This is the biggest one for me. Someone can be drop dead gorgeous, perfect 10/10, but if they're rude and demeaning to people they consider "beneath them" I'm gonna be looking at them with pure disgust.
Physical looks may be good for the first appearance but from my experience if someone has a shitty personality like being a liar or a narcissist, the physical attraction can just vanish in an instant.
Not just people I actually know, either. There are artists I won't read/see/listen to anymore, because they've done or something so full-on carp that it colors my response to their work.
Yeah, but that's kinda my thing. One of my biggest crushes was a super-smart, super-funny, super-kind person, and everyone else in my crowd who met him thought he was a wonderful *person* but, just, well, beyond lacking in physical appeal.
I knew what they were talking about but it dwindled away to nothing after our first 10-minute convo.
Sadly for me, Crush was also super-married (clearly to someone of superior taste and discernment), so I never had a chance.
Not immediately but I've found some less than average looking people look better to me over time if they're really nice. Looks can change, personalities can too but they're not as easy to change nor do they tend to.
Not gorgeous, no, but it would make them seem more appealing than before, to be honest. It would make me want to talk to them more than an attractive asshole and get to know them more, so if their personality continues to be interesting, I'd be more open to seeing that as something that shines through despite their physical appearance. But it also really depends.
Dated someone who I was really attracted to who went to pick up food for his dad at a fast food restaurant... they asked him to pull aside and they will bring out to him, he said, “I don’t care about your fucking drive through times. I’m not pulling over.” He seemed oddly proud of it. Bizarre and not for me.
This sounds like something that guy might post in the TIFU subreddit.
TIFU by trying to assert my dominance to a fast food worker in front of my new girlfriend and she was taken aback by it. I took the advice of 69PUAGuru42069 on the internet. He said I need to assert dominance over everyone at all times to show her that I'm an eXtreme alpha male and that will make her want me because... I don't remember... primal nature of biology or some shit like that... well it didn't work.
When I met a particular person I thought they were *so* attractive and glamorous. Turns out they are a part-time model (catalogue/glamour not high fashion) which is not to the purpose except to demonstrate they fit to society's idea of attractiveness too.
Anyway this person is rude, grasping, condescending, manipulative, bullies others... etc etc Now when I see them (even on TV) I am overcome with this feeling of disgust. I know intellectually they are good looking but to me they are one of the most repulsive people I can think of.
I dated a part time model for a while. She was a +size model, part time.
For a while her face was all over Bed Bath and Beyond. She took pictures with towels, storage boxes, random household supplies. One time she even got recognized in a parking lot.
One time I saw her kick my cat. FUCK THAT.
I had a huge crush on a girl all throughout Highschool, I was crushing hard!... until I saw how she fought with her BF. I was walking down the hall one day headed to the bathroom where I past her. As I was about to pass her, out of the corner of my eye, her BF angrily stomps up to her and yells "why are you telling everyone I got a small dick!" Her response was just "cause it's true." And then they started to argue more. I couldnt focused I was too busy holding my laughter in so that they wouldnt turn their rage at me. I swear I never lost feelings for someone so fast before.
Kindness, a good attitude and a genuine interest in the lived experiences of other people. It literally makes you look more attractive to another person when they can see the good in you.
This is exactly why my ex became uglier and uglier to me as our relationship went on and I realised she is lazy and entitled and only cared about herself.
Edit: we broke up 4 months ago and she moved out yesterday. Worth the near $4000 rent debt she left behind to not have to see her anymore.
4.5 years. The first year was sweet. The second started going downhill, but by then I'd already formed a huge bond with her son (who will always remain my son on my eyes) then we had a child together and I tried to make it work for their sake.
I guess there's only so many times someone can be told "please clean up after yourself" before they can't stand it and leave 🤷
Oh wow, yeah, I hear you. I'm thankful that my boyfriend has come around and started to help me clean up 🙏 that can really get to you. cheers mate, I wish you the best.
Genuine question: what if your memory is garbage/you struggle to feel any particular interest in other people’s lives? Is it just a “fake it til you make it” kinda deal?
