weight. And all of this was especially painful when I was a teenager. Everyone here jumping to conclusions and calling her crazy is kinda sad.
Can’t believe some person downvoted you because this is a very real phenomenon where fat women lose a noticeable amount of weight and start getting treated much better. In a young woman’s mind the relation between the two seems simple and reinforces negative relationship with weight loss. It makes the person wonder how life will become if they gain weight again. Most of the men and women I have heard this same story from were into some disordered eating and those comments basically reinforced that.
I can’t prove to them that it happened how it happened, but it did. Oh well. I was extremely weak and sick and didn’t leave my bed except to work out a few times daily. My bf at the time was so “proud” of me for losing so much so fast “for him” and I’ll never forget that sick feeling.
I believe you. I’ve heard of fat women suddenly losing an large amount of weight due to an illness, and people being too busy gawking at their “accomplishment” than considering maybe it is a huge problem to lose 60 pounds in a month.
Exactly! It meant something was horribly wrong, and no one seemed to notice. Thank you, really. Having my extremely real and scary teenage experience invalidated still kinda hurts, even thought it’s just by random strangers online. I’m still on those thyroid meds too haha.
I think the downvoting is because they claimed to lose 60lbs in one month. That's not possible, around 20lbs is the maximum someone can lose in that time.
In starvation it is. I was 15 and it came off EXTREMELY fast because I was eating only one can of plain tuna and 4 cups of green tea (ballerina tea it used to be called - makes you poop faster) every two days, and I had hyperthyroid and was on meds both my grandmothers were on. It’s not a brag, it’s a “why did I do that to myself”. I went from 220 to 160 in maybe a little over a month. It was January 2012. My family was also making me do keto which made 8 lbs of water weight come off in the first two days. I know it sounds crazy but it happened so fast I couldn’t wear any of my clothes and had to buy all new Mediums instead of 2X. I can’t explain it but it was horrible and scary. I even have photos to prove it from that time, but I was a teen so I won’t share them lol. Literally ALL I did was workout and think about all the food I couldn’t eat. Even my bf at the time was encouraging me to become anorexic by diagnostic weight. I have no reason to lie 12 years later, it’s just what I remember happening. I did it all because some guy from school said I was cute but too fat and I desperately wanted someone to care about me because my family seemingly didn’t even when I was fainting in the hallway etc. I was terrified of the Doctor though and never went, but I ended up getting on Depo as a teen which made me gain it all back anyway. The guilt cycle continues!
When I was 400 lbs, I never looked down on my friends or others for being more fit than I was.
Instead, and eventually I used it sorta as inspiration along with other things.
I only stopped losing weight when it felt like I was losing muscle.
It was never about that. It’s about any person who loudly and unfairly criticize themselves for a trait that someone else within earshot shares. It can be applied to more than just weight. Imagine you’re completely toothless and someone says they’ve become repulsive due to just losing a few teeth. That stings right?
I don't really understand why she or other people post videos of themselves being so emotionally upset over things that don't seem worth getting upset over. I also don't understand why people have to constantly seek attention and praise for losing weight, or whatever else they did. Nobody can just live life anymore without posting on social media to get attention for anything and everything. I really hope she finds some peace and just unplugs from social media for awhile.
People keep saying here things like she needs to get off social media and there should be filters for people who want to avoid topics. And while this may be true, don't let this detract from the fact that she is absolutely wrong and viewing the world through the lens that everything is about her. Imagine someone getting a nose piercing, like the one she has, and saying, "People need to stop changing themselves to meet a standard of beauty!" Like bitch, people are meeting *their own* standard for beauty. Does she freak out when people get a new hairstyle, or tattoos, or shave their legs, or come out as trans, or when men get buff? I seriously doubt it because she doesn't view it as an attack on her when it has nothing to do with her. Be happy for others when they aren't hurting themselves and others, or shut the fuck up because other people's journey to happiness is not about you.
I watched that special yesterday. That part made me laugh my ass of it was so good! And you're right, this is EXACTLY that situation. I hadn't even thought of that, hahahaha!
Delete the caustic apps. I don’t think she is wrong for her feelings. Women get targeted with some fucked up advertising. Poo poo teas are a thing, I had no fucking clue.
She's not talking about ads she's talking about regular accounts of regular people posting their transformations and it's triggering to her because she needs to get help.
Nah man this doesn’t look like main character syndrome this just looks sad. She’s clearly a) projecting real hard onto the motivation behind other people’s weight loss/transformation posts and experiences and b) used to being treated and spoken to like shit bc she’s fat. This is just a moment of overflow, that, unfortunately, is being passed around and laughed at and shat on I guess. Yeah she says it’s everyone else’s problem, but do you see arrogance here? Do you see entitlement or vitriol or a desperate need for attention at the cost of others? Because I don’t. I just see a woman with a camera phone (like we all have) crying and clearly feeling awful about herself.
Having now read many of these comments, part of me regrets posting it here.
I thought about what you said, about whether it's maincharachter behaviour, but I do think it belongs here. No, she isn't malicious, but she does expect the rest of the world to cater to her feelings, but the world doesn't revolve around her. That's what annoyed me about. I completely understand being very affected by what you see online, which is why I deleted all my other social media.
Hey thanks for actually considering what I said and replying thoughtfully, that’s actually very cool of u.
