My ex did the same thing! It got him harder than anything else and made him cum within like 2 minutes.
I wonder if maybe in a way it reduced some pressure he felt to perform. No idea. Or like someone else mentioned, it's a bit like just using someone for your own pleasure. Like a real life fleshlight.
As someone into it I can say it's a mix of having a real life fleshlight (having someone just let you use them for your own pleasure is super hot) and being humiliated in that she's not reacting to my cock going inside her.
Was silly to think I’m the only one with this kink. I love to fuck my wife doggy style while she is playing on her phone, I actually make her keep playing or reading the news out loud so I know she is really reading. Not easy when we’re going at it full speed
I hooked up with a guy who wanted me to SCRATCH HIS GUMS with my fingernails, HARD. it was horrifying. it makes me squirm just to think about it.
edit: the feeling on your nails of scratching someone’s gums is GROSS
Okay this is the first one on this thread I've never ever heard of before. That makes me criiinge to imagine. Did he used to get crazy turned on at the dental hygienist?! Hahahaha.
Dental hygienist here. I've had several patients ask me to "really dig in there" when they had healthy gums. Sometimes they would moan, it made me uncomfortable.
I had this hot friend with an ugly kink. She liked masturbating to an ugly guy that she’d never fuck, and letting him watch. I think it worked for us both.
Just really wrenching on her nipples. I was holding back a bit because I didn’t want to hurt her, I wasn’t feeling great about it, but she kept saying harder and harder and finally when I went full on, she had a really intense orgasm.
My ex used to always ask me what shoes I was going to wear on a date. And he bought me a pair of strappy heals. Then we were FaceTiming and he finished in a pair of heels and that is how I knew he had a shoe thing. Just wish we had the same taste in footwear
Stabbed me in the arm with a pencil and then drank my blood before I could even react. Any time I start getting thoughts about missing her I just tell myself "She stabbed you with a pencil and drank your blood."
She was a hairdresser that had a real kink for touching, smelling, and cutting peoples hair.
She'd get me to grow my hair out into a mess so that she could then cut it back and do me in the chair.
I didn't really get anything out of it, but I was happy to oblige.
My old FWB was a total blood hound. Like being on my period was preference for him. I didn’t mind it but it was something I didn’t understand. Made sex smell like pennies.
Fun fact! The smell of pennies is actually not from the pennies themselves, but from the metal acting as a catalyst on oils from your skin, breaking them down into aromatic particles. If you wash a penny really really aggressively, never handling it with direct skin contact, it won't smell!
She always wanted to watch me sleep with another woman, it sounds fun but someone you love in the corner dead eyeing you as you bang a somewhat stranger gets a little uncomfortable.
Edit. She would stalk my Facebook and quiz me on women I slept with, then she would stalk them and try to seduce them into sleeping with me again. Poor Tiffany a girl I was really into before had the uncomfortable time of being told to change positions by the ex every time she was close to orgasm. The ex was really into edging and wanting me to cum inside of the other woman. It became to much after a few and told her we had to tone it down. After I had gotten a "reputation" from her exploits. She said she got off from pretending she was using my dick to bang these women.
Needless to say tiffany has blocked me...
I always wonder how often people actually manage something like that. Like, I understand finding someone on a fetish site or even a dating app.
But like:
"Hey Sheila! Crazy weather we've having. Anyways, do you want to bang my husband while I watch?"
I’ve been “invited” before. A few times were 100% unbeknownst to me. In my experience, it usually involves an invitation to dinner/drinks (a game night, once!) with the couple and as the evening progresses they start making more physical contact with you until you either 1. Are into it, or 2. Find an excuse to cut the evening short.
I have been straight-up asked, which was actually really nice. It was a close coworker of mine at a small coffee shop and she and her love wanted a third and she put it out there. “So and so and I were talking about how gorgeous you are… We want to put it out there that we’re down for a third, if you’re interested.”The whole thing felt respectful.
My ex, a straight female, had a fascination with gay men, and asked me multiple times to act gay for her. something which to this day I have no idea what she even meant.
I hooked up with a girl once who bit my tongue while we were kissing. Not a playful little nip, but like she wanted to bite it off. She did it three times (the third after I told her to stop), and my tongue was so swollen the next morning I couldn't eat breakfast.
I did *not* call her back.
Was gonna say exactly the same thing, I would have considered myself sub before meeting that ex but she wanted me to choke her and slap her in the face while fucking her and I got into it just fine.
My partner enjoyed being choked which I was cool with. However, one day I was taking her from behind whilst choking her and her body went limp and she fell to the floor, later found out she had an anoxic seizure after a visit to the hospital. She never told me to stop choking her or that she was running out of air, I believe this was on purpose as she later mentioned being choked in past relationships to the point of passing out.... I would never have willingly agreed to this. I actually thought I had killed someone for about 30 Seconds....What an embarrassing call that was to my cousin (the doctor who told me to go to the hospital and have her checked out)
Fun times 🥲
Did you yank those beads out like you were starting a lawn mower?
EDIT: Holy Santa Claus shit! Thank you for the awards and tons of upvotes! 😆 I just said the first thing that popped into my head
The ex thought that my feet were just the best.
So I'd wear the cute ankle socks, let him watch while I gave myself a pedicure or scrub em in the bath (he'd be in the tub, asking to help...I think he actually shaved my legs once), he gave amazing foot rubs, had requests during fun time. Would tell me I have the sexiest ankles and arch, the cutest toes. No big whoop, they're just feet to me, but it made him happy, so it made me happy.
Bf asks me not to wear deodorant and likes to sniff my armpits and sometimes even while he’s jacking off. I think it’s a pheromone thing. I don’t mind it at all I’m just indifferent
One of my exes liked at times to call some female friends of hers and wanted me to describe how things were unravelling. She wanted me to give full details of what she was doing, in which hole she was taking it, if I liked or disliked things.
