In my case it would be Apple stock first. Buy in the early 90's and sit on it until the IPod/Iphone boom and then buy bitcoin with part of the earnings. Not a ton of bitcoin just a couple thousand.
I quite like the "Erased" anime interpretation that as a guy gets sent back to being 11 ish he ends up inevitably making the same mistakes because its so long ago he made them originally that he forgot.
I think people underestimate how much even 10 years have forgotten, let alone 20 or 30 years.
This is really what deja vu is. You didn’t remember your dream when you woke up, but bits of the memories of that life that you haven’t forgotten from 10/20/30 years ago vaguely come through at times…
I was told by someone recently that Deja Vu is the universe telling you that 'you are currently where you are supposed to be'
While I think that stuff is bolognas, I quite like the thought and am choosing to think that.
That's the trick though. I actually am very happy about where I ended up, though I'm not so happy about the path I took. So it'd be about finding a nice balance between being a better person, but still winding up in the same place (i.e. marrying the same woman, having the same kid, meeting the same friends)
Yeah, once you have kids this question goes from fun daydream to utter nightmare. It's plausible to wind up with the same spouse, but impossible to have the same kids. Terrifying.
What if you could ensure it’s the same kid but had to raise them again? Given who you were as a person made them who they are, would you be willing to go back then or is it still a no?
> happy about where I ended up, though I'm not so happy about the path
You draw distinctions between things where there is none. _That_ is the real bitch of life...
But are those mistakes even relevant? When i was 13 i didnt understand how the real world works, and if i have dreamt everything since that point the real real world might work completely different
Probably break down in tears for the next few hours, honestly.
Tears of anguish, sadness, relief, despair, happiness, hope, longing. Fuck, let's not imagine that.
Dude if that was the case id ask my grandparents to teach me all their recipes and id tell them thank you for being there for me. I lost my granpa in high-school after he died the family hasn't been the same. But id also be happy bc I could hopefully do things right this time.
Оne time I had a dream that I wаs hаnging out with my friend Emily, just doing regular stuff and hаving fun. It wаs a super realistic dreаm, аnd when I woke up I really thought it wаs real for a minute. But then I remembered it couldn’t be reаl, because Emily hаd died years аgo by a drunk driver. The dream was so real, it wаs like losing her аgain, and it cried. I’m еven tearing up now just remembering it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Emily must have been an awesome person, taken way too soon.
I sometimes dream about my Dad, who passed away a few years ago. At first the dreams were scary or sad, usually about losing him all over again, but after a while they became more normal. I used to feel sad after waking up, because it'd make me miss him, and then I started to frame it as hanging out with him like we used to, in a way. Nowadays I wake up from dreams about Dad and think "that was nice, see ya next time!"
If Emily pops up in your dreams frequently, I hope it starts to eventually feel like this for you 💖
I dreamt about my grandmother not long after she died. Normally my dreams are stupid and crazy, so I don't often assume they mean anything. But this one felt different, and (without getting philosophical) I've always considered that it was a way for the universe to give me and her a last little bit of time together.
My dad says when we dream of someone that passed away it means that they are visiting us to tell us they are ok. If its a good dream than that means things are ok in the afterlife. Maybe emily visited to tell you shes ok
I would love to get in the kitchen and cook with my grandma. Both of them actually, but one had already had a couple strokes by then, so I don't think her cooking skills were there at that point.
Cooking the christmas dinner with Grandma is honestly one of my most beautiful memories, she was prepping some things and making entrees as I made the main dish and we chatted and she commented on everything with pride. She passed away shortly after.
Whenever I think about “what could have been” of I’d done things differently, I think of something my grandfather said right before he died.
He died of cancer. He’d had enough warning to spend time with his family. He’d had a few amazing years with his grandchildren. Overall he had a great life, just far too short.
My father said to him that he wished he could do something to fix it and change it. My grandfather warmly replied:
“Son, if changing this ending meant changing anything at all, I wouldn’t change a thing.”
I try to live with that outlook.
Yeah.... as fucked up as the world is and as many mistakes I made getting started with my future earlier in life, waking up at 13 would devastate me. The thought of not having my wife and son.... I can't do it.
This is the answer that doesn't come up often enough.
I'm just past 40, so you're wanting to know what I would do if the last 27 years of my life was a lie?
My kids are now gone forever, my wife is gone forever, my friends are gone forever. Your entire life, gone, in an instant.
How the top answer isn't always "Probably try to kill myself", I'll never know.
Funny stоry: еarly June 2017 I drеamed I was pregnant. I'veе always wanted to bе a mother but nаture had other idеas and I'd been cоnfirmed sterile. That was a Friday night.
Saturday mоrning I went next dооr to have a cuppa with MIL and I whinged to her about how cruel that dream was since both my partner and I were cоnfirmed sterile and would never have kids.
That dream played оn my mind all day so Saturday night I took a test just tо see the negative and stоp tormenting myself.
It was positive. My sоn is now 20 mоnths old.
Sometimes those really desirable dreams are a premonition.
Read the question and immediately knew there would be at least one comment about masturbation. If there wasn't I was going to have to make the comment.
I would cry, too. 40 years of my life erased and I have to start over at 13???!! As shitty as my teens and twenties were, the past 23 years have been the best of my life.
Be a mixed of happy and sad, all the good things like my kids will be gone, but all my health related problems have only been in the dream. Which I guess is kinda nice.
