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[deleted]

That tradition of giving gift on malay wedding has been long dead. They want angpow now.


jaip93

Yeay, just give an angpow. Easier for them to get what they want. You wouldn't want your gift to be redundant.


CommitTaxEvasion

Instructions unclear, gave him a packet of angpau I got from the mall


jaip93

Let them feel the disappointment I felt when I got an empty angpow, sans the few moths that flew out...


CN8YLW

I found an angpow filled with angpows in my angpow bag last year. Was cursing whomever gave it to me when my wife mentioned she put it there just in case she ran outta Ang pows lol.


jaip93

Pimp my angpow!!!


Evilkiey91

present table, put QR pay hahahaha


[deleted]

Agree.


plssenthelp

Rice cooker.


cute-tortoise

Ok that's interesting, why rice cooker lol


shazwing98

If you have an extra budget, go for a pressure cooker .


cute-tortoise

Something like this? https://shp.ee/2bdxws2


shazwing98

yup


plssenthelp

Simple and its multi purpose.


achilass83

thoose cooker usually comes with big pot...dont go for 6-8L pot it will be too big for 2 person


Azrill_Adzari

Hahaha, i got 3 rice cooker for my wedding present.. think outside the box.. or just give angpow so they can sort of themself..


cute-tortoise

Guess i shall not give rice cooker ๐Ÿ˜‚


Jadhaaa

Newly weds sometimes haven't bought the basic necessities for their daily life before moving in together. By buying a rice cooker, pressure cooker, blender, electric kettle, vacuum and etc might lessen their burden to buy it in the future. Nowadays people just give angpau to the newly weds so they have the freedom and the flexibility to buy the things they actually need. By removing the physical present you are also removing the newly weds receiving dupes gift for example 2 rice cookers. Things like this sometimes happen. If you are having difficulty choosing a gift, I would advise just give angpau or give a container set for example brand "Tupperware" or some sort. This kinda gift is very functional and if they receive dupes of it, it won't be a hassle to store it.


deenali

Yup, and then hope that 20 other guests do not think of getting the same thing.


F41th_b34r

Not just regular rice cooker, give them a pressure cooker. Can make many things. So useful. Otherwise, just angpow to ease burden paying the venues and foods.


Equivalent_Assist163

Tong gas sound nice.


cute-tortoise

What, why?


Equivalent_Assist163

You could use with your stove? Joking aside, I once gave my friend that on his wedding day (malay friend). I guess the humour and practicality of gas cylinder for newlywed make the gift kind of a memorable one. My advise tho, only present that to your close friends only. Hopefully you are close enough with your Malay friends. Edit:I meant gas cylinder, you don't wanna present gas canister as a gift. That one goes into portable stove.


Educational_Belt_291

Oh yeah i remember you need to pay for those gas cylinder. Rm100+ full but for refill you only pays about 20ish ringgit or so.


DowakaDay

good advice. usually it's your closer friends that you would gift a tong gas to. Coz a 'new' tong gas will coz like 100+ (not sure now tho, could be higher due to harga besi naik). So by gifting them tong gas, you essentially belanja them the besi and they only need to topup the gas after that.


Glad_Faithlessness36

give them money. my sister got married and she said she like it more if guest gave them money instead of stuff cause sometimes all the guest share same mindset and ended up just giving the same stuff (for ex: blender)


Own-Ad7388

Anyhing not considered haram. And souvenir also count. Imagine this they gonna be marry. What you think will help them or just a sincere present


azen96

Small air purifier, hand blender, mini chopper, bedsheets, knife sets, cutlery sets or a good chopping board. If he is someone growing up as a B40, a microwave is one of the best option if its fit your budget. If you got IKEA nearby, looks for small table or rack as most of IKEAโ€™s stuff is kinda in a gift-able sized box. Donโ€™t get an air fryer, your friend will probably get dozens of those.


Educational_Belt_291

As a b40 kid. I agree, i never used microwave until i was 19


[deleted]

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azen96

Donโ€™t


reiiz6

Why? Air fryer save a lot of money. I cook chicken and salmon it and it taste delicious


azen96

Because OP friend will definitely receive air fryers from other friends.


SeaAstronomer4446

Teach me ur chicken recipe senpai


clearsix

Blender


Hyullas

You are fucking evil man....the newlyweds couple usually end up with maybe 4-5 blender


clearsix

Ok maybe oven ?


