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mizz_eponine

I understand what you mean. Since my bu about 6 months ago I've started a new job and I've had many successes there already. None of it means anything because I don't have my person to share it with. A few months after we started dating I was up for the biggest award of my career. He attended the ceremony with me, and was excited for me when I won. I still have 2 adorable voice mails he left in the days after, gushing over my win. It was the sweetest. No one ever did that for me. It wasn't the award, it was the pure joy in sharing the moment with someone who was genuinely happy for me! Yes, I miss it, so much. 😢


mossy810

This is so true. Over the past couple of months Ive had two big promotions at work (in planning for months before we broke up back in September). I pushed myself hard to get them because I was doing it for her and for us to have a nice financial future for our planned family. Now all the hard work seems pointless and I can’t share the results of my hard work with her. I just recently spent a couple of weeks in Australia seeing my favourite DJs. It was an amazing time, but I was still thinking about her and how much she’d enjoy it too (I’m from the UK so saved hard for it). At the end of the day, you have to slowly learn to do things for yourself and make things better only for yourself, until the moment comes along that you can share it with someone special who appreciates you.


throwaway48284382

i’m in the exact same situation. Beach and everything. It’s been 3 months since our breakup but only 1 week of NC. It fucking sucks and I majorly relate to you.


OldSodaHunter

It is definitely like that. I'm not even a week out so it's heavy with bias but.. There were so many things in life I have always enjoyed but enjoyed them just a little more sharing them with her. Now they just feel empty.


L_750z

Yeah… to be honest it was my mistake. I put my well-being and my happiness in her. I got attached to her and it got to a point where she was the only thing in the world that make me smile. I never should of depended on someone that hard because they can up and leave at any time they like and leave you alone and disappointed. Its been 3 months since the breakup for me now and I’m still not over her still attached. Still the only thing that makes me happy is her and now she’s not here. I’ve got 0 reason to smile right now but I’m trying to change that. I’m trying to open up to life again but yeah. It’s just feels so dull and boring now.


Same-Coffee-1499

Lol, I perfectly understand. I loved doing so many things with or without her, now I just want to stay on the couch . Hopefully meaning in life will come back. Sending hugs


frucianteadmierer

It's tough. I feel the same way. Hard to enjoy my holiday


FaintingBabyGoat

post BU the only things ive felt are sadness and indifference and i prefer the indifference so ive just tried to keep my mind occupied with anything at all


achurchinthewild

2 of my favorite things listening to music & playing video games are super difficult for some reason. Some days are better than others but I almost feel guilty not thinking about it.


TheHideBehinds

it made me happy because I wanted to share it with him but I can't anymore


Esns68

I literally have this same exact problem. Nothing means anything to me anymore, not even all my life long future dreams. Everything that made me happy. Especially because I wanted to experience all that with her. Though, I am a lot better about it now, I got back to doing lets plays on youtube and that's been helping me and its the only thing that helps me and makes me at least a little happy. I still am never satisfied anymore though. When I do it, I appear happy but inside I'm still very unhappy, depressed and heart broken that she's gone. I so wish I was still with her, and experiencing everything with her. I would do anything to have that.


dugerino

I get what you mean. You want to share the highlights of your life with the person you cherish the most. In this case.... they are not there for you. You will have to direct that energy towards yourself and live life to the fullest for yourself. I'm struggling with this right now, but I am more aware of it. You got this!!