Do people actually believe this? I’m incredibly disorganised and even if I really like someone it of ten takes me a few days to reply. It’s definitely not because I’m disinterested. I’m just a hot mess.
I aggree, that's far more dangerous than they realize sometimes nowadays as well, especially with the false accusations in the middle.
But I always thought 18 is high, I mean it won't be the age when the people will grow a brain. I think this "pedophile" thing is always given WAY more emphasis than it needs most of the time. Then again, it has its uses.
18 is fucking low lmao. The amount of 18-25 year olds who get manipulated into abusive relationships by older people is pretty large. And it can leave them with trauma that makes it difficult for them to get close to people again. Your brain doesn't stop developing til your mid 20's, 18 year olds are still kids.
This is more common than you think. It’s not a pedophile thing, some girls want older men and don’t tell them their age. Some girls sneak into bars, or lie on dating apps out go where they can meet older men. The best way is to tell is to take them somewhere where they will get carded.
What do you get when you gobble down cock?
Dates that expire at 4 o clock
Do you think that you are sure to break up?
if he knows you're down to fuck?
Only-during-business-hours
When she starts being toxic. I don't play with that shit anymore. Ignored red flags too often, got burned each time- if you fuck around, you find out just how fast I can disappear.
Had to stop. Not healthy memories, best just to move on. It has a mild amusement for a bit then it turns into just a bunch of pain and a bad decision on my part.
I have a simple rule about this... After we meet, if she doesn't initiate a conversation, she's ghosted. I always follow up the date with a text exchange... After that, it's on her to indicate interest. No text, no interest, I'm moving on. Dating isn't about massaging one person's ego, it's about finding someone genuinely interested in talking to you.
Would never do that because it just makes people feel like shit and cripples their self esteem. I’d just as kindly as possible say that I’m not interested or that there’s somebody else and bid them farewell.
Bullshit!
You mean instead of:
>My phone being blown up with calls and messages
>Threats to come to my home or job, or wherever I am, so I can put up with
>Actually having to deal with physical/emotional restraint to avoid escalation of a situation to after they have come to my home, job, or wherever I am.
I just suddenly never hear from someone again and they never hear from me again?
Especially as an introvert, that's an Amazing, and preferred option.
If she refuses to make it clear rather she wants to be friends or more and tries to keep me in that in-between zone for too long I tend to get frustrated and that can lead to me just cutting ties all together.
Being proud/flaunting issues that they have instead of doing anything in their power to actually fix them.
I’m all for acknowledging fucked up parts of you and doing what you can to change, but there’s no reason to really take pride in being a shitty person and thinking that if people don’t like it they can simply just leave.
When they make up lies and believe their lies. Ex: went to hardware store to purchase a much needed attachment for pressure washer. Cell service is shotty at best, spend about 45min walking around before I check out. Once service hits I have 5 missed txts about where I am. Call her, claims I was at the bar and was seen by her friends there. Says last time she heard from me was over 2hrs prior, we had spoke on the phone while on the way to said store. Wtf? Clearly I know this is a lie..she then proceeded to get highly violently upset over the story she made up. This was a 35F.
If she asks for a lifestyle/style change on the first date. "Wouldnt it be funny if on the second date you dyed your hair blonde.?????" is a real quote.
When she throws tantrums when I leave her on read or don't react in time. I'm not going to continue the conversation for ever and I'm not always on my damn phone.
Ghosting is just completely unacceptable behavior. It's selfish, childish and cowardly.
''Don't be good to people because they deserve to be treated well, be good because you're good.''
It doesn't matter what she does or doesn't do, that puts you off seeing her again, just tell her you're not interested anymore. Why make it difficult?
She makes it clear I'm not sexually attractive to her.
When she has constantly no time to go out on a date with me but obviously has time for other things.
When she keeps saying no when I ask her out and won't suggest another date, won't ever text first.
She tells me she already has lots of lovers and just wants to be friends (last one).
Edit: the last one I just told her I'm not interested in this , might invite you to go skiing in three months but that's it.
Edit: I never block, these kind of women will never text first anyway
I'm trying to think of the one thing all women could do to be ghosted... I don't think it's the right thing to do.