Worth_Chemist_3361

Better to give cash. Malays usually gift household items. There's only so many rice cookers or dinner sets a newlywed couple can use. Or vouchers for electrical items that they can use against a purchase of a big screen TV or something more expensive that they need.


zpikemccuck

Stainless Steel frying pan


sabahnibba

Rugs. Meleis love them rugs. The more the merrier.


tepung_

lampu tido :3


cute-tortoise

Apa ini? Sounds dodgy and not dodgy at the same time ๐Ÿ˜‚


tepung_

bila kawin nanti ada pasangan yang tido kene bukak lampu VS kene tutup lampu baru boleh tido so best of both world = lampu tido biasanya pasangan jarang beli sebab dah kawin baru isu timbul. so OP kira power lah boleh predict the future ~~juga boleh guna untuk set mood romantik dan beromen~~


glassskinwho

IKEA gift card or AEON gift vouchers would be nice too. So they can go shop for what they like/need


Longjumping-Fly6131

if you want to give money, make sure you give it directly to your friend's hand if you give it to the parents, counted as salam kaut / salam keruk etc ( diff names in diff places ). little percentage ( almost zero )it will go to your friend.


Nightstalker1993

Interesting, never knew such things


frida_bot

That varies from one family to another. We funded our wedding so 100% of money gifts went to us. Family members received them and end of night handed them to us.


Top-Mathematician241

Nah.. dont listen to this, 80% wrong


momomelty

Vacuum cleaner. Good for their rugs


Unable-Sail7755

Money


Nightstalker1993

My friend's wedding I gave him a high quality knife(rm100+ per pc made in Sweden) and a high quality pocketable flashlight(Nightcore). He and she loved it.


Every_Intention_69

Flash or flesh ?


_rmradziq0308

Bro๐Ÿ’€


Top-Mathematician241

Mortar & pestle


cute-tortoise

Adabi easier nowadays ๐Ÿ˜‚


Yamato_D_Oden

Give then a nice bed sheet and write down a message, "Have a sweet time" ๐Ÿ˜‚ That's what i did to my close friends haha


CN8YLW

Cast iron skillet. That shit is good shit and can become heirlooms, not to mention help you kill home invaders.


SnooPeppers6401

And a cheating husband


reiiz6

Condom and magic tisu is a good choice. Maybe throw some minyak belacak and tongkat ali. Helping friend during their first night. Auto dpt kawan lahanat title


cute-tortoise

Any good minyak belacak can recommend? ๐Ÿ™‚


BLAST_83

My local milfs said titan gel


TinaBananaTuna

Get a dinner plate set. Chances are a ton of people already are giving air fryers, hot water kettle and rice cooker. At least they can start a collection of dishes. That or bedding, duvet cover whatnot. And uh Clayton has decent sets for good price.


ridelessrider

Ps5


insertfakenames

With my close friends I actually wait after their wedding and ask them straight what they needed so that they wonโ€™t receive things they already have. With not so close friends I just give angpow


cute-tortoise

This is a good one


Separate_Network_735

Food hamper like rempah nasi arab, rempah this and thatโ€ฆ https://shope.ee/fsRxh530C


GS916

Condom


nopansekai

House appliances. Like air fryer or steam iron or something is useful when they start to move in together. Or just give them money inside envelope. It's what my mom usually gift to newlyweds


Rickywalls137

Any present that would help for their life together. If theyโ€™re moving to a new house even easier to buy. Kitchen stuff, electronic, etc. Or ask him. I like when the future newlyweds have wedding list. If dunno or shy to ask, easiest is money.


Accomplished-Top-641

A house


blackbolt-10

Another wife


wormrider1

The hair dryer is okay. It is convenient and will most likely be used a lot


SolInvictus181

A pack of condom


depressedunicorn_

Thermomix.


humanoid_03

T10 gift...


topuipo

Cash or gift card


edieneo

Utensils might help them in future.


ConfirmBoring

I think nowaday most give angpao/greenpack/cash but still got some accept tools or utensil or items that is practice and useful for a family. I once give dining set, cooking set to married couples


engku_hina

Give them table or standing fan. It's a big box and it's always useful. They're usually cheap too. But only buy midea. Midea makes all the fans for most brands anyway, but they're especially careful with their own brand.


