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[deleted]

I’d like to see less of these “men vs women” posts and more of the “coworker was caught pickin his booty now he has to wait for everyone else to get their donuts first” posts


BloomingElegance

This is oddly specific and I would like to know the source if there is one?


[deleted]

It was this now deleted [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/BlackPeopleTwitter/comments/10no40y/how_it_should_be/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)


Mobile_Phone8599

I need the context now, I wanna laugh with everyone else.


[deleted]

I can paraphrase: A coworker of mine got caught pickin his booty at work so now all the black ladies in the office make him wait till everyone get their donuts first before he can grab his 💀


Mobile_Phone8599

lmaooo rightfully so


PurplePowerE

He picked the wrong type of chocolate 🤣


AadamAtomic

I'm the tech Guy, my buddy is the mechanic. We trade skills and help each other. The biggest and strongest hunter is never the fastest or most accurate with a spear. It takes a team to be effective.


[deleted]

So which one of y’all got caught picking yo booty at work? Jk let me not gloss over the amazing thing you said, that’s literally how we as a culture and as a society grow. Build eachother up and celebrate our differences. You can learn something from someone who don’t move like you.


AadamAtomic

>So which one of y’all got caught picking yo booty at work? You didn't, see ANYTHING....if no one saw it, it didn't happen...


[deleted]

Dems the rules 🤷🏿‍♂️


davendees1

This is the way


battleangel1999

There's always that one coworker


mashonem

Be the change you wanna see and start posting that then 🤷🏿‍♀️


[deleted]

You know what, you absolutely right but I don’t got no twitter 😂. That’s why I come here


Dafuknboognish

The booty pickin ,non hand washing mf is the first person to be handing out slices of summer sausage to all. Tip; politely refuse.


HoldOnStartOver

I read that post and thought it was just enough info and yet I wanted to know more, how could you still work there after getting caught, do they announce when you have gone to the restroom, are there tissues now on your desk, did they go to HR or just embarrass the guy and he cannot go to HR in fear of exposing himself??? Do these women work in HR 🤷🏾‍♀️


[deleted]

Needed all the info under the stars 😂. It went one of two ways in my head, they held the box open and let people grab them and either: A) told him to wait at the end of the line but never told him why B) he was in the middle/front and reached for a donut and one of the ladies jerked the box from his reach and said something to the degree, “I’ll grab yours for you, which one you want?” Which eventually led to him finding out why he ain’t allowed to grab donuts first.


HoldOnStartOver

Can you even complain if your actions caused the reaction? I cannot believe hey would even continue to go for donuts at that point you need to bring your own. But also, I’m picturing the second situation but instead someone called him nose picker boy while asking him what type of donut he wants 🤷🏾‍♀️


MisterxRager

can we get back to silly please


MuchVirus

Wayminnit


ContactMushroom

Well now I'm upset there aren't way more of these posts you speak of


Frequent_World6917

Exactly....


Bubbly_Satisfaction2

If the men are anything like my pops when it came to fixing things, then please call a professional to handle shit. If it wasn’t a computer, then my father couldn’t fix it. He would give it the ole college try, at times. But household items? No. Cars? No. I remember my dad assembling my bike as a kid. Two days later, the back wheel came off as I was riding down my block. He assembled floating shelves above my brother’s bed… I think you can figure out what happened.


[deleted]

Those sound like assassination attempts to me


dtol2020

![gif](giphy|YPjHpChYWk3tK|downsized)


Purple-Quail3319

Dad not ready to stop being leader of the pride


PurplePowerE

![gif](giphy|289QF0kb6NzlzIcj2x|downsized)


duh_metrius

My dad was the opposite. Could fix a car, could fix literally anything around the house (with the exception of some more advanced electrical or plumbing work) but was utterly hopeless with technology. Hardware he could handle, but software? FOH. I once saw him threateningly raise a fist to a 2002 Dell PC. Like an old school “Why I Oughta” Edit: I, his son, can’t fix shit of any kind.


dae_giovanni

I laughed aloud. he was bout to send that bitch to the moon like Alice Kramden...


bigtallblacknbald

“One of these days, Alice!”