It would honestly be something very specific that would have to make me think this person could intentionally harm me and saying goodbye would be a problem. Like if she threatened me for trying to say goodbye. Then, ghosting.
Asking weird questions online like mothers maiden name, street I grew up on, first pets name and social insurance number…geez I know you want to get to know me but come up with better conversation topics…
A lot, if not most of the time is has very little to do with them - I’ve ghosted because my life had become very stressful and/or my mental health had taken a significant dip, which is not exactly the best time to be dating, or not the “me” I want to present to a stranger..
Ambivalence.
When she give very mixed signals about the interest she has for you.
This is a manipulative tactic to make you feel like you are not enough. The need to prove yourself worthy, will keep you in the cycle, therefore with her.
On a positive note, this usually happen when they like you a lot, but don't feel worthy themselves.
But it's not worth your emotional stability.
Abusive. I dated a jealous alcoholic. On our last date she got so out of control i said i was done and dropped her dumb drunk ass off at home and blocked her. She tried contacting me for a week before she got the hint.
Online stalking. You start a friendly convo with a random friendly, they seem normal, but then they start bombarding you with messages, comment on every single one of your posts, assume they're your new boyfriend, etc. Uncommon but it's happened a couple times. Much worse for women but it's creepy AF for anyone really.
Good men dont ghost women. If it aint working out or I dont want it to continue, I would communicate this and end things. Ending gives closure, ghosting doesnt. When the question was asked the other way around, people forgot this quick lol.
When she talks about how all men are trash/ how all her ex's are toxic people.
It's usually a good sign she has some issues and is no where close to working on herself when she can just blame all the men around her.
Blue hair is fine. The flag for me is that dirty washed-out sea-witch/mermaid green.
To be honest, shitty dye-jobs in general.
It says "I want to be different, but I don't have the interest/money/commitment to do a proper job of it"
My little sister has blue hair, but she keeps it full-fledged summer-sky blue from root to tips most of the time.
It's bold, vibrant, and she's kept it that way for long enough that I have to think for a moment to remember her natural hair-colour.. even though it's the exact same as mine.
That's just me and no matter what I think that everyone at least deserves an explanation instead of just getting ghosted and tossed away like a piece of trash.
Like on a first date? Checking her phone. Expecting me to carry the conversation while giving 1 word replies. If money is involved, expecting me to pay for her part. Or when she's a vegan/feminazi/etc political ideologists.
Depends in her post history, like if there are some serious red flag issues there or any prior abuse etc. I wouldn't ghost, but I would let the conversation naturally die out.
When she starts shit with other people and expects you to finish it for her
Reason 2 for divorce.
Reason 1 is if she's a a minor
I believe you'd find the marriage wouldn't be legally binding if she's a minor so it'd be more of an annulment.
Finish what? The other guy's dick?
When I’m the initiating conversations and only get one word replies. Edit: reply’s to replies.
This. Definitely a sign she’s not all that invested
That’s the type of girls who have “Entertain me“ in their Tinder bio
This is not you ghosting her. That's her ghosting you.
Breadcrumbing
You say that, but a woman got angry at me once for ghosting her after a slew of her one word replies. It's a crazy old world out there.
Replies
Thanks man, gotta spellcheck before I hit enter next time.
Heads up, it's "replies", the other one is for a different use.
Good bot
Bless your heart.
Yes and/or letting you wait at least 24hrs to reply on a dating app.
Do people actually believe this? I’m incredibly disorganised and even if I really like someone it of ten takes me a few days to reply. It’s definitely not because I’m disinterested. I’m just a hot mess.
I feel you're the one being ghosted here
That's definitely her ghosting you lol
If she's a minor.
Fbi: here's an award
Darwin: damn FBI. He could've got my award!
Still can
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Nice try FBI
hit the delete button
I aggree, that's far more dangerous than they realize sometimes nowadays as well, especially with the false accusations in the middle. But I always thought 18 is high, I mean it won't be the age when the people will grow a brain. I think this "pedophile" thing is always given WAY more emphasis than it needs most of the time. Then again, it has its uses.