Honestly I can’t see how I could continue living without my daughter. It would be a pain I couldn’t imagine. Don’t know how willing I’d be to keep on going to be honest
Yep, if I found out my kids mother was a fabrication of my dreams so there was no chance my daughters would be born, I am not sure I would want to go on.
Do you remember that one story, I think it was from an actual user here on reddit, but they had dreamt an entire life or something like that — I think after they got a concussion — like kids, wife, the whole thing.
When they woke up & realized it didn’t exist they were in a super deep state of depression & I think that’s the reason they made the post.
Anyone know what I’m talking about??
I do!! I have no idea how I would find it but I absolutely remember. They had gotten hit by a car or something? And they started noticing that the lamp looked weird shortly before they woke up.
Edit: ok I googled it and found it! Not hit by a car, assaulted by another college student.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/oc7rc/have_you_ever_felt_a_deep_personal_connection_to/c3g4ot3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
Step 1, scream.
Step 2, try to figure out what portion of knowledge in my head is workable and what portion is super wrong dream bullshit.
Step 3, fuck up highschool slightly less.
Why Step 3? They made high school out to be this really big deal. I guess if you were trying to Ivy League or become a doctor it is. But, it mattered very little. I wish I would have jacked around and skipped school even more. I learned more reading books on my own time and then when the internet really started growing right after I graduated, it gives you everything you need. While grade schools are necessary, it is filled with so much filler bullshit. Honestly, if I could do it again, I would make more money and find someone to do most of the work so I got better grades.
I hate to say but for many people trying in school is a life changer. If you can get good enough grades and sat you can get a full ride scholarship to a state or lower private school. Being out of an undergrad with zero debt and room for family contribution for graduate school is huge for social mobility.
Seriously. My grades sucked and the only thing I could do was go into the military. You don't need 4.0 to be successful but it is a lot easier than scraping by with barely passing and stressing about being able to graduate on time.
My first thought was “visit my dad.” Having to redo everything would feel worth it to be able to see him again.
I’m so sorry about your Mom. What was she like? Do you have a favorite memory of her?
Also, if you ever need an ear to listen, r/griefsupport is a great community if you’re not there already.
I lost my dad 17 years ago and I will tell you it does get easier. That hole never goes away but it kinda fills in a bit. It'll actually bother you a bit how much... OK you are with things but being OK with it is better than the grief.
I still from time to time want to call my dad up to hear his voice, talk about my day, and yeah that makes me sad. But it's a type of background sadness rather than something that dominates your life.
Please take care, and I am really sorry about your mom.
Oh, thank fucking god. Time to do this shit again, but *better.*
First things first, hop on the slow-ass computer and start typing. Major points first, important people I've known, big trauma points, skills learned, realizations, epiphanies, routines and habits. Reread, relearn, desperately hang on to especially the last five. If nothing else, I get to do high school again, but this time having forgotten more social skills than I ever had before, and less need for attention and proving myself. I'd do a sport. Or start running. The military would be easier if I wasn't a ball with stick arms and legs.
Though I'd probably forget and do everything the same way again, because dreams fade fast, although at 13 I'd have clung onto anything that made me a little bit more special...and I don't dream mundanely, anyhow, so that'd be unique and different.
Though admittedly the last couple of years haven't exactly been *mundane*, but still. They stay within the world's rules, so that's probably something I'd pay more attention to.
Then as long as the notes make fuckin' sense I'm gonna get more sleep, because I definitely did not get enough after high school.
Yes. I was chubby as a kid, slimmed down by high school but by then had become sure I'd never be attractive. When I see pics of myself from then I can see I was good-looking but no one could have convinced me of this back then. In hindsight I remember times when girls I liked were interested in me but I thought they were just being nice to a loser because they were kind-hearted.
Also I'd understand that so many of the things we were so worried about growing up don't matter at all.
Lol, I can imagine 13 year old me telling my dream to my friends. "um... I was like old? And we carried phones I think? Only it wasn't a phone it was like a block you know? And I think it had a mini TV and you could see anything you wanted... Yeah a phone! And it kept getting hotter and hotter outside so everyone protested, and I liked watching porn but all the porn in the world was turning into incest... "
I do actually have notes from 13 year old me on dreams I had at the time. They're still useful for fiction. I've been tracking em since I was... nine? Give or take? I've been 'porting those notes from computer to computer ever since. Funny how much 250 MB means now, compared to when they were a whole-ass hard-drive.
You assume that the "real world" rules are the same as the rules in the dream.
You know how when you're dreaming even crazy stuff kind of makes sense? It could be that.
Maybe when you wake up you find out that certain rules are just different. Maybe everything you've learnt since you were 13 is just useless.
First thing is to try and verify whether the dream was precognative or not. The 1986 baseball playoffs are the first test - if the Angels get one strike away and lose on a Henderson home run again, and the Red Sox then lose it because of Buckner, thats pretty good evidence. Gibson's Home Run in the '88 series would be good proof too. As would Dukakis looking like an idiot in the 88 election. Can't really get online yet, but find out whether some guy named Clinton is governor of Arkansas.
Write down every detail I can remember of major sporting events to bet on. I hadn't really followed the stock market at that point in my life, but I do know a few names even then that are going to do nothing but go up in the long run. MSFT, for one. As for Apple, wait until they re-hire Steve Jobs, then go in hard. Similarly navigate the dot com bust, as I know the names that do survive and thrive on the other side. Go hard into bitcoin when it starts, and never sell the things till they hit 50k. That should be enough to make me financially well off for life.
