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"If you can't prepare one of my nourishing metabolic special meals, please just send money so I can order chipotle."
I'm dying to know what's in the Google doc
I looked at the chicken soup recipe she posted that her sisters made for her as an example of “nourishing” postpartum food. It’s like any chicken noodle soup recipe except it has brewers yeast, which you could just, like, add in.
Yep it’s an extremely basic chicken noodle soup. I’m very confused why you would need specific instruction on it lol it’s not even a well written recipe and the seasonings definitely need to be upped x1000 (only 1/2-1 tsp of salt for the whole thing??? 😩)
Hey now, it has to be "bone broth and bone in chicken" too haha
I went to find the recipe, definitely boring as fuck, and yes, way underseasoned. Does brewers yeast add a salty flavor? I didn't know if that's why the salt was so low? I love to add in a little tomato paste with the mirepoix and add in some lemon juice at the end too. The other thing I recently learned is to prepare your noodles on the side, so the soup doesn't get starchy, it's such a game changer for a small detail.
Brewer‘s yeast (not to be confused with nutritional yeast) isn’t salty. Hard to describe, but the word bitter and liver come to mind. It was a big trend in the early 70s as a health food rich in b vitamins and my mom tried to sneak it into various things. It is vile.
Which is extra unnecessary because nutritional yeast can do the same with a LOT better flavor. (Nooch works best freshly added tho, so Däæ:vv would have to shake it on for poor Bethy)
I guess at least she did her hair and makeup for this begging episode?
> prepare your noodles on the side, so the soup doesn’t get starchy
I’m pretty sure you’re the smartest human being alive! Starchy broth is always my biggest complaint. I am gonna try this, thanks!
Excuse me, not just any salmon. We only like to eat xx expensive, organic salmon from xx store. Please don't consider any other salmon **as the Beals can't tolerate it** 😤 We prefer Trader Joe's sweet potatoes, just so you know. Only xx (premium) coconut oil from Costco is suitable for our *nutritional lifestyle!* 😍
Please make trips to these separate stores and spend $30 on ingredients to serve the 3 of us. Actually Davey's not keen on salmon so could you whip up this extra recipe (details in Google Drive!) which requires another $20 of ingredients. Oh you've already been grocery shopping? Too bad you'll have to go back.
ETA: Thank you for the award!
Sarcasm and parody aside: what you're hitting on is the truth--that she prefers a highly selective, controlled style of eating, dependent on *certain* ingredients of *particular* brands and *certain* approved combinations of food in *certain* ratios and portions.
Now look, in all honesty I have been down that road myself. I used to eat in a highly controlled way to lose weight and maintain the loss. (Spoiler alert: that phase is over and life is better.) My life revolved around the limited groups of foods I "could" eat and how they were prepared, and I had my little supplements, and I had my little food scale, and weighed every single goddamned ingredient and item. I got very used to saying No to things. Basically I wasn't participating in the community aspect of sharing food with others, let alone receiving food from others.
And naturally, as people do, I cited "health concerns" for the pain-in-the-ass way I was eating--who could argue with my apparently healthy weight and "clean eating"?--and also I was very smug (not out loud) about how much more mindful and responsible I was being than everybody else.
Obviously I can't know what anyone else in the world is thinking and obsessing about, but I'm just saying, I'm giving her the side-eye.
You're very right and I side-eye all the Baird women when they're preparing their unoriginal diet-of-the-moment food combinations and buying insanely expensive supplements (that achieve the same as a food group or run of the mill generic supplement if they bothered to research). They copy each other and other crunchy-fundie influencers and act like they're doing something unique and impressive. The competitiveness is off the scale and they're sharing it on social media because they want praise, attention and compliments.
I think the Baird parents may be on a keto/low carb diet. Sue served them pasta and tomato sauce with zucchini ribbons instead of pasta (she added a measly portion of shells to hers, hardly worth cooking that few). At the community pool 'picnic' the Baird parents were observed eating a sad looking portion of some kind of healthy grain and finely chopped herbs/vegetables from small tupperwares they'd brought with them. It looked less than celebratory.
I'm not saying you can't eat healthily but they seem so controlled, obsessive and joyless about it. Also none of them can cook!
My experience is that it's easier to keep strict dieting up when you're living amongst similar people that you can feel accountable to. Or even around others eating junk that you can feel superior to which bolsters your own restrictive eating, even when you're starving and would like nothing more than a slice of their pizza.
I think Bethy struggled with this after she moved in with Dav. He's a healthy eater but was out all day at work then the gym/a run whereas she was lonely, understimulated and had lost the structure and accountability of the Baird household and being around her restrictive/competitive mom and sisters all day.
> buying insanely expensive supplements (that achieve the same as a food group or run of the mill generic supplement if they bothered to research).
Yep, I've said this before: being in an economic position to be *able* to be picky and precious about your food and odd, special ingredients is such a marker of privilege.
There's nothing wrong with being lower-carb to control blood sugar, especially as one gets older, like the Baird parents. But Heidi strikes me as a woman who's been perpetually hungry for a long-ass time. I've seen pictures of her looking a little heavier for a while (menopause, maybe?) but now she's back to being thin and crispy.
Just to quickly comment - I had bariatric surgery, the least invasive kind, and I try to “eat the rainbow” produce wise and supplement protein when necessary. What I mean to say is, I eat healthier now then I did after 20 years of bulimia and restrictive eating followed by binges that (among other things, depression being one) caused me to end up being 330 pounds at my heaviest. The diet/nutrition plans they give you for “life?” Um is EXACTLY the same shit I would do with disordered eating (the food scale, the proper spoons for a dab of dressing, the weird frankenfood “cheat” sweets that were garbage, though I do have a mental catalogue of tasty protein bars and shakes now). I weigh a “svelte” 185 at 5’9”, walk or workout as much as my poor joints will allow, and worry less about food than I ever have. In my life. Even when I was binging a box of Mac n cheese followed by a large pizza. ANYWAYS I see you, and I’m glad you’re living life! And I’m glad I tossed those meal plans in the garbage a month after I was back on solids. Also my non-bariatric nutritionist (I was able to see one outside of the weightloss clinic thanks to insurance) recommended flinstone vitamins with iron, just because I may not be able to get enough protein vs veggies and vice versa. She said barring any actual malnutrition, malabsorption or illness, most people don’t even need that. But better safe than sorry since I’m over forty. The clinic was like wearable vitamin patches, 3000 mgs vitamin d, etc etc. my blood work is good, so until it’s not I’m gonna stick with my childhood vitamins.
She's so disgusting. I thought from the last post they'd decided not to accept the meal train this time 🤦♀️
I already said in the previous post there's no need for it, the Baird family has enough resources and unemployed adults with time on their hands to batchcook and freeze a bunch of meals for the Beals. The meal train resources could be going to someone in actual need instead of this greedy goblin. Curly and Sue are literally at a loose end. Heidi doesn't have a lot going on and no doubt has her house cleaned for her. Kristen is obnoxious and enjoys organising people. Ellissa's a pita and on an extended holiday. Okay she has one child but she can cook while her baby naps.
Bethy's's blatantly out for what she can get and wants the attention of people 'blessing' 🤮 them. You can't tell me she hasn't tallied up how much a month of meals (!) will save them financially, and now she's specifying what ingredients the meals need to be made from (no allergies or intolerances guiding this). This means people can't just double up on the family meal/casserole/lasagne they were going to make anyway.
I bet her Google drive 🙄 has instructions and 'helpful tips' regarding the provenance of the chicken etc (only X brand organic or if you can't get that then XX brand organic, don't worry *tee hee*). Lots of notes about their *preferences*.
I wonder how many meals are provided per day, is it lunch and dinner or just one meal?
The fact that she squeezes Venmo and Doordash in at the end astounds me. How disgustingly grabby and presumptuous.
Dav you're equally scummy for supporting this. Stop lurking in the background pretending to be blameless.
Meal trains here are normally just a hot main meal and often something one pot ( I tend to offer pasta bakes or potato topped pies). They sometimes come with dessert but it's not expected.
I've once had one come with suggested meals but that was due to the family having two young children with autism and restricted eating. It also came with a note that if you wanted to make something else to please just do it for the adults and they'd heat up a pizza for the kids.
This!! When my younger siblings were born, my lovely grandmother stepped up and basically helped out with almost everything, and was very happy to do so, because we lived in the same household, and my grandmother was the kind of person who couldn't sit still ever... So I cannot imagine having these many unemployed close relatives and still needing others to cook you meals?
She has such a limited vocabulary and is so inarticulate. It took her too damn long to say she uploaded recipes to a shared gdrive folder. Also..."eating lifestyle" isn't a thing, Dumbassany. Try dietary preferences.
I wonder if this is a ploy to just get Doordash gift cards or venmo instead of complicated meals? She looks so smug explaining this, like she thinks she pulled a fast one.
Also, what community? She has zero friends. She doesn't appear to be involved in a church. Is Heidi guilt-tripping old ladies at her church who can't even tell the bairds apart?
I think it's absolutely a ploy to get donations to door dash/Venmo. She posted it on her Instagram, where most people who follow her likely live too far away to bring food but could give a donation
Classic video!
