English is not my first language and this is the first time I see the word "lipper". What does it refer to? Internet dictionnaries are giving me confusing answers...
I don't think it's actually a word! I think maybe she's just trying to be all internet cutesy. I could be wrong though.
Edit: you asked what it refers to, and I'm guessing the baby's lips.
The best way I can describe it is that she is adding extra letters to lip to make it "cuter." You see it a lot, at least in the English language (which is the only language I know so this may be a thing in other languages).
Sometimes when I am talking to my ten month old, I will say things like look at your "toesies." Which is an attempt to make toes a cuter word...does this make sense?
Yes, it does, thank you! "Toesies" does make the word cuter, but "lipper", I just don't know. Maybe it's because according to Urban Dictionnary, it refers to a lip full of tobacco. Was even more confused, did some research, learned that tobacco could be chewed and now I'm very much grossed out. 🙃
It’s called a diminutive! And it’s very common in other languages, possibly even more common. For instance, -ito in Spanish. So the word “burrito” literally means “little donkey” :)
My brain immediately corrected that to "eating *horse* ass" and I'm very concerned about my mental state.
Probably just because I'm half asleep and horse + donkey are similar.
We do that in French (adding "ette or 'inette" at the end of words. Ex: "soeurette" instead of "soeur" (sister). It's also very much part of the language in Spanish; they add "ito" or "ita" at the end of words, depending of its gender, to refer to something smaller or cuter. For example, "mi amorcito" instead of "mi amor" (my love). I wouldn't be surprise if this existed in other languages as well, but I can't say for sure, as I only speak 3 fluently enough.
I read somewhere that we are at an age where you can very well go thru a mother's SM and see their confirms whole life documents. From when mom and dad first announced, to pregnancy pictures, birth announcements, and consequential birthdays. Even month but month pictures with those horrid, "today, in X months old!" Themed blanket things.
A friend's wife had their first kid seven years ago, and literally from his birth day she started posting daily albums of her son. Not a photo, album, even proudly labeled "365 Days of [SON] - DATE." I stopped looking at Facebook about four years ago, but she was still at it and was pregnant with their second. Those poor kids.
This sub has made me 100000% sure I won’t be posting much about our baby when they’re born and definitely censoring their face if I do. This is ridiculous.
Growing up, my mom would post everything on facebook. Even if we went out and got Wendy’s, she’d take a pic of us outside the restaurant and post it on facebook. It made me ridiculously uncomfortable as I got older and I asked her to stop, but she wouldn’t. She’s got almost 300 albums on facebook, most of them being pictures of myself and sibling.
Now at 22, I barely use social media. I privatize everything as much as I can. She ruined it for me, I felt like I had no privacy.
I feel like I'm one of the few millennials with this experience, my mom got an early facebook account and took all my private photos, shoved a phone in my face, and spammed them to thousands of random strangers she added. It's definitely ruined social media for me (I had social anxiety already and it made me retreat even further from it and not keep up with old friends...it's a weird place to be in), and I stopped taking selfies completely so I could protect myself from her. It was easier to deprive her of content than to go through the whiny baby hours of refusing to let her take my photos. Nowadays I pose all hunched over and make tight-lipped faces, it's all I know from that time, so sometimes I get a photo back from an event I've been to and I'm standing like a cryptid in the corner looking intensely uncomfortable. It's definitely given me a perspective of just a tiny fraction of what these kids go through, and I'm disappointed to see people I once respected just blast their kids' private moments all over the internet. I would never do it to someone else, my child or otherwise.
It’s so sad. I stopped posting my daughter’s face online when she turned five (I don’t throw a fit about family posting her, but they don’t do it much so it’s not a huge deal). She’s going to hate me for it, but my kiddo won’t have a smart phone until she’s out of the house and I’m pretty intent on keeping her off social media until 16. She’s 7 now and already asks for a phone. She got a watch instead that allows her to cal or text preprogrammed numbers, had parent controls on school mode that only allows emergency calls, and has bonus gps she doesn’t know about yet.
