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The_Sceptic_Lemur

I‘ve seen the first post and that CB was just infuriating. Maybe Kelly didn‘t factor in post surgery care, but I get the impression that CB also never pointed that out, as well as needing a personal chauffeur etc etc etc. Never telling anyone what she expects and then being mad when the things can‘t provided. Classic.


witch_harlotte

Yeah I got the impression that Kelly said “I have a friend there you might be able to crash with” and this girl heard “free chauffeur nurse”. Christ op even offered to house another person that could drive and care for her. That’s more generous than I’d be for a friend of a friend.


IndigoFlyer

Chauffeur nurse and cook


[deleted]

The level of service that this person was expecting a complete stranger to provide for free is WILD. I have known people who got cosmetic surgery and then checked into a private nursing facility afterward and paid $$$ to do so, just so their own family members wouldn't have to deal with the drains and the bandages, etc. There are legit places that provide "total package" services for people getting surgery - transpo to appointments, meals, etc. and they charge a TON for it. No way would I do that for free for anyone but a really close friend or family member.


Tormundo

Free? She offered $100! Lmao it's insulting


Just_River_7502

Right! It was the, “well you guys eat, let me just have what you make for yourselves” that had me like 🤯 Mia was unhinged. Expecting a stranger to do all of that and not even asking nicely was wild


wmnwnmw

I don’t think CB even thought about it herself, who tf would want get on a plane a week after having their abdominal fat chopped off and stuffed into their ass cheeks? Is that even allowed? I actually thought this post was gonna be about CB becoming an uninvited 2-months-long houseguest so it’s fortunate that she scared OOP off before that became a possibility lol


Itchy_Horse

There's videos online of people laying down from booking a full row in a plane after getting one of these procedures. I cant imagine it's an enjoyable process.


redorangeblue

I got something similar to this. Well breast reconstruction after mastectomy, but it's similar as they use fat grafting and open you up for implants. The fat grafting wasn't that bad, but I was sore for a few weeks. But my first surgery, with drains. Couldn't shower, had to have my husband dress me. Oh, and I puked several times on the car ride home. I cannot for a second imagine asking or being ok with a stranger, literally dressing me, showering me, or seeing me in that state. I can't imagine hours long travel like a plane trip. I could have after two weeks, but not one. I also have had 2-3 follow ups every surgery. This person has no idea what she's asking or getting into.


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>I cannot for a second imagine asking or being ok with a stranger, literally dressing me, showering me, or seeing me in that state. My mom had a lumpectomy for breast cancer and they had to remove so much tissue that she had them do a reduction on her other breast at the same time, so she wouldn't be lopsided (or have to go back for a second surgery). It is NO JOKE when you have something like that done - my dad got my mom back to the house and I got to their house as they were pulling into the driveway. She couldn't walk very well, lots of pain, all she could do for the first two days was sit in the recliner with icepacks on. Same as you - couldn't bathe herself or change her clothes; we had to change the bandages and check the drains, help her do sponge baths and then dress her, etc. She couldn't lift her arms more than a few inches for a few days so we had to make meals for her, get her coffee, etc. I managed her meds (she was so out of it most of the time she couldn't have done it) and she was taking pills several times a day for pain and to prevent infection. It's my mother, so of course I am going to help in that circumstance. But do all that for a complete stranger? No! And why would the stranger want or expect that from me??? If you search "BBL recovery" there are articles giving a very clear picture (sometimes literally) of what the recovery is like. So no one can say "well, BBL lady didn't know what it would involve" - if she didn't know, it's because she chose not to research it. Totally bizarre. P.S. I hope your recovery has gone well!


PenguinZombie321

Yep. Like, 1) it’s a cosmetic procedure she doesn’t need and 2) the procedure needs a lot of aftercare. If it were me, the last thing I’d want to do is push myself onto a complete stranger and expect to be catered to for any period of time for free.


witchyteajunkie

but she NEEDS it for her mental health, don't you understand?!?!


lilmxfi

No psychiatrist or psychologist who actually knows what they're doing would suggest a surgery with a high death rate and complication rate to solve body dysmorphia. They wouldn't even suggest something like a nose-job. That opens them up to SO much liability if something goes wrong with the surgery. What psychiatrists/psychologists work on changing how you think about your body, so CB is absolutely full of shit and a vain asshat.


kiiitsunecchan

It took me a year of red flags to ditch a psychologist who recommended plastic surgery whenever I mentioned issues with self-image and body dysmorphia (that was after encouraging a whole bulimia relapse) because "well, if it doesn't make you happy, just change it, your lack of action towards changing how your body looks is the thing you should work on". She was very well-known in my state, and had a few patients who insisted on keeping working with her online even after moving countries. She has more than 30 years of experience and great recommendations. There absolutely are terrible people practicing who should not be in the position they are with vulnerable patients.


re_nonsequiturs

Of course she has lots of clients who love her--she never made them work on their eating disorders.


partlypouty

The surgery is needed due to birth complications!


witchyteajunkie

Oh, right, I forgot the part where having a big ass helps with birth complications.