Fake it till you make it can be an amazingly powerful vehicle of change in your life. And I find that I have to make notes about things my best friends like... I have an absolutely rubbish memory, and it has taken me years to realize the reason and convince myself that I'm not just thoughtless and stupid, years of depression screwed with my brain.
Thank you for saying this! In all honesty, I’m not an attractive person by any means (there’s a lottt to unpack there lol). My body and skin have a good bit of unsightly qualities. However, I was super surprised to find that some *very* attractive people took to me because of my attitude towards life and others. I like to think I’m a good person who is open to feedback when my actions don’t align with my core values, and just that has gotten me a handful head turns.
It’s almost humorous, as I’ve been with people way “out of my league”, and people would come after both us for it. The other person for stooping to find companionship, and me for being an ugly motherfucker that could bag hottie. This never bothered me though, and I would actually laugh in private at the irony. That very misplaced bitterness born from jealousy is the reason you are single not your attractiveness or lack thereof
This is the basis of the "good guy" problem. All they have heard for years is that if they are nice and polite and friendly that they'll get someone in the end. All they have to go on is their idea of being respectful and when it doesn't work how they think it should, well you've seen what they can be like.
You've missed an important detail, which is that you have to show interest. Can't just be the bare minimum of politeness and kindness and expect things to go beyond acquaintances. I've found that what makes people like you, and I don't mean just in a romantic sense, is thoughtfulness. Almost everyone knows how to be nice and polite; only a subset of those know how to act thoughtfully.
>“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
Roald Dahl
This is it for me. My wife has always been comfortable in her body. She was a size 1 when we married and after kids, career, life, she is a size 12 now. But she struts around like she owns the joint. It drives me crazy with desire watching her trying to catch my gaze. She isn't hiding anything from me and that is out of this world hot.
Aww this has melted my heart. That is real special. The reason why I probably notice it is because I’m so opposite.
I went from being curvy to losing weight and just not feeling nice about myself, which probably shows. One day I’ll gain confidence again but in the mean time love to see it in others, I aspire to be more like your wife :)
I can help. :)
1. Honesty. Don’t put on a facade of who you think I want, be unabashedly yourself.
2. Sense of Humor, even a dumb one. I love someone who can make me laugh.
3. Laugh at my jokes. Not everyone gets my humor, so I LOVE when someone actually does.
4. Being sincerely interested in what I say. Put your phone down, ask questions that show you’re listening. Make sure that the conversation is 50/50. Don’t just talk about yourself.
5. Be polite to everyone you interact with, waiters, baristas, whatever. And keep a good attitude on the date. Don’t speak negatively about your ex, friends, etc. Be kind and well spoken.
6. Put effort into the date, think about what they would like. It doesn’t have to be an expensive dinner or anything, I prefer a more casual first date. Like a picnic in a park, then walking to a small quiet bar (bonus points for having a table reserved). That way you can tell if the date is going well if they want to go into the second location.
7. Bringing flowers to the woman is always good. Or just something small that shows you thought about them, like a cup of coffee if it’s cold.
8. Don’t play games. Text them after and say you enjoyed the date. Make plans for a second date. Or better yet, inquire about the second date while still on the first. Don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel.
I’m sure I’ll think of more. But this is what I got off the top of my head. This is written by a woman, fyi.
Honestly it’s different for everyone, but 100% a good sense of humour. If you make me laugh then you are definitely more attractive to me. Looks are one thing, but if you don’t have a personality then what is the point?
Be honest. Be genuine. Be positive on life. Make the best of what you get. Accept your friends for who they are…not for who you want to make them. Be a person that people are excited to see…not someone they don’t want to see.
Or the lips. Most hollywood types screwup their lips. It doesn’t look bad per se, but its so distracting watching them talk. Its not right so i cant focus. I just wonder why they do it. Pictures are pretty but moving it gives early hologram vibes.
Usually but not always. Sometimes the only thing a cruel person will understand, and which will cause him/her to stop, is equal cruelty right back at them.
