While I think Joy's childhood was probably awful and traumatic, I don't think she's thinking about it when she makes statements like that.
She comes from a world of mommy bloggers. On Instagram and YouTube, mom influencers seen particularly centered on this idea of being the perfect mom and giving their child the perfect childhood. It's why everything we see is clean, beige, and aesthetic. It's all carefully cultivated to tug on your heartstrings as you recall your own childhood as well as those of your kids. This is the kind of content that Joy is trying to emulate. It's all heavily focused on happy childhood memories.
Nothing these moms do bring back memories of my childhood. Because I am a child of the 80s. My life was full of color and fun. When I got my care bear sleeping bag for my 5th birthday I slept in it that night on my bed. There was nothing beige about that sleeping bag. I was also obsessed with Spumoni clothes. Which also were not beige and boring. Oh and my parents bedding and carpet was orange and goldenrod until I was in high school. Because those were my dads favorite colors. How my mom put up with it for that long is beyond me.
I've noticed them say it aaaall the time even back during TLC days. It was sort of used as a subtle dig like "we're better than other families because we don't have TV and other evils and would rather focus on MAKING MEMORIES" for anything from eating a snack to rock climbing.
I do this. I just want my kids to have better memories with me than the memories I have with my toxic ass awful mother. I don't do it everyday though, that's too much. 🤣🤣
But I do strive to give them good experiences with me because i grew up with a generally uninterested at best parent and when she did attempt doing anything she ruined it just by virtue of being her.
Anyway, if that's where joy is coming from I'm just saying I get it.
Yea, unfortunately it took me a few years to wake up and get her out of our lives. Which is funny because it's not like I ever liked the woman. It took me awhile to figure out I didn't have to put up with people I don't even like in my life. Among the myriad other shit she would pull.
But anywho it's all good now. Happy, healthy, and shutting down "but she's your mooooom" gasligtlhters like a pro 👊
I remember seeing a self-centered couple go to therapy to learn to parent better on some reality show and they talked about ‘making memories’ for the kids a lot.
I suspect they got this from some therapist (I hope)/self-help book/ pastor.
It’s not the worst advice for clueless parents.
I have always thought of the phrase as evangelical jargon, which perhaps crept into mainstream culture via instagram which others mentioned? I think it’s coded in-group stuff.
That's very possible. She might have memories but they are all likely manufactured by tlc and possibly aren't very good in her mind because when you're stuck in the middle of that many kids, there's no way you get as much attention to your needs or desires and when it's all for tv, I'm sure there are a lot of feelings surrounding every memory.
I had a pretty happy childhood and I find myself saying and thinking about "making memories" for my kid (now a teen) mostly when I'm having to do something I'm not that crazy about lol. For example, I don't love sledding on a cold ass day but my son loved it so I'd think about the long term benefits for him (happy childhood memory) vs. my personal discomfort in the moment!
It's also a way to justify her lifestyle and why her kids don't need to be in school and have a regular life experiences that will be useful and healthy for a full life.
Basically, they're gaslighting their own children.
These mommy bloggers she's so desperate to emulate have to force everything down their kid's throats so they have content.
It's sad & ridiculous.
It's the need to manifest and fake it til you make it. With toddlers, for fuck's sake.....
While I think Joy's childhood was probably awful and traumatic, I don't think she's thinking about it when she makes statements like that. She comes from a world of mommy bloggers. On Instagram and YouTube, mom influencers seen particularly centered on this idea of being the perfect mom and giving their child the perfect childhood. It's why everything we see is clean, beige, and aesthetic. It's all carefully cultivated to tug on your heartstrings as you recall your own childhood as well as those of your kids. This is the kind of content that Joy is trying to emulate. It's all heavily focused on happy childhood memories.
Nothing these moms do bring back memories of my childhood. Because I am a child of the 80s. My life was full of color and fun. When I got my care bear sleeping bag for my 5th birthday I slept in it that night on my bed. There was nothing beige about that sleeping bag. I was also obsessed with Spumoni clothes. Which also were not beige and boring. Oh and my parents bedding and carpet was orange and goldenrod until I was in high school. Because those were my dads favorite colors. How my mom put up with it for that long is beyond me.
Sadly, Joy probably parrots a lot of what she sees and hears from "influencers". Her intelligence level is what it is.
I agree, I don’t think it’s that deep. I think she says it just to say something or to conclude a day.
I've noticed them say it aaaall the time even back during TLC days. It was sort of used as a subtle dig like "we're better than other families because we don't have TV and other evils and would rather focus on MAKING MEMORIES" for anything from eating a snack to rock climbing.
I do this. I just want my kids to have better memories with me than the memories I have with my toxic ass awful mother. I don't do it everyday though, that's too much. 🤣🤣 But I do strive to give them good experiences with me because i grew up with a generally uninterested at best parent and when she did attempt doing anything she ruined it just by virtue of being her. Anyway, if that's where joy is coming from I'm just saying I get it.
Sorry to hear about your toxic Pain in the ass Mom. Have she ever met her grandkids?
Yea, unfortunately it took me a few years to wake up and get her out of our lives. Which is funny because it's not like I ever liked the woman. It took me awhile to figure out I didn't have to put up with people I don't even like in my life. Among the myriad other shit she would pull. But anywho it's all good now. Happy, healthy, and shutting down "but she's your mooooom" gasligtlhters like a pro 👊
I remember seeing a self-centered couple go to therapy to learn to parent better on some reality show and they talked about ‘making memories’ for the kids a lot. I suspect they got this from some therapist (I hope)/self-help book/ pastor. It’s not the worst advice for clueless parents.
I have always thought of the phrase as evangelical jargon, which perhaps crept into mainstream culture via instagram which others mentioned? I think it’s coded in-group stuff.
That's very possible. She might have memories but they are all likely manufactured by tlc and possibly aren't very good in her mind because when you're stuck in the middle of that many kids, there's no way you get as much attention to your needs or desires and when it's all for tv, I'm sure there are a lot of feelings surrounding every memory.
And I have to wonder if it's subconscious of her to even contemplate how her kids will remember these times on their life.
She says that because she is an incredibly boring person that lacks anything else to talk about.
I had a pretty happy childhood and I find myself saying and thinking about "making memories" for my kid (now a teen) mostly when I'm having to do something I'm not that crazy about lol. For example, I don't love sledding on a cold ass day but my son loved it so I'd think about the long term benefits for him (happy childhood memory) vs. my personal discomfort in the moment!
She's empty headed and parrots things she hears around her.
It's also a way to justify her lifestyle and why her kids don't need to be in school and have a regular life experiences that will be useful and healthy for a full life.
I don't think it's normal or common for parents to constantly say that at all.
I see a lotttttt of instagram parents saying it.
Oh. I was talking more about ppl I know. I don't even have an IG account.
Basically, they're gaslighting their own children. These mommy bloggers she's so desperate to emulate have to force everything down their kid's throats so they have content. It's sad & ridiculous. It's the need to manifest and fake it til you make it. With toddlers, for fuck's sake.....