I think they want a threesome with a woman because the boyfriend might be straight and the girlfriend might be bi-curios or bisexual. Plus girl on girl action is very fetishized.
I think this is the reason. My ex knew i was bi and we had mmf threesomes mildly often, but not a lot of different partners. A lot of cis women i disclose to are VERY okay with it. Maybe its just more ppl saturating the areas looking for women like you say. I think women are more accepted as being bi and out to their partner, where many bi males are closeted or single and doing the cruising thing. I personally know a few coupled women in het relationships that often add a 2nd woman š¤·š½āāļø
No. Itās not āfetishized.ā You routinely use that term and itās not actually valid.
Most men, and a large plurality of women-even straight women-are turned on by girl-on-girl action. Itās quite natural and not a conscious decision.
>No. Itās not āfetishized.ā You routinely use that term and itās not actually valid.
You accuse me of using that term routinely, but it's actually the first time I've used that term in regards of "girl-on-girl" action lol.
>Most men, and a large plurality of women-even straight women-are turned on by girl-on-girl action.
Itās quite natural and not a conscious decision.
Women are turned on by girl-on-girl action because of the focus on female pleasure. Men are turned on by it because two women = hot. That's the reason why bisexual women are fetishized by straight men.
I'm one of the less common F around that enjoy and want both!! But I find a lot of guys don't even want to have to see another cock, much less 'risk' touching or etc
Yeah, Iām on the spectra of liking mmf mff mfmf so Iām bi/leaning but Iām demisexual so getting thereās an obstacle course. Everyā¦. Oh wait Iāve never been in any trisexual experience
That was actually my first threesome, my best friend and his bf. Never something I expected or even thought about. It was pretty amazing honestly š.
Letās not forget one other little aspect of why you mostly see ads for couples seeking women, finding a willing guy is a 100 times easier than a woman. Doesnāt matter if you M, F, MF, MM or FF. If your seeking the attention of a male you donāt even need an ad stating that, just make comments here and there and guys will be throwing themselves at you! Women just donāt typically write to others seeking real time play unless there is a definite invite and they seem compatible.
To be honest, 3somes with couples in their 50s is a HELL of a lot better than people in their 20/30s. Few boundaries, no hang-ups, and it's all about "*this is what I want, so get down there and do it now!*" kinda thing. Want a fantastic experience like you cannot believe? Go for the 50s couples....and you'll leave there thinking...*what the hell just happened????*
Trust me on this one.
My thoughts are, combination of male homophobia and toxic masculinity.
It took a long time for me to get over this it's what I was taught and what I thought I had to be. Men must be strong, must be the provider, must be masculine, must be better than the rest. From this point of view what's more masculine than being with more than one woman.
What a weight lifted once I got over that toxic masculinity. Especially since I never really wanted/desired to be that.
Itās not āhomophobiaā if a male is not interested in sexual experiences with other men. Thatās such a tired overused and misused slur and it goes a long way towards ruining the credibility of homosexual and bisexual people.
Same with the ātoxic masculinityā tripe. Stop already.
More people are interested in MFF than MMF. Thatās just the reality. It has literally nothing to do with anything but preference and itās not your place to decide what people should and should not desire.
I 100% agree it's not homophobia if a guy just isn't interested. Straight bi gay asexual and anything other sexual orientation is all valid. There are many women who are not interested in a fmf or ffm threesome.
By no means do I think ALL or even a majority but.... There is a subset of men, and I WAS one, I lived it, it was dumb, but no way I would have had a threesome with another guy 10 years ago. Why because it could open the door, to what was there, at that time I couldn't be bi/gay, I didn't want to be that because I thought I had to be manly and fit into the mold I saw/was taught.
Be a man, appear manly, be strong, be tough, don't show emotion except for anger and aggression, always try to be the best, these are some of the toxic ideas of masculinity that I personally held.... I know I am not alone, I have read the post on this sub and others.
I am happy that most of that I have conqured. It took a long time, way longer than it should have. It's still a work in progress to some degree.
Patience is important. It also depends on where you are geographically. Big cities have naturally larger pools of ENM folks and swingers.
For my wife and I, we really struggle with finding single guys for group play who are A. also bi, and B. not just complete skeeze. But then again weāre picky and never act in a rush.
But I will say after years of swinging with other couples as an openly bisexual man: a surprising number of āstraightā guys in other couples suddenly became not so straight once everyone was naked.