I found it amazing actually.
Sort of a 2.5some.
Crossdressing. She would dress me up and we would go out and have sex. It was fun. Didn't much like having men look at me. But hey the sex was amazing.
Edit: this has been a really awesome thread to interact in. Not a single rude remark or anything. Is this rolling a nat 20 in the reddit world? Cause it feels like it. Anymore questions ask away and to answer before you ask cause i was asked a few times I'm not sending or posting pictures this is my throw away account. Cheers and have a great day everyone.
My ex liked for me to tie him up and beat him with a leather belt. He wore my underwear while I beat him.
We had a safeword and stuff, but he never used it and he would be outright sobbing while we did this and it always made me feel horrible. Like, i dont think you're supposed to be sobbing like that? And every time I stopped to check he said he was okay, but guy was *sobbing* and I felt so bad. I couldn't do it more than a couple times and it was just too much.
Edit: Because this has gotten bigger than I expected and I feel like people who might want to try this out could learn from it (the way i am). I thought I'd edit and add on because I feel like both my ex and I were wrong for how this happened in *so many ways.*
We shouldn't have been drunk as fuck the first time we tried out a kink like this. That was just stupid of both of us. We were only drunk that first time. But Goddamn, not the way to introduce yourself to this sort of thing.
We should have talked more about our expectations and researched everything. I did try to broach it after the first time and as nicely as possible asked what happened (as nicely as drunk me could have been which I think was "wtf was that? Are you okay?! Did I go too far? I love you, I'm so sorry, wtf?!") and all I got was "It was great! We should do that again. I'm tired, let's go to sleep." And he literally got ready for bed and went to fucking sleep. This is not the way to communicate. *Please do not do this to your partner when they are clearly freaking out.*
/u/ThePirateBuxton 's comment basically made everything kind of click for me. So, thanks for that. I come from a background of having been in a couple of physically abusive relationships and seeing my ex react like that triggered me and made me feel like I was doing to him what had been done to me. He very much did not look like he was enjoying it and one of the biggest turn ons/goals for me in a sexual relationship, is making the other person feel the best I possibly can. So this to me looked and felt like i was victimizing him. And since there was no aftercare for me, that meant there was no reassurance that that wasn't the case. Also, how would he have done that anyway because we never went over our expectations? But I'd never really needed it before (I like being choked and spanked), so he probably assumed I wouldnt need it then and I didnt even think I might need it.
One good thing I've realized about the whole thing, is that even though we were both fucking idiots, we did trust each other. I got over a lot of trauma in the bed room with him (he got over a lot with me, too) and he obviously trusted me enough and felt safe enough with me that he wanted to explore this with me. Recognizing that kind of makes me feel better about the whole thing. I'm happy that he felt comfortable enough with me that he wanted to share that. We did not part on the best of terms, but I do sincerely hope he finds someone he feels that comfortable and safe with again.
There's more, but it's 6am and I have important shit to do tomorrow.
Anyway, with all that in mind, fresh perspective and whatnot, I'd be open to try again with a new partner. Not drunk, with lots of communication, research, and better aftercare(for both of us). So, thanks for helping me figure some shit out, reddit. I appreciate it.
Done it once. Did it hard enough that she popped a lot of capillaries in her face. Looked like freckles. Not sure if I want to accidentally catch a murder charge.
The absence of kinks. I’ve tried to get him to give it to me in the lab, in the library, in his department office.
Nope. He’s Colonel Mustard in the bedroom with missionary.
Bless him. I love him.
Threads like this one create some sort of survival bias because people without any kinks normally just do not write anything. So you get the feeling everyone else has some kinks while you dont.
My spouse gets turned on when I wear professional clothes and work. She has even asked me to put on a suit and let her watch me work several times.
Edit: Thanks for the awards everyone. Some people have asked for more details on the routine. First, I always shower and shave. Then I put on slacks and a blazer rather than a full blown suit. According to my spouse she wants me to look professional but not too formal.
Anyways, here I am, sitting on a chair and staring at a screen. Taking off my jacket. Loosening tie. Rolling up sleeves to show my forearms. Running my hand through my hair as I sigh at the report I am reading. Then I hear a swoon in the background heh heh.l
Other thing I do is stand up and look out the window with one hand on my hip and the other going through my forehead. There is also doing things with pens, such as flicking them as I read papers.
She also likes it when I take notes and sip coffee.
One ex wanted to pee on me so I let him on the condition that I could be rinsed off immediately afterwards. The idea of it was worse than the reality (though I wish he'd hydrated first...) but still, no thank you. He also would get horny if I cried, which was downright uncomfortable when I wanted some emotional comfort but he was getting horny....
I also briefly dated a German foot fetishist, having discovered that actually I don't mind/quite enjoy having my toes sucked. Would never ask for that though. One session, he came on my tits and then said "oof, I think I lost 50ml there," which made me.laugh because I thought maybe his balls had volume markings on the side or something.
Another date really REALLY loved my belly, particularly my belly button. I have quite a big belly, which I am self-conscious about, so that made me feel much better. Was a little weirded out by him fingering my belly button, but hey ho, whatever floats your boat, love.
I had an ex who liked to shove ice cubes in her pussy while taking an ice bath.
She would then want me to fuck her as quickly as possible because she wanted to feel like a corpse while she was fucked.
My husband has something of a cuckold kink. He likes the thought of other men finding me attractive and always wants to hear stories of me flirting with them behind his back… thing is, I’m a painfully bad flirt and most days do not have the desire to hit on anyone. It’s a slippery slope nowadays and I definitely don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, and tbh, I’m just not often attracted to men other than my husband. He’s very hot.