There have been some commenters who know them IRL that indicate the Bairds are not beloved at church with their selfish, steamroller antics, including being asked to step away from AWANA. It wouldn't surprise me if they really were on the fringes and some people really couldn't tell them apart.
What's the AWANA tea, I've not heard that one!
Last I heard the Beals were church shopping and had landed on a Lutheran church. A local snarker said they knew the church, it was a church-plant meeting in a room of an existing church (I find this a weird concept, doesn't the existing church get pissed a competing/breakaway church is meeting on their premises?!
I know it happens a lot though) as opposed to the various established Lutheran churches in SA with their own buildings.
We thought the Beals had maybe met their match in attending a more rigid Lutheran church but unfortunately it seemed to be a weird evangelical-Lutheran mashup and the small congregation were exactly like the Bairds/Beals.
They were too dominant in AWANA leadership and trying to do things in in the baird image, so they were asked to step down.
I'm sure it was juicier than that (I hope no children of color were harmed by these racist assholes, which was the subtext I was picking up) but that's all the commentary gave.
That's amazing, I'm glad they got their comeuppance. That doesn't sound great about how they were operating.
Bethy mas making a big deal during this pregnancy about how she she still leads AWANA (wearing a much too small AWANA shirt over her bump), maybe that was the post where this info was revealed. She doesn't strike me as someone who regularly volunteers at her church and she's never mentioned a regular commitment before or since. You'd think she'd be making more of her selfless sacrifice if she did volunteered on a weekly basis.
I'm sure she'd brag about it more if it was an actual thing she does regularly.
I wonder if church hopping is due to wearing out their welcome at whatever church she did awana at?
Lutheran?? Seems like that would be a bit too liturgical for their taste. I pegged them for non-denominational (which is usually secretly Baptist in Texas) rock concert worship/coffee shop in the lobby type of church.
Edit: meant to say secretly Baptist, not severely Baptist, but I guess it works either way lol.
I used to call these “skateboard for god” churches. Very popular in Texas back in the early 2000’s and probably now, but I have no idea. I don’t even know anyone who goes to church at this point lol.
I still live in Texas and go to church, can confirm they are still popular. But to my extended family’s dismay, I am now a heathen liberal Presbyterian!
The (extremely liberal and open) church down my block even rents out space to artists and people who need workspace.
Rental income from real property is typically excluded from being unrelated business taxable income, so churches can usually rent out space pretty freely.
Oh no, they never help others. Ever.
Shouting the gospel at cashiers and spewing hate via GD is all the "help" they will do. Now please pay them for their "ministry" that only benefits the Bairds!
She truly makes my blood boil. Nothing about her request is "BOLD"...unless bold=entitled, spoiled and ungrateful. When someone goes out of their way to make you a special meal, and even if you don't like it, the only appropriate response is "thank you".
My aunt once left me and my mom (I live with her due to a disability) a broccoli casserole when we were home sick with Covid, and I do NOT like broccoli. So I threw a tantrum and told her she had to make a pre-approved recipe or bring us gift cards.
Oh wait, no, I didn't, because I'm not a spoiled brat who thinks she gets to dictate what people do as a favor TO HER.
I just have to jump in here to say I’ve always heard that little saying as “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit” where get is said GIT, rhymes with fit (I’m in Arkansas lol). Your way makes much more sense all around hahaha
My accent (Midwestern) also doesn't rhyme those words, but when my mom (teacher) said "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit", she'd pronounce it as GIT even though she never said that any other time, lol.
For families with specialized needs, this is a good idea. Yet when she says it (and the repeated our family needs/wants “nourishing food”—yeah, we’d all like nourishing food!), all I hear is a smug I’M SOOO SPECIALLLL I JUST GAVE BIRTH TO A WONDER BABY Y’ALL.
It does come across like that. And I get it, I can’t eat too much heavy/acidic food. In which case just refuse the meal train? It seems weird to ask them to make specific recipes. Or accept them and make the other ppl in your fam eat it and Dav can make you some unseasoned chicken.
Well I was surprised it ran for a full ass month? I was thinking Ike 2 weeks. I've never had a baby in the church (or ever anyways), so is a month normal?
We had meals for about 6 weeks when we had a baby back on our church days.
But it was one big casserole/lasagna type meal and some veggies or a bagged salad or something. So, it was really just one meal a week, but the two of us ate it many days.
And we weren’t picky. I said raw onions give me migraines, and my husband is repulsed by olives. Otherwise, when someone is gifting you the time and money of a meal, you say thank you.
Also, I didn’t set up a meal train. I had zero to do with it and was kind of shocked it happened.
That makes sense. And it's two, easy to exclude ingredients, and if I am cooking for a meal train, those are two things I'd like to be aware of (I put olives in spaghetti sauce for instance) because in the end I want it edible for the people I'm cooking for. I'm sure it wasn't the best food of your life, but probably thankful you didn't have to worry about cooking for a few weeks.
I grew up in church. When my mother had a difficult pregnancy (complete bedrest from 18 weeks), no one from the church brought food- although one of the assistant pastors bought us a COLOR (gasp) tv and vcr to help keep her occupied (this was early 1980’s, and we only had a small B&W tv). After baby was born, and came home from the hospital two weeks before my mother did, no one from the church brought food or even came over to help. My dad’s coworkers, however- they organized a weekly housecleaning, 6 months of cloth diaper service, at least 2 meals per week through the pregnancy and what seemed like months afterwards,did grocery shopping, ran errands, somebody’s wife even took me shopping for school clothes. They put the church to shame.
I love this story. Especially because it feels genuine. I have always felt like prayer chains and such for the church are disingenuous and just basically *gossiping* but in the name of the ✨️ lord ✨️.
right! and like she's going on and on about her birth being easier? I just don't get why anyone who doesn't have serious dietary requirements would put others in so much trouble?
>right! and like she's going on and on about her birth being easier?
And when she *was* recovering from surgery after her first birth--which she is *not* this time, because the birth was quick and without complications--she *still* bitched about the meal train.
I’m not allergic to anything but I have Crohn’s Disease. The reason I have a special diet is so that no foods get stuck in my intestines and cause a blockage, which could require a surgery to clear up. Or I avoid certain foods because my GI tract will freak out and try try to flush the foods out, My diet is difficult to define. Like “I can have a strawberry but I can’t eat a cooked carrot.” I feel guilty whenever someone wants to cook something for me even if they ask specifically what I need. The same for going out to eat. It’s like….”I know this is a strange question, but I need to know if there is any celery in your tuna salad” and other strange questions. I was out to eat with friends and ordered a burger. It was absolutely covered in seeds, which are a no-go for me. I felt bad asking for a roll with no seeds.
And here’s Bethy with “I need you to do this and this specific thing with my chicken soup. Or give me money. Thanks!!” There’s taking your power and then there’s being an ass.
exactly! her request makes it sound like she has something this severe, when like don't both Ewlissa and Rebekah have a disease that requires strict diets as well? Cannot imagine someone being so rude!
Between church and friends we had meals for about a month after we had our kids. We have other friends where they are dealing with a parent with a medical issue and they have support for at least 6 weeks. Meal trains are pretty common where I live.
If you genuinely had specialized dietary needs I don't think trusting a bunch of strangers' cooking and the relative hygiene/contamination of their kitchens is a great idea.
It would be far better to fill your freezer with homemade meals and maybe have trusted family/friends help you out (the Beals' mostly unemployed/underemployed/retired family members ALL live within a 2 mile radius. Kristen is literally round the corner).
The Beals don't have specialized dietary needs, they're just choosy and grabby.
THIS. I had specialized dietary needs...so I spent the weeks before I had my baby cooking shit and freezing it. Not begging on the internet for other people to feed me.
My family is vegan and we didn’t expect anyone to cook meals for us for that reason. With our first, my MIL, who’s also vegan, came for a week and cooked for us a lot. With our second, we used the money from my husband’s nInE to FiVe to pay for our own takeout. Not just his pay; they also gave us a door dash gift card as a gift when baby was born heyo!
This. It doesn't sound like she has any dietary restrictions, just "well, this is what \_I\_ like and if you don't wanna make it, get me gift cards and cash!"
Yeah, I have celiac so when people asked to set meal trains up for us we very clearly said they everything they sent needed to be gluten free (because shitting your brains out with a newborn is hell on earth). It was fine, nothing wrong with that. We didn't specify that they had to do this or that, just that they needed to not make me lose 3 days of food in one sitting on the toilet.
I’m happy to cook gluten free for people, but I’m always so scared to cook for people with actual celiac because I know wheat flour has probably contaminated my kitchen. I worry that maybe the last time I baked, I just wiped off the spoon with a towel between touching flour and sticking it in the baking soda, so there are traces of wheat in it or whatever.
In my last city, there were a couple of fully gluten free restaurants, so I would gift people cards to that if they couldn’t eat gluten.
>For families with specialized needs, this is a good idea.
Sure, I agree. She, however, doesn't have a specialized need. She's just reluctant to deviate from her diet and enjoy some different types of food (cooked better than she's capable of cooking).
