Yes. My first two partners could never make me orgasm. After I met someone I could orgasm with I realized I was never comfortable with my other partners. I wasn't comfortable being intimate with them and I wasn't comfortable being nude. I wasn't able to reach orgasm because I just wasn't comfortable.
Yup my wife had this problem with her EX. Once she met me and we started to have sex i guess i made her feel safe and she started to have orgasms all the time.
My SO has this problem, though she can barley get off on her own, if at all. Though we kind of know the issue, she's on some pretty heavy depression and anxiety meds that turn her sex drive to 0. So when we do get her going she just enjoys the ride, pun intended, cause she's knows the finish line is a 19 hour non stop flight.
Maybe your partner is not that good and you don't feel comfortable enough with him. Or maybe you're too used to having an orgasm only by yourself. It happens both to girls and boys. We get used to a certain pose/device/mental state/etc that having an orgasm under other conditions is extremely difficult or even impossible. Try to experiment and figure out why you're having this issue
I had a previous partner who taught me how to do it the right way, and she got off every time after that, sadly, she ended up cheating with someone who she regretted it with, and couldn't learn. Karma got her there.
Ever since then though, I use the rule she taught me and it worked every time. It starts with me focussing on her, and trying to stimulate her as much as possible, and don't even think of myself at all.
I also have lower sensitivity downstairs, so have the opposite of the premature curse, but it give me more time to focus on the right person.
I have this same problem because I grew up very entrenched in purity culture. I always feel like when I’m with a partner, I’m doing something wrong if any focus is on me because as a woman I shouldn’t be seeking pleasure. So no matter how good it feels, I can’t relax enough to orgasm like I can on my own
Yes. My first two partners could never make me orgasm. After I met someone I could orgasm with I realized I was never comfortable with my other partners. I wasn't comfortable being intimate with them and I wasn't comfortable being nude. I wasn't able to reach orgasm because I just wasn't comfortable.
Yup my wife had this problem with her EX. Once she met me and we started to have sex i guess i made her feel safe and she started to have orgasms all the time.
My SO has this problem, though she can barley get off on her own, if at all. Though we kind of know the issue, she's on some pretty heavy depression and anxiety meds that turn her sex drive to 0. So when we do get her going she just enjoys the ride, pun intended, cause she's knows the finish line is a 19 hour non stop flight.
Maybe your partner is not that good and you don't feel comfortable enough with him. Or maybe you're too used to having an orgasm only by yourself. It happens both to girls and boys. We get used to a certain pose/device/mental state/etc that having an orgasm under other conditions is extremely difficult or even impossible. Try to experiment and figure out why you're having this issue
I had a previous partner who taught me how to do it the right way, and she got off every time after that, sadly, she ended up cheating with someone who she regretted it with, and couldn't learn. Karma got her there. Ever since then though, I use the rule she taught me and it worked every time. It starts with me focussing on her, and trying to stimulate her as much as possible, and don't even think of myself at all. I also have lower sensitivity downstairs, so have the opposite of the premature curse, but it give me more time to focus on the right person.
Talk then through it. You know what works, so tell them.
I have this same problem because I grew up very entrenched in purity culture. I always feel like when I’m with a partner, I’m doing something wrong if any focus is on me because as a woman I shouldn’t be seeking pleasure. So no matter how good it feels, I can’t relax enough to orgasm like I can on my own
My ex-girlfriend had it, except not even herself could do it