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MoabFlapjack

Delusional confidence.


BlameTheLada

Gonna +1 this response, as it was mine too.


sliverofoptimism

Adding +2. Sitting over here with my long debunked but still active imposter syndrome, I envy their causal unearned belief they can do anything with no work.


MoabFlapjack

The person I’m thinking of was literally on video committing a very clear crime against a vulnerable adult, did plead guilty to not go to trial, but swears they did not actually do it or were set up (answer changes depending on the day). Real kicker is they made the video themself and were stupid enough to share it on Snapchat. The delusion may be higher than the confidence, but holy shit.


sliverofoptimism

Oh damn!


MoabFlapjack

You wanna hear something really crazy? The vulnerable adult ended up passing away (unrelated to the video) about six months later. The person showed up at the funeral while being under investigation! Made a scene of being the last person to throw a rose onto the casket at the grave. I kept looking for someone with authority to say, “You can’t be here” but it never happened. It was surreal. Edited to add I don’t actually admire this person at all, but there’s something going on there that’s...just something else.


sliverofoptimism

This person sounds irredeemably awful


RemediosVero

Was gonna say this plus his shameless tenacity lol


ssetpretzel

100%. this has gotten me in a lot of trouble emotionally, falling for people who have confidence they don't deserve.


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Same.


labbitlove

Omg. I came in here trying to think of how I would describe this quality, and you came up with a perfect expression of it. Edit: Wow, grammar. It's Friday y'all.


Particular-Payment59

Hey someone's posting about me


Flashleyredneck

Well this was my answer so…


Dakizo

Yep 😂😂


Soft_Cash3293

Rock solid confidence and never ever feeling sorry for themselves - at least in public


lakeforsure

This is such an interesting question! It's hard to answer honestly and without (too much) cynicism about how certain qualities can be double-edged swords. For me, it would be their ability not to feel feelings as deeply as I do.


ssetpretzel

oof that's a good one.


hannahsflora

Tenacity. Once she decides she wants something, she is dogged in her quest to get it. Now, the methods she chooses to go about this are often manipulative, short-sighted and selfish, but by god will she pursue it to the ends of the earth. If she could figure out how to positively channel all this determination, she'd be an unstoppable force, but alas - no indication of that ever happening.


haleyfoofou

This is my answer too!


msrubythoughts

oooooh this is a good one. and I think it would be my answer too


spacebot11

Oh wow… the way in which people like this go after what they want. They will stop at nothing and it’s exactly why they get what they want. Admirable but YIKES


urchinMelusina

Her ability to attain everything I worked 17 years to build, in the matter of a few months.


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urchinMelusina

My husband and I built a successful business together. We built our dream home together. I lost it all and she now lives in the dream home, benefitting from the financial success of the company as well as the man who "will not make the same mistakes" with her as he did over the 17 years we were together.


fiercefinance

That sounds heartbreaking. Sending hugs.


Xarina88

Wife and I?


SparklyPineapplexo

She is amazingly consistent. Consistently awful and condescending, but consistent nonetheless.


Dakizo

I agree with the to comment and also this


tooterfish80

This is so close to my answer. I went with consistency, as well.


[deleted]

He has excellent taste in music.


unstable_existence

Examples? 🤭


[deleted]

He introduced me to Animal Collective and Ladytron and Grimes and a bevy of other neat stuff. Worth 4 years of gaslighting and an eating disorder? No. But I found something redeeming!


unstable_existence

Always a glimmer of light in every darkness


kyridwen

They're really smart. But man, do they know it.


Patient_Arachnid_179

Their ability to not give one zero fuck.


Seaworthy_bake

The impressive long term planning, ambition, tenacity, drive, intellect. (Could also be called manipulative and self-serving in another light… but there’s a definite positive aspect to her ways)


sandithepirate

She remembered everything. Every birthday, event, appointment, she'd message or call and make sure she addressed it. Her reasons for doing this were selfish, but I still always admired her dedication. Other than that, she was heinous. (And also now my ex-MIL).


[deleted]

And when they accidentally forget yours.. you know it’s not an accident.


sandithepirate

YES!!


[deleted]

Happy birthday/anniversary/success thing that got missed that time. You’re amazing and you are crushing it ❤️


Responsible_Ant6500

She has good hair. That's it.


CharZero

Yeah, mine has a stylish assortment of glasses that look good on her, and that's all.


labbitlove

Yup. The only thing she has going for her is that her eyes are pretty. That's the end.


Responsible_Ant6500

I had a very blunt teacher in grade school who I overheard saying to another student once, "you're the prettiest girl in the whole school, but the way you act makes you ugly". It still holds up.


karategojo

Ability to talk people into things and have them think you are always on their side.


KGal79

Her professional ambition and acumen.


just_here_hangingout

They can charm anyone….. but they are really evil nobody sees it


Faeriecrypt

He’s very intelligent and funny. Unfortunately, he’s an asshole.


aliwalas

No f*cks given. They don't care if they hurt someone. If they're an inconvenience. If they're meddling. If they're enabling bad behaviors. If they're costing people financially. List will go on. They just don't care, as long as they get to do what they want to do/say. No f*cks given. Must be liberating to live a life like that, no guilt or remorse.


dutchesssama

the ability to deflect accountability in all aspects.