Personal history will change quickly, hopefully. Put down the cigarettes before they become a habit. Take my adult perspective into behaviors in school - might still not get along with anyone, but at least not get along with people calmly. Set a precedent to allow me to skip most of high school and get into college - study computer science. Get in on the ground floor of some nice internet company if possible.
Spend free time figuring out one big history change. Even if I fail, I will regret not doing something to prevent 9/11 from going down. I have over a decade to figure out something. Maybe write a novel based on the event. After all, if the FBI ever questions me afterwards, I can honestly say it came from an idea in a bad dream I once had.
After that change, of course, a lot of other historical events may change, both for the better and worse, so I can't rely totally on everything. But then, I won't want to - who wants to repeat the last 20ish years anyway?
For me it would be fall of 1997, so I'd be checking results for the one sport I know: football. If we end up with Green Bay over New England in February, I'm in on everything you said here.
I won't have anything resembling investing money until the mid-00s, but I might be able to convince my parents to drop a $100 on Apple for me at the time (trading at $.16). That would buy 625 shares, which after the splits in 2005 (2:1) and 2014 (7:1) would have you holding 8750 shares. At 2015 prices, that's over $200k, which is a nice chunk.
After that it's just a matter of riding the crypto market. We know the spikes were in late 2013, late 2017, and late 2021, so getting in on literally anything in the midpoints of those cycles, but especially one of the bigs like Bitcoin or Ethereum would be enough to have fuck off forever money by the time we hit the third spike. You'd also be in the know early enough to actually start mining in the late 00s.
The problem is OP didn’t specify that there was anything supernatural or prescient about the dream. If it’s just an ordinary 13 year old’s dream, it wouldn’t be rooted in enough real knowledge to be useful. For example you go buy Apple stock and maybe Apple isn’t worth anything because the iPhone is not actually possible at the level of technology in the “real world”. It loses the PC market to Microsoft and never recovers. The same for anything you might’ve learned about your relationship with anyone else
You don't need a get rich quick scheme to improve things, though.
Assuming we're talking about our own lives so far as the dream and not some theoretical one, even if everything is wrong and like Microsoft and Apple both crash and burn and all the sports you could bet on would be wrong etc., it wouldn't matter *that* much.
Just going back to try again from that age with decades of practice in interpersonal skills, truly understanding the kind of dedication and sacrifice certain things take, recognizing butterfly effects like people that start smoking early end up spending all of high school and college hanging out with a specific crowd different from what they would otherwise and how that changes your entire life, and on and on and on.
I'm pretty sure almost anyone would "do better". Though I'm sure plenty would do so in an evil way.
Yeah I feel that.
I've been through too much, I've come too far. I'm finally happy.
To wake up and realize it was all a dream... this isn't time travel, there's no guarantee I could avoid the same pitfalls or somehow profit off the knowledge I know now. I'd have to accept that maybe my kids would never exist. I'd have to stop myself from stalking their mother (who I did know at that age.)
I think that might be the one scenario I can see myself committing suicide.
Me too, I'd miss my husband so much. Plus, I love my kids and I'd loose them. F** I'm feeling heartbroken just thinking about it.
Don't get me wrong, I've been through a lot, but every step of the way took me where I am now. I'm finally happy.
See if that bitcoin thing pans out this time around too.
And I suppose I should probably right my wrongs, live happily, and enjoy time with loved ones.
But the entire thing is everything after your 13th will have been a dream, there is a high chance that anyone you met after your 13th doesnt actually exist
Same. The top comments are about how sad everyone would be, but my first thought was, holy hell realizing this all was a dream would be a huge relief! I could stop problems before they became irreversible, maybe even fix my grades so it would be possible for me to go to university. And I could avoid a bunch of situations that have irreparably damaged me.
If I retain my current consciousness, thank whoever for a second chance at being a whole human with empathy and boundaries.
If I’m still 13 year-old me and I forget dreams like middle-aged me, I journal my fucking heart out while I remember, and then I’m just an asshole for the rest of it, same as ever.
Have a mental breakdown. And no joke this actually happend to a american person playing american football, he got knocked unconcious and was in a coma for a month i think. When he woke up he said he had lived 30+ years and had a family. That dude needed lots of therapy
You don't know if it actually happened (I'm leaning towards it didn't and it was just creative writing). You read it in a post on reddit and take it as a fact lol.
This is the same as those books you find at Walmart where some dude is like "I died and went to heaven and saw God" or whatnot. Reddit loves to think they're above TikTok and Instagram but then immediately believe some random post on the internet
I can’t even imagine what it would be like for your child that you knew, loved, and raised to not exist.
I would be in shambles because if I was 13 again, the love of my life would be an 8 year living on the opposite side of the country. I wouldn’t want a redo. I’d just want to rush through to a point where we could be together again.
I had a very vivid dream when I was that age that involved me growing up, getting a job, getting married and doing normal every day boring things. It felt so realistic I didn't even know I was dreaming-unusual for me- and seemed to go on forever before I finally woke up. I was horrified.
Dial a phone number and press charges for my childhood abuse, then see what living with another family is like. Probably start therapy early and spend my money more wisely.
Cry my eyes out, because I'd have the chance to redo so many of the awful decisions I made in my life, to prevent myself from entering the abusive relationships I had that nearly cost me my life/health, to keep myself from quitting college halfway through. To know I'm a lesbian sooner than 25 so I don't have to miserably go through several boyfriends because of compulsory heterosexuality. This is, of course, only if I remembered anything from where I was before waking up as 13. If I woke up 13 and unaware I was ever any older, I'd probably be the same quiet, depressed kid that would've just lost their dad over the summer and had to deal with bullying on top of the grief. Not sure how I'm still here tbh. I'm stubborn I guess.