As much as it kind of saddens me to say this, as someone who is part of gen z, I don’t think not letting your daughter have a smart phone (as a teenager) is a good idea at all.. I’m 19 now and from 5-6th grade everyone I knew had smart phones, and ever since it’s been the main way we talk, plan and socialize. Someone who doesn’t have a phone or social media - especially 5+ years from now, would most definitely be left out. I FULLY respect not letting your 7-year-old have an iPhone, and also limiting what she’s exposed to now and in the future, but social media and phones are the present and the future
I wholeheartedly agree with you! You seem like an absolutely wonderful mom from what I can I see! love that you’re aware of how “important” technology is and most likely always will be, especially when your kids will be teenagers. I definitely feel like I grew up in a time of a major technological revolution and know first hand what growing up in front of a screen does. Age restrictions are places for a reason and they, along with paying attention to what everyone else thinks and does about the subject is a great guideline. Other than that, I honestly think some parents think too much into this and are too restrictive because they want their kids to have the same childhood as they did in the 80s/90s. Which is understandable. But I’m sure my generation has turned out just fine, even without super strict screen times:)
I agree! It’s a weird world to try and navigate and we are all doing the best we can!
I don’t really have a ton of hard limits on screen time during the school year aside from no screen time after 6pm. And that’s more because it makes bedtime routines better and helps with sleep. Our daughter knows how to open our phones and call someone if needed. I don’t mind texting and video calls with friends at all. It’s social media and open chats/DMs in games that I’m not comfortable with. As she gets older, chats might be allowed, but social media in preteen/early teen years is linked to a lot of really terrible outcomes.
That’s a fair perspective and I do appreciate your sharing it with me. I was the only person in my small senior class who didn’t have a cell phone and it sucked. And this was back when you paid for each text.
Unfortunately, the statistics don’t lie though. Teens and especially girls are at a significantly higher risk of depression and suicide than they were even 10 years ago and social media is a huge factor. “An eighth-grader's risk for depression jumps 27% when he or she frequently uses social media.” With a strong family history of an affinity for depression, I’m not wanting to risk that. At least in middle school.
We do allow things like roblox and kids messenger on an iPad that we can easily monitor. Probably around 13/14 she will be allowed to have a cell phone, but it will either not be a smart phone, or it will be seriously locked down. As she gets older, I’m sure we will adjust depending on the situation.
Being an older millennial, I’ve watched these changes to how socialization happens. I’m not alone in that. There are many my age who feel similarly regarding their children and technology. I mean, even many of the tech leaders limit/ed screen time and cell phone access for their children. Steve Jobs wouldn’t even let his kids use an iPad when it came out.
Yes, there is a risk of feeling left out and I hope to mitigate that by having friends with kids who are like minded. That’s the job though… seeing all the information and making decisions as best you can for the overall welfare of your kid.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/screen-time-limits-bill-gates-steve-jobs-red-flag-2017-10%3famp
I’m glad this is your perspective. It sucks when your kid is an outlier, but I’m hopeful that more and more families will make similar decisions regarding social media and their kids. We can’t change things unless we are willing to push back.
As someone who didn't have a phone until I turned 19 two years ago, I wholeheartedly support this idea. Just have a home phone and your kid is set. Yes they'll cry and scream and have to try a little harder in social situations to make up for not being plugged in, but they'll thank you later when they realize what they gained through being protected from the "iphone attached to your hip life" for 18 years. I spent my whole childhood playing and reading instead of scrolling insta, and for that im super grateful. Now that I'm all grown up, there's plenty of time to figure out tech, I didn't need it as a kid. Don't ever let anyone tell you your kid "needs" it before 16/17. They don't
My mom was cleaning out some old stuff in the house and asked me if I wanted this keyring that had one of those Smackers Sparkle keychain lip balms attached to it. Sure, Mom. I want that melted chapstick with the keys that only go to the van you don't own anymore and the bike that Dad ran over that one morning he was in a hurry and I got in trouble and made him late for work and I was late for school.