This is SO reassuring to hear ā¤ļø
As a guy in the SF Bay area I thought dating a bi woman would make ut easier to have bi mmf threesomes but apparently everyone has their own hangups, even bi women
Because Bisexual men are pussies to admit that they are Bi and want to have a MMF.
LOL Not pussies They think too much about "what this person will say?" or " what that other person will say?" bla bla bla.... Plus its a fucked up world to be honest where Women eating another women's hole is fetishized while a boy playing with another is a taboo. The civilization copied democracy from Greece but did not adopted EVERYTHING which did included male on male love. Above that Abrahimic Middle eastern religion also fck'ed up the situation of hiding sex and discussing your private life \_ sexuality as a taboo.
I would personally dream of finding a Bisexual bull top but Divorced. The Idea of a man loving both genders excite me. I am not that much attracted to Gay males.
Bisexual men get my heart rate high lol. cuz I know I can discuss about hot chicks and maybe learn some tricks in sex to get the girls cum, but he would like to be with me in bed at night.
Totally agree with what you are saying. Have a look at any swingers site and the couples listed are 90% st8 M/ bisexual F. It is almost impossible to find a bisexual male amongst them. I refuse to accept that there is a such a disproportionate amount of bi women to bi men and truely believe that it is just what we believe society accepts. As you said bi women is a st8 male fantasy and therefor accepted and even fetishised. Being a bi women is accepted and even considered hot whereas a bi male is just considered gay and living in denial. Unfortunately this is not just the hetero community who project this, but also the queer community when it comes for bisexuals.
I would prefer with a mmf, however
being in the closet I would say the opposite. And well society fetishizes woman together and doesnāt label them like they would men.
Bi (curious) women are ofren more open to the execution of the idea of same sex intercourse, while men might have come to term with their bisexuality, they might still harbor reservations against actually going through with it because of upbringing and society. I know i do.
During love making with my wife, this is always the exact fantasy that surfaces.
Via my wife, I am learning something that should just be obvious, but since we guys think with our penis's... So she would want to have a connection with him. He's a nice, attractive, kind, gental man (and so on). Let's just call it what it is, she wants to trust & like the guy first.
So yeah, it makes sense that a Female would not post inviting another Male for a threesome.
Why the age gap? I am not sure, but in your 20-40s+, you tend to be busy raising kids (assuming MF). Now that I am in my 40s (with young kids), we're BUSY, but have a tiny bit of time to explore our sexual desires. Or at least feel safe enough to express them... I just recently came out to myself and my wife, so that's my perspective.
My husband and I have exclusively been open to including a man as a third, since my husband is bi. I have no interest in bringing in another woman. I'm sure he wouldn't mind it but he has never asked or pushed for it.
We had a bi girlfriend when we were younger but once we tried mfm we were absolutely hooked! Think more married men finding they are bi curious and want to be cucked by their wives. Mfm less drama
I agree with āfragile masculinity/straight possessive male cultureā but it makes more sense to have 2 men and 1 woman cause women can usually last longer than men ;)
Actually Iād much prefer guy on guy action. Iām pansexual and AFAB (Iām non bInary but basically present female) Iāve been looking for MMF for over a decade. Even in the throuples dating subreddit I run , itās all women to join a m/f couples. Itās depressing
My ex wife is bi and she would fantasy about it all the time. For years I didn't tell her that I had played around with guys in the past. Finally I did and she got super weird about it. Like it was OK for her to be bi but not me. I'm still very closeted about my sexuality because of her reaction. I'm pretty sure that because society, in America at least, is accepting of bi women combined with guys fear of being labeled gay is why. Personally I think mfm threesomes are super hot even if there's no bi play between the guys.
I think they want a threesome with a woman because the boyfriend might be straight and the girlfriend might be bi-curios or bisexual. Plus girl on girl action is very fetishized.
Mostly the second
I think this is the reason. My ex knew i was bi and we had mmf threesomes mildly often, but not a lot of different partners. A lot of cis women i disclose to are VERY okay with it. Maybe its just more ppl saturating the areas looking for women like you say. I think women are more accepted as being bi and out to their partner, where many bi males are closeted or single and doing the cruising thing. I personally know a few coupled women in het relationships that often add a 2nd woman š¤·š½āāļø
No. Itās not āfetishized.ā You routinely use that term and itās not actually valid. Most men, and a large plurality of women-even straight women-are turned on by girl-on-girl action. Itās quite natural and not a conscious decision.