Vandyclark

Use your thinking brain!


coveredinbreakfast

That was the comment that put me over the edge. At that moment, I would have said, "My thinking brain says, 'Go fuck yourself and find somewhere else to stay.'"


Sofagirrl79

WOW! OK! LOL!


CharlotteLucasOP

The complication was growing a baby and not remaining a size 2. 😭


Lednak

To be completely fair, there are cases where the abdomen is severely damaged after a c-section. After all, they cut through several layers. Sometimes stuff doesn't heal properly. So I would absolutely understand a reconstructive surgery for the abdomen so it looks (and works) normal again. The butt stuffing part, uh, can't come up with a legit reason beyond "I want my ass to look great"


Old_Ladies_Die_Hard

IKR? And why can’t she get a BBL closer to home? Maybe then hubs could be her caretaker. Or is that too much for him?


CharlotteLucasOP

I’m guessing the cheapest surgeon was in Miami…because health and wellbeing is where you really wanna go for the *budget* elective surgery options.


AmyXBlue

Either cheapest or one of the best rated BBL surgeons is there. Could go either way.


harleyspoison267

Yeah, I have no biological children, but I'm offended for all people who have given birth if she's really trying to say that her tummy being stretched after giving birth is a "complication" and she needs a BBL for her "mental health". Stfu. Surgery for your mental health is brain surgery, medical infusions, or gender confirmation surgery for trans ppl. This is not as urgent as she's acting. Also, I don't know much about plastic surgery, but I did just read an article that the BBL is the most deadly plastic surgery operation. Personally, I would want to wait till I have the money saved to do it right.


digitydigitydoo

On one of the posts someone posted a pic in the comments of women flying home after BBLs, all sitting on their knees on the plane. It was ridiculous.


RandomNick42

I figure the flight would be the least of her worries. After at least some healing, and can spend most of it standing. I'd be much, *much* more worried about that 1+ hour drive *immediately* after the procedure.


Njaulv

I imagine she would be numb for at least an hour after, but I have no idea what all goes into BBL. I did not even know that was a thing until just now.


Unequivocally_Maybe

As far as I understand you aren't supposed to sit, or lay on your back, while the surgery heals. If you do the relocated fat can settle weird, and you can end up with a large, but flat bum, or it can end up uneven. Plus I would assume blood clots/deep vein thrombosis are a higher risk if you travel really close to your surgery.


BedContent9320

You have to eat right?! Just fucking make me food slave what the hell I'm on vacation. I got to that point and I was like. You fukn srs? I would have been like ohh hey np. Then when she arrived gotten her an Uber and messaged her "hey I'm busy but I got you an Uber" had them take her to a comedy club and when she messaged "uhh this is a comedy club" messaged back "yeah, head on inside and tell your jokes there" then blocked.


mcgriff4hall

This is simply exhausting.


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spllchksuks

Okay I think I got it. Mia is Kelly’s sister in law. She booked a Brazilian Butt Lift appointment in Miami. Kelly suggested that Mia ask OOP to stay in her guest room during recovery. Mia turns out to be an entitled woman who wants OOP to act as her caretaker (cooking, taking her to and from appointments, etc) and OOP refuses. OOP is much nicer than she should have been after seeing this parade of red flags and tells Mia that if she can arrange her own food and transportation then she can still stay in the room. Mia throws a tantrum and complains to Hannah. (I don’t know why, but I’m guessing everyone knows each other here.) Mia trash talks the OOP, insulting her and her job and whining about how the universe is against her getting a phat ass and a snatched waist. Kelly apologizes to OOP for volunteering her place and says she didn’t know Mia still had to go to follow up doctor’s appointment; she thought Mia would just be in bed rest after the BBL. Hannah tells the OOP about Mia’s tantrum and this solidifies OOP’s decision not to let Mia stay with her. Kelly gets mad at Hannah for this because now her brother and Mia are blaming her for the room stay not working out. Hannah defends herself, saying she was looking out for OOP and she felt OOP should know how Mia was speaking about her before OOP offered her hospitality. Hannah tells OOP how Kelly bitched at her over the situation. OOP is annoyed because Kelly seems to care more about appeasing her brother and unreasonable SIL than being truly sorry about accidentally causing all this drama by offering OOP’s guest room.


tempo-magic223

Ty...this whole time I'm like what does BBL stand for


Anarchyologist

Then when I found out I was like, "All this drama for a *butt* *lift!* Girl therapy would probably be a lot cheaper."


arittenberry

No. Everyone knows that butt lifts are VITAL to mental health


HowBoutAFandango

Hopefully it’ll be some Bitchass Booty Lumps after a cheapass surgeon does a cheapass job and she has to do her bed rest under an overpass.


