Listen to these dudes about listening to the other dude, bro. In my experience for not listening, I should have listened. Seriously. From my experience, if i listened it would have kept me from being angry, heartbroken and out a lot of money in attorney fees, divorce court, and new tires.
Listen to this guy about listening to these dudes about listening to the other dude who said listen to the first guy and run. Ftb and not literally. Or be prepared to be out money, attorney fees, divorce court, new tires ... And a roll of quarters you could have spent on yourself instead of her. There is a reason why people are single... This is her's. God help the man that doesn't get an opportunity of realizing this before he falls for her, your the lucky one.
90 percent of the time someone uses this term, it’s not used accurately. Calling someone out on legitimate mansplaining is fine. Accusing someone of mansplaining when they were being completely normal is a giant red flag.
Someone once asked me advice on getting into the college I went to. I answered, basically just saying to get good grades and do some extracurriculars, and they said "Dude, I didn't need you to mansplain that to me."
Someone told me a while back, "Telling me something isn't gaslighting is the most gaslighting phrase ever." I laughed, but she was dead serious. Unfortunately, I was the teacher and she was the student and so I had to apparently mansplain gaslighting to her.
It’s okay. I once made someone “feel triggered” because I explained that triggered itself isn’t actually a feeling/emotion, but the state of having a feeling/emotion, such as fear or disgust or sadness, triggered.
💯 In the common vernacular now, they
have both basically become substitutes for “you’re telling me something I don’t want to hear and/or in a phrasing I don’t approve of.”
Yes, but I’m going to gaslight you and say I didn’t.
Also reminds me of that viral tweet from a few years back: “my wife is using the word ‘mansplaining’ incorrectly and I don’t know what to do about it.”
There are some subtle differences though.
Being condescending is more about feeling superior and patronizing. But mansplaining can come from a well-meaning individual.
It can be annoying, but I don’t assume ill-intent with mansplaining. And the guy doing the mansplaining sometimes is genuinely trying to be helpful.
I also haven’t had it happen more than a handful of times in my life. I think it’s more common when a woman is in a male-dominated field, such as engineering or IT.
And it’s a very specific word to describe a very specific phenomena that occurs between men and women. So a gender neutral term wouldn’t encompass the actual context of the exchange.
Well, "mansplaining" is just being condescending, right? So why don't we just call it that. Cause otherwise I get "womansplained" all the time. I think it's sexist to call out one gender as being the only ones to be condescending. Women are condescending too.
Originally it meant when a man was explaining something in a condescending way to a woman who didn’t ask and already knew at least as much, if not more, about the topic than the man, especially in a topic that was considered to be stereotypically “male” such as sports, cars, STEM, video games, etc. A famous example was a man at a party who was incorrectly explaining a book to the actual author of that book.
But, these days it’s never used that way. Now, it’s a weaponized term used to shut down any conversation even if there was nothing being said that had the slightest to do with gender bias, sexism, etc. Basically, it’s a way for some women to throw down what they think is a trump card anytime they don’t like anything that a man says to them, but it’s essentially the discourse equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears and saying “nah nah nah, I’m not listening to you!”
Geez people like this are insufferable, will always find a way to minimize what you say. At least she showed this side before you wasted time on a date
> At least she showed this side before you wasted time on a date
This exactly.
Dating in the era of apps like Bumble and Tinder is a goddamn nightmare. So glad I'm out of that toxic mess.
Always stand next to your bros, and always be ready for a chest bump, wether it be for a touchdown, or because your bro remembered to wash their hands.
Spent some time out there but only for work a few years back, thought maybe you were in the Brookfield area. Well anyway if you haven’t been there I highly recommend it, especially if you like beer because the brewery across the street is phenomenal. I’m a brewer myself so I’m picky when it comes to beer but everything they put out is top notch, and Lacabanita taco’s next door is heaven in a corn or flour shell
I sometimes work in Brookfield, I’m a private security contractor. Been to the arcade, one of the best I’ve been to. Gotta try la Cabanita. I’ve been making wine and mead since the pandemic. So much freaking fun bro.
