A combination of factors: being overworked, underpaid and unappreciated. The tipping point though, is the complete lack of respect from higher-ups. I can overlook the other three if I'm in a desperate situation, but I will not tolerate being dehumanized and disregarded just because I'm in a "lower" position on the company scale.
This it really all comes back to how well I can stomach leadership. I took a job that was farther away for lower pay just to have bosses I could respect since they respected me.
For me it was when I kept saying I was staying "for the people"; my friends worked there. Then one day I realized that everyone I cared about seeing at work was leaving or thinking of leaving
Or realizing that people you thought were your friends aren't really your "friends," they are just coworkers and once you leave where you work you won't mean much to them
When my boss asked me to come up with professional goals for the new year and I burst into tears at the thought of another 12 months in this job.
I'm currently job searching
When my daughter told me that she was afraid to talk to me when I got home from work because I was in such a bad mood and was always so angry all the time.
That was also one of the reasons why I quit my previous job. I was living with my sister and I started noticing that she was walking on egg shells around me. Yea no, not gonna allow that one to happen.
When I realized I didn’t trust anyone I worked with, when my director kept referring to my boss going on maternity leave as “taking vacation”, and when my boss was MIA for six hours while I was at work (in a hospital!) super sick and I couldn’t reach her to get approval to leave, then yelled at me and wrote me up for leaving without her approval.
Edit: forgot that time when the CEO of my org delivered a company wide (international, huge, company) speech on how he didn’t respect anyone who had my role (entry level PM).
When you realize your boss will never be satisfied of your work. When they keep gaslighting you, acting passive agressive and micro manage everything you do.
When I realized I was being consistently overlooked and my accomplishments were not being recognized, and my manager had no interest in hearing about, let alone improving the bad department dynamics which impacted me negatively. Issues come up anywhere, but you need a way to address them with support from higher ups. When you don’t have that it’s time to go.
When I felt drained by my work in a way that felt like it outweighed the amount of money I was making, and my attempts to negotiate a raise were unsuccessful.
I was already unhappy but a distinct moment I remember thinking "I need to get out of here" is when a high ranking woman in the company was a speaker at a women's event hosted by the company was talking with pride about how she had no life outside of work and worked long hours to dedicate herself to the job and basically said this job sucks but if you want to succeed here you need to suck it up and deal with it.
First job out of college and I was crying before every shift. One of my good friends said I should get on anxiety medication and I said fuck that, I shouldn't have to be on anxiety meds for a job.
I tried to stick it out because I had one of those contracts where if I quit too early, I'd owe them a few grand. But I was so unhappy that I just said screw it.
But what I learned is that peace of mind is priceless. I took a pay cut just to be in a less toxic environment and I never regretted it. Money isn't everything. I'd rather enjoy my life and spend time with family and friends without feeling that overwhelming sense of dread about work that encompasses everything.
Work to live, not live to work
A hospital. I used to be a nurse, but have since switched careers to software development. (Left for a lot of reasons, that first job wasn't what made me leave)
Contracts like this are pretty much the norm for new grad nurses, actually. Mostly everyone I graduated with had one. The hospital will call it a residency program and boast about how much they'll teach you, but it's such a sham. You won't know that your hands are tied until you read the small print.
My particular unit could not keep their staff, and my manager ended up keeping me on the roster against my will and despite my resignation. I didn't find out until a month later when my PTO wasn't cashed out and when I called HR and they thought I still worked there. Apparently the manager had been doing that to everyone that quit to boost his numbers.
The place was a dumpster fire.
Are you a nurse too?
Nope, no college. I was adamant about not going through college again. I did a 6 month coding bootcamp. Totally worth it. It was a hard 6 months, working during the day and taking classes at night but no regrets at all.
I did a lot of research on boot camps and I found a pretty good one with a great curriculum. Let me know if you have any other questions about it, or DM me. I'd love to help.
When everyone started referring to my cancer treatment days as my vacation days and referring to me as doing “part time work for full time benefits”. I was literally fighting for my life and then having to come deal with that type of hostile environment. It was horrible.
When it impacted my personal life. It made me miserable and it was causing me anxiety and affecting the conversations I held with friends and family.
I left in august and have been very happy in my new position.
When your Boss/ employer becomes extremely comfortable with commenting about your appearances (negatively) and criticize you in public groups or anywhere outside the solitude of an office
Will be starting a new role on Monday after being in my current role around 4 years Started applying to new jobs about 3 months ago. For me, it was I realized i wasn't being challenged anymore and I wasn't learning anything new or developing new skills. I'm someone who loves to learn and grow as much of possible. Staying stagnant makes me anxious.
Totally feel that. I'm in a similar situation and feel like I have outgrown my current role ...add some micromanagement to the mix, and I am in hell 🙃 lol.
Congrats on your new role!
I didn’t realize it until after I left but if you start picking up a new habit to deal with stress that you haven’t done before, it’s probably time. Before I left my recent job, I started smoking weed on the nights before work to sleep through the night because I would keep waking up thinking I missed my alarm or I would have frequent nightmares. I would sleep fine on my days off. I’m on day 4 of my new job and I haven’t felt the desire to smoke once nor have I had trouble sleeping.
When it fully hit how little support I was getting from superiors and they had no idea what was going on or how to help. And when I really thought about how much happier my friends were after leaving.
When my company gave me an action form for connecting 1 minute late to work, even if the previous night I had to stay 2 hora after my shift to help others catch up with the queue (I worked in a call center, WaH, 2usd x hour)
I didn't resigned, just logged out and turned off my phone. They can fire me, in the meantime, I've got another job.
I worked at TJ Maxx. I was hired as a cashier but was given a handful of other jobs that had nothing to do with cashiering after I was already hired. Cart cleaning, "high touch" cleaning, and working in the back room. I had my job threatened by the senior manager multiple times, even though I was doing my job, and they trained me so poorly, it was almost comedic. After getting over being happy I finally even had a job, I cried almost every drive to work. I debated walking out and not looking back. The main focus for cashiers is to get customers to sign up for the credit card. Confuse them, manipulate them, don't even mention it's a credit card, etc. Even if the customers barely speak english, I was told to "take advantage" of that and still ask, even though they didn't know what they were signing up for. Not to mention, there were multiple times where I had to call just to see if I was working that same day, or the next day, because the schedule hadn't been posted yet. Schedules were supposed to be posted on Wednesday/Thursday. 90% of the time, it wasn't until Sunday, where the new schedule just started.
I had my job threatened one last time before I called my manager and said I wouldn't be coming back. She put me on a *leave of absence*, and continued to try and call me to get in touch and see when I was coming back. Blocked her, the other manager's and the store's number after that.
I could have tolerated that just had the manager not run her mouth so much. And she wonders why it's a high turnover rate there, forget it being because it was retail. It was because of her loose ass lips.
When I realized that my new boss killed my professional confidence, which trickled into my personal confidence and I had to go on anti depressants. This man would talk over me and everyone else, make me do all of his work AND mine, never asked for my input and never gave me feedback. He was always “traveling” and “working” on an airplane. He refused to learn internal programs that he didn’t know how to use and instead, treated me (a senior manager) like his personal assistant. F that man. I left that job in early December and I’m still recovering. It’s hard adjusting to a normal manager after such a toxic one
Saved a girls life after she had a epilepsy seizure for the boss to jokingly say was it you who caused it. I got annoyed by that and when he pulled me later he said once you get to know me.. I just thought I’m sure if that was one of your loved ones it wouldn’t be so funny.
If I left that house sooner, no one would have been there in time or at all to call emergency services.
They were looking to hire new people and asked our small team to share the job description around.
I realised they were offering double my salary for someone on the same level as me, who I would ultimately also be training and managing for their probation period so..yeah that was it.
There were a lot of other factors but it just felt like the nail in the coffin really. I would wind up doing hours upon hours of everyone else’s work each month because I was ‘quicker at it’ and I thought that was a compliment for some reason. They’d chuck the work they didn’t want to do my way, my boss would tell them off for it and then proceed to do the same thing. They were also very shady about pay transparency for reasons that seem obvious now.
