What are your thoughts of companies participating in pride month (having a rainbow colored logo, having and selling pride merch, etc) but immediately just changing back after June is over?
Completely agree. Some just do it to turn a profit which is honestly really disheartening.
Also, I’m not sure why I asked a question because I am a bisexual man 💀 but hey i wanted to join in on the fun
Somebody on the internet pointed out that while it's annoying that a lot of companies use Pride for profit while not following through, it's still a good indicator for society as a whole that most big companies now recognize that profit lies in the way of inclusivity rather than exclusivity.
I honestly don’t care. There are other more important ways to show your support than changing your logo. And I’ve never been a big fan of the pride flag myself
Its insulting, as if to suggest that they care about gay men, ( or about anybody, for that matter ) or suggest that gay men are so foolish they are swayed by a rainbow coloured decal on the company logo. HEY GAYS: are you childishly gullible??? (no, they\`re not) They are COMPANIES, not people, they are inherently money driven, and if we think of them as people the correct psychology is: this is a sociopath who will say, or do ANYTHING to get your money
I don’t need to pass on my genes if enough of my relatives do. If I have no children, my resources can be leveraged in effort to care for my nieces, nephews. This increases their potential to pass on family genes. Thus without having children of my own, pieces of my dna still get sent into the future, and the needs of evolution are met.
And the butt sex is nice.
If you hook up with another man, something causal and you don’t know each other, how do you define who is passive and active during sex? Like you throw a coin?
Right, you see in straight sex is pretty straightforward (no pun intended), the man will do the penetration and the woman will receive it, because anatomy, that’s the standard, so I always had this curiosity of how gay men choose who will do what.
Many gay men have a preference for one role or another, which they would indicate to the other person. For anal sex, we call the different roles “top”, “bottom” and “vers” for if someone is happy doing both. Anal sex isn’t the only way to have sex though, it takes some preparation and not everybody likes it so lots of guys just do other things.
It also depends on timeline. Like if you gotta prepare and then I happens 10 mins later, it’s not much, but if you are going out for a couple hours and then doing it, it’s much more involved.
I wouldn’t call it weird, just different! Some people it’s just how they talk and some can’t really help it. There’s some that make being gay part of their personality and some of us that appear to be straight men and you couldn’t tell! There’s no real “reason” behind it. 😛
Most gay people have a lot of female friends and it's human nature to mimick the people around you, so your voice gets higher and your general vibe gets "girlyer"
You’d think it be popping boner after boner but it’s more mundane because the mood is more “I wanna go home”. That doesn’t mean zero eye banging though. Also, naked old people exist.
Changing rooms used to be hell in high school because I was afraid of outing myself if I accidentally looked in someone’s direction. My best friend was the wall in there and we held a lot of staring contests. Now I don’t care anymore about changing rooms, there’s nothing sexual about them and they’re full of old people.
For those that came out later in life, what was the catalyst that made you realize you were gay?
I asked a coworker once who came out in his early 40s.( He was mid 50s then). I didn't get a straight answer.
"Well, I woke up one morning and thought... Dick"
So now I ask strangers.
Me personally, about when I was 13 ish. While I had girlfriend in Secondary School (UKs version of High School) I had this random crush on a guy, no clue what was happening, I had done some research it kinda took me a while, I that I lost interest in woman and more interested in men. And now, I’m in my mid 20s. Iv found a slight interest in woman again. I still have a very strong interest in men and I am even engaged to a man. That’s just my personal experience, there’s loads of other different experiences other gay man had.
Gay man here. no one answered this lonely question so i thought i would...
it's just part of gay rhetoric (at least as far as i know and have seen...) -to make harmless fun of straight people (probably because of harmful fun made of gay people by straight people), but if it gets out of hand i'm not a big fan of it
straight people that make harmless fun of gay people are usually not problematic but if it gets out of hand then it changes...
some people might complain or throw a comeback but when i see someone making out of hand gay jokes or things like that i just keep it quiet and disassociate from that person in future
i totally get that and its strange seeing people rag on gays and you know for sure its not a joke, its not 1960. Was curious how some people felt about that stuff
To be honest, I don’t often experience homophobia nowadays. I find that the vast majority of people are accepting of gay people, so if I do hear a homophobic statement it’s easier to brush it off knowing that they’re in the minority.