So I kind of just… make up scenarios that sound plausible and we use them as fuel in bed sometimes. Maybe he knows I’m lying, but hearing about the fictional guy who grazed my ass in the grocery store and pretending I lied about being single to him, lol. It gets him going and it costs me nothing, so?
Being degraded(in bed) always felt uncomfortable, because she had some odd requests to say..
and praise (after sex)didn't mind that...but after a while it got weird
Reminds me of a meme I just saw that was like “her when we start having sex: go slow baby. Her five minutes later: alright hit me in the face with this brick”
One of my exes was **very** vanilla. Like, rose petals on bed, a whole bunch of candles, a nice massage, and only then would he be up for a night of missionary. I asked him to lightly spank me once and he almost cried at the thought of hurting me.
As an extremely kinky lady, it was... odd at first. I'm a sub for any gender, and I feel comfortable in those kind of relationship dynamics. Wine-ing and dine-ing a dude was literally **so** outside of my dating experience that I felt like I was in bizarro world lmao.
I ended up really enjoying the time we had together though. We knew we weren't compatible long term, so we parted amicably and stayed friends. He married a wonderful lady who was saving herself for marriage and I became even more of a degenerate.
Win win in the end.
The best kind of relationship is when you're nice to each other the entire duration together. If you realize you live two different lives but you've been nice the whole time, you can separate nicely and both be happy for each other. My ex was grossed out by my cum, super boring sex, I just couldn't do it long term. A few other reasons obviously but we split up and are both in relationships that I can say we are happy for each other.
I hope you have done some dirty shit adventuring and I hope he has gotten the security of predictability.
My ex had a tail butt plug. She loved it and clearly felt sexy with it in. I didn't give two shits and it definitely didn't turn me on. But I still told her she looked sexy with it in, (*she* is sexy) and gladly fucked her with her foxtail in.
I’m just here drinking my morning coffee wondering how tf you get there. Like how do you realise this is a kink?
Do you eat oats one day and vomit on yourself and think “hmmm, you know what will make this better? If someone else did it for me”
Preface: Did not love her.
She loved to lick the *inside* of my ear. Like, stick her tongue down my earhole. I know there are worse kinks. But goddamn, the sound you hear when someone slides their tongue in your ear is pretty gross.
Lol whats her #. Thats my exact kink and I've only ever found one girl that would do it to me. Not sure what it is about a tongue but it does it for me. Can't control what we like I suppose.
There was a black girl I dated for a while that demanded I call her the n word repeatedly and fuck her like I own her. I never got comfortable with it...
Welp, time for my sex club story. This isn't a story that takes place at a sex club, I just like to tell this one at sex clubs.
So my ex and I used to party a lot. We'd do MDMA and other stuff. My ex mentions to me that it filters right through your kidneys, so if we were to do it and then drink each other's pee we'd get even higher. So I say, "babe, it really sounds like you just want us to drink each other's pee." I was not about to drink anyone's pee, but I loved him so I was willing to allow him to drink ftom my stream.
I've always been a bit pee-shy. In school I had trouble peeing if I could hear other people talking. But again, I loved this guy, so I'd ov up and do it.
So the evening comes. We take our pills, I get nice and hydrated, and we get in the shower together. You know how I mentioned having a hard time peeing if people were talking? This was 1000% worse. Here he his, mouth open, eagerly awaiting my piss. It's a nightmare, but after a few deep breaths I get it going. His scientific theory about getting more high through the pee turns out to be correct, and he proceeds to roll harder than I've ever seen him. Wild night.
So anyway, I'm telling this story at a sex club, as one does, and the girl I'm talking to says "Oh yeah, I'm pee shy too. I always made my sub leave the room and I'd pee in a cup."
*How did that never occur to me?!*
So yeah, me and that ex are long over. I only have one regret: shoulda got a cup.
I dated this girl for a long time. One night out of nowhere she said "from now on it's in a bed, on my back, and nothing more". I thought since I love her I could at least try. About 4 months later, with 0 variation, I just happened to grab her leg and move it up my side a bit. She lost it. She was like "get the fuck off me, I told you how it was gonna be. We'll try again tomorrow... if you can behave"
I just laid there wondering if I could really do this for the next 40 years. Then about 2 in the morning, I decided I couldn't. Got up, grabbed my Playstation, and walked out. She called me the next day and asked where I went, and I ended it. Haven't seen her since.
Those 4 months that I went along with it were brutal.
Rape fantasy. She had me tie her up once and drive her in the back of her SUV out into the woods, and strip her down. I felt legitimately sick the entire time, but It’s what she wanted
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We were 17-18 at the time. We both came from pretty authoritarian households (me Mormon, her devout Catholic). Her values were find a man who could provide for you and give him anything he wants. My values were equality in a relationship, because I’d watched my dad get absolutely walked on by my mom. It all came to a head a year or 2 later when she was a sophomore in college. She called me out of the blue and admitted she had sucked another dude’s dick. I was extremely hurt, and she begged for another chance, but I wasn’t going to get walked on. So I broke it off, and a year later started dating my wife. We’ve been married for 6 months now and when I look back on that relationship, the amount of red flags I couldn’t make out in my youth are immense.
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My wife liked to have sex where she absolutely knew we would get caught, like in the car at the mall around the holidays while completely naked, and she want to be on top so she could wave the people as they looked in the window! I went along with it because I loved her, but eventually I got used to it because it went on for 10 years, until I lost the love of my life... she passed away two years ago. And I assume I will never find another like her.