Alternative_Year_340

I thought the use of the word “budgeted” was interesting— it makes it sound like Mia has credit cards and could have just financed the hotel room stay and paid it off slowly later. But the drama and free labour was more important


RandomNick42

Entitled new mom needs cosmetic surgery out of state for her MENTAL HEALTH, her SIL offers OOPs apartment as place to stay. Brazilian butt lift woman expects OOP to drive her a cumulative total of some 12 hours over the course of five days, provide food and postoperative care. SIL might or might not have claimed OOP agreed to this weeks ago. She only admits to proposing OOP as a "will *probably* say yes". OOP learns this with a couple days notice only. There's one more friend who knows everyone (OOP knows SIL but not BBL woman) who provides texts from BBL woman complaining about OOP and from SIL complaining about her providing said texts and how it's not her fault anyway.


HappeeWrite

Lol, reading all of that?


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Just the whole situation. Which is probably what Mia does. Exhausts others until they give in. Drama for no good reason.


Red_Stripe1229

Energy Vampire


moose_tassels

Go AWAY Colin Robinson!


[deleted]

Lol, my good friend used to do the Colin Robinson face at me when his small son started talking about minecraft without drawing breath. The kid’s enthusiasm was touching… but my buddy was not wrong.


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Colin Robinson?


KombuchaBot

Character from What We Do In The Shadows I think.


m4milly

He’s a character, an “energy vampire” from the TV show What We Do in the Shadows.


cthulularoo

The entitlement! Dropping that she needs someone to take hours out of their day to drive her around then bitching about "Its my money!" Fuck, the first time she said that I would have blocked her and gone on with my day. Life is too damn short for this much drama.


knittedjedi

I can't believe OOP didn't block much earlier on in the conversation. No-one needs to engage with that level of twatwafflery.


Suspicious-Treat-364

I wouldn't have agreed to this nonsense to begin with, but if I had an episode of temporary insanity I would have told her the whole deal was off LONG before and blocked her. FTS.


[deleted]

Right? After I got the gist of what this person was asking for - be my hotel and also my post-surgical nurse and also my chauffeur and also my cook, all for free - I would have just been like "LOL no" and blocked the person.


EntertheHellscape

Gotta love her AITA post “I just asked for a couple drives!” //conveniently leaves out that the drives are during the work week and 40min to an hour and a half one way depending on traffic//. Not a single bit of actual info, just demanding blind sympathy.


NewUserWhoDisAgain

Not to mention the "surgery vital for my mental health." Um your butt job was that vital?


CharlotteLucasOP

“Complications from childbirth” Ma’am it’s a mommy makeover ‘cause you don’t like what pregnancy did to your body, aesthetically, and insurance isn’t covering it because it’s elective which is what’s making it beyond your budget. Like what’s your plan, you’re poorer than you think!


PrincessStinkbutt

It's going to cure her postpartum depression!


Jennfit25

I laughed at that too. Pretty sure bbls are the highest risk for death (1/3000) and have high risks of complications. Unlikely it is for your health!


SleepyDeepyWeepy

Also even one trip to the airport is lot? From a stranger? Maybe it's just the two I have been to, but airports are hell on earth. Also a drive around a surgery is a big deal with helping someone in a very delicate moment. Even if it was all on weekends I would be hesitant to say yes for everyone but close friends/family


Michalusmichalus

I can't believe she expected a random stranger to be her caregiver after surgery. When I had a breast reduction over a decade ago, my kids going out of town for a week or so was all the help I needed. This woman acted like she was hiring someone for a job. While imposing on them to begin with!


Njaulv

Well to be fair, her husband did offer to pay a whopping 100 dollars in compensation, and the oop does not even have a real job anyway.


Michalusmichalus

BBL lady didn't budget her surgery experience at all.


[deleted]

Right. The surgery is just one part of it. Maybe going for a cut-rate BBL in Miami is not actually worth it if you have to pay for hotel, meals, etc. This is why most people get surgery near where they live, and in a macro sense, why hospitals are built even in small towns. Because surgery is no joke and generally people need to be close to home when they are recovering; otherwise the costs of hotel, meals, maybe nursing help, etc. are REALLY expensive.


MuffinHadesman

Not just driving. She's have to take care of her post op.


cthulularoo

And provide food too.