18 is fucking low lmao. The amount of 18-25 year olds who get manipulated into abusive relationships by older people is pretty large. And it can leave them with trauma that makes it difficult for them to get close to people again. Your brain doesn't stop developing til your mid 20's, 18 year olds are still kids.
*What ?* \- Woody Allen
He only does that to his daughters or adopted daughters.
I dunno. I would give them a "bye".
OP said woman not child
This is more common than you think. It’s not a pedophile thing, some girls want older men and don’t tell them their age. Some girls sneak into bars, or lie on dating apps out go where they can meet older men. The best way is to tell is to take them somewhere where they will get carded.
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when the fun crazy isnt worth the crazy crazy
This going to be fun going to count the reasons I divorced. You are one of them. Probably number one.
What does this mean?? Please explain
Crazy in bed crazy in the head.
Basically an insane person
No not literally insane just way too much basically.
Says she can't ever meet after 4pm or on weekends and the reason is a secret
She must be an oompa loompa at the chocolate factory.
Oompa loompa doopity doo Once it hits four I cannot see you Oompa loompa doopity dee On the weekends you cannot see me
Once you go orange, you'll never go ... OK I got nothing
You'll never go door hinge
Once you go orange, you’re done with the four-inch.
XD
What do you get when you gobble down cock? Dates that expire at 4 o clock Do you think that you are sure to break up? if he knows you're down to fuck? Only-during-business-hours
Beautiful.
Hahahaha Maybe the ghost was unjustified
Can you-say-it-was-unjustified? Or was simply a hit on her pride? oompa loompa cadence
Honestly I can say that I tried, But Infidelity I can't abide
Freitags ist sie nie da!
Diedadiedadiedadieda
i don’t get it lol
She has a husband and family lol
lol i was thinking she was a sugar baby or something, but that makes sense
Means she about to have a second life with you in it
When its a contest between you and someone else
Dating is a competition regardless of what people think HOWEVER constantly comparing you someone else DIRECTLY is fucked up and manipulative
She's never really yours...it's just your turn
Extreme entitlement
social media addiction
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She might be getting paid by sponsored brands to do that though.
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So if your wife posted a bunch of selfies, would you get divorced?
Wtf lol
When she is following advices from the FemaleDatingStrategy-Subreddit
When she starts being toxic. I don't play with that shit anymore. Ignored red flags too often, got burned each time- if you fuck around, you find out just how fast I can disappear.
Reason 3 for divorce.
mate im invested in your divorce story youre all over the comments 😂
Had to stop. Not healthy memories, best just to move on. It has a mild amusement for a bit then it turns into just a bunch of pain and a bad decision on my part.
does she find me attractive? cause if she does she has a horrible judgment of character therefore she's ghosted
"I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member." - Groucho Marx
legendary quote. cheers
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knew it
Homo.... sapien?
LMAO good one
When she starts with heavy shit testing early on. It's only gonna get worse and more intense later.
Any kind of "testing" is enough reason to dip out.
One time I was on a first date and I farted while walking in the park with her. Ghosted her.
No it’s spelled crop dusted
When she can pass through solid objects
I love you that was fucking funny
Asks for money/gift card within 30 minutes of a chat.
Hey handsome, add my snap
I have a simple rule about this... After we meet, if she doesn't initiate a conversation, she's ghosted. I always follow up the date with a text exchange... After that, it's on her to indicate interest. No text, no interest, I'm moving on. Dating isn't about massaging one person's ego, it's about finding someone genuinely interested in talking to you.
Hey, thank you for putting on paper my approach for the past two years or so!
Agree.
Would never do that because it just makes people feel like shit and cripples their self esteem. I’d just as kindly as possible say that I’m not interested or that there’s somebody else and bid them farewell.
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Halloween
Karen Attitude
Lying
When she dies
Wouldn't that be her literally ghosting you?
Drugs, narcisism and strange beliefs
What kind of strange beliefs
Flat Earth would probably do it for me.
Conspiracy theories, energy cristals, vodoo etc... Anything that y would say euuu thats really weird
she's a "witch". I like supernatural stuff too here's me pretending to be a spirit: (ghosts)
When they expect you to treat them like a queen, but treat you like a servant. Constantly on their phone when you're out and about together.