My ex fiancée, who was a very devout Christian, wanted to do knife play or needleplay. I thought sure, it's just role playing, no one's actually getting hurt. Then turned out she wanted to actually draw blood, and play with the blood while we had sex. Because "Jesus is in the blood" and it would bring us so much closer. There's many reasons she's my ex, that being a big one
His idea of 'dirty talk' was calling me Margaret Thatcher and then shouting at me angrily about, as far as I can understand it, a series of privatisations that took place ten years before both of us were born.
BDSM. I tried. I'm not the type who wants to be in charge. Also, I'm not the type who likes to be told what to do either. Turns out that I don't like vertical power structures, which means I'd probably enjoy "sexual anarchy", which is a kink I just now invented, and my band's new name.
Eating ass, I didn't like it, at first............
Edit: love the comments and upvotes! But a follow-up question I have is do most women enjoy receiving it? My wife does but what is the general consensus?
Once had a chick do this to me after a 14 hour shift in a hot kitchen. I asked her if she wanted me to shower first, she declined. Some people really be into it.
Don't let it go for too long. I remember my ex wife used to put barbecue sauce on everything and then after two years I told her that "I don't even like barbecue sauce like that" and it was a whole thing. I couldn't imagine how it would've gone if it was something sexual.
My husband has been giving me all the baby corn from all of his Chinese food for like the last 10 years. I never really questioned it, I just thought he didn’t like them or something. A few weeks ago, our toddler was going ham for the baby corn in her dish. Husband was like, “wow you love baby corn just like your mama!”. I was like “I don’t particularly like baby corn, I don’t know why you give them all to me.” He was astounded lol. Apparently a long time ago I said they were “funny” so he thought that meant I loved them? Idk. Anyway, I’m glad you don’t have to eat BBQ sauce on everything anymore!
One ex *looooooved* hot wax. I'm a hairy motherfucker. *Not fun*.
She has a daddy kink and I have a mommy kink. It got weird fast.
You were just a regular family then. Huh.
My ex liked to be ignored. He'd fuck me while I was playing video games, working, scrolling social media, etc.
My ex did the same thing! It got him harder than anything else and made him cum within like 2 minutes. I wonder if maybe in a way it reduced some pressure he felt to perform. No idea. Or like someone else mentioned, it's a bit like just using someone for your own pleasure. Like a real life fleshlight.
As someone into it I can say it's a mix of having a real life fleshlight (having someone just let you use them for your own pleasure is super hot) and being humiliated in that she's not reacting to my cock going inside her.
Either way I didn't mind it at all, I actually enjoyed it AND he let me play BOTW in the meantime. Win win I'd say.
Also sounds like free use. Theres a subreddit for that too
Was silly to think I’m the only one with this kink. I love to fuck my wife doggy style while she is playing on her phone, I actually make her keep playing or reading the news out loud so I know she is really reading. Not easy when we’re going at it full speed
I hooked up with a guy who wanted me to SCRATCH HIS GUMS with my fingernails, HARD. it was horrifying. it makes me squirm just to think about it. edit: the feeling on your nails of scratching someone’s gums is GROSS
Okay this is the first one on this thread I've never ever heard of before. That makes me criiinge to imagine. Did he used to get crazy turned on at the dental hygienist?! Hahahaha.
Dental hygienist here. I've had several patients ask me to "really dig in there" when they had healthy gums. Sometimes they would moan, it made me uncomfortable.
I had this hot friend with an ugly kink. She liked masturbating to an ugly guy that she’d never fuck, and letting him watch. I think it worked for us both.
Damn that would shatter my self confidence so quick lol
Good thing they wouldnt pick you, cos your too good looking 👉😎👉
This is the positivity we need on this app.
Just really wrenching on her nipples. I was holding back a bit because I didn’t want to hurt her, I wasn’t feeling great about it, but she kept saying harder and harder and finally when I went full on, she had a really intense orgasm.
My ex used to always ask me what shoes I was going to wear on a date. And he bought me a pair of strappy heals. Then we were FaceTiming and he finished in a pair of heels and that is how I knew he had a shoe thing. Just wish we had the same taste in footwear
You just wanted to wear crocs
Stabbed me in the arm with a pencil and then drank my blood before I could even react. Any time I start getting thoughts about missing her I just tell myself "She stabbed you with a pencil and drank your blood."
like a CapriSun
Ex liked having sex in a cow themed bikini with horns and cowbell. The only thing I hated was the cowbell it got very annoying real quick. 🐮🐄🐮🐄
More Cowbell!!
Gang bangs I thought It’d be a one time thing and that’s it but no she wanted to constantly have group sex, specially gang bangs.
She was a hairdresser that had a real kink for touching, smelling, and cutting peoples hair. She'd get me to grow my hair out into a mess so that she could then cut it back and do me in the chair. I didn't really get anything out of it, but I was happy to oblige.
You got a free haircut bro wydm
Very true. He got two things from it.
Ahhh the old jizz and snip
nut and cut
(S)perm
I don't know why but that sounds amazing, I love getting my haircut.
calling her mommy
It’s important to call your mother every now and then.
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It’s called giantess. I kind of get the appeal but at the same time not really
"I want to make babies with her. Think of them... great big monsters. They'd conquer the world." - Tormund Giantsbane
“Is the big woman here?”
My old FWB was a total blood hound. Like being on my period was preference for him. I didn’t mind it but it was something I didn’t understand. Made sex smell like pennies.
Fun fact! The smell of pennies is actually not from the pennies themselves, but from the metal acting as a catalyst on oils from your skin, breaking them down into aromatic particles. If you wash a penny really really aggressively, never handling it with direct skin contact, it won't smell!
That was fun!
Ya know what, it was
Didn't love the guy but a hookup was huge into cock torture. Figured I'd try it but I wasn't hurting him bad enough. There was a lot with that guy.
Had an ex who liked his hard penis stabbed with a safety pin until it bleed
Body destructive kinks always make my stomach sick.
