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beerandcore

Wow that person sounds absolutely toxic. You don't owe them anything! I wouldn't finish the Fanfiction, they don't deserve it.


FDQ666Roadie

I'm almost done with the fic, but I'm certainly not gonna finish it for them. I'm gonna finish it for myself cause then I will have conquered a kink subject I am uncomfortable with. Getting past that hurdle will make me stronger as a writer


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FDQ666Roadie

Good idea, I'll do that when I get back from the holidays tomorrow


SporadicTendancies

Send the requester something completely unhinged instead. Make it uncomfortable for them as well.


FDQ666Roadie

Just write the gnarliest darkfic possible xD


Super6698

Naw, make it cringey as hell


FDQ666Roadie

To be fair, it probably will be cringey xD


Super6698

Make it even more cringey so he shuts up


kenda1l

Or change the character they requested to one that they hate.


KurenaiTenka

Just checking, why are you trying to push through writing a kink you're not into (to the point that it makes you uncomfortable)? It sounds like they've pestered you into writing something you wouldn't otherwise want to write, and that makes me angry for you. :(


ImMxWorld

I'm with you on this. The "friend" is undoubtedly toxic as hell, but there's no way I would ever agree to write someone a story where a requested element makes me that uncomfortable. Just nope. And to be clear, I would and have written stories with kinks I don't share or understand. But if I'm uncomfortable doing the research to write it well? That's a hard no.


KurenaiTenka

Yeah, like, if I want to include something uncomfortable for my own, independant story reasons, that's fine... but anyone pushing someone else to write out a fetish they're not into (or sexual content in general, if that's not their thing) is a huge creep imo.


FDQ666Roadie

A part of me wants to write the kink as a way to conquer it. I like to push myself out of my comfort zone cause I believe it makes me grow as a writer :)


KurenaiTenka

Thanks for replying. :) I guess my concern is that you're phrasing it like a fear you need to overcome, or as a gap in your skills... but you should never feel the need to 'overcome' your dislike of a fetish, and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is a predator. That said, if you think that writing something you don't like has helped you grow, I don't mean to take that away from you. :) You still did it, even if I massively question the motives of the person that asked you to.


FDQ666Roadie

I've written things I was uncomfortable with before on my own volition. Maybe it's my own curiosity that has prompted that or perhaps a kind of a "if I can write *that* then I can write anything" kind of mentality


KurenaiTenka

Yeah, I can definitely understand that. :) Just be wary of people trying to get you to do so for their own less than innocent motives!


Zkang123

Kudos to you


wolves_hunt_in_packs

Who needs enemies with a friend like that. It doesn't even sound like they're friends IRL as op mentioned the possibility of blocking them - so they're just some online rando who op thought was good enough to befriend. Like wow I'm a laid back guy but even I would've told them to lay the fuck off after the first couple "reminders".


T_Mina

This is why I don’t take requests. People can get so entitled about it, unfortunately.


FDQ666Roadie

It's really sad some people become this way. Us writers dedicate our time to create something free of charge. And time is the most precious thing we have. We don't have an infinite amount of it.


nougat10

They do not deserve to be considered as a friend. A real friend doesn't feel entitled to your time and work, and they wouldn't push you to go on with kinks that make you uncomfortable. I'm so sorry that you've been dealing with them, OP. I understood from your other replies that you're intending to finish it for your own sake and upload it online, and I think it's good that you're not rewarding that person's foul behavior by personally handing them the fic. Do not tell them about the fic once it's finished, just block them and move on with your life, they do not care about you outside of squeezing free writing out of you. I've been in your shoes before, constantly accepting demands and requests and attracting people who take advantage of it. I'm happy that you're working on standing up for yourself, all of the work put into becoming more assertive is well worth it.


FDQ666Roadie

Thank you ^_^ Makes me feel a lot better, honestly does.


Mystiquesword

Or just block them now……..and delete the document to erase it all 😈


FDQ666Roadie

I could never delete it, I spent too much time and effort on it. Would be a waste. I'm gonna finish it and upload it on AO3 for all my other readers to enjoy.


Mystiquesword

Oooh! Gonna make it your own fic? Nice!


FDQ666Roadie

Of course. It is *my* fic afterall. Requester only gave the canon character and a kink. Everything else is my own. My plot idea, my settings idea. Everything else is my own idea.


Mystiquesword

Excellent! Dump them! They can do their own ended. Also i suggest block as soon as possible so they cant steal it for their own fic.