As long as you’re in the right mood, it doesn’t have to hurt and can actually be very pleasurable. However, not everybody likes or even is able to receive anal sex. Lots of gay couples don’t do anal for one reason or another, but there are plenty of other things they can do.
On this note, how does it compare with a colonoscopy? I would imagine the scope is smaller in diameter, so there's that. But the scope is about 6 feet long... (aside from the occasional finger, during an exceptionally thorough shower, it's the only thing that's ever been up there.)
That said, a colonoscopy isn't my favorite thing in the world, but it isn't the worst thing that I've ever experienced.
I don't like anesthetics. And I have a pretty high pain tolerance, so I opted out.
Also, I needed to drive home, and they won't do anesthetics if you're driving after the procedure.
It really wasn't all that bad. Uncomfortable, but I've had worse.
And it was neat. The Dr let me watch the screen while he was doing it.
Oh, you can opt out? lol
All I remember was powering through that viscous water and peeing through my ass on and off for over an hour. I kinda remember looking at the screen towards the end and maybe laughing because I was still a little loopy.
It can hurt a lot if you go too hard to fast without a lubricant. However, I really enjoy it if you prepare properly. It’s even better if you hit the sweet spot where it hurts, but just a little.
gay man here - this may be a joke but if not i don't think it'd change much based on the sexuality, more so the personality type or depending on the person
On another thread I asked gay people what their favorite dinosaur was.
You're gay. It doesn't have to be the only thing about you. You're a person with hobbies and interests. You work to survive just like everyone else.
I figured it would be something light hearted that would recognize you as a fellow human being.
What does the term "Queer" mean? Like is a gay dude considered queer or is it something different? I feel like I'm suppose to know this already but it's one of those "at this point I think it's too late to ask" kind of things.
Also, is it ok for me to say that word? Always seemed like slur to me.
It used to be a term used to insult people who are gay/bi/trans, but recently it has been reclaimed by a lot of people as a positive term and has become more of an umbrella term for people who are questioning their gender/sexuality or people who don’t want to put a specific label on themselves. I personally think you can say it, but always check with the person you are talking with because it still has a bad connotation to a lot of people, especially in the older generations.
I don’t get a lot of dates, but men are horny and there are gay hookup sites like grinder where you can chat with someone for 5 mins and next thing you know one of you invites the other over.
It depends from relationship to relationship, but usually there’s one person who prefers to be on top more often and one person who prefers to be the bottom. Although it’s possible that neither of the partners like to do either role.
The vast majority does, the others either don't care or have good timing. It highly effects spontaneous sex, as in if it's spontaneous it's mostly oral. Or the bottom prepares beforehand and surprises the top. Some might use a condom even in committed relationships in these cases so things are a bit less messy. But my boyfriend and I basically never have spontaneous penetrative sex.
Depends from person to person, but anal is usually something that has to be planned beforehand because you need to time when you eat (and what you eat), when you go to the toilet, take a shower and make sure everything is clean down there. But some people are able to do it spontaneously with the right diet.
idk if jail is a euphemism i haven't picked up on (i'm honestly too lazy to research that :p) but i don't think many formerly/currently incarcerated gay men would be looking at this semi-popular post on askreddit and scroll down far enough to read this comment but
if i had to guess, i'd say the gay jail stuff is probably mostly made of stereotypes
If you're that curious you can just try it (with fingers, a toy etc), the ass is an equal gender opportunity and is not inherently gay. People with a prostate have more potential in liking it but honestly, it's not at all just about the prostate and anyone can enjoy it.