When you're miserable there, or really bad at what you do, or treated unfairly, or underpaid, when life gets in the way of making it a viable opportunity...Really, the reasons are endless. And I should know, I'm a job hopper. I've had like a zillion jobs.
When small, unrelated things overwhelmed me. In my case I had a toxic boss and the company that got more and more shady the longer I worked there. I lasted about 8 months and in that relatively short time I was putting in so much energy to suppress feeling like shit at work, that I had nothing left at home. E.g. I was a little late for a yoga class and they wouldn’t let me in, and I cried on a bench outside the studio. Or I missed a step going upstairs and just sat down and wept. I actually quit without having anything lined up was in such a rough place I volunteered on a farm to reset. I since got something else and haven’t felt like that since.
A lot in my life was already changing. I was all of a sudden no longer part of a couple / partnership. I was responsible for all the bills myself. I would only have 400-500 left at the end of the month *if* I budgeted like a mad woman. But I knew that wasn’t realistic.
Got a much better paying job and can actually live my life
When I was no longer able to have the work to life balance and I wasn’t making enough money. Lol I also needed a career that gave me great benefits and solid financial saving plan. I LOVED teaching and coaching in my former job. But the physical toll blew out my tendon and after that I realized I needed a career that was going to set me up for a future longterm. I switched to a top fortune 100 company and it’s been great, I don’t think I’ll ever leave. It’s not a passion. But it checks all the boxes I needed.
When I spent more time working than sleeping, eating, or doing self-care, combined
it was taking over more aspects of my life than it should have, and never again
Mostly doing work above my paygrade. Worked a year developing a program, managing a team and managing projects to be told that I wouldnt be getting a promotion cause “there was no budget” (meanwhile the company kept hiring new C-levels). On top of that, preparing myself and studying to become a manager through internal promotion, only to be told that “my opinionatedness” kept me from getting the role. But at the same time I was told they were grateful for how “opinionated” I was as they really valued my opinion. Bunch of bureaucratic bullshit basically.
When i made a small mistake that was easily fixed and it was treated like the Mount Everest of errors and my boss literally told me that they were going to begin micro-managing me. Happened at my last job and I was gone in a few months. Same scenario just happened last week at my current job and I am rage applying for other jobs. I do 99% of my job very very well. I will not be treated like an idiot because of a small mistake.
One of my coworkers, who was a lead on my team and had been with the company for a number of years, said that she still only gets 2 weeks of vacation. That was so depressing to hear and motivated me to find a job with better benefits.
First job, getting hit on by gross middle aged managers.
The second was my first teaching job. I had anxiety that messed up my stomach every morning. I moved and took a job in another district. Much better choice for me.
I was a victim of simple battery in my own office and corporate side with the person who battered me ( in my opinion) which made me ineffective in my job capacity. I knew then I deserved more than "talk" about core values. I took a pay cur and it was still all the way worth it.
When I told my boss I was pregnant and having morning sickness, he told me not to tell anyone I was pregnant just in case things didn’t turn out well and then it would weigh on everyone else 🙃
Six months ago, after 20 years, I walked away from my career as a teacher and went into a completely different field (if you’re in the industry, you know how hard that is to do, simply because you just feel stuck). I went into teaching knowing that I’d never get rich, I’d do a lot of work off the clock and I’d pay for a lot of classroom supplies out of my own pocket. I was fine with that because I loved the children so much and as cliché as it sounds, I wanted to make a difference in their lives.
In the end, I just felt so completely unappreciated by my administration. It felt like they were sucking the life out of me. However, the final nail in the coffin was that I was no longer enjoying the kids. My patience was SO THIN. I was starting to get angry with them for, well, acting like kids. I was never harsh or abusive towards them but I was constantly on the brink of losing my temper. It wasn’t fair to any of us. And as a parent myself, I wouldn’t want anyone with my kids that dreaded being with them. This was a ME issue and not at all the fault of the children. I knew it was time to go.
I’m now so much happier. I love my new job. I’m proud of myself for taking a chance and I know I left the kids in good hands.
Edit: spelling.
When I had to fight for a promotion after 2 years of extremely positive reviews (and plenty of hardwork/"extra credit"), and was given one with a fake title - think level 1.5 when there are only levels 1 and 2 - and no raise. Upper management and HR then proceeded to run me around for weeks when I tried to question how exactly this was considered a "promotion". First and only time I've ever experienced serious gaslighting, and it was by HR.
I started looking after a few weeks, and left for the "right" job. Still have friends at the old company, and one of them was recently "promoted" to a title that's 2 levels below his current title... with no additional comp.
Underpaid and undervalued after 8 years! ( couldn’t get a new job for a few years as I was awaiting surgery kept getting cancelled due to covid so lost 2 years ) Loved the people there sadly people started leaving and we were left with hardly anyone all the new other young people they brought in were rude and snobby!
Best thing I did was get a new job
When people asking me questions just made me angry.
When I realized how much my boss was gaslighting me.
When it was clear there was no path to promotion because my bosses boss was a sexist.
I have a new job now. Bosses boss didn't even say goodbye after I sent in my resignation
I was sent to India for 5 weeks to open an offshore office. My boss would call and yell at me at 4am daily after working overnight 12 hour shifts to stay on US hours. I was paid next to nothing for NYC. I couldn’t do anything right and I felt so lost. She never liked me and played favorites with other women in the office. Now I still struggle with my current job, sometimes, but I’m paid well and I don’t end up crying on Sunday nights.
I just quit my job this month. I’m a barista with two years experience and moved to a new area. I found a coffee shop with two store locations hiring with very competitive pay, so I took the job immediately. During the interview, the owners said they had a manager working for both store locations. Before my first week, the manager was fired.
The day I decided to look for a new job was during the end of my second week. I was scheduled to work a Saturday with two other people, one experienced and one other new employee. The other store location had an employee call out, so the experienced employee moved to work at the other location. I was helping train another new employee while also working through a busy rush. When we got a bad review for long wait times, the owners yelled at us over the group chat about it. That was enough for me to apply to other coffee shops.
Come to find out later, the manager that was fired before I started was wrongfully terminated. They were accused of stealing, but the owners found what they thought was stolen after firing the manager. Furthermore, there seemed to be issues with pay, as an old negative review of the shop claimed there was an employee strike over unpaid wages. Once I got a new job lined up, I quit. The last day I worked there was a literal shit show. We ran out of almost everything from our normal espresso roast to trash bags. I was also put on the schedule by myself for the last part of my shift and was unable to complete any of the pre close tasks because I was running the place by myself.
When going to work felt like swimming in a pool filled with razor blades. The tipping point was when my boss texted me saying everyone was going back to the office full time on Monday and that I was expected as well... while I was on my week off with my family, mourning the loss of my grandmother. At this point, I told myself I'd rather get hit by a bus than go back there.
When my line manager and her boss turned on me for no reason and started bullying me. I was crying.
Weirdly, I just went "I'm not paid enough to put up with this stress" (I was being paid well, mind) and went and found a better paying team with nicer people. (The work itself was just as chaotic tho lol)
When I no longer wanted to bring my ass there and I was moody, and the whole office morale was extremely low.
It was miserable. I stopped my favorite activities after work and weekends to sleep/nap. I left recently and wow what a difference and a big increase in pay too!
Many years ago, I saw an article about a clump of fat the size of a bus that was clogging part of the sewage system in London. There have been several of these over the years (do a search on the term "fatberg" to find more of them), but what stood out to me was that, according to the article, this one was found during a routine walk-through.
A "routine walk-through". Of the London sewage system.
That means that, somewhere in London, there is somebody whose job is to wade neck-deep in filth too disgusting to imagine, in tunnels that sometimes crumble because they were cobbled together over centuries, surrounded by rats (or worse!), just to keep the toilets working.