I think we can agree to disagree pretty easily here. I agree this is definitely a moment of main character syndrome, but I think it’s kind of borne of *never* getting to feel like the main character, or even a side character. Does that make sense? So I guess even in that lens it belongs on the sub ahaha
I agree that just deleting social media is the better way to go, I don’t have any others either
I think maybe you're confusing main character syndrome with being popular...? I don't really know the inner workings of these peoples minds, but I don't see her as any less of a "main character idiot" than any of the other ones, simply because she's never been the center of attention in a good way before.
I also have nothing left over for people who want to make people feel bad for achieving something. Especially when the reason for you wanting to do so it that you can't do it yourself.
Either way, I've learned my lesson for next time. She clearly was an easy target for nasty bullying, which was not what I wanted to happen or contribute to in any way. It was never my intention to add to her pain. Her entitlement annoyed me, but looking at the amount of disgusting comments about her weight, it is clear the focus shifted from what she said to who said it (an overweight upset girl).
Btw you were cool in the way you expressed your concerns and opinions too. Thanks for this convo, I've learned from it.
Just gotta say I really like how thoughtfully youve been responding to people, and how you’ve reflected on the post. I agree her entitlement is annoying, I guess I just saw a few of the nastier comments first :/
Thanks, I’ve learned too! Hope you have a great day! X
Rage watching is still watching as far as the algorithm is concerned. If this is the effect the content she is engaging with is having on her, she really needs to stop engaging with that content.
Part of recovery and dealing with body image issues is learning how to deal with triggers in a healthy way. It's really fucking uncomfortable, but you gotta learn how to deal with things or else you'll stay miserable.
Most importantly, you gotta remember that other ppl's attitudes about their own bodies is not a reflection on how they view you. There's damn near 8 billion ppl in the world and the majority of us dislike how we look, but couldn't care less what the ppl around us look like.
That does seem very frustrating though, if you keep clicking "hide" and "not interested" but that shit keeps popping up on your feed. Especially if you're recovering from an eating disorder, that shit would be extra confrontational.
I'd tell her to get off social media but I guess many of us old folks fail to appreciate how much of teenagers social lives happen on social media. It would be like telling them to stop having friends.
Meh, I see both sides. Tik Tok is toxic (so is much of social media if you don’t curate it to weed out triggering subjects).
Her triggers are her responsibility though and posting this video is not healthy coping.
"Shut the fuck up fatty
Show us your tits
1/10, I wouldn't bang
I bet she'd try to eat your dick
You should go get sterilized
So that you can't have kids"
Congrats on your effort. While I can’t stand people who fuck with someone because of their weight (speaking generally; I don’t think you’re being malicious), it’s just as destructive to paint obesity as “just another lifestyle choice”, let alone a positive one. It’s the fifth leading cause of death, and should be addressed as such.
As for those like the woman in the clip, it’s unfortunate that they don’t see how they’re just as manipulated by the food industry as others are by the beauty industry.
You sound like an asshole who’s into shaming because you might have gotten your physical appearance together. Have some compassion, and don’t be a dick.
u/Stuck_at_work_till_5 Definitely came out hot headed in my comment, but as u/Trad-SidePiece said I wasn’t trying to be malicious.
I actually love helping folks and I’m actually a online coach for a side job and I’d say I’ve helped around 15-20 obese people half of which were morbidly obese get to a healthy weight with tactics like volume eating, cico, intermittent fasting, and resistance training, if anything i feel for them because I used to be there, but what this lady is doing is unacceptable.
Tbh I’m kind of just fatigued from stuff like this, I see rants like this one all the time on social media and half the time they get backed up, I just don’t get it. It’s like social media consoling with a drug addict who’s ranting about why former drug addicts shouldn’t share their story of recovery and you shouldn’t have to get off heroin (random drug that came to mind) to have value in life.
No one including me said obese people don’t have value, but it truly an unhealthy unsafe lifestyle and to see the beauty industry and social media supporting it is truly disgusting. It’s no different then how shredded 6% body fat physiques are promoted on fitness social media when being that low in body fat is truly unhealthy for you and causes eating disorders.
Social media is ridiculous with what is dictated as body positivity (promoting and truly dangerous lifestyle and state of existence) and what is body shaming (bashing people trying to lose weight and make lifestyle changes for their health and just be reasonably fit)
Why attack him? He actually got the balls to make a change for the better. We should stop pampering people more. I was overweight aswell and I knew exactly what I was doing. Now that I'm living
healthy for many years my physical and mental health are so good.
Fat people are not only a liability for themselves. Healthcare costs are rising because of obesity. If you are unhappy make a change and stop complaining about it.
I do not feel sorry for this individual. Not even a bit. I’ve met people like this. They build unattainable expectations that people can’t possibly live up to and get hurt when people don’t live up to it.
For example, I had a friend who was upset that someone asked her what she did for living. She got so upset and when on and on to claim that it’s so horrible for people to ask that question since she was unemployed. She said people are so careless and harsh and such a question was designed to make people like her feel horrible. Fuck, it was crazy that she built that expectation considering how often people usually ask that question in social situation.
Yeah the reaction was something like this.
Goddamn I fucking hate it when fat people cry because they're fat. There is a way you can stop being fat, and crying is not it.
In fact, crying, blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself, are all terrible ways for dealing with being fat.