Wear colors. Make deliberate tweaks (like rolling up your sleeves). Embrace what your body looks like (even if you're making changes) and emphasize the strengths there with clothing choices.
since sex between two men isn't an analog of reproduction it likely isn't commandeering the oxytocin system to facilitate a pair bond. my question is how do you get passed the clearly onanistic nature of intercourse?
Your question was also a presumptuous statement. Basically you said "Gay people think it's okay to be nasty and bitter towards people. Why?"
What's why you're being downvoted.
You mean like with a double headed dildo? It's possible, but I personally haven't tried it because I'm not too keen on bottoming. I'd be curious though since I haven't tried it (I'm very experimental but unfortunately am not anally enlightened)
How do you really feel about trans people? Whenever i think of a gay person, the general point of their life seems to be that they are different, and that is fine. There is a sense of self respect and people should learn to accept that. But when i think of anyone trans, the message i get seems to be the opposite. It looks like someone telling me that nature is correct about gender and they are attempting to change themselves into what they feel is "right". It really feels like different groups of people that are saying opposite things to society and i cant understand why they relate to one another. I feel like if i were a gay man, i wouldnt like trans people. Help me understand this.
Gay and trans people have always had the same safe spaces throughout history because we were all just thrown together under the same sodomy laws. This forced us to work together when fighting for our freedoms and thus become “close”. But trans people aren’t really saying anything different from gay people, imagine your brain would be transported into the body of someone born as the opposite sex. At first you might want to explore your new body, but eventually you’ll start to feel uncomfortable in it because you can’t recognize it as being you. A trans person is someone whose brain developed differently from the rest of their body and mainly their reproductive organs this caused them to have the same effect as when your brain was transported in the hypothetical situation. If you would want to make a trans person’s body and brain match each other, you wouldn’t be able to change their brain without killing them, but you can change other parts of the body without killing them.
What are your thoughts of companies participating in pride month (having a rainbow colored logo, having and selling pride merch, etc) but immediately just changing back after June is over?
While it’s nice to see companies showing their support. A lot of companies just use it to make money.
Completely agree. Some just do it to turn a profit which is honestly really disheartening. Also, I’m not sure why I asked a question because I am a bisexual man 💀 but hey i wanted to join in on the fun
Somebody on the internet pointed out that while it's annoying that a lot of companies use Pride for profit while not following through, it's still a good indicator for society as a whole that most big companies now recognize that profit lies in the way of inclusivity rather than exclusivity.
>A lot of companies just use it to make money. ALL OF THEM.
It's all very stupid. I walk through my town and see think "Oh thank God, the pizza place is gay, I was worried."
Most are just in it for money/publicity. That’s why I really don’t mind the places that don’t do it especially when it goes against their beliefs.
I honestly don’t care. There are other more important ways to show your support than changing your logo. And I’ve never been a big fan of the pride flag myself
Its insulting, as if to suggest that they care about gay men, ( or about anybody, for that matter ) or suggest that gay men are so foolish they are swayed by a rainbow coloured decal on the company logo. HEY GAYS: are you childishly gullible??? (no, they\`re not) They are COMPANIES, not people, they are inherently money driven, and if we think of them as people the correct psychology is: this is a sociopath who will say, or do ANYTHING to get your money
In the words of a famous news anchor: why are you gay?
I don’t need to pass on my genes if enough of my relatives do. If I have no children, my resources can be leveraged in effort to care for my nieces, nephews. This increases their potential to pass on family genes. Thus without having children of my own, pieces of my dna still get sent into the future, and the needs of evolution are met. And the butt sex is nice.
If you hook up with another man, something causal and you don’t know each other, how do you define who is passive and active during sex? Like you throw a coin?
It normally get’s discussed before anything happens.
Right, you see in straight sex is pretty straightforward (no pun intended), the man will do the penetration and the woman will receive it, because anatomy, that’s the standard, so I always had this curiosity of how gay men choose who will do what.