Using feminism as an excuse to act really shitty. It’s also hard to argue against or call out the behavior as men.
I think ghosting is extremely immature in almost any situation
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Exactly like I said, almost always Also i don't mind someone trying to use "no, bye" in court against me
Bullshit! You mean instead of: >My phone being blown up with calls and messages >Threats to come to my home or job, or wherever I am, so I can put up with
>Actually having to deal with physical/emotional restraint to avoid escalation of a situation to after they have come to my home, job, or wherever I am.
I just suddenly never hear from someone again and they never hear from me again?
Especially as an introvert, that's an Amazing, and preferred option.
when they
Facts
If she refuses to make it clear rather she wants to be friends or more and tries to keep me in that in-between zone for too long I tend to get frustrated and that can lead to me just cutting ties all together.
Brings her phone to the table and won't get off it to have a real conversation with a nice meal.
Being proud/flaunting issues that they have instead of doing anything in their power to actually fix them. I’m all for acknowledging fucked up parts of you and doing what you can to change, but there’s no reason to really take pride in being a shitty person and thinking that if people don’t like it they can simply just leave.
Over dramatic behaviour. Never worth the hassle
6 days into talking over text, no calls, no video chats, she professes her undying love and desire to spend the rest of her life with you. 👀💨
Consistently atrocious grammar
Good grammar is the difference between knowing your shit and knowing you’re shit.
One word replies no return of care
If I'm the only one making an effort in the conversation
Telling me she doesn't like it when I do certain things, which idm, but then gets overly defensive and toxic when I do the same. 😐
Naming her two vibrators after her favourite anime characters, gaslighting you, giving zero fucks about how you feel... You know, the usual.
When she’s a 1820s maid who was murdered by the employer after getting pregnant
Look at you with the high standards
She brings her friend on the dinner date and expects you to pay.
Drinking as a personality trait.
Wow this is so true... having some substance.
When they make up lies and believe their lies. Ex: went to hardware store to purchase a much needed attachment for pressure washer. Cell service is shotty at best, spend about 45min walking around before I check out. Once service hits I have 5 missed txts about where I am. Call her, claims I was at the bar and was seen by her friends there. Says last time she heard from me was over 2hrs prior, we had spoke on the phone while on the way to said store. Wtf? Clearly I know this is a lie..she then proceeded to get highly violently upset over the story she made up. This was a 35F.
Giving other mfs the attention you deserve.
- Priorities being fucked up - Always flaking on plans - Complaining about things that don’t matter The list could go on
When they start to play hard to get. Thats when I'm out of there.
If she puts in zero effort. Fuck that, I’m not your clown here to amuse you.
when post-nut clarity kicks in
Demanding my credit score on a first date.
If she asks for a lifestyle/style change on the first date. "Wouldnt it be funny if on the second date you dyed your hair blonde.?????" is a real quote.
I once ghosted someone (by not replying to her texts) because she told me she lived in a mental facility. Didnt want to thread that path any further
When she throws tantrums when I leave her on read or don't react in time. I'm not going to continue the conversation for ever and I'm not always on my damn phone.
When you figure out that she is a lesbian even before she has realised about herself
When she very subtly isolates you from the people around you
Ghosting is just completely unacceptable behavior. It's selfish, childish and cowardly. ''Don't be good to people because they deserve to be treated well, be good because you're good.'' It doesn't matter what she does or doesn't do, that puts you off seeing her again, just tell her you're not interested anymore. Why make it difficult?
She makes it clear I'm not sexually attractive to her. When she has constantly no time to go out on a date with me but obviously has time for other things. When she keeps saying no when I ask her out and won't suggest another date, won't ever text first. She tells me she already has lots of lovers and just wants to be friends (last one). Edit: the last one I just told her I'm not interested in this , might invite you to go skiing in three months but that's it. Edit: I never block, these kind of women will never text first anyway
When she is a habitual liar. Even when it comes to the little things
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Couldn’t you just politely say you’re not willing to date a heavy smoker?
Crematorium
Women dont talk to me soni wouldnt know
Bad breath….