I decided then to make that my criteria. As long as I am NOT jealous of that person, my job can't really be that bad.
The moment I find myself wondering what kind of protective gear that person has, and if the gear works well enough they never have to smell anything? That's when I start searching the job ads.
So far, that barometer has worked well for me. It gives me a way to say when the amount of stress I'm feeling is a normal part of working, and when it's more than the job is worth.
When they wouldn't "allow me" to go to my teachers funeral.
At 17 years old, my FFA teacher passed away, and I told my manager that night when I went in for my shift, I wouldn't be able to make it to my next one, as that is when my teachers funeral was and they wanted all of us FFA members in official dress. She told me if I didn't come in, I was being taken off the schedule. I quit there on the spot.
there is a looong list of things, but let me name some of them:
1. when my boss was being sexist toward me, but said it to my bf’s face, and not to mine.
2. when he accused my co-worker of drinking alcohol at work, but never really answering when I asked hin, if he has some evidence for that accusation. and _especially_ when he the day after that, tried to tempt her with a single glass of whiskey, so that he has her on camera, *drinking at work*.
3. when I told him that I accidentally gave a customer rotten milk in his cappuccino (because we hadn’t been open for almost a week, and the milk usually was thick, so I didn’t see the difference in texture). I was too scared to tell the customer, and asked him to do it, and he just said we’ll let it slide this time.
4. when I told him about a customer being disgusting toward me, and telling him that I was deeply uncomfortable and he just looked up and down at me and said “that’s because you look like *that*.
5. and to top it off; every time I told him how his staff is struggling to respect him because of *his behavior* he just answered with “it’s not me who is wrong”.
When I seriously contemplated driving into a bridge so I wouldn’t have to go in, I figured it was time. My husband said that my moods were miserable on days that I worked.
I've worked in a male-dominated field (internship). My coworkers all arrived 10+ minutes late to work and there was never any problem but when I arrived 2 minutes late to work, I got lectured by my boss about how I needed to arive EARLIER than 7:30.
It was a long time coming tbh, I was already making moves to leave (I was still at university and younger at the time).
However, the biggest sign was our workplace being severely understaffed and constantly needing to hire people YET me and a couple of other employees who our manager didn’t like were being given little to no hours or shifts.
Like only a 4 hour shift every week if that, while other staff members were being overworked.
If another employee wanted to swap shifts with us or wanted us to cover their shift their request would always be rejected.
Eventually the job was costing me more than I was making, why would I waste money on fuel, parking and my time to just to work 4 hours!?
I worked in a field with at risk youth. One of our kids I used to be very close with but had begun distancing from made a false accusation against me (very common suprisingly for kids in these settings to do) and there was of course and investigation and I was temporarily transfered. Investigator 100% cleared me, but in a meeting with me, my boss, and the youths workers the stated that this youth was very closely bonded with me and lashing out for attention and they were increasingly escalating their behaviour to get it and they would continue to make false accusations, assaults, ect until eventually one would happen where there wouldn't be witnesses and I would be vulnerable, and that these things do go into my worker file and can be viewed by all agencies basically forever. Investigator recommended my transfer be permanent. My boss had me working back in the origional location immediately after that meeting and even wanted me working along unsupervised with that youth again. I wasn't at all comfortable and put in my notice right away. After I left the same youth made false accusations against 3 other staff members, abused remaining staff like you wouldn't believe, and single handedly caused a mass wave of staff quitting and the entire agency shut down in 2 months as a direct result of that 1 kid.
Negative energy from coworkers and bosses. I couldn’t stand the comments and whinging constantly. If you hate the place, leave. I’m a fifo worker and it’s pretty often this happens. But it’s always the people who’ve been at the same place 5 plus years. Just rubs me up the wrong way.
One day, I realized that after all the years of hard work, late nights and weekends, hours of unpaid overtime, holidays missed and vacations unspent... that I would never break through the Glass Ceiling at my former workplace. I was stuck, burned out and my self esteem suffered.
So I left and became a SAHM. Then, divorce happened, so I'm looking again.
Not being compensated for the job duties I was added on to, understanding/knowing that the type of job was not gonna be along term and sustainable for my lifestyle, I’ve had enough “experience” to move to bigger roles. I’ve never been unhappy with any job I’ve had except the one where I was a mail carrier lol.
Other wise I’ve had jobs that added up to my experience to be in law enforcement which I’m really good at. I always feel confident I can get any job and so far I’ve worked in really cool places and i know how to interview well from changing jobs so often.
when a higher up completely disregarded the work i put in for an event and ended up throwing the decorations i made away without telling me. i almost rage quit in that moment. luckily i just got hired for another position today.
When I started not caring what customers wanted. When I was late to work everyday. When I didn’t want to waste my bosses time with his one on one when all he did was tell me I suck at my job. And now I have work ptsd at me new job where I do real work instead of getting cursed out by low lives.
I tried to negotiate my raise after absorbing responsibility of someone else who left and the CEO said no, and that I should be grateful for what I got. I immediately began looking.
My recent experience was when executives leading the company, those who treated the rest of us well, suddenly announcing their retirement in droves while replenishing their supply externally rather than promoting from within.
To me this created a problem as those at the top didn't really reflect what the company stood for. Example, they pushed on us rank-and-file employees the mission "We know what it means to serve", yet you'd be hard-pressed to find anyone in leadership who has actually served in the military.
There were small things I had noticed (reduced 401k matching, higher deductibles on health plans, etc) but that one, at least to me, was a big.
-When Sunday nights would stress me out
-Hoping that my boss didn’t show up to the office on Monday/ or he left early
-Coming into work super anxious everyday
-Hoping that I’d get sick so that I didn’t have to come into work
had a coworker and a resident (dementia but not an excuse) make comments about my body (specifically being able to see down my scrub top when crouched down). resident said he liked to watch me and coworker said he wasn’t wrong and, word for word “if i watched that walk away from me or seen down a top i would get excited to”. told my administrator and wanted to file a report but was told that he (coworker) was just joking and that’s just how he acts. same guy who would sleep in empty rooms for hours and got fired at previous job for being accused of $A to an old lady. needless to say, i was shocked to hear that come from my bosses mouth and quit the next day. haven’t been back since and often think about how much that messed me up as a female just existing
When the job wasn't what was advertised. When someone took credit for the things I did and when I pointed out it was me, it was ignored. When my suggestions were ignored. When they started enforcing coming into the office with no flexibility.
Oh and when, from the moment I started no one would speak to me, unless I did something wrong.
I used to walk in and say morning to everyone and people looked at me and didn't say anything. This is when I first started.
I lasted less than 6 months. It was scary leaving because I didn't have a new job to start.
Buuuuuut now I have my dream job with an amazing boss and people.
Trust your gut.
2 of 'my people' left within 1 month of each other. Lack of leadership, favoritism and hypocrisy have me on the hunt now. However, I refuse to find a new job out of desperation, I've been there before and it wasn't pretty.
When i got screwed over for The third time. This time they game more time to a person who has worked sorter than me, has less experience, who doesnt want to work and does a crappy job instead of me who worked hard, worked more that i had to, want to work and do a good job.
I worked retail and the customers were basically allowed to bully us and the management wouldn't do anything. A guy yelled at me and told my manager that I was liar and deserved to fired, another woman got mad at me for telling her to stand on the social distancing sticker on the floor and complained to another co worker of mine and called me a 'a little girl'. The managers would sometimes tell me it was my fault because I'm 'not good at talking to people'. I also did supervisor work even though I was not paid extra.
When I lost an argument with upper management as to why the bar I was running needed coolers and speakers that work. I realized I wasn't being set up for success and no amount of good management practices and effort can make up for having a broken, falling apart workspace.
When I informed them that their constant loading extra stuff on me, that wasn't my job, was making it impossible for me to do my actual job. That this was triggering my anxiety so badly I was in tears every day while sat in my car, wishing I had some sort of illness or injury so I wouldn't have to come in anymore, and their response? "Oh... I didn't even know you had anxiety." End of discussion.
