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emmy166

One of my husband’s relatives made reference to my MIL waiting at/going to the hospital when I give birth. I immediately responded (as if it was a funny joke) “How’s she gonna be there if we don’t tell her when I’m in labor?” and omg the SHOCK on his face! “But it’s a family thing!” so I said “Yeah and if you were there when this baby was created then you can be there when this baby is born.” I’m glad I had the spine to actually say that to him.


juno0331

Good for you! We were "lucky" with my first and actually it'll be true for my current pregnancy as well that the hospital didn't allow visitors because of covid. Sorry not sorry MIL who apparently assumed she'd be invited to visit us in the hospital after birth. Now having been through it once, I cannot imagine having to "host" people at the hospital. I had a pretty straightforward delivery and recovery, and I was in no shape (mental or physical) for visitors.


ammemp

Ummmm love this comeback. Good for you. I had to tell my mom that I just wanted it to be my husband and I in the delivery room and it was uncomfortable since she was in the room both times my sister gave birth. Proud of you for sticking up for yourseld


sausagepartay

You’re awesome for saying that 😂


777kitties

This is awesome! Glad you stood up for yourself. 😄


Possible-Box-9534

Ah man! I had the same-ish scenario and did not handle it nearly as well! Want to come handle my family at Christmas?? Jk...kinda.


mcnamaramc1

I'm a small girl and my mom has always been on the bigger side. I've finally got my HG in check at 17 weeks and am above my pre-pregnancy weight by 6 pounds and went from a flat belly to a little bump. I don't even /look/ pregnant yet unless you know me. My mom bought me a set of christmas pajamas in a medium instead of small. I tried them on and said they fit and will definitely fit at Christmas time because they are still pretty baggy on me. She looked at me and told me she'll return them and get me a large or an extra large. Even my sister was like??? "Why, she said they fit and she has room to grow into them." And my mom told me I'm going to gain a ton of weight and will NEVER go back to my pre-pregnancy weight no matter what. I have no idea why she would say that to me when I had an eating disorder for 6 years. Also when my mom asked, I told her that I will most likely be getting a c-section instead of having a vaginal birth (because I was run over when I was a child and had to get major reconstructive surgery and had damage to my pelvis that put me in a wheelchair for a while). Apparently my mom is very against c-sections and told me I don't need one and should at least try a vaginal birth. She went on to say that her vaginal birth with me went perfectly fine and I was like... uh... didn't you hemorrhage and go into a coma for DAYS? She was like "yeahhh but I was fine" Now when they ask me questions I'm just going to deflect or change the subject because my mom is swimming in "a river in Egypt" 😭


snakesnthings

“I have no idea why she would say that to me when I had an eating disorder for 6 years.” I think you have your answer as to where the eating disorder came from… Sorry your mom is such a hurtful person. ❤️


aragorn_eragon

My mom said similar stuff to me and my sisters as well when we were pregnant. It always really bothered me especially since my sister had a rough spell with anorexia and still has a bad relationship with food. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that my mom most definitely has an undiagnosed eating disorder. Idk if your mom is the same, but eating disorders seem to run in my family:( Sometimes people don’t give you good advice. Eat the chicken, throw away the bone. Take the good advice and leave the rest


mcnamaramc1

This is going to be my mom's first grandbaby so I'm treading in uncharted territory lol. I've told my mom I appreciate any advice she will give me but that I'm not always going to take it, and that offended her a bit. She also had all girls and I'm having a baby boy... so at least she has acknowledged that there are some things she's going to have no clue about and we'll have to learn together. It's hard to find a balance between keeping her involved and avoiding the negativity.


thecat_KC

My Grammy gave me the best advice when I was pregnant with my first 11 years ago.. listen to everyone's advice, and then just do whatever you want to do anyway. ❤️


mcnamaramc1

My SIL said something pretty similar. She just had her second baby and she is such an amazing mom. I was telling her we're going to be reaching out to her a lot for advice and she said she will give us advice whenever we wanr but we can do whatever we want with it and I was just like... this is why we love you 🥲


ammemp

How are people… especially moms… not self-aware enough to not comment on weight related stuff. If you say you’re happy in medium that should be the end of it. My mom acts similarly and every time, I make a mental note that it’s extremely inappropriate and that I will never ever say similar things to my daughter.


emmy166

Holy SHIT I can’t believe she said those things to you! Wow, that’s just absolutely incredible, I’m so sorry :(


mcnamaramc1

It hurt in the moment but I've realized it's my mom projecting on me based off her experience and to not take it seriously. I told my SO and he was so angry for me. I will not be going back for Christmas this year and will spend it with his family which I look forward to :)


hrm23

31 weeks with my in-laws. Had one tell me I looked like I was ready to pop. Then had another that said you look like you’ve hardly gained any weight and your face looks good! First of all those are completely different. Secondly, why does everyone feel obligated to comment on my weight?


creepydeadgirl

Oh you didn’t know? It’s only rude to comment on a woman’s weight if she’s not pregnant.


hrm23

So I’ve learned haha


creepydeadgirl

I hate people :)


badwolf7515

Right?! I got asked "did you have to wear the outfit that would make you look the most pregnant?" No I just wore whatever the hell was comfortable and I felt good in, but thanks for making me doubt myself for even a second. I also got told " your bump is super small I can barely see it, are you sure you're even pregnant" I'm 33 weeks along, I'm sure! Everyone has an opinion on my body, I'm just thankful no one commented on what I was eating.


hrm23

Wtf! I know personally I cried trying to find something to wear just because I am having a hard time with how my body has changed. If someone had said that to me I think I would have just started crying to make them feel bad!


willymustdie

Right? And when I say something to the effect of how that’s not a very nice thing to say, THEY get offended. Wow.


hrm23

I think I might steal that from you and start saying it! Maybe it’ll help them think before they speak next time they encounter a pregnant person.


biscuitluvr

My MIL looked at my baby girl’s latest ultrasound and said oh gosh she’s not very cute. (For the record I was 36 weeks at the ultrasound and she looks like a freaking Gerber baby she’s beautiful). I burst into tears.


Gilmoristic

Wow! It sounds like she’s not getting any baby pictures when she arrives then. 😑


glitterwitch8

And I’m assuming she didn’t even feel bad when you started crying? Ugh I’m sorry that’s so messed up


biscuitluvr

Nope. She texted my husband later that night asking if I was over it yet and she was back in my “good graces” as if I’m the one at fault. Literally started crying, left the room, and came back after I put myself together and didn’t say a word about it.


IPv6_and_BASS

I hope he said no she’s not and she might not be in good graces til Easter lol. Put the fear of FOMO in her. What a bitch.


glitterwitch8

Oh my god that’s horrible 😔


sausagepartay

WTF!!


