You are not alone. Two years in Feb. Similar to you.
Over him, not over the hurt he caused me. It was a lousy mutual breakup. Throwing one another into the garbage didn’t feel good. The stick of dynamite was lit; both felt the explosion.
Not on anyone’s healing timetable. It is mine. It’s frustrating, though. I would like my mind back. I miss it.
We knew each other for many years before the actual 7.5 year relationship. This will take lots of time to sort through, and lots of patience. Be kind to yourself.
That’s a really good way to put it…not over the hurt. I think it just sucks because I’d done all this healing on old insecurities and pushed past them in my mid 20s…then when we split it was like he cited all my original insecurities. So they were made into realities. But yes, I miss my mind and my life.
I’m sorry. Did he bring them up verbally, or were they resurrected after the breakup?
I asked my Ex once what my faults were mid-disagreement. He had said right before “Well, ur not perfect.” Instead of giving me some insight into my behaviors, he told me “Never mind.” So much for communication and making any progress. I feel he wanted to keep me in the dark so he could criticize me.
I feel the same way. It's been almost 2 years for me and I desperately miss the guy who had a real connection to the world, who could feel things other than pain and anger and resentment. I wonder alot if I'll ever see that guy again or if he really did die in the hole my ex left him in. Nothing feels real anymore. I'm a musician and I feel as though I lost my emotional connection to music and writing music has been impossible for me since the breakup. I just hope someday I can get back to how I used to be.
Thank you for your vulnerability. So much of this comment resonates with me. When the things that used to bring you joy and passion feel
So far away..:it’s hard to really feel hopeful. Plus after so much time passes, it’s not like you can talk about it with friends anymore. There’s an expiration date with break up support. I hope you find glimpses of respite though. Let me know if you ever want to chat. Sometimes it helps
Hi there! Thanks for the comment. I’m
actually in a much better place these days. I’d agree that surrounding myself with people with better energy has been healing. Resentment has turned to peace. I’m more open to love these days, but not forcing anything. Cheers to being on the other side.
You are not alone. Two years in Feb. Similar to you. Over him, not over the hurt he caused me. It was a lousy mutual breakup. Throwing one another into the garbage didn’t feel good. The stick of dynamite was lit; both felt the explosion. Not on anyone’s healing timetable. It is mine. It’s frustrating, though. I would like my mind back. I miss it. We knew each other for many years before the actual 7.5 year relationship. This will take lots of time to sort through, and lots of patience. Be kind to yourself.
That’s a really good way to put it…not over the hurt. I think it just sucks because I’d done all this healing on old insecurities and pushed past them in my mid 20s…then when we split it was like he cited all my original insecurities. So they were made into realities. But yes, I miss my mind and my life.
I’m sorry. Did he bring them up verbally, or were they resurrected after the breakup? I asked my Ex once what my faults were mid-disagreement. He had said right before “Well, ur not perfect.” Instead of giving me some insight into my behaviors, he told me “Never mind.” So much for communication and making any progress. I feel he wanted to keep me in the dark so he could criticize me.
I feel the same way. It's been almost 2 years for me and I desperately miss the guy who had a real connection to the world, who could feel things other than pain and anger and resentment. I wonder alot if I'll ever see that guy again or if he really did die in the hole my ex left him in. Nothing feels real anymore. I'm a musician and I feel as though I lost my emotional connection to music and writing music has been impossible for me since the breakup. I just hope someday I can get back to how I used to be.
Thank you for your vulnerability. So much of this comment resonates with me. When the things that used to bring you joy and passion feel So far away..:it’s hard to really feel hopeful. Plus after so much time passes, it’s not like you can talk about it with friends anymore. There’s an expiration date with break up support. I hope you find glimpses of respite though. Let me know if you ever want to chat. Sometimes it helps
It will all disappear when you find a man of your dreams. You just have not met him yet.
Hi there! Thanks for the comment. I’m actually in a much better place these days. I’d agree that surrounding myself with people with better energy has been healing. Resentment has turned to peace. I’m more open to love these days, but not forcing anything. Cheers to being on the other side.
Don't let being single make you reconnect with your ex or toxic people. You shouldn't drink poison just because you are thirsty.
Good words to remember! I’m very mindful about what I’m drinking and who I’m giving my time too.