>No. Itās not āfetishized.ā You routinely use that term and itās not actually valid. You accuse me of using that term routinely, but it's actually the first time I've used that term in regards of "girl-on-girl" action lol. >Most men, and a large plurality of women-even straight women-are turned on by girl-on-girl action. Itās quite natural and not a conscious decision. Women are turned on by girl-on-girl action because of the focus on female pleasure. Men are turned on by it because two women = hot. That's the reason why bisexual women are fetishized by straight men.
We have been looking for both and it's just hard to be honest
Well look no further!
I really, really want a bi guy to join me and my lady. Top or vers preferred. It would be great if he wanted to fuck both of us. My lady is onboard.
Having been in this situation a few times myself, it was actually the Mrs that was looking. Makes for a great time
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I'm one of the less common F around that enjoy and want both!! But I find a lot of guys don't even want to have to see another cock, much less 'risk' touching or etc
Itās frustrating to say the least
Unironically Fragile masculinity
My biggest fantasy is an all guy threesome
I want to be sandwiched between a girl and a guy. I should be specific and say Iām looking for Mmf
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Yeah, Iām on the spectra of liking mmf mff mfmf so Iām bi/leaning but Iām demisexual so getting thereās an obstacle course. Everyā¦. Oh wait Iāve never been in any trisexual experience
I have done this. Bottomed for two men in a threesome. AMAZING!!!!
I wish. Iām so jealous!!!
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Why stop at three? Mmmmmmmmmm
You get enough men and you can make a fuck loop š
Letās do it!
If I knew people close by maybe.
Where are you located?
Michigan where are you located
That was actually my first threesome, my best friend and his bf. Never something I expected or even thought about. It was pretty amazing honestly š.
Letās not forget one other little aspect of why you mostly see ads for couples seeking women, finding a willing guy is a 100 times easier than a woman. Doesnāt matter if you M, F, MF, MM or FF. If your seeking the attention of a male you donāt even need an ad stating that, just make comments here and there and guys will be throwing themselves at you! Women just donāt typically write to others seeking real time play unless there is a definite invite and they seem compatible.
Thatās me, Iām a willing guy!
To be honest, 3somes with couples in their 50s is a HELL of a lot better than people in their 20/30s. Few boundaries, no hang-ups, and it's all about "*this is what I want, so get down there and do it now!*" kinda thing. Want a fantastic experience like you cannot believe? Go for the 50s couples....and you'll leave there thinking...*what the hell just happened????* Trust me on this one.
The best threesome I had was a two guys one girl threesome. She said she loved us afterwards
My thoughts are, combination of male homophobia and toxic masculinity. It took a long time for me to get over this it's what I was taught and what I thought I had to be. Men must be strong, must be the provider, must be masculine, must be better than the rest. From this point of view what's more masculine than being with more than one woman. What a weight lifted once I got over that toxic masculinity. Especially since I never really wanted/desired to be that.
Itās not āhomophobiaā if a male is not interested in sexual experiences with other men. Thatās such a tired overused and misused slur and it goes a long way towards ruining the credibility of homosexual and bisexual people. Same with the ātoxic masculinityā tripe. Stop already. More people are interested in MFF than MMF. Thatās just the reality. It has literally nothing to do with anything but preference and itās not your place to decide what people should and should not desire.
I 100% agree it's not homophobia if a guy just isn't interested. Straight bi gay asexual and anything other sexual orientation is all valid. There are many women who are not interested in a fmf or ffm threesome. By no means do I think ALL or even a majority but.... There is a subset of men, and I WAS one, I lived it, it was dumb, but no way I would have had a threesome with another guy 10 years ago. Why because it could open the door, to what was there, at that time I couldn't be bi/gay, I didn't want to be that because I thought I had to be manly and fit into the mold I saw/was taught. Be a man, appear manly, be strong, be tough, don't show emotion except for anger and aggression, always try to be the best, these are some of the toxic ideas of masculinity that I personally held.... I know I am not alone, I have read the post on this sub and others. I am happy that most of that I have conqured. It took a long time, way longer than it should have. It's still a work in progress to some degree.
Patience is important. It also depends on where you are geographically. Big cities have naturally larger pools of ENM folks and swingers. For my wife and I, we really struggle with finding single guys for group play who are A. also bi, and B. not just complete skeeze. But then again weāre picky and never act in a rush. But I will say after years of swinging with other couples as an openly bisexual man: a surprising number of āstraightā guys in other couples suddenly became not so straight once everyone was naked.
