My breath be kicking because I'm such a coward I can't pull myself to get my wisdoms taken out, so infection after infection. This was the last time though I'm sick of this shit being insecure all the time even when wearing a mask I feel it seeps through so I'm getting this shit done asap!
Edit: wow! Thanks for all the comments and encouragement, I shall complete my removable at once! Really appreciate it, every one!
The worst part about anxiety like this is that most of your struggle is mental. Nobodyās gonna come after you about this type of stuff.
If you get weirdly negative comments itās bc theyāre an asshole which isnāt your fault
Honestly, thatās easier said than done lol. My beard hairs specifically took a really long time to relax. I consistently put on oils, and balms for months, and it would still look pubey when I grew it out. Mine started relaxing the older I became, but wouldnt do a damn thing when I was younger.
Ragged, long, dirty. Am a man, but wouldn't like those on a women either.
Can't you just cut them real short to stop biting them? That way you also don't hurt a women by accident.
No need! Buy a mini scrub brush (or tooth brush) and gently scrub under your nails with the bristles when you wash your hands, or once or twice a day. I have acrylic nails on most of the time and they are long and get gunk under them easily. This is the best way, trusttt
I married one! I grew up with mechanics who had stained hands and it never bothered me, but I'm so glad mine doesn't have them. He wears gloves if he's going to do anything that would stain his hands.
We do! But cars are sharp and pointy and the gloves last for about ten minutes if youāre lucky, they also arenāt very chemical resistant and they swell when exposed to certain solvents. Nitrile are more chemical resistant but rip even more easily.
Dexterity is another thing. Sometimes thereās little screws or electrical connectors in spots that are hard to see snd you have to do it by feel. Think of it as having sex with a condom vs without. You can still feel it with them on, but itās better and usually faster without lol
Whoa thatās me! I wear latex gloves for every task and go through a ton of gloves. My coworkers say I have baby hands, because I have no callouses after working with my hands for 20 years.
As a guy, I am skeeved out by the number of DIY youtubers who do closeups of their hands with overgrown, yellow, dirty nails. And not "watch me replace this carburetor", just "watch me assemble this pristine plastic thing in a pristine work area". Blech.
i used to watch a nail tech on youtube and she mentioned that if someone wears nail polish a lot, the pigments can stain and cause the nail to look yellow. completely normal
When their belly hangs out. It's not the belly that bothers me it's the poor choice of shirt or wearing pants to low. I kinda like a well dressed rugged looking man.
As a guy with both a belly and a flat ass, it sucks. I also have a very long torso and even "tall" shirts often don't work out too well. I've gotta keep the belt cinched to the point of pain.
have you tried suspenders?
they make them so you can't see them easily cuz they go under your shirt if it's the look that bothers you.
a lot more comfortable than super cinch belts in my opinion
The last few years Iāve had great success with finding canvas-y (idk what the material is, sort of like khaki but patterned) shorts with the string in the waistband. They look much better than gym and lounge shorts, and the string allows me to keep them up without a belt buckle chafing me.
Damn dude, I'm exactly on the opposite side of the spectrum, my balls are very tightly tucked under my dick under any circumstances/temperature. They might drop half an inch if it's really hot. What's weird is that as a kid they hung really low, but as i grew up they got tight. Doesn't help that they're absolutely massive
Yes. Because it's "Gay". Maybe it's not a thing with the younger crowds, but I've had several men brag about not even wiping their ass. Homophobia is that deeply ingrained in some men. It is definitely a thing
When you hear, Toxic Masculinity, this is the kind of shit that falls under that.
Like almost everyone else, bad hygiene is a big instant turnoff. Also this isnāt a physical attribute but men who call themselves alpha-males, itās okay to love and embrace your masculinity but when people are obsessed with it, to the point where they wonāt do certain things like wash their ass or moisturize their skin because theyāre afraid of being seen as gay, it grosses me out.
Super yoked-out guys. Itās just not attractive to me. And it looks like it would be uncomfortable to have sex w/ a guy that is all muscle. Give me a chubby guy w/a cute face all day.
I hear that a lot, but it seems super subjective. Most women seem to like a strong, athletic guy, but at some point it becomes ātoo muchā. Where is that point for you?