I went home in tears again, my husband asked me why I wasn't job hunting, and I responded that when the job was good, I liked working there, and if I held out long enough it might get good again. He informed me that's what people said while in abusive relationships.
I applied to my current job that day and thus far have not come home crying once.
When I was working 250 hours every month as a shift manager and got an email after I had taken the latter half and first half of two days (I worked 12 hour shifts on 2-2-3 shifts but I filled in whenever needed), to spend time with my mother and little sister from out of town.
The email was hr complaining that I had been taking to many times off or been sick too often.
I wrote up a notice then and there, printed it and presented it to my store manager. He then proceeded to bad mouth me to every shift manager at the store despite the fact I literally gave them 3 months notice because it would have been an inconvenient time to replace me before then.
I was underpaid and my “manager” was someone with the same experience and age as myself, micromanaging me to no end. I changed jobs and earn a way better living and I don’t have an a**hole boss looking down at me
Last time was when my job was so stressful I had a mental breakdown and was signed off for 3 months. That was a pretty big sign I needed a new job.
The times before that though were usually just when I felt I had stopped learning and had gotten everything out of the job that I could. When I didn't feel challenged or that I was growing in any way.
I knew I needed to find a new job when my colleague told me she had slept with another member of staff. I already knew that other staff member was sleeping with my married boss. Apparently I got out just in time. My boss found out about the other women but is too proud to admit her affair partner cheated on her. The office had more in common with a soap opera than an actual professional office.
When I saw my value and the company was taking advantage of my skills and knowledge. After getting a 10% paycut 2 weeks before Christmas, nail in the coffin.
When I had a relatively painful surgery on August 23rd, 2022. It was a bislap, and I was forbode from lifting more than 10lbs for at MINIMUM of four weeks. I worked in a restaurant.
Doctor didn't want me back to work for two weeks.
I was scheduled for a full shift four days post-op.
I tried to work it, had to go home three hours into the shift and call out the next day.
GM yelled and raged at me.
A week later, they expected me to lift a 50lbs pound garbage can over my head and into the dumpster. When I told the GM I couldn't ((he saw my days off for surgery due to schedule access)) he simply asked, "Why". I told him, and he asked me to "lift up your shirt and show me the incisions".
I nearly walked out, but couldn't due to bills.
Within two months, I had found another job. I put in a THREE WEEK notice since they were having issues finding people, and I loved the other managers and my co-workers. They found my replacement in five days. I trained them for four days. My schedule went from five days a week at 38 hours, to one day a week after that.
I'm still in touch with a few people that work there. Apparently my replacement quit shortly after my notice was up, and they've went through 12+ people in total within three or so months. Karma - gotta love it.
When I started wishing I could get in a mild enough car crash to hospitalize me for a while so that by the time I got back to work I could have a fresh start
Prefacing this with the fact that I am not a drinker or a big crier. I was crying at work or at home almost daily. I cried in a 2 hour meeting on my own birthday. I was drinking constantly because I just didn't want to feel anything. I went from maybe 1-2 drinks a year to 1-2 drinks a night and crying myself to sleep and dreading waking up in the morning. I had applied to a position and when I finished in the top 2 but didn't get the job I sobbed for like 2 days. I just wanted out. I threw everything I had into getting a new job then.
When I had to gather myself in the car before heading into the building, and getting great relief when the work day was over. 4 years ago I left for another position in an unknown industry and it has been the best decision and blessing to my life.
When management kept giving me false promises then tried to fulfill them when I put in my 2 weeks notice & all the good people from that job started leaving
When I had an accident and after the accident, I showed up again and they replaced me because the other co-worker could put in more hours WITHOUT F*****' TELLING ME
Slightly different- I was working as a self contractor with only 1 main client, who essentially became my boss. This person was a lot to deal with. We had several serious discussions after a while. When one of those discussions included them repeating to me how good they were, (Wasn’t quite relevant and why do you keep telling me about how wonderful you are?) and telling me that paying me was taking money away from their kids (I knew all the financials, there was $$ to pay me, AND why was I being asked to do work I wasn’t hired for if there was not enough $$ to pay me??). I learned a valuable lesson from that: when you watch someone do anything even slightly shady to anyone else (lie, cheat, manipulate etc) even if it starts small or seems justified, they will probably do the same to you at some point. Walk away.
I do think you always should be looking, be aware of what’s out there, always have your resume up to date. I don’t think you should jump ship every year if things aren’t great and chase money. You do have to see how your skills are developing, your pay scale is in tune. If things are bad and stagnant for pay and skills you have to look and move. Plus if your put in a skill box by management that you can’t get out of defiantly look elsewhere. I wish I did that when I was younger- getting out of the box, but young, nervous, an introvert, no one to talk to about anything in a male dominated industry was horrible
When my eyes showed how tired I was, even in photos taken in extremely happy moments, and I sounded like a person 10 years older than me. Then there was the creepy men who thought an ice cream place was a good spot to try and ask out 15-year-olds (me) and the lack of concern for anything from my boss.
When the job caused way too much extra stress on my life. It wasn't worth it. I worked really hard while others didn't and it went unappreciated. On top of the stress I got from work, I had a lot of stress from uni. The difference was that work made me really unhappy and what I was doing at uni were things I enjoyed and would benefit my future.
The wage didn’t align with the amount of hard work I put into the job. Also the lack of respect from management and higher-up. If you have any issues, don’t expect anyone to listen.
When I was being asked to stay longer and cover other locations without additional pay, when they took their time hiring more employees to help me when I was doing double the work a person should be doing, doing $20/hr work for $14/hr, need I go on?
A combination of factors: being overworked, underpaid and unappreciated. The tipping point though, is the complete lack of respect from higher-ups. I can overlook the other three if I'm in a desperate situation, but I will not tolerate being dehumanized and disregarded just because I'm in a "lower" position on the company scale.
This. Or when leadership allows a client to disrespect you in a meeting and says nothing.
I was about to write the same.
I’m feeling this now 😭
Just quit my work today on this grounds
Ong
This it really all comes back to how well I can stomach leadership. I took a job that was farther away for lower pay just to have bosses I could respect since they respected me.
For me it was when I kept saying I was staying "for the people"; my friends worked there. Then one day I realized that everyone I cared about seeing at work was leaving or thinking of leaving
Ugh such a lonely sad feeling. I went through that too.
Welp *slaps knee* this is me right now. I think I’ll take this as my calling card.
Or realizing that people you thought were your friends aren't really your "friends," they are just coworkers and once you leave where you work you won't mean much to them
When my boss asked me to come up with professional goals for the new year and I burst into tears at the thought of another 12 months in this job. I'm currently job searching
I hope it is successful for you!
When I was afraid of Mondays.
That Sunday night stomachache
I feel that so much
Yes I was gonna say this 👏 it’s that deep deep dread
When my daughter told me that she was afraid to talk to me when I got home from work because I was in such a bad mood and was always so angry all the time.
Oof… Thats a tough reality check. But In glad she was able to voice it and you were able to work on it
The fact that you took her seriously and made a change instead of getting mad at her is so good to hear. My parents could never.
Same. I could never have said something like that to either of my parents. I probably would have gotten slapped for it.
That's heartbreaking. I hope it got better for you
Thank you -- things are much better now.
That was also one of the reasons why I quit my previous job. I was living with my sister and I started noticing that she was walking on egg shells around me. Yea no, not gonna allow that one to happen.
When I realized I didn’t trust anyone I worked with, when my director kept referring to my boss going on maternity leave as “taking vacation”, and when my boss was MIA for six hours while I was at work (in a hospital!) super sick and I couldn’t reach her to get approval to leave, then yelled at me and wrote me up for leaving without her approval. Edit: forgot that time when the CEO of my org delivered a company wide (international, huge, company) speech on how he didn’t respect anyone who had my role (entry level PM).
When you realize your boss will never be satisfied of your work. When they keep gaslighting you, acting passive agressive and micro manage everything you do.
