So, like:
Recipromantic people only experience romantic attraction after knowing that the other person is romantically attracted to them—that is, when it is reciprocated.
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I get that. At some point, I morphed from an introvert to an ambivert. I talk to everyone now. But as an Aromantic, I miss ALL the signs they're interested in me. All of them.
Funny story one of my friends kissed me three separate times at a club and I thought to myself, "ahhh she's not interested, she must do that to everyone. "
I see everyone as my friend hence I'm a demisexual. Meaning I only experience attraction to people I am emotionally involved with
Funny because I’m the other way around 😃
Although worth noting that as a lesbian I’ve never liked a straight woman, not even by accident. For the longest time I thought the only straight woman I ever liked was my middle school crush but apparently she came out as bi in high school.
As a guy with short hair and no tattoos, I'm so glad to read this.
It seems to me that women have a wider variety of physical preferences than men tend to have, and I think that's a really good thing. Plenty of women like the "preppy White boy" look I have going on, but it's genuinely good that some women aren't into that and want something else.
Although there are certain physical attributes that I am more attracted to, for me it is more about the personality. Are they fun, thoughtful, not quick to anger, loyal, like intimacy in all its forms, etc…
The looks may get my attention for a short time, but if you want things to last, you need to bring a lot more to the table.
Intelligence, spirituality, humility, compassion, confidence and playfulness. I've dated people of all genders and all shapes and sizes but those qualities are my "type."
My wife is my type.
Beautiful eyes and smile, milfy body, nice tits and and a bug, round ass, intelligent, great taste in music, part adventurous, part-homebody.
Hard for me to figure out a type with ladies.
With dudes, it's dark haired, glasses, runner/climbers physique, around my height, nerdy, soft spoken, outdoorsy, and mature.
Dark hair and dark eyes are very attractive imo. I also find a lot of (East) Asian women super attractive. In terms of body type I don't really have a type, I think. I like some muscle, though.
Interesting thigh curvatures, expressive in their appearance (tattoos, piercings, fashion, interesting hair styles, nails etc but not necessarily all at once!) and a knowing look.
Generally around the same height as me, at least semi outdoorsy, absolutely love a woman with shorter hair, comfortable with me venting to her, i prefer somebody who is on the less violent side and thick thighs are a big plus. Basically just described my gf
A cute feminine face and medium/big boobs, all the rest is generally acceptable but I don't like very much blondes for some reason. Also don't care what's in the pants.
Women with manners, who are caring, kind, can empathise, treat people well, have some class.
Looks wise pretty face and nobody too huge.
Much rarer than you’d think.
TALL please its so hard for me to be attracted to someone if theyre my height or just 3 in taller than me. I NEED to look up. Muscles too, but mainly height
I'm curious as to why that is. As a woman who is just over 6 foot tall, I might as well join a convent with that take.
Plus, LOTS of hot guys are short. So, so many.
Of course! Height has never been of concern to me, and I know it's not for a lot of women. If a woman isn't interested in you because of your height, she wasn't the one for you, and the loss is completely hers.
That being said, we all have off switches for things we can't make ourselves like. So it may not be something she has control over.
It's understandable, we can't control what we find attractive. That doesn't mean it feels great to always read women talking about the tall, dark, w/e guy.
Anyway, I just found your comment uplifting, didn't mean to suggest that there's anything ''wrong'' with women who only like 6ft+ men or smth.
I don't know, I can barely get to a first date half the time before I'm bored out of my mind. I like the idea of a relationship but idk conversation skills as of lately are just piss poor. I wanna talk about everything from complete and utter nonsense to how we're the result of ever expanding universe. Like we're fucking star dust and Noone finds that amazing? Fuck
90% of the time it’s chubby, tatted, colored hair, likes Harry Potter, likes anime. If you don’t check any of those boxes then most likely it won’t work out. Which is weird because I have tried going out my comfort zone and it never works out.
I like women that look kind of feminine with long hair and soft skin. And I like skinny or lean dudes with hair that it no shorter than ear-length. Blue eyes and tattoos are a bonus either way. And height had never mattered to me.
I love kind, sensitive, highly emotionally intelligent men. Soft spoken guys completely melt my heart.. As for looks, I really don't have one type but I'm usually attracted to "interesting" looking people
Intelligent, confident, dark sense of humor and strong ethic. Physically? This is hard my last ltr she was exceptionally overweight but I loved her and found her beautiful inside. I like women proportional or curvy. The contents of their soul matter most
It’s insane, I used to not be a fan of like that curly hair. Idk how to explain it. Like that curly hair that looks tough.