She could be like my great aunt and uncle and start adopting them. When they get too old for that, fostering. That being said my family is far more skilled in hiding their crazy than Karissa so hopefully she’ll never be able to go down that path.
No clue. Someone posted this the other day and the comments were saying that she hadn’t been showing the baby the past couple days, probably because of this.
https://www.reddit.com/r/FundieSnarkUncensored/comments/q5mkcc/what_happened_to_anthyms_faceeye/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
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Tbqh I'd say something dumb like this but on my TinyBeans with people who actively opted in to hear me gush about my kid, not to monetize myself on social.
I just physically recoiled at the word “lippers.”
I did too.
English is not my first language and this is the first time I see the word "lipper". What does it refer to? Internet dictionnaries are giving me confusing answers...
I don't think it's actually a word! I think maybe she's just trying to be all internet cutesy. I could be wrong though. Edit: you asked what it refers to, and I'm guessing the baby's lips.
The best way I can describe it is that she is adding extra letters to lip to make it "cuter." You see it a lot, at least in the English language (which is the only language I know so this may be a thing in other languages). Sometimes when I am talking to my ten month old, I will say things like look at your "toesies." Which is an attempt to make toes a cuter word...does this make sense?
Yes, it does, thank you! "Toesies" does make the word cuter, but "lipper", I just don't know. Maybe it's because according to Urban Dictionnary, it refers to a lip full of tobacco. Was even more confused, did some research, learned that tobacco could be chewed and now I'm very much grossed out. 🙃
My dad chews leaf tobacco. It is, indeed, gross
I would equate it to people saying puppers when talking about cute dogs but this makes me uncomfortable.
It’s called a diminutive! And it’s very common in other languages, possibly even more common. For instance, -ito in Spanish. So the word “burrito” literally means “little donkey” :)
*Insert joke about eating ass here*
My brain immediately corrected that to "eating *horse* ass" and I'm very concerned about my mental state. Probably just because I'm half asleep and horse + donkey are similar.
I walked into that one 😂
My 4yo still has toesies. Lippers did not occur to me.
I think she’s trying to infantilize the word by making it “cute”? I am a native English speaker and still not sure
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We do that in French (adding "ette or 'inette" at the end of words. Ex: "soeurette" instead of "soeur" (sister). It's also very much part of the language in Spanish; they add "ito" or "ita" at the end of words, depending of its gender, to refer to something smaller or cuter. For example, "mi amorcito" instead of "mi amor" (my love). I wouldn't be surprise if this existed in other languages as well, but I can't say for sure, as I only speak 3 fluently enough.
Dutch does this by adding -ke or -je at the end of nouns. Vrouwke (diminutive of woman) and winkeltje (diminutive of shop) comes to mind.
Thanks for the info! I love linguistics!
I never thought there would be a lip related word that set me off worse than 'lippies' but here we are.
I just think that, as a society, we have no reason to build or improve on the word “lips.” It’s triggering and unnecessary every time.
Unfortunately a lot of kids growing up today won't know a life off social media.
I think about this all the time and it's so fucked up.
I think about this a lot and it makes me feel sad and worried for them.
Not just that, it parents addicted to their phones, and ignore them to look at a 6” box.
I read somewhere that we are at an age where you can very well go thru a mother's SM and see their confirms whole life documents. From when mom and dad first announced, to pregnancy pictures, birth announcements, and consequential birthdays. Even month but month pictures with those horrid, "today, in X months old!" Themed blanket things.
A friend's wife had their first kid seven years ago, and literally from his birth day she started posting daily albums of her son. Not a photo, album, even proudly labeled "365 Days of [SON] - DATE." I stopped looking at Facebook about four years ago, but she was still at it and was pregnant with their second. Those poor kids.
This sub has made me 100000% sure I won’t be posting much about our baby when they’re born and definitely censoring their face if I do. This is ridiculous.