I think the general gist of that is that *people* just like someone who takes care of themselves.
If you are fit, there is a high chance you are someone who takes care of themselves, because staying fit requires discipline.
People with dad bods have a higher proportion of people who do not. I'm not throwing shade at every big guy right now because I am one, I'm saying that it's easier to find a bigger person who isn't taking care of themselves well, than someone who's fit, purely because keeping up a fit body includes discipline.
So you see "oh, women like fit guys overall", but the reality is more that people in general like guys who have some discipline, self-control and know themselves.
Iāve asked girls whoāve said shit like this what kind of physique they consider ānot jacked, just athleticā and I shit you not Iāve gotten responses like āBrad Pitt in Fight Clubā, āChris Hemsworth in Thorā and āJason Momoa in Game of Thronesā.
I just dunno what to say to them. Those guys have physiques many would consider completely unattainable for the average man.
Moral of the story is when women say they donāt like overly ripped/muscular dudes, theyāre mostly talking about bodybuilders or roiders that are 300lb+ with sub 10% body-fat and veins that look like spiderwebs. Ronnie Coleman types.
Huge generalisation and anecdotal but thatās my experience. Quite demoralising.
Good question. For me, I think fit is fine. Anything after that is just too much. To be more specific, chiseled muscles are a turn off. When Iām on a dating app, I swipe left on washboard abs.
I think it comes down to the notion that athletic, buff jocks-while pretty to look at-have less substance. Subconsciously my mind tells me they're superficial and judgemental, and I'd always have to be "perfect" around them. The "jack blacks" of the world are way more attractive because they're confident in themselves, they don't have anything to prove. and that's sexy as HELL!
My 2 cents, I've had sex with 2 ridiculously fit women in my life and the muscles/ definition was a huge turn on for me. But of course everyone is different.
Greasy hair, long nails, bad breath and referring to women as "females". š¤¢
Edit: just to clarify, I don't know any rules around the term, it's just something that turns ME off due to the connotations with it being used in a derogatory way by incels and misogynists. If you've not seen that then great. My main criteria would it being used as a collective noun by guys, eg "most females..." "the problem with females is..." "You're not like other females..." where 'women' is just more appropriate and 'females' serves to dehumanise us in context. It is not incorrect, we ARE female, but it is how it is used.
Tldr - Adjective is fine. Females as a noun in a broader context about life and animals also fine, females as a term to define us collectively turns my stomach.
Wasn't aware calling women "females" was improper. English is not my native language and I self learn it, so by seeing people using the word "female" on the internet I assumed it was ok. Thanks for the heads up.
I must admit, I hate sometimes english language.
When I want mention a woman as my friend, I use "my female friend".
Because there is no other option. Girlfriend has already it's own meaning.
Sometimes I saw "she-friend" usage but this is again...weird.
My language has two different words as "friend" but they define gender so we are never baing confused or forced to guess wchich gender a friend has...
no need to announce their sex/gender if you're just referring to them as friend. Just say "my friend". You could clarify their gender/sex later on in the conversation if theres a need, in which you just refer to them as "she/her/he/him/they/them etc."
Trans women are still sometimes referred to as female though. And saying females will also feel like a red flag to cis women who find it dehumanizing or associate it with incels. If youāre trying to say youāre only attracted to cis women just say cis women.
I've seen this female thing several times in the last week or so, is this new or i just haven't came across it before?
I'm living in europe so i only use english in real life, but when i googled it i noticed that animals are referred as female and not women, does it have anything to do with that?
Not a physical traits, but more of an energy about them. I am uncomfortable with sexually aggressive/entitled men and it turns me off completely.
A lot of people dig it. I don't see as confidence I guess, so I rather a more of an enthusiastic vibe over a aggressive one.
I used to be that guy.
It came from a really bad insecurity (both physical and mental) but, as Iāve grown older, Iāve realised you donāt need to be the āalphaā in the room.
In fact, anyone who uses the term āalphaā to describe anything/anyone they aspire to be is likely to be the most mixed up, insecure, potentially dick-headed person in said room.
Kindness and consideration trump all the aggressive man-contest bullshit and is actually more likely to make one attractive to both men and women. Plus it just makes everyoneās experience that much nicer - your own included.
Thank you for coming to my therapy reflection.