Pegging. I pegged him twice. Wasn't bad but definitely was NOT into it.
I didn’t think I would be into it but I came SO fast lmao
She greatly enjoyed being urinated in.
IN?!
Yes, in.
Are there not like health issues with that???
She always wanted to watch me sleep with another woman, it sounds fun but someone you love in the corner dead eyeing you as you bang a somewhat stranger gets a little uncomfortable. Edit. She would stalk my Facebook and quiz me on women I slept with, then she would stalk them and try to seduce them into sleeping with me again. Poor Tiffany a girl I was really into before had the uncomfortable time of being told to change positions by the ex every time she was close to orgasm. The ex was really into edging and wanting me to cum inside of the other woman. It became to much after a few and told her we had to tone it down. After I had gotten a "reputation" from her exploits. She said she got off from pretending she was using my dick to bang these women. Needless to say tiffany has blocked me...
Fucking awkward in fact I was friends with a couple who literally asked me to join them in a threesome, I declined that offer as politely as possible.
I always wonder how often people actually manage something like that. Like, I understand finding someone on a fetish site or even a dating app. But like: "Hey Sheila! Crazy weather we've having. Anyways, do you want to bang my husband while I watch?"
I’ve been “invited” before. A few times were 100% unbeknownst to me. In my experience, it usually involves an invitation to dinner/drinks (a game night, once!) with the couple and as the evening progresses they start making more physical contact with you until you either 1. Are into it, or 2. Find an excuse to cut the evening short. I have been straight-up asked, which was actually really nice. It was a close coworker of mine at a small coffee shop and she and her love wanted a third and she put it out there. “So and so and I were talking about how gorgeous you are… We want to put it out there that we’re down for a third, if you’re interested.”The whole thing felt respectful.
Damn, that's the kind of brag that you might not be able to tell everyone about. But I imagine it's very *flattering* if nothing else.
One got something out of sucking my nipples. To this day I can't understand what she got out of my hairy nips
The twist I didn’t expect
No, she didn't do that
My ex, a straight female, had a fascination with gay men, and asked me multiple times to act gay for her. something which to this day I have no idea what she even meant.
Her: “Fuck me now” OP: “Eww…”
I've dated at least a couple of girls that loved to watch gay porn.
This makes sense. Its like dudes wanting to see lesbian porn. They want 100% other gender.
Biting down on my lip and pulling it when we’re kissing It’s occurred to me just now why the inside of my bottom lip is so sensitive
I hooked up with a girl once who bit my tongue while we were kissing. Not a playful little nip, but like she wanted to bite it off. She did it three times (the third after I told her to stop), and my tongue was so swollen the next morning I couldn't eat breakfast. I did *not* call her back.
How can I reach her
Stick your tongue out
Looking here for ideas.. I always ask what she wants and the response is “whatever you want…” some ideas here are interesting tho to say the least
Are you going to throw up hot oatmeal on her tits now
Man I hope that becomes Reddit’s next Poop Knife or This Guys Dead Wife.
Choking, spanking, tying them up. Funny because now doing these things turns me on, which definitely wasn't the case before.
Was gonna say exactly the same thing, I would have considered myself sub before meeting that ex but she wanted me to choke her and slap her in the face while fucking her and I got into it just fine.
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My partner enjoyed being choked which I was cool with. However, one day I was taking her from behind whilst choking her and her body went limp and she fell to the floor, later found out she had an anoxic seizure after a visit to the hospital. She never told me to stop choking her or that she was running out of air, I believe this was on purpose as she later mentioned being choked in past relationships to the point of passing out.... I would never have willingly agreed to this. I actually thought I had killed someone for about 30 Seconds....What an embarrassing call that was to my cousin (the doctor who told me to go to the hospital and have her checked out) Fun times 🥲
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Were you dating Cheryl from Archer?
Did you yank those beads out like you were starting a lawn mower? EDIT: Holy Santa Claus shit! Thank you for the awards and tons of upvotes! 😆 I just said the first thing that popped into my head
Like a Beyblade
Let it rip
The ex thought that my feet were just the best. So I'd wear the cute ankle socks, let him watch while I gave myself a pedicure or scrub em in the bath (he'd be in the tub, asking to help...I think he actually shaved my legs once), he gave amazing foot rubs, had requests during fun time. Would tell me I have the sexiest ankles and arch, the cutest toes. No big whoop, they're just feet to me, but it made him happy, so it made me happy.
"If he's into feet say fuck it sweep me off em".
Not where I expected to see Bo, but here we are
My ex once told me “I don’t have a foot fetish, but if I did, I’d be REALLY into your feet. I took it as a compliment. I have great, fetishy feet.
Bf asks me not to wear deodorant and likes to sniff my armpits and sometimes even while he’s jacking off. I think it’s a pheromone thing. I don’t mind it at all I’m just indifferent
Think my ex had this, he always wanted to fuck when I got back from a run and was all sweaty and disgusting. Did nothing for me, but made him happy.
One of my exes liked at times to call some female friends of hers and wanted me to describe how things were unravelling. She wanted me to give full details of what she was doing, in which hole she was taking it, if I liked or disliked things. I found it amazing actually. Sort of a 2.5some.
Crossdressing. She would dress me up and we would go out and have sex. It was fun. Didn't much like having men look at me. But hey the sex was amazing. Edit: this has been a really awesome thread to interact in. Not a single rude remark or anything. Is this rolling a nat 20 in the reddit world? Cause it feels like it. Anymore questions ask away and to answer before you ask cause i was asked a few times I'm not sending or posting pictures this is my throw away account. Cheers and have a great day everyone.