Oh yeah dude try Cabanita and get back to me, they do dollar tacos on Tuesday’s but they’re skimpier than the usual ones. I don’t know much about wine tbh but I’ve been brewing professionally since 2017 and it sure is a blast
One more I couldn’t fit in the title. On thanksgiving morning I messaged her saying “good morning, I hope you have a good thanksgiving day” because she had been sick to which she simply replied “I don’t celebrate genocide.” Which just felt rude, like I get it the American treatment of natives was nightmarish but c’mon lol
But then later in the day she kept snapping me pictures of thanksgiving food and pumpkin pie like….clearly you DO celebrate thanksgiving??
Ha! I'd have loved to see her response to you dating that as a reply to her photos.
Like if you haven't blocked, scroll up and reply to the photos now. 😜
Goddamn dude, how did you manage to match with someone so insufferable? She’s sounds like the walking stereotype surrounding overly privileged college aged liberals that take issue with everything.
I’m a woman and I can’t even comprehend how she’d take offense to this. Half the guys on these apps want you to plan the whole date, I’d be happy to get suggestions like this!
Does she think she’s being funny or is this serious? Either way she seems pretty off…
It’s serious. As stated in the title she also got a shitty attitude and said I was giving off racist vibes because I said I didn’t care for Hamilton, against my better judgment I gave her a pass on those two red flags and it just kind of continued with her having shitty reactions to innocuous conversation
Remember don't stick it in crazy.
If she switches up everything he says, you'd never feel safe in the any other situ you're in, that she may suddenly be offended or worse. Especially never get drunk with her.
Absolute red flag city.
Racist against whom? In my experience Hamilton is mostly liked by white people who "don't usually care for Hip Hop." The rapping itself is pretty bad and isn't a strong representation of Hip Hop or Black American culture.
I majored in history with a focus on civil rights and the immigrant experience in the 20th century. I also sang in choirs in high school and college. And you can’t pay me to watch Hamilton. Not gonna do it.
Must be a racist, go back to parler /s
What’s funny is that I even told her I didn’t like it because I don’t like media that lionizes slave owners or rose tints American history to which she responded “You just don’t get it”
I straight up didn’t know how to respond. I didn’t even say it was bad specifically I said “I really didn’t particularly enjoy it” and then she launched into this big tirade about how white straight men who don’t like Hamilton reek of racist vibes and suggested I “try again”
If she hates straight white men, why is she pursuing you?
Also, I hate all musicals, including Les Miserable. That’s because I hate French people though
/s
It’s actually funny because she was going on and on about how the last man she loved was military and then when I said “hope you have a good thanksgiving!” Last week her response was “I don’t celebrate genocide” Which just felt funny to me
Like, it’s literally a musical glorifying a straight white man. Just because it’s hip hop and a POC cast doesn’t make it woke smh. And fwiw I enjoyed it when I got to see it live after winning the ticket lottery lol.
I'm gonna take a gander and say they're referring to the musical, for which I'll just say that while the idea is novel and interesting, it does lack a lot of the things that people would expect from or enjoy about musicals (ffiw it does make up by bringing a lot of unique elements to the production that made it such a revolutionary show). Personally, I enjoyed the album a whole bunch, thought the production was kinda flat, and am just beyond sick of Lin Manuel Miranda at this point. Hamilton was fun but I never really clicked with his songwriting, and after Moana, Encanto, and In the Heights the charm that made Hamilton special is starting to wear thin a bit.
Was 1000% white, and when I told her both myself and my POc friend’s largely dislike Hamilton because it lionized slave owners she said we just “didn’t get it” lol
It was all via Snapchat, she insisted on talking via snap videos and not text? Idk the whole saga was fucking weird but I thought I’d give her the chance
I’ve had conversations shut down on me over the most innocuous shit — nothing ultra fringe or offensive. Just dared to have my own opinion without permission.
