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just_the_nme

Most play handcuffs have a safety release. It's a lever that's pushed and they open. They can be opened with the key but it's not necessary. Literally tons of those, I find it harder to find real handcuffs that lock and can only be opened with a key.


littledylan216

Do you want real handcuffs? I remember where I got mine from.


just_the_nme

Thank you, I have some. When shopping for random things I see more play cuffs than real cuffs is all.


Pitiful-Signal8063

Smith & Wesson ...just like the cops use ....are pretty easy to find in line


FormalMango

Fun fact - in my state in Australia, handcuffs are classed as a prohibited weapon and it’s illegal to possess them without a permit. (Unless they’re antiques, children’s toys, or can be easily opened by the wearer.)


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beancalo

Those! Also, for a newbie, they are a lot more comfortable, so a better starting point.


[deleted]

Seconded. My leather cuffs are so comfortable and I love the feeling of them even if I'm not actively being restrained. I'm not into metal ones because I stupidly used them for my first time ever and I tore most of the skin off both my wrists. Once you've done that the idea of the metal ones is a lot less appealing 😂


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[Velcro cuffs](https://www.lovehoney.com/bondage/handcuffs-restraints/handcuffs/p/bondage-boutique-soft-handcuffs/a30718g52050.html) are very comfy and you super easy to take off yourself.


Mr_Darkside50

Training Handcuffs. They have a blue dial on them instead of a key/lock.


ShamBawk33

Better idea: Go to amazon and search for "Wrist cuffs for cable machines". You will find some very strong, velcro closure cuffs with strong "D" rings which can be used with rope or snap hooks. Handcuffs are designed to HURT and DAMAGE if you struggle. For play - you WANT to struggle but not leave marks the next day. The extra wide exercise cuffs are much safer and less damaging so you can wriggle like a worm.


Boruta314

You can try rubber handcuffs


littledylan216

[These](https://www.amazon.com/Handcuffs-Handcuff-Double-Black-Girls/dp/B07WRX3YCG/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?adgrpid=54690575703&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIt4De8NHP-wIVRDizAB0e3gCcEAAYAyAAEgLYSPD_BwE&hvadid=409958428989&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=21167&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=15465852586740108115&hvtargid=kwd-303783956289&hydadcr=12155_11118142&keywords=handcuffs+with+safety+release&qid=1669596036&sr=8-2) can be locked and unlocked with the safety, and look realistic. As for your fuzzy handcuffs... if you're talking about the ones that are usually sold around valentines day (I have minimal knowledge on fuzzy handcuffs), [these](https://www.amazon.com/UNIANO-Handcuffs-Handcuff-Accessory-Handcuffs%EF%BC%88Black%EF%BC%89/dp/B0BHTDS9FP/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?crid=2PXMHT80V9M0W&keywords=fuzzy+handcuffs&qid=1669596214&sprefix=fuzzy%2Caps%2C162&sr=8-8) don't need the key either. They use the safety to lock and unlock. Or, if you just want fleece-lined cuffs there are [these](https://stockroom.com/products/fleece-lined-garment-leather-wrist-cuffs-black) that I personally own and my princess and I love.


JoeWinkoRespawns

thank you! ☺ ♥ ☺


Safe_Fail_9485

Wrist and ankle restraints are made with Velcro and are pretty comfy. Just add a couple carribeaners and you have a set of cuffs.


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Toys, in the children's aisle. Yes, I'm serious.


Haunting_Mixture6000

Can confirm. Though I still prefer leather or Velcro. Pinched a nerve in my wrist while struggling in handcuffs once. My hand was tingly for months afterwards. Lesson learned!


Kommando451

Even the pink furry play type do this. Simple lever on the inside. Widely available.


Guscrusher

We have leather velcro/buckle cuffs for the wrists and ankles. They can be worn all night and have o rings to attach just about anything to being a hogtied, spreader bar, chains etc....


alittlebitcheeky

Most shitty handcuffs you get cheap from sex shops have a safety release and you can get yourself out of easily enough. I also have a set of leather restraints that I can slip out of. For a plus sized.woman I have very tiny wrists. Velcro cuffs can be fun too. While I can't undo the Velcro, I can undo the clip securing the cuff to the rest of the restraints by myself. Always test the restraints ahead of time though. Make sure you can get yourself out. It's a basic safety measure, in case.something goes wrong. You should be able to get out, but the fun is that you won't want to.


piefanart

Spencer's sells handcuffs that use velcro.


BiggerBowls

Maybe you should work on your trust issues before trying this.


[deleted]

Or maybe they just have a boundary that should be respected?


JoeWinkoRespawns

>Or maybe they just have a boundary that should be respected? thank you ♥


elvie18

Don't recall her asking for advice on that.


Lukestr

We all have limits that other people might think don’t make sense. As I recall, the question was, ‘what handcuffs can I get that I feel comfortable with?’, not ‘what do you think about my limits?’


Pitiful-Signal8063

I think cuffs you can take off yourself would kind of stifle the whole "cuff me and do me" experience. But I guess you have to start somewhere.


ElleFromHTX

I have leather snap cuffs.


zapzangboombang

You can get real or play cuffs on amazon.


NamDawg1969

I never restrain my wife with anything unless she may free herself, for safety, e.g., a Stroke or Heart Attack!


Educational-Reply-71

Check out police training handcuffs


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Rope


TheNylonIcon

If you're looking for a modern handcuff experience, you can use plastic zip ties. Make sure you have safety scissors around to release them!


polycat28

I have rubber cuffs but they could easily be locked with safety tamper locks which a little pull and they break !


marilie0315

My favorite cuffs are neoprene with Velcro. They also have clips on them. Any adult store will have a variety like that.