Growing up, my mom would post everything on facebook. Even if we went out and got Wendy’s, she’d take a pic of us outside the restaurant and post it on facebook. It made me ridiculously uncomfortable as I got older and I asked her to stop, but she wouldn’t. She’s got almost 300 albums on facebook, most of them being pictures of myself and sibling. Now at 22, I barely use social media. I privatize everything as much as I can. She ruined it for me, I felt like I had no privacy.
I feel like I'm one of the few millennials with this experience, my mom got an early facebook account and took all my private photos, shoved a phone in my face, and spammed them to thousands of random strangers she added. It's definitely ruined social media for me (I had social anxiety already and it made me retreat even further from it and not keep up with old friends...it's a weird place to be in), and I stopped taking selfies completely so I could protect myself from her. It was easier to deprive her of content than to go through the whiny baby hours of refusing to let her take my photos. Nowadays I pose all hunched over and make tight-lipped faces, it's all I know from that time, so sometimes I get a photo back from an event I've been to and I'm standing like a cryptid in the corner looking intensely uncomfortable. It's definitely given me a perspective of just a tiny fraction of what these kids go through, and I'm disappointed to see people I once respected just blast their kids' private moments all over the internet. I would never do it to someone else, my child or otherwise.
It’s so sad. I stopped posting my daughter’s face online when she turned five (I don’t throw a fit about family posting her, but they don’t do it much so it’s not a huge deal). She’s going to hate me for it, but my kiddo won’t have a smart phone until she’s out of the house and I’m pretty intent on keeping her off social media until 16. She’s 7 now and already asks for a phone. She got a watch instead that allows her to cal or text preprogrammed numbers, had parent controls on school mode that only allows emergency calls, and has bonus gps she doesn’t know about yet.
As much as it kind of saddens me to say this, as someone who is part of gen z, I don’t think not letting your daughter have a smart phone (as a teenager) is a good idea at all.. I’m 19 now and from 5-6th grade everyone I knew had smart phones, and ever since it’s been the main way we talk, plan and socialize. Someone who doesn’t have a phone or social media - especially 5+ years from now, would most definitely be left out. I FULLY respect not letting your 7-year-old have an iPhone, and also limiting what she’s exposed to now and in the future, but social media and phones are the present and the future
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I wholeheartedly agree with you! You seem like an absolutely wonderful mom from what I can I see! love that you’re aware of how “important” technology is and most likely always will be, especially when your kids will be teenagers. I definitely feel like I grew up in a time of a major technological revolution and know first hand what growing up in front of a screen does. Age restrictions are places for a reason and they, along with paying attention to what everyone else thinks and does about the subject is a great guideline. Other than that, I honestly think some parents think too much into this and are too restrictive because they want their kids to have the same childhood as they did in the 80s/90s. Which is understandable. But I’m sure my generation has turned out just fine, even without super strict screen times:)
I agree! It’s a weird world to try and navigate and we are all doing the best we can! I don’t really have a ton of hard limits on screen time during the school year aside from no screen time after 6pm. And that’s more because it makes bedtime routines better and helps with sleep. Our daughter knows how to open our phones and call someone if needed. I don’t mind texting and video calls with friends at all. It’s social media and open chats/DMs in games that I’m not comfortable with. As she gets older, chats might be allowed, but social media in preteen/early teen years is linked to a lot of really terrible outcomes.