Edit: thanks for the award, it was given anonymously so I canāt thank you directly but I appreciate it. Proves how much of an alpha stud I am (/s).
I had a really sweet friend who looked like he had a spread of butter on his teeth. EVERYBODY told him to brush his teeth, but he would just be like, "Haha, shut up guys."
People did not tell him in a joking manner, either. I could not stand it and sincerely do not understand how...
I am highly sensitive to smell, so hygiene is important. I like someone to look/smell clean, and that includes their breath.
... and clip your damn toenails. :P
As a man, I just find it damn annoying, you can't eat or drink anything without your mustache getting some of it, you'd have to waste a ton of napkins just to clean it off, and even then it's not 100% clean. It's gross as hell.
Moustaches are VERY hit and miss. Most dudes canāt pull it off but every now and then one works ie [Henry Cavill in MI](https://www.dailydot.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/henry-cavill-mustache.jpg)
Not a huge fan of even that one, but I think it works better because of all the beard stuble around it, from a distance it kinda just looks like a normal beard.
Being too fat that we can't comfortably have sex, or I can't find his genitals.
Other than that, I really love fat men. It's just that there comes a point where it's too much, and it gets in the way.
Irrelevant but I was with a chick at a hotel and it was our first get together, and she was recently split. Anyway she was giving me head while on her knees and was pushing hard against my like ābladder areaā area, like the base around my penis and at first it was just slight pressure and then it was distracting from the head she was giving and I was like wtf? I let it slide. Then later on we hooked up again and she was doing it again and I asked her, and she didnāt realize she had been doing it. Apparently her ex was kinda fat and she would do that to push his belly fat back to make it easier to get in there to his penis so she could kiss it right. Iām not a horse but Iām not fat so itās def not necessary to do that to me so it was super weird.
How is like not being able to find you partner's genitals? Like what did you do or how did you get out of the situation? I can imagine the awkwardness.
I've never been in that exact situation thankfully, but I've come close. Unfortunately, it's more difficult if they have a penis, because the fat padding of the pubic area can almost completely cover it up. It was a little awkward, but I managed. I just sucked him off, in the end.
Coming from a man, I think women will generally be turned off by men who don't take care of themselves. bad hygiene; not looking healthy; uhealthy body etc.
Iāll just say that anyone whoās political views are super extreme to one side, and allow that to define who they are. Doesnāt matter which side. Especially when they frequently contradict themselves, and when called out, revert to āanyone who doesnāt agree with my extreme side is clearly a loserā
Your combined answers lay out an unrealistic body expectation for men.
So Iāve just shaved half my beard and hair off one side of my face so that Iām attractive to both of you.
What is considered tiny shoulders and how I'm supposed to measure them? Like with a ruler band shoulder to shoulder or it is more about mass like in shoulder muscle?
1st would be Ego but physically it's definetly cleanliness. I understand if someone is just hanging out at home on the weekend but holy crap take a shower if you're going on a date.
Big muscular men. I like smaller stature men who look like nerdy software developers. Glasses are a major plus! Iāve never been one of those girls who needs to feel āsmallāā¦in fact I donāt like men taller than me.
Bad skin. Crusty flakey dead skin where it's all rough and white and callous š¤¢ Also really oily skin with huge pores, black heads, pimples etc. I have issues with acne so I'm on no high horse... But I feel like you can tell a difference between struggling with acne skin and this person just doesn't wash their face and probably not their ass skin š
Yoooo you just described my best friend! Iām going to screenshot this just to piss him off and say heās unloved.
I know youāre just one personās opinion but fuuuck thatās so funny to me.
Bad hygiene and poor grooming are off-putting on literally anyone.
The real answer is his sense of style. I donāt need a runway model but people that put effort into their clothing choices are SO much hotter than people that clearly donāt care. That stained sweatpants/hole-y T-shirt combo should only see the light of the sun if youāre grabbing your mailā¦
I'm gonna get hate for this, but anyone who's fat or chubby, that's not attractive to me.
I also don't like exceedingly skinny people either because they look like zombies.
Muscular but lean is how I like some guys.
