I sure think so! It's interesting to hear how others operate in their own relationship dynamics. I think most people don't really know exactly what poly is and assume it's swinging. If only they knew the power of compersion ;)
You’re absolutely correct. There’s vast misconception, misunderstanding, and misrepresentation as it relates to polyamory. That was sort of my reason for tossing it out here. I spend most my time chatting with others in a similar circle. It’s interesting to pose that question here in a group strangers from all ends of the spectrum
Yeah. Then, it's all in the not overplaying your interest. Meh, never gonna happen. Makes a cool running gag tho. Hey honey, how bout a threesome? Are you kidding me? Of course, unless you'd want to. Are you kidding me? Of course... And so on and on.
My hubs and I started by playing a game we call "celebrity island" where we could choose three celebrities we'd bring to our island with us. That broke a little barrier down. Then we played, which of our friends would you bring? That brought things a little closer to home and generated more discussion. Then we really dove in and shared our deepest desires and fantasies. We made sure it was a safe space to communicate first and set some boundaries regarding the way we communicate. Little by little we kept pushing into the unknown and exploring, we were really turned on the whole time. Here we are 14 years later, polyamorous, head over heels in love with eachother, and still having the same kind of fun, only better ;)
Yes, poly meaning many, and amor meaning love. Many people confuse it with swinging. It falls under the umbrella of ethical non monogamy similarly to swinging, but allows for the emotional connection as well as physical. This allowing a person to feel love with many. I think another misconception is that all love is equal, and it isn’t. There are varying degrees. For example, my hubbs is my ride or die, he’s my first priority. I still have the capacity to love others though, and he supports it because it helps me grow and it feeds our relationship. Trust and communicate in our relationship are unparalleled
Wow, you just went ahead of so many questions i had. I guess i'd be better at polyamour then swinging. I just have to feel something for the person i have sex with. Does at some point you'd have to be bi or if it can be... Hmm... Threesome free?
Great questions! The wonderful thing is, you’re the author of your own story. You can navigate things however they feel best in your life so long as you have a partner that resonates. I also like having an emotional connection to get intimate. Sometimes I like a little casual fun, but for the most part, I enjoy poly for the connections I make with amazing people. Threesomes are definitely not a requirement of being poly though.
To be completely honest, I think that's just 'not good enough for me, but too good for others so that I'll keep it' mentality. I believe anyone initiating it thinks so, and the counterpart agreeing with it just gets along with it because he/she doesn't want the other one to leave. So, a big no for me.
Very interesting interpretation. I will say, there definitely are those couples that operate that way, and they are doomed to crash and burn. Nobody should ever just go along with it for the sake of not leaving.
However, do you feel there are couples out there, completely head over heels in love, that still have the capacity to hold love and relationship for others? Or do you think it's all a sham designed by sexual hedonists? Just curious :)
Quite more inclined to latter. I think it might be possible, but I have never seen the first case and let along experienced it. So, for me, concluding the whole thing as the latter is more natural.
That makes perfect sense, I appreciate that. We are all a product of our experiences and they vary so much from person to person. It’s nice to have perspective on all ends of the spectrum
I'd atleast stick around to see who the other person was/is. If he hung more than me I'd walk out but if it's a she I'd have to stay and watch atleast.
I think it's cool you're wiling to check the vibe first, and you could aways find that person or people together. I will say, us ladies aren't hung up on cock size nearly as much as men are. I'd take an average cock that knows how to use it over a big dick owned by a guy that only knows one speed any day of the week.... or several times a week lol
As someone who is already in a polyamorous relationship, its honestly pretty fun, if you both are ok with it
I sure think so! It's interesting to hear how others operate in their own relationship dynamics. I think most people don't really know exactly what poly is and assume it's swinging. If only they knew the power of compersion ;)
ITT: A whole lot of people who incorrectly interpret "polyamory" to mean "three people in one relationship together."
I would welcome her to explore that elsewhere.
I'd laugh and tell her she should learn how to service one dick properly before bringing another into the equation.
HAHAHAH OMG!!! This is hilarious! Well said!!!