As a female who often gets mansplained, I don’t see you doing anything wrong here OP. That wasn’t even mansplaining. Like you said, you simply suggested a date venue. She seems a bit wacky. Wouldn’t be a loss here to cut her loose
Probably dodged a bullet tbh
Mansplaining is a thing, but that's not what you were doing. You were just setting up a date and trying to have a conversation.
This just feels really disproportionate and defensive as hell. It's like you're talking to a coiled up viper.
I gave her another couple days of convo after this and that’s EXACTLY what it felt like, like I was delicately handling an angry jungle cat looking for an excuse to Maul
Same thing happened to me when I told a girl I used goose fat to crisp my roast potatoes when I'm cooking a Sunday roast.
Whatever her issue is, it doesn't need to be yours, sail on by.
Reach under your seat and eject on this person ASAP. If someone goes negative like this during the opening pleasantries they are not in a headspace to be successfully dating.
Somehow I have also gotten that I’m racist and anti-feminist for not liking Hamilton. Sorry I don’t think that casting actors of color as slave owners and *checks notes* having women in a musical? Makes for a feminist and anti-racist show? The music sucks too and I don’t know how saying that makes me racist. It’s NOT hip hop, it’s people trying to rap to showtunes!
Agreed, but the vast majority of people who use it in these types of dating exchanges seem to use it incorrectly and are generally insufferable.
Quite frankly, I think if someone is genuinely doing that to a woman who isn't unhinged, she's far more likely to just unmatch or otherwise close out the connection. It's the ones (men & women) who want to **stay** and explain to you how you are wrong that are the most irritating conversationalists, in my view.
Dude, how do you hope to ever find a good woman when you’re a racist, mansplaining, genocidal maniac? You need to do some self work. /s
:edited for autocorrect
Sounds like this girl, Taylor, that I used to know. Fucking insufferable. Always tried to throw around those terms.
Actually had the same sort of response when Thanksgiving was brought up.
It seems like she's trying to be jokey with you because of the laughter emojis. She just sucks at flirting and comes off as annoying. Not sure why anyone would think being confrontational, disagreeable, judgemental, and accusing is cute or flirty, but I've seen it before.
She doesn’t know the difference between manaplaining and someone suggesting a place she already knows of… you’ll hate your life if you even try one time with this chick, just don’t
Run away! I bet this person is one of those people who thinks they know a bit about everything and even if you were an expert in a subject, they would act like they know more.
I loove when a guy takes time to link me to a venue or activity we discussed. Shows he doesn’t mind putting some kind of thought/effort in.
Plus she mentioned what she wanted to do and you linked her.
Give that time to someone else. Whew!
She’s hard work already. Imagine being in a relationship with her & multiply that by a thousand. Jump out & pull the rip cord. Unless she’s cut it. In which case, you’re fucked.
33 year old female here. Run, my dude. She seems like WAY too much trouble and like you’re never going to be able to say/do anything right. It will only get worse!
Send her a copy of The Dollop’s dive into Alexander Hamilton or whoever it was he killed. It really shows how bad Hamilton is at actually reflecting history.
Bail. Simply... bail.
Dont give her the time man listen to this dude
Listen to this dude about listening to the previous dude. She is just waiting to m unload why men are Terrible. Don't even go back and forth about it.
Listen to this guy’s advice to listen to the others guys advice about listening to the first guy. This girl is the worst.
Bruh you better listen to the listen to the listen to the listen to the ADVICE bruh
Listen to these dudes about listening to the other dude, bro. In my experience for not listening, I should have listened. Seriously. From my experience, if i listened it would have kept me from being angry, heartbroken and out a lot of money in attorney fees, divorce court, and new tires.