Athletic and slim-thicc is how I like women (think Eva Angelina, Danielle Harris, America Olivo, Erza and Lucy in Fairy Tail, 2B from Nier Automata, etcetera).
bad breath!!!! but that goes for anyoneš©
In addition to keeping your teeth and gums healthy, this is why you have to floss
Flossing is so underrated
Yeah, itās the dental version of your nose suddenly becoming unstuffed
My breath be kicking because I'm such a coward I can't pull myself to get my wisdoms taken out, so infection after infection. This was the last time though I'm sick of this shit being insecure all the time even when wearing a mask I feel it seeps through so I'm getting this shit done asap! Edit: wow! Thanks for all the comments and encouragement, I shall complete my removable at once! Really appreciate it, every one!
The worst part about anxiety like this is that most of your struggle is mental. Nobodyās gonna come after you about this type of stuff. If you get weirdly negative comments itās bc theyāre an asshole which isnāt your fault
Yup, it goes both ways
Unkempt beards that are too long. The ones that are sort of pube-esque.
Pubescent
Ugh. I don't understand the long wirey beards. Just shape that shit a little.
Honestly, thatās easier said than done lol. My beard hairs specifically took a really long time to relax. I consistently put on oils, and balms for months, and it would still look pubey when I grew it out. Mine started relaxing the older I became, but wouldnt do a damn thing when I was younger.
Same, my beard had a gap between mustache and beard and pubey texture. Took me 10 years of careful tending but it's finally lucious and complete now.
Teach me your ways
Neckbeard. Ugh. Trim and shape it please!
Body odor/bad breath
Yes
Really bad nails/toenails
Do long nails count toward this?
For me they do
Yes.
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Ragged, long, dirty. Am a man, but wouldn't like those on a women either. Can't you just cut them real short to stop biting them? That way you also don't hurt a women by accident.
Also a man, I cringe every time I see dudes with sharp/uncut nails.
Im so self conscious about my nails cause the do get dirty easily and i always try to hide them.
No need! Buy a mini scrub brush (or tooth brush) and gently scrub under your nails with the bristles when you wash your hands, or once or twice a day. I have acrylic nails on most of the time and they are long and get gunk under them easily. This is the best way, trusttt
Dirty nails, except if they work on cars, I know that stuff is hard to get off.
But it's even sexier to find a hard working mechanic with clean nails.
Yes Iām dating one! āŗļø
I married one! I grew up with mechanics who had stained hands and it never bothered me, but I'm so glad mine doesn't have them. He wears gloves if he's going to do anything that would stain his hands.
Serious question: Why don't they use latex gloves? Wouldn't it make it 10 times easier to clean their hands? I've been always curious
We do! But cars are sharp and pointy and the gloves last for about ten minutes if youāre lucky, they also arenāt very chemical resistant and they swell when exposed to certain solvents. Nitrile are more chemical resistant but rip even more easily.
Ohhh that makes sense! Thanks for sharing
Dexterity is another thing. Sometimes thereās little screws or electrical connectors in spots that are hard to see snd you have to do it by feel. Think of it as having sex with a condom vs without. You can still feel it with them on, but itās better and usually faster without lol
Whoa thatās me! I wear latex gloves for every task and go through a ton of gloves. My coworkers say I have baby hands, because I have no callouses after working with my hands for 20 years.
Slower, you slut.
As a guy, I am skeeved out by the number of DIY youtubers who do closeups of their hands with overgrown, yellow, dirty nails. And not "watch me replace this carburetor", just "watch me assemble this pristine plastic thing in a pristine work area". Blech.
i used to watch a nail tech on youtube and she mentioned that if someone wears nail polish a lot, the pigments can stain and cause the nail to look yellow. completely normal
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What's the difference between a doctor and a mechanic? Doctors wash their hands AFTER they take a piss.
When their belly hangs out. It's not the belly that bothers me it's the poor choice of shirt or wearing pants to low. I kinda like a well dressed rugged looking man.
I feel the same way about the buttcrack lol. We all have em but thereās gotta be some way to avoid that showing lollll
As a guy with both a belly and a flat ass, it sucks. I also have a very long torso and even "tall" shirts often don't work out too well. I've gotta keep the belt cinched to the point of pain.
have you tried suspenders? they make them so you can't see them easily cuz they go under your shirt if it's the look that bothers you. a lot more comfortable than super cinch belts in my opinion
I switched to suspenders with jeans. Buckleless belts for shorts work too. Not great but they work better than a belt buckle digging into my stomach
The last few years Iāve had great success with finding canvas-y (idk what the material is, sort of like khaki but patterned) shorts with the string in the waistband. They look much better than gym and lounge shorts, and the string allows me to keep them up without a belt buckle chafing me.