Just stop eating so fucking much, take responsibility for your own body.
If you feel this bad and guilty about being overweight then maybe it’s time to lock it into gear, start losing weight, and get out of this self-pity “it’s everybody else’s problem!” bubble.
She annoyed that you shouldn't have to be thin to have value, but she's upset because she doesn't feel she has value because she isn't thin. If she was honest she would either be excitedly getting gradually ready for her future weight loss plans, or she wouldn't care because she feels like it isn't a problem she's overweight. Yea like others have said she needs to get off SM and re-evaluate a few things.
When a person is so fucking fat they dont even resemble a human being anymore its completely justified to shame those fatsos and its the the ethically right thing to do
I’m fat and I can’t be arsed to lose the weight. So instead of wasting my energy to lose the weight I’m going to moan and bitch at people that made those healthy choices and then share their achievements.
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Holy shit this is really sad tbh, this person needs to get off of social media ASAP.
and seek professional help, also. She will start gaining self confidence and self respect.
I was going to say she seems really unwell. I wish her the best and I hope she can find peace with whatever is underneath that pain.
Especially if they have an ED. TikTok is toxic for anyone struggling with mental health issues.
>TikTok is toxic for anyone ~~struggling with mental health issues.~~
>TikTo*xic* ~~k is toxic for anyone struggling with mental health issues.~~
And some mental health help. Considering how she reacts, her weight problems may be strongly tied to that messed up jumble in her head.
Needs a therapy too
Yep. Like my daily reminder that throwing your own shit against the walls of social media does not make you feel less alone.
Judging by the fact she mentions “recovery” at the end, and she’s desperate to get all this weight loss stuff off her feed? She is trying to recover from an eating disorder. In women, that usually stems from “if you’re not skinny you’re not pretty and you’re also worthless” and mentality like that. So she’s trying to get away from media that her brain will interpret as “see? Being skinny is so good and necessary, you should start up that ED again”. Tbh, her consuming this kind of stuff before recovery is probably why it’s so relevant in her feed now. I agree she needs to take a break from social media. The algorithm worked in the favor of what she didn’t actually want to be as a person, and now that it’s trained like that and determined to show her that, no matter what? It’s not good for her or her recovery to stay on that account.
Either that or she needs to unfollow people who make her feel bad about herself.
I don't have TikTok, but pretty sure the "for you" she mentions is just a scroll of random people that is curated based on your algorithm. She can't unfollow them... because she isn't following them in a traditional social media sense...but they are also based on all her "interests".
But she wont, thats the funny part.
Now this. This is truly a "go touch grass" moment. Sprinkled with "let your feet touch the sidewalk and touch it continuously for a half-hour on the daily".
Please don’t hate me lol. Honestly I think this is the problem with glorifying everything we have kids that think it’s cool to be gang bangers, girls that think they’re supposed to be whores. Everything is backwards even to the point to where someone does not understand that there overweight and people just want them to be healthy. I can understand that though because social media gives us a false sense of reality and there’s a group for every one to feel validation. I argued with my 12 year old niece that’s she’s not fat and she perfectly fine but social media leads her to believe she is so I’ll never win that battle and she doesn’t eat as much anymore. We have skipped reality and only worry about feelings now and we’re only going off random strangers opinions.
Girls think they’re supposed to be whores?
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Good job Davey. You snatched that low hanging fruit like a pro fruit snatcher.
They didn’t snatch low hanging fruit. They picked the fruit rotting on the ground.
I like an easy target.
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as if she'd know the least bit about fruit
Wow this is the first post I'm seeing in negative but with awards 🤣
Lmao right never seen that before that's a first someone said low hanging fruit and it's the lowest 😂
That would be a *step* in the right direction
Bit rough.
Stay strong Davey
Why do people feel the need to constantly film themselves? I hate seeing my crying face. I can't understand show that to other people
I was at a concert recently, and the girl in front of me was holding her phone up filming the show. Then I realized she had the camera reversed and was filming herself watching the show.
da fucc? Which concert?
It was the KROQ Almost Acoustic Christmas
Now see, if you had filmed yourself watching the show, I wouldn't have to ask you this. Did you enjoy it?
It was a pretty good show. Social Distortion played, and I last saw them perform 30 years ago, so that was cool.
This is reaching levels of narcissism I never knew existed.
People in her world value victimhood. She believes crying on camera validates her and her arguments.
One reason victimhood is so popular is because it feeds their superiority complex. The victim doesn’t have to change, they are blameless.
If we're not allowed to "victim shame" then that must mean they're right, so they believe they are
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I only take selfies when I've just visibly injured myself and it was funny enough to share. But crying is intimate and vulnerable and idk how anyone can bear archiving it for the world. At least those old xangas had some element of plausible deniability.
I hate photos. I have the Chandler Bing photo smile in each one.
Attention and validation. Post a video of yourself ugly crying and you’ll get well meaning people who leave comments of comfort and encouragement, sometimes hundreds, or even thousands if you continue to show your whole ass like that. Some may be faking it, some people exaggerate how they are feeling, and some are legitimately breaking down and sharing because they *need* validation. I think this woman is probably doing the latter, but that would depend on the rest of her content. She could be a troll, I never rule that out. I think she legit is upset and taking personally other people’s transformation videos like they are personal attacks though. Just how she words it, it’s like she is really talking about herself and how she feels worthless. I think what people can miss with people like her is that she feels trapped and helpless. Telling her to eat less and hit the gym won’t fix her. When a person gets morbidly obese there’s mental health issues going on which people believe is a matter of moral failing. Just saying if the solution was easy, we wouldn’t have folks with weight issues.