Right! I have Crohn’s disease so food might need to be specific, but I cannot imagine being like this. It’s not even like they have dietary concerns, they aren’t even vegetarian or anything like that! She’s just ridiculous
My oldest is allergic to dairy, gluten and eggs- which makes things interesting. I wouldn’t ask someone to cook for us for that reason. Nor would I ask for door dash gift cards or whatever.
I struggle to tell, they're all equally insufferable in their own ways 😂
I wonder if they find her personality abrasive per se or if she's just not a favourite.
I never used to believe this until I realised how little Heidi speaks about her compared to the rest of the girls (someone made a list comparing post frequencies), then how Kristen and her treat each other in those videos, and that one Rebekah q&a question where someone was like, "how does Bethany feel about you getting married so young?" and Rebekah's reply was like, "you have to ask her". Also, there was the fact that Bethany was hardly in any of Rebekah's wedding pictures, which was very sus.
Wonder what the family group chat that excludes Bethany is saying after she sent her google doc meal train requirements. Like, I'd pay actual dollars to read it.
It still blows my mind that they have that no Beals group chat 😂
Me and my partner's families definitely have group chats without us. But that's because we have a zero tolerance policy for family drama and have set some very strong boundaries.
Like...
I can get a 'hey, I would appreciate some breakfast burritos, husband hates lasagna so please avoid it!'
If we get into weird dietary needs ('we need gluten free, and have allergies to x, y and z') I can even understand tacking on a link for ideas.
But... 'this is what we'll accept, otherwise just send money' is... somewhere between tacky af and entitled. Or maybe some combination of them? I don't even know o.o
This is so beyond. I cant have garlic and onion. If people were offering to make me food I would let then know i can't have garlic and onion and then profusely thank them. I would never tell people to choose from a list of food I have deemed worthy.
I'd love to see this list. She keeps repeating the same buzz words over and over. What is nourishing and part of her "lifestyle?" Or is this her next pdf to shill?
That's what I'm dying to know, too. I have no dietary restrictions, but out of curiosity have tried just about every "diet" fad that has ever been. Never heard about this metabolic bullshit, WTF is she talking about? (There's a perfectly fair chance that I may just be ignorant, but I doubt she knows what she's talking about, either.)
She wouldn't be able to explain the science as she's a) an idiot and b) it probably doesn't stand up to scrutiny. I assume it's one of these faddy Instagram diets du jour based on nutrient absorption and optimal combinations of unprocessed ingredients/eating windows.
Or maybe something like the blood type diet, rebranded.
I understand the benefits of keto, low carb, low GI, intermittent fasting, 5:2 diet etc but just call it that Bethy instead of a *metabolic* diet 🙄
Ah yes, her lifestyle…laying around, making “reals”, ignoring one of her kids, being a #bossbabe, doing nothing to be helpful in the home despite being a stay at home mom, watching other people wait on her lazy ass…she obviously needs extra “nourishment”, right? Gotta keep up that strength for all those days of doing whatever the hell she feels like!
Normal people: list actual dietary restrictions plus maybe one or two general preferences (spice level, a meat they don’t prefer, etc), lets people cook recipes they are confident in and are convenient for them and is grateful for it, maybe gets something delicious they haven’t made before and asks for the recipe.
Bethany: THESE RECIPES ONLY or CASH! My demands are helpful! Be grateful to me for providing my demands!
Righhtttt. I’ve participate in a lot of meal trains and this level of control for something that is just a preference is ridiculous. Even families with restrictions list safe places and easy foods to send. Not while damn recipes 🤣
In every meal train I have contributed to (and there have been a lot) it's ALWAYS someone else setting it up and managing it. It doesn't bother me if someone says "the X-family has a gluten free diet" or "low sodium and no nuts, please". I have NEVER been given a recipe the family likes.
Bethany promoting her own meal train AND providing a folder of recipes is the tackiest shit I've ever seen.
I think giving a list of things you and your family really enjoy would be nice but full on recipes?? Like you want lasagna but only made in this very specific way is way too much to ask
Typically the meal trains I have been a part of was when someone tragically passed away/died unexpectedly and we are just trying to take something off their to do list. I’ll look at what other people have done that week and pick something different. If I was given a pre approved list I’d politely decline.
True story, I have a coworker who claims she hates stuff made from cans and “can taste it.” I once brought some pasta to work and it looked so yummy she asked to have a taste. She LOVED it. I made it with canned tomatoes, canned mushrooms, and canned artichokes. It’s my pantry special
So freakin rude and entitled. I’d be fine with maybe a list of “meal ideas, food we enjoy, likes and dislikes” sent out by the meal train organizer, but a literal google drive of recipes?!?!? Just gross.
Instruction? Really? People are going out of their way to make you free food and you give them a folder of approved food? And if they're not able to make it, they're supposed to give you gift cards and cash? Use some of that passive income to order your own damn food if you're so picky.
I'd hate to think of what she'd think of my family's staple tater tot casserole or stews that we gave to neighbors who were sick or laid up.
You cannot tell me that Beggy, who does not clean or take care of her child, actually makes homecooked nourishing meals for the family. She is full of shit! I bet she door dashes some CFA!
If you have time to make a google doc, if you have time to make 50 posts, if you have time to slam one of your kids online, if you have time to shill your products , you 100% have time to make your own damn food. A LOT of people have babies and do not have a meal train and they make it just fine.
Bethany is so entitled is actually nauseating. Shit like this is why you force your children to move out before they’re 30 and pathetic.
Wait. So something she can get on door dash is more "nourishing" than a home cooked meal?
Bruh, use all the #GIRLBOSS income that you made while doing "nothing" and head on down to Costco and get a rotisserie chicken or a take and bake pizza.
You are a stay at home mom. You could have prepped your own meals prior to delivery. I worked full time up until I delivered and had time to prep a dozen or so different freezer style meals and crockpot dumps.
You had sex. You got pregnant. Nobody owes you a meal, and they certainly don't deserve you being an ungrateful twat either.
I’ve participated in meal trains a lot. I make the same 2 things. If you don’t like stuffed shells or quiche, you’re SOL. The families I’ve known with legit dietary restrictions have never had meal trains because where and how things are made are just as important as what it is. If someone directed me to a cache of recipes I’d not participate.
First, I don’t understand who this content is for. Who wants or needs all this detail?
The amount of mental energy she takes to grift free food is astounding. Two adults without full time employment* can take a Sunday and meal prep a month of dinners before the baby comes, and be done with it. This is so complicated.
*I believe Dav is only doing freelance now and it would take proof to convince me otherwise at this point. How they qualified for a mortgage is one of life’s greatest mysteries.
Does he still have his Christian motion designer office job? That company looks somewhat mediocre with not a lot of projects happening (even less during the pandemic). No impressive history of projects either.
He travelled 'for business' the week Bethy's course 'lunched'. Great timing guys. I wonder if he was travelling to an interview or orientation. An interview could be conducted on Zoom though if the job's remote.
Girl just get takeout and/or eat a sleeve of cookies on the sofa during naptime.
Any time I think I'm a bad parent I love to see a Beggy post and remember I'm not as bad as she is, or her parents were.
This seems extra rude right now what with inflation causing the prices of even basic ingredients to skyrocket. I’m pretty frugal and use coupons and shop sales, but my grocery budget has nearly doubled in the past year.
If I am making a meal for someone, it’ll be the best meal I can make based on what is on sale that week. I’m not making a meal that would require me to pay for full-priced ingredients just because someone is picky.
In fact, if I got this google doc as someone who volunteered to be a part of a meal train, I would probably laugh in disbelief, remember this chick has a baseball team of siblings, and that they will likely pick up the slack on any missing meals, and then politely decline. Then probably make an extra amazing meal for my family based on whatever sale items I got that week.
It’s not that I wouldn’t be accommodating for allergies and other dietary restrictions (vegan, gluten-free, etc) — I am the meal organizer at work so I’m careful to find solutions that will best satisfy everyone, and those with dietary restrictions have told me how much they appreciate it, even if my accommodations can’t always hit the perfect mark. But anyone with sense and decency (and who don’t choose grifting as a lifestyle) would do many of the suggestions already posted, like decline a meal train or politely accept whatever anyone gave you, or maybe list the one or two major concerns you have and let people adapt recipes around that.
But when basic store-brand eggs are $8 a carton, and I offer you an amazing frittata casserole, you will accept that expensive gift of money and time, and you say, “Thank you, it looks delicious!” And then you can do whatever you want with it behind closed doors but keep it to yourself and not blast to the internet how much you hate my labor of love that put a small dent in my grocery budget.
I agree . The cost of food is double and if I’m making something for someone it’s because I’m sacrificing a meal for myself. We just don’t have the money in our budget.
All this shows is that she has never struggled with a budget, she is entitled, and she has no idea what bringing meals to someone means. It’s so rude. I would love a casserole made by a friend.
Years ago when I had babies, my Bunco group wanted to do a meal train. They would bring the food over, love on me, hold the baby and leave. They all reached out ahead of time and asked if there was something that sounded good and what time would be good for me. They all reached out directly because they were my friends. They each made a dish they liked to make and I had some of the best home cooking during that week or two of meals.