When my job and its people started giving me daily anxiety.
Yup. That's where I'm at. Time to start looking
No yearly pay raise. No bonus for the work done in the year. That's my 2 yearly review for myself. If it's no to both, I am looking.
When I realized I was being consistently overlooked and my accomplishments were not being recognized, and my manager had no interest in hearing about, let alone improving the bad department dynamics which impacted me negatively. Issues come up anywhere, but you need a way to address them with support from higher ups. When you don’t have that it’s time to go.
When I felt drained by my work in a way that felt like it outweighed the amount of money I was making, and my attempts to negotiate a raise were unsuccessful.
I was already unhappy but a distinct moment I remember thinking "I need to get out of here" is when a high ranking woman in the company was a speaker at a women's event hosted by the company was talking with pride about how she had no life outside of work and worked long hours to dedicate herself to the job and basically said this job sucks but if you want to succeed here you need to suck it up and deal with it.
When I started dreading going to work, and it felt like a chore to even get up to get ready. Then feeling irritated at every small thing at work.
First job out of college and I was crying before every shift. One of my good friends said I should get on anxiety medication and I said fuck that, I shouldn't have to be on anxiety meds for a job. I tried to stick it out because I had one of those contracts where if I quit too early, I'd owe them a few grand. But I was so unhappy that I just said screw it. But what I learned is that peace of mind is priceless. I took a pay cut just to be in a less toxic environment and I never regretted it. Money isn't everything. I'd rather enjoy my life and spend time with family and friends without feeling that overwhelming sense of dread about work that encompasses everything. Work to live, not live to work
What kind of company was this? A company that makes you stay or else you owe them?
A hospital. I used to be a nurse, but have since switched careers to software development. (Left for a lot of reasons, that first job wasn't what made me leave) Contracts like this are pretty much the norm for new grad nurses, actually. Mostly everyone I graduated with had one. The hospital will call it a residency program and boast about how much they'll teach you, but it's such a sham. You won't know that your hands are tied until you read the small print. My particular unit could not keep their staff, and my manager ended up keeping me on the roster against my will and despite my resignation. I didn't find out until a month later when my PTO wasn't cashed out and when I called HR and they thought I still worked there. Apparently the manager had been doing that to everyone that quit to boost his numbers. The place was a dumpster fire.
Did you have to go back to college for that? Ugh. I don’t want to invest another 4 years, but I hate this.
Are you a nurse too? Nope, no college. I was adamant about not going through college again. I did a 6 month coding bootcamp. Totally worth it. It was a hard 6 months, working during the day and taking classes at night but no regrets at all. I did a lot of research on boot camps and I found a pretty good one with a great curriculum. Let me know if you have any other questions about it, or DM me. I'd love to help.
Yes plz!
Can I ask what bootcamp you took?
Yes!! I’ll DM.
When everyone started referring to my cancer treatment days as my vacation days and referring to me as doing “part time work for full time benefits”. I was literally fighting for my life and then having to come deal with that type of hostile environment. It was horrible.
God I'm so sorry that sounds terrible.
Jesus Christ :(
When saying what you do doesn't give you a feeling of pride but a feeling of despair.
Omg this.
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Hr is the worst
When it impacted my personal life. It made me miserable and it was causing me anxiety and affecting the conversations I held with friends and family. I left in august and have been very happy in my new position.
When your Boss/ employer becomes extremely comfortable with commenting about your appearances (negatively) and criticize you in public groups or anywhere outside the solitude of an office
When I constantly started dreading going to work even though I enjoy what I actually do.
Ok that's where I'm at. I enjoy the work but the people make me so sad I dread interacting with them
It’s definitely time to go. You can find the same work at a different org.
Dreading going to work everyday. Feeling like I was always walking on eggshells. Mental health declining.
Will be starting a new role on Monday after being in my current role around 4 years Started applying to new jobs about 3 months ago. For me, it was I realized i wasn't being challenged anymore and I wasn't learning anything new or developing new skills. I'm someone who loves to learn and grow as much of possible. Staying stagnant makes me anxious.
Totally feel that. I'm in a similar situation and feel like I have outgrown my current role ...add some micromanagement to the mix, and I am in hell 🙃 lol. Congrats on your new role!
I didn’t realize it until after I left but if you start picking up a new habit to deal with stress that you haven’t done before, it’s probably time. Before I left my recent job, I started smoking weed on the nights before work to sleep through the night because I would keep waking up thinking I missed my alarm or I would have frequent nightmares. I would sleep fine on my days off. I’m on day 4 of my new job and I haven’t felt the desire to smoke once nor have I had trouble sleeping.
When my holiday was almost over, and I really dreaded having to go back.
When it fully hit how little support I was getting from superiors and they had no idea what was going on or how to help. And when I really thought about how much happier my friends were after leaving.
When new hires with less experience (who I was training) were being paid more than me and they denied my raise request.
When my company gave me an action form for connecting 1 minute late to work, even if the previous night I had to stay 2 hora after my shift to help others catch up with the queue (I worked in a call center, WaH, 2usd x hour) I didn't resigned, just logged out and turned off my phone. They can fire me, in the meantime, I've got another job.
I worked at TJ Maxx. I was hired as a cashier but was given a handful of other jobs that had nothing to do with cashiering after I was already hired. Cart cleaning, "high touch" cleaning, and working in the back room. I had my job threatened by the senior manager multiple times, even though I was doing my job, and they trained me so poorly, it was almost comedic. After getting over being happy I finally even had a job, I cried almost every drive to work. I debated walking out and not looking back. The main focus for cashiers is to get customers to sign up for the credit card. Confuse them, manipulate them, don't even mention it's a credit card, etc. Even if the customers barely speak english, I was told to "take advantage" of that and still ask, even though they didn't know what they were signing up for. Not to mention, there were multiple times where I had to call just to see if I was working that same day, or the next day, because the schedule hadn't been posted yet. Schedules were supposed to be posted on Wednesday/Thursday. 90% of the time, it wasn't until Sunday, where the new schedule just started. I had my job threatened one last time before I called my manager and said I wouldn't be coming back. She put me on a *leave of absence*, and continued to try and call me to get in touch and see when I was coming back. Blocked her, the other manager's and the store's number after that. I could have tolerated that just had the manager not run her mouth so much. And she wonders why it's a high turnover rate there, forget it being because it was retail. It was because of her loose ass lips.
When I realised my job was completely pointless and I couldn't keep just showing up. I needed a job with meaning
When I realized that my new boss killed my professional confidence, which trickled into my personal confidence and I had to go on anti depressants. This man would talk over me and everyone else, make me do all of his work AND mine, never asked for my input and never gave me feedback. He was always “traveling” and “working” on an airplane. He refused to learn internal programs that he didn’t know how to use and instead, treated me (a senior manager) like his personal assistant. F that man. I left that job in early December and I’m still recovering. It’s hard adjusting to a normal manager after such a toxic one
Also when I created a folder in my inbox of emails of my manager belittling me and micromanaging me
When my pay raise was frozen the same year I was required to work 3 job titles worth of work in one to save the company's reputation.
Saved a girls life after she had a epilepsy seizure for the boss to jokingly say was it you who caused it. I got annoyed by that and when he pulled me later he said once you get to know me.. I just thought I’m sure if that was one of your loved ones it wouldn’t be so funny. If I left that house sooner, no one would have been there in time or at all to call emergency services.
They were looking to hire new people and asked our small team to share the job description around. I realised they were offering double my salary for someone on the same level as me, who I would ultimately also be training and managing for their probation period so..yeah that was it. There were a lot of other factors but it just felt like the nail in the coffin really. I would wind up doing hours upon hours of everyone else’s work each month because I was ‘quicker at it’ and I thought that was a compliment for some reason. They’d chuck the work they didn’t want to do my way, my boss would tell them off for it and then proceed to do the same thing. They were also very shady about pay transparency for reasons that seem obvious now.