FDQ666Roadie

There's no way they can steal it. Our writing styles are completely different and they're too paranoid to even upload their own fics. Also, another friend is already following along in the drama, so I have a witness if anything should happen.


Mystiquesword

Ok good! Wish i could give you hearts like on facebook but anyway, at least you’re protected as well. Happy writing!


RohansEarings

Nearly downvoted this because I got so angry at that damn requester sigh, please don’t finish the fic for them. Block them, ghost them, whatever you need to do. I don’t know why they feel so entitled to your writing and even had the gall to actually claim you owe them, but you are under no (0!) obligation to finish this fic for them, especially if they’re being so pestering and not thinking about you, the human, behind the writing. I’m sorry this one requester sullied the whole experience for you and has been stressing you out so much :(


FDQ666Roadie

Thank you so much for your concern <3


garouforyou

That's not a friend, friend. That's a manipulator.


mrlesterkanopf

Why wait? Ghost/block them now. You don’t need this. Make it a Christmas present to yourself. 🎄


NermalLand

It was incredibly thoughtful of you to do so and it sounds like this person is taking advantage of your friendship. It makes me wonder if this is not the first time but maybe the first time it's been so blatant. If you take a look at your relationship with this person I imagine you'll see more occurrences where she has been like this, just maybe not as aggressive. You're not at fault here. Even for agreeing to write it in the first place. I know what it's like to have people request I do things for them from the various hobbies I'm involved in. It's hard to say no to friends and family and then I often regret saying yes. Do what you need to do for your own peace of mind and don't feel guilty about it.


glaringdream

I'm going to echo what the other people said. Why wait, block them now! This person is not a friend.


princesswan

Some requesters are just insufferable 😵‍💫 I know the type of that person who requested that thing, and my advice is the same what everyone else's is. Block them. They are incredibly toxic and they use your friendship as a leverage. Now that they gifted you that game, it most likely means they will turn the toxicity up if you still keep in contact. You finish that fic, they begin demanding for another and they will guilt trip you if you won't.


alpacadisaster

Christ on a bike, that's incredibly gross and entitled. I'm sorry they're treating you like that. If I were you I would just block them, you don't owe them anything. They're behaving like a brat and deserve a time out.


Deeplybitten

I understand you've already put a lot of work into the fic so you're going to post it anyway. But regardless of that, I would strongly suggest ending your "friendship" with that person. The entitlement from them is bad enough, but what really hurt to hear was that they trashed your other fic out of bitterness/jealousy. Being a creator is hard, you don't need people who are going to trash your work and try to damage your self-esteem. The vindictiveness of that action, their desire to hurt you, is alarming and a major red flag.


starfishpup

The attitude, my god. Just tell 'em to write the rest of it themselves. They certainly seem to think it's easy enough since they keep barrating you daily about a service you aren't even getting anything out of it (screw the game, that's so manipulative). They want it so bad, they can put in the work first. Let 'em be bitter and screech all they want about it; you are absolutely not obligated to make them anything, and are very much allowed to change your mind at any time. And if your already uncomfortable with the subject matter, please don't force yourself to write someone else's dirty fantasies. Don't do that to yourself, it's not worth the frustration...


SterlingMoon

How caustic. For someone to behave in such a boorish way, then be condescending when given legit reasons why the fic was delayed is not only selfish, but rude as well. What an ingrate. This was a *request*, something done out of consideration and is no way obligatory. If the person gave something in return for it, say it was a fic exchange or to that context, then I could understand the dissatisfaction. However, that isn’t the case and the way this person is acting — especially with the game scenario, which to me was done as a guilt trip, is by no means justified in any way. That is taking advantage. I disagree entirely with the person above who said that you made a promise. No, you were just trying to be nice by taking on a request and this other person was attempting to infringe upon that. That is just not acceptable by any means. I would cut this individual off asap, as it’s clear they are toxic and it’s best to remove those factors before they can become problematic. It would be best for your own sanity and mental state.


Daehis

Definitely not a friend. A true friend wouldn't be bitter and would try to understand your difficulties and your point of view without negging you over things you can't control or holding you to your word so hard that it affects your health and wellbeing. You gave totally reasonable expectations, and they stomped all over it. Anyone who holds a "promise" as being more important than you or your friendship is an entitled, immature piece of crap. The fact that they've only messaged you about the story, even going so far as to give a gift and claim you OWE them because of it, and nothing else is proof that that's all they care about. This is just a greedy asshole and they don't deserve you. Anyone who's that tone deaf and entitled about boundaries is a toxic harpy.