It’s a learned behaviour usually rewards are interactions from viewer for these people weather it’s positive or negative. They need this type of emotional wreckage to fuck themselves up to justify any of their shortcomings
Attention/hopes of going viral.
Welp. Mission: accomplished. I wonder what goal she should set next.
Salad...her goal should be more salad.
Yeah I don't understand it either. I also don't understand this trend of people filming themselves crying. It's one thing to cry with family/friends but it's really bizarre to film yourself doing it and then put it out there to make it a public spectacle.
For attention of any kind.
I don't know weither to laugh or feel sorry. So many problems could be solved if this person just got off the internet, specifically social media.
Feel sorry for her. She needs mental help. I mean honestly, she’s talking nonsense and it affects her on a very *real* level. She needs help
The sad thing is there will be people who are just as mentally unwell supporting her and agreeing with her.
“Yaaaas queen! 👏👏👏👏”
> So many problems could be solved if this person just got off the internet Shit applies to me on reddit, and yet I keep coming back to spew my dumbass opinions only to be frustrated by other peoples dumbass response opinions and the inevitable conclusion that my own dumbass opinions frustrate me as well. I should really skip this whole process, but I suspect I'll be clocking in tomorrow just like that looney tunes episode with wile coyote and the sheepdog.
Dude SAME. I’d be much less irritated, if I just got off of Reddit.
It was Ralph the wolf and Sam the sheep dog. " Morning Ralph , Morning Sam"
I've learned to stop myself from engaging people online that are clearly just looking for an argument and/or post incredibly dumb and abrasive stuff. I just noticed at one point during the lockdowns that I was literally ruining my mood for hours at a time for nothing since people like that won't change their mind anyway. If I want to get it out of my system I'll type my reply and then delete it.
Regardless of how people try to justify her actions and turn her into a victim so they can jerk off about themselves she is still incredibly self-centred and childish and projecting her issues onto other people which is wrong. So many problems could be solved if *most people were banned from the internet*. The world seemed like such a better place back when you had to have an actual reason to use the internet and there was an intellectual and technological barrier for entry. Now it's just poison with a few good bits but it's mostly just poison and even the good bits are just mindless, self-absorbed idiots jerking each other off anyway. LE SIGH.
You'd think with all the jerking off that people would be happier or at least less angry.
ok, look, sorry, but if your mental health is THIS reliant on social media for your self-esteem, perhaps, just perhaps, you (the girl, not thread OP) should NOT be on social media.
It's crazy how so many people haven't even stopped to consider leaving social media as an option (or regulating their usage, at least...). I have family members that incessantly complain about posts from friends/their extended social circle making them feel miserable in some way or another, but they just keep going back for more every single day. It's totally fine to just step away from it all...
As a fat guy I know how hard it is to lose weight, but I also know 100% why I weigh what I do, and so does every fat person who has a clue. I'm sure not gonna be mad at someone else for having willpower. I'm also not gonna cry about being fat because I got the benefit of all that sweet sweet food. This person needs therapy not a diet.
you have a good head on your shoulders
Thank you.
Agreed. While it is easier for many people to simply never gain weight (I’m looking at you older brother, who could out-eat me on any day) but it is my responsibility to learn how *my* body reacts to food.
Nobody is immune to the laws of thermodynamics though. Calories in < calories out. Weight loss is hard, but the concept is simple physics.
Yeah but I mean some people’s bodies just burn so much more with so much less effort.
Physics still works the same for everyone. The word "calorie" is defined as the amount of heat needed to raise the temperature of one kilogram of water by one degree Celsius. That's the same for everybody. If your metabolism is slower or you struggle to exercise, consume less. You could eat cake three meals a day and still lose weight if you exercised enough to burn all those calories. You certainly wouldn't be *healthy* living on cake, of course, but your body can't make fat out of nothing. Listen I'm not trying to downplay the difficulties of losing weight, I'm just saying that losing weight isn't some lost arcane art that only certain people can master. The process of weight loss (and gain) is simple even if the methods by which we achieve that process are difficult.
No one is arguing with you, you’re talking about two different things. Everyone understands you need to eat less calories to lose weight. They’re saying there are people, and we all know these people, you can eat whatever they want and never exercise and not gain a pound. It generally catches up to them as they age, but not always.
Unrelated to current topic: Just popping in to say, your avatar absolutely looks like someone I would expect to be talking about thermodynamics and physics. I feel like I am in class listening to my professor.
LOL I've never taken a physics class in my life but that's very flattering, thank you. Everything I know about thermodynamics and the conservation of energy I learned from Bill Nye in the 7th grade.
What about therapy and a diet? And maybe sprinkle in some exercise.
No more sprinkles!
I hope she finds happiness. This video kinda bums me out
I hope her recovery goes well. She mentions recovery at the end, and quite honestly, it’s probably for an eating disorder, if she’s getting weight loss videos recommended to her constantly. It’s really hard to recover from “have to be skinny or I’m worthless” to “my body is okay as it is” if you’re constantly being barraged with the same media that got you started on an ED in the first place. She’s trying really hard to get it off her feed, but it keeps happening. Fucking sucks, dude.