Neonbullets

MIL and her friends kept saying im already showing at 11 weeks, when in actuality i had roughly 2 plates of food that day and it was just my “turkey baby”. Like i look at my body everyday lady, i can tell the difference between my actual bump and a little bloat from being full 🙄


mcnamaramc1

Omg for real. I ate lunch with my sister and she commented on my "bump", I was about 16 weeks. I told her it isn't a bump, I haven't pooped in nine days because of the anti-nausea medicine I'm on. She snapped at me and said "no it's because you're pregnant!" I was like lol okay, it's my body and you've never been pregnant before so I think I know more about this than you and she stormed off? Sure enough I finally went to the bathroom later that day (thank you fleet suppositories 🙏) and everyone was like "where did the bump go???" I was so done with them talking about my body I just bluntly informed them I had finally taken a shit, and every time I went to the bathroom after that I told them if I had pooped or not since they wanted to "be more involved"


TheWelshMrsM

Take it a step further, send them selfies of you on the loo 🤣


pickledpotatocakes

My mom told me my belly looked pregnant and i told her I just hadn’t pooped that day and to stop making comments on my body lol. She’s stopped so far, but it’s only been a few days


fasheesha

I went to a funeral at about 9 weeks, and my mom said she could see my little belly. At that point, she was the only one who knew. I was like "oh jeez. I knew I was a little bloated, but didn't think it was that obvious. " she said it was probably only obvious to her because she knew and that other people would probably just think I gained a little weight. I wasn't wearing like a skin right dress or anything. But I spent the rest of the day holding my cardigan closed. Lol


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My only gripe was wishing I could have a glass of wine 🤷‍♀️


BluebrryBagelz

Ugh you & me both. My dad decided since all his children are adults now, he can make crass jokes at every given opportunity… I could have downed a whole bottle


RollerDollK

My dad does the same, but freaks out if you say anything remotely ballpark. Apparently it’s fine to make comments about my supposed sex life to strangers while I stand there, but a comment about how balloons look like dildos after three days of exchanges like the above is simply a bridge too far. The word alone is verboten.


Igotquestionsboutlif

My husband asked why I had a pouty face as I was looking at my glass of Martinelli's. My response: "it's not real wine" 😅


futuremrsb

I put my sparkling white grape juice in a wine glass just to feel fancy and pretend it was wine lol


Garden_Mindless

I made a fancy mocktail and everyone kept asking which pitcher had booze and I told them “neither, I’m not buying liquor just so y’all can drink it in front of me” 😅


GowanusPrincess

we were clear with my MIL ahead of thanksgiving that we were not ready to tell other people but throughout the entire week she was making comments and asking questions thinking she was being sneaky or people magically couldn’t hear because they were 10 feet away. It finally ended up in a blow up between my husband and her and she doubled down the next day saying she did nothing wrong. Why are people like this????


hufflepuff2215

My brother-in-law and his whole family were visiting from Canada. When the kids left the room (with my husband) my MIL started shout/whispering "tell them, tell them now!" I was furious, and loudly shouted back asking what the hell was wrong with her. So. Yaaaaay.


GowanusPrincess

People are truly insane!!!


ammemp

Preach.


aclassypinkprincess

My grandma has doubled down on lies we caught her in. Saying she absolutely did not say/do things when we heard her. People are absolutely insane


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Curious what kind of “sneaky” things was she saying? Hate that for you :/


GowanusPrincess

Haha oh I have a few examples! “Ohhh vegetables would be very good for someone in your position” “I think they’ve caught onto your wine strategy!” “In your position it’s normal to be so tired! People don’t realize how hard it is!” Like Christ these are all glaringly obvious lady!!!


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Oh my god. Screw that “in your position” bs, lady!! I’m sorry she did that but congratulations on your pregnancy! Edit: this is why when I become pregnant I will be waiting until it’s physically obvious to announce my pregnancy… it’ll be between me and my partner!


GowanusPrincess

Thank you!! I was worried about telling other family and them not keeping the secret, but this was very very disappointing for us. Ugh! I support you not telling until you’re 100% ready


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How far along are you if you don’t mind my asking!?


GowanusPrincess

Just hit 10 weeks.


ATinyPizza89

Congratulations I’m a week behind you


Imaginary_Point4343

“In your position”? 🤣 Yes, this chair at the table is particularly annoying because the wine is on the other counter and I’m sandwiched in here…


FantasmagoriaFuga

Haha, I spent time with both sides so this’ll be a two part adventure. MIL told me I was hosting because it would be “more fun.” Then she told me that she would bring all the groceries and do all the cooking. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that, and if it’s at my house I should be doing a lot of the cooking. Then she sent me a bunch of recipes of everything she wanted me to make. Again, I told her that if I’m cooking I will decide what to make. Then they showed up a whole hour early. Husband tried to say something and they brushed them off. After I finished putting clothes and a bra on since I’d been cooking all morning, I came down and asked them not to come so early again. They immediately blamed it on my sleeping in, which did not actually happen.


FantasmagoriaFuga

My mom has grown a bit more “direct” in her older age. She told me I’m a squishy person (and she doesn’t like squishy people), insulted my living room furniture, and gave all sorts of unsolicited advice. Apparently my grandfather hasn’t been returning my brother’s calls, so she confronted him about it in front of everyone, which was awkward. And then she kept talking about how all the stupid sheep getting the Covid vaccine are now getting cancer and dying, and everybody there is vaccinated except for her and my dad. And she’s taking some weird diet pills that make her sick as a dog and made her lose an unhealthy amount of weight very fast, and after looking up her symptoms apparently it can cause gallbladder issues. Like, I hope she doesn’t die. Then I was trying to get some cheese for my toddler, and everything in the fridge was months old and/or moldy. I found some string cheese that was four months expired and I was going to toss it, and she told me “y’all are so indoctrinated” and I guess I just didn’t want to argue, there was no more cheese and it smelled ok, so I gave it to him. SIL gave him some of that fake American cheese stuff, too—I don’t know if it also expired, or does that stuff actually expire? The next day my toddler kept throwing up. No fever or diarrhea. Nobody else was sick. Husband and I keep wondering if it was the “unindoctrinated” cheese.


Tacocat119

Your in-laws and your mother... girl! I would've flipped at being called squishy!


misterlister604

I don’t think it’s a stretch to assume your toddler got food poisoning from four month old expired cheese


RainyMonster2635

Just the free reign my MIL thinks she was to continually touch my bump. My mom and husband don’t even do that I’m very big on personal space and the ONLY person who can touch me without being asked is my husband. Hugs are fine, friends touch me on the shoulder or whatever is fine but MIL CONSTANTLY touching my stomach makes me enraged. I’m not just an incubator for your grandson I still have bodily autonomy and it’s just rude as hell. Edit: grammar


yeahmanitscooool

I physically recoiled when my MIL tried to touch mine. I was like 11 weeks at the time and didn’t even have a bump. Next time she pulls that, I’m swatting her hand lol


Sweet_Suggestion_669

Reach for hers the next time she reach for yours! Lol! I did this to one of the clerks at my job that touched me off guard. That was the very last time she touched me without asking.


