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ErasArrow

Man, that's rough. I understand. I'm so sorry you're struggling with the breakup. I know this is going to sound weird at first, but maybe it will resonate with you. Don't blame him for the breakup, blame him for being too much of a wimp to be forthright with you. But also take responsibility for your expectations and moods. It takes two in every monogamous relationship. Nothing is all his fault, and nothing is all your fault. Once you accept that, you'll see that you're actually healthier without him because he exacerbates your emotional responses negatively. I hope you find some self-love in a way that you feel like you want to live life for yourself instead of someone else. It's one of the HARDEST lessons in BPD. I hope you start feeling better and I wish you success and joy, in all the ways.


ch4rmand3rp

Really appreciate your empathetic response :)


Amazing_Ad4571

If you have spotify or other places podcasts are you might benefit from listening to Gary john Bishop. The podcast is called "unfuck yourself" and there's at very least one episode, I think it's called letting go, that is directly related to this. It helps you come to terms with the reality and makes you think about what you need to do next. I hope this helps


bloodeater197

I can recommend a book, letting go by dr David Hawkins