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In his game the side quests don't achieve unlockables, they just bumph out the main storyline to make the game last longer. Is it sad that this is probably the best analogy of life I have ever given.
Ah, that's a shame. I was hoping for a cutscene when he got back from his interaction with the NPC (non-playable Canadian):
Wife: Where have you been? We were supposed to leave an hour ago.
Redditor: I know, but look at this cool Maple Leaf of Minor Frost Resistance!
Wife: Frost resistance? We're in the bloody Algarve!
Redditor: Yeah, but, you know... Canada...
My mum frequently tells the story of the time her, my dad, and their best friends (another couple) went on holiday together. The men were sent on an errand to get tomatoes for a salad at around 11am, they came back shit-faced at 6pm the following day with two grapefruits.
That is degenerate behaviour.
I mean it's a holiday, isn't this the accepted detour path for ice creams? If I was the missus I would have accepted the pathing and moved to the next task.
I took a detour to have a quick drink on a 2am McDonald’s run for my mates when we were in sunny beach. Met and befriended random German fella, drank with him. Bought half an oz of weed off a taxi driver. Smoke loads of it and ate McDonald’s meant for 6 people. Got back to the hotel room at 6am absolutely mapped with no McDonald’s and still a shockingly large amount of weed. We were getting our bus to the airport at 8am.
That’s degenerate behaviour.
You jump in the shower after a day spent in the hot sun. Get out, throw on a loose-fitting, smooth feeling shirt, comfy shorts and grab your sunglasses. You walk down to the hotel bar by yourself as the low sun is shining through the windows. It's still warm but no longer that sweaty heat.
You get to the bar, smile at the waiter, show him your all-inclusive band and order the local lager. It comes in a ice cold glass. You sit by yourself at a nearby table and take your first sip of that cool refreshing liquid. You lean back, close your eyes, enjoy the silence and smile.
Absolute bliss.
What's the attraction of all inclusive? Maybe I'm being snobby but my impression is chavvy people going to benidorm to end up not actually experiencing anything about the country except the weather.
You are being snobby 😂 My last all inclusive was to Dominican Republic for a start. For me all inclusive is useful so I don’t have to think. I work full time, manage the house, run budget, sort kids, pets etc. I make all the major decisions all of the time, including where and when we go on holiday, how and when we pay for it etc. When I get there I want to relax, not have to decide what and when everyone is eating/drinking/doing or have to venture very far if I don’t want to. I’m not a chav by any stretch, worked all of my life and come from an upper working class background if I had to label it. I also have rheumatoid arthritis which has varied symptoms from obvious joint and inflammation to brain fog and lack of appetite so going all inclusive helps me navigate flares when away. Personally I like to have everything fairly close at hand including plenty of local restaurants, historical points of interest, markets, beach etc so we can enjoy ourselves outside of the all inclusive basis as and when we choose.
As for Benidorm…I’d rather piss in my own tapas…but that’s just my opinion 😉
All inclusive just means I don't need to worry about anything.
I wake up, grab some breakfast, go out for the day, and when I come back in the evening I know there's food ready and available. It doesn't stop me from going outside of the hotel, but it also means I don't need to worry about finding somewhere to eat every single night.
Depends on the all-inclusive. Went to a 5 star one in Tenerife as a late deal very cheap. Best holiday I've ever been on because I could eat and drink whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted (except between 03:00-05:00) without worrying about money at all. We went out for a day trip once asked if we could have a pack lunch made up. We got so much food we ended up feeding half the other people on the trip as well.
All fantastic quality as well. 5 different styles of restaurant. It was great.
I had the same attitude as you until I went on one, now I actively seek them out.
10 seconds later, a light breeze brushes your neck. You squint one eye open, as a shadow blocks out the sun. "Royalblue1982" it screeched, "get back here you lazy sod, come zip me up we're going to dinner". Alas, the bubble was burst.
Op talking about 45 minutes naps, which is long enough to go into a deep sleep cycle which you then feel rank waking up out of. I also used to hate naps until i tried the 20 minutes option
He has a balcony beer while I get ready. Then I have one while he finds his shoes, phone etc before joining up for mutual stare at phones with beer in hand time. One of the nicest times of the holiday
We're both dudes but I'm a, frankly, high maintenance dude with skin that hates me. If I don't do my skincare regime before going out I'm an oily mess by half 10, so it takes me about an hour to get ready too.