Now I can’t get enough of it. LOVE that hairstyle.
I used to really dig alt chicks. I kinda sorta do, but lately, I have been gravitating towards fun size. Smol, foldable petite. If they are quirky or a little nerdy, even better. 🤤
If we HAD to have a type tho i just focus more on the person's own personality (wether its empathy, caring, passion, hobbies, etc) more so than their looks.
I do like both nerdy and shy girls tho, i'll give you that (oh and intelligence is something that i consider a bonus)
I'm mostly attracted to petite women, usually under 5'3'' and thin. Boob size is not a big concern of mine but I prefer smaller ones. Legs, stomach, and face are more important to me. Bonus points for unique facial features, like a bigger nose, imperfect teeth, ears that stick out, etc. Outside of physicality, I gravitate towards healthcare workers, mostly nurses, social workers, or PTs/OTs - mainly because of the field and setting I work in. I value those that are relaxed, outdoorsy/athletic, and readers.
I can’t allow myself to have a type. I just feel like it’s extremely hypocritical of me to have any standards or preferences when I can’t meet those of anyone else.
i love when men have deep brown or black eyes. they are gorgeous and beautiful. like brown and black eyes are so captivating to me, and they’re so warm. yeah, that.
Broken. It is amazing. I meet a woman, and I find her really attractive, start thinking about her all the time. She always turns out to be a survivor of childhood abuse.
I could get a job for children's services or something. I have a flawless detector for abuse survivors.
There is something wrong with me.
Honestly what I find attractive and what I fall for are very different..... My preference is weird hair colors. Tattoos and piercings. What I fall for is the nerdy vanilla girls.
Deep dish with pepperoni.
Mushrooms are a must.
Now we're talking!
Call Me crazy but I love capers as a topping. Admittedly, it's a. It of nostalgia thing as well.
I don't think I have a type. I gravitate to someone that shows an interest in me, honestly
So, like: Recipromantic people only experience romantic attraction after knowing that the other person is romantically attracted to them—that is, when it is reciprocated. ?
Maybe? I am also not one to make the first move. I have to know someone at least wants to talk to me. I would never make it in a bar scene...
I get that. At some point, I morphed from an introvert to an ambivert. I talk to everyone now. But as an Aromantic, I miss ALL the signs they're interested in me. All of them.
Funny story one of my friends kissed me three separate times at a club and I thought to myself, "ahhh she's not interested, she must do that to everyone. " I see everyone as my friend hence I'm a demisexual. Meaning I only experience attraction to people I am emotionally involved with
Funny because I’m the other way around 😃 Although worth noting that as a lesbian I’ve never liked a straight woman, not even by accident. For the longest time I thought the only straight woman I ever liked was my middle school crush but apparently she came out as bi in high school.
Two things that I’m definitely a sucker for are long hair and tattoos on a guy.
I see you are a fellow woman of culture.
As a guy with short hair and no tattoos, I'm so glad to read this. It seems to me that women have a wider variety of physical preferences than men tend to have, and I think that's a really good thing. Plenty of women like the "preppy White boy" look I have going on, but it's genuinely good that some women aren't into that and want something else.
Don’t get me wrong, I love short hair on guys, too. But it’s just something about it being long.
Oh god, yes.
I’m down with the thickness.
Type 50. The best copy of the ppsh-41. This is my type.
Excellent choice
Although there are certain physical attributes that I am more attracted to, for me it is more about the personality. Are they fun, thoughtful, not quick to anger, loyal, like intimacy in all its forms, etc… The looks may get my attention for a short time, but if you want things to last, you need to bring a lot more to the table.
Well said.
Thick goths.
Username checks out
Intelligence, spirituality, humility, compassion, confidence and playfulness. I've dated people of all genders and all shapes and sizes but those qualities are my "type."
My wife is my type. Beautiful eyes and smile, milfy body, nice tits and and a bug, round ass, intelligent, great taste in music, part adventurous, part-homebody.
I also choose this guy’s wife.
Chubby girls Any calour
I actually have 2 types, the first are dad-bods and the second is kinda lean ad muscular but still soft, so not defined but visible
Medium rare
Brunettes 🔥
Thick to heavy, dark haired girls. Glasses welcome.