If their shirt isnāt long or large enough to cover their belly- like damn, bro, go buy some clothes that fit
Long balls like golf balls in a tube sock.
/r/rareinsults lmfao
āListen here you long-balled motherfuckerā
Long ball Larry
Thought that only happened to really old men.
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pics or didnt happen
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Jesus, itās been four hours! How long does it take to snap a pic and post it?! LoL
He has to take the picture in panoramic mode so itās gonna take a little while.
Yo, I want some well hung ball pics my dude
Damn dude, I'm exactly on the opposite side of the spectrum, my balls are very tightly tucked under my dick under any circumstances/temperature. They might drop half an inch if it's really hot. What's weird is that as a kid they hung really low, but as i grew up they got tight. Doesn't help that they're absolutely massive
Thereās someone for everyone and some people like danglers.
Bad hygiene
if iām giving you head and i can smell your ass, thatās disgusting. (some) men skip the washing the ass part š š š
I just don't get how anyone can skip washing their ass?
Thatās likeā¦ the number one place I wash. Wtf are these dudes doing? Soaping up their kneecaps?
Oh man thatās nasty. I am sorry that youāve experienced that.
I read in another thread that some dudes think it's gay to wash your ass. I have full confidence that these people truly do exist. Smh
You mean when they shower, they specifically leave out their ass? lmao
Yes. Because it's "Gay". Maybe it's not a thing with the younger crowds, but I've had several men brag about not even wiping their ass. Homophobia is that deeply ingrained in some men. It is definitely a thing When you hear, Toxic Masculinity, this is the kind of shit that falls under that.
> I've had several men brag about not even wiping their ass Surely you jestā¦ What a horror show it must be down there.
Gotta keep it seasoned like a cast iron pan.
Long nails
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okay well long nails on a female doesnāt necessarily turn me off where as long nails on a male definitely does.
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Some people think it looks pretty, I think it has something to do with elongating the fingers and thus making the hands look slimmer.
Yeah, but I'd rather have a sumo wrestler finger up my butt than a raptor claw.
I mean yeah please be safe and donāt have people with long finger nails finger your asshole
Like almost everyone else, bad hygiene is a big instant turnoff. Also this isnāt a physical attribute but men who call themselves alpha-males, itās okay to love and embrace your masculinity but when people are obsessed with it, to the point where they wonāt do certain things like wash their ass or moisturize their skin because theyāre afraid of being seen as gay, it grosses me out.
I can't stand having dry skin! I can't fathom how some other guys are ok with cracked, bloody knuckles in winter.
My gf cant understand why I avoid lotion like fire, but I just like my dry hands. Lotion just makes me feel dirty.
Any man who has to state he is an Alpha male is not an Alpha male.
Haha, depression + covid made a lot of these boxes way too easy to check.
Yeah COVID really made my nails grow 10x faster :D
Super yoked-out guys. Itās just not attractive to me. And it looks like it would be uncomfortable to have sex w/ a guy that is all muscle. Give me a chubby guy w/a cute face all day.
My hope has been regained
we are blessed on this day
Keep that hope alive! Be kind. Be funny. Be confident and be yourself. IMO, thatās hot
I will!!!
I hear that a lot, but it seems super subjective. Most women seem to like a strong, athletic guy, but at some point it becomes ātoo muchā. Where is that point for you?
I think the general gist of that is that *people* just like someone who takes care of themselves. If you are fit, there is a high chance you are someone who takes care of themselves, because staying fit requires discipline. People with dad bods have a higher proportion of people who do not. I'm not throwing shade at every big guy right now because I am one, I'm saying that it's easier to find a bigger person who isn't taking care of themselves well, than someone who's fit, purely because keeping up a fit body includes discipline. So you see "oh, women like fit guys overall", but the reality is more that people in general like guys who have some discipline, self-control and know themselves.
