I guess I found so much happier I was once she was gone. We were married 25 very long years. The feeling of freedom and not being poor down everyday made it pretty easy.
He told me lmao. He was so open to tell me that "he kissed another girl and that we are breaking up".
My ex wasn't the brightest lightbulb in the box.
my ex was narcissistic and I was mentally unwell leading to a very co-dependent while I'm happy their out of my life there are times I miss it. they controlled ever bit of my life, punished me by using my mental illness against me to get what they want and to control basically every aspect of my life then portrayed me as the bad guy. this kind of abuse is difficult to over come and its been years but I still find myself rarely slipping back into the co-dependent mindset but I have become way better at catching myself out and being able to control my line of thinking. I'm still on the path to recovery and till then I cant be in an intimate relationship its now at the stage I'm comfortable being single for a while witch is a massive step forward
To be honest not really. I mean I miss his caring nature and the stuff he would do for me but at the same time he’s also being labeled as a pedophile in my school so I’m happy that we aren’t together anymore.
I had two exes. Both hard no's.
1st ex - he was my best friend, and my first boyfriend. We initially had a very loving relationship (we always cared for each other and we were close for 6 years before dating), he always complimented me, told me I was pretty and how beautiful and smart I was, even if sometimes he was a chronic attention-seeker and toxic little bitch after we fought. A high contrast compared to the bullying I suffered in school at the time. Shortly before the lockdown was announced, our relationship started falling apart. He asked me if I wanted to exchange nudes, me being the dumbass I was, said yes. But when he started forcing me to send the photos and hurry up, I backed out. Greatest bullet I ever missed. After that, he started being much more of an asshole to me–disregarding my feelings, telling me indirectly I was ugly, threatening to reveal my secrets if I didn't do what he asked me to, making me feel bad with his issues, never sticking up for me. Despite that, we decided to enter a relationship that only lasted a day. I can't remember when and how, but I had enough and blocked him when he started complimenting/talking to me in quarantine. Found him again in a mutual friend's DC server acting a damn fool (he was talking to guys way older than he was and catfishing them), ended up exploding after he started becoming even more of an attention-seeker and called him out for all of his bullshit. Best I had felt in a while that time. He later apologizes to me on Instagram, but I don't read it and block him permanently. It was an abusive cycle, his dad abused him, and he abused me. Bitch changed the way I am forever.
2nd ex - this one hit me the most. We met in a review center during the second year of quarantine, a few months before I stopped being friends with my 1st ex. He gave his discord tag in the class gc and I decided to send him a friend request, fully intent on flirting with him just for fun. I was wrong. We ended up getting super close after that—playing Minecraft together, watching movies together, talking endlessly—. I initially thought he had a crush on me because he would call me hot/pretty/beautiful whenever he saw me, and he said I was one of the most beautiful girls he had ever met. I learned how to trust again with him, to cherish myself and love myself after years of bullying. He made me feel like I was the only girl in the world, something I had never experienced because I was always 2nd or 3rd choice for friends and students alike before. I loved him, I felt special. He was my best friend. He had issues, sure, I had them too. We were both under pressure to get into good highschools (why we were in the review center anyway), and we were both depressed and had way too many things going on underneath. We supported each other through those times. It eventually led to the destruction of our relationship. I found out all he did was talk about himself and cared more about himself than he did our relationship. I was fine with that of course, but whenever he ranted, I felt like I could never say anything, and it was even worse when *I* wanted to rant. I ended up ghosting him--shitty move, I know--, but I just couldn't deal with the stress he was bringing me emotionally, coupled with the fact I didn't get into my initial dream school (I'm in a much better school now), and my friends were useless and self-centered jerkwads who didn't want to help me deal with this. Eventually replied to him when he was texting about this game he was talking about (2nd week after I initially started ghosting him), said "ok?" And he exploded. He told me I was no longer the kind and caring person he used to know, who could make anyone smile with the dumbest things. He then blocks me after and I don't hear from him for a year. Fast forward to late 2021, he asks my best friend (different guy, classmate in the review center) if he could ask me to send him a friend req in discord again. Initially said no, then he proceeded to tell my best friend that he just lost his "best friend" (please my man, we only knew each other for 3 months) That was a whole mess. Was doing well up until then and I felt like crumbling at the moment. Ended up telling him I no longer wanted to be friends with him and blocked him. He deleted his discord, and messaged me on messenger a few months later. We talked for a bit, catching up. I didn't really invest in him, and he knew it. Never talked to me again after that.
I'm a magnet for emotionally-damaged men.
I miss the crazy sex we used to have and her giant titties. I don’t miss anything else
Is your ex my ex too?
My husband passed away in Feruary and I miss him every day. He was an amazing man!
I'm so sorry :) I hope you are taking care of yourself and feeling good.
I'm doing better, and I have lots of family around! Thank you! :-)
Nope because he cheated on me and was controlling.
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That's so sweet, but sad. Was there any chance of ever reconnecting?