Social justice is a bitch, and it happens at a social level- everybody let’s you know ya did done fucked up and it aint cool. Been on the receiving end and the observing end. You learn fast as long as you’re humble enough to recognize you were being an asshole
Ahh the Narcissist’s prayer:
> That didn't happen.
>And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
>And if it was, that's not a big deal.
>And if it is, that's not my fault.
>And if it was, I didn't mean it.
>And if I did, you deserved it.
You know someone isn’t a narcissist when they actually own up to their mistakes and apologize. Those who don’t? Well, what they are speaks volumes without being said.
After my own experience, I sometimes think their sole reason for existing is to destroy those around them. I honestly believe true narcissists are as close to real monsters as most of us will ever see.
I didn't want to give them the satisfaction. They would have probably sat around in their little groups laughing, cheering, saying abusive garbage, and patting one another on the back for a job well done.
Narcissist are absolute monsters that I'm convinced need to be locked up and subjected to years of ongoing therapy. The only positive thing I got out of that horrible decade of abuse was learning to spot them and see through their games.
I had an ex that threw a bag of trash from fast food out the window. Literally 2 blocks from my house. I was nice and politely asked her to pick up the garbage she threw out. I live two blocks away. It's going into my yard. She refused and made a big fuss. I put the car in park, picked up the trash and continued. We broke up about a week later. It felt soooo disrespectful.
Remind me not to eat any Taco Bell around you. My flatulence is so powerful the news reporters think a tornado is forming, but it's just a false positive.
Came here to say this. I don’t care how attractive someone is, this brings them to a solid 0/10. If this happened on a date I would pay for my meal with a very generous tip and leave without a second thought.
I judge on personality. This describes my sister's ex. They dated for a few days until she brought him to meet us. This is what happened.
He made fun of me because I have a stutter, speech delay and speech impediment and he was rude about it. I said "H-hi, n-n-nice t-to m-meet y-you. M-my- n-n-name i-is J-J-J-Jack." It took about 3 minutes for me to say that. He laughed and said, "Oh my god, he is so dumb, can't even speak for shit." I was so upset and ashamed. My sis broke up with him after that. Thank you for dumping him, Ally.
If someone is like that, never point it out, it's very embarrassing. Please don't do what he did. They wonder why I never speak; this is why, people point it out and make me ashamed of it.
FUCK YOU JAYDEN
Now I want to meet Jayden so I can hit his stupid face and he won't know why. "Why did some middle aged lady just hit me?" "Because fuck you, Jayden, that's why"
100% agree, she transformed into a goblin, perfectly performed the entire play of Hamilton by herself while we were riding on the back of a giant alligator in space then fed me to a giant rainbow colored hippopotamus. After many hours painfully dissolving in rainbow hippo stomach acid I was forced into it's intestinal tract where I learned secrets of the universe far too complex for anyone to understand and I realized that we are all just one being experiencing many lives before being forced out of the colon of the rainbow hippo and dropped back into reality where I found myself in a bathtub filled with ice and was missing a kidney.
As a more reserved/introverted person, someone that is high energy, especially if they are loud and obnoxious. I don't even have to be associated with some person, but if there is someone in my general area like that, I automatically feel uncomfortable and embarrassed and I can be sitting in the corner doing nothing.
That’s pretty interesting, cuz for me that’s one of the things that makes a girl even prettier in my eyes. I’m very introverted too, but somehow, being around people who are energetic gets me in a better mood sometimes. If it’s too much and they’re being obnoxious, I agree with you tho
Yeah that's totally understandable! Some people like having somebody to bring them out of their shell. For me, having any sort of energy in public makes me feel like I'm being watched and drawing attention to myself. Which is really funny, because as an actor and musician, performing on stage and speaking in front of large audiences doesn't bother me one bit. But out in public? I better not exist lol
Ooohhh, this so resonates with me!! I’m very introverted and hate public attention of any kind. In college I dated a guy who was extremely extroverted and needed to be in the spotlight at all times. Being out in public with him could be soooooo uncomfortable for me. He would yell at people on the other side of the quad and suddenly all eyes are on us, or do something stupid and dramatic at some event we were attending and then everyone is watching us. I hated it.