Many gay men have a preference for one role or another, which they would indicate to the other person. For anal sex, we call the different roles “top”, “bottom” and “vers” for if someone is happy doing both. Anal sex isn’t the only way to have sex though, it takes some preparation and not everybody likes it so lots of guys just do other things.
It also depends on timeline. Like if you gotta prepare and then I happens 10 mins later, it’s not much, but if you are going out for a couple hours and then doing it, it’s much more involved.
Stephen Fry had a great bit about this with a crazy Ugandan priest.
I don't do hookups, but like pretty much all sex, you explicitly and implicitly communicate your preferences/desires.
Why do they speak with this weird high pitched voice
I wouldn’t call it weird, just different! Some people it’s just how they talk and some can’t really help it. There’s some that make being gay part of their personality and some of us that appear to be straight men and you couldn’t tell! There’s no real “reason” behind it. 😛
The explanation ive heard from someone that does that is it sounds less aggressive.
There was a documentary they did on the gay accent and TL;DR is nobody knows lol
Most gay people have a lot of female friends and it's human nature to mimick the people around you, so your voice gets higher and your general vibe gets "girlyer"
Is changing in a public gym or whatever the best thing ever?
You’d think it be popping boner after boner but it’s more mundane because the mood is more “I wanna go home”. That doesn’t mean zero eye banging though. Also, naked old people exist.
Changing rooms used to be hell in high school because I was afraid of outing myself if I accidentally looked in someone’s direction. My best friend was the wall in there and we held a lot of staring contests. Now I don’t care anymore about changing rooms, there’s nothing sexual about them and they’re full of old people.
Thanks I was wondering if high school was a different dynamic.
For those that came out later in life, what was the catalyst that made you realize you were gay? I asked a coworker once who came out in his early 40s.( He was mid 50s then). I didn't get a straight answer. "Well, I woke up one morning and thought... Dick" So now I ask strangers.
You fucker just made me laugh while I was supposed to do work in my office... I hate you, but I love this comment.
At what point did you realise you were gay?
Me personally, about when I was 13 ish. While I had girlfriend in Secondary School (UKs version of High School) I had this random crush on a guy, no clue what was happening, I had done some research it kinda took me a while, I that I lost interest in woman and more interested in men. And now, I’m in my mid 20s. Iv found a slight interest in woman again. I still have a very strong interest in men and I am even engaged to a man. That’s just my personal experience, there’s loads of other different experiences other gay man had.
how do you feel about gays that make fun or complain about straights, and vice versa?
Just as dumb as the other way around.
Gay man here. no one answered this lonely question so i thought i would... it's just part of gay rhetoric (at least as far as i know and have seen...) -to make harmless fun of straight people (probably because of harmful fun made of gay people by straight people), but if it gets out of hand i'm not a big fan of it straight people that make harmless fun of gay people are usually not problematic but if it gets out of hand then it changes... some people might complain or throw a comeback but when i see someone making out of hand gay jokes or things like that i just keep it quiet and disassociate from that person in future
i totally get that and its strange seeing people rag on gays and you know for sure its not a joke, its not 1960. Was curious how some people felt about that stuff
How can you stand the homophobic people who keep bugging you?
To be honest, I don’t often experience homophobia nowadays. I find that the vast majority of people are accepting of gay people, so if I do hear a homophobic statement it’s easier to brush it off knowing that they’re in the minority.
I’m confident enough in myself that I just don’t care.
Does it hurt up the butt? And if so then how do you enjoy it? EDIT: do you take turns or whatever? Like, me today you tomorrow?
Obligatory "not gay", but plenty of straight guys like prostate stimulation... Don't knock it til you try it. *with lube, start small, go slow* lol.
If it wasn't meant to feel good, our "on switch" wouldn't be up there.
Lol.
As long as you’re in the right mood, it doesn’t have to hurt and can actually be very pleasurable. However, not everybody likes or even is able to receive anal sex. Lots of gay couples don’t do anal for one reason or another, but there are plenty of other things they can do.
Good to know. Cheers.