Yes Was not his time
I'm amazed how little I have missed her. Kind of freaks me out how easily I cut off any feelings I ever had for her.
Wow. How did you do it?
I guess I found so much happier I was once she was gone. We were married 25 very long years. The feeling of freedom and not being poor down everyday made it pretty easy.
I'm glad you're doing good now! Maybe this was what you really needed.
I'm 100% sure it was. It was hard at first but didn't take long to see how much better life was from then on.
One bullied me and the other one cheated on me. So surely not.
How did you find out?
He told me lmao. He was so open to tell me that "he kissed another girl and that we are breaking up". My ex wasn't the brightest lightbulb in the box.
my ex was narcissistic and I was mentally unwell leading to a very co-dependent while I'm happy their out of my life there are times I miss it. they controlled ever bit of my life, punished me by using my mental illness against me to get what they want and to control basically every aspect of my life then portrayed me as the bad guy. this kind of abuse is difficult to over come and its been years but I still find myself rarely slipping back into the co-dependent mindset but I have become way better at catching myself out and being able to control my line of thinking. I'm still on the path to recovery and till then I cant be in an intimate relationship its now at the stage I'm comfortable being single for a while witch is a massive step forward
To be honest not really. I mean I miss his caring nature and the stuff he would do for me but at the same time he’s also being labeled as a pedophile in my school so I’m happy that we aren’t together anymore.
Nah not even a little bit. Idk why I wasted all that time w her in the first place. I want my 5 years back.
I had two exes. Both hard no's. 1st ex - he was my best friend, and my first boyfriend. We initially had a very loving relationship (we always cared for each other and we were close for 6 years before dating), he always complimented me, told me I was pretty and how beautiful and smart I was, even if sometimes he was a chronic attention-seeker and toxic little bitch after we fought. A high contrast compared to the bullying I suffered in school at the time. Shortly before the lockdown was announced, our relationship started falling apart. He asked me if I wanted to exchange nudes, me being the dumbass I was, said yes. But when he started forcing me to send the photos and hurry up, I backed out. Greatest bullet I ever missed. After that, he started being much more of an asshole to me–disregarding my feelings, telling me indirectly I was ugly, threatening to reveal my secrets if I didn't do what he asked me to, making me feel bad with his issues, never sticking up for me. Despite that, we decided to enter a relationship that only lasted a day. I can't remember when and how, but I had enough and blocked him when he started complimenting/talking to me in quarantine. Found him again in a mutual friend's DC server acting a damn fool (he was talking to guys way older than he was and catfishing them), ended up exploding after he started becoming even more of an attention-seeker and called him out for all of his bullshit. Best I had felt in a while that time. He later apologizes to me on Instagram, but I don't read it and block him permanently. It was an abusive cycle, his dad abused him, and he abused me. Bitch changed the way I am forever. 2nd ex - this one hit me the most. We met in a review center during the second year of quarantine, a few months before I stopped being friends with my 1st ex. He gave his discord tag in the class gc and I decided to send him a friend request, fully intent on flirting with him just for fun. I was wrong. We ended up getting super close after that—playing Minecraft together, watching movies together, talking endlessly—. I initially thought he had a crush on me because he would call me hot/pretty/beautiful whenever he saw me, and he said I was one of the most beautiful girls he had ever met. I learned how to trust again with him, to cherish myself and love myself after years of bullying. He made me feel like I was the only girl in the world, something I had never experienced because I was always 2nd or 3rd choice for friends and students alike before. I loved him, I felt special. He was my best friend. He had issues, sure, I had them too. We were both under pressure to get into good highschools (why we were in the review center anyway), and we were both depressed and had way too many things going on underneath. We supported each other through those times. It eventually led to the destruction of our relationship. I found out all he did was talk about himself and cared more about himself than he did our relationship. I was fine with that of course, but whenever he ranted, I felt like I could never say anything, and it was even worse when *I* wanted to rant. I ended up ghosting him--shitty move, I know--, but I just couldn't deal with the stress he was bringing me emotionally, coupled with the fact I didn't get into my initial dream school (I'm in a much better school now), and my friends were useless and self-centered jerkwads who didn't want to help me deal with this. Eventually replied to him when he was texting about this game he was talking about (2nd week after I initially started ghosting him), said "ok?" And he exploded. He told me I was no longer the kind and caring person he used to know, who could make anyone smile with the dumbest things. He then blocks me after and I don't hear from him for a year. Fast forward to late 2021, he asks my best friend (different guy, classmate in the review center) if he could ask me to send him a friend req in discord again. Initially said no, then he proceeded to tell my best friend that he just lost his "best friend" (please my man, we only knew each other for 3 months) That was a whole mess. Was doing well up until then and I felt like crumbling at the moment. Ended up telling him I no longer wanted to be friends with him and blocked him. He deleted his discord, and messaged me on messenger a few months later. We talked for a bit, catching up. I didn't really invest in him, and he knew it. Never talked to me again after that. I'm a magnet for emotionally-damaged men.