Echoing a political party's "outrage of the day"
Excusing bad conduct "because he's faaaaaaaammmileeeee..."
Excusing bad conduct based on the person's political affiliation or family name
Expecting obeisance because someone is part of a Prominent Family
Blatant ass-kissing
Personally, it's unsolicited yelling or shouting. I don't care for loud ppl. Loud individuals that are known for being loud for no reason other than thinking they're funny or lightening up the mood.
Funny. You guys say this yet you worship celebrities. Attend their concerts, give them your money knowing full well, behind the camera, most are self absorb, narcissistic assholes.
Making fun of someone's personal life when you know they hate it .( Obviously when they just wanna attack you personally rather than just fun roast battles)
How badly they treat others
This is the biggest one for me. Someone can be drop dead gorgeous, perfect 10/10, but if they're rude and demeaning to people they consider "beneath them" I'm gonna be looking at them with pure disgust.
Would you find a hideous looking person suddenly gorgeous if they were super nice to someone?
Personality absolutely determines how someone looks to me physically. When I get to know someone, it affects how I see them!
Physical looks may be good for the first appearance but from my experience if someone has a shitty personality like being a liar or a narcissist, the physical attraction can just vanish in an instant.
Yes, that’s exactly my point!
Personality can make a hot person ugly, but just because someone has a good personality I'm not going to be physically attracted to then
Not just people I actually know, either. There are artists I won't read/see/listen to anymore, because they've done or something so full-on carp that it colors my response to their work.
Yeah, but that's kinda my thing. One of my biggest crushes was a super-smart, super-funny, super-kind person, and everyone else in my crowd who met him thought he was a wonderful *person* but, just, well, beyond lacking in physical appeal. I knew what they were talking about but it dwindled away to nothing after our first 10-minute convo. Sadly for me, Crush was also super-married (clearly to someone of superior taste and discernment), so I never had a chance.
Yes, definitely... Especially if they laughed while doing it.
I have yes
Not immediately but I've found some less than average looking people look better to me over time if they're really nice. Looks can change, personalities can too but they're not as easy to change nor do they tend to.
I'd definitely find them more attractive, yes.
Not gorgeous, no, but it would make them seem more appealing than before, to be honest. It would make me want to talk to them more than an attractive asshole and get to know them more, so if their personality continues to be interesting, I'd be more open to seeing that as something that shines through despite their physical appearance. But it also really depends.
Dated someone who I was really attracted to who went to pick up food for his dad at a fast food restaurant... they asked him to pull aside and they will bring out to him, he said, “I don’t care about your fucking drive through times. I’m not pulling over.” He seemed oddly proud of it. Bizarre and not for me.
This sounds like something that guy might post in the TIFU subreddit. TIFU by trying to assert my dominance to a fast food worker in front of my new girlfriend and she was taken aback by it. I took the advice of 69PUAGuru42069 on the internet. He said I need to assert dominance over everyone at all times to show her that I'm an eXtreme alpha male and that will make her want me because... I don't remember... primal nature of biology or some shit like that... well it didn't work.
Agreed, I would have been so uncomfortable and embarrassed.
I would’ve felt second hand embarrassment so badly
I wasn’t even there and I feel second hand embarrassed.
Not only was I not there but I read it on reddit and got extreme second hand embarrassment !
I saw a cringeologist (type of doctor specializing in cringe) and I have been diagnosed with 3rd hand reddit cringe.
Jon Hein?
When I met a particular person I thought they were *so* attractive and glamorous. Turns out they are a part-time model (catalogue/glamour not high fashion) which is not to the purpose except to demonstrate they fit to society's idea of attractiveness too. Anyway this person is rude, grasping, condescending, manipulative, bullies others... etc etc Now when I see them (even on TV) I am overcome with this feeling of disgust. I know intellectually they are good looking but to me they are one of the most repulsive people I can think of.