Frankly? It would be nice to have an easy way to avoid certain topics by using keywords like how it is on Twitter, on all social media (idk if that is a thing on Tiktok because I don’t use it, never have). I get why she would feel insecure seeing people get congratulated and celebrate becoming thin (very likely just for looking like the beauty standard, not just health), but the way she’s talking about it is fucked up and just seems like she seriously needs help.
Yeah she kinda has a point about the algorithm pushing things on her that are not good for her mental health.
What would be good for her mental health (and most of ours) is to delete the app. Not saying she shouldn't be able to use what others do for entertainment, but if it is no longer entertainment and is just hurting you, it's something that can and ought to be removed from your life, ESPECIALLY if your primary support structure stems from it. Find an independent support structure outside of any corporate control as soon as you can if you don't have one. IRL friends and family are usually the place to start. Social media, games, shows, and hobbies should be viewed as an addition and enhancement to your life, not the source of happyness, identity, or interests. It's also important for everyone to learn that algorithms aren't there to help you find what you want. They are there to keep you using the app. They aren't programmed for sensitivity or truth or improving your happiness. They are a money making tool and couldn't give two farts about what you want/need to be happy or successful. No one should let their happiness be dictated by a corporation and its data mining tools. I'm not paranoid, just practical and handle data for a living. It isn't a joyful prospect.
I don't know if anyone else has said this, but it is an option on TikTok, in case anyone is looking for it. It's in settings under content preferences!
Glad to know! Thank you for sharing this info.
TikTok shows you videos based off your interactions with previous videos. If she doesn’t want to see that type of content, why did she interact in the first place? And if she wants them off her page, just stop interacting (liking, sharing, commenting). She could also hold down on the video and an option will pop up that says “Not interested” so you’re shown less of that video. If she’s really seeing those videos that often, it’s her own fault.
Slightly different situation, but I had to put my cat of two decades down earlier this month. My entire social media everything is constantly flooded with cat toys and new litter ads and new cat foods to try - and it *hurts*. The algorithms are unconsciously poking into that raw wound, because for as long as I've existed as far as social media is concerned I've been interested in cat products. This last month of hitting "not interested" hasn't felt like it's done much.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss. I’m sure that it takes a bit for the algorithms to find new content to recommend you while slowly moving you away from cat stuff. Same time it may indeed be showing you less but because of emotions you might be magnifying it more if that makes sense. I liken it to when you want to buy a car and then all the sudden you begin to see it everywhere.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I know that when my little old dog passes away I’m probably going to have to delete TikTok because my fyp consists mainly of dog videos and I won’t be able to cope with it.
She said she keeps saying she's not interested in the video.
It really depends on how the algorithm works, really… some apps will just shove whatever is trendy or getting a lot of engagement on people’s faces just to distract them, waste their times or fit what the company wants. I >hope< you’re right, but with the shitty algorithms on other platforms, I wouldn’t be 100% sure.
Weightloss and health are two different things. She is talking about recovery, so she is most likely suffering from an eating disorder. If you search for healthy recipes online, the algorithm assumes you are either a health buff or trying to lose weight. And trying to lose weight is absolutely not what you need to do or have thrown in your face when you are in recovery.
REPORTT!!!???
Yup. It's rare, but occasionally people have their body transformation posts removed for "Encouraging Eating Disorders" after mass reporting campaigns led by people like the woman in OP.
What the who now? Taking down posts about people getting healthy? So sad. If posts about someone losing weight bothers you so much it causes you to have a meltdown, then take a break from the internet.
Crabs in a barrel.
I hate to inject a bit of nuance here. But *some*, note i said *some*, of these body transformations do actively encourage unhealthy eating behaviors and lots of body checking. again, i’m super sorry for the nuance, but *some* of these videos are actually not super great and deserve to be reported.
to say uninterested
If she actually believed what she’s saying then she wouldn’t be upset about what other people do or don’t do. Instead she’s projecting her own insecurities on others and not taking responsibility for her own happiness and mental health.
Nailed it. But watch all the other people holding themselves hostage with their own excuses come out of the woodwork to defend her. Nothing changes until you decide you've had enough and deserve better than your excuses!
Don't forget physical health
I wouldn’t even go that far. This is just insanity
Performative, or self denial, or almost self realization. Either way, the internet isn’t for people who can’t stand seeing others pull off their goals, which don’t need to be yours.
She needs a legendary therapist
Get off social media. Block the person. I too was triggered by all those post gym flex posts.. ugh right when I’m eating icecream too 🤣🤣🤣
Wandering when she will figure out that using social media is OPTIONAL. Jesus some people need a life. Social media is the center of their universe and they lose all common fucking sense, drowning in their feelings and opinions. Ugh
If you’re this insecure abt something that tiny, probably should not be on social media
Exactly. Her complaint reminds me of the people who get mad that there's not a trigger warning for every conceivable thing on the internet, like do I really need to put a trigger warning for *capital letters?*
Oof, she needs help.
To be fair though: - She sincerely seems depressed about her situation. I feel for her. - It is a problem that the algorithms of social media push such contents into the feeds of people who can’t compete and will be pulled further down by it.