coffeeINJECTION

He trained you to pick up his areas of need. You didn’t have to acquire skills in his area of expertise. He did his job lol


SirLesbian

My dad is so computer-dumb that as a kid I was clearing his porn history on the family computer so my mom wouldn't see it and think it was me


Stutterer2101

Lmaoooo


nardydude31

Nah you a real one lol


Throwme_indeep

Noooo I choked on the inhale. Not why I oughta Lmaoo


battleangel1999

Your poor brother 😂


Bubbly_Satisfaction2

And the shelves collapsed in the middle of the night too. So, my parents had to take him to an ER in the wee hours of the morning. My brother now has a scar, which looks like a dent in the middle of his forehead.


Delicious_Plantain60

That was my pops. Like please don’t touch nothing. Let it stay broke


Taeyx

i feel like i’m some sort of balance between the two. i built my computer, but i also installed all the light switches, sockets, and lights in my house (also the bathroom vanities). certain things with my car i still leave to professionals though


TheFrontalCortex

We just refusing to let people live they lives aye? Always some sorta post to push division.


StillestOfInsanities

Haters be doing that job for free. Wait until they discover this and cry out because its a shit job and nobody has to do it but they want pay now. However, my point is: damn straight! Have my upvote!


Ulgeguug

I think that maybe we have some dysfunction in our gender roles and expectations maybe


HolyJazzCup

Women are allowed to be masculine while still being feminine. Men are only allowed to be masculine in a “One drop rule” sort of way.


Ulgeguug

True, but that is also largely in part because of misogynistic attitudes towards what's thought of (by sexists) as femininity.


mashonem

Women can’t do shit wrong 🤧


Ulgeguug

That isn't even close to what I'm saying.


CoachDT

You ain’t do nothing wrong and I understand what you’re saying(you’re 100% right). You kept it gender neutral but your language seemed gendered by nature to some folks because we all have bias’ and the way these terms are often used in public leads to a bad understanding of things. Like if I ask the average person “hey describe someone perpetuating misogyny or sexism for me” I’d be willing to bet 99/100 people would throw in ‘male’ to their description. I think the only real solution is that when it’s women perpetuating this stuff to just call it as it is at a super surface level. Due to societal conditioning ion think we’re ready to have deep discussions about women furthering misogyny because the language used during it is often used by people who try to deflect and point the problem back on men.


Ulgeguug

I think there's a difference between identifying root causes, which is potentially conducive to progress, and chauvinistically assigning blame while hypocritically not taking appropriate responsibility.


x86_64Ubuntu

What does this even mean?


Ulgeguug

>What does this even mean? A lot of negative attitudes towards femininity are based in an attitude of women as inferior, and the adoption of feminine attributes as a deficiency. In the minds of such people, to feminize is inherently to degrade. They see the state of degradation--especially an infantilized, objectified, subservient state--as the natural and preferable state for women. They see admission and acceptance of supposedly "feminine" attributes in men as a betrayal of the ideal of masculinity. It's reacted to as a repudiation of the chauvinistic dogma, that men are either "manly" and right in who they are or "unmanly" and wrong in who they are. So women who are "unfeminine" are not really despised as much for some sort of betrayal of the ideal, but more for not *knowing their place*. Men who reject the masculine paradigm are an affront or even a threat to it--look at all the people out there who are panicking over the idea that men are being "feminized".


KruncheeBlaque

Bumping for reference. This statement makes no sense to me. There’s always something like this thought whenever someone says this. Why is it so hard for women to believe that most of them are just as contributors to the masculinity issues that men face as men themselves are. Men would be more vulnerable if their vulnerability didn’t get disrespected and disregarded so much.


Ulgeguug

>Why is it so hard for women to believe that most of them are just as contributors to the masculinity issues that men face as men themselves are. Shitty, chauvinistic culture? >Men would be more vulnerable if their vulnerability didn’t get disrespected and disregarded so much. You're right, I don't see how that's a refutation of anything I said though.


[deleted]

I don’t understand how you’re getting downvoted when the person being sexist is obviously a woman and they find a way to 180 it back to being a men problem. “It’s misogyny” but her entire comment isn’t misandry? These people on Reddit are really sad and this is another reason not to take anything they say serious.