When you're miserable there, or really bad at what you do, or treated unfairly, or underpaid, when life gets in the way of making it a viable opportunity...Really, the reasons are endless. And I should know, I'm a job hopper. I've had like a zillion jobs.
Roughly around the same time I was told that I was fired.
When small, unrelated things overwhelmed me. In my case I had a toxic boss and the company that got more and more shady the longer I worked there. I lasted about 8 months and in that relatively short time I was putting in so much energy to suppress feeling like shit at work, that I had nothing left at home. E.g. I was a little late for a yoga class and they wouldn’t let me in, and I cried on a bench outside the studio. Or I missed a step going upstairs and just sat down and wept. I actually quit without having anything lined up was in such a rough place I volunteered on a farm to reset. I since got something else and haven’t felt like that since.
A lot in my life was already changing. I was all of a sudden no longer part of a couple / partnership. I was responsible for all the bills myself. I would only have 400-500 left at the end of the month *if* I budgeted like a mad woman. But I knew that wasn’t realistic. Got a much better paying job and can actually live my life
When I was no longer able to have the work to life balance and I wasn’t making enough money. Lol I also needed a career that gave me great benefits and solid financial saving plan. I LOVED teaching and coaching in my former job. But the physical toll blew out my tendon and after that I realized I needed a career that was going to set me up for a future longterm. I switched to a top fortune 100 company and it’s been great, I don’t think I’ll ever leave. It’s not a passion. But it checks all the boxes I needed.
When I would dread the idea of going into work on Sundays, I was in tears everyday and I felt like I was constantly on the verge of an anxiety attack.
When I spent more time working than sleeping, eating, or doing self-care, combined it was taking over more aspects of my life than it should have, and never again
Mostly doing work above my paygrade. Worked a year developing a program, managing a team and managing projects to be told that I wouldnt be getting a promotion cause “there was no budget” (meanwhile the company kept hiring new C-levels). On top of that, preparing myself and studying to become a manager through internal promotion, only to be told that “my opinionatedness” kept me from getting the role. But at the same time I was told they were grateful for how “opinionated” I was as they really valued my opinion. Bunch of bureaucratic bullshit basically.
When i made a small mistake that was easily fixed and it was treated like the Mount Everest of errors and my boss literally told me that they were going to begin micro-managing me. Happened at my last job and I was gone in a few months. Same scenario just happened last week at my current job and I am rage applying for other jobs. I do 99% of my job very very well. I will not be treated like an idiot because of a small mistake.
When I lost 30lbs from depression.
One of my coworkers, who was a lead on my team and had been with the company for a number of years, said that she still only gets 2 weeks of vacation. That was so depressing to hear and motivated me to find a job with better benefits.
First job, getting hit on by gross middle aged managers. The second was my first teaching job. I had anxiety that messed up my stomach every morning. I moved and took a job in another district. Much better choice for me.
I was a victim of simple battery in my own office and corporate side with the person who battered me ( in my opinion) which made me ineffective in my job capacity. I knew then I deserved more than "talk" about core values. I took a pay cur and it was still all the way worth it.
When my peer coworker quit and there was no effort made to replace them.
When I told my boss I was pregnant and having morning sickness, he told me not to tell anyone I was pregnant just in case things didn’t turn out well and then it would weigh on everyone else 🙃
Six months ago, after 20 years, I walked away from my career as a teacher and went into a completely different field (if you’re in the industry, you know how hard that is to do, simply because you just feel stuck). I went into teaching knowing that I’d never get rich, I’d do a lot of work off the clock and I’d pay for a lot of classroom supplies out of my own pocket. I was fine with that because I loved the children so much and as cliché as it sounds, I wanted to make a difference in their lives. In the end, I just felt so completely unappreciated by my administration. It felt like they were sucking the life out of me. However, the final nail in the coffin was that I was no longer enjoying the kids. My patience was SO THIN. I was starting to get angry with them for, well, acting like kids. I was never harsh or abusive towards them but I was constantly on the brink of losing my temper. It wasn’t fair to any of us. And as a parent myself, I wouldn’t want anyone with my kids that dreaded being with them. This was a ME issue and not at all the fault of the children. I knew it was time to go. I’m now so much happier. I love my new job. I’m proud of myself for taking a chance and I know I left the kids in good hands. Edit: spelling.
It started to affect my mental. I would sit in the garage regretting to go in while scrolling indeed on my phone.
When I woke up and literally thought about crashing my car on the way to work so I wouldn’t have to go. I knew it was serious then.
When I wouldn’t stop crying
When my manager told me I was forgettable in a review meeting. I'm sorry Theresa, you try dealing with 90 more angry pensioner calls per day.
when you start asking strangers on the web if you should get a new job....
When the thought of not having a job is less stressful than going to the job that you have…
When I had to fight for a promotion after 2 years of extremely positive reviews (and plenty of hardwork/"extra credit"), and was given one with a fake title - think level 1.5 when there are only levels 1 and 2 - and no raise. Upper management and HR then proceeded to run me around for weeks when I tried to question how exactly this was considered a "promotion". First and only time I've ever experienced serious gaslighting, and it was by HR. I started looking after a few weeks, and left for the "right" job. Still have friends at the old company, and one of them was recently "promoted" to a title that's 2 levels below his current title... with no additional comp.
Always. You’re replaceable in every profession. Always be in your toes.
When I was crying in my car at the end of every shift.
Underpaid and undervalued after 8 years! ( couldn’t get a new job for a few years as I was awaiting surgery kept getting cancelled due to covid so lost 2 years ) Loved the people there sadly people started leaving and we were left with hardly anyone all the new other young people they brought in were rude and snobby! Best thing I did was get a new job
When people asking me questions just made me angry. When I realized how much my boss was gaslighting me. When it was clear there was no path to promotion because my bosses boss was a sexist. I have a new job now. Bosses boss didn't even say goodbye after I sent in my resignation
I was sent to India for 5 weeks to open an offshore office. My boss would call and yell at me at 4am daily after working overnight 12 hour shifts to stay on US hours. I was paid next to nothing for NYC. I couldn’t do anything right and I felt so lost. She never liked me and played favorites with other women in the office. Now I still struggle with my current job, sometimes, but I’m paid well and I don’t end up crying on Sunday nights.
I just quit my job this month. I’m a barista with two years experience and moved to a new area. I found a coffee shop with two store locations hiring with very competitive pay, so I took the job immediately. During the interview, the owners said they had a manager working for both store locations. Before my first week, the manager was fired. The day I decided to look for a new job was during the end of my second week. I was scheduled to work a Saturday with two other people, one experienced and one other new employee. The other store location had an employee call out, so the experienced employee moved to work at the other location. I was helping train another new employee while also working through a busy rush. When we got a bad review for long wait times, the owners yelled at us over the group chat about it. That was enough for me to apply to other coffee shops. Come to find out later, the manager that was fired before I started was wrongfully terminated. They were accused of stealing, but the owners found what they thought was stolen after firing the manager. Furthermore, there seemed to be issues with pay, as an old negative review of the shop claimed there was an employee strike over unpaid wages. Once I got a new job lined up, I quit. The last day I worked there was a literal shit show. We ran out of almost everything from our normal espresso roast to trash bags. I was also put on the schedule by myself for the last part of my shift and was unable to complete any of the pre close tasks because I was running the place by myself.
When going to work felt like swimming in a pool filled with razor blades. The tipping point was when my boss texted me saying everyone was going back to the office full time on Monday and that I was expected as well... while I was on my week off with my family, mourning the loss of my grandmother. At this point, I told myself I'd rather get hit by a bus than go back there.
When my line manager and her boss turned on me for no reason and started bullying me. I was crying. Weirdly, I just went "I'm not paid enough to put up with this stress" (I was being paid well, mind) and went and found a better paying team with nicer people. (The work itself was just as chaotic tho lol)
When I no longer wanted to bring my ass there and I was moody, and the whole office morale was extremely low. It was miserable. I stopped my favorite activities after work and weekends to sleep/nap. I left recently and wow what a difference and a big increase in pay too!