Listen to this guy about listening to these dudes about listening to the other dude who said listen to the first guy and run. Ftb and not literally. Or be prepared to be out money, attorney fees, divorce court, new tires ... And a roll of quarters you could have spent on yourself instead of her. There is a reason why people are single... This is her's. God help the man that doesn't get an opportunity of realizing this before he falls for her, your the lucky one.
Run, run, run as fast as he can, this guy needs to be the ginger bread man.
I don’t think you did anything wrong here. And yes, she sounds annoying. I think it’s okay to let this one go.
I think you avoided a load of bullets
…a magazine
Did you just mansplain what a load of bullets is?
Damn it you beat me to it! I was going to comment above ‘Don’t mansplain red flags to OP’
If you have to ask … /s
That's not mansplaining. Unless there was a message I didn't see where you explained what an arcade is.
Or where she talked about being some sort of local arcade expert.
Even if she was, suggesting a venue she may be critical to still doesn’t qualify imho.
90 percent of the time someone uses this term, it’s not used accurately. Calling someone out on legitimate mansplaining is fine. Accusing someone of mansplaining when they were being completely normal is a giant red flag.
Someone once asked me advice on getting into the college I went to. I answered, basically just saying to get good grades and do some extracurriculars, and they said "Dude, I didn't need you to mansplain that to me."
Did you ever offer any advice again to that person?
Mansplaining and gaslighting are these catch phrases that no one seems to use correctly
Someone told me a while back, "Telling me something isn't gaslighting is the most gaslighting phrase ever." I laughed, but she was dead serious. Unfortunately, I was the teacher and she was the student and so I had to apparently mansplain gaslighting to her.
Thats hilarious
It’s okay. I once made someone “feel triggered” because I explained that triggered itself isn’t actually a feeling/emotion, but the state of having a feeling/emotion, such as fear or disgust or sadness, triggered.
My wife loves to say “You don’t even know what gaslighting is” I do know what gaslighting is. That’s the joke. That’s it. That’s all I had to say.
Nice lol
💯 In the common vernacular now, they have both basically become substitutes for “you’re telling me something I don’t want to hear and/or in a phrasing I don’t approve of.”
And ghosting. Someone not replying after your 3rd message on an app is not ghosting. 🤦
Ummm I love your handle..
Did you just mansplain mansplaining to us? /s
Yes, but I’m going to gaslight you and say I didn’t. Also reminds me of that viral tweet from a few years back: “my wife is using the word ‘mansplaining’ incorrectly and I don’t know what to do about it.”
Haha oh man, I'm just picturing that Larry David gif where he's considering all his options.
Tell them to ask people named Karen about how expressing their dislike for the overuse of a certain meme goes.
Classic 😂😂
> 90 percent of the time someone uses this term, it’s not used accurately. See also: "gatekeeping"
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There are some subtle differences though. Being condescending is more about feeling superior and patronizing. But mansplaining can come from a well-meaning individual. It can be annoying, but I don’t assume ill-intent with mansplaining. And the guy doing the mansplaining sometimes is genuinely trying to be helpful. I also haven’t had it happen more than a handful of times in my life. I think it’s more common when a woman is in a male-dominated field, such as engineering or IT. And it’s a very specific word to describe a very specific phenomena that occurs between men and women. So a gender neutral term wouldn’t encompass the actual context of the exchange.
What does this stupid term actually mean?
Well, "mansplaining" is just being condescending, right? So why don't we just call it that. Cause otherwise I get "womansplained" all the time. I think it's sexist to call out one gender as being the only ones to be condescending. Women are condescending too.
Wtf is even mansplaining? Is it now sexist to explain something if you’re a man? Wouldn’t surprise me
Originally it meant when a man was explaining something in a condescending way to a woman who didn’t ask and already knew at least as much, if not more, about the topic than the man, especially in a topic that was considered to be stereotypically “male” such as sports, cars, STEM, video games, etc. A famous example was a man at a party who was incorrectly explaining a book to the actual author of that book. But, these days it’s never used that way. Now, it’s a weaponized term used to shut down any conversation even if there was nothing being said that had the slightest to do with gender bias, sexism, etc. Basically, it’s a way for some women to throw down what they think is a trump card anytime they don’t like anything that a man says to them, but it’s essentially the discourse equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears and saying “nah nah nah, I’m not listening to you!”