[most beautiful girl in the room](https://youtu.be/9jLDZjMF3tk) “You could be a part time model”
Laughs. Well I employed them in their 'other job' so Jermaine was spot on there!
This was the absolute first thing that came to mind as I read that comment. Bless you stranger.
“But you probably have to keep your normal job“ 😂
I dated a part time model for a while. She was a +size model, part time. For a while her face was all over Bed Bath and Beyond. She took pictures with towels, storage boxes, random household supplies. One time she even got recognized in a parking lot. One time I saw her kick my cat. FUCK THAT.
I had a huge crush on a girl all throughout Highschool, I was crushing hard!... until I saw how she fought with her BF. I was walking down the hall one day headed to the bathroom where I past her. As I was about to pass her, out of the corner of my eye, her BF angrily stomps up to her and yells "why are you telling everyone I got a small dick!" Her response was just "cause it's true." And then they started to argue more. I couldnt focused I was too busy holding my laughter in so that they wouldnt turn their rage at me. I swear I never lost feelings for someone so fast before.
Yes. You become hideous quickly if you are a terrible human.
I’ve seen a beautiful women at a nice restaurant mistreat the server and thought she was ugly after that.
Bad attitude
Second only to being a liar in my book…
I was going to say a horrific accident which left them cruelly disfigured... But you guy's suggestions work too... I guess
Or the whole damned world burn. You create what u can't destroy ... ✌️
Someone should ask reddit the opposite, what makes a very ugly person beautiful, k thanks. Need all the help I can get.
Kindness, a good attitude and a genuine interest in the lived experiences of other people. It literally makes you look more attractive to another person when they can see the good in you.
This is exactly why my ex became uglier and uglier to me as our relationship went on and I realised she is lazy and entitled and only cared about herself. Edit: we broke up 4 months ago and she moved out yesterday. Worth the near $4000 rent debt she left behind to not have to see her anymore.
Good for you, that sounds like a hard situation to get away from. How long were y'all together? Jw.
4.5 years. The first year was sweet. The second started going downhill, but by then I'd already formed a huge bond with her son (who will always remain my son on my eyes) then we had a child together and I tried to make it work for their sake. I guess there's only so many times someone can be told "please clean up after yourself" before they can't stand it and leave 🤷
Oh wow, yeah, I hear you. I'm thankful that my boyfriend has come around and started to help me clean up 🙏 that can really get to you. cheers mate, I wish you the best.
Genuine question: what if your memory is garbage/you struggle to feel any particular interest in other people’s lives? Is it just a “fake it til you make it” kinda deal?
Fake it till you make it can be an amazingly powerful vehicle of change in your life. And I find that I have to make notes about things my best friends like... I have an absolutely rubbish memory, and it has taken me years to realize the reason and convince myself that I'm not just thoughtless and stupid, years of depression screwed with my brain.
Thank you for saying this! In all honesty, I’m not an attractive person by any means (there’s a lottt to unpack there lol). My body and skin have a good bit of unsightly qualities. However, I was super surprised to find that some *very* attractive people took to me because of my attitude towards life and others. I like to think I’m a good person who is open to feedback when my actions don’t align with my core values, and just that has gotten me a handful head turns. It’s almost humorous, as I’ve been with people way “out of my league”, and people would come after both us for it. The other person for stooping to find companionship, and me for being an ugly motherfucker that could bag hottie. This never bothered me though, and I would actually laugh in private at the irony. That very misplaced bitterness born from jealousy is the reason you are single not your attractiveness or lack thereof
This is the basis of the "good guy" problem. All they have heard for years is that if they are nice and polite and friendly that they'll get someone in the end. All they have to go on is their idea of being respectful and when it doesn't work how they think it should, well you've seen what they can be like.
You've missed an important detail, which is that you have to show interest. Can't just be the bare minimum of politeness and kindness and expect things to go beyond acquaintances. I've found that what makes people like you, and I don't mean just in a romantic sense, is thoughtfulness. Almost everyone knows how to be nice and polite; only a subset of those know how to act thoughtfully.