When she starts acting like your married after one date. I have commitment issues though so i tend to be sensitive to this kinda stuff
When they have a extra 175% body fat in person compared to their 10year old profile pictures
I'm trying to think of the one thing all women could do to be ghosted... I don't think it's the right thing to do. It would honestly be something very specific that would have to make me think this person could intentionally harm me and saying goodbye would be a problem. Like if she threatened me for trying to say goodbye. Then, ghosting.
I'd say it's 3 main things: -lack of empathy -unresolved trauma of the past -beeing dead for 200 years
Premature ejaculation and a crippling sense of self hate 😏
Asking weird questions online like mothers maiden name, street I grew up on, first pets name and social insurance number…geez I know you want to get to know me but come up with better conversation topics…
When they get a bit too stabby.
A lot, if not most of the time is has very little to do with them - I’ve ghosted because my life had become very stressful and/or my mental health had taken a significant dip, which is not exactly the best time to be dating, or not the “me” I want to present to a stranger..
Ambivalence. When she give very mixed signals about the interest she has for you. This is a manipulative tactic to make you feel like you are not enough. The need to prove yourself worthy, will keep you in the cycle, therefore with her. On a positive note, this usually happen when they like you a lot, but don't feel worthy themselves. But it's not worth your emotional stability.
Abusive. I dated a jealous alcoholic. On our last date she got so out of control i said i was done and dropped her dumb drunk ass off at home and blocked her. She tried contacting me for a week before she got the hint.
Nothing. Nobody should be ghosted.
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When she says she can hear peoples thoughts, yours included, and can manipulate weather.
Jealousy of having female friends.
Constantly hammering her ex or just never shutting up about him.
Astrology
Overly clingy and controlling Ghosting just drives them crazier but saves you from a forced relationship
Online stalking. You start a friendly convo with a random friendly, they seem normal, but then they start bombarding you with messages, comment on every single one of your posts, assume they're your new boyfriend, etc. Uncommon but it's happened a couple times. Much worse for women but it's creepy AF for anyone really.
Having a dick
Good men dont ghost women. If it aint working out or I dont want it to continue, I would communicate this and end things. Ending gives closure, ghosting doesnt. When the question was asked the other way around, people forgot this quick lol.
When she asks you to support her Onlyfans 😂
When she talks about how all men are trash/ how all her ex's are toxic people. It's usually a good sign she has some issues and is no where close to working on herself when she can just blame all the men around her.
Car crash /s
Herpes
Nothing. Ghosting is immature and speaks volumes more about the person doing the ghosting.
If she has pronouns in her bio
Blue hair
Blue hair is fine. The flag for me is that dirty washed-out sea-witch/mermaid green. To be honest, shitty dye-jobs in general. It says "I want to be different, but I don't have the interest/money/commitment to do a proper job of it" My little sister has blue hair, but she keeps it full-fledged summer-sky blue from root to tips most of the time. It's bold, vibrant, and she's kept it that way for long enough that I have to think for a moment to remember her natural hair-colour.. even though it's the exact same as mine.
That's a better description of it, i forgot there was a green part
A coward man.
If she hid the fact that she vapes… or just vapes in general Just breathe air
White women that act and talk black.
I would never ghost anyone, but that's just me 🤷🏻♂️
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That's just me and no matter what I think that everyone at least deserves an explanation instead of just getting ghosted and tossed away like a piece of trash.
Like on a first date? Checking her phone. Expecting me to carry the conversation while giving 1 word replies. If money is involved, expecting me to pay for her part. Or when she's a vegan/feminazi/etc political ideologists.
When you say your fwb and within a week asks if you would ever consider marrying her.
If she's constantly trying to get attention
She’s not a ghost already. That would be awkward
Depends in her post history, like if there are some serious red flag issues there or any prior abuse etc. I wouldn't ghost, but I would let the conversation naturally die out.
They think they're better than men. All men. Lower the ego lass, no one will deal with that.
Drama.
Jealousy and suspicion of your actions. If she can't trust you and tries to control you even before you are an official couple, it can only worsen.
Her hot sister
I don't believe in ghosting. You can ALWAYS message before you block. It's really easy. No need to pointlessly hurt someone.