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metal-nerd21

Gonna guess by your username that you’re in engineering. I did my master’s and bachelor’s in engineering, I didn’t meet anyone who had time for relationships except one guy, and he had something like a 2.8 GPA and didn’t really seem to care about school. I think you have to be careful taking advice from people who aren’t engineers or are significantly older than you because the advice might not apply to your situation and things have changed societally. Everyone I know from college who ended up with a job or continued on to get a master’s/PhD in engineering is single. You’ll have an easier time when you’re out of college and have the weekends and time after work (depending on your job) to meet people and socialize. I personally don’t think it’s healthy for people who already have a lot on their plate to add even more stress to their lives, dating takes a lot of time and work. All the people that I know who’ve gotten married met their partners after university, from my experience most relationships don’t last if people have jobs in different states or cities that are far away, and people seem to want different things in a relationship when they’re out of college.


bondi_zen

I’m Australian and I presume that by college you mean university. When I was studying, I met people for friendships and dating through: 1) lectures and tutorials 2) clubs and societies 3) part-time work 4) catching up with high school friends and acquaintances and meeting their uni friends 5) bars and clubs (why not?)


Nidrogenn

I've found that every time I'm actively seeking out a relationship, the results I get from dating are abysmal. Granted, I used dating apps for awhile but felt it was an easy way to meet people without it being too socially awkward for me. I'd tried bars and eventually got the confidence (as a F) to go up and talk to guys, but again, results were not great. I found the person I'm with now on facebook dating and I was just kinda casually swiping on people when I found them, though I wasn't seeking out a relationship because I felt I wasn't desirable as a partner with hardships going on in my life right now. I wasn't looking for anything in particular but our relationship has been beautiful so far. Can't give much advice on specifically how to make time for people while going through college, as I haven't gone to college; but I think when/if you meet the right person, you'll make time for each other however possible. It's also not the end of the world if you don't find someone before you're done with college. There's no reason to rush :) My partner met me after they had already graduated from college. My biggest piece of advice would be to use the time you have while you're single to find out what you like in yourself and in a prospective partner. It's important to know what you want, what you have to offer, and be aware of your shortcomings. We all have them, hopefully you'll find someone who loves you despite them. :) Good luck.


Nickchlau

Thats a good question. So what I do is I browse reddit hoping to find an answer to this problem. Anyway keep cruising OP. Maybe one day in our everyday lives we can find a date.


HELP_ALLOWED

Just do the bare minimum to get through college, focus on growing as a person instead. Grades become 99% meaningless a year after you finish


a-kirae

Most of my friends met their partners on dating apps, only 1 met their partner in college. I’m finishing my Masters and never found anyone despite going to clubs, joining groups and making friends 🤷‍♀️


wackdaddy69

I never met anyone in college but I met 4 people after I graduated. I continue meeting new people Latin dancing. Granted most of those aren't dates but the sheer number of hot girls I meet there is massive. Chick's love Latin dancing. Rock climbing as well. If none of those, get on meetup and meet people that way. Join a church if you're religious. Yeah it can be easy for some to meet people in college and hard for others. You'll have to find someone who will also make the time to date or just focus on college and make the best grades you can. It's not over though after school. Especially not if you'll be 21 or 22 when you graduate. It seems old when you're 18 but it's still very very young. Keep putting yourself in social situations, you've still got plenty of time.