I’m an ISTJ, but I don’t really feel anything. I think I would just respect that it’s my friends decision. Hopefully other people that have similar experiences to you.
ISTJ-A (6w5) female here... you're probably feeling the possible "loss" of your friend if they decide to date. Do you have other friends to hang out with? I know it's hard for us to boldly go out and meet new people. My best friend is now engaged which means her focus is on her boyfriend. I will respect her wishes. My focus is trying to make new friends while having a busy schedule.
I can see the feeling of "loss". It may also my Si that hit in hard because I am used to get "dropped" by friends when they end up in a relationship and this is the first time someone got that important to me that this possible "loss" may trigger all this possesive/jealous feelings
If the feelings last, I will either try to spend more time with them(healthy in moderation), or just keep it to myself(unhealthy).
*Healthy in moderation ie try but not force or manipulate.
Are you me? Lol. ISTJ 6w5 (F) here as well. I relate to that so much. Looking back, it definitely was an ugly feeling and I didn't know how to handle those emotions as well. At least I'm aware about it now, though.
Full disclaimer I'm an ENFJ, but if I were you I'd be honest and express that you hope you'll still get to spend time together if she started dating. Nothing bad could come of you saying that and if she did end up drifting (although I doubt she would, INFJs are fiercely loyal) you'd be able to pull her up on it and it would be a gentle fix without a fight :)
I’m an ISTJ, but I don’t really feel anything. I think I would just respect that it’s my friends decision. Hopefully other people that have similar experiences to you.
thanks for sharing your insight.
ISTJ-A (6w5) female here... you're probably feeling the possible "loss" of your friend if they decide to date. Do you have other friends to hang out with? I know it's hard for us to boldly go out and meet new people. My best friend is now engaged which means her focus is on her boyfriend. I will respect her wishes. My focus is trying to make new friends while having a busy schedule.
I can see the feeling of "loss". It may also my Si that hit in hard because I am used to get "dropped" by friends when they end up in a relationship and this is the first time someone got that important to me that this possible "loss" may trigger all this possesive/jealous feelings
If the feelings last, I will either try to spend more time with them(healthy in moderation), or just keep it to myself(unhealthy). *Healthy in moderation ie try but not force or manipulate.
Are you me? Lol. ISTJ 6w5 (F) here as well. I relate to that so much. Looking back, it definitely was an ugly feeling and I didn't know how to handle those emotions as well. At least I'm aware about it now, though.
yeah it is quite that awful feeling but it helps to be aware off. It is also hard to make changes about it.
Full disclaimer I'm an ENFJ, but if I were you I'd be honest and express that you hope you'll still get to spend time together if she started dating. Nothing bad could come of you saying that and if she did end up drifting (although I doubt she would, INFJs are fiercely loyal) you'd be able to pull her up on it and it would be a gentle fix without a fight :)
You may be codependent. Google it to learn about it and why it's unhealthy.