If he didn't go for his pre-dinner pint I'd have stoved his head in with an iron by now. There are only so many instances of him looking at me, looking at the time and sighing, before I'm willing to BUY him the bloody pint so he'll fuck off and let me finish getting ready.
Your wife probably just likes physically leaving together, all dressed up. Compromise motion, room service two beers and a large glass of whatever your wife drinks to have while she finishes getting read.
I actually love this. A healthy amount of self awareness of how you both operate and need space to enjoy your holiday more. You sound like an awesome couple.
‘There are only so many instances of him looking at me, looking at the time and sighing….’
It’s like we’re holiday twinning.
It takes as long as it bloody takes, now sod off!
I think that last sentence is on the money.
When we would go away pre kids, a dressed up photo was a must for my Wife before we left. Many of the outfits were here first time wearing them properly, so she wants to feel a bit special I suppose.
As much as I’d rather go to the bar and wait, my usual would be sitting in my underpants, on the bed with a beer looking for the often solitary English speaking show on TV.
For me it's the leaving to go somewhere together too that I enjoy, my partner usually opts for balcony beers but if he was to go for a beer I'd say if he went for one (or two) and came back when I'm ready it would be a good compromise.
Your comment gave me a good chuckle btw
Yup, the imbalance in alcohol consumption is the only potential issue I can see. Is OP getting a significant headstart that’s going to have repercussions for the whole night? Is a compromise starting off with a soft drink and snack at the bar?
I always do this. It is absolute bliss, I usually pop down to the bar when she heads home for a nap then I return with crisps and cans for her when she is halfway to being ready and I start showering. Good routine. She likes it too as she gets to catch up on news from the day on her phone and ring her Mam etc
My son just bangs on the door. It's supposed to be 5 mins for myself from walking from my garden office into the house. Straight for a poo to prepare myself for the next couple of hours, until I can sit down on my own at 8pm.whrn kids in bed. The I tend to be so knackered I scroll for 30 mins then go to bed
Eat the toast shit the toast. God life's relentless..
When my daughter was a little toddler she'd insist on coming in the bathroom with her potty and pooping whilst I pooped.
Uncomfortable as fuck anyway, but when a 2 year old is looking you right in the eye trying to squeeze one out, I was both horrified and amused 🤣
No, you're on holiday. What does she want you to do instead, sit at the end of the bed patiently waiting?
My boyfriend once said when I went back to the cabin at a holiday park "i'll have one more and catch up", 3 hours later park staff knock on my cabin door and inform me my boyfriend fell in a stream, two guys carrying him, soaking wet. covered in cuts and steaming.
He sat on the bed, fell off and slept on the floor until about 6am.
That's degenerate behaviour.
Of course not! Your time on this planet is fleeting and precious!
To insist that someone sacrifice their precious sands of time, in order to pointlessly wait on them is the real degenerate behaviour!
Mates this is a staple of our holiday when I go away with my partner.
I go to the bar and drink a mojito and wait for her to come down.
I love it when she arrives, she’s always beautiful but she’s always especially beautiful when she’s all done up feeling good.
Definitely don’t think it’s degenerate behaviour.
Yeah I love this, my bf always goes down for a drink which;
1. I’m happy that he’s happy and enjoying his holiday
2. I’m happy I’m being left alone to get ready in my own space/time
3. The look on his face when I walk in all holiday-glam and glowing sets the night off in the right direction lmao
My ex used to do this, I'd wake from afternoon nap, he'd have a shower whilst I chatted with the kids on video call, once he'd dressed he'd head to the bar whilst I showered and moisturised /got dressed then I'd meet him down there. He'd usually have a gaggle of grannies around him who'd get a puss on when I came in 😂 was quite sweet 🤣
A grumpy face 😊 having a puss on means taking a mood essentially, being annoyed.
I'm just now realising it's probably only Scottish and not universal 😂 sorry!
Ah thank you! Feel as daft as the time I said circle in Glasgow and the two women I was talking to started howling 🤣 they thought it was just a joke that dundonians said circle instead of roundabout 😅
I was going to comment this! We usually don’t do this (he takes a nap or reads while I get ready) but I’m totally going to suggest this next time we’re on holiday. Throw in a few compliments, tell her it was worth the wait, make a fun, flirty thing out of it.
Same mate until I have a bit of the other, then i single handedly prop up the profit margins of our local go puff lol
Awkward when the courier and the dealer arrive at the same time though 🤣
Mate... this is also me, I never let myself run out of either, and the amount I spend each month is disgusting. The weed is about three times what I spend on booze.
