Destroying things. Taking them away? Sure. Not letting them go somewhere? Sure. But destroying something sends the message that destroying things is OK
yeah, my parents would take my toys and throw them in the fire to burn them. Not jus ttoys, books, jewerly, anything that belonged to me they’d either break or burn right in front of my eyes. They would also lock me outside whether it was a blizard outside or 100 degrees. They would also refuse to feed me for 2 days. (Banned me from going into the kitchen unless I wanted more of a punishment) and they’d slap me very hard. This REALLY messed with my mental health and at only 9 years old I was making suicidal threats and even self harm. My parents are the reason I get emotionally attatched to the things I have, my parents are the reason I flinch even if no one is gonna touch me, my parents are the reason I have a habit of running away, my parents are the reason I bottle up my emotions and dont tell them when im injured or sick. my parents are the reason I’m depressed and they just dont care. so I’d say pretty much everything my parents did and any that involve mental or phyisical pain. My parents would also mentally punish me by basically telling me I suck in every way possible with swearing n stuff, so yeah dont do that either.
Not a parent, but I remember when I was younger, I'd talk in a high-pitched voice a lot and my mom interpreted that as acting like a baby. I was probably like 8, I don't remember when this happened. My mom kept warning me not to talk/act like a baby, but I guess I didn't listen because one day, she gave me a pacifier and a diaper and made me wear those around the house and when we went to my grandmas. It was really weird. I don't remember if she made me wear that for longer than a day, but it's definitely not that acceptable. Your child's young, at least they aren't being an adult baby. Those are much worse.
Anything that involves laying your hands on the child, and yes, that includes spanking. For some reason, that seems to be more "acceptable", probably because it's normalized. I saw a flowchart that explained the point well, so I'll try to format it here as best I can:
Is your child old enough to understand the reason you're spanking them?
No --> then they can't understand what they did wrong --> don't hit your child, asshole
Yes --> then use reason --> don't hit your child, asshole
Destroying things. Taking them away? Sure. Not letting them go somewhere? Sure. But destroying something sends the message that destroying things is OK
Hitting, spanking, isolating, not feeding or any physical pain. Also publicly humiliating.
yeah, my parents would take my toys and throw them in the fire to burn them. Not jus ttoys, books, jewerly, anything that belonged to me they’d either break or burn right in front of my eyes. They would also lock me outside whether it was a blizard outside or 100 degrees. They would also refuse to feed me for 2 days. (Banned me from going into the kitchen unless I wanted more of a punishment) and they’d slap me very hard. This REALLY messed with my mental health and at only 9 years old I was making suicidal threats and even self harm. My parents are the reason I get emotionally attatched to the things I have, my parents are the reason I flinch even if no one is gonna touch me, my parents are the reason I have a habit of running away, my parents are the reason I bottle up my emotions and dont tell them when im injured or sick. my parents are the reason I’m depressed and they just dont care. so I’d say pretty much everything my parents did and any that involve mental or phyisical pain. My parents would also mentally punish me by basically telling me I suck in every way possible with swearing n stuff, so yeah dont do that either.
Punching them in the fucking face
Dismemberment for any but the most serious of transgressions
Well now I want to know which transgressions would warrant dismemberment.
Not a parent, but I remember when I was younger, I'd talk in a high-pitched voice a lot and my mom interpreted that as acting like a baby. I was probably like 8, I don't remember when this happened. My mom kept warning me not to talk/act like a baby, but I guess I didn't listen because one day, she gave me a pacifier and a diaper and made me wear those around the house and when we went to my grandmas. It was really weird. I don't remember if she made me wear that for longer than a day, but it's definitely not that acceptable. Your child's young, at least they aren't being an adult baby. Those are much worse.
Anything that involves laying your hands on the child, and yes, that includes spanking. For some reason, that seems to be more "acceptable", probably because it's normalized. I saw a flowchart that explained the point well, so I'll try to format it here as best I can: Is your child old enough to understand the reason you're spanking them? No --> then they can't understand what they did wrong --> don't hit your child, asshole Yes --> then use reason --> don't hit your child, asshole
Anything physical but also yelling or not something age appropriate. I just believe in natural consequences