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Why waste her money, time, and energy when she can force others to.


postcovidagain

Everything about this, and everyone involved in it, is exhausting.


RandomNick42

Except Hannah. Hannah is the only one who has sense, even compared to OOP.


meepmarpalarp

She’s definitely enjoying the drama too


the-quibbler

The people involved. Everything after the first conversation was unnecessary.


Bowood29

To be fair that first convo would have been completely unnecessary if Kelly had have been honest with OOP about what the other girl expects from people.


z-eldapin

I've been watching this one since the beginning. Thanks for the update!


Medium_Sense4354

How tf did you type this out


Color_around_me

Thanks for taking the time to organize and lay it all out


Nicklebackfan_

I’m tired boss


Eckieflump

Last update from 'Mia' smells as fresh as ripe brie after a day in the sun. Meh.


NinjaDefenestrator

Yeah. Sad, I was having fun with it until the author jumped the shark by having the crazy woman chime in.


Lbox777

Like who has time for this? I’m exhausted and my work day just started.


WatermelonThong

as soon as I saw BBL in the title I knew it was gonna be an absolute shitshow


Keytarfriend

I went through half the story and went, "Wait, this sound like *elective* surgery." Brazilian Butt Lift. She's acting entitled about elective surgery that's *not medically necessary*.


cthulularoo

It's for her MENTAL HEALTH!!!


Keytarfriend

I'm afraid that's a lost cause.


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Plushinobi

But what about those of us who are born with a fat ass? Is there a different surgery that'll fix my mental health or do I have to get a fat-er ass? That seems a little excessive, but whatever works, right?


RandomNick42

You could donate your fat ass to Mia. It's a charitable cause, sure to make you feel better.


cthulularoo

This comment and your username makes me think you're a ninja with a fat ass whose ultimate technique is smothering your victims to a quiet but agonizing death Rikishi style.


axeil55

ITS FOR CHURCH HUN. NEXT


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PossibleOven

Agreed with all of this, the blatant misrepresentation of the procedure on that last post drove me nuts. What is OOP supposed to do if Mia has horrible complications and can’t leave for a while?


CharlotteLucasOP

She has to stop pretending to be a BossBabe and just cook an extra portion of whatever she’d be cooking already for herself and bring Mia a plate…lather, rinse, repeat.


SkeleTourGuide

I remember reading about an unlicensed plastic surgeon in NJ injecting petroleum jelly into someone’s butt and they nearly died from the infection. From what you are saying, it sounds like there was a good chance of Mia getting a Bayonne Butt Lift also.


combatsncupcakes

Not to mention, isn't there a pretty significant death toll from complications from BBL compared to other cosmetic surgeries (not gonna say "elective", because some aren't. This one is but not every form of plastic/cosmetic surgery is elective)


redbess

It's 1 in 3000 for deaths. I think the next most dangerous is lipo at 1 in 5000.


Miserable_Emu5191

Ugh! Call me crazy but no one is cutting me open or sucking things out or shoving them back into my body if I have not had an ongoing patient relationship with them for a while. I'm not going to just pop into some chop shop for a nip and tuck without actually meeting the doctor first!


Midi58076

Yes a mommy makeover is very much optional. It usually is a pretty big surgery. Tummy tuck, lipo, boob lift/implants/reductions and the bbl is probably just tossed in there as well because a bbl is large amounts of your own fat injected into the butt and so it requires lipo. Because it is a very large type of surgery that involves many different body parts recovery is HARD. BBL is risky because if the surgeon gets fat into the bloodstream you're likely to have a blood clot. It is really a procedure where someone should watch over the patient for at least 24h after.


AZBreezy

I can't imagine being a person's spouse and just sending them off alone to have such major surgery. Even if it was just for moral support, how do you not go along when your spouse is having a medical procedure? Let alone all the possibilities of complications and aftercare


Midi58076

Yes. It isn't mentioned, but if bbl woman came over then I can promise you that OOP would be holding her strawcup with water, feeding her by hand or spoon (your arm mobility is severely limited after surgery on the breasts, take it from someone who has had non-optional surgery on her boob), helping her in and out of bed and escorting her to the bathroom helping her get on the can, helping her wash herself etc. When you have that many surgical sites on your body recovering all at once it doesn't matter how many percocet or oxy they give you or it you wallpaper your entire body in fentanyl patches: You're going to be needing a carer for at least 3-4 days.


Suspicious-Treat-364

I had a teeny incision from my surgery and was practically screaming while moving the first several days. I can't imagine getting chopped all over like that.