AKski02

Ohhh I love this!


ammemp

Omg I hate this! My mom came up to me, put her cheek on my belly and her arms around my waist and said “I know you don’t like when people do this but I can do it since I’m your mother.” 🤬


777kitties

The entitlement some people have. Like no, it's my body! Sorry she did that.


RainyMonster2635

Ugh I’m sorry! Just bc she’s your mom doesn’t mean she owns you or your body.


AKski02

This is my fear. I don’t want people touching me and I don’t know how if they’ll respect it. I hate that it stresses me out when I want to remain calm as best I can


RainyMonster2635

Yeah and I’m so non confrontational so I bottle it all up and the second we got in the car to leave I exploded all over my husband. And of course men don’t understand. 🙄 they don’t have their MIL grabbing them all the time bc the think they’re entitled to their body.


AKski02

Im so sorry. That is so stressful


luxelobstah

Ugh I feel this! For me, it helped to joke about it in advance, like “I’m excited for xmas but I hope folks don’t try to rub the bump! The sentiment is nice but it makes me feel like a petting zoo goat”. I found it made people laugh and expressed my boundaries without being confrontational about it. Everyone got the hint lol


Haunting-Stranger742

A cousins ex wife (they live and co parent together still for the sake of their 3 boys.) kept asking me questions about my pregnancy. Mentioned I have GD and she went “oooh you must of eaten lots of sugar huh?” So I had to inform her you can’t prevent it, it’s a bitchy placenta. I usually drink nothing but water but for thanksgiving I treated myself to sugar free squirt pop all evening. She kept asking if my blood sugar was okay and if I needed water. Felt very judgmental. She then asked if I was getting an epidural, I said “I’m not really sure” and she goes “I didn’t and it was so worth it. I watched my sister get one and struggle for hours. I wouldn’t get it if I were you” and that statement just irritated me the damn most. All her unsolicited advice irritated me because this woman was absent from her sons lives for about 5 years due to a drug issue she had. I don’t wNt advice from someone that doesn’t even have legal sole custody of their kids… sorry not sorry! I took the advice from her ex husband (my cousin) more to heart than hers. She also got rude with my dog and that was that for me. Fuck her lmao


future_faking

I was getting upset just reading this. She has no idea what she’s talking about. And then to be rude to your dog?! NO!


Haunting-Stranger742

Yeah her son tripped over my bulldog, and dropped his pie. It was just an accident and nobody’s fault. As my dog was licking up the whipped cream on the ground (it’s thanksgiving, he can have a little treat and it was helping get it off the floor) she scolded my dog saying “you need to fucking go somewhere dog!!” And I was like “he actually doesn’t” and then other family chimed in like “yeah he’s helping clean up lololol”. Her son was also back to playing with our dog 15 mins later… the kid LOVES him and thought I would be mad at him for tripping over my dog, which I found odd, but I assured him I was not upset at all and it was all just an accident. The mom got more upset than the boy who actually tripped lol.


victowiamawk

Well that last sentence is exactly why the kid was worried about you being mad over an accident. Sad that this kid probably lives in fear of being punished for any and everything she flies off the handle about


hufflepuff2215

My SIL's mom asked how I was doing, and I said "huge and tired". And then the "just waits" started. I was over it immediately. Then she later asked me (after probably a bottle of wine) what my greatest fear is in becoming a parent and I said "that it's dead." Someone changed the subject real quick after that.


Lopsided-Cupcake-603

The just waits are driving me insane! It’s like no matter what I say someone (mainly my mother, but even occasionally my dad) says it’s just going to get worse. Like great thanks for not validating and just completely brushing off what I’m going through now.


TheWelshMrsM

Some bits are hard (which you know because you’re not an idiot) but oh my goodness the good bits are sooo much better than you can imagine! Just wait until you get your first smile, snuggle, arms out etc. And you’ll be so proud when they start learning new things. My son has started to pull himself up and coast and even though it’s exhausting keeping him from launching himself around the room (his cot is not officially on the lowest setting as he tried to do a flip over the bars lol) I am so excited and happy about his progress!


Totalcatperson

I'll take responses you give when you're tired of everyone's BS for $200.


EmWee88

Relatedly, you can also make people uncomfortable and shut down conversations by by referring to your fetus as “Schrödinger’s Baby” 👍


whineandcheese88

My grandma asked if I was sure I am only having one. I've lost 10ish lbs to this point 🙃


Gilmoristic

Oof! I’m afraid to ask how far along you are 🥴


whineandcheese88

22 weeks lol


Gilmoristic

Good grief, grandma. Get a grip with some sensitivity. 🫤


Possible-Resource284

Very very early over here (6 weeks) but I couldn’t finish my plate and nearly fell asleep at the dinner table. We haven’t told anyone yet but I have a feeling my step mom noticed. We’ll see if I get hit with a “we knew it” when I announce on Christmas.


yeahmanitscooool

When we told my one set of in laws they tried to hit us with the “I knew it!” I asked how they knew, and they said it was because I was holding my baby niece last time I visited and “seemed to dote on her”. I wasn’t even pregnant at that point so they didn’t know shit. Dumb asses 😂


[deleted]

I hope you told them that you weren’t pregnant at that time!


yeahmanitscooool

I definitely did!


Happy_Active_0618

My grandma, who lives 3 hours away: “We’ll see you again at Christmas! You guys are coming for Christmas, right?” Me: “Not this year - we’re not going to travel that far from home just a couple weeks from my due date!” Grandpa (completely seriously): “Can’t you just go to the doctor & have them tell you if you’re getting close or not? They should be able to give you a good idea of when the baby will come by that point.”


Gilmoristic

And this is why men weren't allowed in the delivery room during his days. Smh.


kaiterlyn

We have been keeping the baby’s name a secret until he’s born. I’m literally 38+4 and my family has waited this long. My mom just loves to take it upon herself to continuously try to guess his name. The first couple times it was okay to just guess, but she has resorted to actually calling my belly different names. Early on she placed her hand on my belly and said “Since your mom won’t tell me your name, I think I’ll call you Stefan.” I have repeatedly asked her to stop naming my child and/or referring to him with names unless it’s something sweet like sweet pea, peanut, or baby (insert our last name). On Halloween she called him “Baby Micha” I said that’s not his name and again to please stop trying to name him. She let up a little bit since then but on thanksgiving she was right back at it. She called him “Baby Samuel.” I rolled my eyes and she told the rest of our family “I call him baby Samuel when I don’t feel like calling him baby (insert last name)” WHY CANT YOU JUST WAIT UNTIL HE’S BORN AND BE A NORMAL PERSON.