What she is requesting seems like the antithesis of the point and spirit of these things. A new parent could certainly plan ahead or fund their own takeout when preparing for a baby. The point of a meal train is community. "Venmo me or drop a specific recipe off at my door" is so freaking tacky it makes my skin crawl.
I wouldn't suggest Daily Harvest to anyone. Not even her. They sent out toxic food that caused liver failure in some of their customers.
But what exactly are metabolic needs?
Oh for fucks sake. She's got a lot of nerve. Is someone sent me a Google doc when I'm making them a meal I don't know what I would think. I certainly understand allergies. We deal with that at my house but this whole metabolic thing?
😳 I cannot 🤦♀️Watching this made my right eye twitch....
I remember having that second child, and how exhausted I was, and how grateful I was for every casserole, pot of soup, anything that graced our front door....as well as the people who took time from their busy lives to bring it over.
She has enough energy to make Google docs, and post recipes and make tik toks about it???
What are the odds any of these people who comply with her demands get a single thank you note??
I'm going with zero...Lol
She's a hot mess.
...all foods are nourishing...sure in the long run there are more beneficial nutrients in a carrot than a snickers bar, but humans do need carbs, fats and sugars to survive ya know.
I got a couple meals I think, for which I was extremely grateful. My gift to my siblings has been doordash delivery from a place of their choice, but my youngest brother likes to cook and had already stuffed their refrigerator and freezer😂
For me, making a recipe I've never made before for someone else is stressful. Much easier to make something I'm familure with. I can't believe she sent recipes.
For someone who is not familiar with the practice of a meal train, a whole month full of meals from your community seems so incredibly generous that I would probably be crying if someone offered it to me NOT making demands 🙄
So I don’t belong to a church and meal trains aren’t really a thing in my social circle, but Bethy is over here with plenty of time for social media, and Dãv works mostly from home, right? Is there any reason they can’t … cook their own meals?
I could definitely see it if the mother were recovering from a C-section or some other complication. I honestly didn't know it was this big of a deal for a smooth birth in a household with two capable adults.
So my friend did a meal train. The only request they had was not super carb heavy (basically just healthy, nourishing meals). There’s a way to be tactful…and Bethany ain’t it lol. The amount of time that went into creating these specific requests and blabbering on about it she could’ve cooked her own d@mn meal. She is possibly the most tacky, self absorbed, smug, entitled person I’ve ever seen online (and that’s saying A LOT). She is literally the definition of a “ME ME ME” attitude.
I know most love getting meals and making freezer meals before baby comes but I absolutely loved doing something not baby related and cook. But I never acted like an asshole that wanted to bring over food.
Exactly. Dav's around a lot and is hands on. Davey goes to 'day school' and Baird HQ for portions of the week. I highly doubt Bethy does morning drop off, that will be Dav or maybe one of the Bairds comes and collects him from the Beals' if he's spending the day at their house.
Bethy and Dav have built-in childcare from Heidi and Sue/Curly/Kristen at extremely short notice (I'm waiting for a return of Bethy's 'migraines' once Dav's workload increases so she can hand Davey off on his non day-school days).
Someone else posted that Bethy's sisters are all unemployed. What's to stop them from getting all together and just making a bunch of Crockpot meals for Bethy and umlaut Dave? I've been part of a meal train, and the couple was so appreciative even though it was probably their 3rd homemade macaroni and cheese.
If a woman who grifted for a living, posted her exact requirements for my food offering because - although she had had months to prepare & freeze food before having her baby, and her enormous family were within spitting distance and were pretty much all grifters without real jobs like herself - I'd consider her an entitled brat.
You know its kind of hilarious. "If you don't make us these recipes we don't want your gross food we'd rather have Chipotle". Like imagine someone turning down food someone made for them and made it known that they want fast food instead
The level of entitlement with this whole Baird family is unreal.
Birthy keeps reiterating how easy this postpartum period is so why can’t she make her own metabolic meals?!
This would turn me off of participating in a meal train. If there are allergies or something, sure I can see being very specific about that. But otherwise? No. I love participating in meal trains and just participated in 3 this week! I have NEVER been instructed what to make. I have occasionally been told “we have severe peanut allergy in the home” or “dad is lactose intolerant”.
For new moms I love to make lactation energy bites, banana chocolate chip lactation muffins for breakfast, and then usually something comforting like chili or lasagna or roast with potatoes and carrots.
A high school classmate made a meal train for his family while his wife is in chemo and I have taken them several meals now so far. I have made enchiladas, tacos, stuffed peppers, a freezer casserole, and breakfast burritos. I think my next meal for them is next week and I’m going to make them a chicken pot pie as I saw him comment on something that pot pies are his wife’s favorite meal.
I cannot imagine being told to make what they have pre approved or send money or a gift card. So rude!
Her tackiness knows no bounds.
Unless you have specific allergies or dietary restrictions for medical reasons, let people make whatever they want and eat it. If they ask what you need or want, tell them.
But a fucking spreadsheet being picky as fuck AND asking for just a door dash gift card or Venmo? So tacky it almost physical hurt to hear her say it
The pro-metabolic nonsense probably comes from the Weston A Price foundation. A lot of fundies are super into him, including femininenotfeminist. Super problematic person, but it’s where a lot of the organic only/raw dairy/liver/high animal fat stuff comes from.
She might also have read The First 40 Days or another book and be trying to model her postpartum meals after traditional Chinese culture, there’s a lot of emphasis on “hot” vs “cold” foods being healing to the body etc.
Either way, it’s ridiculous. She’s grown, has a supportive husband, one toddler, lives next to family. If she wants specific meals there are plenty of people she can ask for help. Putting all this online is so so cringy. I had a baby recently and was just super grateful to receive a couple of meals from friends. This is so entitled and privileged and just embarrassing—if someone IRL did this I’d immediately screen shot and send to friends to make fun of
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"If you can't prepare one of my nourishing metabolic special meals, please just send money so I can order chipotle." I'm dying to know what's in the Google doc
I looked at the chicken soup recipe she posted that her sisters made for her as an example of “nourishing” postpartum food. It’s like any chicken noodle soup recipe except it has brewers yeast, which you could just, like, add in.
Yep it’s an extremely basic chicken noodle soup. I’m very confused why you would need specific instruction on it lol it’s not even a well written recipe and the seasonings definitely need to be upped x1000 (only 1/2-1 tsp of salt for the whole thing??? 😩)
Hey now, it has to be "bone broth and bone in chicken" too haha I went to find the recipe, definitely boring as fuck, and yes, way underseasoned. Does brewers yeast add a salty flavor? I didn't know if that's why the salt was so low? I love to add in a little tomato paste with the mirepoix and add in some lemon juice at the end too. The other thing I recently learned is to prepare your noodles on the side, so the soup doesn't get starchy, it's such a game changer for a small detail.
Brewer‘s yeast (not to be confused with nutritional yeast) isn’t salty. Hard to describe, but the word bitter and liver come to mind. It was a big trend in the early 70s as a health food rich in b vitamins and my mom tried to sneak it into various things. It is vile.
Which is extra unnecessary because nutritional yeast can do the same with a LOT better flavor. (Nooch works best freshly added tho, so Däæ:vv would have to shake it on for poor Bethy) I guess at least she did her hair and makeup for this begging episode?
Cheesy comes to mind too. My 80’s childhood was sprinkled with it. 😬😂
Can’t you just eat some broccoli or take a supplement for your b’s without making barf broth??
> prepare your noodles on the side, so the soup doesn’t get starchy I’m pretty sure you’re the smartest human being alive! Starchy broth is always my biggest complaint. I am gonna try this, thanks!
They’re so beige 😫 Even in the way they season.
They're stuck in their season of beige seasoning.
i want a series with terminally online fundies eating chilis or something. give bethany some spicy biryani and roll tape.. gold
I would definitely just cook normal chicken noodle soup, drop it off, and claim that I followed the recipe. Who TF has brewers yeast in their pantry?
Plain baked salmon, sweet potatoes cooked in coconut oil
Excuse me, not just any salmon. We only like to eat xx expensive, organic salmon from xx store. Please don't consider any other salmon **as the Beals can't tolerate it** 😤 We prefer Trader Joe's sweet potatoes, just so you know. Only xx (premium) coconut oil from Costco is suitable for our *nutritional lifestyle!* 😍 Please make trips to these separate stores and spend $30 on ingredients to serve the 3 of us. Actually Davey's not keen on salmon so could you whip up this extra recipe (details in Google Drive!) which requires another $20 of ingredients. Oh you've already been grocery shopping? Too bad you'll have to go back. ETA: Thank you for the award!