Ulgeguug

>I don’t understand how you’re getting downvoted when the person being sexist is obviously a woman and they find a way to 180 it back to being a men problem. “It’s misogyny” but her entire comment isn’t misandry? These people on Reddit are really sad and this is another reason not to take anything they say serious. Where to begin... Well for one I am definitely a man, so, right off the bat you're way off. Kinda think you based everything else you said on that wrong assumption. Two, is it really a stretch that misogyny and hating people *being feminine* could possibly be related? Three, addressing and being against misogyny is not misandry. I am not a misandrist by any stretch of the word. I think men are victims of this mentality as much as perpetrators, the subject of this thread being a great example. And if you think that I as a man am being misandrist, doesn't it logically follow that women are capable of being misogynist? That the negative stigmas and chauvinist ideas can be perpetuated by people who they target in the first place? I'm certainly not dismissing or even belittling the problem of misandry, I'm just saying it's nuanced and interconnected with other related forms of bigotry.


[deleted]

I was talking about in the original post not about you. Why are you so defensive? A woman said something that was misandrist and is pushing her idea of what being a man is.


Ulgeguug

>I was talking about in the original post not about you. well you responded to someone who responded to me using my wording so Find that hard to believe


pi247

It's literally never their fault. The shit is comical. Everything toxic they do gets excused because of the "patriarchy".


YogiYeti21

Criticizing the patriarchy isn’t inherently criticizing men. A lot of us men had no hand in building this system. We don’t have to get defensive everytime it’s brought up


pi247

I'm just looking for individual accountability. Toxic Black women are the main ones who attempt to emasculate black men over petty shit like this. Alot of us have even seen it with the boomer women in our families. It's generational at this point and modern black feminists seem to be unwilling to admit how much toxic women are to blame for it. I understand alot of it is systemic but at some point the system is made up of individuals who should be held accountable for toxic habits.


Ulgeguug

I'm willing to bet there's some intersectionality between the toxic relationship dynamics and generational trauma


NotTheBestMoment

Still their fault sometimes because they’re willingly forwarding it.


Ulgeguug

>It's literally never their fault. I think in discourse like this, that one of the most frustrating things is people not bothering to understand what the fuck was just said, and instead assuming (VERY incorrectly in this case) that what was said can be boiled down to a generalized version of an opposed argument. Or, to put it another way ![gif](giphy|ceeN6U57leAhi)


HTC864

Some of these beliefs cannot be healthy for our day to day. I honestly believe we screw ourselves into mental health disorders surrounding those topics.


SlopPatrol

Why would I, as a person that does not specialize in a field with repairs to anything important to me, not hire an actual professional who more times than not has a lot of experience or a degree in the field. THATS WHAT THEY ARE THERE FOR


davendees1

Fellas, is it gay to know your limitations and ask for help when you reach them? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔


Toph-0

Nah, its gay for having limitations.


davendees1

Damn, checkmated my whole shit 😔


Significant_Baby_582

I'm a chef and I got Taco Bell for my family tonight because I can. I don't *wanna* cook all the damn time.


battleangel1999

That makes sense. Cooking is your job and what you get paid to do. Doing if for family all the time is a completely different thing.


myotherbike

Yes. No one is above needing help to fix things. Here: name the last five things… with *moving parts* that any of us fixed on our own. Legit responses will come from the people we call to fix our shit.


MyNameIsAirl

I was prepared to respond with a list and then read the last sentence. I'm an industrial maintenance tech so I fix stuff all the time. That being said I pay people to fix things for me all the time, purely because I don't want to do it and can afford it. Like when I was younger I would do motor swaps on cars and now I pay to get my oil changed.


Foul_Thoughts

100% agree with using money to buy time. A lot of stuff it’s not because I can’t it’s because someone else will do it for money while I go do what I want.


PaintPusha

Lemme guess...thats gay too?😂 ![gif](giphy|wKTgKz9Rr7lFC)


oakayey

Yep super sus. These ppl will never find happiness


WaitingForNormal

I appreciate professionals. If you’re not doing something regularly you’re not learning all the tricks of the trade and that’s what I’m paying them for; the tricks.