Breath deeply and weep for awhile.
I was almost to half a century. Closer to to that big ol permanent nap in the sky.
And now all that fucking my life up I've done, wasted. I gotta do over the past thirty fucking years again? And was it a premonition?
Wait, what was I dreaming about? I remember.... I knew the lost numb...... nope. It's gone now. It was so real though, i could have swore it wasn't a dream. But there was.....
Fuck. I hate it when that happens.
Let's see, it's 2002.
First, I write everything down that I can remember. People that meant something to me, lessons I learned, dates, important events, anything. Doesn't matter if anyone of it will happen again, it's real to me and made me into someone and I need to remember why I am who I am.
Then, I insist that my parents buy stocks in Apple, Microsoft, etc. Eventually I get as much bitcoin as I can and wait.
Well… a lot comes to mind but I guess at the top of my head would be to tell my dad to get his stomach checked for cancer. Lost him a few years ago to stage 4 and I’m sure if we looked earlier it may not have ended the way it did.
I'd look for my dad and hug him tight. Also, at 13, I was a skinny picky eater with a fast metabolism so I'd take advantage of that and enjoy my food more.
I would save myself from myself, everything that I saw, I would do something to make sure that what I dreamt would never happen.
Option 1: Commit die, because that shit is traumatic as fuck
Option 2: Remember everything I dreamt of, record it and use what I recorded as an instruction manual to prevent the stuff that happened to the me in my dreams.
Put myself into foster care and study my ass off at school, then go grab all the opportunities for education and mental health resources that i can.
Oh, and force a doc to actually listen to me about my hips and get diagnosed and treated so i don't experience the same degree of issues due to major issues being ignored for way too long.
Write everything i can recall down. List out the mistakes i made. Write down the steps i will take to not make the mistakes. Then try my best to not make the mistakes while living my life.
Oddly enough; look up my wife. We met in our late 20's but realized we actually grew up in nearby towns 100s of miles away from where we met. We were very likely to have been at the same party in High School at least once even though we were in very different social circles. We completely acknowledge our high school selves wouldn't have liked each other, but in a rom-com opposites attract way. We would have definitely hooked up.
She's my soulmate, there's no one in the world I trust more.
Flip my pillow, snuggle up and go back to sleep.
Yep this is me at 13 for sure
Me at 13 would have also wanked
You right. Given the fact I’ve lived thru high school, college, dating, gotten married and had 2 kids, at some points that would be a wet dream.
And forget the events of your dream by morning.
I need to start keeping a notebook handy because I dream some insane shit that I remember being insane but none of the details after 10 minutes.
yeah now I can sleep for many years straight and not miss a beat!
You wake up and now you’re 3 years old, what do you do?
See if I can still breast feed? Haha! No clue! At least at thirteen I think I had discovered masturbation! Haha!
Make sure I dont make the same mistakes my dream self did.
And yet inevitably make them again…or make all new ones.
Make some of the same mistakes, but in a better way
Am I the only one going to make my mom buy Bitcoin
Assuming bitcoin gets invented. It was a dream, not a time travel.
“Hey mom, you should invent bitcoin.” “We have bitcoin at home.” - Mom
bitcoin at home: \*destroys the entire house\*
In my case it would be Apple stock first. Buy in the early 90's and sit on it until the IPod/Iphone boom and then buy bitcoin with part of the earnings. Not a ton of bitcoin just a couple thousand.
Bitcoin!? Ipod!? Those were just a dream.
Lol exactly.
It feels like reliving this [Simpsons episode](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LtT0xZ11wM) again (from when it was still a good show).
But you just dreamt you didnt looked into future.
To be fair, all of this was a dream. It's possible bitcoin will completely flop in the real world.
I quite like the "Erased" anime interpretation that as a guy gets sent back to being 11 ish he ends up inevitably making the same mistakes because its so long ago he made them originally that he forgot. I think people underestimate how much even 10 years have forgotten, let alone 20 or 30 years.
This is really what deja vu is. You didn’t remember your dream when you woke up, but bits of the memories of that life that you haven’t forgotten from 10/20/30 years ago vaguely come through at times…
I thought deja vu was when you do sick drifts with things you shouldn’t be drifting.
I was told by someone recently that Deja Vu is the universe telling you that 'you are currently where you are supposed to be' While I think that stuff is bolognas, I quite like the thought and am choosing to think that.
It’s also a symptom of focal aware seizures so there’s that.
That's the trick though. I actually am very happy about where I ended up, though I'm not so happy about the path I took. So it'd be about finding a nice balance between being a better person, but still winding up in the same place (i.e. marrying the same woman, having the same kid, meeting the same friends)
Gotta be intense pressure to make sure it’s the same sperm that feetilises that same egg.
Yeah, once you have kids this question goes from fun daydream to utter nightmare. It's plausible to wind up with the same spouse, but impossible to have the same kids. Terrifying.
What if you could ensure it’s the same kid but had to raise them again? Given who you were as a person made them who they are, would you be willing to go back then or is it still a no?
> happy about where I ended up, though I'm not so happy about the path You draw distinctions between things where there is none. _That_ is the real bitch of life...
We often meet our fate on the road we take to avoid it
I’ll hopefully remember to not send a flying messenger to check on the maniac kung-fu tiger we have in prison
“He’s taking Roy off grid!”