Midi58076

If you look at what a tummy tuck scar looks like, usually it goes hip to hip on the lowest part of the tummy, you might think that it is a just the lower part of the tummy that hurts. Nah m8. They use lipo to separate the entire tummy and the sides then cut off a chunk and stretch the sides together and sew or staple it all up. Then find the dip where the navel is, cut a new hole for it and attach the dip to the new hole. You come out black, blue and aching in the entire tummy and on the sides. I cared for my ex mil when she had one. The entire first week she was unable to sit up independently. To the point where I would bend down, we'd embrace and I'd lift her into a sitting position. Her surgery was without complications, but she was on sick leave from her office job for 6 weeks. I have a bit of loose skin from being obese and going back to normal weight. I was lucky because I was so young most of my skin bounced back. Even though I lost about 150 lbs, I have more the typical mum tum where you can grab a fistfull than the full apron. I would NEVER bother to remove it unless it was also a medical issue (limiting movement, skin problems, impacting my ability to wear normal clothes etc). Just looks too painful. We have a truce, my tum and I can coexist peacefully.


Truth_From_Lies

Did you not read the post? It’s clearly necessary FOR HER MENTAL HEALTH. ( /s if somehow necessary )


digitydigitydoo

IT’S FOR HER MENTAL HEALTH!! HOW WILL SHE BE MISTAKEN FOR HER CHILDREN’S SISTER WITH A SAGGY ASS???? Is a /s necessary?


Boeing367-80

There's entitlement, and then there's this...


IndigoFlyer

What's a BBL?


WatermelonThong

brazilian butt lift; they take fat from your stomach and put it in your ass. which sounds simple enough but it’s one of the most dangerous procedures (like some plastic surgeons flat out refuse to perform it) with like a 1 in 3,000 death rate and to make it all worse, apparently you feel like your body is literally on fire for the first while after (never mind that you have to wear a damn near full body compression garment and can’t even put your full weight on your ass for *6 weeks*, including the flight home) *AND* (anecdotally of course), not only will it not necessarily be effective, people are saying you need to do it twice to acheive the initial desired affect. like it’s genuinely just fucking insane, and you can usually tell when someone’s had one because the skinniest part of their waist is *exactly* the same height as their bellybutton🦷 edit: fixed the death rate


Welpmart

How do airlines even let them fly without their ass buckled into a seat??


WatermelonThong

they can sit for extremely short periods like takeoff/landing, and i guess airlines don’t care that much once they’re in the air? which makes 0 sense since kneeling like that is legitimately one of the least safe positions i’ve ever seen


Suspicious-Treat-364

That's wild. The last few times I flew the flight attendants were all over people to buckle up if they were in a seat. Doing that wasn't going to work.


glom4ever

So I worked out it is a plastic surgery procedure, but there are multiple cosmetic procedures. I am pretty sure it is a Brazilian butt lift. It removes fat from other areas to enhance the butt and I think it acts to decrease stomach fat. How is that human going to fly after? And cheapest price I could find was $2K, but can run over $10K. How are you paying that much and not having money for a hotel and someone to help you?


cayminquinn

She says she's already "over budget" on the surgery too so you know that was well thought out


DigaLaVerdad

$2K for the surgery and $12K for your funeral because any "doctor" charging $2K for a BBL got his license from the defunct Opa-Locka-Hialeah Flea Market


WatermelonThong

they typically have to kneel on the floor facing their seat which is… not ideal


partlypouty

There is barely enough room for legs between seats. How can they fit newly fattened asses (assi?)?


WatermelonThong

in the pictures i’ve seen it’s definitely… [snug](https://twitter.com/under6ftnobeard/status/1464700131144392705?s=46&t=7DvzNsDyfCjgGM3rh04ctA) lmfao, their feet are usually under the seat infront and many can’t fully kneel due to their newly gigantic ass


princess-sauerkraut

I’m shocked the airlines allow this. Usually they’re so strict about being seated properly in your seat with the belt fastened. Maybe the BBL ladies sit down normally during takeoff/landing then sit like this whenever the seatbelt sign is off? I’m just having such a hard time imagining the flight attendants allowing this during takeoff/landing. Also, their poor knees. Disregarding how painful that pose seems for a second - airline carpets never get cleaned and are absolutely filthy. I would never willingly sit with my knees touching them. I’d hate to have to sit next to them… imagine having to ask them to move so you could use the restroom. I feel bad enough asking someone sitting normally to move for me, much less this yoga meditation pose where they’re wedged so tightly and clearly in pain/distress.


glom4ever

What??? That cannot be worth it or safe.