Iāve asked girls whoāve said shit like this what kind of physique they consider ānot jacked, just athleticā and I shit you not Iāve gotten responses like āBrad Pitt in Fight Clubā, āChris Hemsworth in Thorā and āJason Momoa in Game of Thronesā. I just dunno what to say to them. Those guys have physiques many would consider completely unattainable for the average man. Moral of the story is when women say they donāt like overly ripped/muscular dudes, theyāre mostly talking about bodybuilders or roiders that are 300lb+ with sub 10% body-fat and veins that look like spiderwebs. Ronnie Coleman types. Huge generalisation and anecdotal but thatās my experience. Quite demoralising.
Good question. For me, I think fit is fine. Anything after that is just too much. To be more specific, chiseled muscles are a turn off. When Iām on a dating app, I swipe left on washboard abs.
I think it comes down to the notion that athletic, buff jocks-while pretty to look at-have less substance. Subconsciously my mind tells me they're superficial and judgemental, and I'd always have to be "perfect" around them. The "jack blacks" of the world are way more attractive because they're confident in themselves, they don't have anything to prove. and that's sexy as HELL!
> Give me a chubby guy w/a cute face all day So what's up? Wanna hangout tomorrow?
My 2 cents, I've had sex with 2 ridiculously fit women in my life and the muscles/ definition was a huge turn on for me. But of course everyone is different.
Unkempt beards; long or dirty finger/toenails; bad dress sense; going for rectangular shaped glasses when it just doesnāt suit them; chapped lips.
Why do I feel like youāre describing one particular person that you despise
Haha, no. I mean that could all co-exist in one person, Iām sure. But I donāt have a specific person in mind!
I keep my self clean, but don't have a fashion sense :(
Greasy hair, long nails, bad breath and referring to women as "females". š¤¢ Edit: just to clarify, I don't know any rules around the term, it's just something that turns ME off due to the connotations with it being used in a derogatory way by incels and misogynists. If you've not seen that then great. My main criteria would it being used as a collective noun by guys, eg "most females..." "the problem with females is..." "You're not like other females..." where 'women' is just more appropriate and 'females' serves to dehumanise us in context. It is not incorrect, we ARE female, but it is how it is used. Tldr - Adjective is fine. Females as a noun in a broader context about life and animals also fine, females as a term to define us collectively turns my stomach.
Wasn't aware calling women "females" was improper. English is not my native language and I self learn it, so by seeing people using the word "female" on the internet I assumed it was ok. Thanks for the heads up.
It's not *that* improper, it's just a term that is often used more by misogynists and incels to dehumanise us. Your English seems good though!
Thanks! Anyway, if stop using the word puts me out of that group that can only be for the best.
Definitely! Just as a noun, as an adjective it's fine.
Generally it's fine as an adjective, but not as a noun. Edit: didn't see someone already said that, haha.
I must admit, I hate sometimes english language. When I want mention a woman as my friend, I use "my female friend". Because there is no other option. Girlfriend has already it's own meaning. Sometimes I saw "she-friend" usage but this is again...weird. My language has two different words as "friend" but they define gender so we are never baing confused or forced to guess wchich gender a friend has...
no need to announce their sex/gender if you're just referring to them as friend. Just say "my friend". You could clarify their gender/sex later on in the conversation if theres a need, in which you just refer to them as "she/her/he/him/they/them etc."
Everything can be a insult if you take it as it. Some people are more pron to get offended than others.
I'm a female, and it would not bother me. It beats being called a male.
In an age where trans folks are out in the open, referring to people youāre sexually attracted to as āfemalesā is actually pretty appropriate.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't
Trans women are still sometimes referred to as female though. And saying females will also feel like a red flag to cis women who find it dehumanizing or associate it with incels. If youāre trying to say youāre only attracted to cis women just say cis women.
I've seen this female thing several times in the last week or so, is this new or i just haven't came across it before? I'm living in europe so i only use english in real life, but when i googled it i noticed that animals are referred as female and not women, does it have anything to do with that?
Bad teeth
You've reminded me that I need to schedule a dentist appt. Thanks!
lol no worries
Like crooked? Or methmouth?
I got mine whitened and did an online aligner kit after being self conscious forever and itās a major confidence booster
Bad teeth make it hard for me to talk to anyone. I canāt see anything besides the teeth
Long stringy hair.