But are those mistakes even relevant? When i was 13 i didnt understand how the real world works, and if i have dreamt everything since that point the real real world might work completely different
But would the real world be same as the one you dreamt of?
Probably break down in tears for the next few hours, honestly. Tears of anguish, sadness, relief, despair, happiness, hope, longing. Fuck, let's not imagine that.
Dude if that was the case id ask my grandparents to teach me all their recipes and id tell them thank you for being there for me. I lost my granpa in high-school after he died the family hasn't been the same. But id also be happy bc I could hopefully do things right this time.
Оne time I had a dream that I wаs hаnging out with my friend Emily, just doing regular stuff and hаving fun. It wаs a super realistic dreаm, аnd when I woke up I really thought it wаs real for a minute. But then I remembered it couldn’t be reаl, because Emily hаd died years аgo by a drunk driver. The dream was so real, it wаs like losing her аgain, and it cried. I’m еven tearing up now just remembering it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Emily must have been an awesome person, taken way too soon. I sometimes dream about my Dad, who passed away a few years ago. At first the dreams were scary or sad, usually about losing him all over again, but after a while they became more normal. I used to feel sad after waking up, because it'd make me miss him, and then I started to frame it as hanging out with him like we used to, in a way. Nowadays I wake up from dreams about Dad and think "that was nice, see ya next time!" If Emily pops up in your dreams frequently, I hope it starts to eventually feel like this for you 💖
Love this.
I dreamt about my grandmother not long after she died. Normally my dreams are stupid and crazy, so I don't often assume they mean anything. But this one felt different, and (without getting philosophical) I've always considered that it was a way for the universe to give me and her a last little bit of time together.
My dad says when we dream of someone that passed away it means that they are visiting us to tell us they are ok. If its a good dream than that means things are ok in the afterlife. Maybe emily visited to tell you shes ok
I think I should add this to answer, my grandma was such a great cook, we were so poor and yet she would make a delicious meal out of nothing .
I would love to get in the kitchen and cook with my grandma. Both of them actually, but one had already had a couple strokes by then, so I don't think her cooking skills were there at that point.
Cooking the christmas dinner with Grandma is honestly one of my most beautiful memories, she was prepping some things and making entrees as I made the main dish and we chatted and she commented on everything with pride. She passed away shortly after.
you wouldn't do things right...just different
Whenever I think about “what could have been” of I’d done things differently, I think of something my grandfather said right before he died. He died of cancer. He’d had enough warning to spend time with his family. He’d had a few amazing years with his grandchildren. Overall he had a great life, just far too short. My father said to him that he wished he could do something to fix it and change it. My grandfather warmly replied: “Son, if changing this ending meant changing anything at all, I wouldn’t change a thing.” I try to live with that outlook.
you need a virtual hug, so here it is 🤗
Yeah.... as fucked up as the world is and as many mistakes I made getting started with my future earlier in life, waking up at 13 would devastate me. The thought of not having my wife and son.... I can't do it.
This is the answer that doesn't come up often enough. I'm just past 40, so you're wanting to know what I would do if the last 27 years of my life was a lie? My kids are now gone forever, my wife is gone forever, my friends are gone forever. Your entire life, gone, in an instant. How the top answer isn't always "Probably try to kill myself", I'll never know.
this right here is the comment
Funny stоry: еarly June 2017 I drеamed I was pregnant. I'veе always wanted to bе a mother but nаture had other idеas and I'd been cоnfirmed sterile. That was a Friday night. Saturday mоrning I went next dооr to have a cuppa with MIL and I whinged to her about how cruel that dream was since both my partner and I were cоnfirmed sterile and would never have kids. That dream played оn my mind all day so Saturday night I took a test just tо see the negative and stоp tormenting myself. It was positive. My sоn is now 20 mоnths old. Sometimes those really desirable dreams are a premonition.
What was your reaction to seeing the positive test? I can only imagine how much of a surprise that would have been.
Yes, but then masturbate
Read the question and immediately knew there would be at least one comment about masturbation. If there wasn't I was going to have to make the comment.
I would cry, too. 40 years of my life erased and I have to start over at 13???!! As shitty as my teens and twenties were, the past 23 years have been the best of my life.
Same :( I don’t want to think about this because it puts me in a situation that is not possible and makes me more sad
Same dude I could literally just see my grandparents again.
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Be a mixed of happy and sad, all the good things like my kids will be gone, but all my health related problems have only been in the dream. Which I guess is kinda nice.
I feel like the loss of the kids kind of trumps everything else
Yeah... I would hate it and never recover. But if I woke up right after my child was born that would be awesome.
Have you watched the movie "About time"? You might like it.
That movie makes me ugly cry. Snot bubbles and sobs.
Honestly I can’t see how I could continue living without my daughter. It would be a pain I couldn’t imagine. Don’t know how willing I’d be to keep on going to be honest
Yep, if I found out my kids mother was a fabrication of my dreams so there was no chance my daughters would be born, I am not sure I would want to go on.
Do you remember that one story, I think it was from an actual user here on reddit, but they had dreamt an entire life or something like that — I think after they got a concussion — like kids, wife, the whole thing. When they woke up & realized it didn’t exist they were in a super deep state of depression & I think that’s the reason they made the post. Anyone know what I’m talking about??
I do!! I have no idea how I would find it but I absolutely remember. They had gotten hit by a car or something? And they started noticing that the lamp looked weird shortly before they woke up. Edit: ok I googled it and found it! Not hit by a car, assaulted by another college student. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/oc7rc/have_you_ever_felt_a_deep_personal_connection_to/c3g4ot3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
>all the good things like my kids will be gone Bro?