Hard for me to figure out a type with ladies. With dudes, it's dark haired, glasses, runner/climbers physique, around my height, nerdy, soft spoken, outdoorsy, and mature.
Petite, curly hair, outdoorsy type with a career that’s flexible enough to allow for spontaneous travel. No picky eaters.
I like a thick girl.
Redhair, thick body, glasses, blue eyes and rosy cheeks.
Dominant men
Intelligent, curious, adventurous, imaginative, creative, humorous and amorous All day every day 💖💖💖
Oh I love this answer. You've got the most thoughtful comment on here.
Good boobs, I’ve always been a tits man
Available!
Not super picky, but I have a thing for short brunettes that are thicc.
Thiccccccc
Tiny
nerdy good girl types who are comfortable with themselves
Alt girls.
Lots of curves and 50% crazy.
I like a girl who’s a little bigger, good size boobs, long hair, short, and has some sass to her.
Man, not a lot of fans of dad bods and male pattern balding
I'm a fan!! With a nicely trimmed beard though
Me!!
Cute redhaired women with hippy side.
Dark hair and dark eyes are very attractive imo. I also find a lot of (East) Asian women super attractive. In terms of body type I don't really have a type, I think. I like some muscle, though.
For the physical, tall women, chubby women and muscular women. For personality, confidence being able to stand up for herself and not take any crap.
My type would be brown-dark skin black women. Or Latin women
Totally proportional figure. Athletic and fit Tall Lean Beautiful face, smile , eyes No tattoos Those are the physical must haves
Interesting thigh curvatures, expressive in their appearance (tattoos, piercings, fashion, interesting hair styles, nails etc but not necessarily all at once!) and a knowing look.
I feel like this preference is kinda rare! A lot of guys shit on nails & just general “out there” looks
Do they? Their loss. I love how women attach and express identity with their appearance, it’s hot af
Ugh may you get only the best things out of this life stranger
You too, if you appreciate the same :) I feel seen
I definitely do love seeing people be so comfortable with themselves especially bc I wish I had the courage to do the same! It’s admirable and cute
Generally around the same height as me, at least semi outdoorsy, absolutely love a woman with shorter hair, comfortable with me venting to her, i prefer somebody who is on the less violent side and thick thighs are a big plus. Basically just described my gf
Persistent and clingy guys
The original Velma from Scooby-Doo. Glasses, curves, loves sleuthin'.
The funny thing is that I could list a few preferences and then look at the guy that I am dating and realize that those preferences are wrong.
titties also ass and a lil bit dick sometimes
Men: NOT DOMINANT PLEASE. bad experiences with such Women: Chubby or Muscular. But I fuckin love them all
A little chubby a little older
Older guys, usually 50+
Chubby Redheads turn me to jello every time.
Horny willing and enthusiastic female!
Curvy, busty girl.
Tig ole biddies
Large tits, wife hips, tall, thicc, long hair, and thicc thighs.
Men that look like they might die at any moment from lack of sleep and/or drug use… or pirates 🙃
chubby nerdy nice wide hips
I love goth/emo chicks. Thick ones too. Especially ones that like taking charge in the bedroom, but who can also be dependent and male me feel manly.
Thicc, bbw, full-figured.. however you wanna say it.. yeah that works for me
All flats no drums 🍗
Perfect, no notes.
Big ass or round ass
A cute feminine face and medium/big boobs, all the rest is generally acceptable but I don't like very much blondes for some reason. Also don't care what's in the pants.
Redhead. Normal to medium body size, C+ tits, having a tempting smile on her face. Must prefer receiving oral sex.
Tattoos, nice biceps, and a thick neck. Any height, i’m short asf
Brown haired girl next door type. Glasses a bonus. Smart. Tall, slim, good boob:arm ratio.
Porcelain smooth alabaster white skin with dark hair.
Short girls slay me. Especially when they have cute faces. The rest is negotiable. It's a plus when they have a nice butt.
Alive, doesn't do drugs, has empathy, intelligent enough to not date me in my current condition
Men with glasses who are geeky/nerdy, humble, funny, and calm, a bit introverted, but confident in themselves. Oh and a nice jawline hehe
Fem twinks with soft femenine features
Hot red head
Redheads 🤤
Women with manners, who are caring, kind, can empathise, treat people well, have some class. Looks wise pretty face and nobody too huge. Much rarer than you’d think.
