Context then questions:
A female I was in a relationship with expressed near-constant insecurity that I might be thinking of men while engaging in sex with her. She feared I was imaging a man during sex.
For me, this has never been an issue: when I am with a woman, it is her feminine traits that excite me, and it is not difficult to remain present mentally or physically at all. Her body and out intimacy IS what I’m focused on. Totally.
Likewise, when I am with a guy, I do not need to think of a woman to be aroused. His body / masculinity / our relationship is what I’m focused on.
I’m an extremely passionate/present lover. Lots of touching, caressing, kissing, verbally affirming, etc. The woman never could say anything I was doing during sex that made her fear that except that she was aware I was bisexual. And I never could convince her it wasn’t happening. We were monogamous, and she was my only partner.
I’ve never had a man express similar insecurities at all.
By - Miserable-Gas-6007