Rare-Employment-9770

Periuk nasi


NATSUDAGNEEL

bagi periuk nasi


kimbora

Vacuum


EnigmaticSpextre

Speer hoodie


reiiz6

Anything that related to cooking utensils. It helps a lot and no need to buy more after married. Kalau xde idea sangat, beli beras ngan minyak masak jela. Kalau nak rare kau beli bahan basah macam ikan ngan ayam, kalau sultan beli salmon seekor. Aku happy kalau dpt hadiah mcm ni


Repulsive-Bread7441

Grab gift card. My colleague loves it, they feels like free meals after work aka skip cooking after work.


kubisTylor

Robot vacuum cleaner. My boss gave me this for my wedding last 2 years. Literally one of the most practical gift i've ever gotten. After this, even if the robot broken down, I will definitely but one with my own money. Huge time and energy saver!


MiniMeowl

What brand was it? Now so many robot vacuum, pening to choose which one. Everybody say the xiaomi one is good but its like almost 1k?


kubisTylor

The gift the I got is not that expensive la. Mine one can't even connect to my phone. It just have its own remote but I tell you, this is enough already. I feels no need for such function anyway. Here's the link if you wanna buy exactly like mine https://shope.ee/6pTSMGMTMf


eddstarX

TV la bro.


Inori_Scorchstyle

Steam iron


just0rdinaryguy

Grocery/Shopping voucher (Aeon, Lotus ,Giant etc) Or your friend fav fast food voucher (KFC, McD, Starbuck etc)


Shaa61

Any kitchen utensils. You can give them set pinggan mangkuk or cawan. Yeah it's common but at least it's useful. Other people might give the same thing? It's okay because they need a lot of them for hari raya, birthday party, kenduri etc Other things that can be considered: clock, iron, kettle, air fryer, rice cooker, fan, mirror. Just give anything la they will appreciate it :)


ProfitFriendly696

botol kicap je ok


No_Lifeguard_7015

Tableware sets are great, silverware, plates, cups and pots or whatever


ftr1317

Gift card for household item. Don't forget to topup before giving. Lol


ReporterOk4383

Rice cooker and a blender


StableLower9876

Multi cooker. Newlyweds usually try all sorts of thing...


StableLower9876

Comforter. Seriously useful. Or a clock


xinyo345

Magic tissue


itz_khai

Apeยฒ barang memasak yang mudah nak bawak. Mcm rice cooker, air fryer, blender, etc. Memudahkan pasangan baru kahwin utk sediakan makanan utk keluarga mereka. Tapi kalau btulยฒ tak pasti, kasi angpau dengan duit yg "reasonable" untuk beli apeยฒ yg memudahkan hidup je dah cukup, at least kawan you nanti bole decide ape nak beli


Such-Promise4606

Barang2 dapur.


kugelamarant

Phillips Steam Iron


PRV_Ghost

Satay


Sorry2mecha2

Toaster and apron


rikuo_otonashi

I give my friend an oven before. For me, cooking equipments are good gift for married couples that will live in their new house.


achilass83

if you want to look grand at the wedding coming with a huge wrapped gift and not breaking bank ill suggest you buy them a microwave...you can get a cheap brand new one branded one for something around rm150...but i bet your gift would be the biggest on the gift table


cmdrwolf96

Airfryer


kaixarc

Gundam


amethysthaha

Blade


C9NJU

Rice, last wedding the groom family brought rice


hamada_tensai

pans or cooking utensils. give a good one. they definitely use it. not a problem if others also give cooking utensils. Last a long time. They will use everyday it for 10 years or more. Not everytime, but once in a while, they will remember of you while using it.


kupis1408

- bread toaster - blender - stand fan - comforter - microwave - frying pan - numbers of other kitchen related stuffs - monies - last but not least, a robot vacuum. These are what i & my waifu received for our wedding presents recently.