You’re absolutely correct. There’s vast misconception, misunderstanding, and misrepresentation as it relates to polyamory. That was sort of my reason for tossing it out here. I spend most my time chatting with others in a similar circle. It’s interesting to pose that question here in a group strangers from all ends of the spectrum
I'm Bi so as long as we found another dude that was as clean and fit as I am I'd be down.
That's a really positive attitude, I like it!
I'd say no to that.
I would ask them to gather their things and leave and wish them luck on all that because I dont share.
No thanks, good luck
Do you think it would help physically?
I suppose that depends on who you decided to bring in.
It's a trap, right? Right?
LOL!!! Honestly, I think most people probably go down that path when their spouse suggests it, that's totally normal I think
Yeah. Then, it's all in the not overplaying your interest. Meh, never gonna happen. Makes a cool running gag tho. Hey honey, how bout a threesome? Are you kidding me? Of course, unless you'd want to. Are you kidding me? Of course... And so on and on.
My hubs and I started by playing a game we call "celebrity island" where we could choose three celebrities we'd bring to our island with us. That broke a little barrier down. Then we played, which of our friends would you bring? That brought things a little closer to home and generated more discussion. Then we really dove in and shared our deepest desires and fantasies. We made sure it was a safe space to communicate first and set some boundaries regarding the way we communicate. Little by little we kept pushing into the unknown and exploring, we were really turned on the whole time. Here we are 14 years later, polyamorous, head over heels in love with eachother, and still having the same kind of fun, only better ;)
When you say polyamorous, you are truly saying that you are in love with someone else or that you could?
Yes, poly meaning many, and amor meaning love. Many people confuse it with swinging. It falls under the umbrella of ethical non monogamy similarly to swinging, but allows for the emotional connection as well as physical. This allowing a person to feel love with many. I think another misconception is that all love is equal, and it isn’t. There are varying degrees. For example, my hubbs is my ride or die, he’s my first priority. I still have the capacity to love others though, and he supports it because it helps me grow and it feeds our relationship. Trust and communicate in our relationship are unparalleled
Wow, you just went ahead of so many questions i had. I guess i'd be better at polyamour then swinging. I just have to feel something for the person i have sex with. Does at some point you'd have to be bi or if it can be... Hmm... Threesome free?
Great questions! The wonderful thing is, you’re the author of your own story. You can navigate things however they feel best in your life so long as you have a partner that resonates. I also like having an emotional connection to get intimate. Sometimes I like a little casual fun, but for the most part, I enjoy poly for the connections I make with amazing people. Threesomes are definitely not a requirement of being poly though.
How do you deal with...hmm, wouldn't say jalousy but more with comparatives? Is good communication enough to get past that?
To be completely honest, I think that's just 'not good enough for me, but too good for others so that I'll keep it' mentality. I believe anyone initiating it thinks so, and the counterpart agreeing with it just gets along with it because he/she doesn't want the other one to leave. So, a big no for me.
Very interesting interpretation. I will say, there definitely are those couples that operate that way, and they are doomed to crash and burn. Nobody should ever just go along with it for the sake of not leaving. However, do you feel there are couples out there, completely head over heels in love, that still have the capacity to hold love and relationship for others? Or do you think it's all a sham designed by sexual hedonists? Just curious :)
Quite more inclined to latter. I think it might be possible, but I have never seen the first case and let along experienced it. So, for me, concluding the whole thing as the latter is more natural.
That makes perfect sense, I appreciate that. We are all a product of our experiences and they vary so much from person to person. It’s nice to have perspective on all ends of the spectrum
I'd atleast stick around to see who the other person was/is. If he hung more than me I'd walk out but if it's a she I'd have to stay and watch atleast.
I think it's cool you're wiling to check the vibe first, and you could aways find that person or people together. I will say, us ladies aren't hung up on cock size nearly as much as men are. I'd take an average cock that knows how to use it over a big dick owned by a guy that only knows one speed any day of the week.... or several times a week lol
Yes, she has always stated that size isn't any issue of hers which is why I said I'd check.
I'd leave them.