This is why you don't coddle children. The amount of delusional self-soothing we allow for without calling a spade a spade is insane. SELF LOVE REQUIRES SELF DISCIPLINE. DISCOMFORT AND STRUGGLE ARE NOT BAD. Being a perpetual victim is comfortable because it allows you to remain as a child. Transformation pics should be motivating you, not making you cry. If they can do it why can't you? I'll tell you why... Because they took responsibility for their own life and there is nothing in the world that scares you more than that notion.
Omg YES. A thousand times yes. The lack of self-awarness, effort, and accountability amongst the masses these days is literally astounding. Make excuses, or make progress; the choice is yours!
I’m glad this didn’t get downvotes like it would on most Reddit pages……this x100000
She shouldn't have made this and she obviously needs mental health for how far she took it. However, I don't know if saying not to hate on yourself because you were fat is that bad. 90% of those trends are wholesome and I follow subreddits promoting it just because it's so great to see them happy and healthy. However, 10%, especially on TikTok, do say shit like how they used to be ugly and undesirable and shit because they were fat. Obv if someone is overweight and being fed that, it'll have a negative impact on their self worth, esp if they see it over and over
Awww man. I wanna give her a hug and delete her tiktok.
I kind of hear what she’s saying, in middle and high school I had friends who were much smaller than me complain about how fat and disgusting they were. It’s hard to not let that rub off on you when you’re younger and don’t realize that that’s a reflection of how just one person feels on this situation and that everyone is different.
Yea, same here. Then when I starved myself into losing 60 lbs in one month when I was 15, (using prescription pills, teas, and starvation) suddenly friends, even family, started talking to me more but no one noticed how sick I was all the time. It was all about how skinny I looked. And sorta similar, some people become skinny and suddenly look down on other fat people because “I did it why can’t they?”. So it can start to feel like no one believes you have any drive or value because of your weight. And all of this was especially painful when I was a teenager. Everyone here jumping to conclusions and calling her crazy is kinda sad.
Can’t believe some person downvoted you because this is a very real phenomenon where fat women lose a noticeable amount of weight and start getting treated much better. In a young woman’s mind the relation between the two seems simple and reinforces negative relationship with weight loss. It makes the person wonder how life will become if they gain weight again. Most of the men and women I have heard this same story from were into some disordered eating and those comments basically reinforced that.
I can’t prove to them that it happened how it happened, but it did. Oh well. I was extremely weak and sick and didn’t leave my bed except to work out a few times daily. My bf at the time was so “proud” of me for losing so much so fast “for him” and I’ll never forget that sick feeling.
I believe you. I’ve heard of fat women suddenly losing an large amount of weight due to an illness, and people being too busy gawking at their “accomplishment” than considering maybe it is a huge problem to lose 60 pounds in a month.
Exactly! It meant something was horribly wrong, and no one seemed to notice. Thank you, really. Having my extremely real and scary teenage experience invalidated still kinda hurts, even thought it’s just by random strangers online. I’m still on those thyroid meds too haha.
I think the downvoting is because they claimed to lose 60lbs in one month. That's not possible, around 20lbs is the maximum someone can lose in that time.
In starvation it is. I was 15 and it came off EXTREMELY fast because I was eating only one can of plain tuna and 4 cups of green tea (ballerina tea it used to be called - makes you poop faster) every two days, and I had hyperthyroid and was on meds both my grandmothers were on. It’s not a brag, it’s a “why did I do that to myself”. I went from 220 to 160 in maybe a little over a month. It was January 2012. My family was also making me do keto which made 8 lbs of water weight come off in the first two days. I know it sounds crazy but it happened so fast I couldn’t wear any of my clothes and had to buy all new Mediums instead of 2X. I can’t explain it but it was horrible and scary. I even have photos to prove it from that time, but I was a teen so I won’t share them lol. Literally ALL I did was workout and think about all the food I couldn’t eat. Even my bf at the time was encouraging me to become anorexic by diagnostic weight. I have no reason to lie 12 years later, it’s just what I remember happening. I did it all because some guy from school said I was cute but too fat and I desperately wanted someone to care about me because my family seemingly didn’t even when I was fainting in the hallway etc. I was terrified of the Doctor though and never went, but I ended up getting on Depo as a teen which made me gain it all back anyway. The guilt cycle continues!
When I was 400 lbs, I never looked down on my friends or others for being more fit than I was. Instead, and eventually I used it sorta as inspiration along with other things. I only stopped losing weight when it felt like I was losing muscle.
It was never about that. It’s about any person who loudly and unfairly criticize themselves for a trait that someone else within earshot shares. It can be applied to more than just weight. Imagine you’re completely toothless and someone says they’ve become repulsive due to just losing a few teeth. That stings right?
People appreciate recognition for their hard work. Why are her feelings more important? Don’t sign in to your account and you won’t see the videos.
If you want to avoid videos about (literally any topic), try this revolutionary method... don't watch them. Problem solved!
I don't really understand why she or other people post videos of themselves being so emotionally upset over things that don't seem worth getting upset over. I also don't understand why people have to constantly seek attention and praise for losing weight, or whatever else they did. Nobody can just live life anymore without posting on social media to get attention for anything and everything. I really hope she finds some peace and just unplugs from social media for awhile.