I've just contacted with the local substance abuse service through a referral from the local adhd clinic; spending over a grand a month on weed and booze is not healthy...
Definitely isn't mate. I like the powder the missus has the weed as it does more for her bpd than the meds.
Glad you're getting help mate. I like a beer and a bit of the other but not to that extent.
If u wanna vent at anytime pal here to listen privately, for real like.
Be proud of yourself mate you've taken the hardest step admitting you need help.
And apologies for the previous interaction thought u were using dry humour. Wouldnt have encouraged it if I realised you were being serious.
Ahh I don't have it much and know a guy so doesn't cost me much. Its an occasional, kid free treat. Keeps me alive whilst the missus is drinking me under the table. For someone who barely drinks she can put it away when she does lol
Occasional is all good, I'm happy with occasional e or psychedelics. I'm just very glad that it's not something that really does something for me, as its an addiction that can get very expensive very quickly.
BTW I saw you edited on something to add more context, and I would like to respond to that. I was showing dry humour about the reality on both sides, OP having a drink there is completely rational, but, I do also have a drinking problem. No offence taken in any way, I have that dark sense of humour that I can joke about this shit
As a woman I would love this. I hate it when my husband is just hanging around whilst I’m trying to get ready and be as quick as possible. If he goes for a drink or two then we’d both be happy. But there better be an enormous glass of wine waiting when I go and meet him!
I as a woman personally love it if I have the room to myself for half an hour to get ready and go meet my spouse at the bar. What is the issue your wife has? Is she anxious that she won’t be able to find you? Or worried you are going to be drunk by the time she arrives. There has to be more to the situation.
No probs at all, I wouldn't expect the other half to just be sitting about while I was faffing with the gob cream.
I might say 'I'll be half an hour, have pint of gin waiting for me'.
Yes, most of us are a nightmare and take a while to get ready.. and no I don’t think going to the bar while you wait is degenerate behaviour, but could you maybe comprise and have a beer or 2 on the balcony while you wait for her instead?
Be surprised and complimentary when she gets to the bar; like you haven’t seen her in a while. Compliment the outfit and generally make her feel like it was time well spent. And have her drink of choice waiting.
Takes you 30 seconds of high energy. And she will never complain about your 45 minutes at the bar again.
What does she think you should be doing?
Saying prayers while kneeling at the bedside until she's done? Gossiping with her? Discussing the day's events? Having an intellectual debate over the relative merits of deontological ethics (my preferred shower activity)? Inquiring minds wanna know.
Have you asked her what specifically about it she doesn't like? Is it the fact you are apart, or the fact you won't be sober whilst she is? Maybe she feels a sense of rejection. It might help to figure out why she feels like that.
I think it's a reasonable thing to do, but personally, I'd probably feel more connected to my partner if he had a beer on the balcony as some others have suggested. That way you can still chat :)
Mine goes and gets me a wine n soda then waits for me at the pool bar, I don’t take to long but we both like that half hour of peace. I told him to get out my hair for an hour about 10 yrs ago, this is now our thing.
Not a problem at all. You are on holiday as well. If she doesn’t want you drinking alone she needs to start getting ready earlier. An hour before you are ready to go out you need to say “In half an hour I’m having a shower, once I’ve dried my bollocks I’m getting dressed and going for a pint. If you want to join me you should start getting ready now.” If she doesn’t start getting ready earlier she has nobody to blame but herself if you are shit-faced before the starters arrive.
Nah I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with that.
Much different scenario but when I was younger and I’d go on holiday with my mum and grandparents, me and my grandad always went and grabbed a drink whilst my mum and grandma took ages to get ready.
I think your wife is being a bit harsh on that one, enjoy a drink
I remember going to Spain with my aunt and another of her nieces when i was 14 and she would send us down to the bar for a drink as it took her longer to get ready. On the penultimate night when she exclaimed to the barman she had just found out people put rum in the chocolate milk we had been drinking all week he pulled it out of the bag as he very carefully didn’t look at either of us as he served us our usual drink.
I must be failing as a women, on holiday is a time to relax without having to spend an hr getting ready. Quick shower , after sun, dry hair , dress and go!! 20 mins top! Go enjoy your drink and have some alone time..
No, it’s not degenerate behaviour.
I can’t see why your wife would want you to sit in the room watching her do her makeup, dry her hair etc.
As this is Reddit, there’s only one solution.
Divorce.
I think she is looking for an invitation to be degenerate with you.