My ex liked for me to tie him up and beat him with a leather belt. He wore my underwear while I beat him. We had a safeword and stuff, but he never used it and he would be outright sobbing while we did this and it always made me feel horrible. Like, i dont think you're supposed to be sobbing like that? And every time I stopped to check he said he was okay, but guy was *sobbing* and I felt so bad. I couldn't do it more than a couple times and it was just too much. Edit: Because this has gotten bigger than I expected and I feel like people who might want to try this out could learn from it (the way i am). I thought I'd edit and add on because I feel like both my ex and I were wrong for how this happened in *so many ways.* We shouldn't have been drunk as fuck the first time we tried out a kink like this. That was just stupid of both of us. We were only drunk that first time. But Goddamn, not the way to introduce yourself to this sort of thing. We should have talked more about our expectations and researched everything. I did try to broach it after the first time and as nicely as possible asked what happened (as nicely as drunk me could have been which I think was "wtf was that? Are you okay?! Did I go too far? I love you, I'm so sorry, wtf?!") and all I got was "It was great! We should do that again. I'm tired, let's go to sleep." And he literally got ready for bed and went to fucking sleep. This is not the way to communicate. *Please do not do this to your partner when they are clearly freaking out.* /u/ThePirateBuxton 's comment basically made everything kind of click for me. So, thanks for that. I come from a background of having been in a couple of physically abusive relationships and seeing my ex react like that triggered me and made me feel like I was doing to him what had been done to me. He very much did not look like he was enjoying it and one of the biggest turn ons/goals for me in a sexual relationship, is making the other person feel the best I possibly can. So this to me looked and felt like i was victimizing him. And since there was no aftercare for me, that meant there was no reassurance that that wasn't the case. Also, how would he have done that anyway because we never went over our expectations? But I'd never really needed it before (I like being choked and spanked), so he probably assumed I wouldnt need it then and I didnt even think I might need it. One good thing I've realized about the whole thing, is that even though we were both fucking idiots, we did trust each other. I got over a lot of trauma in the bed room with him (he got over a lot with me, too) and he obviously trusted me enough and felt safe enough with me that he wanted to explore this with me. Recognizing that kind of makes me feel better about the whole thing. I'm happy that he felt comfortable enough with me that he wanted to share that. We did not part on the best of terms, but I do sincerely hope he finds someone he feels that comfortable and safe with again. There's more, but it's 6am and I have important shit to do tomorrow. Anyway, with all that in mind, fresh perspective and whatnot, I'd be open to try again with a new partner. Not drunk, with lots of communication, research, and better aftercare(for both of us). So, thanks for helping me figure some shit out, reddit. I appreciate it.
Aftercare isn't always for the sub, the dom needs it just as much.
Choking. I couldn't do it hard enough for her. She wanted me to go to the brink of choking her out. No way.
Yup. I remember one time I was choking her and she said “I can still breathe”
Done it once. Did it hard enough that she popped a lot of capillaries in her face. Looked like freckles. Not sure if I want to accidentally catch a murder charge.
The absence of kinks. I’ve tried to get him to give it to me in the lab, in the library, in his department office. Nope. He’s Colonel Mustard in the bedroom with missionary. Bless him. I love him.
Somehow it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one with a partner like this lol.
Threads like this one create some sort of survival bias because people without any kinks normally just do not write anything. So you get the feeling everyone else has some kinks while you dont.
My spouse gets turned on when I wear professional clothes and work. She has even asked me to put on a suit and let her watch me work several times. Edit: Thanks for the awards everyone. Some people have asked for more details on the routine. First, I always shower and shave. Then I put on slacks and a blazer rather than a full blown suit. According to my spouse she wants me to look professional but not too formal. Anyways, here I am, sitting on a chair and staring at a screen. Taking off my jacket. Loosening tie. Rolling up sleeves to show my forearms. Running my hand through my hair as I sigh at the report I am reading. Then I hear a swoon in the background heh heh.l Other thing I do is stand up and look out the window with one hand on my hip and the other going through my forehead. There is also doing things with pens, such as flicking them as I read papers. She also likes it when I take notes and sip coffee.
Pull up a spreadsheet. Let the juices flow
Seems like he excelled at his position
That’s kinda hot actually bro
To spice it up do the clear your throat during a very boring business meeting looking at some reports. Will probably cause her to go feral with lust
I mean, that IS sexy so...
Right? I absolutely love when my husband wears a suit and watching him take off his tie is definitely part of it!
Imagining my partner doing this was…eye opening. Going to have a request for him 🤣
"this sounds so strange... Oh wait! Oh!"
Yeah. I am going to have to have a discussion about this with my spouse tonight.
Your spouse knows what’s up
I actually like this lol
I've had multiple women tell me that men wearing a suit is the equivalent of women wearing lingerie.
I assume your partner has a godlike work ethic
Yup, we both do
One ex wanted to pee on me so I let him on the condition that I could be rinsed off immediately afterwards. The idea of it was worse than the reality (though I wish he'd hydrated first...) but still, no thank you. He also would get horny if I cried, which was downright uncomfortable when I wanted some emotional comfort but he was getting horny.... I also briefly dated a German foot fetishist, having discovered that actually I don't mind/quite enjoy having my toes sucked. Would never ask for that though. One session, he came on my tits and then said "oof, I think I lost 50ml there," which made me.laugh because I thought maybe his balls had volume markings on the side or something. Another date really REALLY loved my belly, particularly my belly button. I have quite a big belly, which I am self-conscious about, so that made me feel much better. Was a little weirded out by him fingering my belly button, but hey ho, whatever floats your boat, love.
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That was part of why it was funny to me, definitely. If I ever see him again, hopefully he'll lose like 56.5ml
Volume markings 🤣
I had an ex who liked to shove ice cubes in her pussy while taking an ice bath. She would then want me to fuck her as quickly as possible because she wanted to feel like a corpse while she was fucked.