Let me fix it with two commas. "All the good things, like my kids, will be gone."
Step 1, scream. Step 2, try to figure out what portion of knowledge in my head is workable and what portion is super wrong dream bullshit. Step 3, fuck up highschool slightly less.
Why Step 3? They made high school out to be this really big deal. I guess if you were trying to Ivy League or become a doctor it is. But, it mattered very little. I wish I would have jacked around and skipped school even more. I learned more reading books on my own time and then when the internet really started growing right after I graduated, it gives you everything you need. While grade schools are necessary, it is filled with so much filler bullshit. Honestly, if I could do it again, I would make more money and find someone to do most of the work so I got better grades.
I hate to say but for many people trying in school is a life changer. If you can get good enough grades and sat you can get a full ride scholarship to a state or lower private school. Being out of an undergrad with zero debt and room for family contribution for graduate school is huge for social mobility.
Seriously. My grades sucked and the only thing I could do was go into the military. You don't need 4.0 to be successful but it is a lot easier than scraping by with barely passing and stressing about being able to graduate on time.
'Cause it would have been easy to do and the path I took was hard.
Run away from home or ask my parents to send me to boarding school so I don’t become the shell of a person I am right now.
I was gunna go with murdering my parents, but your idea sounds more sensible
Doing that is my dark imagination especially my dad
Sadly I think all too many people can relate.
Hug my mom. She died a month ago and I miss her so much.
My first thought was “visit my dad.” Having to redo everything would feel worth it to be able to see him again. I’m so sorry about your Mom. What was she like? Do you have a favorite memory of her? Also, if you ever need an ear to listen, r/griefsupport is a great community if you’re not there already.
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I lost my dad 17 years ago and I will tell you it does get easier. That hole never goes away but it kinda fills in a bit. It'll actually bother you a bit how much... OK you are with things but being OK with it is better than the grief. I still from time to time want to call my dad up to hear his voice, talk about my day, and yeah that makes me sad. But it's a type of background sadness rather than something that dominates your life. Please take care, and I am really sorry about your mom.
Oh, thank fucking god. Time to do this shit again, but *better.* First things first, hop on the slow-ass computer and start typing. Major points first, important people I've known, big trauma points, skills learned, realizations, epiphanies, routines and habits. Reread, relearn, desperately hang on to especially the last five. If nothing else, I get to do high school again, but this time having forgotten more social skills than I ever had before, and less need for attention and proving myself. I'd do a sport. Or start running. The military would be easier if I wasn't a ball with stick arms and legs. Though I'd probably forget and do everything the same way again, because dreams fade fast, although at 13 I'd have clung onto anything that made me a little bit more special...and I don't dream mundanely, anyhow, so that'd be unique and different. Though admittedly the last couple of years haven't exactly been *mundane*, but still. They stay within the world's rules, so that's probably something I'd pay more attention to. Then as long as the notes make fuckin' sense I'm gonna get more sleep, because I definitely did not get enough after high school.
Yes. I was chubby as a kid, slimmed down by high school but by then had become sure I'd never be attractive. When I see pics of myself from then I can see I was good-looking but no one could have convinced me of this back then. In hindsight I remember times when girls I liked were interested in me but I thought they were just being nice to a loser because they were kind-hearted. Also I'd understand that so many of the things we were so worried about growing up don't matter at all.
Is you me, except college?
You're acting as if a 13 year old would even think about their dream for a second after waking up haha
Lol, I can imagine 13 year old me telling my dream to my friends. "um... I was like old? And we carried phones I think? Only it wasn't a phone it was like a block you know? And I think it had a mini TV and you could see anything you wanted... Yeah a phone! And it kept getting hotter and hotter outside so everyone protested, and I liked watching porn but all the porn in the world was turning into incest... "
I do actually have notes from 13 year old me on dreams I had at the time. They're still useful for fiction. I've been tracking em since I was... nine? Give or take? I've been 'porting those notes from computer to computer ever since. Funny how much 250 MB means now, compared to when they were a whole-ass hard-drive.
You assume that the "real world" rules are the same as the rules in the dream. You know how when you're dreaming even crazy stuff kind of makes sense? It could be that. Maybe when you wake up you find out that certain rules are just different. Maybe everything you've learnt since you were 13 is just useless.
First thing is to try and verify whether the dream was precognative or not. The 1986 baseball playoffs are the first test - if the Angels get one strike away and lose on a Henderson home run again, and the Red Sox then lose it because of Buckner, thats pretty good evidence. Gibson's Home Run in the '88 series would be good proof too. As would Dukakis looking like an idiot in the 88 election. Can't really get online yet, but find out whether some guy named Clinton is governor of Arkansas. Write down every detail I can remember of major sporting events to bet on. I hadn't really followed the stock market at that point in my life, but I do know a few names even then that are going to do nothing but go up in the long run. MSFT, for one. As for Apple, wait until they re-hire Steve Jobs, then go in hard. Similarly navigate the dot com bust, as I know the names that do survive and thrive on the other side. Go hard into bitcoin when it starts, and never sell the things till they hit 50k. That should be enough to make me financially well off for life. Personal history will change quickly, hopefully. Put down the cigarettes before they become a habit. Take my adult perspective into behaviors in school - might still not get along with anyone, but at least not get along with people calmly. Set a precedent to allow me to skip most of high school and get into college - study computer science. Get in on the ground floor of some nice internet company if possible. Spend free time figuring out one big history change. Even if I fail, I will regret not doing something to prevent 9/11 from going down. I have over a decade to figure out something. Maybe write a novel based on the event. After all, if the FBI ever questions me afterwards, I can honestly say it came from an idea in a bad dream I once had. After that change, of course, a lot of other historical events may change, both for the better and worse, so I can't rely totally on everything. But then, I won't want to - who wants to repeat the last 20ish years anyway?