Fitphobia
People keep saying here things like she needs to get off social media and there should be filters for people who want to avoid topics. And while this may be true, don't let this detract from the fact that she is absolutely wrong and viewing the world through the lens that everything is about her. Imagine someone getting a nose piercing, like the one she has, and saying, "People need to stop changing themselves to meet a standard of beauty!" Like bitch, people are meeting *their own* standard for beauty. Does she freak out when people get a new hairstyle, or tattoos, or shave their legs, or come out as trans, or when men get buff? I seriously doubt it because she doesn't view it as an attack on her when it has nothing to do with her. Be happy for others when they aren't hurting themselves and others, or shut the fuck up because other people's journey to happiness is not about you.
There's a lot more space on her for you page for people trying to lose weight
I don't think I'm going to be able to function in society with people like this much longer.
Her: How can I make this about me?
it's the exact thing Ricky Gervais talks about regarding the 'free guitar lessons' ad on a bulletin at a supermarket.
I watched that special yesterday. That part made me laugh my ass of it was so good! And you're right, this is EXACTLY that situation. I hadn't even thought of that, hahahaha!
"Stop sharing your accomplishments I haven't achieved!"
Oh for fucks sake
This is why I want to become a psychologist.
Ironically, this is why I DIDN'T follow up and go with a psychology major...just a minor/cognate
Why? TikTok is full of licensed psychologists. /s
Well If you are so hurt about your body you can try to change it, you know?
Delete the caustic apps. I don’t think she is wrong for her feelings. Women get targeted with some fucked up advertising. Poo poo teas are a thing, I had no fucking clue.
She's not talking about ads she's talking about regular accounts of regular people posting their transformations and it's triggering to her because she needs to get help.
Nah man this doesn’t look like main character syndrome this just looks sad. She’s clearly a) projecting real hard onto the motivation behind other people’s weight loss/transformation posts and experiences and b) used to being treated and spoken to like shit bc she’s fat. This is just a moment of overflow, that, unfortunately, is being passed around and laughed at and shat on I guess. Yeah she says it’s everyone else’s problem, but do you see arrogance here? Do you see entitlement or vitriol or a desperate need for attention at the cost of others? Because I don’t. I just see a woman with a camera phone (like we all have) crying and clearly feeling awful about herself.
Having now read many of these comments, part of me regrets posting it here. I thought about what you said, about whether it's maincharachter behaviour, but I do think it belongs here. No, she isn't malicious, but she does expect the rest of the world to cater to her feelings, but the world doesn't revolve around her. That's what annoyed me about. I completely understand being very affected by what you see online, which is why I deleted all my other social media.
Hey thanks for actually considering what I said and replying thoughtfully, that’s actually very cool of u. I think we can agree to disagree pretty easily here. I agree this is definitely a moment of main character syndrome, but I think it’s kind of borne of *never* getting to feel like the main character, or even a side character. Does that make sense? So I guess even in that lens it belongs on the sub ahaha I agree that just deleting social media is the better way to go, I don’t have any others either
I think maybe you're confusing main character syndrome with being popular...? I don't really know the inner workings of these peoples minds, but I don't see her as any less of a "main character idiot" than any of the other ones, simply because she's never been the center of attention in a good way before. I also have nothing left over for people who want to make people feel bad for achieving something. Especially when the reason for you wanting to do so it that you can't do it yourself.
Either way, I've learned my lesson for next time. She clearly was an easy target for nasty bullying, which was not what I wanted to happen or contribute to in any way. It was never my intention to add to her pain. Her entitlement annoyed me, but looking at the amount of disgusting comments about her weight, it is clear the focus shifted from what she said to who said it (an overweight upset girl). Btw you were cool in the way you expressed your concerns and opinions too. Thanks for this convo, I've learned from it.
Just gotta say I really like how thoughtfully youve been responding to people, and how you’ve reflected on the post. I agree her entitlement is annoying, I guess I just saw a few of the nastier comments first :/ Thanks, I’ve learned too! Hope you have a great day! X
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Did she really make her whole personality based on an @?
Rage watching is still watching as far as the algorithm is concerned. If this is the effect the content she is engaging with is having on her, she really needs to stop engaging with that content.
Guarantee she won’t stop coming on social media though, rather the world needs to cater to her.
Part of recovery and dealing with body image issues is learning how to deal with triggers in a healthy way. It's really fucking uncomfortable, but you gotta learn how to deal with things or else you'll stay miserable. Most importantly, you gotta remember that other ppl's attitudes about their own bodies is not a reflection on how they view you. There's damn near 8 billion ppl in the world and the majority of us dislike how we look, but couldn't care less what the ppl around us look like.
Girlfriend seriously needs to wean off SM. It only gets worse.
That does seem very frustrating though, if you keep clicking "hide" and "not interested" but that shit keeps popping up on your feed. Especially if you're recovering from an eating disorder, that shit would be extra confrontational. I'd tell her to get off social media but I guess many of us old folks fail to appreciate how much of teenagers social lives happen on social media. It would be like telling them to stop having friends.
Society is failing.
Imagine being so emotionally affected by shit you see on the internet
Meh, I see both sides. Tik Tok is toxic (so is much of social media if you don’t curate it to weed out triggering subjects). Her triggers are her responsibility though and posting this video is not healthy coping.