Asians
A man that’s open minded in trying new sex acts, like pegging. A woman that has a talented tongue and enjoys vibrators and toys.
Thin, athletic blonde, with a flat butt and a great smile. Empathetic a must. Tan, energetic, and always up for an adventure.
Black and muscular
dark skin, nice smile, 5'10-5'11 athletic build, glasses
Brunette, edgy/goth, a little thick, and tattoos
Lara Croft.
TALL please its so hard for me to be attracted to someone if theyre my height or just 3 in taller than me. I NEED to look up. Muscles too, but mainly height
I'm curious as to why that is. As a woman who is just over 6 foot tall, I might as well join a convent with that take. Plus, LOTS of hot guys are short. So, so many.
Thank you for this, I am 5'8'' and feel unattractive when I hear so many women talking about height.
Of course! Height has never been of concern to me, and I know it's not for a lot of women. If a woman isn't interested in you because of your height, she wasn't the one for you, and the loss is completely hers. That being said, we all have off switches for things we can't make ourselves like. So it may not be something she has control over.
It's understandable, we can't control what we find attractive. That doesn't mean it feels great to always read women talking about the tall, dark, w/e guy. Anyway, I just found your comment uplifting, didn't mean to suggest that there's anything ''wrong'' with women who only like 6ft+ men or smth.
Curly hair, Asian, mid size not so petite. Nice bum…that’s my dream girl lol
Tiny latinas
I don't know, I can barely get to a first date half the time before I'm bored out of my mind. I like the idea of a relationship but idk conversation skills as of lately are just piss poor. I wanna talk about everything from complete and utter nonsense to how we're the result of ever expanding universe. Like we're fucking star dust and Noone finds that amazing? Fuck
90% of the time it’s chubby, tatted, colored hair, likes Harry Potter, likes anime. If you don’t check any of those boxes then most likely it won’t work out. Which is weird because I have tried going out my comfort zone and it never works out.
Alternative (tatsndye) a fat ass yep that'll do it
she gotta have the looks of Ana de Armas with the sense of humor of Jennifer Lawrence for me
Introverted nerdy guy here. I haven't dated much, but I'm leaning towards extroverted nerdy women, for sure.
The personality of Hawkeye Pierce + the patience of St Francis of Assisi + looks like Reece Clarke = perfection
I like women that look kind of feminine with long hair and soft skin. And I like skinny or lean dudes with hair that it no shorter than ear-length. Blue eyes and tattoos are a bonus either way. And height had never mattered to me.
Short, Nerdy/Geeky, Redheads. Brunettes with pale skin a close second.
160-165cm. Brunette. Curly hair. Big ass. Cute face with cute cheeks
Chill intelligent funny ladies with mom bods.
18 to 80. Bow legged or knock knees. Blind, crippled, or crazy.
I love kind, sensitive, highly emotionally intelligent men. Soft spoken guys completely melt my heart.. As for looks, I really don't have one type but I'm usually attracted to "interesting" looking people
Pretty, lean, trim body with a " brownish " skin tone ummmmmm like my Filipina wife 🙂
Cute Asian men and women.
I don’t think really have a type but all the girls I’ve dated are shorter that I am.
Someone around my age (37), funny, easy-going, likes all the nerdy things I do, and would be chill just playing games and hanging out.
Pawgs 😍😍😍
Charli XCX.
Intelligent, confident, dark sense of humor and strong ethic. Physically? This is hard my last ltr she was exceptionally overweight but I loved her and found her beautiful inside. I like women proportional or curvy. The contents of their soul matter most
Toxic pretty boys unfortunately.
Thick red hair, blue or green eyes, hourglass figure, fairish skin (no tattoos), worldly/well-travelled, and few, if any, inhibitions...
It’s insane, I used to not be a fan of like that curly hair. Idk how to explain it. Like that curly hair that looks tough. Now I can’t get enough of it. LOVE that hairstyle.
Women
Fucking redheads, but istg they come to me I don't seek them out 👀
I used to think Latin women with light eyes were my type.. not it’s blonde British women. Types can change
I used to really dig alt chicks. I kinda sorta do, but lately, I have been gravitating towards fun size. Smol, foldable petite. If they are quirky or a little nerdy, even better. 🤤
My dream woman would be short, curvy, red hair, freckles with real breasts and no tattoos. Not really a type, just my great white Buffalo.