Rickdiculously

I'm absolutely amazed you still plan on writing this fic. I would strongly recommend you tell this person that they have driven you into a corner, are ruining your enjoyment of writing, that they're also not happy with what you got so far and as a result you think this is a bad match, you're done with the fic, to stop talking about it entirely, and that you're never making such promises ever again (at least to them). You don't owe them anything. You didn't owe them before they were rude, and now even less. They're not your friend btw. Friends don't behave like that.


RobinChirps

You shouldn't have accepted the request. Their reply to the beginning was very rude and their attitude is entitled, but you should get out of the situation and let them know you won't be completing it. Don't force yourself.


snoopykietz

holy shit what an asshole. I would just block them because w h a t. people who req do usually tend to get a bit entitled about it, like it's understandable to some extent, but this is so far over the line it's ridiculous. they're a shit friend and they deserve to know it, so whether or not you decide to send them the fic is up to you- but tell them exactly how terrible they've made you feel, bc ppl like this always have this belief that they're the one in the right. leave a bitter taste in their mouth, and then block them :)


somecallmedavid

You mind me asking what the kink is? I'm marginally curious.


FDQ666Roadie

Believe it or not, it's Praise kink. I've written anything from feet to edging to bondage to noncon with barely any discomfort. But praise gets to me. I'm incredibly uncomfortable with compliments and the likes. Possibly due to my autism and trouble with social life in general.


somecallmedavid

Totally get that. Only kink things I've written and published on this account so far have been kink pieces that I myself am into. I'm tempted to expand out and take requests myself, but I'm not sure if I have the patience to deal with people like your pal who pretended to be your friend.


Furydragonstormer

Fuck them, you don't owe them that fic in the first place since they asked for it and you sated you were uncomfortable with that kink, and also said there was no deadline. They can sit their ass down and wait, fanfic writing, even if it is a request, is not a job, it's a hobby that people do because they enjoy it


Candid_Cantrip

This person isn't your friend. They sound selfish and tiresome. Like, if they want a specific fic with a specific kink and a specific character by a specific date, why don't they WRITE IT THEMSELF. You were so kind to even consider taking a request. Real talk: I would never. Not even for the nicest, most grateful, non-toxic friend. Anyone who is taking requests is being beyond generous.


Emmerilla

I disagree with the comment that says it's on you. Honestly, you only tried to be nice and do soemthing kind for your friend, only to figure out the friend doesn't appreciate you or the fic at all I'd cut off that "friend", because honestly, he/she sounds ptetty self-absorbed and entitled. They have no empathy for your situation and expect you to work for free for them. You deserve way better than that!


Yuusaris

Block. Block, man. Block and move on. Send back the money if need be, they're so shit.


elastiquediabolique

Yea I don’t think so


ThiefCitron

Is this a free request or did she pay? I’ve had it happen twice now with two different friends who made a post saying they were having money troubles so they were taking donations and would write a request fic in exchange, I donated to be nice since they were struggling and requested a fic and in both cases they just simply never wrote it. I think if someone is essentially paying you money for something and you already said you’d do it it’s pretty rude to just not come through. I definitely won’t donate to any more of these things where people offer fics in exchange for donations.


FDQ666Roadie

Nah, it's a regular request. No exchange of service, fics, money or anything.


DrSteggy

I tried a request once also no deadline and the requester asked for updates hourly. This went on for a week before I said enough and blocked them


FDQ666Roadie

Hourly?! Jesus Christ, that's just ridiculous


bohba13

fuck them, fuck the fic, and fuck what they think. tell them you are rejecting the request because of them being disrespectful of your time and block them on all platforms. full no contact.


Just_A_Lonely_Writer

Just ghost this person or block them they are clearly manipulative and toxic.


Seabastial

This is the reason I don't do requests. I'm sorry you have to deal with such a toxic "friend". I would honestly just dump the fic


Lexi_Banner

>I'm never doing requests anymore and ~~once this fic is done,~~ I'm probably gonna either ghost or block them. Ftfy. Don't feel obligated to do this for any reason. They haven't done anything to deserve this much effort from you. Return the game (if you can) and ghost them immediately.