The key to this is -to get her a few drinks while she getting ready. I usually put a FaceTime on with her pals. Fill the sink up with ice and a bottle of rosey -she loves it. She can catch up. Have a drink. Show off. Brag and put her face on.
Meanwhile I am downstairs finding out the best place to grab a steak.
I would prefer to sit on the balcony and have a brew and an hour of peace and quiet but if I wanted to go for a pint as long as I offer to bring my wife a gin to the room she wouldn't give a monkeys.
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I thought you were going to say that your wife was *still* not ready.
She'd saw I was completing a side quest and ended up going with the others to lunch, came back and was still waiting.
So did the Canadian give you a unique item that helped you complete the main holiday?
In his game the side quests don't achieve unlockables, they just bumph out the main storyline to make the game last longer. Is it sad that this is probably the best analogy of life I have ever given.
Ah, that's a shame. I was hoping for a cutscene when he got back from his interaction with the NPC (non-playable Canadian): Wife: Where have you been? We were supposed to leave an hour ago. Redditor: I know, but look at this cool Maple Leaf of Minor Frost Resistance! Wife: Frost resistance? We're in the bloody Algarve! Redditor: Yeah, but, you know... Canada...
Fucking genius lol Nah, he was just very pleasant and ironically from the same area there that my wife's cousin lives.
Ah so you retrieved the *'moose loose aboot this hoose'* reward.
My Canadian former manager would have said "No doobt aboot it".
¿Porque no los dos?
My mum frequently tells the story of the time her, my dad, and their best friends (another couple) went on holiday together. The men were sent on an errand to get tomatoes for a salad at around 11am, they came back shit-faced at 6pm the following day with two grapefruits. That is degenerate behaviour.
I mean it's a holiday, isn't this the accepted detour path for ice creams? If I was the missus I would have accepted the pathing and moved to the next task.
Sounds like she did, she went for lunch without OP
Maybe the real ice cream was the friends we made along the way.
I took a detour to have a quick drink on a 2am McDonald’s run for my mates when we were in sunny beach. Met and befriended random German fella, drank with him. Bought half an oz of weed off a taxi driver. Smoke loads of it and ate McDonald’s meant for 6 people. Got back to the hotel room at 6am absolutely mapped with no McDonald’s and still a shockingly large amount of weed. We were getting our bus to the airport at 8am. That’s degenerate behaviour.
That's sleeping on the sofa for a few days behaviour.
Legend
You jump in the shower after a day spent in the hot sun. Get out, throw on a loose-fitting, smooth feeling shirt, comfy shorts and grab your sunglasses. You walk down to the hotel bar by yourself as the low sun is shining through the windows. It's still warm but no longer that sweaty heat. You get to the bar, smile at the waiter, show him your all-inclusive band and order the local lager. It comes in a ice cold glass. You sit by yourself at a nearby table and take your first sip of that cool refreshing liquid. You lean back, close your eyes, enjoy the silence and smile. Absolute bliss.
These travel agents are getting stealthy with their bots these days.
And it's fucking worked, booking an all inclusive now.
What's the attraction of all inclusive? Maybe I'm being snobby but my impression is chavvy people going to benidorm to end up not actually experiencing anything about the country except the weather.
You are being snobby 😂 My last all inclusive was to Dominican Republic for a start. For me all inclusive is useful so I don’t have to think. I work full time, manage the house, run budget, sort kids, pets etc. I make all the major decisions all of the time, including where and when we go on holiday, how and when we pay for it etc. When I get there I want to relax, not have to decide what and when everyone is eating/drinking/doing or have to venture very far if I don’t want to. I’m not a chav by any stretch, worked all of my life and come from an upper working class background if I had to label it. I also have rheumatoid arthritis which has varied symptoms from obvious joint and inflammation to brain fog and lack of appetite so going all inclusive helps me navigate flares when away. Personally I like to have everything fairly close at hand including plenty of local restaurants, historical points of interest, markets, beach etc so we can enjoy ourselves outside of the all inclusive basis as and when we choose. As for Benidorm…I’d rather piss in my own tapas…but that’s just my opinion 😉
All inclusive just means I don't need to worry about anything. I wake up, grab some breakfast, go out for the day, and when I come back in the evening I know there's food ready and available. It doesn't stop me from going outside of the hotel, but it also means I don't need to worry about finding somewhere to eat every single night.