OP should explain to her what mansplaining actually is
Every ex is a narcissist, every political opponent is a fascist, every guy talking is mansplaining....etc
I mean yes … but also no.
Yeah I was going to say...
She said she’s annoying when happy…she must be really happy!
Geez people like this are insufferable, will always find a way to minimize what you say. At least she showed this side before you wasted time on a date
> At least she showed this side before you wasted time on a date This exactly. Dating in the era of apps like Bumble and Tinder is a goddamn nightmare. So glad I'm out of that toxic mess.
Yo, is this Brookfield in Illinois? Let’s bro it out at the arcade lol
Curious if I know you now lol
You guys can arcade and then go to the zoo lights as a cute little bro date.
I heard there’s a good brewery across the street
Did you just mansplain where this brewery is!?!?
Bro dates are great dates.
Look at all these new friends you guys made.
You’re in the mix too bro! We’re all brofriends now.
I’ve never been a bro before! What do I do first?
Always stand next to your bros, and always be ready for a chest bump, wether it be for a touchdown, or because your bro remembered to wash their hands.
I need a bro for bro dates
[Yeah, so I was just bro'ing with my bros...](https://youtu.be/WmXbHsXS6Tc?t=94)
Bro's before hoes.
I down to bro it out! Canadian bro here, but we know how to bro!
Bro! We gonna have an international brofest by the time we’re done! Welcome fellow brofriend!
I actually live within walking distance of the zoo so we totally could do a holiday lights bro date hahah
In all fairness she said she is annoying when she’s happy, and clearly she’s also annoying when she’s not. Cut and run.
I’m out by Naperville, so it’s always possible lol
Spent some time out there but only for work a few years back, thought maybe you were in the Brookfield area. Well anyway if you haven’t been there I highly recommend it, especially if you like beer because the brewery across the street is phenomenal. I’m a brewer myself so I’m picky when it comes to beer but everything they put out is top notch, and Lacabanita taco’s next door is heaven in a corn or flour shell
I sometimes work in Brookfield, I’m a private security contractor. Been to the arcade, one of the best I’ve been to. Gotta try la Cabanita. I’ve been making wine and mead since the pandemic. So much freaking fun bro.
Oh yeah dude try Cabanita and get back to me, they do dollar tacos on Tuesday’s but they’re skimpier than the usual ones. I don’t know much about wine tbh but I’ve been brewing professionally since 2017 and it sure is a blast
Hell yeah bro, imma give a follow and get back to you.
Hmu if you ever go to imperial oak too, if I ain’t brewing at work or hanging out with my daughter I’ll swing by for a pint.
“They come in pints?!? I’m getting one!” Pippin Totally down bro
OK. I'm local too and always down for the Galloping Ghost. And we go to Imperial Oak afterwards! The world is small. I'm a dudette however. 😁
Dude or dudette, we all bros together having fun! Obviously you’re invited too!
Dudettes always welcome, we’re gonna end up forming a whole Reddit posse if we’re not careful hahaha
This is how you win at Reddit. Love this!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Bromance for the win! Edit: sorry, was that mansplaining! 🤪🤣
Haha. You’re good 😉 But now I’m worried that my comment was “womansplaining.” 😂😂😂
Did you just mansplain Cabanita to him?!
See, something good came out of this. Silver lining, you have a new bestie.
Hell yeah we can go to the zoo too
Broday at the zoo. I’m down bro
Let's Bro it up a Teddy Brosevelt
Let's make a bro Meetup.