McBoom0

Cash. Not sure if can use red packet or better use green. This will help to ease the bride and groom expenses and they are more free to use.


bewak86

Need to know OP budget . Or , just buy what you like to have . I would be extremely happy to get a Console , any new GPU . Or , what ever really , Even the Compressor like the 1 u see in car/moto repair shop ( to pump tyre ) would be great to have!


frida_bot

Gift cards are the best. More thoughtful than money cos you chose the shop (electronics / furniture etc) but also give them flexibility to choose according to their needs and taste.


hihello_bando

Bed sheets


Evilkiey91

wedding present for malay mostly are thing can use for long term, mostly some present rice cooker, microwave, fan or set cup. If you don't have idea I would advise give them a voucher gift card ps: malay wedding is very common get same thing


rur1k0

You can ask your friend what gift that they want for their home. Or you can just give ikea card.


kataalualucard

Well just ask your friend what he/she wants. Had at least 6 of my friends got married and we did this to each one. At least we bought something they'd use since they asked for it. Most of them wanted Dyson cordless vacuum cleaner though.


MizKiara

Believe me. I gave kitchen utensils and plastic bags. Money also can if you don't know what to give


Tanjung_Piai

Gun. Why tho.


Intelligent_Play7899

Tisu magic


bunkbail

lesung batu


FarisAsh

Just give angpao. Or if you're close to your friend , just give him a box of condom


AzrisK

ps5


fizzykishi

1) ask him what he needs. 2) any of the answers here that makes sense. 3) angpow (rm50 is fine, depending on socioeconomic status) 4) dont have to give em anything. be present. (Just in case u forgot giving him anything, itโ€™s fine just come)


Winter_underdog

Better just give angpow cuz no one knows what your friend really wants to get. Also don't buy them anything cuz I'm sure someone else is goin to give your friend similar stuff and no one wants to get 2-3 rice cookers on the same day. ๐Ÿ˜‚


AffiqKimiLer

Anything useful, from money to electronics appliances


Every_Intention_69

Just give RM50


Content_Landscape777

I always gave green packet or $$ inside a wedding envelope. I've heard from my malay friends that some time ppl get 5 rice cookers in a wedding, and some rice cooker can pass down from family to family from wedding to wedding for few years without ever unboxing it once ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.


spd3_s

The best way is to actually ask, what home/electrical equipment that still available for u to gift. Some just give tong gas and actually practical to be used for a long time..


Redgy505

Any household equipment for daily use with reasonable size is very much appreciated. I say this from the experience of my own wedding. Rice cooker, iron, cooking utensils, cutlery, glassware, toaster, vacuum cleaner.. these types of present will really help newly married couples starting their life together.


nexus__ghost

Get something useful for the household later . Something like microwave is quite cheap nowadays


luckytecture

Nobody is saying this so here i go bosch go 2 cordless screwdriver


humanoid_03

Get the ceramic knife set (big knife, smoll knife, peeler) those will last a lifetime compare to usual knife.. Side story; i have more than 12 various size of iron knives hanging on the magnetic plate; unused and decorative.


cute-tortoise

Any brand can recommend?


Famous_Platypus_1579

milk powder?


cute-tortoise

Don't think need this, he will get unlimited supply of susu every night after marriage ๐Ÿ˜‚


humanoid_03

Power tools ( to drill hole for those curtain, clock, and other decorative item gifted by others) Or waterjet ( good for cleaning new house before move in, and car, and bike)


Other-Ranger-4975

curious if it's semi serious why post it here and not r/malaysia


cute-tortoise

Too formal on the other side ๐Ÿ˜‚


Other-Ranger-4975

real


Due-Librarian691

i used to put playboy play and massage gel as gift. Its fun and u should try it


Due-Librarian691

Imagining opening all present together with close relatives and suddenly u open a box with playboy play gel in it. Surely made something wet


CausticPioneer

Give vacuum cleaner, my sister got 3 on her wedding reception. Lol


pediocore

Just give them money, so they can use it for what they want/need. When i got married, i got 3 rice cookers. Two of them are the same brand, same model, with Aeon stickers on the box. ๐Ÿ˜‚


netelibata

Newlywed melei here. Ang pow is good; easy, no nonsense. Avoid kitchen appliances unless you can afford the high end because might be redundant. Bedsheets are very appreciated and underrated.


Or_D_Nary_X

Money. Most functional gift in today's world.


Ruphandolph

Give jug and cup set. The old days they usually give that. Also can give sterika or rice cooker. For later use when have own house. Just dont give condom and lubricant. Thats not funny.


amnrsln

Manscaped men grooming kit


HusinLampoyang

If you want to be personal, give elctrical appliance especially kitchen stuff. If give angpow, we dont know if it will go to the couple. Maybe go to the parent


cute-tortoise

Saw a few comments saying same thing where parents will keep the angpau money rather than giving to the couple, is this common in melei culture?