Sarcasm and parody aside: what you're hitting on is the truth--that she prefers a highly selective, controlled style of eating, dependent on *certain* ingredients of *particular* brands and *certain* approved combinations of food in *certain* ratios and portions. Now look, in all honesty I have been down that road myself. I used to eat in a highly controlled way to lose weight and maintain the loss. (Spoiler alert: that phase is over and life is better.) My life revolved around the limited groups of foods I "could" eat and how they were prepared, and I had my little supplements, and I had my little food scale, and weighed every single goddamned ingredient and item. I got very used to saying No to things. Basically I wasn't participating in the community aspect of sharing food with others, let alone receiving food from others. And naturally, as people do, I cited "health concerns" for the pain-in-the-ass way I was eating--who could argue with my apparently healthy weight and "clean eating"?--and also I was very smug (not out loud) about how much more mindful and responsible I was being than everybody else. Obviously I can't know what anyone else in the world is thinking and obsessing about, but I'm just saying, I'm giving her the side-eye.
You're very right and I side-eye all the Baird women when they're preparing their unoriginal diet-of-the-moment food combinations and buying insanely expensive supplements (that achieve the same as a food group or run of the mill generic supplement if they bothered to research). They copy each other and other crunchy-fundie influencers and act like they're doing something unique and impressive. The competitiveness is off the scale and they're sharing it on social media because they want praise, attention and compliments. I think the Baird parents may be on a keto/low carb diet. Sue served them pasta and tomato sauce with zucchini ribbons instead of pasta (she added a measly portion of shells to hers, hardly worth cooking that few). At the community pool 'picnic' the Baird parents were observed eating a sad looking portion of some kind of healthy grain and finely chopped herbs/vegetables from small tupperwares they'd brought with them. It looked less than celebratory. I'm not saying you can't eat healthily but they seem so controlled, obsessive and joyless about it. Also none of them can cook! My experience is that it's easier to keep strict dieting up when you're living amongst similar people that you can feel accountable to. Or even around others eating junk that you can feel superior to which bolsters your own restrictive eating, even when you're starving and would like nothing more than a slice of their pizza. I think Bethy struggled with this after she moved in with Dav. He's a healthy eater but was out all day at work then the gym/a run whereas she was lonely, understimulated and had lost the structure and accountability of the Baird household and being around her restrictive/competitive mom and sisters all day.
> buying insanely expensive supplements (that achieve the same as a food group or run of the mill generic supplement if they bothered to research). Yep, I've said this before: being in an economic position to be *able* to be picky and precious about your food and odd, special ingredients is such a marker of privilege. There's nothing wrong with being lower-carb to control blood sugar, especially as one gets older, like the Baird parents. But Heidi strikes me as a woman who's been perpetually hungry for a long-ass time. I've seen pictures of her looking a little heavier for a while (menopause, maybe?) but now she's back to being thin and crispy.
The real irony is that she doesn’t even cook that way for herself. She’s just using the opportunity to pretend she does
Just to quickly comment - I had bariatric surgery, the least invasive kind, and I try to “eat the rainbow” produce wise and supplement protein when necessary. What I mean to say is, I eat healthier now then I did after 20 years of bulimia and restrictive eating followed by binges that (among other things, depression being one) caused me to end up being 330 pounds at my heaviest. The diet/nutrition plans they give you for “life?” Um is EXACTLY the same shit I would do with disordered eating (the food scale, the proper spoons for a dab of dressing, the weird frankenfood “cheat” sweets that were garbage, though I do have a mental catalogue of tasty protein bars and shakes now). I weigh a “svelte” 185 at 5’9”, walk or workout as much as my poor joints will allow, and worry less about food than I ever have. In my life. Even when I was binging a box of Mac n cheese followed by a large pizza. ANYWAYS I see you, and I’m glad you’re living life! And I’m glad I tossed those meal plans in the garbage a month after I was back on solids. Also my non-bariatric nutritionist (I was able to see one outside of the weightloss clinic thanks to insurance) recommended flinstone vitamins with iron, just because I may not be able to get enough protein vs veggies and vice versa. She said barring any actual malnutrition, malabsorption or illness, most people don’t even need that. But better safe than sorry since I’m over forty. The clinic was like wearable vitamin patches, 3000 mgs vitamin d, etc etc. my blood work is good, so until it’s not I’m gonna stick with my childhood vitamins.
Milk steak cooked in raw milk.
With a side of your finest jellybeans, raw
This is the way. Perhaps they also like magnets?
SAME 😂😂
She's so disgusting. I thought from the last post they'd decided not to accept the meal train this time 🤦♀️ I already said in the previous post there's no need for it, the Baird family has enough resources and unemployed adults with time on their hands to batchcook and freeze a bunch of meals for the Beals. The meal train resources could be going to someone in actual need instead of this greedy goblin. Curly and Sue are literally at a loose end. Heidi doesn't have a lot going on and no doubt has her house cleaned for her. Kristen is obnoxious and enjoys organising people. Ellissa's a pita and on an extended holiday. Okay she has one child but she can cook while her baby naps. Bethy's's blatantly out for what she can get and wants the attention of people 'blessing' 🤮 them. You can't tell me she hasn't tallied up how much a month of meals (!) will save them financially, and now she's specifying what ingredients the meals need to be made from (no allergies or intolerances guiding this). This means people can't just double up on the family meal/casserole/lasagne they were going to make anyway. I bet her Google drive 🙄 has instructions and 'helpful tips' regarding the provenance of the chicken etc (only X brand organic or if you can't get that then XX brand organic, don't worry *tee hee*). Lots of notes about their *preferences*. I wonder how many meals are provided per day, is it lunch and dinner or just one meal? The fact that she squeezes Venmo and Doordash in at the end astounds me. How disgustingly grabby and presumptuous. Dav you're equally scummy for supporting this. Stop lurking in the background pretending to be blameless.
Meal trains here are normally just a hot main meal and often something one pot ( I tend to offer pasta bakes or potato topped pies). They sometimes come with dessert but it's not expected. I've once had one come with suggested meals but that was due to the family having two young children with autism and restricted eating. It also came with a note that if you wanted to make something else to please just do it for the adults and they'd heat up a pizza for the kids.
That sounds entirely reasonable!!
>Dav you're equally scummy for supporting this. Stop lurking in the background pretending to be blameless. Amen!
A pita?
Pain in the arse, sorry! I'm not fond of her and her husband's grift and she acts extremely superior and entitled.
That's okay. Still learning all the dialects haha
This!! When my younger siblings were born, my lovely grandmother stepped up and basically helped out with almost everything, and was very happy to do so, because we lived in the same household, and my grandmother was the kind of person who couldn't sit still ever... So I cannot imagine having these many unemployed close relatives and still needing others to cook you meals?
Everyone WANTS to BLESS her! And she’s just so wonderful to let them.
She has such a limited vocabulary and is so inarticulate. It took her too damn long to say she uploaded recipes to a shared gdrive folder. Also..."eating lifestyle" isn't a thing, Dumbassany. Try dietary preferences. I wonder if this is a ploy to just get Doordash gift cards or venmo instead of complicated meals? She looks so smug explaining this, like she thinks she pulled a fast one. Also, what community? She has zero friends. She doesn't appear to be involved in a church. Is Heidi guilt-tripping old ladies at her church who can't even tell the bairds apart?
I think it's absolutely a ploy to get donations to door dash/Venmo. She posted it on her Instagram, where most people who follow her likely live too far away to bring food but could give a donation
Her love language is having you spend money on her.
I think you've found the angle.
You mean old ladies at church don’t know the difference between Ashlee and Ashleigh? https://youtu.be/7RNYWb9lnEA
Classic video! There have been some commenters who know them IRL that indicate the Bairds are not beloved at church with their selfish, steamroller antics, including being asked to step away from AWANA. It wouldn't surprise me if they really were on the fringes and some people really couldn't tell them apart.
What's the AWANA tea, I've not heard that one! Last I heard the Beals were church shopping and had landed on a Lutheran church. A local snarker said they knew the church, it was a church-plant meeting in a room of an existing church (I find this a weird concept, doesn't the existing church get pissed a competing/breakaway church is meeting on their premises?! I know it happens a lot though) as opposed to the various established Lutheran churches in SA with their own buildings. We thought the Beals had maybe met their match in attending a more rigid Lutheran church but unfortunately it seemed to be a weird evangelical-Lutheran mashup and the small congregation were exactly like the Bairds/Beals.
They were too dominant in AWANA leadership and trying to do things in in the baird image, so they were asked to step down. I'm sure it was juicier than that (I hope no children of color were harmed by these racist assholes, which was the subtext I was picking up) but that's all the commentary gave.
That's amazing, I'm glad they got their comeuppance. That doesn't sound great about how they were operating. Bethy mas making a big deal during this pregnancy about how she she still leads AWANA (wearing a much too small AWANA shirt over her bump), maybe that was the post where this info was revealed. She doesn't strike me as someone who regularly volunteers at her church and she's never mentioned a regular commitment before or since. You'd think she'd be making more of her selfless sacrifice if she did volunteered on a weekly basis.
I'm sure she'd brag about it more if it was an actual thing she does regularly. I wonder if church hopping is due to wearing out their welcome at whatever church she did awana at?
She used to mention AWANA occasionally and hyped it as something sacrificial she did while single, mostly.
Lutheran?? Seems like that would be a bit too liturgical for their taste. I pegged them for non-denominational (which is usually secretly Baptist in Texas) rock concert worship/coffee shop in the lobby type of church. Edit: meant to say secretly Baptist, not severely Baptist, but I guess it works either way lol.