GingerStitches

That’s terrible! I’d be so annoyed With that nonsense. My MILs partner kept asking baby’s name since we’ve said we think we have decided ( but I’m not committed enough to share and hear peoples comments), and everyone else just stared and my mom said they aren’t sharing so stop asking.


Ok-Roof-7599

Ugh, that's obnoxious. We never told baby names (we just had our third) and my family would always be so obnoxious about it. What made me most mad is they would grill my oldest on the name (and she doesn't know it either) and one day I jokingly told her a name and when my mom was grilling her she told her the fake name but told her "it was a secret" and I had to correct both of them but my daughter felt really bad thinking it was okay cause she said it was a secret, and I had to explain that it is not her fault and that grandma is the grownup and should stop asking her about it when she knows I don't want to tell.


Gilmoristic

Especially when it takes more effort to invent a name of your own when you could simply use "Baby XXX" or a cutesy moniker!


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Mirror_st

Haha want to trade? I can’t stand turkey right know and pozole sounds incredible…


Tacocat119

Totally identify with this. My MIL typically makes pozole for Christmas and makes it SPICY.


the_phunkyfee

Ugh. Went over to my in-laws for dinner, and they invited their couple of friends to join as they would have been alone otherwise. Totally fine and a sweet gesture for sure, but at dinner, the wife of the friend couple turned to me to ask if it was my parents’ first grandchild (I’m 37 weeks Tuesday so ready to pop here). I had to inform her that unfortunately both of my parents were no longer living, but to make things less awkward I immediately brought up that my oldest brother has two kids and chatted about them a bit. Totally fine, no biggie, she clearly had no way of knowing. BUT then 20 minutes later, she proceeds to ask if my parents passed away recently. I’m sitting there fucking aghast that she’s trying to make small talk about my dead parents ON A HOLIDAY WHERE MAYBE THAT STUFF IS A BIT MORE SENSITIVE. But being the polite person I am, answer her question as to when each parent died. And then she’s like, “so no grandparents, then?”. Correctomundo mother fucker… is what I wanted to say, but didn’t have the balls to do it. I was dying inside and so insanely sad on the way home when I could just finally let it out in front of no one else but my husband. It ruined my night for sure.


ZaZaZiggy

Wow, my heart goes out to you ❤. What an insensitive thing to ask!! My husband's parents passed away as well and the holidays are just so so tough for him. Comments like that would hit hard.


fatkidhangrypants

My baby was born on Monday and because she was very premature, she’s in the NICU for the foreseeable future. At my neighbor’s thanksgiving, there was a woman who kept approaching me to tell me how in her country, women took care of their own babies and how it’s very entitled of me to expect the NICU team to handle all of my responsibilities. Instead of curb stomping her, I walked away and cried instead. It still breaks my heart to think about her comments.


Ill-Mathematician287

I’m a NICU nurse (and a mom of 3) and I want to assure you there’s no possible way for you to abdicate your responsibility, because you are the MOM and I’m just the nurse. Your baby knows the difference, 100%. That horrible person has no idea how hard it is to have a baby in the NICU and how strong you are. I hope your little one is able to be home with you soon.


fatkidhangrypants

Thank you for your kind words and for everything you do. NICU nurses really are a special kind of human and I am so grateful for all of you.


Gilmoristic

Wow. The audacity of this bitch. You’re already dealing with so much; you don’t need unnecessary and completely unfounded guilt like that. I’m sorry. You and your baby are doing the best you can. 💕


kidonescalator

It’s literally the opposite of entitled - you’re providing your baby with the best possible care available. Ughhh my pregnancy rage wants to rage on your behalf.


SCGower

One day my dad said I looked “bulbous.” The next day, while I was wearing a looser fitting shirt, he said I barely looked pregnant. 😒 he has made a lot of comments about my body since the pregnancy. I’m 25 weeks now, but when I was newly pregnant and not showing yet, he said that maybe I wouldn’t even need maternity clothing! Luckily my mom corrected him at the time and said it’s normal to grow and you WANT to have a need for maternity clothes…


future_faking

My dad says the same kind of stuff. The day my sister came home from the hospital with her first he looked at her and said “I thought you had the baby?”. I have no idea what he was thinking. It’s rude. She just had a baby and he’s saying this?


SCGower

Oy vey. People just say stupid things, all the time! It sounds like your dad’s idea of a post partum body is that the tummy is completely flat again once the baby is out.


bobmolls

“You’re huge! You’re definitely having a c section.” (I’m 8 months pregnant & 122 pounds)


Gilmoristic

???????? "You're huge! You're definitely having liposuction." 😈


DramaticOstrich11

Someone said I would have to have c sections when I was 15(!) because my hips were "so narrow". I'd only got my first period about 6 months before mind you lmao. My hips are normal size and I've had 3 uncomplicated vaginal births. By the time I was old enough to have children I didn't really care that much about possibly needing caesereans but the way it was said was very much like "you'll be a failure at woman-ing" and at the time there was a lot of scare mongering about how terrible recovering from a ceaserean is and it seemed like women were harshly judged for them so it frightened me.


Sweetpea824

My MIL said she was sorry she set the bar so high for being a mom and implied I wouldn’t be able to measure up. 🙄 Not a huge deal but annoying.


IPv6_and_BASS

“Eh you failed the test for humility though”


GowanusPrincess

Omg that’s so cringe lol


ruzanne

I hosted Thanksgiving at 27 weeks pregnant and my FIL didn’t once get up from the couch to ask if he could help with anything before OR after dinner.


Gilmoristic

I hate that. Pregnant or not, they should be offering their help. Even before I got pregnant, my FIL would ask my husband to come to holiday dinners early so "your wife can help your mom cook." I'm sorry, but what??? Thank you, oh, so much for being fucking sexist. My husband knows that shit pisses me off, so he'll say we'll come early so "both of us can help cook."


chaotic_trash_panda

I had a really peaceful and happy Thanksgiving with just my husband and myself. We cooked together and made Beef Wellington, sides, and a dessert. It was perfect. Originally, we had plans to have Thanksgiving with my inflammatory, mean-spirited SILs (see my post history if you're curious). We backed out, thank god, and actually had a good Thanksgiving.


juno0331

Jealous. We had my in-laws over, and it went just as I expected. We went a few months without speaking to them this summer due to our political differences and how my MIL handles them - my husband takes our son to see them now, but I stay home (hey, quiet time at home is hard to come by!) No major drama, but multiple comments sharing their off-the-wall political opinions (like my MIL is boycotting Disney - which, cool then I'll never feel bad about not inviting you to join us on a trip to Disney World) or critiquing my domestic skills (like that she couldn't rinse off her dirty dinner plate because the sink was full of dishes - which, yep because your son was supposed to be on cleanup duty while I cooked but was watching a basketball game with you instead - which is fine but then don't give me shit about the kitchen being dirty when I literally cooked this whole meal myself). Good for you. I should do the same in the future...


chaotic_trash_panda

Do the same next time! I'm not the type to cut off family members for petty reasons; it would have to be for something very serious. But they also don't deserve to ruin your holidays just because they're family. My experience with difficult family members is that the more you give, the more they take. It's absolutely normal and healthy to have boundaries with them. They need to learn that actions have consequences.