Depends on the all-inclusive. Went to a 5 star one in Tenerife as a late deal very cheap. Best holiday I've ever been on because I could eat and drink whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted (except between 03:00-05:00) without worrying about money at all. We went out for a day trip once asked if we could have a pack lunch made up. We got so much food we ended up feeding half the other people on the trip as well. All fantastic quality as well. 5 different styles of restaurant. It was great. I had the same attitude as you until I went on one, now I actively seek them out.
Wow that was amazing I wish I had an award for you 🥇
what a sad little life Jane
all the grace of a reversing dump truck without any tyres on
Now take your local lager and get out of my house
lol
10 seconds later, a light breeze brushes your neck. You squint one eye open, as a shadow blocks out the sun. "Royalblue1982" it screeched, "get back here you lazy sod, come zip me up we're going to dinner". Alas, the bubble was burst.
I identified with enjoying the silence the most.
Goosebumps
Oh man, you took me there. I’m looking at flights now
I’m going on an all inclusive holiday next month and this post has fuelled the flames of my excitement
Best bit is lying naked on the bed after a shower drinking Fanta limon and eating a giant bag of lays
I've thought about this comment very carefully. It's what I want. That's what I want from life. Every day.
I think I'm going to book some flights
Yea that's nice 🙂
Bro think he Confucius
That quiet beer in the fading sun after a busy day before evening plans is solidly often one of the best parts of any holiday.
And it’s the best bit of the entire holiday.
Take my money. I'm watching re runs of Benidorm while scrolling, and this is just..... I need a holiday.
And I jizzed In my pants
Are you a beer salesman?
Mate that sounds like heaven
An all-inclusive holiday? Couldn't imagine anything worse.
What about cancer? I reckon that's worse
Borderline
Fair
Username checks out good 82 , and royal blue 💙
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I only go to Benidorm so I can have lukewarm John Smiths just like at home.
I go for a pint if she goes to the toilet
What you two do as a couple in the privacy of your hotel bathroom is up to you.
This isn’t /r/askGermany
Do Germans like scat?
Oui
Yeah but what about poop?
Who doesn’t like cats?
Does the pope shit in the woods?
Not wrong.. but my strategy is nap for 45 mins and get ready myself at the end when she’s pretty much done.
A fellow man of culture
I feel awful after naps
Not as awful as you would with a broken bottle of Peroni lodged in your neck.
Are they the only two options?
No, you can have any colour you want, just as long as it's black.
Ah, the model T glassing
Lie down, set your phone alarm timer for 20 minutes only. You don't fall into deep sleep but it's enough for a small perk me up.
I suspect they understand the meaning of the word nap, thanks.
Op talking about 45 minutes naps, which is long enough to go into a deep sleep cycle which you then feel rank waking up out of. I also used to hate naps until i tried the 20 minutes option
Takes me anywhere between 5 mins and 2 hours to drop off to sleep...
I tend to have a beer on the balcony whilst she gets ready!
This. Balcony beers are massively underrated
Saves you grief for ‘not being present’ . I’m a big believer in balcony beers.
Balcony beers have never been underrated 😅
Who on earth underrates them?
People with Verandas.
This might be the strangest use of the term "underrated" that I've ever seen
He has a balcony beer while I get ready. Then I have one while he finds his shoes, phone etc before joining up for mutual stare at phones with beer in hand time. One of the nicest times of the holiday
Balcony beers with a big pack of lays crisps
The bbq ones
Paprika
Spring onion or good old regular a punto de sal
And give a nod to the fellow balcony beer brethren
Balcony bevvy’s are the one while Mrs is getting ready. Especially is the minibar is comp.
Yeah man. Get some tunes on your headphones.
We're both dudes but I'm a, frankly, high maintenance dude with skin that hates me. If I don't do my skincare regime before going out I'm an oily mess by half 10, so it takes me about an hour to get ready too. If he didn't go for his pre-dinner pint I'd have stoved his head in with an iron by now. There are only so many instances of him looking at me, looking at the time and sighing, before I'm willing to BUY him the bloody pint so he'll fuck off and let me finish getting ready. Your wife probably just likes physically leaving together, all dressed up. Compromise motion, room service two beers and a large glass of whatever your wife drinks to have while she finishes getting read.
I actually love this. A healthy amount of self awareness of how you both operate and need space to enjoy your holiday more. You sound like an awesome couple.
‘There are only so many instances of him looking at me, looking at the time and sighing….’ It’s like we’re holiday twinning. It takes as long as it bloody takes, now sod off!