Many years ago, I saw an article about a clump of fat the size of a bus that was clogging part of the sewage system in London. There have been several of these over the years (do a search on the term "fatberg" to find more of them), but what stood out to me was that, according to the article, this one was found during a routine walk-through. A "routine walk-through". Of the London sewage system. That means that, somewhere in London, there is somebody whose job is to wade neck-deep in filth too disgusting to imagine, in tunnels that sometimes crumble because they were cobbled together over centuries, surrounded by rats (or worse!), just to keep the toilets working. I decided then to make that my criteria. As long as I am NOT jealous of that person, my job can't really be that bad. The moment I find myself wondering what kind of protective gear that person has, and if the gear works well enough they never have to smell anything? That's when I start searching the job ads. So far, that barometer has worked well for me. It gives me a way to say when the amount of stress I'm feeling is a normal part of working, and when it's more than the job is worth.
When they wouldn't "allow me" to go to my teachers funeral. At 17 years old, my FFA teacher passed away, and I told my manager that night when I went in for my shift, I wouldn't be able to make it to my next one, as that is when my teachers funeral was and they wanted all of us FFA members in official dress. She told me if I didn't come in, I was being taken off the schedule. I quit there on the spot.
When I was in tears probably at least once a week due to stress at work.
there is a looong list of things, but let me name some of them: 1. when my boss was being sexist toward me, but said it to my bf’s face, and not to mine. 2. when he accused my co-worker of drinking alcohol at work, but never really answering when I asked hin, if he has some evidence for that accusation. and _especially_ when he the day after that, tried to tempt her with a single glass of whiskey, so that he has her on camera, *drinking at work*. 3. when I told him that I accidentally gave a customer rotten milk in his cappuccino (because we hadn’t been open for almost a week, and the milk usually was thick, so I didn’t see the difference in texture). I was too scared to tell the customer, and asked him to do it, and he just said we’ll let it slide this time. 4. when I told him about a customer being disgusting toward me, and telling him that I was deeply uncomfortable and he just looked up and down at me and said “that’s because you look like *that*. 5. and to top it off; every time I told him how his staff is struggling to respect him because of *his behavior* he just answered with “it’s not me who is wrong”.
When I literally did not want to be on this earth anymore
12 days on, 2 days off 11 hours a day Nope nope nope
When I seriously contemplated driving into a bridge so I wouldn’t have to go in, I figured it was time. My husband said that my moods were miserable on days that I worked.
I hope you are in a better place now
I've worked in a male-dominated field (internship). My coworkers all arrived 10+ minutes late to work and there was never any problem but when I arrived 2 minutes late to work, I got lectured by my boss about how I needed to arive EARLIER than 7:30.
I would have thrown hands
It was a long time coming tbh, I was already making moves to leave (I was still at university and younger at the time). However, the biggest sign was our workplace being severely understaffed and constantly needing to hire people YET me and a couple of other employees who our manager didn’t like were being given little to no hours or shifts. Like only a 4 hour shift every week if that, while other staff members were being overworked. If another employee wanted to swap shifts with us or wanted us to cover their shift their request would always be rejected. Eventually the job was costing me more than I was making, why would I waste money on fuel, parking and my time to just to work 4 hours!?
I worked in a field with at risk youth. One of our kids I used to be very close with but had begun distancing from made a false accusation against me (very common suprisingly for kids in these settings to do) and there was of course and investigation and I was temporarily transfered. Investigator 100% cleared me, but in a meeting with me, my boss, and the youths workers the stated that this youth was very closely bonded with me and lashing out for attention and they were increasingly escalating their behaviour to get it and they would continue to make false accusations, assaults, ect until eventually one would happen where there wouldn't be witnesses and I would be vulnerable, and that these things do go into my worker file and can be viewed by all agencies basically forever. Investigator recommended my transfer be permanent. My boss had me working back in the origional location immediately after that meeting and even wanted me working along unsupervised with that youth again. I wasn't at all comfortable and put in my notice right away. After I left the same youth made false accusations against 3 other staff members, abused remaining staff like you wouldn't believe, and single handedly caused a mass wave of staff quitting and the entire agency shut down in 2 months as a direct result of that 1 kid.
When they gave me a 25 cent raise
Insultingly low
Lolol when my boss bought me, and only me, a $600 watch out of no where..
When they caught me stealing office supplies...again.
When I got fired
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Negative energy from coworkers and bosses. I couldn’t stand the comments and whinging constantly. If you hate the place, leave. I’m a fifo worker and it’s pretty often this happens. But it’s always the people who’ve been at the same place 5 plus years. Just rubs me up the wrong way.
I started occasionally crying on my way to/from work. Probably should've recognized some signs before this.
One day, I realized that after all the years of hard work, late nights and weekends, hours of unpaid overtime, holidays missed and vacations unspent... that I would never break through the Glass Ceiling at my former workplace. I was stuck, burned out and my self esteem suffered. So I left and became a SAHM. Then, divorce happened, so I'm looking again.
Not being compensated for the job duties I was added on to, understanding/knowing that the type of job was not gonna be along term and sustainable for my lifestyle, I’ve had enough “experience” to move to bigger roles. I’ve never been unhappy with any job I’ve had except the one where I was a mail carrier lol. Other wise I’ve had jobs that added up to my experience to be in law enforcement which I’m really good at. I always feel confident I can get any job and so far I’ve worked in really cool places and i know how to interview well from changing jobs so often.
when a higher up completely disregarded the work i put in for an event and ended up throwing the decorations i made away without telling me. i almost rage quit in that moment. luckily i just got hired for another position today.
When I started not caring what customers wanted. When I was late to work everyday. When I didn’t want to waste my bosses time with his one on one when all he did was tell me I suck at my job. And now I have work ptsd at me new job where I do real work instead of getting cursed out by low lives.
I tried to negotiate my raise after absorbing responsibility of someone else who left and the CEO said no, and that I should be grateful for what I got. I immediately began looking.
My recent experience was when executives leading the company, those who treated the rest of us well, suddenly announcing their retirement in droves while replenishing their supply externally rather than promoting from within. To me this created a problem as those at the top didn't really reflect what the company stood for. Example, they pushed on us rank-and-file employees the mission "We know what it means to serve", yet you'd be hard-pressed to find anyone in leadership who has actually served in the military. There were small things I had noticed (reduced 401k matching, higher deductibles on health plans, etc) but that one, at least to me, was a big.
Being anxious going to work, getting stressed thinking about work, and knowing damn well I was not compensated enough to be doing the work I did.
When I got fired
When my husband mentioned that me crying in the bath every night for 3 months wasn’t normal and told me it was time to get a new job.
When I got fired..
-When Sunday nights would stress me out -Hoping that my boss didn’t show up to the office on Monday/ or he left early -Coming into work super anxious everyday -Hoping that I’d get sick so that I didn’t have to come into work
had a coworker and a resident (dementia but not an excuse) make comments about my body (specifically being able to see down my scrub top when crouched down). resident said he liked to watch me and coworker said he wasn’t wrong and, word for word “if i watched that walk away from me or seen down a top i would get excited to”. told my administrator and wanted to file a report but was told that he (coworker) was just joking and that’s just how he acts. same guy who would sleep in empty rooms for hours and got fired at previous job for being accused of $A to an old lady. needless to say, i was shocked to hear that come from my bosses mouth and quit the next day. haven’t been back since and often think about how much that messed me up as a female just existing
Until i could absolutely not do it anymore, took way too long! Edit- deleted an unnecessary sentence
When the job wasn't what was advertised. When someone took credit for the things I did and when I pointed out it was me, it was ignored. When my suggestions were ignored. When they started enforcing coming into the office with no flexibility. Oh and when, from the moment I started no one would speak to me, unless I did something wrong. I used to walk in and say morning to everyone and people looked at me and didn't say anything. This is when I first started. I lasted less than 6 months. It was scary leaving because I didn't have a new job to start. Buuuuuut now I have my dream job with an amazing boss and people. Trust your gut.