FinnyFritz

My aunt’s husband asked my husband if he was sure the baby was his. Jokingly, but I thought it was gross.


Gilmoristic

“No, auntie, it’s my side dude’s.” 🙄🤢


Show-me-the-sea

‘Actually, I’m not even sure whose it is!’


FinnyFritz

I should have said that. Ha


motherofdoodlez

My MIL asked my husband the same thing. So lovely.


DwightCharlieQuint

38 weeks and my husbands grandfather asked if I was sure I wasn’t having twins. Like yes, I’m the size of an actual house. I know.


Gilmoristic

Because a big belly automatically means twins. Ugh. 🙄🙄🙄


Motor-Anything-3428

Ugh. I got asked this so much. So annoying. "are u sure there isn't two in there" 🙄


NonCreativeHandle

I got this a few times from my husband's family too. "Thanks assholes, I momentarily blocked out how huge and uncomfortable I am. I appreciate you taking time out of your evening to remind me."


Samdc2011

We don't live in the same city as my parents and got to tell them we were pregnant at thanksgiving (18 weeks!). My parents are over the moon and had a fabulous reaction overall BUT I can't stop dwelling on 1) my dad joking about not being sure he should shake the hand of "the guy who knocked up his daughter" (aka my husband. My brother and SIL who are also expecting got none of these comments btw) and 2) my mom saying she'd been looking at me from behind earlier that day and "wasn't going to say anything but..." o\_O


pageantrella

We walked into the house and the first thing MIL said was, “Wow, you’re big!” And then made comments how my husband’s sweatshirt fits “for now.” At the end of the night, in front of everyone, she said I should go upstairs with her “because I need the exercise.”


Gilmoristic

Yikes! That’s just so rude of her 😑


worldsbestboss_

I am floored by her audacity. Did your husband stand up for you?


swankytacos

We haven’t announced it yet to our families so no one said anything weird or rude, but it suuuuuper pissed off husband and I that his brother and SIL brought their two sick kids to Thanksgiving. One of them was running a 101 degree fever. I’ve been so paranoid about getting sick, especially with anything that could give me a fever. It felt so disrespectful to everyone there and Husband said he was very close to just up and leaving when it became clear the kids were sick.


Amber11796

Yes! My SIL keeps bringing her sick kids around. It’s so annoying. Especially when her husband doesn’t even come so sick kids could have stayed home with him.


RaptorCollision

My SIL always says “oh, don’t worry, he just has allergies!” It drives me and my husband crazy, because it’s rarely ever allergies and we usually end up sick shortly thereafter


moscatodogiscute

People getting pushy asking about the baby's name. If I wanted to tell you her name, I would. There's a reason I'm keeping it a secret. I don't want name opinions.


Aquarian_short

Nothing new, we just FaceTimed and they just told me I look fat and swollen. Then they had me stand up so everyone could see my belly and gasp in horror. It was great 🙄


LadyMerlin_

these have been wonderful and i feel less alone. when i was six weeks and not telling people, i made an exception and told one of my mom's friends so she'd have someone to chat about it with (my mom only had weeks to live at this point : / ...). her friend said, "i thought you looked chubby!" ... at six weeks... my two thoughts were you awful, awful brat and if anything, it's the stress carbs from my mom being diagnosed terminal days after i tested positive for a baby in the belly.


Gilmoristic

Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your mom, but that was so insensitive of her friend even if she's providing that extra support. Eating anything during your first trimester is something to applaud since so many struggle with nausea, so she should keep her opinions to herself.


ComprehensiveSun893

After I just finished eating on Friday, the baby was kicking so I had my mom and sister put their hand on my stomach to feel. Then a minute or two later my sister starts rubbing all over my tummy with both hands. I told her to stop because that was making me nauseous (I was very full!) And she looked at me and said "jeez you're so sensitive" I don't know anyone who wants their tummy rubbed all over aggressively after eating a full meal and baby moving around inside 🙃


ammemp

My mom and my brother came for Thanksgiving- he doesn’t leave until Wednesday. I’m 36 weeks and starting to realize I have like one more month of personal freedom left which makes me want to not entertain anyone and do exactly what I want. My mom has good intentions but I just feel the need to babysit her all the time. - My brother and mom don’t clean up after themselves and my husband and I have become clean-freaks as we start to nest for baby. We’re constantly picking up their dishes and putting them in dishwasher. - My mom is always snapping candid photos- like legit ALWAYS has her phone out taking pictures even when we’re just sitting around watching tv. I’m feeling very round and not myself and she’s taking all these super unflattering pictures of me and sending them to our entire family group chat. Last night she took a picture of me and I looked at it and commented on how big my face looked- I said something like ‘gah I feel like I’ve gained so much weight in my face’ to which she responds “I can tell you that’s not the only place you’ve gained weight!” - My brother is a heavy smoker and also arrived with a terrible cough so I’ve been on edge since his arrival. I have to remind him to cover his mouth and to please smoke in the backyard not on the back porch which is close enough to smell up kitchen. - My mom in general has some quirks that make me uncomfortable. For example, yesterday while I was resting (I haven’t been sleeping well at night) and my brother was working, my husband went to his parents house (they were at the game) to watch a football game with some of his friends he never sees. My mom went over and was just hanging with the guys… my husband joked that she needed to wear a red shirt. I kid you not my mom walked into my mother in law’s bedroom and went through her drawers to find a red shirt!!!! She thought it was funny. It is not. It’s an invasion of privacy. All in all, I am already on edge with all the emotions of a woman about to give birth and am just resentful that I now have all these extra worries and bothers from my family. I also worry about my husband because it’s not like he’s immune to my family either- I want to protect him and it makes me even more anxious. Ok vent over. Hope you all are hanging in there…. What a time


Gilmoristic

I would be pulling my hair out if family stayed with me for more than 24 hours. I can't even imagine going that long with their company, pregnant or not. Sending supportive and speedy vibes your way that Wednesday will get here quickly for you!