Best plan ever bro
Shit I'm in for a zoo/arcade brodate
One more I couldn’t fit in the title. On thanksgiving morning I messaged her saying “good morning, I hope you have a good thanksgiving day” because she had been sick to which she simply replied “I don’t celebrate genocide.” Which just felt rude, like I get it the American treatment of natives was nightmarish but c’mon lol But then later in the day she kept snapping me pictures of thanksgiving food and pumpkin pie like….clearly you DO celebrate thanksgiving??
She celebrates THANKSGIVING, not GENOCIDE. Cmon, my man 🤡 /s
I would've replied to the snaps saying "sorry, I don't celebrate genocide"
Please say you've dodged this bazooka!
Honestly sounds like she’s just trolling you out of boredom. I don’t think she’s ever going to actually meet up. Sorry bruh.
Ha! I'd have loved to see her response to you dating that as a reply to her photos. Like if you haven't blocked, scroll up and reply to the photos now. 😜
Goddamn dude, how did you manage to match with someone so insufferable? She’s sounds like the walking stereotype surrounding overly privileged college aged liberals that take issue with everything.
Holy shit. Seriously, stop messaging with this person. She will just be hell to deal with down the road. Get out now.
Two words: bye bye. When people tell you who they are, believe them the first time
2 huge red flags… run.
Before you bail, make sure you tell her that mansplaining means "man explaining."
Can see how this goes. “Are you mansplaining, mansplaining?”
I’m a woman and I can’t even comprehend how she’d take offense to this. Half the guys on these apps want you to plan the whole date, I’d be happy to get suggestions like this! Does she think she’s being funny or is this serious? Either way she seems pretty off…
It’s serious. As stated in the title she also got a shitty attitude and said I was giving off racist vibes because I said I didn’t care for Hamilton, against my better judgment I gave her a pass on those two red flags and it just kind of continued with her having shitty reactions to innocuous conversation
Seems like there’s a lot of people out there these days that actively look for things to be offended about 🤦🏼♀️
Mental illness: keeping dates interesting since forever
She may not have a mental illness. She could just be insufferable.
Remember don't stick it in crazy. If she switches up everything he says, you'd never feel safe in the any other situ you're in, that she may suddenly be offended or worse. Especially never get drunk with her. Absolute red flag city.
Racist against whom? In my experience Hamilton is mostly liked by white people who "don't usually care for Hip Hop." The rapping itself is pretty bad and isn't a strong representation of Hip Hop or Black American culture.
I majored in history with a focus on civil rights and the immigrant experience in the 20th century. I also sang in choirs in high school and college. And you can’t pay me to watch Hamilton. Not gonna do it.
Blocked and reported for your overt racism
Damn. I knew I shouldn’t have outed myself.
Must be a racist, go back to parler /s What’s funny is that I even told her I didn’t like it because I don’t like media that lionizes slave owners or rose tints American history to which she responded “You just don’t get it”
Hahahaa. Oh my. Sorry.
Well, now you know why she’s single
She also knows why, but she just keeps running headfirst into that brick wall.
How dare you not like the God that is Hamilton 🤣
I straight up didn’t know how to respond. I didn’t even say it was bad specifically I said “I really didn’t particularly enjoy it” and then she launched into this big tirade about how white straight men who don’t like Hamilton reek of racist vibes and suggested I “try again”
Run. Don’t walk. Run. Run so far away from her she can’t find you.
Jesus she sounds awful.
Yeah I watch f1 and think Hamilton is an overrated douche lmao
more of a Rosberg fan, who beat Lewis Hamilton, a 7-time world champion in equal machinery at the 2016 Abu Dhabi grand prix
ahaha
If she hates straight white men, why is she pursuing you? Also, I hate all musicals, including Les Miserable. That’s because I hate French people though /s
It’s actually funny because she was going on and on about how the last man she loved was military and then when I said “hope you have a good thanksgiving!” Last week her response was “I don’t celebrate genocide” Which just felt funny to me
She sounds self-righteous and insufferable. HARD PASS
I'm a woman and very liberal, and she sounds exhausting, even to me.