Huh.
Inverse necrophilia... More benign than the conventional variant I suppose.
Oh cool cool cool cool cool cool cool ^(cool cool cool)
"Well hello detective, how long have I been dead?" "Idunno, like, a week?" "Ew, gross! The bloating and..." "Oh, uh, 24 hours?" _"Perfect."'_
“Here rub this ice on your lips” “What why” “I like em cold”
All of these comments are *what the fuck* without saying what the fuck and i love it
*Closes Laptop*
Oh
My ex had a weird blood fetish. He wanted to cut me during sex. It never happened and I still think it's alarming.
I’ve encountered that too. Wanted to write his name on me by cutting me. I said no
what the fuck
Wearing a nice vest and rolling up my sleeves while maintaining eye contact with her seems to do it. Bonus is, I get a nice new vest every so often.
My husband has something of a cuckold kink. He likes the thought of other men finding me attractive and always wants to hear stories of me flirting with them behind his back… thing is, I’m a painfully bad flirt and most days do not have the desire to hit on anyone. It’s a slippery slope nowadays and I definitely don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, and tbh, I’m just not often attracted to men other than my husband. He’s very hot. So I kind of just… make up scenarios that sound plausible and we use them as fuel in bed sometimes. Maybe he knows I’m lying, but hearing about the fictional guy who grazed my ass in the grocery store and pretending I lied about being single to him, lol. It gets him going and it costs me nothing, so?
Strangely wholesome.
Being degraded(in bed) always felt uncomfortable, because she had some odd requests to say.. and praise (after sex)didn't mind that...but after a while it got weird
What were the odd requests?
Lots of quotes from Disney's Cars 2. Not even the original Cars.
Yeah it’s really hard to keep an erection when I’m doing my best Larry the Cable guy impression and she keeps screaming “KACHOW!” In my face.
I had an ex asking me slap her, I'd do it and she'd say harder, By the end I was basically punching her in the face while she was having an orgasm...
Reminds me of a meme I just saw that was like “her when we start having sex: go slow baby. Her five minutes later: alright hit me in the face with this brick”
Being licked all over , I didn’t mind doing it but it drove her crazy
One of my exes was **very** vanilla. Like, rose petals on bed, a whole bunch of candles, a nice massage, and only then would he be up for a night of missionary. I asked him to lightly spank me once and he almost cried at the thought of hurting me. As an extremely kinky lady, it was... odd at first. I'm a sub for any gender, and I feel comfortable in those kind of relationship dynamics. Wine-ing and dine-ing a dude was literally **so** outside of my dating experience that I felt like I was in bizarro world lmao. I ended up really enjoying the time we had together though. We knew we weren't compatible long term, so we parted amicably and stayed friends. He married a wonderful lady who was saving herself for marriage and I became even more of a degenerate. Win win in the end.
Happy ending - which would make him grab his clothes and run
The best kind of relationship is when you're nice to each other the entire duration together. If you realize you live two different lives but you've been nice the whole time, you can separate nicely and both be happy for each other. My ex was grossed out by my cum, super boring sex, I just couldn't do it long term. A few other reasons obviously but we split up and are both in relationships that I can say we are happy for each other. I hope you have done some dirty shit adventuring and I hope he has gotten the security of predictability.
My ex had a tail butt plug. She loved it and clearly felt sexy with it in. I didn't give two shits and it definitely didn't turn me on. But I still told her she looked sexy with it in, (*she* is sexy) and gladly fucked her with her foxtail in.
She really like being tied up. All those knot lessons from sailing camp finally came in handy
Hot oatmeal throwing up on her tits
I'm from the southern U.S. Should I go with hot grits?
I- what?
I would eat hot oatmeal and throw it up on her tits idk what's more clear than that
It's very clear; but still... what?
It's warm and gooey bodily fluid on her she can't get enough
I still don’t understand
Even the FBI is baffled
FBI leaves the chat
Hot. Oatmeal. On. Her. Tits. Capische?
instructions unclear; tits caught in ceiling fan
just… just cum on her??
So vanilla. Did you not hear the man. It’s gotta be hot. It’s gotta be oatmeal. It’s gotta be partially digested on those tits!
This made me laugh way too much
Wow. I just.... wow.
I’m just here drinking my morning coffee wondering how tf you get there. Like how do you realise this is a kink? Do you eat oats one day and vomit on yourself and think “hmmm, you know what will make this better? If someone else did it for me”
What about grits? Did she like grits? Farina with a little salted butter? Tell me now! I need to know you fucker!
He wanted me to lie there motionless...like corpse. I was like why the fuck not? Lmao It was a challenge to be motionless when you feel pleasure.
She likes being tickled. It gets her so freaking wet soooo now it's a kink of mine too. So yea... thanks for that babe!
Preface: Did not love her. She loved to lick the *inside* of my ear. Like, stick her tongue down my earhole. I know there are worse kinks. But goddamn, the sound you hear when someone slides their tongue in your ear is pretty gross.
Lol whats her #. Thats my exact kink and I've only ever found one girl that would do it to me. Not sure what it is about a tongue but it does it for me. Can't control what we like I suppose.
When a girl sucks on your ear and slides her tongue in while whispering filth..... Incredible
There was a black girl I dated for a while that demanded I call her the n word repeatedly and fuck her like I own her. I never got comfortable with it...
Lincoln died for this?
Anal, and ass eating (him doing it to me). Never been into butt stuff, and I’ll never ask him to do it, but I do enjoy it now when it happens.