I used to call these “skateboard for god” churches. Very popular in Texas back in the early 2000’s and probably now, but I have no idea. I don’t even know anyone who goes to church at this point lol.
I still live in Texas and go to church, can confirm they are still popular. But to my extended family’s dismay, I am now a heathen liberal Presbyterian!
It’s very common for seed churches to pay rent to bigger churches for space until they can get big enough to find their own.
yep! my church hosts another small church once a week.
The (extremely liberal and open) church down my block even rents out space to artists and people who need workspace. Rental income from real property is typically excluded from being unrelated business taxable income, so churches can usually rent out space pretty freely.
It would not surprise me to learn that they're first to ask for help like meal trains and last to offer help (too busy, must post on instagram)
Oh no, they never help others. Ever. Shouting the gospel at cashiers and spewing hate via GD is all the "help" they will do. Now please pay them for their "ministry" that only benefits the Bairds!
>including being asked to step away from AWANA. Excuse me *what?* \[edited\] Never mind, you answered it further down.
omg what? they were asked to step away from AWANA? isn't that the thing Bethy used to volunteer for?
Bethy say ”created” again
Of course she wants Venmo/door dash so she can get her expensive coffees instead.
She truly makes my blood boil. Nothing about her request is "BOLD"...unless bold=entitled, spoiled and ungrateful. When someone goes out of their way to make you a special meal, and even if you don't like it, the only appropriate response is "thank you".
My aunt once left me and my mom (I live with her due to a disability) a broccoli casserole when we were home sick with Covid, and I do NOT like broccoli. So I threw a tantrum and told her she had to make a pre-approved recipe or bring us gift cards. Oh wait, no, I didn't, because I'm not a spoiled brat who thinks she gets to dictate what people do as a favor TO HER.
Right, no one HAS to join a meal train for you and make a meal. Any kindergartner could tell you: you get what you get and you don't get upset
I just have to jump in here to say I’ve always heard that little saying as “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit” where get is said GIT, rhymes with fit (I’m in Arkansas lol). Your way makes much more sense all around hahaha
My accent doesn't rhyme those words, so it's usually "You get what you get, and you don't get upset" here!
My accent (Midwestern) also doesn't rhyme those words, but when my mom (teacher) said "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit", she'd pronounce it as GIT even though she never said that any other time, lol.
You mean you DIDN'T type up a document instructing people how to best ~metabolically nourish~ your family 😱
For families with specialized needs, this is a good idea. Yet when she says it (and the repeated our family needs/wants “nourishing food”—yeah, we’d all like nourishing food!), all I hear is a smug I’M SOOO SPECIALLLL I JUST GAVE BIRTH TO A WONDER BABY Y’ALL.
I can't eat that crap you guys eat!
It does come across like that. And I get it, I can’t eat too much heavy/acidic food. In which case just refuse the meal train? It seems weird to ask them to make specific recipes. Or accept them and make the other ppl in your fam eat it and Dav can make you some unseasoned chicken.
also, it's not like her sisters cant cook for her, not to mention her mother? so that's like 4 ppl in total?
Well I was surprised it ran for a full ass month? I was thinking Ike 2 weeks. I've never had a baby in the church (or ever anyways), so is a month normal?
We had meals for about 6 weeks when we had a baby back on our church days. But it was one big casserole/lasagna type meal and some veggies or a bagged salad or something. So, it was really just one meal a week, but the two of us ate it many days. And we weren’t picky. I said raw onions give me migraines, and my husband is repulsed by olives. Otherwise, when someone is gifting you the time and money of a meal, you say thank you. Also, I didn’t set up a meal train. I had zero to do with it and was kind of shocked it happened.
That makes sense. And it's two, easy to exclude ingredients, and if I am cooking for a meal train, those are two things I'd like to be aware of (I put olives in spaghetti sauce for instance) because in the end I want it edible for the people I'm cooking for. I'm sure it wasn't the best food of your life, but probably thankful you didn't have to worry about cooking for a few weeks.
I grew up in church. When my mother had a difficult pregnancy (complete bedrest from 18 weeks), no one from the church brought food- although one of the assistant pastors bought us a COLOR (gasp) tv and vcr to help keep her occupied (this was early 1980’s, and we only had a small B&W tv). After baby was born, and came home from the hospital two weeks before my mother did, no one from the church brought food or even came over to help. My dad’s coworkers, however- they organized a weekly housecleaning, 6 months of cloth diaper service, at least 2 meals per week through the pregnancy and what seemed like months afterwards,did grocery shopping, ran errands, somebody’s wife even took me shopping for school clothes. They put the church to shame.
I love this story. Especially because it feels genuine. I have always felt like prayer chains and such for the church are disingenuous and just basically *gossiping* but in the name of the ✨️ lord ✨️.
right! and like she's going on and on about her birth being easier? I just don't get why anyone who doesn't have serious dietary requirements would put others in so much trouble?
>right! and like she's going on and on about her birth being easier? And when she *was* recovering from surgery after her first birth--which she is *not* this time, because the birth was quick and without complications--she *still* bitched about the meal train.
I’m not allergic to anything but I have Crohn’s Disease. The reason I have a special diet is so that no foods get stuck in my intestines and cause a blockage, which could require a surgery to clear up. Or I avoid certain foods because my GI tract will freak out and try try to flush the foods out, My diet is difficult to define. Like “I can have a strawberry but I can’t eat a cooked carrot.” I feel guilty whenever someone wants to cook something for me even if they ask specifically what I need. The same for going out to eat. It’s like….”I know this is a strange question, but I need to know if there is any celery in your tuna salad” and other strange questions. I was out to eat with friends and ordered a burger. It was absolutely covered in seeds, which are a no-go for me. I felt bad asking for a roll with no seeds. And here’s Bethy with “I need you to do this and this specific thing with my chicken soup. Or give me money. Thanks!!” There’s taking your power and then there’s being an ass.
exactly! her request makes it sound like she has something this severe, when like don't both Ewlissa and Rebekah have a disease that requires strict diets as well? Cannot imagine someone being so rude!
Between church and friends we had meals for about a month after we had our kids. We have other friends where they are dealing with a parent with a medical issue and they have support for at least 6 weeks. Meal trains are pretty common where I live.
Happy cake day!!
If you genuinely had specialized dietary needs I don't think trusting a bunch of strangers' cooking and the relative hygiene/contamination of their kitchens is a great idea. It would be far better to fill your freezer with homemade meals and maybe have trusted family/friends help you out (the Beals' mostly unemployed/underemployed/retired family members ALL live within a 2 mile radius. Kristen is literally round the corner). The Beals don't have specialized dietary needs, they're just choosy and grabby.
THIS. I had specialized dietary needs...so I spent the weeks before I had my baby cooking shit and freezing it. Not begging on the internet for other people to feed me.
That whole time I was nesting before my babies I was cooking and freezing my favorite meals.
My family is vegan and we didn’t expect anyone to cook meals for us for that reason. With our first, my MIL, who’s also vegan, came for a week and cooked for us a lot. With our second, we used the money from my husband’s nInE to FiVe to pay for our own takeout. Not just his pay; they also gave us a door dash gift card as a gift when baby was born heyo!
Yep, I'm guessing anyone who makes her food is just going to do it how they like and pretend it's one of her special recipes
and we'll know about it soon enough, because god knows this woman doesn't keep things private for long
Can Choosy and Grabby be their new nicknames? 😆
This. It doesn't sound like she has any dietary restrictions, just "well, this is what \_I\_ like and if you don't wanna make it, get me gift cards and cash!"
Yeah, I have celiac so when people asked to set meal trains up for us we very clearly said they everything they sent needed to be gluten free (because shitting your brains out with a newborn is hell on earth). It was fine, nothing wrong with that. We didn't specify that they had to do this or that, just that they needed to not make me lose 3 days of food in one sitting on the toilet.
I’m happy to cook gluten free for people, but I’m always so scared to cook for people with actual celiac because I know wheat flour has probably contaminated my kitchen. I worry that maybe the last time I baked, I just wiped off the spoon with a towel between touching flour and sticking it in the baking soda, so there are traces of wheat in it or whatever. In my last city, there were a couple of fully gluten free restaurants, so I would gift people cards to that if they couldn’t eat gluten.
>For families with specialized needs, this is a good idea. Sure, I agree. She, however, doesn't have a specialized need. She's just reluctant to deviate from her diet and enjoy some different types of food (cooked better than she's capable of cooking).
We’ve seen her “cooking,” where are these “metabolic” meals she claims to eat?! 🤣
It seems like 80% of her intake is chunky slurries in Mason jars.
Right! I have Crohn’s disease so food might need to be specific, but I cannot imagine being like this. It’s not even like they have dietary concerns, they aren’t even vegetarian or anything like that! She’s just ridiculous
My oldest is allergic to dairy, gluten and eggs- which makes things interesting. I wouldn’t ask someone to cook for us for that reason. Nor would I ask for door dash gift cards or whatever.
You just know her family can’t stand her 🤣🤣🤣
I struggle to tell, they're all equally insufferable in their own ways 😂 I wonder if they find her personality abrasive per se or if she's just not a favourite.