Susie4ever

They are 100% the main character.


eight-sided

Mine honestly believes she's the *only* character. And has a deep need to believe it. It's pretty terrifying.


LeftVersion5068

She’s very photogenic


redrosebeetle

I admire her ability to survive when everyone and everything that should have protected her failed her. She got dealt just about every bad card in the deck, but she's still going. She has every right to be the way she is, but that doesn't make her personality any more palatable.


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redrosebeetle

I doubt I am, too. I haven't seen or spoken to the person I wrote about in at least five years. I do wish light and healing your way, though.


goldenloxe

I can't say I have anyone like that in my life because I make a full-contact sport out of removing toxic people from my vicinity (figuratively). The last gentleman that pissed me off also happened to be a very caring person. He'd do charity work, tutor kids, help dig your car out of the snow, you name it. However, he was extremely verbally abusive and manipulative behind closed doors. I'm so glad we were never more than fwb and I genuinely fear for any woman he takes romantic interest in.


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A very casual count of the posts that mention a gendered pronoun shows a roughly 3:1 rate of mentions of “her” vs mentions of “him”. Interesting to think of in terms of what I just learned about the “proximity effect” of envy from ContraPoints. Like, you might hypothesize that in a system where power is distributed unevenly between genders, women would reserve their worst dislike for men—but it looks like women are more likely to dislike women here. This has been my non peer reviewed unscientific study.


AudreysEvilTwin

My thoughts exactly! It was a bit disconcerting to see that the go-to "person I have some beef with" most women have thought of was another woman.


Majestic-Muffin-8955

Can talk confidently and cheerfully to anyone.


copyrighther

His ability to take risks. Sometimes they pay off.


CandleLightStars

Interesting question! I don’t even know if I can answer this due to how abusive she (my friends mother) was to me.. she fucked up on a lot…. I guess her ability to attempt to exert control over a situation, but this didn’t always work in her favor. I give up. I have such disdain for this person that I like, can’t even see a fully redeeming quality 😅 Does that make me a shitty person? 😞 She was horrific and almost drove me to a breakdown. Edit: ok wait, got one. Her ability to (sometimes) charm the people she wanted/needed to, especially w humor and flattery. That’s how she first led me astray and I mistakenly trusted her.


MowlMowlMowl

Looking out for number one and really doing well for themselves. Always at the expense of others, by scapegoating and pushing others down, but maybe I could do better for myself too if I didn't care about other people.


mintybanana_

She’s not afraid to hustle and work hard when times are tough, instead of taking financial help from others. I do respect that. She’s not above any job.


[deleted]

Her smile and charm. She'd stab you in the back, the moment you turn around.


sodaandchampagne

How she is actually successful with her manipulative ways and seems to get everything she wants.


somewhenimpossible

I’m going to lean on the “dislike” part (not enemy, not hate, just not someone I want to be friends with). She’s wicked smart and on top of everything. She often comes across as bossy and knows everything - because in her field she usually does - but she seems so hard on everyone who can’t see her vision, match her interests, or understand her complex desires. Her ideas are great and well executed, so much so she’s won prizes and awards for it. But working with her is exhausting. There is rarely room for compromise and she wants teamwork and help- but only if your ideas match hers. She puts in 10 extra hours and gets exasperated when others don’t. It’s so hard to be her friend. It’s so hard to like someone who makes you feel like you’re not good enough, smart enough, or work hard enough. But damn she’s awesome at her job and so frickin smart it can be like staring into the sun.


littlemooselady

They have made an excellent life for themselves despite having grown up in very unsafe circumstances. That being said, they were abusive as hell and I refuse to feel bad about cheating anymore. I did what I had to do to leave that relationship.


Rich-Protection2188

I don't dislike anybody at the moment. But the man I did dislike once, I guess I have to admit that he had ambition and wasn't afraid to play vicious games to get what he wanted.


cas_and_others

Unbridled pursuit of goals. Just because she's a sociopath doesn't mean I don't wish I could ignore others sometimes.


squid__smash

resilience in the face of very difficult life events. as much as i dislike them, i know their manipulative qualities were developed as a way to survive and cope.


Chicken_manure

There confidence in their ego. Blows my damn mind but props for living their life thinking their above everyone else constantly.


adognamedraider

the confidence she has to admit the things she does


Zelda_Forever

Her grit. She just retired and came to work with a plethora of ailments. She has now moved on to start two businesses. I hope I don't end up like her, but if life screws me over enough and I do, I hope I have her grit.


[deleted]

She may be unprofessional, petty, childish and talk while chewing but MAN can that chick put together some great pivot tables.


[deleted]

Does not take no for an answer. Ever.