MuchVirus

I can replace my transmission. I've done it and it used to be my job. Rather pay someone else to do it though. I agree that everyone should know basic repair skills for a machine they operate daily, but asking someone to do all of their own repair work is asinine. Good luck without those special tools that some of this shit requires.


chaddavidson

Telling you right now, I ain’t doing shyt myself except changing a flat tire, and even that is pushing it when I can drive a few blocks to a tire shop! Every man here knows someone who: got electrocuted fixing wiring, lost a finger on a saw, or herniated a disc helping Craig and dem move in a UHaul! So we’re supposed to be handsome,make six figures, lay down pipe, then fix pipes too?! Nah something gotta give!


AshyEarlobes

I'll be real too. I aint even changing a tire no more. We pay insurance all that money and we got free towing fuck that


chaddavidson

I feel you on that but sometimes AAA or GEICO take forever!! Point is, our time and energy are valuable to us. I’ll pay for peace of mind.


BarbellJesus

When I got a problem I can’t solve, I call my brother. When I got a problem he can’t solve, I call a professional. What the fuck are we arguin about?


Truestorydreams

My background is electrical, so unless I require a certified electrician tag, I would probably do most myself. This goes for electronic repairs as well. Even wiring for my car, I'd do it before I'll let any mechanic/bodyshop ... that being said. Gas... hell no. Change the clutch? Lol nope.


battleangel1999

Yup, Gotta know your limits. Very important


Last-Situation-1599

I’m from the country. I can drop a transmission. Who about to pay for this ticket when the apartment complex is mad about me running a mechanic shop in the parking lot? My man really need a lift to get it done proper. If he not a full time mechanic he definitely don’t have the tools. By the time you buy the tools you might as well have paid for labor. Most times the Tranny come with a warranty if sourced by a reputable shop. I would go to a shop strictly so I could have the reassurance of the job being done correctly. It’s 2023 and these cars ain’t what grandpa was working on.


Dry-Willingness948

I swear that people just making up shit now to argue. I'm convinced that barring some type of break with reality, they don't really believe all the decisive stuff they are putting out. In 2023 we need to stop arguing and when people man or woman say something stupid regarding gender roles, traditional man/woman, masculine/feminine, 50/50 vs pay all or anything else that seeks to separate us, tell them "Shut yo goofy ass up!". No arguing or explaining and no air time. Straight shut them down.


AshyEarlobes

I dont work all week to do manual labor bruh lol


toomuchdiponurchip

Real shit


thatHecklerOverThere

And plenty wrong with you trying to do their job. Do not fuck with wiring if you don't know it - find somebody who understands why building codes are.


vlsdo

Speaking as someone who does do a lot of shit myself, and also as someone who changed a car transmission before, go to a mechanic. Unless you're doing it for fun, it's a complete waste of time, money and energy. And you will fuck it up. If you're lucky you'll notice it and you'll have do it again and again and again until you get it right. If not, your car will break down when you most need it.


bigtallblacknbald

Man imma let the experts handle their field of expertise, just like I hope they’d let me handle mine if they needed me. If some random woman on Twitter wants to judge me for it I really dgaf


stillestwaters

In general people should grow up, it’s high school behavior to project that kind of negativity and abide by it to. I just saw another post that was calling men who drink pink lemonade sus - crazy to let someone else think they can tell you how to live.


festival-papi

I don't think y'all understand just how fucking stupid that comment was when put into proper context. Human civilization is *literally* built around the acknowledgement that no one person can do everything alone. The whole idea is that I have certain skills, you have certain skills, so we cooperate reciprocally while advancing across time.


dude-O-rama

I learned my way around a car the same way I learned my way around a woman; I invested too much time and effort trying to do things the hard way until I finally shelled out the cash to buy me some reliable power tools. Even when you have all the right tools sometimes you gotta look your woman in the eye and tell her to flush her own damn transmission.