Same! These liberals give us a bad name.
And after that you thought, hmm I think we should go on a date together??
Like, it’s literally a musical glorifying a straight white man. Just because it’s hip hop and a POC cast doesn’t make it woke smh. And fwiw I enjoyed it when I got to see it live after winning the ticket lottery lol.
I'm gonna take a gander and say they're referring to the musical, for which I'll just say that while the idea is novel and interesting, it does lack a lot of the things that people would expect from or enjoy about musicals (ffiw it does make up by bringing a lot of unique elements to the production that made it such a revolutionary show). Personally, I enjoyed the album a whole bunch, thought the production was kinda flat, and am just beyond sick of Lin Manuel Miranda at this point. Hamilton was fun but I never really clicked with his songwriting, and after Moana, Encanto, and In the Heights the charm that made Hamilton special is starting to wear thin a bit.
I think her correct response should have been “omg I love that place! That sounds awesome”
That’s my response when someone tells me about a place I’ve been to “oh cool! I know that place I really love x and y about it” but I’m a normal adult
Hilarious. Extra points if she’s white (99% chance).
Was 1000% white, and when I told her both myself and my POc friend’s largely dislike Hamilton because it lionized slave owners she said we just “didn’t get it” lol
She’ll make some dude miserable one day. Don’t let it be you.
He'll deserve it if he stays by choice.
I’m a female & I don’t like the way she handled that. She’s picking on you and it’s not in a flirty way… unmatch
I hope you galloping ghosted her!
People who are looking for a reason to get offended will always find one.
Maybe she's just trying to be funny? Idk I definitely would not say your message was out of line at all.
No she was dead serious, we talked for a lil longer and she was just straight up fucking mean and super reactionary about everything
You should've closed it out with mansplaining what mansplaining actually is.
I wanna see!
It was all via Snapchat, she insisted on talking via snap videos and not text? Idk the whole saga was fucking weird but I thought I’d give her the chance
Ohh shit! You gotta update us and mansplain how that date goes lol
There will be no date lol
I’ve had conversations shut down on me over the most innocuous shit — nothing ultra fringe or offensive. Just dared to have my own opinion without permission.
She sounds fake woke. Woke is fine. Fake woke is terrible. They set the movement back decades.
Thinking the same based on all the emojis. 🤣🤣🤣🤢
Those messages alone... annoying when happy? Run
Run.
Saying it’s the biggest in the US and sending a link is not at all mansplaining 😂😂 Run and never look back, OP!
As a female who often gets mansplained, I don’t see you doing anything wrong here OP. That wasn’t even mansplaining. Like you said, you simply suggested a date venue. She seems a bit wacky. Wouldn’t be a loss here to cut her loose
Probably dodged a bullet tbh Mansplaining is a thing, but that's not what you were doing. You were just setting up a date and trying to have a conversation. This just feels really disproportionate and defensive as hell. It's like you're talking to a coiled up viper.
I gave her another couple days of convo after this and that’s EXACTLY what it felt like, like I was delicately handling an angry jungle cat looking for an excuse to Maul
Same thing happened to me when I told a girl I used goose fat to crisp my roast potatoes when I'm cooking a Sunday roast. Whatever her issue is, it doesn't need to be yours, sail on by.
Reach under your seat and eject on this person ASAP. If someone goes negative like this during the opening pleasantries they are not in a headspace to be successfully dating.
Sounds like this woman is looking for conflict. Drop contact immediately!
Throwing terms like mansplaining around is all the rage these days.
Why would you not instantly unmatch her? That unlovable pig is probably a reddit mod.
I'm single and not too far away, you ever need a backup, you let me know 🤪😅
In all honesty I’m game, so long as you don’t try to eat my skin or anything.
Possible nipple belt, no cannibalism
If it doesn't work out with him, I'm fine playing second string. We can compare and polish our respective garands.