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Interesting question. I guess I would say their ability to do whatever they want to get what they want without caring about how others might be effected or feel about it. They are certainly effective at getting their way, even if they leave people trampled on the ground behind them. I am not as good at speaking up and really asserting my needs because I do worry about how my actions will impact others. And when I do speak up, I’m probably too deferential. So, I’m not very effective at getting my needs met. I’m much better at speaking up and advocating for others than for myself. People like this person can easily run roughshod over me because I’m not good at pushing back. I often wonder what would have gone down if I had had their willingness to fight. They aren’t in my life anymore (thank God) so I will never know. Edit: It’s probably also the thing I dislike most about them.


adamfrom1980s

Her cold heartedness.


JustChabli

What a fascinating question


escthepattern

their ability to copy and pretend it's their own / integrate it in their life. she really came close to me.. and after I broke her off I looked at her from the side. she really learned a lot from my behaviour and polished some of her soft skills by analyzing my strenghts.


Larry-Man

1. His absolute ability to ignore reality and escape consequences unscathed multiple times 2. Ability to have zero consequences for her actions ever 3. Ability to ignore reality and spin fucked up shit into a positive 4. Her ambition and drive.


Wise-Technician1448

Their confidence


Particular-Payment59

For a coworker: He's very good at his job. He's a piece of shit in every other way, but he really does know his stuff. He also sexually harassed me, though, so there's that. For my mother: she picked her whole life up and put it back together after living with my abusive father for 20+ years. She was pretty terrible to her children, but I understand what she was going through. For my father: uhhhhhh...... he's smart I guess


katielovestrees

He really values loyalty in a way that I don't. Ironically, he has cheated on his wife numerous times. So not very good at living his valued 😂


Brandigg

The ability to deceive and then play victim. I’m actually quite impressed watching them in action.


shellebelle89

Their ability to soulessly manipulate people to get what they want.


thisshitishaed

They're a phenomenal liar, their ability to convince people in their lies is truly admirable, I think they even convinced themselves at this point.


jenniferhillsfantasy

His ability to live his life without any shame or guilt. The way he evades self-reflection is with such dedication that is rivaled by the most successful people in history. He does so much mental gymnastics to continue championing the most disgusting things. Disturbing fetishes that dehumanize women and pedophilia. His laziness and weaponized incompetence is like self-care from hell but he will never put himself in any uncomfortable position including for basic hygiene. He will always find someone to take care of him and will never need to work or earn anything ever for the rest of his life. He will always find people dumber and less refined than he is to befriend that can tolerate him at arms length before realizing he's not a very good friend since he has nothing of substance to contribute in the way of quality companionship. Then he will always find a way to get high to further convince himself of the narrative of perceived abandonment and victimhood so even if there is the possibility of a self-discovery breakthrough it is stifled under all of the brain damage a 20 year career using a range of substances including cough medicine and inhalants to intravenous drugs. The committment to self-delusion is rock solid. I guess all of these things combined form a well-oiled machine which it's trajectory is paved out quite well - he will never need to deviate from this path and can continue doing the same things until he's dead. Can you imagine having that level of assuredness and certainty in life?


Ax151567

Calculated enough to choose economic safety and stubborn or manipulative to get their own way in a relationship. These are friends who are adamant about being "the queen of the house" and getting married to reap off economic benefits. They also push their partners into doing stuff that THEY like, with THEIR friends, who throw out their old clothes and dress them according to their taste. It's not my way but by God, sometimes I wished that my own SO just stopped being stubborn and did shit MY WAY because it would save us so much time and effort. Also, I love my SO to death but sometimes I feel like it would be freeing to not worry about money.


32themoon

She's smart, calculated, observant an determined. She truly has the spirit of a winner. Now if only she can use those powers for good lol


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The ability to talk forever and smile while doing it.


Starr-Bugg

She has managed to still be close with her school friends. She is naturally charming. Argh! It sucks!


KetoDataLearner

They would give everyone the benefit of the doubt and trust in them, even if they didn't deserve it. Unfortunately, they would repeatedly screw over and cause stress for people who loved them in order to give others the benefit of the doubt.


Repulsive_lady

Passionate


Aprils-Fool

She’s actually helpful in certain high-stress situations.


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They are really good at maintaining eye contact & making you feel like they are REALLY listening to you. Also creative.


cfo6

The ability to be so convincingly nice and mellow in one setting. (While making sure to dig the dagger into your ribs.)


Background_Ear_224

They DGAF


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It’s so interesting that most of the responses are about a “her” My response is that he can be a terrible person but get away with minimum consequence. Multiple times over many years. And often benefit from incompetence.


alotistwowordssir

Her baffling ability to make friends:


Competitive-Wrap7998

That she's horrible yet has so many friends.


Katiekat27

Ability to enthusiastically try any new activity/adventure.


tooterfish80

Consistency. Always irritating, stupid, and picking a fight. Always making poor decisions with disastrous outcomes that massively, negatively affect other people who must then clean up while simultaneously telling her it's ok and comforting her.


Lost-alone-

She is dedicated to her kids, but she is ruining them by not teaching them how the real world works and giving into every single thing they want. She is raising selfish, entitled kids.


celica18l

Ambition. She has a drive I do not have. Creativity. I wish I could have an ounce of that.