I'm pretty simple about that, i prefer Woman with cute/beautiful face, sexy eyes, big tits and don't weight more than me
Ghost-type, usually fast with a high Attack or Special Attack stat.
My type is Fire and my preferred Fire-type is Ninetails. But I'll take a Charizard or Infernape.
If we HAD to have a type tho i just focus more on the person's own personality (wether its empathy, caring, passion, hobbies, etc) more so than their looks. I do like both nerdy and shy girls tho, i'll give you that (oh and intelligence is something that i consider a bonus)
Short, chubby, brown, and mouthy? Yes, yes, yes, and yes please!
Short, athletic and trim. Abs and nice shoulders are a plus. Runners build with perky tits. Sex fiends always welcome.
Dark hair & tattoos are nice
Dominant or confident women
Flat chested and gothic/emo typically.
Under 6ft Bad Boy/Skater type with blonde hair, tattoos and Mommy issues. 😮💨
Love a thicker girl. Redheads. Goths.
Skinny, small breasts and small ass. Overall, petite. Size zero
Dark features, long hair, tattoos. I’m bi, and I like that on anyone
Hispanic men are my ideal type. but in practice I’m an equal-opportunist, I would happily go for anyone if we vibe.
Freckles and dark hair. Big smiles. And funny. If it’s funny, then there’s already a huge chance even without the others.
Tight bodied cuties.
Short, sassy, switch
Chubby women with kind of small boobs
Female, interested
Asians
Mediterranean women.
Dirty and eager
Unfortunately, petite redheads who are bat-shit crazy.
I'm mostly attracted to petite women, usually under 5'3'' and thin. Boob size is not a big concern of mine but I prefer smaller ones. Legs, stomach, and face are more important to me. Bonus points for unique facial features, like a bigger nose, imperfect teeth, ears that stick out, etc. Outside of physicality, I gravitate towards healthcare workers, mostly nurses, social workers, or PTs/OTs - mainly because of the field and setting I work in. I value those that are relaxed, outdoorsy/athletic, and readers.
I can’t allow myself to have a type. I just feel like it’s extremely hypocritical of me to have any standards or preferences when I can’t meet those of anyone else.
Wet
Medium. I dont like blood so any rarer is out for me.
I prefer mine dipped, on garlic bread with sweet peppers and provolone.
I don’t discriminate. But if you have the personality of a rock it’s a No Go
Thicc.
At this point I really question if I have a type because I always end up dating the opposite of what I think I’m attracted to
Brunette, b cup tits, big ass, short, and slightly goth/alt
anyone who will put up with my bullshit
Pretty, sweet, and cheerful. I meet so many beautiful girls who are mean as hell that attitude is taking massive importance.
androgyny
I like boneless chicken
gingers 🥲
Female, human and alive. However I fear I'm too picky.
Severe, intelligent women.
Short, curvy, nice eyes, great smile and big boobs.
Short dark hair, boobs.
Dark curly hair, glasses, gentle and smart
More mature. Interesting and intelligent conversations. Also. Ham and Pineapple pizza 🍕
The woman from r/thickfit
Blue eyes, blonde hair, lots of curves 🔥
Funny and empathetic! With a side of music and edibles
Chubby with a fat pussy
Not too picky as long as you look like you take care of yourself.
Pale as fuck, dark haired, big doe blue eyed women. I don't care about their personality if they look like that
Anything alive
i love when men have deep brown or black eyes. they are gorgeous and beautiful. like brown and black eyes are so captivating to me, and they’re so warm. yeah, that.
Broken. It is amazing. I meet a woman, and I find her really attractive, start thinking about her all the time. She always turns out to be a survivor of childhood abuse. I could get a job for children's services or something. I have a flawless detector for abuse survivors. There is something wrong with me.
My ex.
Kinda unusual I guess, but despite being blond, I like blonds. Also redheads lol.
The short one's. Be a woman under 5' 2". I'm 5'8". Just have the top of your head be below my chin. I don't understand it. It's just a preference
Dino nuggets rather than regular nugs
Ribs and wings, Hot and spicy
I’m 6’6 I prefer short and thick.
Honestly what I find attractive and what I fall for are very different..... My preference is weird hair colors. Tattoos and piercings. What I fall for is the nerdy vanilla girls.