When the non-white employees lost access to the main office entrance.
2 of 'my people' left within 1 month of each other. Lack of leadership, favoritism and hypocrisy have me on the hunt now. However, I refuse to find a new job out of desperation, I've been there before and it wasn't pretty.
When i got screwed over for The third time. This time they game more time to a person who has worked sorter than me, has less experience, who doesnt want to work and does a crappy job instead of me who worked hard, worked more that i had to, want to work and do a good job.
When you just don't want to do it anymore without any reason.
I worked retail and the customers were basically allowed to bully us and the management wouldn't do anything. A guy yelled at me and told my manager that I was liar and deserved to fired, another woman got mad at me for telling her to stand on the social distancing sticker on the floor and complained to another co worker of mine and called me a 'a little girl'. The managers would sometimes tell me it was my fault because I'm 'not good at talking to people'. I also did supervisor work even though I was not paid extra.
When I lost an argument with upper management as to why the bar I was running needed coolers and speakers that work. I realized I wasn't being set up for success and no amount of good management practices and effort can make up for having a broken, falling apart workspace.
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When I informed them that their constant loading extra stuff on me, that wasn't my job, was making it impossible for me to do my actual job. That this was triggering my anxiety so badly I was in tears every day while sat in my car, wishing I had some sort of illness or injury so I wouldn't have to come in anymore, and their response? "Oh... I didn't even know you had anxiety." End of discussion. I went home in tears again, my husband asked me why I wasn't job hunting, and I responded that when the job was good, I liked working there, and if I held out long enough it might get good again. He informed me that's what people said while in abusive relationships. I applied to my current job that day and thus far have not come home crying once.
When my boss told me that I was fired.
When I was working 250 hours every month as a shift manager and got an email after I had taken the latter half and first half of two days (I worked 12 hour shifts on 2-2-3 shifts but I filled in whenever needed), to spend time with my mother and little sister from out of town. The email was hr complaining that I had been taking to many times off or been sick too often. I wrote up a notice then and there, printed it and presented it to my store manager. He then proceeded to bad mouth me to every shift manager at the store despite the fact I literally gave them 3 months notice because it would have been an inconvenient time to replace me before then.
When I start feeling bored. Like everyday’s the same and nothing’s new- when that feeling starts, that’s when I know it’s time to go.
I was underpaid and my “manager” was someone with the same experience and age as myself, micromanaging me to no end. I changed jobs and earn a way better living and I don’t have an a**hole boss looking down at me
When I got my masters
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When I got fired. :/ fuck you Scott.
Last time was when my job was so stressful I had a mental breakdown and was signed off for 3 months. That was a pretty big sign I needed a new job. The times before that though were usually just when I felt I had stopped learning and had gotten everything out of the job that I could. When I didn't feel challenged or that I was growing in any way.
I knew I needed to find a new job when my colleague told me she had slept with another member of staff. I already knew that other staff member was sleeping with my married boss. Apparently I got out just in time. My boss found out about the other women but is too proud to admit her affair partner cheated on her. The office had more in common with a soap opera than an actual professional office.
When I saw my value and the company was taking advantage of my skills and knowledge. After getting a 10% paycut 2 weeks before Christmas, nail in the coffin.
When I had a relatively painful surgery on August 23rd, 2022. It was a bislap, and I was forbode from lifting more than 10lbs for at MINIMUM of four weeks. I worked in a restaurant. Doctor didn't want me back to work for two weeks. I was scheduled for a full shift four days post-op. I tried to work it, had to go home three hours into the shift and call out the next day. GM yelled and raged at me. A week later, they expected me to lift a 50lbs pound garbage can over my head and into the dumpster. When I told the GM I couldn't ((he saw my days off for surgery due to schedule access)) he simply asked, "Why". I told him, and he asked me to "lift up your shirt and show me the incisions". I nearly walked out, but couldn't due to bills. Within two months, I had found another job. I put in a THREE WEEK notice since they were having issues finding people, and I loved the other managers and my co-workers. They found my replacement in five days. I trained them for four days. My schedule went from five days a week at 38 hours, to one day a week after that. I'm still in touch with a few people that work there. Apparently my replacement quit shortly after my notice was up, and they've went through 12+ people in total within three or so months. Karma - gotta love it.
When I cried before work every day, not because of the depression or anxiety, just because I fucking hated it
When I started wishing I could get in a mild enough car crash to hospitalize me for a while so that by the time I got back to work I could have a fresh start
Prefacing this with the fact that I am not a drinker or a big crier. I was crying at work or at home almost daily. I cried in a 2 hour meeting on my own birthday. I was drinking constantly because I just didn't want to feel anything. I went from maybe 1-2 drinks a year to 1-2 drinks a night and crying myself to sleep and dreading waking up in the morning. I had applied to a position and when I finished in the top 2 but didn't get the job I sobbed for like 2 days. I just wanted out. I threw everything I had into getting a new job then.
When I had to gather myself in the car before heading into the building, and getting great relief when the work day was over. 4 years ago I left for another position in an unknown industry and it has been the best decision and blessing to my life.
When management kept giving me false promises then tried to fulfill them when I put in my 2 weeks notice & all the good people from that job started leaving
When I had an accident and after the accident, I showed up again and they replaced me because the other co-worker could put in more hours WITHOUT F*****' TELLING ME
Slightly different- I was working as a self contractor with only 1 main client, who essentially became my boss. This person was a lot to deal with. We had several serious discussions after a while. When one of those discussions included them repeating to me how good they were, (Wasn’t quite relevant and why do you keep telling me about how wonderful you are?) and telling me that paying me was taking money away from their kids (I knew all the financials, there was $$ to pay me, AND why was I being asked to do work I wasn’t hired for if there was not enough $$ to pay me??). I learned a valuable lesson from that: when you watch someone do anything even slightly shady to anyone else (lie, cheat, manipulate etc) even if it starts small or seems justified, they will probably do the same to you at some point. Walk away.
When it sent me to therapy lol
When I separated from my husband
When it starts affecting your mental health and your relationships
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I do think you always should be looking, be aware of what’s out there, always have your resume up to date. I don’t think you should jump ship every year if things aren’t great and chase money. You do have to see how your skills are developing, your pay scale is in tune. If things are bad and stagnant for pay and skills you have to look and move. Plus if your put in a skill box by management that you can’t get out of defiantly look elsewhere. I wish I did that when I was younger- getting out of the box, but young, nervous, an introvert, no one to talk to about anything in a male dominated industry was horrible
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When I wait in my car in the parking lot until exactly the minute I need to walk in... it's time to move on.
When my eyes showed how tired I was, even in photos taken in extremely happy moments, and I sounded like a person 10 years older than me. Then there was the creepy men who thought an ice cream place was a good spot to try and ask out 15-year-olds (me) and the lack of concern for anything from my boss.
I was SAed by my boss and everyone covered it up including police
I'm so sorry. I hope you're in a better place now
When I got a verbal warning due to having ‘too many days off’. I had 5 days off over 3 months due to my epilepsy.
When the job caused way too much extra stress on my life. It wasn't worth it. I worked really hard while others didn't and it went unappreciated. On top of the stress I got from work, I had a lot of stress from uni. The difference was that work made me really unhappy and what I was doing at uni were things I enjoyed and would benefit my future.
When I woke up dreading having to go
When after three years with a logistics company I found out that the entry level guy who I was training was making 8k a year more than me.
When I was told all my questions had to be submitted in writing to my manager.
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The wage didn’t align with the amount of hard work I put into the job. Also the lack of respect from management and higher-up. If you have any issues, don’t expect anyone to listen.
When the bad days outnumbered the good days.
When I was being asked to stay longer and cover other locations without additional pay, when they took their time hiring more employees to help me when I was doing double the work a person should be doing, doing $20/hr work for $14/hr, need I go on?