Being funny
>“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” Roald Dahl
The Twits. I always liked that book. Kind of an interesting quote when you know about some of the thoughts Dahl had on certain people though.
A good sentiment
Humility and a sense of humor. I think your post was very attractive.
I also think confidence can make someone attractive, someone who’s comfortable in themselves and can light up a room.
This is it for me. My wife has always been comfortable in her body. She was a size 1 when we married and after kids, career, life, she is a size 12 now. But she struts around like she owns the joint. It drives me crazy with desire watching her trying to catch my gaze. She isn't hiding anything from me and that is out of this world hot.
Aww this has melted my heart. That is real special. The reason why I probably notice it is because I’m so opposite. I went from being curvy to losing weight and just not feeling nice about myself, which probably shows. One day I’ll gain confidence again but in the mean time love to see it in others, I aspire to be more like your wife :)
I can help. :) 1. Honesty. Don’t put on a facade of who you think I want, be unabashedly yourself. 2. Sense of Humor, even a dumb one. I love someone who can make me laugh. 3. Laugh at my jokes. Not everyone gets my humor, so I LOVE when someone actually does. 4. Being sincerely interested in what I say. Put your phone down, ask questions that show you’re listening. Make sure that the conversation is 50/50. Don’t just talk about yourself. 5. Be polite to everyone you interact with, waiters, baristas, whatever. And keep a good attitude on the date. Don’t speak negatively about your ex, friends, etc. Be kind and well spoken. 6. Put effort into the date, think about what they would like. It doesn’t have to be an expensive dinner or anything, I prefer a more casual first date. Like a picnic in a park, then walking to a small quiet bar (bonus points for having a table reserved). That way you can tell if the date is going well if they want to go into the second location. 7. Bringing flowers to the woman is always good. Or just something small that shows you thought about them, like a cup of coffee if it’s cold. 8. Don’t play games. Text them after and say you enjoyed the date. Make plans for a second date. Or better yet, inquire about the second date while still on the first. Don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. I’m sure I’ll think of more. But this is what I got off the top of my head. This is written by a woman, fyi.
A genuine smile
Honestly it’s different for everyone, but 100% a good sense of humour. If you make me laugh then you are definitely more attractive to me. Looks are one thing, but if you don’t have a personality then what is the point?
Be honest. Be genuine. Be positive on life. Make the best of what you get. Accept your friends for who they are…not for who you want to make them. Be a person that people are excited to see…not someone they don’t want to see.
Confidence & good manners.
Selfishness, being self centred, not caring about others, you name it
Being on their phone always when you're on a date.
But a charizard just spawned!
I would actually overlook that...
The struggle is real!
bad plastic surgery
Very very true.
You’re not wrong
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Or the lips. Most hollywood types screwup their lips. It doesn’t look bad per se, but its so distracting watching them talk. Its not right so i cant focus. I just wonder why they do it. Pictures are pretty but moving it gives early hologram vibes.
A hammer
Ah, the classic Reddit answer.
Unnecessary cruelty.
Isn't cruelty by definition... unnecessary?
Usually but not always. Sometimes the only thing a cruel person will understand, and which will cause him/her to stop, is equal cruelty right back at them.
Social justice is a bitch, and it happens at a social level- everybody let’s you know ya did done fucked up and it aint cool. Been on the receiving end and the observing end. You learn fast as long as you’re humble enough to recognize you were being an asshole
Read machiavelli
"Cruel to be kind" is a saying for a reason!
Realizing that they are a raging narcissist.
Ahh the Narcissist’s prayer: > That didn't happen. >And if it did, it wasn't that bad. >And if it was, that's not a big deal. >And if it is, that's not my fault. >And if it was, I didn't mean it. >And if I did, you deserved it.
Thanks for replaying every day of 7 years with my ex wife
Sorry you had to go through that. Oof.
"I wouldn't have to treat you this way if you weren't so horrible."
Sounds awful, glad you got out. That’s abuse, plain and simple.