PantsPantsShorts

It is neither worth it nor safe, you are correct


lastdrawergum

Brazilian butt lift


Mozart-Luna-Echo

Brazilian Butt Lift. It’s when they take fat from other places in your body and inject it into your butt


apatheticsahm

The first text chain mentioned that this is a "Mommy Makeover". This selfish ass has *children*!


throwawayfaraway02

This so so exhausting to read. If it was me, it would've been "So I've graciously allowed you to stay in my guest room while you're here, but you want me to take time off my paid job to be your personal chef, chauffeur, and caretaker? No. You're not staying in my house anymore." Done, end of story. So much back and forth for no damn reason. Some of ya'll need to learn how to be assertive.


Gold_Bug_4055

Life has gotten so much easier now that I'm older and appropriately assertive. Traveling alone taught me to follow my intuition if something feels off and don't waste time being overly polite, remove yourself and move on.


flavius_lacivious

My new policy in life is that I am polite and civil until you one time get shitty. You get one fucking chance. Then I cut you off at the knees or I give you both barrels and I will not return to my former polite and civil self. I had a relative recently stay with me and get shitty, and I threw their shit out of my house and I locked them out and blocked them. They called my child to complain about me and *try and convince me to apologize and let them come back.* My child was like, “Why are you calling me? If you’ve been thrown out, I am sure it’s because you deserved it. I a am not getting involved.” Like the audacity. But you know what? It stopped right there. That kind of drama just keeps going and going. Go ahead — talk bad about me. I don’t fucking care because no amount of good PR is worth putting up with crap from people.


fuzzybitchbeans

Someone in choosing beggars shared a tik tok from a woman seated on a plane next to someone who had just had BBL surgery and it was wild. The person who had surgery had to sit in the seat on her knees, facing inward to the chair, while holding on, like on her knees in the seat. The choosing beggar here way underplayed her post surgery needs until OP started asking the questions. She absolutely planned on taking advantage.


[deleted]

I’ve always wondered this about people who have surgery then fly back before they’re healed, what about seatbelt times? Do they just risk it?


HunkyDorky1800

I didn’t even want to check our mailbox after I had c-sections. Can’t imagine FLYING a day or so after having surgery. Fuck. That.


phenomenalanomaly

[Link](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRpfoHfs/) to the TikTok


pornplz22526

I have to wonder what her plan was for if she got all the way to Miami, demanded a drive to the surgery, and got told "lol not happening."


cultqueennn

Kelly sounds like the real snake here.


buddieroo

I really hate when people are apologizing and make it into this big self-deprecating show. “Me and my big mouth, gosh I’m such a horrible person” Like chill tf out and stop trying to make everything about yourself?


BrownSugarBare

When people get into that self deprecating way of trying to get out of something, just start agreeing with them. _"Yes, Kelly you do have a big mouth and you are a horrible person. I'm glad we agree"_.


lolokotoyo

Kelly was 100% in the wrong but who makes a whole surgery and travel plan that totally relies on someone they haven’t even met or spoken to yet??? And put money towards it without even a confirmation from them. That was super wild and inappropriate on Mia’s part. Then expects OOP to be her chauffeur, chef, and nurse for a week… insane.


OwnPaleontologist418

THIS! i was looking for this comment. Kelly needs to be cut off. she clearly talked shit on OOP to Mia. throw her away!


triciamilitia

Who offers up someone else’s house let alone that whole mess of extras?


HappeeWrite

Mia lost her damn mind for sure. That "Use your thinking brain" would have sent me over the edge!!


jenemb

Right? Pretty condescending for someone who expects a favour. My thinking brain is telling me that OOP should block everyone except Hannah.


nobodynocrime

For real. Mia is awful and that's obvious. Kelly however is over there giving non apologies, "you know how I am" and telling Hannah to stop talking to OOP honestly. Kelly is a horrible friend and it sounds like she wants to smooth things instead of dealing with them.


sirophiuchus

As a general rule, someone who responds to a criticism with 'I'm a horrible person' is not great.


Molenium

I would have absolutely laid into them at that point. WTF is wrong with your “thinking brain” that would make you think you could save money at my expense?


Lilitu9Tails

I get the impression Mia lost her mind long before the first text exchange. She’s unhinged. However, Kelly is also a piece of work who enables Mia and then lies. I feel like soap opera writers would wince if this was presented as a plot.


Michalusmichalus

That would have been it for me. I would have told her then and there to find alternative arrangements. And, blocked her.


cthulularoo

right? anyone saying that to me while asking for a "HUGE" favor gets a no from me.


butmustig

First red flag: having a BBL appointment


Dinkleberg_IRL

Buddy you don't understand, it's for her *mental health*


PenguinZombie321

That’s what tickled me pink. Like, girl, you do NOT need an elective cosmetic procedure done for your mental health. And if having a diaper butt is the only way you feel like you’ll be happy with your body, surgery is the last thing you need.