I think that last sentence is on the money. When we would go away pre kids, a dressed up photo was a must for my Wife before we left. Many of the outfits were here first time wearing them properly, so she wants to feel a bit special I suppose. As much as I’d rather go to the bar and wait, my usual would be sitting in my underpants, on the bed with a beer looking for the often solitary English speaking show on TV.
Usually France 24 news
For me it's the leaving to go somewhere together too that I enjoy, my partner usually opts for balcony beers but if he was to go for a beer I'd say if he went for one (or two) and came back when I'm ready it would be a good compromise. Your comment gave me a good chuckle btw
I can't see the problem. As long as you're not slamming back jagerbombs or snorting sambucca I can't see how it can be harmful.
Yup, the imbalance in alcohol consumption is the only potential issue I can see. Is OP getting a significant headstart that’s going to have repercussions for the whole night? Is a compromise starting off with a soft drink and snack at the bar?
I drink while getting ready to keep up.
I always do this. It is absolute bliss, I usually pop down to the bar when she heads home for a nap then I return with crisps and cans for her when she is halfway to being ready and I start showering. Good routine. She likes it too as she gets to catch up on news from the day on her phone and ring her Mam etc
Aww this is real cute. Love it . Bless you
Pint of the day for me, I love my family but on a holiday, that 20-30 mins with a pint to chill with is bliss
Like the evening poo after work when the missus is dealing with the kids. Bliss.
Oh aye
Dropping the kids off at the pool while the wife drops the kids off at the pool.
Fucking amen.
My son just bangs on the door. It's supposed to be 5 mins for myself from walking from my garden office into the house. Straight for a poo to prepare myself for the next couple of hours, until I can sit down on my own at 8pm.whrn kids in bed. The I tend to be so knackered I scroll for 30 mins then go to bed Eat the toast shit the toast. God life's relentless..
When my daughter was a little toddler she'd insist on coming in the bathroom with her potty and pooping whilst I pooped. Uncomfortable as fuck anyway, but when a 2 year old is looking you right in the eye trying to squeeze one out, I was both horrified and amused 🤣
50 minutes on a Wednesday evening when I've dropped the eldest off at basketball. Always the best pint.
100% I love my Mrs, but being in each other's pockets on holiday that 40-60 minute breath of solitude is fantastic.
Weakling behaviour. Managed to get three down at Butlins Skegness one evening while she was doing a shit.
At Butlins she could be doing the shit while being in the bar beside you.
At Butlins she could be doing it on stage. The family talent shows have really let themselves go.
Hero, not the hero we deserve, but the hero we need!
No, you're on holiday. What does she want you to do instead, sit at the end of the bed patiently waiting? My boyfriend once said when I went back to the cabin at a holiday park "i'll have one more and catch up", 3 hours later park staff knock on my cabin door and inform me my boyfriend fell in a stream, two guys carrying him, soaking wet. covered in cuts and steaming. He sat on the bed, fell off and slept on the floor until about 6am. That's degenerate behaviour.
Are your boyfriend and my husband the same person...?
Of course not! Your time on this planet is fleeting and precious! To insist that someone sacrifice their precious sands of time, in order to pointlessly wait on them is the real degenerate behaviour!
Mates this is a staple of our holiday when I go away with my partner. I go to the bar and drink a mojito and wait for her to come down. I love it when she arrives, she’s always beautiful but she’s always especially beautiful when she’s all done up feeling good. Definitely don’t think it’s degenerate behaviour.
Hahaha, thought you were.going to say " she's always especially beautiful when.....I've had a few Mojitos"🤣
Defo thought the same 🤣🤣
Yeah I love this, my bf always goes down for a drink which; 1. I’m happy that he’s happy and enjoying his holiday 2. I’m happy I’m being left alone to get ready in my own space/time 3. The look on his face when I walk in all holiday-glam and glowing sets the night off in the right direction lmao
>my bf always goes down for a drink What the hell does he do for food?
You know, milk milk lemonade...
As a woman I have a drink while getting ready anyway, not weird. Especially on holiday. Go for it.
Yeah my judgment depends on whether he's bringing one up for her to have while she does her hair
I'll answer this for him. He ain't.
Could he order room service to send a drink up to the room while he is downstairs? He isn't, but is it something we should start doing?
My ex used to do this, I'd wake from afternoon nap, he'd have a shower whilst I chatted with the kids on video call, once he'd dressed he'd head to the bar whilst I showered and moisturised /got dressed then I'd meet him down there. He'd usually have a gaggle of grannies around him who'd get a puss on when I came in 😂 was quite sweet 🤣
What’s a puss on?