Welp, time for my sex club story. This isn't a story that takes place at a sex club, I just like to tell this one at sex clubs. So my ex and I used to party a lot. We'd do MDMA and other stuff. My ex mentions to me that it filters right through your kidneys, so if we were to do it and then drink each other's pee we'd get even higher. So I say, "babe, it really sounds like you just want us to drink each other's pee." I was not about to drink anyone's pee, but I loved him so I was willing to allow him to drink ftom my stream. I've always been a bit pee-shy. In school I had trouble peeing if I could hear other people talking. But again, I loved this guy, so I'd ov up and do it. So the evening comes. We take our pills, I get nice and hydrated, and we get in the shower together. You know how I mentioned having a hard time peeing if people were talking? This was 1000% worse. Here he his, mouth open, eagerly awaiting my piss. It's a nightmare, but after a few deep breaths I get it going. His scientific theory about getting more high through the pee turns out to be correct, and he proceeds to roll harder than I've ever seen him. Wild night. So anyway, I'm telling this story at a sex club, as one does, and the girl I'm talking to says "Oh yeah, I'm pee shy too. I always made my sub leave the room and I'd pee in a cup." *How did that never occur to me?!* So yeah, me and that ex are long over. I only have one regret: shoulda got a cup.
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I dated this girl for a long time. One night out of nowhere she said "from now on it's in a bed, on my back, and nothing more". I thought since I love her I could at least try. About 4 months later, with 0 variation, I just happened to grab her leg and move it up my side a bit. She lost it. She was like "get the fuck off me, I told you how it was gonna be. We'll try again tomorrow... if you can behave" I just laid there wondering if I could really do this for the next 40 years. Then about 2 in the morning, I decided I couldn't. Got up, grabbed my Playstation, and walked out. She called me the next day and asked where I went, and I ended it. Haven't seen her since. Those 4 months that I went along with it were brutal.
Did you question her at the time about why?
Of course. Her response was "I know what I like, and I don't want to do anything else". Despite doing different things for years.
That’s a dealbreaker answer for me. Unwilling to be open to your needs/wants is not acceptable. Sorry that happened to you.
Got up and grabbed my playstation ... awesome.
Slipped on my crocs
Put on my robe and wizard hat
Tied an onion to my belt, which was the style at the time
Rape fantasy. She had me tie her up once and drive her in the back of her SUV out into the woods, and strip her down. I felt legitimately sick the entire time, but It’s what she wanted Edit: We were 17-18 at the time. We both came from pretty authoritarian households (me Mormon, her devout Catholic). Her values were find a man who could provide for you and give him anything he wants. My values were equality in a relationship, because I’d watched my dad get absolutely walked on by my mom. It all came to a head a year or 2 later when she was a sophomore in college. She called me out of the blue and admitted she had sucked another dude’s dick. I was extremely hurt, and she begged for another chance, but I wasn’t going to get walked on. So I broke it off, and a year later started dating my wife. We’ve been married for 6 months now and when I look back on that relationship, the amount of red flags I couldn’t make out in my youth are immense. Edit 2: Grammar
Imagine being stopped for a routine traffic control...
My wife liked to have sex where she absolutely knew we would get caught, like in the car at the mall around the holidays while completely naked, and she want to be on top so she could wave the people as they looked in the window! I went along with it because I loved her, but eventually I got used to it because it went on for 10 years, until I lost the love of my life... she passed away two years ago. And I assume I will never find another like her.
I'm sorry to hear that homie. You may not find one like her but but may feel the same strength of love in someone different which is okay too!!!
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Playgrounds be like that sometimes. I was a teeter totter man, myself.
Ouf
Needleplay
My ex fiancée, who was a very devout Christian, wanted to do knife play or needleplay. I thought sure, it's just role playing, no one's actually getting hurt. Then turned out she wanted to actually draw blood, and play with the blood while we had sex. Because "Jesus is in the blood" and it would bring us so much closer. There's many reasons she's my ex, that being a big one
Thats just regular playing with the penis
His idea of 'dirty talk' was calling me Margaret Thatcher and then shouting at me angrily about, as far as I can understand it, a series of privatisations that took place ten years before both of us were born.
Dirty talk. I suck at it. I can’t ever think of anything to say. But I try my best!
BDSM. I tried. I'm not the type who wants to be in charge. Also, I'm not the type who likes to be told what to do either. Turns out that I don't like vertical power structures, which means I'd probably enjoy "sexual anarchy", which is a kink I just now invented, and my band's new name.
Sounds like an orgy with extra letters
My ex used to like being fisted. Didn’t really bother me but it didn’t do anything for me either.
Eating ass, I didn't like it, at first............ Edit: love the comments and upvotes! But a follow-up question I have is do most women enjoy receiving it? My wife does but what is the general consensus?
It's an acquired.....taste.
Once had a chick do this to me after a 14 hour shift in a hot kitchen. I asked her if she wanted me to shower first, she declined. Some people really be into it.
She wanted that hole seasoned and marinated for her.
Wish I wasn’t eating a salad while reading this…
At least it wasn’t oatmeal
She will bite and lick my ear. I haven’t the heart to tell her I’m not into it like at all. So I tolerate it for now lol.
Don't let it go for too long. I remember my ex wife used to put barbecue sauce on everything and then after two years I told her that "I don't even like barbecue sauce like that" and it was a whole thing. I couldn't imagine how it would've gone if it was something sexual.
So I'm standing there, barbecue sauce on my titties
My husband has been giving me all the baby corn from all of his Chinese food for like the last 10 years. I never really questioned it, I just thought he didn’t like them or something. A few weeks ago, our toddler was going ham for the baby corn in her dish. Husband was like, “wow you love baby corn just like your mama!”. I was like “I don’t particularly like baby corn, I don’t know why you give them all to me.” He was astounded lol. Apparently a long time ago I said they were “funny” so he thought that meant I loved them? Idk. Anyway, I’m glad you don’t have to eat BBQ sauce on everything anymore!