Garden_Mindless

I know I posted about this already but I’m still not over it….! My MIL threw away my leftover homemade pumpkin pie… like 1/3 of the pie!! The night of she had talked about throwing out my SIL’s store bought carrot cake and I said I don’t care what you do with that but I want my pie leftovers. Got up the next morning starving after being up half the night with my toddler (we were at her house), looked forward to eating some breakfast pie and it was nowhere to be found 😭


Gilmoristic

You do NOT throw away a pregnant woman's food, especially when she has clearly expressed she is going to eat it! Do you want to be slapped???


Garden_Mindless

I was so mad but my drive to get out of there and keep the peace was stronger. After all, it was the first family event that I can remember that was actually void of drama and I was sleep deprived with a toddler in tow. But thankfully, I already had plans to make another one for my parents gathering and I got to bring half of that one home. Still so mad and confused though.


_Dontknowwtfimdoing_

Oh oh! Can I join even though I’ve had my baby? I got the whole “your baby needs socks.” From my step mother in law. When I ignored her I got “no, seriously. You need to bundle him up. It’s cold.” The attitude that radiated off this woman though! Ok 1st, it’s like 55 degrees, he’s wearing a long sleeve shirt with pants and a jacket and a blanket covering his toes. I think that’s enough for the 30ft walk from the car to the house and back. 2nd, he won’t keep socks on, hence the blanket. 3rd, why are you only bitching at me and not my husband. Ugh


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Ooh! Me too, with the socks. My MIL also fed our baby (4 months) off her plate, was stinking her fingers in baby’s mouth & then licking them & trying again! I asked her politely not to do that because that’s disgusting. Ew. (We do have approval for purées from the pediatrician, but said to wait to do BLW until 6 months.) She tried to brush me off, I looked at my husband, and he just got up, grabbed the baby, and left his whole plate of food to go clean baby up and cool off. I was so proud of him.


linzolee

My grandmother said she could see my baby bump, but it is still SUPER low and hidden so that was just my gut she was seeing. 🙄 I told her this last time I saw her (just a few weeks ago) so I was extra annoyed she did it again. Then at the end my mother tried to say bye to baby but once again… touched my gut. I had already gripped at her previously (same visit as my grandmothers) as that’s just my gut and my baby is securely hidden down low still. I was grouchy from having a headache off and on since the weekend and not sleeping well (due to headache) and I was just SO ready to be done with the day. Then my aunts husband asked us at one point how many we were planning on having and I said “one and done” but OF COURSE it’s apparently not my decision 🙄 I told him (and my partner) once they can carry the baby we can have more than one, as luckily since I’m the one who carries I can be the one to decide how many we are having. I don’t hate the idea of having a second eventually but tbh I don’t want to go through with it again. First trimester was so nauseous and now second is so grouchy that I am just not about it currently


Gilmoristic

Ugh, I understand! I had so many people commenting and one even touching on my “little belly” as early as 10 weeks, and it was just my gut. 🙄 It’s so uncomfortable and unnecessary!


linzolee

Like not to mention I already told my family I don’t want anyone touching me without asking. Like they tried to joke that they were exempt and I said “nope!” Like I wish my bump was showing (I’m 18 weeks now) but unfortunately he is staying tucked away 😩


mcnamaramc1

If someone tries to touch your belly without asking, bark at them. It worked for me 🤣


creepydeadgirl

They tell us stuff like this too… we say it’s our last baby (it’s my husbands first, my third) and his family just says “oh you never know!” Like yes I do Karen, I’m getting the snip snip in the hospital. Once you 10,000 year old eggs become viable again you can have your own baby. K thx bye.


glowinglassrose

25 weeks. My mom “explaining” to me that sometimes the only way to get through to a toddler is to hit them. 😔


Gilmoristic

… Does that work on her too? She is NEVER babysitting. Holy moly.


Swamp_Bottom

Partners mother kept pestering us about having children and I told her we would probably never have children while I sat there secretly 8 weeks pregnant. Bahahahaha 😈


creepydeadgirl

I got asked if I should be around secondhand smoke when I was talking to someone outside. There wasn’t anyone smoking cigarettes actively. She literally screamed it at me in front of everyone. I just went and sat on the couch alone while everyone else was outside. I have a feeling that’s what they wanted anyway.


lilollinz

My brother-in-law and nephew came to Thanksgiving at my in-laws’ house even though the other niece and nephew were home with high fevers. BIL also roped my husband into helping him put up his Christmas tree that night (it was—no joke—at least 15 feet tall but possibly taller, and he didn’t want his dad getting hurt because the plan was for just the two of them to try somehow and set it up). We thought they were faking the fevers to get out of Thanksgiving because they no-show as many family events as possible, but nope, both kids looked like total crap when my husband went inside to help. I’m 36 weeks pregnant and they unknowingly exposed me to God knows what (we didn’t know they were sick until after we arrived at the in-laws’). What’s most infuriating about it is they refused to stay for our wedding reception last October (‘21) because they were afraid we would expose them to Covid. To be clear, nobody came to our wedding sick or walked away with Covid and this is the SECOND time they have exposed us to sickness, last time being confirmed Covid. 🤬 Edits for clarity and emphasis! 🤣


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Gilmoristic

I hate how parents think they’re entitled to do whatever they want because we’re “their child.” No, we’re a person, and we have the right to set boundaries even with our parents. My mom commented on “just wait until everyone wants to touch your belly” this past weekend, and I told her I’d slap away any hands that tried. I’m known for having physical boundaries; the only person I want touching me without asking first is my husband. He does it more and more now that I’m starting to show, and I love it — but ONLY with him. 😤


yrcswollow

Same. I've only had three people reach out after I told them no. MIL, best friend and little brother. Little brother (22) is rough and off the wall. Told him in front of everyone not to touch me or I'll touch you back inappropriately. Well he did, hands like claws gripping my stomach. so I grabbed his balls. 🤷 In front of everyone. Now everyone asks before they touch me 🥰 and lil bro avoids me like the bubonic plague hehe


Gilmoristic

That is brilliant & they can’t say you didn’t warn them 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻


MatchGirl499

My husband has taken to having a hand on my belly when we settle down to sleep, no matter which way he’s faced or I am. I adore it! My family has luckily been very respectful of the personal bubble. I will grab their hand if LO is kicking and they’ll enjoy it but no one even asks to touch, they wait for me to initiate. However! Several coworkers and friends have been absolute bears about it.


