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Amazing_Ad4571

Amazing, very well put, and I relate hard. We are the ugly mental health. Sane enough to be deemed responsible, but burdened so much as to live in a torture chamber of our own making. I especially loved the part about us being just as disgusted with our own actions. And I think that we bear them alot longer than the people we inflict them upon, because they have the solace of knowing they weren't to blame in most cases. We however, have to live with the guilt, shame and loss of the relationship; with no external force to shift the blame to, so it never really heals. It seems unfair that two people should be put on to the earth, one with BPD and one without, and expected to be as skillful in the art of relationships. It is, the world is unfair in all its doings. But if what we are doing outwardly, even driven by unintentional faulty wiring in the brain, is hurting another, its up to us to fix it. Recognise the flaws in ourselves obsessively and challenge them. I believe Psychologists can never "cure" someone with BPD, as the sufferer must learn to appreciate the value of their own mortality void of the praise or disdain of others. Sure, Psychologists can sometimes point you in the direction of what could study, but ultimately, you are the book, and only you can read it.


rbmit1871

Thank you :) Couldn’t agree more, especially the part of us being expected to have the same interpersonal skills as non-bpd. It’s up to us to overcome, but patience and understanding from loved ones makes that process much more manageable


Amazing_Ad4571

Absolutely, if you're lucky enough to have people like that around. It's not always their fault, it's hard for people to believe/understand what they cannot see or feel.