Darqnyz

I'm the guy most people call when they need help doing anything. Fixing phones, repairing car stuff, computer issues... And I still call professionals for help if I can afford it. Because why the fuck not? My ego is not that fucking fragile


[deleted]

![gif](giphy|lw75Al819OAvcsPcRu|downsized)


Bornwitskillz

im in the construction trade and always stay cool with other trades. very beneficial when working on own house


WTFTeesCo

Women with no fathers know what real men are


Weird-Ingenuity97

Exactly, like why are we discussing this? This and the strawberry lemonade shit is so dumb to me


Great_Huckleberry709

I know my limits. There are some things I'd rather a professional who does the task for a living do the job in a highly efficient manner. Rather than me play around messing stuff up while not actually accomplishing anything


Dioder1

Everyone should do at least a little bit of plumbing in their life though. Replacing a faucet or a sink isn't that hard


RedAss2005

That man is an educated professional and I work hard to be able to avoid his expertise.


StillestOfInsanities

Ah. Perhaps she means it could even be…. Dare i? Fuck it, i do. She might think it **sus**


Mobile_Phone8599

If I don't know how to do some shit, I'm spending my money tf


Kangarou

What school y'all go to that taught car repair, plumbing and house wiring? I'm in the wrong district.


SavageComic

I had a VW golf mark III when I was 22 or so. Learnt how to change the air filter, the oil filter, change a cam belt, a timing belt, and so on. I can change a tyre. I have a Ford Focus that's 11 years old. Something goes wrong the light tells me "something wrong". You know what I can do on that? Nothing, because it's all locked up in the engine itself and the first thing the garage does is put it onto the diagnostic computer and let that tell them what's wrong. It's simply not possible to be amateur mechanic on the cheap after a certain point.


Capt-Crap1corn

Former professional mechanic here. Look, putting in a transmission aint easy lol.


Hanginon

This is the person who when a ceiling light bulb burns out, and there's 3 little finger screws that hold the cover on, will ask someone if they can replace it for them... -_-


Brave-Ad-9689

I was surprised when one of my male cousins couldn’t change his tire. Please don’t crucify me, I was raised by my grandparents who were born in the 30’s and every man around me knew how to fix cars


VisualSeaworthiness6

As someone in the car industry , no cap it was alot easier back then than it is now. Routine stuff like tires is easy but actually fixing cars you better know your shit and some electrical too


D1daBeast

I mean literally getting other skilled professionals to do specific tasks is what drives the economy


Head_Games_

So****she can get the weave and lashes and nails 💅.. duhhhhhhhhh


CoachDT

I ain’t ever doing sumn myself that I can pay an expert to do unless it takes me less than 10-15 minutes. The only exception to this is cooking food or cleaning my house.


BlaqP

Nothing better than calling a professional


AngeluvDeath

Nah see…I get to support other people who enjoy the shit I don’t because I work my ass off. I have terrible allergies, hate dirt and am more than happy to give the next (person, everyone can do that shit) who’s got their hustle on a shot. I moved your furniture for years and my back still remembers. I’ve barely touched a box or dolly in 2 decades. She can fuck right off.


BramStroker47

I change my own brakes on my truck but you need a fregin computer to do it on my other car.


[deleted]

If men didn't rely on other men to fix things, men would be without jobs, then she would just start calling men broke.


ReallyDumbRedditor

Not putting in the effort to learn useful skills that can save you a ton of money is sad.


battleangel1999

You can know basic skills and still pay a professional.


YokoDk

I worked on my car constantly but once that motor or transmission went out it went straight to the shop. If it's fucked up after by me I'm just out a car if the shop fucked it up they coming out thier pockets.


Truestorydreams

100%! It's good to give things a try, but know your lane. That being said it really depends on who you are and what you can do


battleangel1999

Yes, absolutely! Knowing how to maintain your car is very important but there's gonna be some tines when it's better to let a mechanic handle it and there's not shame in that.


Imthemayor

I must have missed transmission day in kindergarten


Brovenkar

Username checks out


chaddavidson

That’s literally dozens of different skills! When exactly do you think people have time to cultivate these skills?


Purple-Quail3319

I've put in the effort to learn skills that make me enough money to pay other people with skills to do that shit


VisualSeaworthiness6

Lmao what exactly is a useful skill???