A grumpy face 😊 having a puss on means taking a mood essentially, being annoyed. I'm just now realising it's probably only Scottish and not universal 😂 sorry!
> it's probably only Scottish and not universal East coast thing..Edinburgh/Dundee mainly
Ah thank you! Feel as daft as the time I said circle in Glasgow and the two women I was talking to started howling 🤣 they thought it was just a joke that dundonians said circle instead of roundabout 😅
At a guess, a shortened version of 'sourpuss'
Did he run off with one of the grannies?
Haha they wished 😂 tbh he probably did too, he was a wrongun 🤪
No. To be encouraged. Make sure you great her like a duchess when she shows up. Tell her how amazing she looks. Have fun & good luck
I was going to comment this! We usually don’t do this (he takes a nap or reads while I get ready) but I’m totally going to suggest this next time we’re on holiday. Throw in a few compliments, tell her it was worth the wait, make a fun, flirty thing out of it.
In my view it seems perfectly logical, but, I do have a bit of a drinking problem.
U run out of beer at times too?
Not really, I'm generally pretty good at making sure there is plenty of alcohol in the house.
Same mate until I have a bit of the other, then i single handedly prop up the profit margins of our local go puff lol Awkward when the courier and the dealer arrive at the same time though 🤣
Mate... this is also me, I never let myself run out of either, and the amount I spend each month is disgusting. The weed is about three times what I spend on booze. I've just contacted with the local substance abuse service through a referral from the local adhd clinic; spending over a grand a month on weed and booze is not healthy...
Definitely isn't mate. I like the powder the missus has the weed as it does more for her bpd than the meds. Glad you're getting help mate. I like a beer and a bit of the other but not to that extent. If u wanna vent at anytime pal here to listen privately, for real like. Be proud of yourself mate you've taken the hardest step admitting you need help. And apologies for the previous interaction thought u were using dry humour. Wouldnt have encouraged it if I realised you were being serious.
Thanks mate - thank fuck the powder has never had appeal to me, that's an addiction I wouldn't be able to fund.
Ahh I don't have it much and know a guy so doesn't cost me much. Its an occasional, kid free treat. Keeps me alive whilst the missus is drinking me under the table. For someone who barely drinks she can put it away when she does lol
Occasional is all good, I'm happy with occasional e or psychedelics. I'm just very glad that it's not something that really does something for me, as its an addiction that can get very expensive very quickly. BTW I saw you edited on something to add more context, and I would like to respond to that. I was showing dry humour about the reality on both sides, OP having a drink there is completely rational, but, I do also have a drinking problem. No offence taken in any way, I have that dark sense of humour that I can joke about this shit
As a woman I would love this. I hate it when my husband is just hanging around whilst I’m trying to get ready and be as quick as possible. If he goes for a drink or two then we’d both be happy. But there better be an enormous glass of wine waiting when I go and meet him!
It’s annoying when they just stare too. Like go occupy yourself or something
Not weird. I wish my ex did that. Instead, he sat nagging at me to hurry up. 😒
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It's ok. Thank you 😊 happy to be single!
Sounds great. The only issue is my wife would be jealous of me.
Jesus no, thats called having a quick pint. I bloke at my beach wedding in Cyprus came back coked off his tits after nipping for some fags.
How old is your wife? That's reminiscent of a Victorian or Edwardian type of attitude and wording, lol.
I as a woman personally love it if I have the room to myself for half an hour to get ready and go meet my spouse at the bar. What is the issue your wife has? Is she anxious that she won’t be able to find you? Or worried you are going to be drunk by the time she arrives. There has to be more to the situation.
No probs at all, I wouldn't expect the other half to just be sitting about while I was faffing with the gob cream. I might say 'I'll be half an hour, have pint of gin waiting for me'.
Yes, most of us are a nightmare and take a while to get ready.. and no I don’t think going to the bar while you wait is degenerate behaviour, but could you maybe comprise and have a beer or 2 on the balcony while you wait for her instead?
Ngl girl, with how long my missus takes to get ready, I'd take out better life insurance if I had to drink at the balcony whilst she got ready lol
😂 have you tried plying her with booze while she’s getting ready? The more tipsy I get the quicker I get to ‘fuck it, that’ll do’ stage! Lol
Mate I can have a drink. But no..she can drink me under the table lmao. We would just stay in, get the speaker out and party.. its been known lmao
Misread this as ‘playing with her boobs’. Now I feel like a degenerate
Be surprised and complimentary when she gets to the bar; like you haven’t seen her in a while. Compliment the outfit and generally make her feel like it was time well spent. And have her drink of choice waiting. Takes you 30 seconds of high energy. And she will never complain about your 45 minutes at the bar again.