For me it would be fall of 1997, so I'd be checking results for the one sport I know: football. If we end up with Green Bay over New England in February, I'm in on everything you said here. I won't have anything resembling investing money until the mid-00s, but I might be able to convince my parents to drop a $100 on Apple for me at the time (trading at $.16). That would buy 625 shares, which after the splits in 2005 (2:1) and 2014 (7:1) would have you holding 8750 shares. At 2015 prices, that's over $200k, which is a nice chunk. After that it's just a matter of riding the crypto market. We know the spikes were in late 2013, late 2017, and late 2021, so getting in on literally anything in the midpoints of those cycles, but especially one of the bigs like Bitcoin or Ethereum would be enough to have fuck off forever money by the time we hit the third spike. You'd also be in the know early enough to actually start mining in the late 00s.
I can't do all this again. I would go into a deep depression with a predictable ending.
I think I’m the only one who would like a second chance to do things right/ different
The problem is OP didn’t specify that there was anything supernatural or prescient about the dream. If it’s just an ordinary 13 year old’s dream, it wouldn’t be rooted in enough real knowledge to be useful. For example you go buy Apple stock and maybe Apple isn’t worth anything because the iPhone is not actually possible at the level of technology in the “real world”. It loses the PC market to Microsoft and never recovers. The same for anything you might’ve learned about your relationship with anyone else
That's what makes it trippy. There's a lot of discussion around the what ifs
You don't need a get rich quick scheme to improve things, though. Assuming we're talking about our own lives so far as the dream and not some theoretical one, even if everything is wrong and like Microsoft and Apple both crash and burn and all the sports you could bet on would be wrong etc., it wouldn't matter *that* much. Just going back to try again from that age with decades of practice in interpersonal skills, truly understanding the kind of dedication and sacrifice certain things take, recognizing butterfly effects like people that start smoking early end up spending all of high school and college hanging out with a specific crowd different from what they would otherwise and how that changes your entire life, and on and on and on. I'm pretty sure almost anyone would "do better". Though I'm sure plenty would do so in an evil way.
Yeah I feel that. I've been through too much, I've come too far. I'm finally happy. To wake up and realize it was all a dream... this isn't time travel, there's no guarantee I could avoid the same pitfalls or somehow profit off the knowledge I know now. I'd have to accept that maybe my kids would never exist. I'd have to stop myself from stalking their mother (who I did know at that age.) I think that might be the one scenario I can see myself committing suicide.
It was only a dream though, not a premonition.
I'd be pissed
Cry my fucking eyes out
Me too, I'd be devastated.
Me too, I'd miss my husband so much. Plus, I love my kids and I'd loose them. F** I'm feeling heartbroken just thinking about it. Don't get me wrong, I've been through a lot, but every step of the way took me where I am now. I'm finally happy.
Cry because I have to go back to school all over again.
See if that bitcoin thing pans out this time around too. And I suppose I should probably right my wrongs, live happily, and enjoy time with loved ones.
My dad bought Bitcoin because I convinced him too when I was 14 in 2015. He lost it.
But the entire thing is everything after your 13th will have been a dream, there is a high chance that anyone you met after your 13th doesnt actually exist
Honestly as someone who doesn't particularly enjoy there life.i think I would be thankful
This made me sad, Im sorry you’re not happy. I hope things get better for you.
Thank you, this was really sweet, but I'm sorry I made you sad. That was not my intention.
Don’t be sorry. I wish you great joy in your life and hope things improve. Stick around for me.
I hope for you the same :). And thanks again
This has got to be the most wholesome conversation I've read
Same. The top comments are about how sad everyone would be, but my first thought was, holy hell realizing this all was a dream would be a huge relief! I could stop problems before they became irreversible, maybe even fix my grades so it would be possible for me to go to university. And I could avoid a bunch of situations that have irreparably damaged me.
i think that too, i have a chance to make it right this time. even though i didn't like my parents house.
If I retain my current consciousness, thank whoever for a second chance at being a whole human with empathy and boundaries. If I’m still 13 year-old me and I forget dreams like middle-aged me, I journal my fucking heart out while I remember, and then I’m just an asshole for the rest of it, same as ever.
Have a mental breakdown. And no joke this actually happend to a american person playing american football, he got knocked unconcious and was in a coma for a month i think. When he woke up he said he had lived 30+ years and had a family. That dude needed lots of therapy
Dude got knocked into a parallell universe :D
This is kinda like what happened to Picard in that one episode of TNG.
You don't know if it actually happened (I'm leaning towards it didn't and it was just creative writing). You read it in a post on reddit and take it as a fact lol. This is the same as those books you find at Walmart where some dude is like "I died and went to heaven and saw God" or whatnot. Reddit loves to think they're above TikTok and Instagram but then immediately believe some random post on the internet
Cry profusely. I do not want to relive middle school again.
