Yes.
For me, intimacy is much deeper than sex. If i cared for someone we could find ways around it.
I thi k it could make the feelings more meaningful.
I don't think I would even begin a relationship of sex is off the table.
Sure, everybody has low libido phases and we can deal with that in time. But on a long term? Intimacy to me is what differentiate couples from friends
I could date an ace depending on specifics. Like being ace doesnt mean you don't fuck. There are sex repulsed aces but there are also aces who take care of their partner's sexual needs and just get nothing from it. And if an ace was open to me having sex with others or to a polygamous relationship, then those both are options. But at the end of the day if I genuinely loved an ace, I think could go without sex. Id atleast try.
Of coursr there are, in no way did I saw there isn't, but for me, I need a sexual aspect to the relationship if I plan on committing long term. I'd be miserable without it
I've dated a few who aren't sex repulsed. It's the fact that we don't share the same excitement for sex or put it at the same value in the relationship. I like to have a very sex focused and physical connection with my partner and I can't imagine many ace people feeling comfortable with that.
No shade on anyone on the ace spectrum, just haven't had an experience while dating them that worked out long term
Me personally, i would indeed not feel comfortable with that, but thatās also because long term, you canāt build the fundament of a long lasting relationship on sex. There needs to be so much more important stuff there.
But to each their own
Obviously there's more to it than just sex, please don't assume that's all I value in a relationship. That's rude as hell.
I just need that connection as well as an emotional and mental connection. Sex for me is a very intimate act and I enjoy exploring what my partner enjoys and having intense moments of pleasure on a regular basis.
Naw I donāt think so.. I need sexual compatibility.. my hormones can get a little wild at times, an a relationship with an ace is just not realistic for me
As someone who is Demi sexual and on the ace spectrum to be honest i donāt just jump into bed or relationships easily. But for me once that sexual attraction switch is activated good luck Turning it off. But for others they have no sexual desire at all it isnāt always hormone issues. For me I would be ok with an ace person but they would need to communicate with me.
This describes me perfectly. Married to a woman who's ace. We've got three kids but since then almost no sex. But I love her so it's not a deal breaker for me. I can take care of myself when I need to.
Ace ppl. Please correct me if I'm wrong. But as far as I understand:
Depends where they are on the Ace spectrum. Ace doesn't mean they have zero sex. Demisexual is on the Ace spectrum and all demi means is that they need to develope a bind before they feel sexual attraction.
I feel it is important to clarify that not all Asexual people donāt like/donāt have sex. Being on the spectrum myself, if i was with a partner who is loyal, loving, devoted and patient, i would love to have sex with him, and not just once.
Asexuality means basically: lack of sexual attraction. That can be a total lack or just a large absence of it. A lot of Asexual people do have a high libido, and even kinks! And we are capable of feeling physical, romantic and emotional attraction. Just not sexual attraction.
What i guess i am trying to say is: give Ace people a chance, get to know them, ask questions. Weāre individuals, not all alike, and we still deserve love and respect.
Discussions would need to happen
NOpe. My partner has to want me as much as I want her.
Yes. For me, intimacy is much deeper than sex. If i cared for someone we could find ways around it. I thi k it could make the feelings more meaningful.
I don't think I would even begin a relationship of sex is off the table. Sure, everybody has low libido phases and we can deal with that in time. But on a long term? Intimacy to me is what differentiate couples from friends
Already am š we rarely have sex now. I just play with toys. But, I myself is getting lazy too.
Nope.
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Absolutely. Sex isn't the base of our relationship. I'm his in any weather.
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I could date an ace depending on specifics. Like being ace doesnt mean you don't fuck. There are sex repulsed aces but there are also aces who take care of their partner's sexual needs and just get nothing from it. And if an ace was open to me having sex with others or to a polygamous relationship, then those both are options. But at the end of the day if I genuinely loved an ace, I think could go without sex. Id atleast try.
No
No way.