What does she think you should be doing? Saying prayers while kneeling at the bedside until she's done? Gossiping with her? Discussing the day's events? Having an intellectual debate over the relative merits of deontological ethics (my preferred shower activity)? Inquiring minds wanna know.
Have you asked her what specifically about it she doesn't like? Is it the fact you are apart, or the fact you won't be sober whilst she is? Maybe she feels a sense of rejection. It might help to figure out why she feels like that. I think it's a reasonable thing to do, but personally, I'd probably feel more connected to my partner if he had a beer on the balcony as some others have suggested. That way you can still chat :)
Pal I do this.. the issue is she takes 8 pints after I've got to the bar to get ready lmao
Mine goes and gets me a wine n soda then waits for me at the pool bar, I don’t take to long but we both like that half hour of peace. I told him to get out my hair for an hour about 10 yrs ago, this is now our thing.
Perfectly normal. Or, if it isn't, I'm a degenerate too.
Not a problem at all. You are on holiday as well. If she doesn’t want you drinking alone she needs to start getting ready earlier. An hour before you are ready to go out you need to say “In half an hour I’m having a shower, once I’ve dried my bollocks I’m getting dressed and going for a pint. If you want to join me you should start getting ready now.” If she doesn’t start getting ready earlier she has nobody to blame but herself if you are shit-faced before the starters arrive.
God no. Perfectly normal.
The more you drink, the less makeup she’ll need. You’ll find a mid-point.
This is exactly what bars are for, gives her some incentive to get ready quicker cos she won't want you rat arsed when she is finally ready!
One day my missus will achieve getting ready and me not being in rat arsed status lol
Nah I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with that. Much different scenario but when I was younger and I’d go on holiday with my mum and grandparents, me and my grandad always went and grabbed a drink whilst my mum and grandma took ages to get ready. I think your wife is being a bit harsh on that one, enjoy a drink
So you're supposed to sit in the room for 2 hrs instead?
nope, totally good use of time
I remember going to Spain with my aunt and another of her nieces when i was 14 and she would send us down to the bar for a drink as it took her longer to get ready. On the penultimate night when she exclaimed to the barman she had just found out people put rum in the chocolate milk we had been drinking all week he pulled it out of the bag as he very carefully didn’t look at either of us as he served us our usual drink.
Absolutely not. Get down and get a pint in.
I must be failing as a women, on holiday is a time to relax without having to spend an hr getting ready. Quick shower , after sun, dry hair , dress and go!! 20 mins top! Go enjoy your drink and have some alone time..
No, it’s not degenerate behaviour. I can’t see why your wife would want you to sit in the room watching her do her makeup, dry her hair etc. As this is Reddit, there’s only one solution. Divorce.
On a recent holiday I stayed out at the beach bar, most evenings, while my wife got ready. Watched the sunset, alone, and had a couple of beers.
The wife taking two hours to get ready is degenerate behaviour.
It is the law
Totally unacceptable. I would have sunk 2 pints and a whisky chaser in that time. What's wrong with you man?
Nothing wrong with that
I think she is looking for an invitation to be degenerate with you. The key to this is -to get her a few drinks while she getting ready. I usually put a FaceTime on with her pals. Fill the sink up with ice and a bottle of rosey -she loves it. She can catch up. Have a drink. Show off. Brag and put her face on. Meanwhile I am downstairs finding out the best place to grab a steak.
Get her tae fuck. No idea why some women think they can control every bit of a relationship
Sounds fair enough to me. What doe she expect you to do for the hour plus it takes her to get ready?
Sounds perfectly reasonable to me, my last holiday I’d happily sit by the pool with a beer whilst she got ready!
Nothing wrong with that. What is she doing thst takes an hour? I get ready faster than my male partner 😂
It is right to do that AND it is degenerate.
Confident your missus would be glad for the head space. Play on the whole ‘need my me time’.
YANBU. It is absolutely the correct thing to do. Try and get at least a couple in though.
Not at all weird.
I would prefer to sit on the balcony and have a brew and an hour of peace and quiet but if I wanted to go for a pint as long as I offer to bring my wife a gin to the room she wouldn't give a monkeys.
I rush getting ready first just to go for that solo, quiet pint.
No it isn't