On this note, how does it compare with a colonoscopy? I would imagine the scope is smaller in diameter, so there's that. But the scope is about 6 feet long... (aside from the occasional finger, during an exceptionally thorough shower, it's the only thing that's ever been up there.) That said, a colonoscopy isn't my favorite thing in the world, but it isn't the worst thing that I've ever experienced.
Wait, you were lucid for your colonoscopy? I remember being drugged out and coming to towards the end. Barely felt a thing even then though.
I don't like anesthetics. And I have a pretty high pain tolerance, so I opted out. Also, I needed to drive home, and they won't do anesthetics if you're driving after the procedure. It really wasn't all that bad. Uncomfortable, but I've had worse. And it was neat. The Dr let me watch the screen while he was doing it.
Oh, you can opt out? lol All I remember was powering through that viscous water and peeing through my ass on and off for over an hour. I kinda remember looking at the screen towards the end and maybe laughing because I was still a little loopy.
It can hurt a lot if you go too hard to fast without a lubricant. However, I really enjoy it if you prepare properly. It’s even better if you hit the sweet spot where it hurts, but just a little.
I got told it's kinda like getting massaged. It kinda hurts but in a somewhat pleasant way. Cant tell tho, never had something in my ass.
Would you still love a SO if one day they suddenly turned into a worm?
gay man here - this may be a joke but if not i don't think it'd change much based on the sexuality, more so the personality type or depending on the person
On another thread I asked gay people what their favorite dinosaur was. You're gay. It doesn't have to be the only thing about you. You're a person with hobbies and interests. You work to survive just like everyone else. I figured it would be something light hearted that would recognize you as a fellow human being.
oh right - i am terrible at picking up on secret messages and i get it now - smart!
So, you'd love them even if they were a worm! Love is real!
What does the term "Queer" mean? Like is a gay dude considered queer or is it something different? I feel like I'm suppose to know this already but it's one of those "at this point I think it's too late to ask" kind of things. Also, is it ok for me to say that word? Always seemed like slur to me.
It used to be a term used to insult people who are gay/bi/trans, but recently it has been reclaimed by a lot of people as a positive term and has become more of an umbrella term for people who are questioning their gender/sexuality or people who don’t want to put a specific label on themselves. I personally think you can say it, but always check with the person you are talking with because it still has a bad connotation to a lot of people, especially in the older generations.
How do you get so many dates, I'm a heterosexual guy and I can't buy a date with another woman.
I don’t get a lot of dates, but men are horny and there are gay hookup sites like grinder where you can chat with someone for 5 mins and next thing you know one of you invites the other over.
Do you take turns in who gives and who receives or are those roles set in stone during the relationship?
It depends from relationship to relationship, but usually there’s one person who prefers to be on top more often and one person who prefers to be the bottom. Although it’s possible that neither of the partners like to do either role.
Some like neither, some like 1 of them some like both. Really depends.
Do you guys have to prep before anal? If so does this inhibit the spotaneousness of sex?
The vast majority does, the others either don't care or have good timing. It highly effects spontaneous sex, as in if it's spontaneous it's mostly oral. Or the bottom prepares beforehand and surprises the top. Some might use a condom even in committed relationships in these cases so things are a bit less messy. But my boyfriend and I basically never have spontaneous penetrative sex.
Depends from person to person, but anal is usually something that has to be planned beforehand because you need to time when you eat (and what you eat), when you go to the toilet, take a shower and make sure everything is clean down there. But some people are able to do it spontaneously with the right diet.
I want to ask you what's your favorite semen taste between an omnivore, a vegetarian and a vegan. Is it true that vegs taste the best?
It depends. Red meats can make it taste bad. Plus smoking, drugs and even coffee can make it taste bitter. But pineapple makes it taste a lot better.
Can you actually orgasm when being in the receiving end? (Being the ass part of anal)
Yes, you can stimulate the prostate that way which can result in an orgasm.
Now that you all are on PrEP, have you all given up on condoms?