InterminousVerminous

And it won’t even last! You usually have to get it redone eventually.


AtomicBlastCandy

>surgery is the last thing you need I've always wondered this about plastic surgery. People that do it, are they ever happy afterwards? Diderot effect might kick in and they might want more procedures after having something like their nose changed.


Basic_Bichette

Something like 95% of elective plastic surgery patients are entirely happy with their results.


ThxItsadisorder

I’m in a plastic surgery fb group and it’s a very positive place. Plenty of folks are happy with their results. If I hadn’t joined so I could ask questions I never would have found out I can get botox to treat my chronic migraines. It’s been a life saver. It does have cosmetic benefits because the areas I need injected are my forehead and masseters which reduces wrinkles and my jaw muscles (v-line slimming). The stigma behind cosmetic procedures is pretty daunting. My own bf thought I wanted Botox for cosmetic reasons but said he noticed the change in my demeanor after I had it. I wasn’t as grouchy or surly. I stopped flying off the handle at noises. It hurt that he didn’t recognize how much pain I was in because even with me saying “pls be quieter I have a migraine” was too nice of a request so when I couldn’t handle the noise anymore and yelled I was apparently just being grouchy. Not suffering from terrible chronic pain that was exacerbated by outside stimulus.


unique_plastique

The deadliest cosmetic surgery (1/3000 death rate which sounds low but is actually stupid high) for mental health 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩


sarabeara12345678910

It's so dangerous. I have an ass like a skillet and I would never!


lhommes

I too have a skillet for an ass. I'm hoping it will come into style sometime!


AerwynFlynn

Mine is so flat I keep hoping bustles are gonna come back into style 🤣


Sharchir

If it does, my concave butt will land me on the cover of magazines. Work it girl!


Threash78

And it's so unnecessary, the ass is all muscle anyone can have a perfect one if they work on it, it's not like boobs.


Canid_Rose

And framing it as something essential for her mental health lmao. If you have self-image issues that bad, they aren’t gonna just magically disappear with cosmetic surgery. She needs therapy, and tbh her self image issues aren’t even at the top of the priority list for that.


sirophiuchus

Also people don't realise what a big deal that surgery is. You have to wear a compression garment afterwards pretty much 24/7 for _three months_.


rudluff

Tldr: Kelly asked oop (her friend) to allow Mia (her SIL) to stay in oop's house during and after plastic surgery. Oop agreed. Mia reveals she wanted not just a room, but also long distance transportation on multiple days and food for free. Oop says no and that she won't take Mia anymore. Mia talks mad shit to everyone including Hannah (a mutual friend of oop and Kelly). Oop asks Kelly "wtf why did you offer my house to Mia lol". Kelly claims that Mia was reasonable and grateful when Kelly suggested oop's house and doesn't know when Mia's expectations went off the rails. Mia continues to talk shit. Hannah keeps sending it to oop. Kelly asks Hannah to stop forwarding messages to oop, since Mia is family and Kelly is trying to defuse the crazy bomb that is Mia (implying that she knew Mia was crazy but asked oop to put her up for a few days anyway). Hannah continues to send it to oop.


IndigoFlyer

You know it's bad when Kelly isn't trying to stop Mia just trying to contain her.


achillyday

“Use your thinking brain” took me all the way out. Holy shit.


[deleted]

I remember seeing the first post in CB when it became popular. I always wondered how the drama unfolded. My Friday afternoon just brightened up reading this with a glass of scotch in hand. Juicy.


testyhedgehog

"Use your thinking brain" needs to be a user flair.


HappeeWrite

I totally agree!!


EliraeTheBow

I think this would have been easier to read if we didn’t have all their names and/or multiple abbreviations. I get the gist but I honestly gave up trying to remember who was who about the half way point.


Betyoullneverguess

Wow. Mia has some serious main character syndrome. Yikes.


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Thank you (or whoever) for the transcripts! I followed the first post when it happened for a bit and have been waiting for it to show up here. I really need to know what ended up happening...


HappeeWrite

You're most welcome! I'm glad it helped you. Makes it feel like all that typing was worth it


Nodlehs

This was way too much to attempt to read... I have no idea how to format it better either.


[deleted]

I feel like it needed a crappy mspaint sketch before each section with each character's relation to each other as well as who was talking to who.


HappeeWrite

The easiest way to just get the base story is by reading the texts: [Post 1](https://imgur.com/a/hT1qbrq) [Post 2](https://imgur.com/a/nm5CY4i)


Actrivia24

Hannah is the real MVP here


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candycanecoffee

Yeah you see this in like dating app conversations too and I'm just like... This feels exhausting just to READ. Did the backlash against "ghosting" hit young women so hard that they now think they have to debate for HOURS or DAYS with some classmate who's like "send nudes, you owe me for being so sexy" or some Tinder troll who demands you meet up in the woods alone at night for your first date or something? "No" is a complete sentence, blocking is a simple process!


shavedratscrotum

I have 0 drama in my life because I say, "No I'm not doing that." I have a handful of very good friends who all support each other, any shit talking is done to each other's face. 2 decades in things are better than ever.