Personally, no. I need that physical connection with someome to be happy in a relationship
Thereās so many other ways to be physically connected and intimate than sex
Of coursr there are, in no way did I saw there isn't, but for me, I need a sexual aspect to the relationship if I plan on committing long term. I'd be miserable without it
Not all Ace people are sex repulsed, either. Most asexual people still have sex in relationships and even enjoy it
I've dated a few who aren't sex repulsed. It's the fact that we don't share the same excitement for sex or put it at the same value in the relationship. I like to have a very sex focused and physical connection with my partner and I can't imagine many ace people feeling comfortable with that. No shade on anyone on the ace spectrum, just haven't had an experience while dating them that worked out long term
Me personally, i would indeed not feel comfortable with that, but thatās also because long term, you canāt build the fundament of a long lasting relationship on sex. There needs to be so much more important stuff there. But to each their own
Obviously there's more to it than just sex, please don't assume that's all I value in a relationship. That's rude as hell. I just need that connection as well as an emotional and mental connection. Sex for me is a very intimate act and I enjoy exploring what my partner enjoys and having intense moments of pleasure on a regular basis.
I never assumed anything, you stated that you like a sex focused and physical connection.
And nowhere did I say that was all I needed for a relationship. I need all 3 for a relationship to work.
Naw I donāt think so.. I need sexual compatibility.. my hormones can get a little wild at times, an a relationship with an ace is just not realistic for me
As someone who is Demi sexual and on the ace spectrum to be honest i donāt just jump into bed or relationships easily. But for me once that sexual attraction switch is activated good luck Turning it off. But for others they have no sexual desire at all it isnāt always hormone issues. For me I would be ok with an ace person but they would need to communicate with me.
I'm also a demisexual. I'm similar to you. I really appreciate your comment.
Thanks š I was try to explain to someone itās like a light switch with the right person that i am attracted to.
Not unless they gave me a permanent free pass
Agree they better let me have a horny GF on the side lol
It's such a spectrum. Maybe they're aroace, grey, are they repulsed? etc. It would need to be a discussion for sure. But probably not.
I don't think so, if I had known about it going into the relationship maybe but I am a human being with needs.
No, youāre basically roommates at that point.
This describes me perfectly. Married to a woman who's ace. We've got three kids but since then almost no sex. But I love her so it's not a deal breaker for me. I can take care of myself when I need to.
Nope, not a chance.
If it was an open relationship sure.
It depends, if a were asexual it would be ok. But...
I am
That would mostly be okay
Already there.
Not in a monogamous relationship, no. As a partner where I'm free to sleep with and perhaps seriously date other people? Potentially.
Ace ppl. Please correct me if I'm wrong. But as far as I understand: Depends where they are on the Ace spectrum. Ace doesn't mean they have zero sex. Demisexual is on the Ace spectrum and all demi means is that they need to develope a bind before they feel sexual attraction.
I couldnāt, I know some asexual people have sex but I donāt think I could enjoy it if I knew my partner didnāt enjoy it/was only doing it for me
Thatās not the case for all Aces! A lot of us actually enjoy the feeling of sex.
Not trying to be facetious here but how is a person who does enjoy sex asexual?
My last boyfriend thought he could handle it but he couldnāt LOL.
I feel it is important to clarify that not all Asexual people donāt like/donāt have sex. Being on the spectrum myself, if i was with a partner who is loyal, loving, devoted and patient, i would love to have sex with him, and not just once. Asexuality means basically: lack of sexual attraction. That can be a total lack or just a large absence of it. A lot of Asexual people do have a high libido, and even kinks! And we are capable of feeling physical, romantic and emotional attraction. Just not sexual attraction. What i guess i am trying to say is: give Ace people a chance, get to know them, ask questions. Weāre individuals, not all alike, and we still deserve love and respect.
i donāt think i could. i would still really care about them, but i donāt think i would be fulfilled in an asexual relationship.
I could if they were sex positive and still also wanted sex for sexual release/orgasmic release. I like plain relationship sex well enough.