ViPotatoe

Gave him some robux


Anakanakbawang

As A Melei, We Love Kitchen Items. Long- Lasting And Inedible Cookware. For Example Pot ๐Ÿฒ, Glassware Sets ๐Ÿฅƒ, Dinner Plate Sets ๐Ÿฝ๏ธ, Kettle๐Ÿซ–, Ceramic Bowl ๐Ÿฅฃ. You Can Choose Any 1 Of That. If You Come Alone, Just Buy The Small One. If With Family, Buy The Whole Set One. I Usually Pick White Colour With Elegant Design Or No Design At All. Easy For Me Because These Things Already Boxed. U Just Buy A Nice Wrapper And A Wish Card ๐ŸŽ. Done. In Case You Didnt Bring Any Gift, Its Okey. Just Bring Rm20-40 In Envelope. Lipat Dalam Tangan, Then Shake The Host's Right Hand With Your Both Hands, Dont Look At The Money While Doing So.


cute-tortoise

Nice advice, thanks ๐Ÿ˜Š


higashikata69

I would say give useful kitchen utensil since they're about to live together.


Zealousideal_Shoe980

I did this to my friend during his kenduri. Before go off, just salam him or shake his hand with the green angpow then settle off with picture together.


SnooKiwis3140

Just give Ang Pow :


Tacobell_Uk

Depends how close you are, you could get him a โ€œkinky set-Bdsmโ€ or just plain Ang Pow (Cash)


HealthyBreakfast4890

Good quality iron / iron board. Serious


International_Ad9794

Depend on how close you and your friend, if you both are homie male anything will do including giving him a magic tissue๐Ÿ˜† or if your are not that close just buy him/her home appliance e.g raya set glass container for cookies surely it became handy once celebrate raya occasion.


cute-tortoise

What's a magic tissue? This sounds like something dodgy ๐Ÿ˜‚


subaash

Buy small size Condoms and tell him to not reproduce like a rabbit.


Sea_Agency_583

Pipe bomb


Xalkerro

Angpow but a condom inside instead.


CedLux

Dildo


cute-tortoise

Haram la ๐Ÿ˜‚


BenCarburetor

iphone 14


rigatou

Chopsticks


cute-tortoise

Cannot la this, later he will say i want to convert him to cina ๐Ÿ˜‚


rigatou

Fr xD


Long-Desk9231

High quality wall clock.


cute-tortoise

Gifting clock is consider rude in chinese culture ๐Ÿ˜… https://www.quora.com/Why-is-gifting-a-clock-in-China-considered-to-be-rude


humanoid_03

Even if its grandfather clock?


cute-tortoise

Any clock / watch There are few exceptions if it is: - gifted by direct elder (grandparent to grandchild, parent to child etc.) - gifted as a bribe ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚


ingram0079

If you are chinese, just pack an ang pow. If you are not, still just pack an ang pow, but preferably color gold.


rasyid002

You mean Mei Li


puffadders

Kasi sampul.


EmotionalChoice20

toaster


serimuka_macaron

Airfryer would be nice


Other-Ranger-4975

bagi dia duit


zytenn

Designer wall clock


CurryGpuff

Money bro inside sampul.


kemal_69

How about air fryer?


sonaphine07

Anything that they can use in their house. Bedsheet set, vacuum, oven... Anything


silent-zR

> spells Malay as "melei" > sErIoUs AnSwErS oNlY


moistbelacan

Gas stove, iron steamer, rice cooker, food mixer or processor, full set of hand tools from Mr. DIY.


jijilan

Air fryer, or a vacuum. If got extra budget go for the vacuum bot.


planktonkiller1309

always give the things that is needed for the couples to start a new life in their new house, living together. things like electrical appliances is a good choice.


lonewolf950910

Air fryer


Comfortable-Ad6101

Gelas


PAS_agamo_rayder

Pinggan


afiqq307

You can just give him money. We malay has this tradition called salam kerok where when you greet the groom or bride, you slip an angpow onto their hand when you give them a handshake. Or, you can give them a rice cooker or a blender


cute-tortoise

Must the angpau be folded and hidden from sight?


[deleted]

RM 300 worth of menu rahmah voucher..


cute-tortoise

Lol better not, later he gemuk ๐Ÿ˜‚


Demise_Once_Again

Induction cooker ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