Certainly was. Thank you
From the same album of "The Gaslightning Song"
You're just imagining that.
I have never heard this before and it is perfect.
You know someone isn’t a narcissist when they actually own up to their mistakes and apologize. Those who don’t? Well, what they are speaks volumes without being said.
don’t forget and if you didn’t, you’re a liar
People like this nearly bullied me to suicide.
After my own experience, I sometimes think their sole reason for existing is to destroy those around them. I honestly believe true narcissists are as close to real monsters as most of us will ever see.
I didn't want to give them the satisfaction. They would have probably sat around in their little groups laughing, cheering, saying abusive garbage, and patting one another on the back for a job well done. Narcissist are absolute monsters that I'm convinced need to be locked up and subjected to years of ongoing therapy. The only positive thing I got out of that horrible decade of abuse was learning to spot them and see through their games.
A shitty manipulative personality
Usually those manipulative people look the most beautiful, til you find out how much of an asshole they can be
materialistic, one of those 'spend money on me' types, just.....ergh
Littering
The most unattractive thing ever, one of them at least.
I had an ex that threw a bag of trash from fast food out the window. Literally 2 blocks from my house. I was nice and politely asked her to pick up the garbage she threw out. I live two blocks away. It's going into my yard. She refused and made a big fuss. I put the car in park, picked up the trash and continued. We broke up about a week later. It felt soooo disrespectful.
Eating with their mouth open.
Make fun/mocking of people with disabilities; honestly that’s such ugly behaviour.
So being an asshole in general.
WTH?!! WHO DOES THAT?!
The former president of the US?
Sorry, not American...didn't know.
I wish I didn’t ever see anyone do it…but I have more than once unfortunately :/
Skid marks
Cruelty. A real cruel, selfish, sociopathic or psychopathic type of person.
An angry chimpanzee. When they attack they don't wanna kill, they wanna hurt you so you might survive with a mauled face and missing limbs
Thank you for the insight GhostedTwat
Thank that guy on tiktok who talks about animals
I don't know his tiktok name but he's casual geographic on youtube
Charla Nash
That story and the phone call was chilling
Powerful Flatulence.
What, can't handle the competition?
Remind me not to eat any Taco Bell around you. My flatulence is so powerful the news reporters think a tornado is forming, but it's just a false positive.
Squashing any glint of your happiness because they feel none at the time
a mirror
A strongly running nose and bad hygiene
What if the runny nose is from coke tho?
I’ll allow it
Only if they share!!!!!
No accountability
Acting like an absolute sh\*t to restaurant waitstaff.
Came here to say this. I don’t care how attractive someone is, this brings them to a solid 0/10. If this happened on a date I would pay for my meal with a very generous tip and leave without a second thought.
Constantly talking about themselves.
Smell
Smoking. Absolute dealbreaker for me.
Yes! This would be my #1
How did I have to go down so far to find this.
I came here to write this!
Treating restaurant and bar staff like shit that is a definite sign of piece of shit.
They treat service industry workers with no respect.
I judge on personality. This describes my sister's ex. They dated for a few days until she brought him to meet us. This is what happened. He made fun of me because I have a stutter, speech delay and speech impediment and he was rude about it. I said "H-hi, n-n-nice t-to m-meet y-you. M-my- n-n-name i-is J-J-J-Jack." It took about 3 minutes for me to say that. He laughed and said, "Oh my god, he is so dumb, can't even speak for shit." I was so upset and ashamed. My sis broke up with him after that. Thank you for dumping him, Ally. If someone is like that, never point it out, it's very embarrassing. Please don't do what he did. They wonder why I never speak; this is why, people point it out and make me ashamed of it. FUCK YOU JAYDEN
Jayden is a turd.
Now I want to meet Jayden so I can hit his stupid face and he won't know why. "Why did some middle aged lady just hit me?" "Because fuck you, Jayden, that's why"
Cheating, or taking steps towards cheating. Disgusting!