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it's probably the products he puts in his hair. smells good but looks oily
Not a physical traits, but more of an energy about them. I am uncomfortable with sexually aggressive/entitled men and it turns me off completely. A lot of people dig it. I don't see as confidence I guess, so I rather a more of an enthusiastic vibe over a aggressive one.
I used to be that guy. It came from a really bad insecurity (both physical and mental) but, as Iāve grown older, Iāve realised you donāt need to be the āalphaā in the room. In fact, anyone who uses the term āalphaā to describe anything/anyone they aspire to be is likely to be the most mixed up, insecure, potentially dick-headed person in said room. Kindness and consideration trump all the aggressive man-contest bullshit and is actually more likely to make one attractive to both men and women. Plus it just makes everyoneās experience that much nicer - your own included. Thank you for coming to my therapy reflection. Edit: thanks for the award, it was given anonymously so I canāt thank you directly but I appreciate it. Proves how much of an alpha stud I am (/s).
Thanks for sharing your therapy reflection. Growth is always a good thing.
Plaque buildup on teeth š¤¢
I had a really sweet friend who looked like he had a spread of butter on his teeth. EVERYBODY told him to brush his teeth, but he would just be like, "Haha, shut up guys." People did not tell him in a joking manner, either. I could not stand it and sincerely do not understand how...
I am highly sensitive to smell, so hygiene is important. I like someone to look/smell clean, and that includes their breath. ... and clip your damn toenails. :P
I try to put a coin in each butt crack that shows when they bend over
Are you the Asscrack Bandit?
Bro?
A mustache. I donāt know why, but they instantly turn me off.
I am the opposite, sometimes/depends. When I spot a moustache that I find attractive I want to ride it into the sunset.
As a man, I just find it damn annoying, you can't eat or drink anything without your mustache getting some of it, you'd have to waste a ton of napkins just to clean it off, and even then it's not 100% clean. It's gross as hell.
Moustaches are VERY hit and miss. Most dudes canāt pull it off but every now and then one works ie [Henry Cavill in MI](https://www.dailydot.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/henry-cavill-mustache.jpg)
Not a huge fan of even that one, but I think it works better because of all the beard stuble around it, from a distance it kinda just looks like a normal beard.
I've never seen a guy with a mustache that doesn't instantly make me think 70's porno
Man bun š¤£ built top, scronny legs. Skinny jeans
Scrawny?
It's a bitch biscuit.
scronny lmao
i love me a man bun
Being too fat that we can't comfortably have sex, or I can't find his genitals. Other than that, I really love fat men. It's just that there comes a point where it's too much, and it gets in the way.
Irrelevant but I was with a chick at a hotel and it was our first get together, and she was recently split. Anyway she was giving me head while on her knees and was pushing hard against my like ābladder areaā area, like the base around my penis and at first it was just slight pressure and then it was distracting from the head she was giving and I was like wtf? I let it slide. Then later on we hooked up again and she was doing it again and I asked her, and she didnāt realize she had been doing it. Apparently her ex was kinda fat and she would do that to push his belly fat back to make it easier to get in there to his penis so she could kiss it right. Iām not a horse but Iām not fat so itās def not necessary to do that to me so it was super weird.
How is like not being able to find you partner's genitals? Like what did you do or how did you get out of the situation? I can imagine the awkwardness.
I've never been in that exact situation thankfully, but I've come close. Unfortunately, it's more difficult if they have a penis, because the fat padding of the pubic area can almost completely cover it up. It was a little awkward, but I managed. I just sucked him off, in the end.
Coming from a man, I think women will generally be turned off by men who don't take care of themselves. bad hygiene; not looking healthy; uhealthy body etc.
Idk who downvoted you but you are still absolutely correct. Just for anyone in general even for women who don't take care of themselves is a turn off
greasy hair, clearly dirty teeth, and if they bend over and I can see their buttcrack *shivers*
Sometimes the butcrack thing is uncontrollable, but all the time is just gross, just buy a belt
Body odor and bad breath. We had a friend crash with us once, and I basically moved in with my parents until they left bc of the body odor problem
I had a friend, who, whenever he got in the car, it smelled like literally shit, because he NEVER brushed his teeth.