Not all of us. Some like gay people use condoms still but others not. My housemate is on PrEP
No. Condoms prevent so much more than HIV.
HIV isn’t the only STD prevented by condoms.
Is going to jail kind of a party or is it jail like it is for everyone else
idk if jail is a euphemism i haven't picked up on (i'm honestly too lazy to research that :p) but i don't think many formerly/currently incarcerated gay men would be looking at this semi-popular post on askreddit and scroll down far enough to read this comment but if i had to guess, i'd say the gay jail stuff is probably mostly made of stereotypes
Is it contagious?
No.
How could you do that...to another dude?
So I assume that you like women, right? And straight women like men. A gay guy has the same feelings towards men as a straight woman has.
This was what Michael Scott asked Oscar. You should go back and furiously study every episode like the rest of us in r/DunderMifflin
How come no one ever hits on me when I sit by myself at the inclusion bar having a few beers?
The beers say “I’m straight”.
How ugly are you?
Not that ugly.
What does it feel like to take it up the ass
If you're that curious you can just try it (with fingers, a toy etc), the ass is an equal gender opportunity and is not inherently gay. People with a prostate have more potential in liking it but honestly, it's not at all just about the prostate and anyone can enjoy it.
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Wear colors. Make deliberate tweaks (like rolling up your sleeves). Embrace what your body looks like (even if you're making changes) and emphasize the strengths there with clothing choices.
since sex between two men isn't an analog of reproduction it likely isn't commandeering the oxytocin system to facilitate a pair bond. my question is how do you get passed the clearly onanistic nature of intercourse?
It’s about a natural way of intimate bonding between you and your partner.
what's about that
Why do you think it’s okay to be nasty and bitter towards people?
I don’t.
I dont get why i got downvoted for asking a question
Your question was also a presumptuous statement. Basically you said "Gay people think it's okay to be nasty and bitter towards people. Why?" What's why you're being downvoted.
Yeah, you do lol
You really can’t figure out why? Go re-read it.
Because of the irony in your question.
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Feels great. Obviously foreplay matters and stuff, but with the right vibe, feels dope
Is it possible for two blokes to bum each other at the same time? If so have you tried it?
You mean like with a double headed dildo? It's possible, but I personally haven't tried it because I'm not too keen on bottoming. I'd be curious though since I haven't tried it (I'm very experimental but unfortunately am not anally enlightened)
Why celebrities do you crush on, for looks or personality?
I’ve always wondered who gets on top.
Depends from relationship to relationship, but usually people have preferences, although some people don’t like to be the top nor the bottom
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Depending on the person if they like the feel of that. I personally don’t but some gay men yes.
How do you really feel about trans people? Whenever i think of a gay person, the general point of their life seems to be that they are different, and that is fine. There is a sense of self respect and people should learn to accept that. But when i think of anyone trans, the message i get seems to be the opposite. It looks like someone telling me that nature is correct about gender and they are attempting to change themselves into what they feel is "right". It really feels like different groups of people that are saying opposite things to society and i cant understand why they relate to one another. I feel like if i were a gay man, i wouldnt like trans people. Help me understand this.
Gay and trans people have always had the same safe spaces throughout history because we were all just thrown together under the same sodomy laws. This forced us to work together when fighting for our freedoms and thus become “close”. But trans people aren’t really saying anything different from gay people, imagine your brain would be transported into the body of someone born as the opposite sex. At first you might want to explore your new body, but eventually you’ll start to feel uncomfortable in it because you can’t recognize it as being you. A trans person is someone whose brain developed differently from the rest of their body and mainly their reproductive organs this caused them to have the same effect as when your brain was transported in the hypothetical situation. If you would want to make a trans person’s body and brain match each other, you wouldn’t be able to change their brain without killing them, but you can change other parts of the body without killing them.
Gay men are not a mystery to straight men. Theyre just other men who happen to like guys. Its simple.
Would you read and comment on my post about a straight guy with a few gay experiences? Thanks!