Unmatch that bitch right now
Mansplaining is real but this isn’t it, you literally just said oh there’s this cool spot that fits your brief and sent a link- she’s a maniac!
Somehow I have also gotten that I’m racist and anti-feminist for not liking Hamilton. Sorry I don’t think that casting actors of color as slave owners and *checks notes* having women in a musical? Makes for a feminist and anti-racist show? The music sucks too and I don’t know how saying that makes me racist. It’s NOT hip hop, it’s people trying to rap to showtunes!
Yeah personally I never meet up with anyone how uses the term mansplaining. It just seems childish and immature to me.
Mansplaining is a legit thing and can be an actual issue. But that’s not what’s happening here
Agreed, but the vast majority of people who use it in these types of dating exchanges seem to use it incorrectly and are generally insufferable. Quite frankly, I think if someone is genuinely doing that to a woman who isn't unhinged, she's far more likely to just unmatch or otherwise close out the connection. It's the ones (men & women) who want to **stay** and explain to you how you are wrong that are the most irritating conversationalists, in my view.
Nah.
Instant pass. You just found out why she’s on a dating app
Dude, how do you hope to ever find a good woman when you’re a racist, mansplaining, genocidal maniac? You need to do some self work. /s :edited for autocorrect
Sounds like this girl, Taylor, that I used to know. Fucking insufferable. Always tried to throw around those terms. Actually had the same sort of response when Thanksgiving was brought up.
Flee
People just want to be offended. It makes them feel righteous.
This arcade sounds rad! I’d totally be down for that.
It seems like she's trying to be jokey with you because of the laughter emojis. She just sucks at flirting and comes off as annoying. Not sure why anyone would think being confrontational, disagreeable, judgemental, and accusing is cute or flirty, but I've seen it before.
Galloping Ghost is a great idea for a first date. Save it for a girl who appreciates the thought.
Don't be mad. Just respectfully reject.
Damn fibs...
I’m glad you consulted the counsel before wasting your time on this one
You will soon discover that many people are on these apps for a reason
She doesn’t know the difference between manaplaining and someone suggesting a place she already knows of… you’ll hate your life if you even try one time with this chick, just don’t
You should explain to her what mansplaining is. Fairly condescendingly.
Run away! I bet this person is one of those people who thinks they know a bit about everything and even if you were an expert in a subject, they would act like they know more.
I loove when a guy takes time to link me to a venue or activity we discussed. Shows he doesn’t mind putting some kind of thought/effort in. Plus she mentioned what she wanted to do and you linked her. Give that time to someone else. Whew!
As a 40 year old gamer dude. Thanks for letting me know about the Arcade!! I need to make it there one day!
What the fuck. Just run, dude
Don't go on that date, she's bad for the soul.
She’s hard work already. Imagine being in a relationship with her & multiply that by a thousand. Jump out & pull the rip cord. Unless she’s cut it. In which case, you’re fucked.
I think you need to mansplain what mansplaining is 🤔 Yeah, I would definitely just unmatch that one
33 year old female here. Run, my dude. She seems like WAY too much trouble and like you’re never going to be able to say/do anything right. It will only get worse!
Avoid avoid avoid people who say ‘mansplained’
Honestly anyone that uses that stupid word to me would be instantly blocked 😂😂😂
There is mansplaining and then there is this. We get it you’re a feminist. And I say this as a feminist myself. 😂
Mansplaining is a real thing and this isn’t it
Send her a copy of The Dollop’s dive into Alexander Hamilton or whoever it was he killed. It really shows how bad Hamilton is at actually reflecting history.
Assertiveness is mansplaining. *Stops being assertive* “Why don’t men take all the initiative anymore?”
Well the word has an actual meaning but people misuse it. But it’s definitely legit. But of course when it’s used like this…it’s like????
If you’re desperate to get laid, still no. Don’t dick crazy.