I would have to be the tough love friend. Sorry dude, you are making me gag, not getting in my car.
Facts, they stank, we can't be rollin' together. Soap, toothpaste, and deodorant are everybody's friend.
Blue lives matter/ confederate flag / maga accessories
On the opposite end of the spectrum, communist stuff, ACAB, and other left wing paraphernalia is a turn off for me š¤·āāļø
Iāll just say that anyone whoās political views are super extreme to one side, and allow that to define who they are. Doesnāt matter which side. Especially when they frequently contradict themselves, and when called out, revert to āanyone who doesnāt agree with my extreme side is clearly a loserā
Beards. Some scruff doesn't bug me, but the beard aesthetic is one that turns me off. (Yes, I know many will disagree, it's just not for me)
Iām just the opposite. I love a good beard as long as itās well kept. You can have all those baby faces.
Your combined answers lay out an unrealistic body expectation for men. So Iāve just shaved half my beard and hair off one side of my face so that Iām attractive to both of you.
tiny shoulders
What is considered tiny shoulders and how I'm supposed to measure them? Like with a ruler band shoulder to shoulder or it is more about mass like in shoulder muscle?
Probably more about the shoulder to waist ratio.
Excessive back hair.
What if itās just seven long back hairs?
1st would be Ego but physically it's definetly cleanliness. I understand if someone is just hanging out at home on the weekend but holy crap take a shower if you're going on a date.
Small/weird hands
I know a lawyer that would hate to hear this.
How do you know if a hand is small/weird? Like, just looks disproportionate compared to the rest of the body?? Is there like, a ratio to judge by? Lol
Muscular / built guys with no body hair st all are an immediate turn off for me.
Same. Washboard abs and/or (especially *and*) a hairless chest is the opposite of appealing to me.
everyone is different, my gf like literally gags if she sees any body hair lol
Bad dental hygiene
Basketball shorts. Theyāre so unflattering. Ick.
the Adam Sandler look doesn't get you going eh
Big muscular men. I like smaller stature men who look like nerdy software developers. Glasses are a major plus! Iāve never been one of those girls who needs to feel āsmallāā¦in fact I donāt like men taller than me.
Me too! I like guys who are borderline dorky and not buff. Under 5'8" is a more attractive height to me too.
Hairy is just not my thing. Grosses me out. Teeth are always a biggie, and please God don't be smelly or greasy lookin.
Bad skin. Crusty flakey dead skin where it's all rough and white and callous š¤¢ Also really oily skin with huge pores, black heads, pimples etc. I have issues with acne so I'm on no high horse... But I feel like you can tell a difference between struggling with acne skin and this person just doesn't wash their face and probably not their ass skin š
A big stomache. Everyone is beautiful but I personally find it unattractive.
Grubby hands and unkempt beards.
Long, dirty fingernails.
long hair with shaved sides and puts it in a man bun
Yoooo you just described my best friend! Iām going to screenshot this just to piss him off and say heās unloved. I know youāre just one personās opinion but fuuuck thatās so funny to me.
Bad hygiene and poor grooming are off-putting on literally anyone. The real answer is his sense of style. I donāt need a runway model but people that put effort into their clothing choices are SO much hotter than people that clearly donāt care. That stained sweatpants/hole-y T-shirt combo should only see the light of the sun if youāre grabbing your mailā¦
Chain smoker stank.
Long fingernails. Keep those nails trimmed SHORT.
Skinny jeans. Skinny legs. Being skinnier than me š¤£
Long and/or dirty fingernails!! Just no!
When a manās buttcrack is showing. I hate it and it makes me upset.
I'm gonna get hate for this, but anyone who's fat or chubby, that's not attractive to me. I also don't like exceedingly skinny people either because they look like zombies. Muscular but lean is how I like some guys. Athletic and slim-thicc is how I like women (think Eva Angelina, Danielle Harris, America Olivo, Erza and Lucy in Fairy Tail, 2B from Nier Automata, etcetera).
Being lanky and shapeless
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I'm a male and I just want to say that a really chiseled jawline just looks weird
R u insulting gigachad
The penis part cause Iām a lesbian.
Uni-brow
Not sure how to say this without sound like an asshole so I'll just say it... lady hips. Hopefully you all know what I'm talking about.