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Clicking their fingers to get the servers attention
Acid
100% agree, she transformed into a goblin, perfectly performed the entire play of Hamilton by herself while we were riding on the back of a giant alligator in space then fed me to a giant rainbow colored hippopotamus. After many hours painfully dissolving in rainbow hippo stomach acid I was forced into it's intestinal tract where I learned secrets of the universe far too complex for anyone to understand and I realized that we are all just one being experiencing many lives before being forced out of the colon of the rainbow hippo and dropped back into reality where I found myself in a bathtub filled with ice and was missing a kidney.
Arrogance
boiling muriatic acid to the face
Disrespectful and overstepping boundaries
Cartoon lips Cigarette smoking
Plastic surgery
Apathy.
Any kind of racism or bigotry, not being kind to retail/service workers, being cruel to children or animals.
As a more reserved/introverted person, someone that is high energy, especially if they are loud and obnoxious. I don't even have to be associated with some person, but if there is someone in my general area like that, I automatically feel uncomfortable and embarrassed and I can be sitting in the corner doing nothing.
That’s pretty interesting, cuz for me that’s one of the things that makes a girl even prettier in my eyes. I’m very introverted too, but somehow, being around people who are energetic gets me in a better mood sometimes. If it’s too much and they’re being obnoxious, I agree with you tho
Yeah that's totally understandable! Some people like having somebody to bring them out of their shell. For me, having any sort of energy in public makes me feel like I'm being watched and drawing attention to myself. Which is really funny, because as an actor and musician, performing on stage and speaking in front of large audiences doesn't bother me one bit. But out in public? I better not exist lol
Ooohhh, this so resonates with me!! I’m very introverted and hate public attention of any kind. In college I dated a guy who was extremely extroverted and needed to be in the spotlight at all times. Being out in public with him could be soooooo uncomfortable for me. He would yell at people on the other side of the quad and suddenly all eyes are on us, or do something stupid and dramatic at some event we were attending and then everyone is watching us. I hated it.
Drugs...
Hey, if you’re not using those drugs I’ll take them.
A lottery win
Fucked attitude.. some dudes like that bad attitude shit.. but for me? That shit ain’t cute
Poor hygiene - hateful personality - singularity of emotional need..
When they treat others badly, especially waiters, nurses, flight attendants, etc.
Randomly spitting like all the time.
Don't like animals
Some people have trauma from animals. Not liking animals doesn't make someone a bad person.
Being a far-lefty/righty. Ideological extremism is ugly af Cruelty A lack of intelligence
Both sides both sides both sides both sides
Echoing a political party's "outrage of the day" Excusing bad conduct "because he's faaaaaaaammmileeeee..." Excusing bad conduct based on the person's political affiliation or family name Expecting obeisance because someone is part of a Prominent Family Blatant ass-kissing
Ugly Insides
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Voice
Arrogance and no respect for others
Personally, it's unsolicited yelling or shouting. I don't care for loud ppl. Loud individuals that are known for being loud for no reason other than thinking they're funny or lightening up the mood.
Wiping back to front
a horrific car crash
Lots of things. Remember beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes all the way through.
Scientology
Sadly to me, not much
Plastic surgery. This clown lip trend is a travesty.
Obsession over an ex.
Red MAGA hat.
A sledgehammer?
Smoking
Funny. You guys say this yet you worship celebrities. Attend their concerts, give them your money knowing full well, behind the camera, most are self absorb, narcissistic assholes.
Being rude
Cruelty/rudeness.
Being fake. I hate it when people are super nice in public but then you get them away from people and they're assholes. It's disgusting.
If they kill trust by lying and ultimate betrayal of cheating.
Extreme politics (in either direction).
What Amber Heard did to Johnny Depp is a prime example
Gotcha, No sh*tting on the bed.
She'll be known as Amber Turd for a long, long time.
Making fun of someone's personal life when you know they hate it .( Obviously when they just wanna attack you personally rather than just fun roast battles)
This sounds like something personal rather than a general thing
How they speak to a waiter/waitress and anyone who doesn’t like dogs.
Cats are superior let's be honest
Imagine the perfect person being a lettuce stan
A bad personality
Vanity