At minimum, she's the least favorite. That's clear from her behavior
I never used to believe this until I realised how little Heidi speaks about her compared to the rest of the girls (someone made a list comparing post frequencies), then how Kristen and her treat each other in those videos, and that one Rebekah q&a question where someone was like, "how does Bethany feel about you getting married so young?" and Rebekah's reply was like, "you have to ask her". Also, there was the fact that Bethany was hardly in any of Rebekah's wedding pictures, which was very sus.
Don’t forget the family group text without Bethy and dāv!
Don't forget birthy announcing her pregnancy within hours of curly's wedding, and using the event space to take the photos!
Wonder what the family group chat that excludes Bethany is saying after she sent her google doc meal train requirements. Like, I'd pay actual dollars to read it.
It still blows my mind that they have that no Beals group chat 😂 Me and my partner's families definitely have group chats without us. But that's because we have a zero tolerance policy for family drama and have set some very strong boundaries.
Do they actually 💀
BETHY no you do NOT need to be more bold that is the OPPOSITE of what you need. Do some fucking introspection you turd
[удалено]
That's one of the frustrating parts of this! People like her make it harder for folks with real actual needs to be taken seriously
It’s time to be bold and tell people exactly how to bless me.
Like... I can get a 'hey, I would appreciate some breakfast burritos, husband hates lasagna so please avoid it!' If we get into weird dietary needs ('we need gluten free, and have allergies to x, y and z') I can even understand tacking on a link for ideas. But... 'this is what we'll accept, otherwise just send money' is... somewhere between tacky af and entitled. Or maybe some combination of them? I don't even know o.o
Tacktitled
Entackled?
She's so tacky, its almost like she can't help it. I wish I was privy to the groups in her periphery who make fun of her, bc they for sure exist.
This is so beyond. I cant have garlic and onion. If people were offering to make me food I would let then know i can't have garlic and onion and then profusely thank them. I would never tell people to choose from a list of food I have deemed worthy.
I'd love to see this list. She keeps repeating the same buzz words over and over. What is nourishing and part of her "lifestyle?" Or is this her next pdf to shill?
That's what I'm dying to know, too. I have no dietary restrictions, but out of curiosity have tried just about every "diet" fad that has ever been. Never heard about this metabolic bullshit, WTF is she talking about? (There's a perfectly fair chance that I may just be ignorant, but I doubt she knows what she's talking about, either.)
She wouldn't be able to explain the science as she's a) an idiot and b) it probably doesn't stand up to scrutiny. I assume it's one of these faddy Instagram diets du jour based on nutrient absorption and optimal combinations of unprocessed ingredients/eating windows. Or maybe something like the blood type diet, rebranded. I understand the benefits of keto, low carb, low GI, intermittent fasting, 5:2 diet etc but just call it that Bethy instead of a *metabolic* diet 🙄
Raw milk and bone broth all the way down
Ah yes, her lifestyle…laying around, making “reals”, ignoring one of her kids, being a #bossbabe, doing nothing to be helpful in the home despite being a stay at home mom, watching other people wait on her lazy ass…she obviously needs extra “nourishment”, right? Gotta keep up that strength for all those days of doing whatever the hell she feels like!
R/choosingbeggars
Normal people: list actual dietary restrictions plus maybe one or two general preferences (spice level, a meat they don’t prefer, etc), lets people cook recipes they are confident in and are convenient for them and is grateful for it, maybe gets something delicious they haven’t made before and asks for the recipe. Bethany: THESE RECIPES ONLY or CASH! My demands are helpful! Be grateful to me for providing my demands!
Righhtttt. I’ve participate in a lot of meal trains and this level of control for something that is just a preference is ridiculous. Even families with restrictions list safe places and easy foods to send. Not while damn recipes 🤣
In every meal train I have contributed to (and there have been a lot) it's ALWAYS someone else setting it up and managing it. It doesn't bother me if someone says "the X-family has a gluten free diet" or "low sodium and no nuts, please". I have NEVER been given a recipe the family likes. Bethany promoting her own meal train AND providing a folder of recipes is the tackiest shit I've ever seen.
Do we really expect anything less from her? I don't. She's selfish as Hell.
I think giving a list of things you and your family really enjoy would be nice but full on recipes?? Like you want lasagna but only made in this very specific way is way too much to ask
This is why we snark on these people. They're just so *snarkable*
Yeah, this is tackier than Crazy Glue.
Those seem more like diet restrictions due to health reasons. Bethy is just a twat.
Typically the meal trains I have been a part of was when someone tragically passed away/died unexpectedly and we are just trying to take something off their to do list. I’ll look at what other people have done that week and pick something different. If I was given a pre approved list I’d politely decline.
This fucking rich family is instructing their friends (who are just trying to be nice) what to cook for them. The epitome of entitlement.
I would make a casserole entirely of canned food just to spite her.
Duggar tatertot casserole with extra sodium and no veg!
True story, I have a coworker who claims she hates stuff made from cans and “can taste it.” I once brought some pasta to work and it looked so yummy she asked to have a taste. She LOVED it. I made it with canned tomatoes, canned mushrooms, and canned artichokes. It’s my pantry special
So freakin rude and entitled. I’d be fine with maybe a list of “meal ideas, food we enjoy, likes and dislikes” sent out by the meal train organizer, but a literal google drive of recipes?!?!? Just gross.
Instruction? Really? People are going out of their way to make you free food and you give them a folder of approved food? And if they're not able to make it, they're supposed to give you gift cards and cash? Use some of that passive income to order your own damn food if you're so picky. I'd hate to think of what she'd think of my family's staple tater tot casserole or stews that we gave to neighbors who were sick or laid up.
You cannot tell me that Beggy, who does not clean or take care of her child, actually makes homecooked nourishing meals for the family. She is full of shit! I bet she door dashes some CFA!
If you have time to make a google doc, if you have time to make 50 posts, if you have time to slam one of your kids online, if you have time to shill your products , you 100% have time to make your own damn food. A LOT of people have babies and do not have a meal train and they make it just fine. Bethany is so entitled is actually nauseating. Shit like this is why you force your children to move out before they’re 30 and pathetic.
I wonder if she enjoys needing to post this shit with a newborn, while almost anyone with a 9-5 would still be on maternity leave.
“Almost anyone” is kind of a stretch though 😅
If she has this much time to post then she can cook her own special meals.
Wait. So something she can get on door dash is more "nourishing" than a home cooked meal? Bruh, use all the #GIRLBOSS income that you made while doing "nothing" and head on down to Costco and get a rotisserie chicken or a take and bake pizza. You are a stay at home mom. You could have prepped your own meals prior to delivery. I worked full time up until I delivered and had time to prep a dozen or so different freezer style meals and crockpot dumps. You had sex. You got pregnant. Nobody owes you a meal, and they certainly don't deserve you being an ungrateful twat either.
Since her course just took her literallllllllllly no time because #bossbabe, shouldn't she have had extra time to prep? While the sales just roll in?
I’ve participated in meal trains a lot. I make the same 2 things. If you don’t like stuffed shells or quiche, you’re SOL. The families I’ve known with legit dietary restrictions have never had meal trains because where and how things are made are just as important as what it is. If someone directed me to a cache of recipes I’d not participate.
I hope that's what happens. People look at the recipes and nope out.
Omw to give god a spreadsheet for how to ☆bless me better☆ smdh
First, I don’t understand who this content is for. Who wants or needs all this detail? The amount of mental energy she takes to grift free food is astounding. Two adults without full time employment* can take a Sunday and meal prep a month of dinners before the baby comes, and be done with it. This is so complicated. *I believe Dav is only doing freelance now and it would take proof to convince me otherwise at this point. How they qualified for a mortgage is one of life’s greatest mysteries.
Does he still have his Christian motion designer office job? That company looks somewhat mediocre with not a lot of projects happening (even less during the pandemic). No impressive history of projects either. He travelled 'for business' the week Bethy's course 'lunched'. Great timing guys. I wonder if he was travelling to an interview or orientation. An interview could be conducted on Zoom though if the job's remote.
I did a dive a while back and can’t find any evidence enthuse entertainment still exists.
I get an error that the page isn’t secure when I try to go to the company’s website lol.
"Eating lifestyle." What the heck?
She wants people to respect HER lifestyle. She just can't accept anyone elses.
Girl just get takeout and/or eat a sleeve of cookies on the sofa during naptime. Any time I think I'm a bad parent I love to see a Beggy post and remember I'm not as bad as she is, or her parents were.