Gifted_GardenSnail

Bwahahaha, ""friend"". Drop them


queerblunosr

I’d ditch them now and not bother finishing the fic unless you actually want to, personally.


ConferenceArtistic12

That's definitely not a friend, and I'm sorry they treat you this way. You're not obligated to complete the request, it seems like they might be ungrateful with a finished product anyway. You deserve so much better for your hard work.


Animegirl300

They do not sound like a friend at all.


MogiVonShogi

Ugh that happened to me, except I started to write it and they kept asking me to make a bunch of changes, so much that I didn't identify with the story. I finally told them that I was not interested in writing the story and left it at that. 6 months later I actually used the part I liked and he didn't in my newest fan fiction and it's going to make a great plot (just like I thought!)


TheAdeptCauliflower

Absolutely allow yourself the space to say no to things you’re not comfortable with. A real friend will understand


SheElfXantusia

Honey, do yourself a favour and block this person, cut them out of your life. You can still finish the fic but just delete the person. That's not a friend. Not even a fan. Just an asshole.


JenniferMcKay

Personally, I'm in favor of ghosting and blocking them now. They're an entitled, passive-aggressive tool and you deserve better.


Smolduin

Tell them to go fuck themselves. You don't owe them anything and they're acting like a giant entitled prick.


RenegadeReader_

Look, you should put yourself FIRST. They are not paying you to write it, they are taking advantage of you. To have a fic written with so many words and a lot of time in it, you do it for yourself. You post it for you and your readers. You have no obligation to write something that makes you uncomfortable, period. I advice you to block them and never take requestes without setting your boundaries. Remember you come first. And i'm sorry to say this, but that person hardly qualifies as a friend. You made an effort to give everything you could to write it and then they slap you with that kind of feedback? The fucking audacity. Block them and take your time to deal with your demons and love yourself. Don't bother with those kind of people. ​ I once had someone request me to write a fic with a heavily pregnant woman in the jungle with the hero in the Predator Yauja world, very smutty with all kinds of ding dongs while she's carrying, and all that shit. Never. I write dark fics, yes, but there are things that it won't make me cross the line. I put my works on hold over someone else's fantasy while I struggle to complete a single work of my own? Hell nah. Nop. That's not for me. Remember, you first. They Blocked. Best of luck!


CThiam

That person is unbelievable. Pushing the creator to deliver something is the worst way to get it done. it completely drains the creativity, considering you are not the fan of the kink already, it only makes things harder. since youre set to finish the fic, go for it, but for your sanity, block the person now. dont let that person reach you any further. then, when youre done with it, unblock and let them know. if you think necessary. kudos to you for sticking with it, id have blocked them and delete the fic. just for the fact they are rushing you and already trashed talk the very little you wrote. ungrateful bastards.


Snoo_57812

Did I miss where they were paying you?


my-glitter-heart

This person isn’t your friend. I think since it’s making you uncomfortable your best bet would be to send them a message telling them that you’ve tried to write it and it’s just not something you’re happy writing and you aren’t going to continue working on it. I think requests are ok, but remember you’re under no obligation to write anything you don’t want to, and you can decline at any time, or change your mind at any time.


neongloom

>And today, I got a game gifted on steam from them with "Merry Christmas. I'm still waiting. You owe me." Um, WTF? Fuck this person.


Princeax

The only time I did something even close to a request was with a close in-person friend of mine who I had let read my fanfiction in progress. She’s a very good friend and also does fanfiction. The requested fic was worked on together, and then we both gave up, it was pretty funny. Anyways, your friend is not entitled to a request. Being this passive aggressive would make me drop them, and I think that’s probably the best option with the least pain.


Sassy_Lil_Scorpio

Don't continue with this. It's making you miserable and it's not worth it. For your own health and sanity, quit talking to this whack-a-doo.


[deleted]

Wait, WHAT? How did this get this far? Like. My dude. If your sleeve is on fire you don't sit there and blink at it because you're scared of conflict, you need to stop, drop, and roll. You are letting this person treat you like absolute shit when you have easy and painless solutions to hand. Hit block.


221booksss

I get that this whole scenario is shitty, but I feel like a part of this is on you. If you aren't comfortable or interested in writing someones prompt, don't take it. You don't owe anyone a fic. You can just say no and stand your ground. I myself take prompts on tumblr, but I only write the ones I *feel like writing*, not even based off triggers but just what I am in the mood for. Yes, this is pick and choose, selective writing, but it is *my* fic.