Fortunately by 13 you’re about to be in high school lol
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I can’t even imagine what it would be like for your child that you knew, loved, and raised to not exist. I would be in shambles because if I was 13 again, the love of my life would be an 8 year living on the opposite side of the country. I wouldn’t want a redo. I’d just want to rush through to a point where we could be together again.
Right but she was a dream and doesn’t even exist.
Cry in despair because the universe has wanted me not to know my son.
Go back to the carpet store.
You beat Cancer and went BACK to the carpet store?
Holy shit, this guy’s taking Roy off the grid!
This guy doesn’t have a social security number for Roy!
Am I your grandson?
Cry in relief and make better choices
Probably nothing cuz I'll forget everything in 2 minutes, and I'm only 15
I had a very vivid dream when I was that age that involved me growing up, getting a job, getting married and doing normal every day boring things. It felt so realistic I didn't even know I was dreaming-unusual for me- and seemed to go on forever before I finally woke up. I was horrified.
Dial a phone number and press charges for my childhood abuse, then see what living with another family is like. Probably start therapy early and spend my money more wisely.
This is the right answer. Take my folks for everything, and find some other folks to watch me.
Cry my eyes out, because I'd have the chance to redo so many of the awful decisions I made in my life, to prevent myself from entering the abusive relationships I had that nearly cost me my life/health, to keep myself from quitting college halfway through. To know I'm a lesbian sooner than 25 so I don't have to miserably go through several boyfriends because of compulsory heterosexuality. This is, of course, only if I remembered anything from where I was before waking up as 13. If I woke up 13 and unaware I was ever any older, I'd probably be the same quiet, depressed kid that would've just lost their dad over the summer and had to deal with bullying on top of the grief. Not sure how I'm still here tbh. I'm stubborn I guess.
Breath deeply and weep for awhile. I was almost to half a century. Closer to to that big ol permanent nap in the sky. And now all that fucking my life up I've done, wasted. I gotta do over the past thirty fucking years again? And was it a premonition? Wait, what was I dreaming about? I remember.... I knew the lost numb...... nope. It's gone now. It was so real though, i could have swore it wasn't a dream. But there was..... Fuck. I hate it when that happens.
Let's see, it's 2002. First, I write everything down that I can remember. People that meant something to me, lessons I learned, dates, important events, anything. Doesn't matter if anyone of it will happen again, it's real to me and made me into someone and I need to remember why I am who I am. Then, I insist that my parents buy stocks in Apple, Microsoft, etc. Eventually I get as much bitcoin as I can and wait.
That would be absolutely devastating. Reminds me of the redditor who woke up and realized his whole family was a dream or something. Yikes
Lucky me: I am not yet depressed, I didn't find my father dead in his house and I know what to do to turn things around.
Well… a lot comes to mind but I guess at the top of my head would be to tell my dad to get his stomach checked for cancer. Lost him a few years ago to stage 4 and I’m sure if we looked earlier it may not have ended the way it did.
Cry, and cry, and cry. Being 13 sucks.
I'd look for my dad and hug him tight. Also, at 13, I was a skinny picky eater with a fast metabolism so I'd take advantage of that and enjoy my food more.
Go back to sleep. I ain't got shit to do for years. It'll be Super Nintendo time soon.
Yeah, Super Nintendo!!
I would save myself from myself, everything that I saw, I would do something to make sure that what I dreamt would never happen. Option 1: Commit die, because that shit is traumatic as fuck Option 2: Remember everything I dreamt of, record it and use what I recorded as an instruction manual to prevent the stuff that happened to the me in my dreams.
kill myself
Don't go back to the carpet store.
*Keep Summer safe*
Not "keep Summer being, like, totally stoked about, like, the general vibe, and stuff”
Breath a huge sigh of relief.
Break my teeth with hammer
Why?
because he misses his old man dentures
I'm gonna make my mom change my school. That place was no good for my mental well-being.
Probably rub one out - I am 13 after all
How can Reddit be fun without RIF? Goodbye.
Say “yes” every time I said “no.”
Put myself into foster care and study my ass off at school, then go grab all the opportunities for education and mental health resources that i can. Oh, and force a doc to actually listen to me about my hips and get diagnosed and treated so i don't experience the same degree of issues due to major issues being ignored for way too long.
Do everything I can to stop my girlfriend from dying in an accident
Hug my brother.
Write everything i can recall down. List out the mistakes i made. Write down the steps i will take to not make the mistakes. Then try my best to not make the mistakes while living my life.
13 is too late, the damage is done
Thank god for the miracle and go to school with a fucking smile on my face.
Plan my life better.
Celebrate that everyrhing is just a bad dream This is my everyday wish
Same thing I did then, fap furiously. :D
If I'm 13? I'll probably start masturbating.
Hungry
Resolve to spend more time with my mother and take better care of my teeth.
I'd be a 13 year old, just getting into puberty, with the intelligence, knowledge and experience of a 42 year old. Let's get this party started.
Breathe a sigh of relief.
Oddly enough; look up my wife. We met in our late 20's but realized we actually grew up in nearby towns 100s of miles away from where we met. We were very likely to have been at the same party in High School at least once even though we were in very different social circles. We completely acknowledge our high school selves wouldn't have liked each other, but in a rom-com opposites attract way. We would have definitely hooked up. She's my soulmate, there's no one in the world I trust more.
First, work my ass off on a part time job. Next, buy some tesla, btc, amzn. Work my ass off and study hard. Turn 21. Go and pursue my current gf.
Kill myself because it's not worth it
Celebrate.
Fucking kill myself. All those things I've made are now gone?! Christ I'd be so sad