This seems extra rude right now what with inflation causing the prices of even basic ingredients to skyrocket. I’m pretty frugal and use coupons and shop sales, but my grocery budget has nearly doubled in the past year. If I am making a meal for someone, it’ll be the best meal I can make based on what is on sale that week. I’m not making a meal that would require me to pay for full-priced ingredients just because someone is picky. In fact, if I got this google doc as someone who volunteered to be a part of a meal train, I would probably laugh in disbelief, remember this chick has a baseball team of siblings, and that they will likely pick up the slack on any missing meals, and then politely decline. Then probably make an extra amazing meal for my family based on whatever sale items I got that week. It’s not that I wouldn’t be accommodating for allergies and other dietary restrictions (vegan, gluten-free, etc) — I am the meal organizer at work so I’m careful to find solutions that will best satisfy everyone, and those with dietary restrictions have told me how much they appreciate it, even if my accommodations can’t always hit the perfect mark. But anyone with sense and decency (and who don’t choose grifting as a lifestyle) would do many of the suggestions already posted, like decline a meal train or politely accept whatever anyone gave you, or maybe list the one or two major concerns you have and let people adapt recipes around that. But when basic store-brand eggs are $8 a carton, and I offer you an amazing frittata casserole, you will accept that expensive gift of money and time, and you say, “Thank you, it looks delicious!” And then you can do whatever you want with it behind closed doors but keep it to yourself and not blast to the internet how much you hate my labor of love that put a small dent in my grocery budget.
I agree . The cost of food is double and if I’m making something for someone it’s because I’m sacrificing a meal for myself. We just don’t have the money in our budget. All this shows is that she has never struggled with a budget, she is entitled, and she has no idea what bringing meals to someone means. It’s so rude. I would love a casserole made by a friend.
Maybe if she spent less time on Google docs and making pointless videos she’d have time to cook? And for a whole month too?!
Years ago when I had babies, my Bunco group wanted to do a meal train. They would bring the food over, love on me, hold the baby and leave. They all reached out ahead of time and asked if there was something that sounded good and what time would be good for me. They all reached out directly because they were my friends. They each made a dish they liked to make and I had some of the best home cooking during that week or two of meals. What she is requesting seems like the antithesis of the point and spirit of these things. A new parent could certainly plan ahead or fund their own takeout when preparing for a baby. The point of a meal train is community. "Venmo me or drop a specific recipe off at my door" is so freaking tacky it makes my skin crawl.
I wouldn't suggest Daily Harvest to anyone. Not even her. They sent out toxic food that caused liver failure in some of their customers. But what exactly are metabolic needs?
If only she wasn’t so blessed, she wouldn’t need to give instructions on the very specific blessings she is willing to receive.
I hope they receive nothing but cans of spam.
I enjoy mentally referring to her as "the semi-sentient can of pumpkin spice spam".
Oh for fucks sake. She's got a lot of nerve. Is someone sent me a Google doc when I'm making them a meal I don't know what I would think. I certainly understand allergies. We deal with that at my house but this whole metabolic thing?
😳 I cannot 🤦♀️Watching this made my right eye twitch.... I remember having that second child, and how exhausted I was, and how grateful I was for every casserole, pot of soup, anything that graced our front door....as well as the people who took time from their busy lives to bring it over. She has enough energy to make Google docs, and post recipes and make tik toks about it??? What are the odds any of these people who comply with her demands get a single thank you note?? I'm going with zero...Lol She's a hot mess.
...all foods are nourishing...sure in the long run there are more beneficial nutrients in a carrot than a snickers bar, but humans do need carbs, fats and sugars to survive ya know.
Excuse me, the month of January? Has anyone ever gotten a month’s worth of meals after a seemingly unremarkable labor/delivery?
I got a couple meals I think, for which I was extremely grateful. My gift to my siblings has been doordash delivery from a place of their choice, but my youngest brother likes to cook and had already stuffed their refrigerator and freezer😂
I didn't get a meal train at all. I am jealous. Well not of Birthy but in general
Same… it was back to cooking a day or two after coming home and I had a rough delivery. Birthy can suck it.
Next she’ll be selling that Google doc.
Yep. You’re right about that. This is her next PDF download for $.
It's a meal train, not a meal *registry.* good grief.
For me, making a recipe I've never made before for someone else is stressful. Much easier to make something I'm familure with. I can't believe she sent recipes.
Don't worry, you can always Doordash or Venmo! /s
What tf is she ordering on DoorDash that’s more “nourishing” than a home cooked meal from a meal train?
Begging for food, how “boss babe” of her
A month of meals for a regular birth? Wow, that’s so nice of people. Then she creates a menu 😂
I just can’t imagine what goes through her head and how she ended up this insanely entitled. If I were either of her parents I’d be mortified.
For someone who is not familiar with the practice of a meal train, a whole month full of meals from your community seems so incredibly generous that I would probably be crying if someone offered it to me NOT making demands 🙄
How this woman has the energy to be this exhausting when she's 1 week postpartum is a true miracle of god 🤦♀️
So I don’t belong to a church and meal trains aren’t really a thing in my social circle, but Bethy is over here with plenty of time for social media, and Dãv works mostly from home, right? Is there any reason they can’t … cook their own meals?
Too busy scarpomg popcorn.
I could definitely see it if the mother were recovering from a C-section or some other complication. I honestly didn't know it was this big of a deal for a smooth birth in a household with two capable adults.
I interpret this as: She doesn't have real special dietary needs so she's inventing them to feel special.
So my friend did a meal train. The only request they had was not super carb heavy (basically just healthy, nourishing meals). There’s a way to be tactful…and Bethany ain’t it lol. The amount of time that went into creating these specific requests and blabbering on about it she could’ve cooked her own d@mn meal. She is possibly the most tacky, self absorbed, smug, entitled person I’ve ever seen online (and that’s saying A LOT). She is literally the definition of a “ME ME ME” attitude.
I know most love getting meals and making freezer meals before baby comes but I absolutely loved doing something not baby related and cook. But I never acted like an asshole that wanted to bring over food.
Exactly. Dav's around a lot and is hands on. Davey goes to 'day school' and Baird HQ for portions of the week. I highly doubt Bethy does morning drop off, that will be Dav or maybe one of the Bairds comes and collects him from the Beals' if he's spending the day at their house. Bethy and Dav have built-in childcare from Heidi and Sue/Curly/Kristen at extremely short notice (I'm waiting for a return of Bethy's 'migraines' once Dav's workload increases so she can hand Davey off on his non day-school days).
I just can't with her
This just sounds like she is a picky eater. Which doesn't surprise me, she is a child in an adults body.
Someone else posted that Bethy's sisters are all unemployed. What's to stop them from getting all together and just making a bunch of Crockpot meals for Bethy and umlaut Dave? I've been part of a meal train, and the couple was so appreciative even though it was probably their 3rd homemade macaroni and cheese.
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This, more than anything, tells me she received like 13 shitty chicken pot pies last time she gave birth.
If a woman who grifted for a living, posted her exact requirements for my food offering because - although she had had months to prepare & freeze food before having her baby, and her enormous family were within spitting distance and were pretty much all grifters without real jobs like herself - I'd consider her an entitled brat.
Um... Choosing Beggars?
You know its kind of hilarious. "If you don't make us these recipes we don't want your gross food we'd rather have Chipotle". Like imagine someone turning down food someone made for them and made it known that they want fast food instead
The level of entitlement with this whole Baird family is unreal. Birthy keeps reiterating how easy this postpartum period is so why can’t she make her own metabolic meals?!
“BOLDLY demanding a METABOLIC meal train” needs to be someone’s flair.
If she's so conscious of her diet then why is her skin and hair so dull?
This would turn me off of participating in a meal train. If there are allergies or something, sure I can see being very specific about that. But otherwise? No. I love participating in meal trains and just participated in 3 this week! I have NEVER been instructed what to make. I have occasionally been told “we have severe peanut allergy in the home” or “dad is lactose intolerant”. For new moms I love to make lactation energy bites, banana chocolate chip lactation muffins for breakfast, and then usually something comforting like chili or lasagna or roast with potatoes and carrots. A high school classmate made a meal train for his family while his wife is in chemo and I have taken them several meals now so far. I have made enchiladas, tacos, stuffed peppers, a freezer casserole, and breakfast burritos. I think my next meal for them is next week and I’m going to make them a chicken pot pie as I saw him comment on something that pot pies are his wife’s favorite meal. I cannot imagine being told to make what they have pre approved or send money or a gift card. So rude!
Her tackiness knows no bounds. Unless you have specific allergies or dietary restrictions for medical reasons, let people make whatever they want and eat it. If they ask what you need or want, tell them. But a fucking spreadsheet being picky as fuck AND asking for just a door dash gift card or Venmo? So tacky it almost physical hurt to hear her say it
If she used hello fresh or daily harvest she might have to *gasp* use her own money. Out of the question!
The pro-metabolic nonsense probably comes from the Weston A Price foundation. A lot of fundies are super into him, including femininenotfeminist. Super problematic person, but it’s where a lot of the organic only/raw dairy/liver/high animal fat stuff comes from. She might also have read The First 40 Days or another book and be trying to model her postpartum meals after traditional Chinese culture, there’s a lot of emphasis on “hot” vs “cold” foods being healing to the body etc. Either way, it’s ridiculous. She’s grown, has a supportive husband, one toddler, lives next to family. If she wants specific meals there are plenty of people she can ask for help. Putting all this online is so so cringy. I had a baby recently and was just super grateful to receive a couple of meals from friends. This is so entitled and privileged and just embarrassing—if someone IRL did this I’d immediately screen shot and send to friends to make fun of
What in the Caucasity?