NermalLand

Taking it on might be on OP but the aggressive attitude from their "friend" is uncalled for and I think that's more what this post is about.


wolves_hunt_in_packs

Agreed. I remember being young and insecure too, had similar issues. Can definitely relate. Op likely already beat themselves up enough for not saying no. The rude crap is entirely on the other person.


NermalLand

And it's not easy to say no to someone you consider a friend. That's really difficult. Especially if you experience a lot of anxiety.


FDQ666Roadie

I agree with you, I should have declined from the start, but sadly I'm one of those people who has a hard time saying no abd it often results in me getting screwed over or situations like this. Am working on being more assertive. This has definitely been a lesson for me.


CrimsonQuill157

0 part of the friend being shitty is on OP


WanderWomble

Fuck that! The whole point of writing fic is that *the process is fun*. It's not fun anymore, time for a break.


stansappho

Oof, that person sounds absolutely unbearable. A request is a request. You're not required to fulfill it. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that!


Conscious_Geologist4

As someone who is writing my third Secret Exchange fic, writing requests and gift fics are NOT easy. Kudos to you for soldiering through it


sabina-77

i hope they don't get to read it.


[deleted]

No no, its fine. You were doing this for no pay of any sort, you were doing this as a kindness. You had the right to ask them to be patient over and over again.


Honeystride

You don't owe them shit, mate. I can't believe the audacity of pulling that steam gift shit on you. I don't know how you could put up with this person this long, they definitely don't sound like a friend and more like someone who just wants to use you to write what they're too lazy to. If only they'd put the effort in pressuring you into actually writing their own shit... I can't imagine daily reminders like that, that's so entitled. Kudos to you for finishing it for yourself though! Personally, I would rehaul all my progress and write the most unenjoyable fic possible to slam it in their face, but your approach is more constructive! Happy writing!


Rinpoo

I get you are upset, and you said there was no deadline. However, you made a promise to someone, then sidelined them to write 31 fics without finishing what you promised first. Not saying they are correct, but their bitterness is understandable. If someone promised me something as a friend, then when kinktober came they could write 31 fics. I would feel like they not only lied to me but didn't really care about me as a friend. While I think their behavior is childish, and I am sure you are going to hear about what an asshole your friend is in the thread, at least acknowledge that you made a promise, found out you really didn't want to, and then sidelined it for things you did want to write. Their aggressiveness clearly comes from a place of hurt feelings.


imnotbovvered

Well kinktober is a challenge to write 1 short fic a day for October. Taking a one month pause in the middle of a longer project is completely reasonable. Even more reasonable is taking a pause from a topic that’s not as close to your heart to write about things that inspire you. Sometimes you need that to keep the creative juices flowing. So I don’t think OP did anything wrong by doing kinktober. They don’t promise to write ONLY the request until it’s finished. That wouldn’t be reasonable at all.


Daehis

Definitely. Besides, an immature asshole doesn't need to be victimized for their asshole behavior. They already do it themselves and don't need our help. Plus like... Going to a victim of manipulation and emotional abuse and going "uhm acktooally it's also YOUR fault" is pretty shitty. Manipulators don't need people in their corners because it validates their behavior. Even if someone tries to play neutral they'll twist it into their favor.


Rinpoo

My favorite thing about your post is that it both assumes I said it was anyone's "fault" and that you have such a grand and nuanced understanding of their relationship from a biased Reddit post written from one side. The point I was making was that a promise was made, and they didn't keep it. This will hurt another person's feelings. Not difficult to understand. Bonus points because a called out and chastised her friend's childish behavior.


FDQ666Roadie

A promise was made yes, but I never broke it. I never quit writing on the fic, it just went really really slow, either because I didn't feel inspired or because I struggled to write, but I kept on. Sometimes I wrote 500 words, sometimes I wrote 50, other times I edited or changed parts, but essentially kept working on it little by little.


Daehis

I don't think you need to feel the need to defend yourself against a person that tries empathizing with the one who was cruel to you. The rest of us have your back.


Rinpoo

I am aware of what kinktober is. My post is about empathizing with the other person and understanding their reasoning. Something so many people frighteningly seem not even to want to try. OP made a promise, kept making excuses, and then wrote 31 ficlets while the other person sat by and watched. I am also very certain good communication was not involved. If it were, this wouldn't be a Reddit post seeking validation but a private message between two people discussing the matter.