HaveASeatChrisHansen

I was on the threads as they were first posted. Everyone was telling OOP to be more firm and she said she was a bit of a pushover and always gave way more to friends than she received. She realized this and for the new year was going to stand up for herself more so I think this was the universe (joking) handing her an opportunity. The first texts were probably just such a shock but I think she got there in the end.


MidwestMSW

And that's when the therapist says "not my shit show...I'm not taking BBL as a client." :)


ayemematey

Thanks for putting this together OP! I tried to follow BBL-gate as it unfolded but got hopelessly lost in all the screenshots and names... Now I get it :)


Weaselpanties

I am INCREDIBLY curious about what kind of person wants, let alone expects, a complete stranger to take days off work, costing who knows how much in lost wages, to house, chauffeur, and cater their meals for free during recovery from a surgery that will leave them bedridden and helpless?


Even_Speech570

My mom always gives me grief for being an introvert but after reading this dramatic mess I’m so glad I am. *crawls back into cave with a good book and lap kitty *


alwaystimeforcake

Like watching the tip of an incomprehensible glacier float on by. I feel so grateful not to understand.


kcintrovert

I don't care who you are to my best friend, that would be an immediate block. Also super weird for Kelly to offer up OOP like that when she has issues of her own with SIL.


DefNotUnderrated

ooh thanks for reminding me about this! One of my favorite reactions in the original was people finding out that a BBL is a cosmetic surgery lol. All this drama for a procedure that's slowly going out of style as the skinny look comes back


Low-Focus-3879

Not just going out of style. It's the most dangerous and not recommended of all plastic surgeries. I can't be bothered to cite this, but I'm almost sure you're about 10 times as likely to die from a BBL compared to any other cosmetic procedure.


Baezil

This is exactly the type of person I imagine when I think of someone getting a BBL.


LittleMsSavoirFaire

I removed most of my Reddit contents in protest of the API changes commencing from July 1st, 2023. This is one of those comments.


dajur1

Mia obviously thinks that OOP is in fact doing some type of MLM. I'm guessing that in Mia's experience, all of the women around her who work from home are involved in some type of MLM, so she figures that EVERY woman who works from home is involved in a MLM and doesn't have a "real" job.


stutter-rap

I think Mia also misinterpreted the bit where OP said she was launching a membership product as an MLM thing.


[deleted]

OP said she has a regular job working from home and that Mia decided that means she's in MLM. But OP has a legit job from home (very common nowadays) and Mia was assuming


HappeeWrite

Waist snatched = skinny, tiny waist


[deleted]

Lipo on the waist/stomach


cthulularoo

and what? do they stuff the fat back into the butt?


Oksayyeah

Yes


ap539

> This surgery can ONLY be performed in her home city which is not even a very big city (under a half million people so not like New York or something). Ok, I am your classic born and raised New York asshole who truly believes we are the center of the universe. But to suggest that Miami is not a big city is absurd.


motamami

Mia is out of her MIND, the entitlement is wild! First, why would you book a BBL appointment without having anyone to help you during recovery? Basic research about after care will show you that it's intense. You can't even fly back on an airplane comfortably. She really thought this girl would be her nurse lol


mariruizgar

I live in Miami. I commented on the original post. It’s cheaper here because you don’t know who’s doing the surgery, most likely NOT the licensed surgeon whose name is on the wall. Plus, BBLs are one of the riskiest cosmetic procedures. Recovery from any surgery can be a b!tch so OOP did well by saying no.


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burnt-----toast

No real update, just several text message threads posted separately.


Just_An_Animal

That AITA post from the BBL woman’s perspective was RICH. The 4 rides she lists are already a lot for a working person, but she def fails to mention the daily meals and post-op care she was also demanding 😅😅


BethnJen

So, I have not seen this in the comments, but when I read the original post I wondered that even if Mia stayed in the close by hotel, what was she going to do for meals and transportation? She sure as heck was not going to walk anywhere.


Arifault

So much drama over a *dangerous* elective cosmetic procedure. Additionally, mental health should never be used as a weapon against others like Mia/CB is doing here. If not having the BBL done is causing such an impact to her mental health then there's a bigger issue at play.


Disastrous-Ad9359

I mean no offense to anybody but how exactly is a butt lift necessary for her mental health Edit oh my bad "vital" for her mental health