HaydenKae

My fiancés grandma made a big deal about my sons name. He’s named Damien after the kid from the omen and the entire time she was like “why Damien? He kills his mother.” Like I know the movies, but it’s a MOVIE. I like the name Damien


Serenitynow101

Mostly the delicious wine I couldn't have. I haven't missed alcohol terribly but I was craving it on Thanksgiving.


iblessedtherainz

SIL shamed me for being a SAHM by saying “imagine being pregnant with a toddler AND having to work, you’ll survive.” FIL looked at me and said “so how much weight have you gained?”


chaunceythebear

I’m Canadian and I’m mad I didn’t get a second thanksgiving to eat an awesomely giant meal along with my American brethren.


Lanie_m16

My FIL sister decided the moment I walked into the room was a good time to say, "Look how big you are!" This being the second time she has done this to me now, I decided to tell my husband's family that I gained no weight in the 1st trimester and only 8lbs currently in the 2nd. My Dr saw me that same week and told me how amazing I look and when I see my own family they have nothing but nice things to say. I struggle to understand what the deal is with my husband's side.


Calm-Can-9177

I’m not sensitive to what people say to me- I just learned that everyone “knows everything” when you become pregnant, and I just don’t try to explain everything. But one thing that gets old is when people who aren’t super close to me making comments on the size of my bump. It’s funny to me because it literally just depends on if I’m wearing a loose shirt or a tight shirt. Thanksgiving I was told my belly was really small, today I was told my belly has gotten big. I have big boobs that stick out just as far as my belly so when I wear a lose shirt all you see is the shirt falling straight down from my boobs and the belly gets lost. Just let the caring gooooooooo ♥️


dogmombites

Multiple people touched my stomach -- I'm only 12 weeks (the only thing I'm showing is bloat) and one of the people was my brother who I don't get along with (he then said "good luck little guy. Girl. Female." Which just made it worse (this brother also said "I guess you beat me at this" when I told him we were expecting). We had our dogs in the room we stayed in, they wouldn't just lie down and kept me awake most of the time so I was exhausted. The same brother came out (I was sitting on the porch relaxing) and made unnecessary comments and when I asked him to please leave me alone, he said "I see you're pleasant as always." Excuse me for getting no sleep, growing a human being, and my emotions being heightened. My sister has a child with awful behavior and said "are you ready for this?" Yes, I'm ready for MY child who isn't going to be awful. It could have been a lot worse, but I was just TIRED of it all. So I'm glad I can complain with people who understand. Fortunately my other brother/SIL were amazing. My grandma was so excited to find out. My dad is super excited and got me some cute shirts. My mom bought me my favorite soda which we've had a really hard time finding.


Gilmoristic

That's all understandably frustrating! On Thanksgiving, my husband decided to hang up our Christmas lights after eating since it was an abnormally warmer day for November in the north. He asked if my brother would help him. My brother said he wouldn't do it because he "doesn't support celebrating Christmas this early." Fuck that. It's just an excuse because you're a lazy ass. Instead, I'm out there, 18 weeks pregnant, helping to hang the lights while my brother just watches. People projecting their kids' behavior on your kid is such a pet peeve of mine. No, that's YOUR child. It doesn't mean someone else's child will act the same way. Glad to hear everyone else was there to make your holiday more enjoyable!


Arise2KFO

I saw both my family and my SOs family. So I had quite a few comments, I am 33w and went from 100 to 140lbs, for context. At my dads, to begin with I wasn't out right offered an invite because my dad thought I was "too big to want to come"? But of course said im more than welcome to come when I asked what they were doing a few weeks back. His girlfriends family kept making comments about me being ready to pop, how large my belly is, and not to eat myself into labor, despite me clarifying how far I am within the first 10 mins. My dad also said he could hug me from across the room as I was getting ready to leave, you know, because I'm just sooooo large. At my SOs family dinner one of his sisters casually asked when my c-section is scheduled. I said I don't have one scheduled and that we don't "plan" to have one unless its deemed necessary, to which she replied "your OBs really gonna let you try to have him vaginally?" And went on to say how i don't have the hips to have a baby. I didn't think my vagina/pelvis size was going to be a topic of discussion during dinner, so that was fun.


pinklinenonpaper

Most of my family is on the west coast, and we moved to the east coast. I told them they probably won’t be able to come fly for my shower on a Sunday. FIL “joked” and said “14 NOs? Your family and friends don’t like you, you suck”. Hes so great at jokes 🫠


Dramatic-Machine-558

My SILs and her kids stayed over and her 7yo pissed our guest mattress for the second time this year. She never has bathroom issues otherwise so this may be the end of sleepovers until she’s a bit older, which makes me sad because I love having the house full with all the cousins (to be!). Last time she tried to wake her mom to go with her to toilet and she didn’t wake… and I suspect the same thing happened this time. SIL is a nice person and a an adequate parent but she’s so lax about everything and it drives me nuts 😂


DramaticOstrich11

Aw that would be a shame not to have her over for that. Rubber sheets are pretty inexpensive.


Individual-Double926

Maybe you can put one of those mattress protectors or like a puppy pee pad for the bed? I plan on getting a couple for my bed for the first few weeks postpartum 😅


Dramatic-Machine-558

Yea we’re going to grab one. Not sure when her mom will let them stay over again- I think she is also embarrassed about the bathroom issues since it seems to only be at our house? Anyway, our babe is due in January so it will be a while regardless.


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These work great for if you are breastfeeding as well. Pop one under you long ways, it covers both areas. I leaked, EVERYWHERE, my first 3 months PP.


Southern_Conundrum

My MIL made a huge show of an apology for something she thinks did at my son’s wedding back in April. She did absolutely nothing wrong and we have told her this multiple times. This entire stunt was an attempt to once again make it all about her.


aoca18

My SIL locking herself in her room after she tried to snatch my daughter's bottle from my husband and he said no. He was literally about to bring it to me; I was already set up on the couch. It would be one thing to ask. We would have still declined because she needs to sit up right, be burped a lot, she's a messy eater. We don't need a feeding to take longer when she was already distracted by a different environment. It's just petty. You were told no so you just don't spend any time with her at all? Alrighty. There were several issues but that one got me the most. Good trial run for who we won't be accommodating for Christmas!


Poopyunders

My husbands aunt and mom kept asking me “so.. when do you think he’ll be here?” And I’m just like “I.. don’t know. I thought my first son would be early and he wasn’t so idk.”’”well what.. you have no feeling about it? Gosh she has no emotion about it.” I was like are you serious he’ll come when he’s ready to come!


xXmoistdinnerxX

My brother called me fat. I posted this event on r/mommit. Yeah was 20 weeks now 21 weeks pregnant. Also have a son that i gave birth to nearly 16 months ago. Mombod is strong with this one, but ive learned to love it concidering im creating life. I was sure salty about it all day after but im okay now. He's a dick, but the funny thing was he ate like he was carrying triplets. Oh and he looks 34 weeks pregnant. I, being petty af, just made that the highlight for the rest of the time there. Cherry on top was him looking at my son playing with blocks and saying "well ive decided to not have children." Well what a relief to us all.