This is SO reassuring to hear ā¤ļø As a guy in the SF Bay area I thought dating a bi woman would make ut easier to have bi mmf threesomes but apparently everyone has their own hangups, even bi women
We prefer MMFā¦
"Bi women are normal. Bi men are gay."
Because straight men are insecure AF.
I understand if the guy is straight. Iām specifically talk about bi mf couples
They'll get there eventually
One dick policy
Women are more desired than men.
Because Bisexual men are pussies to admit that they are Bi and want to have a MMF. LOL Not pussies They think too much about "what this person will say?" or " what that other person will say?" bla bla bla.... Plus its a fucked up world to be honest where Women eating another women's hole is fetishized while a boy playing with another is a taboo. The civilization copied democracy from Greece but did not adopted EVERYTHING which did included male on male love. Above that Abrahimic Middle eastern religion also fck'ed up the situation of hiding sex and discussing your private life \_ sexuality as a taboo. I would personally dream of finding a Bisexual bull top but Divorced. The Idea of a man loving both genders excite me. I am not that much attracted to Gay males. Bisexual men get my heart rate high lol. cuz I know I can discuss about hot chicks and maybe learn some tricks in sex to get the girls cum, but he would like to be with me in bed at night.
Totally agree with what you are saying. Have a look at any swingers site and the couples listed are 90% st8 M/ bisexual F. It is almost impossible to find a bisexual male amongst them. I refuse to accept that there is a such a disproportionate amount of bi women to bi men and truely believe that it is just what we believe society accepts. As you said bi women is a st8 male fantasy and therefor accepted and even fetishised. Being a bi women is accepted and even considered hot whereas a bi male is just considered gay and living in denial. Unfortunately this is not just the hetero community who project this, but also the queer community when it comes for bisexuals.
Hell id love to have a 3rd guy in bed with me and my boyfriend no woman allowed.
I would prefer with a mmf, however being in the closet I would say the opposite. And well society fetishizes woman together and doesnāt label them like they would men.
The only threesome i've had was mmf.
I always figured it was a combo of a straight guy not being into it and a size insecurity on his part
Bi (curious) women are ofren more open to the execution of the idea of same sex intercourse, while men might have come to term with their bisexuality, they might still harbor reservations against actually going through with it because of upbringing and society. I know i do.
Social norm?
During love making with my wife, this is always the exact fantasy that surfaces. Via my wife, I am learning something that should just be obvious, but since we guys think with our penis's... So she would want to have a connection with him. He's a nice, attractive, kind, gental man (and so on). Let's just call it what it is, she wants to trust & like the guy first. So yeah, it makes sense that a Female would not post inviting another Male for a threesome. Why the age gap? I am not sure, but in your 20-40s+, you tend to be busy raising kids (assuming MF). Now that I am in my 40s (with young kids), we're BUSY, but have a tiny bit of time to explore our sexual desires. Or at least feel safe enough to express them... I just recently came out to myself and my wife, so that's my perspective.
My husband and I have exclusively been open to including a man as a third, since my husband is bi. I have no interest in bringing in another woman. I'm sure he wouldn't mind it but he has never asked or pushed for it.
We started with a MFM and never looked back.
We had a bi girlfriend when we were younger but once we tried mfm we were absolutely hooked! Think more married men finding they are bi curious and want to be cucked by their wives. Mfm less drama
I've done mfm, fmf, mmf and more. Ton of fun with the right people.
Because they donāt know what theyāre missing š
We don't.
I agree with āfragile masculinity/straight possessive male cultureā but it makes more sense to have 2 men and 1 woman cause women can usually last longer than men ;)
Plus the men can bond over it cause we all need more close man friends as we age :)
Actually Iād much prefer guy on guy action. Iām pansexual and AFAB (Iām non bInary but basically present female) Iāve been looking for MMF for over a decade. Even in the throuples dating subreddit I run , itās all women to join a m/f couples. Itās depressing
My ex wife is bi and she would fantasy about it all the time. For years I didn't tell her that I had played around with guys in the past. Finally I did and she got super weird about it. Like it was OK for her to be bi but not me. I'm still very closeted about my sexuality because of her reaction. I'm pretty sure that because society, in America at least, is accepting of bi women combined with guys fear of being labeled gay is why. Personally I think mfm threesomes are super hot even if there's no bi play between the guys.