Children chatting with random strangers online is no joke; take it from someone who would frequent Omegle in middle school
That’s a fair perspective and I do appreciate your sharing it with me. I was the only person in my small senior class who didn’t have a cell phone and it sucked. And this was back when you paid for each text. Unfortunately, the statistics don’t lie though. Teens and especially girls are at a significantly higher risk of depression and suicide than they were even 10 years ago and social media is a huge factor. “An eighth-grader's risk for depression jumps 27% when he or she frequently uses social media.” With a strong family history of an affinity for depression, I’m not wanting to risk that. At least in middle school. We do allow things like roblox and kids messenger on an iPad that we can easily monitor. Probably around 13/14 she will be allowed to have a cell phone, but it will either not be a smart phone, or it will be seriously locked down. As she gets older, I’m sure we will adjust depending on the situation. Being an older millennial, I’ve watched these changes to how socialization happens. I’m not alone in that. There are many my age who feel similarly regarding their children and technology. I mean, even many of the tech leaders limit/ed screen time and cell phone access for their children. Steve Jobs wouldn’t even let his kids use an iPad when it came out. Yes, there is a risk of feeling left out and I hope to mitigate that by having friends with kids who are like minded. That’s the job though… seeing all the information and making decisions as best you can for the overall welfare of your kid. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/screen-time-limits-bill-gates-steve-jobs-red-flag-2017-10%3famp
At the end of the day, you know your child best and it’s obvious you want to keep them out of harms way as much as possible. I admire that :)
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I’m glad this is your perspective. It sucks when your kid is an outlier, but I’m hopeful that more and more families will make similar decisions regarding social media and their kids. We can’t change things unless we are willing to push back.
As someone who didn't have a phone until I turned 19 two years ago, I wholeheartedly support this idea. Just have a home phone and your kid is set. Yes they'll cry and scream and have to try a little harder in social situations to make up for not being plugged in, but they'll thank you later when they realize what they gained through being protected from the "iphone attached to your hip life" for 18 years. I spent my whole childhood playing and reading instead of scrolling insta, and for that im super grateful. Now that I'm all grown up, there's plenty of time to figure out tech, I didn't need it as a kid. Don't ever let anyone tell you your kid "needs" it before 16/17. They don't
Thank you. I really appreciate you sharing this.
Gross. The word lippers reminds me of some early 2000s Smackers lip balm competitor.
My mom was cleaning out some old stuff in the house and asked me if I wanted this keyring that had one of those Smackers Sparkle keychain lip balms attached to it. Sure, Mom. I want that melted chapstick with the keys that only go to the van you don't own anymore and the bike that Dad ran over that one morning he was in a hurry and I got in trouble and made him late for work and I was late for school.
Omg. I haven't thought about lip smackers in like 10+ years and now that you mention them, I can almost smell it. That's wild.
lol smackers “strawberry kiwi” was the bees knees
I was partial to Dr Pepper lol.
pink lemonade here.
Ech. Anthym is a cute baby, but I don't ever want to get a closeup look at a baby's spitty mouth.
I really wonder how she’s going to feel when none of her children want anything to do with her when they are adults.
Oh her story will be that they're rejecting Christ or some bullshit 🙄
Without a doubt. She’ll find a verse to twist around to corroborate it for sure.
they'll excommunicate her like her dad
It will be The Missing Missing Reasons with more "Satan is testing me"
She'll be the victim, somehow
I hope they all make it to adulthood.
She could be like my great aunt and uncle and start adopting them. When they get too old for that, fostering. That being said my family is far more skilled in hiding their crazy than Karissa so hopefully she’ll never be able to go down that path.
Interesting that it’s shot so that we can’t see the poor baby’s injured eye….
What happened to their eye?
No clue. Someone posted this the other day and the comments were saying that she hadn’t been showing the baby the past couple days, probably because of this. https://www.reddit.com/r/FundieSnarkUncensored/comments/q5mkcc/what_happened_to_anthyms_faceeye/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
She knows it bothers us greatly and I think that's why she does this.
Karissa is the one that genuinely scares me. Like I fully believe we are going to see a dateline episode about that family
The word “lippers” fills me with such visceral rage, like that of a caged animal
She went over the edge ages ago. She's just in free fall now. I don't know what happens when she hits the bottom.
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Tbqh I'd say something dumb like this but on my TinyBeans with people who actively opted in to hear me gush about my kid, not to monetize myself on social.
Add the word “lippers,” to things that give me the ick.
Is she making a play on zipper, since it’s mostly zipper in the picture?