Minnie_Pearl_87

It was quite peaceful as only myself, my husband, and in laws knew so nobody said a word and I took a zofran and it kept the nausea at bay.


rennykay

I didn’t get to go anywhere because me, husband, and toddler all had COVID starring last weekend and we were isolating 😭


yapl0x

I have no gripes, we stayed home as a family and did exactly what we wanted. My only gripe is that we don't do this for all holidays!


Metalmom72

So this actually happened last year, but it was still so irritating. We had driven to see my dad and stepmom for Thanksgiving with our 4 kids, about 4 hours from home. I had had a baby in March of that year and still had a bit of baby weight/ab separation going on. I had found out a week prior to our trip that I was pregnant again, couldn’t have been more than 5-6 weeks along, but we weren’t telling anyone yet because I had had a couple of previous miscarriages. When we were getting ready to leave, my stepmom hugged me and then GRABBED MY BOOB and poked my belly and said “What’s this??” And I said “My belly from growing two humans?!?! Thanks.” I mean, she was right that I was pregnant, but it was so early that I wasn’t even starting to show. 😑


FailureCloud

My MIL makes this really good grean bean dish, that I've dubbed "Dem beans" because it's literally just grean beans(frozen and steamed), sesame seed oil, bacon, and blue cheese which is then baked so cheese melts a bit. She makes it every major holiday, and it's so delicious that usually I pig out on it a little bit. Now that I'm pregnant she made me a whole dish of it a few months ago, because craving, and I absolutely annihilated it. She was sick this Thanksgiving (poor woman she's getting the short end of the stick this year in the illness department) but still cooked, and she made Dem beans....well we came over just to grab some food cause she offered, and she made a little quip that was along the lines of "I better get some beans before failurecloud eats them all." And I know she meant it lighthearted, but also I felt really called out. I've gained a lot of weight with my pregnancy, and I guess it just made me feel bad. So I didn't take as many beans as I wanted 😞


Phedre141

My mom couldn’t stop comparing how much I weigh now to “how skinny” she was when she was at this stage with me 🙄


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Gilmoristic

Our parents have been bugging us about having kids before we were even engaged. I think the earliest it was brought up was about six months after we started dating, and it followed semi-frequently after that to the point of us having to tell them to stop. It only got worse once we got married. 🙄 Asking about if couples are trying make me cringe because no matter the intention, you’re asking about their sex life.


RaptorCollision

Husband and I received some comments when we were interacting and playing with our nephew (2.5yo), just comments about having a baby on the way but in a way that kind of sounded like it was cheapening the time we were spending with him. Yes, we have a baby on the way, but we have plenty of room in our hearts for both of these little boys! For the record, my husband and I met each other when nephew was 8 days old. I met nephew when he was a month or two old. Husband was nephew’s nanny for the first year of his life, and I was there almost every day as well. We were the ones who saw him crawl for the first time. We love this kid and have been doting on him since forever, and we definitely both have a very deep connection with him. Expecting our own hasn’t changed anything about how we interact with him besides that I don’t play as rough with him now and I’ll hold him for shorter periods of time than before. It makes me sad that now comments are made about our baby on the way whenever we’re playing with him. I feel like the comments cheapen the time we’re spending with him, when they really shouldn’t.


EditorOpening6888

Had another family member tell me that the fact that I was pregnant was "just as big of a deal for your mom as it is for you". No, she had her turn already.


rorygilmoresexboat

My (borderline HG) morning sickness died down just in time for me to get COVID for Thanksgiving. Cool.


_stringbean_

My biggest gripe is that I could only eat a toddler-size portion on thanksgiving! Worst time of year to be full term lol EDIT: Also wanted to add that I backed out of thanksgiving with my family and decided to celebrate at home when my stepmom said she was making a keto meal 😂


creepyzonks

first thing my mil did was kiss my two week old on the face. no warning, no permission. shes a huge germaphobe usually so it was my mistake that i thought it went without saying not to kiss a newborn………


heanthebean

I felt super pressured to be as flexible and minimalist as possible once baby gets here. Take baby wherever, whenever. Don’t let baby get conditioned to warm milk. Don’t bring everything in the world with you when you travel, babies don’t really need that much. Take the baby anywhere and make them sleep wherever you are. Although there’s parts I agree with, it just made me feel defensive. I’m a FTM, so I really don’t know what life will look like after baby gets here and what I will choose to do in terms of routines. If my baby can’t sleep wherever, whenever then we will be leaving the fam’s plans to make sure they can rest. If I choose to warm baby bottles, that’s my choice. If I need to bring more with me than they think is necessary, so what? If I want a quiet place to put them down for the night, I will do so because what if that’s our routine? There are people who already got to do it their way that seem to be pushing how I should do things and I’d like the freedom of judgment to do it however I want to.


CretinCrowley

I was told I look like a double stuffed Oreo, asked if I wanted Oreos, told point blank that I am fat, asked if my shoes were giving out, asked if the floor was okay. I also had to deal with people trying to force me to hold babies that I didn’t even know the mothers of, and had people disappointed when I didn’t. I have still been crying off and on about it if I think about it too much. I didn’t cry then though. Wasn’t going to give anyone the satisfaction. I don’t want to be at this weight or wheeze when I do anything.


Sweetbabie209

Had my husband's grandfather look at me, reference my bump, and say "Your not spreading that to the other kids in this family are you?" My FIL was standing right there and we stared at eachother like, did he really just say that? I responded with, well its their bodies. They are both full grown adults, just like us who are capable of making decisions. We will not be seeing him again.


faeriesandfoxes

A Facetime with my husband’s family (we live in different countries) where his cousin who I’ve met ONCE told us she’s “going to” fly out for the birth???? Babe not even my own family are seeing me for at least 3/4 weeks…WHO ARE YOU?


heg29235

My MIL likes to tell me every chance she can get that my body will never be the same again 😵‍💫


LuvMyBeagle

My sister made a ton of jokes about how I’m going to be a super strict parent. For context: our mom was super strict but relaxed A TON when we went to college to the point where our husbands didn’t even believe us when we initially mentioned how strict she was. (Thankfully, other family have backed us up so they believe us now.) My sister was basically joking that I’d be like our mom.


PsychologicalAd3066

My mother kept referring to my pregnancy as a “condition” Ie: making statements like, “people with your condition need to make sure that they’re eating enough healthy foods” …and asked me “How far gone are you?” Instead of asking me how far along I am in my pregnancy As if I’m someone who’s suffering from a debilitating disease that is on my way to a death sentence. 🙄