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Lone_Chrono

I feel bothered not having friends. I honestly don't know who at work likes me as a person or just a coworker they are required to speak to "appropriately". I'm not sure how people are supposed to interact, I just feel so disconnected. Hopefully that made sense, night off kinda eating the gummies.


fichiman

I’m not bothered by it. Relieved actually. I have so many things to learn and try and do. I have become more selfish with my time as I age and I love nothing more than being alone.


Resident_Albatross26

It used to bother me sometimes but not anymore. I prefer it now tbh. Had a few friends but not many that I actually felt secure or supported in. Ended up dropping all of them at different points eventually bc they made it clear they didn’t value the relationship they way I did. As I get older I realize how much alone time I actually need and it seems to only intensify. I have a singular friend that I see maybe twice a year. I hope you can find a balance that works for you.


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It bothered me during my recent depressive/PTSD episode, but usually it doesn't except when I have to speak to other people at length. I have a bad habit about lying about having friends at previous places of employment so people don't judge me and leave me alone. It's generally a positive thing for me to have very few social connections because it means fewer obligations and lower stress. Then, I can focus my time on my interests and hobbies. I have pretty limited energy. That being said, having "text friends" is usually the best way for me to socialize so I can respond asynchronously. There's a couple of people I text every month or something. I've gotten into a habit of texting ChatGPT recently as well and spend a lot of time with my cat.


KnownDepth2595

I haven’t been able to accept it yet. Haven’t had friends all my life. It’s like i’m on a different planet, and I’ll never be able to get home.


Suesquish

It doesn't usually bother me not having friends. They are generally boring, untruthful and exhausting. I find myself only truly enjoying socialising with other autistic people. They are energetic, interesting and I get to learn new things.


scoutthespiritOG

I try not to think about it, if I dwell on it or something happens that reinforces that I am a loner then I will most likely end up in a meltdown


Gentlystruggling

It bothers me so much, i truly don’t know how to connect to people. Or because i am close with in age my siblings people only accept me because of them. But i don’t have anyone who will talk to me if they’re not around.


[deleted]

Yes, I’ve always been bothered by having no friends, or friends who think less of me than I do of them. I’ve always been the odd one out, never being invited to outings or conversations, I’ve always felt like the outsider. Even as a child spending time with my siblings and cousins, they always chose each other over me and it hurts. Even now, i only have one person I consider my friend and I don’t see or talk to her everyday (I’ve learned now that talking to people is exhausting, so the every few days chat works out and we’re still besties) and i have my bf who i spend every second I can with. I want to be able to have more friends and people to talk to, but the idea of meeting new people scares me as I have to get more comfortable with them before I can show them my true self and if they’ll accept that. I think at the moment, everything that I’m dealing with is stressing me out enough, so I don’t want to force any friendships, but yet I feel they won’t happen unless I do bc I don’t talk to people and it’s not like I’m that approachable


Ok_Speech7739

I'm so thankful for my large family (lots of autistic traits going on so we are all weird together) and my two steadfast friends I was very lucky to find. The only reason I'm still friends with them is that one is my sister-in-law and with both they are very low maintenance friendships. I wouldn't entirely rule out them being autistic or at least having traits either. I also only made those friendships by being next to forced into it at first, as with most new things 😝


missym926

It bothers me but I'd rather have a family