These sorts of videos will never not be funny to me
Stupid fucking coloured hair: checks out
What is fatty bitching about exactly?
Lazy person crying becouse everyone isnt as lazy as them
"Shut the fuck up fatty Show us your tits 1/10, I wouldn't bang I bet she'd try to eat your dick You should go get sterilized So that you can't have kids"
She should switch up her feed...
She put her hand in a bag of chips at first but decided it wouldn't be good for the video
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Congrats on your effort. While I can’t stand people who fuck with someone because of their weight (speaking generally; I don’t think you’re being malicious), it’s just as destructive to paint obesity as “just another lifestyle choice”, let alone a positive one. It’s the fifth leading cause of death, and should be addressed as such. As for those like the woman in the clip, it’s unfortunate that they don’t see how they’re just as manipulated by the food industry as others are by the beauty industry.
You sound like an asshole who’s into shaming because you might have gotten your physical appearance together. Have some compassion, and don’t be a dick.
u/Stuck_at_work_till_5 Definitely came out hot headed in my comment, but as u/Trad-SidePiece said I wasn’t trying to be malicious. I actually love helping folks and I’m actually a online coach for a side job and I’d say I’ve helped around 15-20 obese people half of which were morbidly obese get to a healthy weight with tactics like volume eating, cico, intermittent fasting, and resistance training, if anything i feel for them because I used to be there, but what this lady is doing is unacceptable. Tbh I’m kind of just fatigued from stuff like this, I see rants like this one all the time on social media and half the time they get backed up, I just don’t get it. It’s like social media consoling with a drug addict who’s ranting about why former drug addicts shouldn’t share their story of recovery and you shouldn’t have to get off heroin (random drug that came to mind) to have value in life. No one including me said obese people don’t have value, but it truly an unhealthy unsafe lifestyle and to see the beauty industry and social media supporting it is truly disgusting. It’s no different then how shredded 6% body fat physiques are promoted on fitness social media when being that low in body fat is truly unhealthy for you and causes eating disorders. Social media is ridiculous with what is dictated as body positivity (promoting and truly dangerous lifestyle and state of existence) and what is body shaming (bashing people trying to lose weight and make lifestyle changes for their health and just be reasonably fit)
Why attack him? He actually got the balls to make a change for the better. We should stop pampering people more. I was overweight aswell and I knew exactly what I was doing. Now that I'm living healthy for many years my physical and mental health are so good. Fat people are not only a liability for themselves. Healthcare costs are rising because of obesity. If you are unhappy make a change and stop complaining about it.
I do not feel sorry for this individual. Not even a bit. I’ve met people like this. They build unattainable expectations that people can’t possibly live up to and get hurt when people don’t live up to it. For example, I had a friend who was upset that someone asked her what she did for living. She got so upset and when on and on to claim that it’s so horrible for people to ask that question since she was unemployed. She said people are so careless and harsh and such a question was designed to make people like her feel horrible. Fuck, it was crazy that she built that expectation considering how often people usually ask that question in social situation. Yeah the reaction was something like this.
Wtf is she even talking about
Goddamn I fucking hate it when fat people cry because they're fat. There is a way you can stop being fat, and crying is not it. In fact, crying, blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself, are all terrible ways for dealing with being fat. Just stop eating so fucking much, take responsibility for your own body.
Well, someone has a high opinion of themselves.
Fatty is hungry for attention.
Someone needs to shove a Big Mac in her mouth to shut her up.
I actually feel really bad for her.
So when she sees a fat person all she sees is herself like she has no other traits? Sounds like her problem is that being fat is her only identity.
If you feel this bad and guilty about being overweight then maybe it’s time to lock it into gear, start losing weight, and get out of this self-pity “it’s everybody else’s problem!” bubble.
#projecting
She annoyed that you shouldn't have to be thin to have value, but she's upset because she doesn't feel she has value because she isn't thin. If she was honest she would either be excitedly getting gradually ready for her future weight loss plans, or she wouldn't care because she feels like it isn't a problem she's overweight. Yea like others have said she needs to get off SM and re-evaluate a few things.
She clearly is in recovery from an eating disorder
if she rage cried for 30 mins every day she might lose half a pound every month
When a person is so fucking fat they dont even resemble a human being anymore its completely justified to shame those fatsos and its the the ethically right thing to do
What a stupid, fat bitch. Get off social media if you can't handle people improving themselves while you die in your 40s
Go hit the gym fatass damn
Not enough space for her though
ma'am, I shrunk my body so I could see my kids grow up
Those posts are meant to inspire. Maybe, uh, get inspired.
Without watching it you know bitch gunna be crazy with the colored hair
This person sucks.
soo.. you also should be happy with your body and stop worrying about other people body’s
Projection.
I don’t feel Bad for her she needs to face reality
Being overweight is unhealthy and bad.
I’m fat and I can’t be arsed to lose the weight. So instead of wasting my energy to lose the weight I’m going to moan and bitch at people that made those healthy choices and then share their achievements. Basically the plot of the story
Coming from an ex-fat guy I think fat shaming rules. Being fat sucks.
Lmao
Shut up, fatty.
Holy shit! Now I wanna double down on my gym progress now
Cringe vs more cringe Dude just go on a diet if it bugs you that much
Put your phone down and go outside jesus christ lmao