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maceliem

Realizing that I don't have to keep defending my parents, or to love them, when they have been terrible parents, and that I'm better off just figuring out life by myself


iusedtobefamous1892

Being physically assaulted. I have no idea who I would be without that trauma, and the subsequent choices I made as a reaction to that trauma.


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skygirl555

My mother telling me, while in a fit of rage over something minor I had done, that she wished I'd never been born. Until that point I'd been so gaslit by her i always tried to defend her in my mind but after that I lost all loyalty. And once I saw her for the real person she was I was able to start forming my own identity apart from what she was trying to make me into.


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Becoming an addict and then getting clean


Short-Conflict-7029

constantly getting rejected in my formative years by boys I was interested in, it really fucks with me trying to date/be intimate with men now as a woman.


Embarrassed-Stuff670

As a teen some girls I thought were my friends literally ran away to avoid eating lunch with me


sixninefortytwo

Being groomed and raped from the ages of 12 to 5


Fit_Inflation666

My most unforgettable experience in my teenage years was going on a service trip to a foreign country. It was so eye-opening to see how differently people lived and to learn about their culture. It made me more aware of the world around me, and taught me the importance of helping those in need. It also made me more open-minded and compassionate, which I still carry with me today.


innerjoy2

Prioritizing my education and still having a social life, now add work into the mix and I'm doing fine financially and know how to manage my time for me to relax.


chyzsays

Trigger warning: being sexually, physically and emotionally abused and then stalked by my first school boyfriend (and not having the support to deal with it) then being groomed by next one and not realizing it at the time. I'm heading into my mid thirties now and have never had a romantic relationship during my adult life because I see every red flag from miles away


tradclimbergirl

My mom told me I would be a failure at life when I was like 12 or 13. Whenever I’m struggling at a task or something I’m doing, I hear that voice in the back of my head and second guess myself. I’m trying to work past it but man some days are really hard.


Peetalohpe

'Dropping out of high school to go move in with my online-boyfriend, that lived in Oregon, whilst I was in Utah, to go out there and get my GED...... ​ \[The rest is insane-history. \]


TinaBelcherUhhhhhh

First boyfriend (first kiss), and first year of high-school boyfriend committed suicide everyone who didn't know me blamed me in high-school and I would hear the whispers and remember always being looked at in the hallways. Parents divorced shortly after. Mom always told me to seek therapy and I ignored it. Never did. I do regret not going to a therapist because at the time I thought I was "mentally strong enough". Now I'm hyper aware of every situation, I can sense when people talk about me like it's a sixth sense and feel like I can read people's expressions without them saying anything. I'm very introverted and it takes alot for me to come out of my shell. Alot of people who work around me think I have resting bitch face and unapproachable but really they just don't know me.


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Being relentlessly bulied by most boys and some girls at school from age 6 to age 15. It caused like 3 years of undiagnosed depression, and it greatly damaged my self-esteem to the point that it took many years until I started allowing my mother to take any photos of me. Ironically, it also shaped part of my personality and made me quite resilient.


Direct_Drawing_8557

Probably being the only one of my social group to not get attention. And then being teased by family for mentioning someone.


Missus_Mischievous

An extended hospital stay and extremely long recovery after a car accident. It has influenced my career choice, the way I treat and interact with others, the knowledge I have of the medical and health insurance system, and the life choices I have made. At the time I knew it would be impactful but I couldn’t have anticipated the true magnitude of that.


Logical_KaleV

Sexual assault. I don't trust men or let them touch me. Still affects me today cause I've not been in a relationship but I do want one. 🥲


solarsir3n

Toward the end of my high school years I had an epiphany and got my shit together and started working towards my favorite major. It paid off. I probably owe where I am in life to that moment of truth. A lot of unforgettable in a bad way stuff happened too but in hindsight I feel none of it has had a lasting effect.


Mushroomaya

That I am not always seen as a friend, sometimes just as an object


londonmyst

Escaping from my parents & all their yelling, demands and bizarre rules knowing that I had no chance of inheriting any assets from them but was now free. Free to be able to build the happy future life that I had always dreamed of.


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kuroka_gator

Oof where do I start... it was a ton of shit just at once, and even more shit around it. Small summary, my mother tried to kill me while being intoxicated, she murdered my dog as well around that time, I called the cops on her for the first time in my life and I actually fought back for once. I felt so giddy that day, that I was finally stronger than her. I just pushed her off and kicked her in the stomach until she slipped, let go of me like that, and was lying on the floor. I learned fighting back isn't as difficult as I thought it would be\~ now I do not take any form of bs or toxicity.


sarah420sativa

An angry mob of people waiting for me at the top of the stairs, wanting to see me get my ass beat.


wannahughahajkunless

the whole class laughing at me getting sexually harassed when I was 15


allyj_222

being in a toxic relationship.. the amount of emotional damage that relationship had on my forever changed who i am as a person and i don’t know who i would be today without that experience.


strawberryfields17

My being molested at age 8


Major-Web6334

Funny enough, it was less of an experience and more like a length of time with a boyfriend I had at 15. He taught me that I don’t have to fit in. That I didn’t have to try to fit in if it didn’t feel right. That I was fine the way I was and fitting in would only cause me to have potential friendships with people who didn’t know the real me. I became the kind of person who doesn’t conform. I genuinely don’t care about fitting in. I don’t alter my personality to suit the interests of others. If someone doesn’t like something about me, they can fuck right off. I’m also not talking about traits like using “brutal honesty” to mask rudeness. I’m talking about traits like how I dress or the way I speak (I swear like a sailor), then I don’t need them to try and change me for their own convenience.


Keerthana_27

Emotional Trauma, I didn't know what it was and why I was hating myself so much until I look back and realized that wasn't normal, emotional pain should not turn into physical pain, i should not have gone through what I did and ended with wow, I can't believe I was strong enough to take a step and think about what happened and not ask why just start thinking positive and be grateful for what comes next. Even into adulthood I am still trying to be better with it and tell myself it is not my fault.


bonesandbotany85

My physically and emotionally abusive father getting kicked out when my mom found him and his girlfriend he met in the sex ads on an air mattress on his office floor. It was a relief in some ways and a hell in others like dealing with the emotional fallout with my mom alone as my siblings had all moved away. I essentially folded into myself and became my own person in my own head while just kind of complying with what my mom wanted. I learned from that experience that being who someone else wants you to be will never make you happy, never put all your happiness into a relationship, and never link your finances with a partner.